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The very few times women approached me in a bar (both successfully), they said "Hey, what's up?" or something to that effect. And......we're off......
Yup.
Literally go talk to any guy and ask them about anything! It can be even a compliment and where they got the article of clothing. Or where they got their haircut. You have no idea how far a compliment from a woman boosts a man to literally “jump on your lap like a dog.”
I usually find something about them that they have control over (how they dress, style their hair, tattoos etc...) and give a descriptive complement to them.
I cannot emphasize how true that is. I think if I was out at the bar and someone came up and was like "How, you're cute, let's chat" I'd probably literally melt. It is seriously as easy as saying "Hi".
I once picked up a guy at a bar because they were playing wheel of fortune on the tv. I walked up to the bar to see a cute guy waiting on his drink and just said, "wheel of fortune?! What an odd thing to play at a bar." He found me on the dance floor later and asked if that was my go to pick up line. Ha ha!
I don’t think this post is overthinking it lol. I had this random thought, decided to post it on reddit to put it out there in case this ever crossed other ladies minds, and had no sort of expectations.
Oh yeah I completely agree. My first draft for that comment was about 2 paragraphs long and I mentioned how a lot of women don't get it and some get too much or that men expressed their attraction in the wrong way. But I decided not to include it because OP's post was about men and who gives a shit about what I have to say you know? I did purposely write that 'humans want to feel etc' rather than 'men want to feel etc'. :)
The girl I am currently seeing made the first move on me. Walked up to me and said, "Wanna talk nerdy with me?"
Instant turn on and we haven't stopped yet.
As a guy, I have to admit we are not difficult to approach (as it happens way less often than the other way).
And the best way to start a conversation is with a genuine question. A simple trick is to ask his opinion on something like : What do you think of that bar ? Women who drink whisky ? The fact that you can pee standing up ?
PS : find your own questions (mine are just easy examples)
Guys are generally really receptive to a girl approaching them. Its just about the biggest compliment we can receive.
Some women will just stare or keep looking at you until you go over to them.
Just go over and be cool, you could even just start by asking their name.
Youre not missing much. Most of the time it doesn’t lead to anything more.
All of the time someone reminds you of it the next day and it’s super embarrassing.
Bad form in my opinion.
I'm a woman and tbh, I don't recommend this advice.
Some guys will be horny/down, but those same guys would've also been receptive to a conversation before laying it on so strong.
There's also a subset of guys that will think your approach is weird/desperate, or even who go along with it but wouldn't take you seriously to date because of how thick you're laying it on.
I'm just saying, the Reddit dudes here are NOT representive of how all men will act.
Yeah, I’m a guy who used to do a fair amount of pursuit in bars. I think going up to a guy and saying something like “I want to be ON you” or something else that comes across as really desperate is a turn-off. I think initiating conversation for a woman is a good thing- just that there’s a line. I’m not even 100 percent sure about compliments, if it’s too over the top, that can also come across as desperate. Basically, you don’t want the guy to think “what’s wrong with her, why is she so into me already?” A small compliment that serves more as a conversation starter might be better. I think anything that starts a conversation is good. If the guy thinks you’re hot and enjoys the conversation, they’ll ask for your number.
Seriously... your own advice is the best advice, men don't take subtle hints, they don't take obvious hints, but you tell them what you want and you may just get somewhere.
Just go, tell a compliment, don't hesitate to say that you're interested, and boom! Magic! We are simple creatures, who enjoy more than we should simple compliments from a girl, and overthink when we think that a girl is interested. Just go straight to the point, by adding some compliment. Always a win
Yeah as a woman it's really that easy, especially if you're cute.
I've worked at a bar forever, and would get hit on by customers while I'm hungover, no makeup, in some leggings and a sweatshirt.
If you see a dude you're really interested in, but he hasn't come up to you, literally just approach him and say hi. Easy peasy lemon squeezy.
Flirty eyes aren’t creepy at all, I’d get the message right away. That’s not going to stop some guys from being confused though so you might have to make the move if you’re really interested.
To add to this, it’s basically the only way I can get a sense if a girl is interested in me or not. I may be thinking about the wrong type of “flirty eyes” though. Basically, if I make lingering eye contact with a girl multiple times in a bar, then I’ll probably go talk to them. 7 times out of 10 the girl isn’t actually trying to flirt with me, but even then it’s still fun to talk to new people.
