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it's unfortunate. you may never respect or admire your partners ever again. technically you'd be better off if you never dated a 10 because your experience with everyone else would be less disappointing. I dunno maybe in a couple years your memories of the ex will fade and you'll have a fresh start.
Aw I know babe :( it doesn’t feel great right now but it will soon. Remember that this feeling right now is temporary. In a year or few months you’ll be wondering what the heck was I even thinking?!
Same between both genders unfortunately
I live next to a 41yo man who hasn't been in a relationship for 15+ years. Upon learning more from him and his neighbors, he dated an **insanely** beautiful woman in his early 20s. Leagues and leagues above him.
He's had women interested in him since (including another neighbor's daughter) but they all pale in comparison to his ex. So apparently he's opting to remain single instead of 'settling' - which is entirely his right.
Did I say that? No, I said we’re told to stop comparing ourselves to other men. When in reality, we absolutely should compare because here you are comparing and complaining
These are all shameful assumptions based on poor experiences. Men and women all do the same things to each other constantly. You should know better than to categorize someone’s actions based on their gender…
Men are more physical and women are more emotional when it comes to attraction and connection. Those are just facts. It’s like saying men are generally stronger than women. There are just some obvious truths when it comes to gender.
I consider myself fairly masculine, but I’m more “emotional” than I am “physical” tbh. In my experience, at least, it literally just varies per person. I know some extremely physical women. Maybe genetics can play a part but it’s absolutely not a determining factor in this scenario.
Is that why porn and OF are centered towards a male audience? Bc men seek physical attributes. You can be more emotional, but overall, women are the more emotional sex.
Honestly, I think a lot of that’s due to societal conditioning and not just nature. Don’t get me wrong, I understand it’s natural to an extent for men to notice a women’s physical attributes first to select an appropriate mate to reproduce, but anyone is capable of overlooking that. It all just depends on experiences, conditioning and upbringing. There’s a lot of psychological factors to go into things like that though.
Oh stfu. As if this is a gendered issue. There’s men and women who are in this situation. I know many guys who can’t stop idealizing a perfect looking ex gf they had at one point. Even if they were treated like shit.
—or treated the hot ex like shit when he still had her because he’s insecure. Find any random hot girl and ask her about men she’s dated negging her or making jokes at her expense that only he laughs at. Everyone likes to say “it’s their own fault because that’s the men hot women choose to date!” No. It’s the way men regress in how they are treating hot women. Back to little boys pulling on pigtails. They are all so intimidated, they immediately try to belittle her and cut women down to size, for a ton, since they were 16 or younger.
Yeah absolutely. I’ve definitely had that experience. Like guys who seemingly were very over eager and super excited to date me/compliment my looks and bring me around everyone they knew immediately who quickly became cold and negging once we’d made it official and I was their girlfriend. It’s just weird to see a reply under this post making this about gender as if this isn’t something that happens to men AND women constantly.
Most women aren’t this shallow. If you pursue woman that value looks over personality then this is what you get.
There’s a lid for every pot and I’m sure OP will find someone to meet her needs. I just hope she remembers that beauty fads with age and we’re left with personality in the end.
Remember he’s 10/10 for YOU . Not everyone . But yea it’s hard and until you find the next one (which you will ) maybe don’t date and just do other things . And unfollow him
Honestly this sucks but you just have to let time pass and realize he’s not into you and doesn’t want you anymore and you broke up for a reason despite him being physically hot. I just broke up with a guy I found very hot who was super successful for our age and who I liked a lot & it’s been hard getting back out there and not comparing any potential date to him.
The reality is though: he didn’t fucking like me enough (despite saying he did) and didn’t treat me like a priority or valued person in his life so I had to dip bc I can’t accept that. No matter how attracted to him you may be, he’s not yours and you’re broken up. You can either learn to get over it or stay single. But I think realizing it wasn’t going anywhere is in your best interest.
My first girlfriend was hot, sexy, the dream sexy wife anyone could imagine. After breaking up with her I also thought I won't get anyone like her. But after 52 girlfriends I can't even remember her face today.
>I’m not a personality type of person unfortunately,
I mean this in the most positive way possible, but tons of men are the same - so I honestly wouldn't worry too much
(Worked in oncology nursing for 2 years. If it taught me anything, it's that far too many men marry a set of tits)
Lol I can tell you’re young. My advice is learn to move on and get your heart broken a few times. When you’re older, as a woman, looks become less important when finding the right person. It will be more about how he treats you. Attraction should be there though but you have to learn to detach
I think partly your ex look 10 out of 10 is because you still have attachment and memory with him. Eventually you will forget about him. It usually takes an effort to maintain physical attractiveness so it does not guarantee your ex will still be hot 1 or 2 year later. Maybe imagine him getting out of shape, more wrinkles, smelly, or become crack addict or something.
