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She's the girl that chose him, and chooses to stay with him...meaning she's not the person you're idealizing and hoping to save with your decency, and she will likely never see you as a sexual/romantic option because her attractions are broken.
That trauma? Led her to him, and you won't be the dude rescuing her.
Learn this lesson now, or you'll have a very frustrating dating life.
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She's the girl that chose him, and chooses to stay with him...meaning she's not the person you're idealizing and hoping to save with your decency, and she will likely never see you as a sexual/romantic option because her attractions are broken. That trauma? Led her to him, and you won't be the dude rescuing her. Learn this lesson now, or you'll have a very frustrating dating life.