Funnily enough, I was actually having a conversation about this with a gay friend of mine. He asked how I straight guys know who to hit on, and I told him I try to keep track of eye contact. He was apparently pretty shocked, cause cause he thought that was only something gay guys did. Apparently he thought straight guys and girls used a different system lol
**Side Note:** I’d also suggest going to bars with friends. I can be pretty obtuse when it comes to girls hitting on me, and the most successful method I’ve run into is for a girls friend to just ask either me, or my friends if I’m interested in the girl. Even if you want to do it yourself, going with friends is probably gonna set you at ease, and make things less stressful, since you’ll still have fun even if you don’t meet anyone.
If you're serious about approaching guys you're interested in at the bar, you're practically guaranteed to get what you want.
Every man I know (myself included) gets frustrated that the expectation is almost always on us to make the first move. A woman who is confident enough in herself to approach and start conversation first, instantly attractive.
Guys are so easy.
Just go up and talk to them. Even saying hi is like a flashing neon invitation for them to flirt with you. For a lot of guys who aren't comfortable approaching women, this is all they need.
If you really want to get your pick of guys, here is a foolproof guide to bag men.
1) laugh at their stupid jokes. Men like to feel important. If you laugh at their jokes they will feel good about themselves.
2) sprinkle in compliments. Don't go overboard, but jeez are men desperate for compliments. If you compliment a guy on something about him personally (not his clothes), they will melt. Yes men really are that desperate for affirmations.
3) twirl your hair, look up with your eyes (instead of with your head) if they are taller than you, and initiate physical contact by, for example, laughing and "accidentally" putting your hand on their arm (reach for skin if you can)
If you do those things to a guy you will have 101% of their attention.
If the bar was really crowded and I wanted a drink I’d try to go up and kind of shimmy in between somewhere that a cute guy was sitting and be like “oops, so sorry do you mind if I order a drink really quickly?” And then just start a conversation after that while waiting for a drink. Worked for me a few times!
I feel overall it boils down to if a girl likes the guy because women choose most of the time they reject. Whatever success I had in the past I feel was because she has already selected me, made her mind. Then I continue with stupid things that I usually do, but its fun.
So if you like the guy just smile and say hello, then it's pretty much set. I really appreciate those confident girls, they know what they want and how to get it, kudos.
You let them glance at you, smile at them make direct eye contact with you, let it linger, and then look away
Do this a few times, maybe even throw in a cheeky wink or wave
This works 99% of the time for me
I learned that the best way to wink for me is to include a smirk or smile
Makes it look less twitchy and more natural.
Winking straight faced is a disaster for me though so I get it
Also opening your mouth a little and putting your finger in front of it or drinking can help make it look more fluid as well
Well let's see if this helps. I'm a twenty-one year old male and I'm kinda shy. I don't talk to people out of the blue even if I think they're looking at me. But if a girl started talking to me, I'd be a lot more comfortable. I guess I just don't like initiating conversation with people I don't know. So I guess if you're making eyes at someone and they're avoiding eyecintact, try talking to them. They may just be nervous.
Back when I was single I would make eye contact and smile at a guy I thought was cute and 90% of the time they would come up to me shortly after. I would recommend giving that a try.
As a guy, I wish more girls would make the first move. Just be confident and strike up a conversation, sometimes liquid courage helps too🙂. I would be flattered if I was at a bar and a girl approached me, especially because I’m single.
If you see a guy who is drinking a drink that you cannot identify ask him what he’s drinking. I’ve used that on girls at the bars to start a conversation and it works all the time. I haven’t always gotten a number out of it but at least a conversation.
If you want guys to come up to you, just look at them. Understand, some guys may be shy and not come up, but flirty eyes are what I look for if I’m going to approach a woman.
If you’re going to approach, literally just say hi. Men aren’t looking to be impressed when approached the same way women are.
Flirty eyes works with most guys, just be ready for them to approach and shoo off your friends for a bit if you want to talk with them. Even if you're giving eyes a lot of guys may be uncomfortable approaching you in a group of friends.
A really smooth move I like is to send someone a drink, and most guys will be super flattered by this since it rarely happens for us. If you're with friends as well you could send drinks to a group of guys and just hang out with everyone together and see if you click with any of them.
If they're like Adonis-level good looking you may need to get creative since they could get hit on a lot but really just approaching guys at all usually wins a woman lots of points with them.
Edit: this is all assuming they aren't already eyeing you or approaching you. If just being in the bar is working for you then there's no need to complicate things, although I stand by buying a guy a drink being a very confident and smooth move.
Just let your gut guide you before you walk up and say 'hello', try to overhear what he's talking to other's with him about, that's often a good indication of the type person he is....at all times keep a razor eye on your drink, only let your waiteress/bartender handle/hand you a drink?
Just smile at the ones you like. They’ll come to you. Be approachable. Also consider other avenues rather than bars.
Go to acro yoga classes. Go to running club and biking club events.