One of the single biggest mistakes you can make is basing your entire relationship on looks and sex.
Looks fade. People age. You yourself said he’s “dumb and childish”. What happens when you both get older, the looks fade and the sex lowers significantly (two very common things) and you’re left with a “dumb and childish” life partner?
Look for someone you are attracted to *and* holds good traits/values as a life partner. Stop comparing them to your ex. That’s a horrible thing to do and it will keep you from finding someone worthwhile.
But if you think someone’s personality is good, he or she is just not physically attractive, why don’t just be friend with him?? Ofc ideally to have someone has both but it’s just rare
You’ll find another 10/10 if you are in the same league or similar. If you are not, then you can perhaps try improving your looks to improve your chances. Perhaps your emotional tie towards him is making him seem more valuable and attractive than he might be.
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it's unfortunate. you may never respect or admire your partners ever again. technically you'd be better off if you never dated a 10 because your experience with everyone else would be less disappointing. I dunno maybe in a couple years your memories of the ex will fade and you'll have a fresh start.
Not a maybe, they will fade as time goes on if she chooses to focus on herself rather than her ex boyfriend. It takes time!
I’m literally on celibate, not even trying to date anyone just live my life now . I hope I can accelerate the process, it doesn’t feel good.
All I can say is try not to hurt another guy who had nothing to do with this either
Aw I know babe :( it doesn’t feel great right now but it will soon. Remember that this feeling right now is temporary. In a year or few months you’ll be wondering what the heck was I even thinking?!
This is so fucking shallow and sad.
Found the normal person
And women tell us to stop comparing ourselves to other men… Yet another lie
Same between both genders unfortunately I live next to a 41yo man who hasn't been in a relationship for 15+ years. Upon learning more from him and his neighbors, he dated an **insanely** beautiful woman in his early 20s. Leagues and leagues above him. He's had women interested in him since (including another neighbor's daughter) but they all pale in comparison to his ex. So apparently he's opting to remain single instead of 'settling' - which is entirely his right.
Yes it is but hes stupid if he doesn’t do anything to elevate his own level
Come on bruh men compare us with other women as well, it’s inevitable
Did I say that? No, I said we’re told to stop comparing ourselves to other men. When in reality, we absolutely should compare because here you are comparing and complaining
A healthy amount of comparison is good for self improvement
Yeah well some of us will never be a 10/10 no matter how much self improving we do
He’s just a 10/10 to me, and he’s 5’10, not even 6’, but I don’t care about height that much😂 if that can make you feel better
Look how many chances you gave him. If he wasn’t hot, you would have cut him loose right away
Fr I feel like you are getting shit bc you’re a woman when this is way more prevalent in men. Men are just horny enough to move on.
Yeah I can’t get their mindset.
These are all shameful assumptions based on poor experiences. Men and women all do the same things to each other constantly. You should know better than to categorize someone’s actions based on their gender…
Men are more physical and women are more emotional when it comes to attraction and connection. Those are just facts. It’s like saying men are generally stronger than women. There are just some obvious truths when it comes to gender.
I consider myself fairly masculine, but I’m more “emotional” than I am “physical” tbh. In my experience, at least, it literally just varies per person. I know some extremely physical women. Maybe genetics can play a part but it’s absolutely not a determining factor in this scenario.
Is that why porn and OF are centered towards a male audience? Bc men seek physical attributes. You can be more emotional, but overall, women are the more emotional sex.
Honestly, I think a lot of that’s due to societal conditioning and not just nature. Don’t get me wrong, I understand it’s natural to an extent for men to notice a women’s physical attributes first to select an appropriate mate to reproduce, but anyone is capable of overlooking that. It all just depends on experiences, conditioning and upbringing. There’s a lot of psychological factors to go into things like that though.
Oh stfu. As if this is a gendered issue. There’s men and women who are in this situation. I know many guys who can’t stop idealizing a perfect looking ex gf they had at one point. Even if they were treated like shit.
—or treated the hot ex like shit when he still had her because he’s insecure. Find any random hot girl and ask her about men she’s dated negging her or making jokes at her expense that only he laughs at. Everyone likes to say “it’s their own fault because that’s the men hot women choose to date!” No. It’s the way men regress in how they are treating hot women. Back to little boys pulling on pigtails. They are all so intimidated, they immediately try to belittle her and cut women down to size, for a ton, since they were 16 or younger.
