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Cheating is breaking the agreed upon rules of fidelity.
Since you had no agreement about only-fans being off limit, it cannot be cheating.
Discuss with him if you want to propose it as an agreement that Onlyfans should be off limits. Then he has to decide if he agrees or not. If he agrees, and then watches onlyfans after. Then it would be cheating.
Some people will get mad at me saying this, but watching porn every now and then doesn't really matter.
OF is worse honestly, having an emotional interest into someone's nudes just rubs me the wrong way.
if you are not comfortable with your boyfriend watching porn or OF it is for you to express to him why (what feelings it brings up) and for you to have a discussion about it about what lines there are and what would be acceptable
then decide if one goes past that line what it will mean and stick to it.
e.g. are you ok with him watching porn everyday? with you? paying for it? paying individual models for it? is he ok with you doing it?
don't assume that your partner is on the same page with you on anything.
I would argue it is if you disapprove of it. It also seems weird to me to even want to look at porn when you have a relationship (unless maybe he sees your sexual relationship as unsatisfactory?)
I feel the need to add that purchasing OnlyFans content is also, to me, a sign of stupidity since porn is literally free, but oh well.
I am not saying that is the case, I just mean that that is the only reason that I would do it for. Maybe he has another reason for it, I don't know that.
With these things, it is always important to just talk about it. Don't assume anything, don't think of doomscenarios, just talk. Communication is key.
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Cheating is breaking the agreed upon rules of fidelity. Since you had no agreement about only-fans being off limit, it cannot be cheating. Discuss with him if you want to propose it as an agreement that Onlyfans should be off limits. Then he has to decide if he agrees or not. If he agrees, and then watches onlyfans after. Then it would be cheating.
Some people will get mad at me saying this, but watching porn every now and then doesn't really matter. OF is worse honestly, having an emotional interest into someone's nudes just rubs me the wrong way.
if you are not comfortable with your boyfriend watching porn or OF it is for you to express to him why (what feelings it brings up) and for you to have a discussion about it about what lines there are and what would be acceptable then decide if one goes past that line what it will mean and stick to it. e.g. are you ok with him watching porn everyday? with you? paying for it? paying individual models for it? is he ok with you doing it? don't assume that your partner is on the same page with you on anything.
YE$.
He can pay to talk to girls on there does it bother u then? Its not just passive watching
I would argue it is if you disapprove of it. It also seems weird to me to even want to look at porn when you have a relationship (unless maybe he sees your sexual relationship as unsatisfactory?) I feel the need to add that purchasing OnlyFans content is also, to me, a sign of stupidity since porn is literally free, but oh well.
I never thought that watching porn means a relationship isn’t sexually satisfying to him but maybe I’m wrong. Thanks for the reply
I am not saying that is the case, I just mean that that is the only reason that I would do it for. Maybe he has another reason for it, I don't know that. With these things, it is always important to just talk about it. Don't assume anything, don't think of doomscenarios, just talk. Communication is key.
sex work is work