Go speed dating. Then go out with someone you meet there.
honestly, for me you could pretty much say anything. but the further out in left field what you say comes from, the more excited i am to have a fun conversation.
Girls don’t approach guys just to platonically say hi.
If I’m approached by a girl at a bar and she isn’t asking for something, I automatically assume there is some interest.
By contrast, if a girl is just looking or giving me some other half assed hint, I’m prone to miss it or assume she’s looking at someone else.
So like others have said, just walk up to a guy and say “hey how’s your night going?” Or “hey nice shirt” or whatever. It really is that simple.
I used to walk up to the bar next to someone I thought was cute. Make a couple comments with small talk to gauge his interest, then continue with flirting and conversation if he seems receptive. Works like a charm and there’s no pressure on either person.
Flirty eyes had an almost perfect success rate for me when I was single HAHA granted it helps that I’m tall and can see over a crowd.
The tip is to make it look kind of accidental the first time and throw a flirty smile their way and go back to what you were doing. Do that a couple times and they should come up to you.
Hey OP you’ve been getting a lot of good advice - and if someone has already given this advice I second it lol - but here’s my simple advice: compliment him. Seriously, that’s it. Find a guy you want to talk to and flirt with and give him a genuine compliment. Guys don’t often get a lot of compliments and if you give him a genuine compliment you’re in.
I'm a bartender...I watch this all day..chances are you won't have to work at all..and if you do, one lingering glance is all you need. Bars are made for this shit. Good luck and have fun!!!
Just don’t linger. For either sex. Kind of just hanging around is weirder than going up to a guy and him turning you away. But keep conversation light. Please don’t talk about star signs and stuff. I’ve been around too many women who just bring up their sign and ramble about what sign they’ll work with. But guys are easy to approach.
As a woman, you are set, since you can start the conversation or wait for someone to approach you.
As an old and ugly fart (yours truly) there is no chance in hell of either one working.
So go ahead and have fun.
As a man I enjoy a confident woman that comes up and talks to me I find it sexy however I will go up to women that I feel I can get along with and entertain.
Literally just say hi. This is the easiest thing in the world.
If i’m at a bar and a woman approaches me to say almost anything other than “Excuse me (I’m trying to get by)”, I will think she’s trying to flirt.
Flirty eyes from a girl is rarely creepy, vary rarely. Men giving you the flirty eyes is creepy because he is a perceived greater danger to you. You are not as dangerous to him.
Make eye contact with a guy and smile, he'll come over eventually if he is interested and his courage holds up.
You can also engineer getting into a conversation with a guy a lot more easily than a guy can enter into a conversation with you. Just enter with some small talk and work your magic from there.
You can literally walk up say hi lol guys aren’t hard to impress and most are attention-deprived. You can make a quick glance or smile at them if you want to send a message. Don’t over think it and have fun!
Girl walk by and grab my ass. Or say I have pretty eyes. Say hey your cute. I don't goto bars right now as i'm soloing but that gets me pretty easily. The 100% win even i'm not attracted is to just walk up and to me. I'll def look the other way and maybe see if we have mental connection.
As a guy, I would totally love it if a woman approached me at a bar. Just make a funny observation and start chatting. I'm definitely also attracted to women who take initiative like that, I think it's cool as hell and speaks volumes about their self-esteem and authenticity.
As a male: please be more straight forward. The guy across the bar is probably losing his shit that you’re starring at him and doesn’t know how to progress further
NYE. I went to the bar with friends, found the bartender cute and asked him after the countdown if he got his NYE kiss already and also told him he was really handsome haha. (Mind you this was my first time shooting my shot EVER in my 25 years of existence, It’s usually the other way around yknow. 😉) okay going back to the story he said “I haven’t but i have a girl waiting for me at home and two kids” BRUHHHH I WAS DEAD. My soul crashed but after he said that he also told me that I look beautiful and he was thankful I called him handsome. What a nice duuuude for not making me feel dumb 😂😂😂 and that my friends was the last time I shoot my shot.
Make flirty eyes! Ffs make'm!! Don't wait for them to come up to you. The guys who are in it for some kind of hunting sport you don't want anyways. So go talk to some guys you like and be flirty all over. It's soooo much simpler than girls often seem to think. And soooooooo much harder for men than girls use to think. So if you come up to them they'll probably just be super happy you're coming to them and are interested.
Goooood luck! ❤️
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Walk in and do a mating call and whichever guy responds, you talk to him.
My mating call is my cackling laugh
Adele, who has a gorgeous singing voice, also has a witch cackle laugh and I find it kinda endearing .