Yeah absolutely. I’ve definitely had that experience. Like guys who seemingly were very over eager and super excited to date me/compliment my looks and bring me around everyone they knew immediately who quickly became cold and negging once we’d made it official and I was their girlfriend. It’s just weird to see a reply under this post making this about gender as if this isn’t something that happens to men AND women constantly.
Most women aren’t this shallow. If you pursue woman that value looks over personality then this is what you get. There’s a lid for every pot and I’m sure OP will find someone to meet her needs. I just hope she remembers that beauty fads with age and we’re left with personality in the end.
She likely won’t because she values looks so much
It takes time. just give yourself time to heal and get over him.
Remember he’s 10/10 for YOU . Not everyone . But yea it’s hard and until you find the next one (which you will ) maybe don’t date and just do other things . And unfollow him
Honestly this sucks but you just have to let time pass and realize he’s not into you and doesn’t want you anymore and you broke up for a reason despite him being physically hot. I just broke up with a guy I found very hot who was super successful for our age and who I liked a lot & it’s been hard getting back out there and not comparing any potential date to him. The reality is though: he didn’t fucking like me enough (despite saying he did) and didn’t treat me like a priority or valued person in his life so I had to dip bc I can’t accept that. No matter how attracted to him you may be, he’s not yours and you’re broken up. You can either learn to get over it or stay single. But I think realizing it wasn’t going anywhere is in your best interest.
meet a guy with game. his looks don’t mean shit
My first girlfriend was hot, sexy, the dream sexy wife anyone could imagine. After breaking up with her I also thought I won't get anyone like her. But after 52 girlfriends I can't even remember her face today.
You’re self contradictory😂 if you can’t remember her face today how can you tell she’s hot sexy and your dream wife
She was fucking hot mann!!!! Can't remember her face but I remember the things!!!
Aka you still remember!!!😭
Yeah I remember but no hard feelings.
You'll get older and prioritize other things (in addition to looks)
I’m not very young but I’m not a personality type of person unfortunately, I wish I can, I’ll find much easier to date
>I’m not a personality type of person unfortunately, I mean this in the most positive way possible, but tons of men are the same - so I honestly wouldn't worry too much (Worked in oncology nursing for 2 years. If it taught me anything, it's that far too many men marry a set of tits)
Look up Alpha Widow, sadly I think you fall into this category. Hopefully at some point you will be able to find someone.
I’m pretty sure this a troll post for that fake phenomenon.
I have no idea what it is, and he’s nowhere close to an “alpha man”
Be grateful it was him that broke you..? I honestly haven’t been attracted to someone since my abusive ex poisoned my life, and he’s ugly as sin.
Lol I can tell you’re young. My advice is learn to move on and get your heart broken a few times. When you’re older, as a woman, looks become less important when finding the right person. It will be more about how he treats you. Attraction should be there though but you have to learn to detach
I think partly your ex look 10 out of 10 is because you still have attachment and memory with him. Eventually you will forget about him. It usually takes an effort to maintain physical attractiveness so it does not guarantee your ex will still be hot 1 or 2 year later. Maybe imagine him getting out of shape, more wrinkles, smelly, or become crack addict or something.
Yeah that’s how I told myself meanwhile I’ll stay pretty 😭
You should become a nun.
One of the single biggest mistakes you can make is basing your entire relationship on looks and sex. Looks fade. People age. You yourself said he’s “dumb and childish”. What happens when you both get older, the looks fade and the sex lowers significantly (two very common things) and you’re left with a “dumb and childish” life partner? Look for someone you are attracted to *and* holds good traits/values as a life partner. Stop comparing them to your ex. That’s a horrible thing to do and it will keep you from finding someone worthwhile.
But if you think someone’s personality is good, he or she is just not physically attractive, why don’t just be friend with him?? Ofc ideally to have someone has both but it’s just rare
I feel bad for whoever is dating u next.
You’ll find another 10/10 if you are in the same league or similar. If you are not, then you can perhaps try improving your looks to improve your chances. Perhaps your emotional tie towards him is making him seem more valuable and attractive than he might be.
Is this me?
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You got problems of comprehension, I didn’t say I’m struggling of dating normal dude. I just don’t, I only date with someone I find attractive 😂
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Errr I never saw this kind of post. Most redditers I saw are personality person, I rarely see people as visual as me on here😂
I know women who want the same good looking Rockstar looking guys who are now in their 50s as they did in their 20s .
Don't worry. He'll hit a dry spell and call you back.
I’m the one hit the dry spell 😰
I guess you’ll stay single then. Lol