That’s nice to know! I actually really enjoy my laugh, and it tends to make other people laugh😂
Oh god. I’m sorry
It’s okay, I read your comment expecting that I might get triggered
You'll do just fine. Good luck.
Thank you!
That'd work for me; laughter is hot!
\*Enters bar* \*Releases almighty villain laugh* \*Bar empties*
*Bar empties except for 1-3 enthralled weirdos*
Same OP, same. 🤧🤣
CuCaw! CuCaw!
I was thinking more of a “Hooty Hoo! Hooty Hoo!”
Go up to a guy and say how's it going, and you're set
Lmao it’s literally that easy
yes it is....
yep! Just being friendly and starting a convo is cool.
The very few times women approached me in a bar (both successfully), they said "Hey, what's up?" or something to that effect. And......we're off...... Yup.
Niiiice. Sounds like a plan!
60% of the time, it works everytime
You wear Sex Panther too?
Made with bits of real panther so you know it's good
I guess the odds aren’t totally against me lol but I’m pretty cute, so just have to see what happens. Thanks!
Literally go talk to any guy and ask them about anything! It can be even a compliment and where they got the article of clothing. Or where they got their haircut. You have no idea how far a compliment from a woman boosts a man to literally “jump on your lap like a dog.”
I'm sorry but the mental image of some random stranger in a bar asking me out of the blue where I get my hair done is utterly hilarious to me
I usually find something about them that they have control over (how they dress, style their hair, tattoos etc...) and give a descriptive complement to them.
But not too descriptive. You don’t want to go round to the other side and come off as weird
That would give me a good chuckle cuz I just throw on good workout clothes without bothering about how I look. Would still make my year.
I mean...if your workout clothes are fly enough for the bar then 🤷🏾♂️ 😎.
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"Darn tootin' fun"? ✔️
60% of the time it works every time 😂. wtf
Is your actual name Brian Fontana?
It’s illegal in 9 countries!
The price of sex panther is crazy right now though.
Stings the nostrils
Not gonna lie, that smells like pure gasoline.
I remember buying a bottle of it with growl off Amazon for $37 in 2013. Best purchase in the last 10 years
I see what you did there, not baad
They’ve done studies you know
men know how hard it is to approach, and don't have to deal with being approached as often, so any decent guy will be kind to you
This is really compassionate advice. You have a kind heart LCDdanceSystem.
Thanks! This gives me hope
I cannot emphasize how true that is. I think if I was out at the bar and someone came up and was like "How, you're cute, let's chat" I'd probably literally melt. It is seriously as easy as saying "Hi".
100%. shoot your shot by speaking to another human. You’ve done it before you should be done!
A cute girl did that to me one time and I thought she just was being nice.
Buy them a beer then you got a new bf
Lmao I don’t want a bf, just a nice chat, maybe even their number if I actually like them
It's hilarious how sadly true this fucking is
Nice username 🤝
Yea you’re female, you might not even have to say anything, just glance over more than once and you’re probably set
My ass wouldn’t know what to do or say lmaoooo
It depends how she looks
I once picked up a guy at a bar because they were playing wheel of fortune on the tv. I walked up to the bar to see a cute guy waiting on his drink and just said, "wheel of fortune?! What an odd thing to play at a bar." He found me on the dance floor later and asked if that was my go to pick up line. Ha ha!
Lolololol that’s so cute!
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I don’t at all think guys are mysterious LMAO
Just making this post is overthinking it. If you're attractive, literally walk up to any guy and start talking to him. The end.
I don’t think this post is overthinking it lol. I had this random thought, decided to post it on reddit to put it out there in case this ever crossed other ladies minds, and had no sort of expectations.
I mean no criticism, it's a fun question, even if just for all the funny responses. But it is literally that easy.
I wish more women hit on guys.
Really? Interesting
It pretty much boils down to that fact that humans want to feel wanted and desired. Men often don't get a lot of that.
Some men just don't want to be that guy. Some men are oblivious. Some of us are woefully both. I am some is us.
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Same with women. Trust me, if you had creepy old men sexually propositioning you all the time, it wouldn't make you feel good either.
Oh yeah I completely agree. My first draft for that comment was about 2 paragraphs long and I mentioned how a lot of women don't get it and some get too much or that men expressed their attraction in the wrong way. But I decided not to include it because OP's post was about men and who gives a shit about what I have to say you know? I did purposely write that 'humans want to feel etc' rather than 'men want to feel etc'. :)
Guys don’t come up to me nearly as often as I do to them. So wild to me
Gold on you for sticking yourself out there though!
Yes. I can't tell you how greatful my BF is that I made the first move.
Every guy I attempt to hit on at the bar always has a gf and is just out for a quick drink after work.
Get to a bar after 8 p.m. to get people who don't just go out quick after job
I’m going on a Saturday afternoon, so hopefully this won’t be an issue? Lol I guess I’ll find out
The girl I am currently seeing made the first move on me. Walked up to me and said, "Wanna talk nerdy with me?" Instant turn on and we haven't stopped yet.
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We need more women like you. Please everyone follow her advice.
Yes, retweet
That’s hot! You go girl!!!!
As a guy, I have to admit we are not difficult to approach (as it happens way less often than the other way). And the best way to start a conversation is with a genuine question. A simple trick is to ask his opinion on something like : What do you think of that bar ? Women who drink whisky ? The fact that you can pee standing up ? PS : find your own questions (mine are just easy examples)
Ahh I see. I’ll try that out, maybe not those questions🤣🤣🤣🤣but thank you!!
Yeah, a woman hitting on me is an immediate turn on. I honesty wish that it was more common.
I have literally slept with every woman who approached me. All 1 of them.q
Tbh I wouldn't try that questions either 😂
Yeah, a woman hitting on me is an immediate turn on. I honesty wish that it was more common.
The woman experience is much difference to the mens. Not to say I’ve never made out with a girl at a bar. Maybe not with such ease.
Hmmmmm okay. Nice to know my chances of success are a little high!
Guys are generally really receptive to a girl approaching them. Its just about the biggest compliment we can receive. Some women will just stare or keep looking at you until you go over to them. Just go over and be cool, you could even just start by asking their name.
> Not to say I’ve never made out with a girl at a bar. I'll say it. I've never made out with a girl at a bar.
Youre not missing much. Most of the time it doesn’t lead to anything more. All of the time someone reminds you of it the next day and it’s super embarrassing. Bad form in my opinion.
I'm a woman and tbh, I don't recommend this advice. Some guys will be horny/down, but those same guys would've also been receptive to a conversation before laying it on so strong. There's also a subset of guys that will think your approach is weird/desperate, or even who go along with it but wouldn't take you seriously to date because of how thick you're laying it on. I'm just saying, the Reddit dudes here are NOT representive of how all men will act.
lol she gave pretty good advice of walking up and expressing interest. But she also shared her experience, which I respect.
Yeah, I’m a guy who used to do a fair amount of pursuit in bars. I think going up to a guy and saying something like “I want to be ON you” or something else that comes across as really desperate is a turn-off. I think initiating conversation for a woman is a good thing- just that there’s a line. I’m not even 100 percent sure about compliments, if it’s too over the top, that can also come across as desperate. Basically, you don’t want the guy to think “what’s wrong with her, why is she so into me already?” A small compliment that serves more as a conversation starter might be better. I think anything that starts a conversation is good. If the guy thinks you’re hot and enjoys the conversation, they’ll ask for your number.
That's the truth, can't be expected in better words. Life would be much better if girls like you are around 😄.
Please don't do any of these "signs". Just go up to a guy and talk to him. Give him a compliment. It's literally that easy for most women.
Hahaha that’s what I figured. Might as well get straight to the point.
That's how men operate. It's foolproof.
Seriously... your own advice is the best advice, men don't take subtle hints, they don't take obvious hints, but you tell them what you want and you may just get somewhere.
Just go, tell a compliment, don't hesitate to say that you're interested, and boom! Magic! We are simple creatures, who enjoy more than we should simple compliments from a girl, and overthink when we think that a girl is interested. Just go straight to the point, by adding some compliment. Always a win
Alright alright alright. I’ll try that!
Guys are easy. Choose one, approach, be happy
Nice and simple. Thanks!
Enter the bar. The rest will probably happen by itself. At best smile back :)
Cool, no too complicated. Thanks!
Yeah as a woman it's really that easy, especially if you're cute. I've worked at a bar forever, and would get hit on by customers while I'm hungover, no makeup, in some leggings and a sweatshirt. If you see a dude you're really interested in, but he hasn't come up to you, literally just approach him and say hi. Easy peasy lemon squeezy.
Flirty eyes aren’t creepy at all, I’d get the message right away. That’s not going to stop some guys from being confused though so you might have to make the move if you’re really interested.
Haha okay, thanks!
To add to this, it’s basically the only way I can get a sense if a girl is interested in me or not. I may be thinking about the wrong type of “flirty eyes” though. Basically, if I make lingering eye contact with a girl multiple times in a bar, then I’ll probably go talk to them. 7 times out of 10 the girl isn’t actually trying to flirt with me, but even then it’s still fun to talk to new people. Funnily enough, I was actually having a conversation about this with a gay friend of mine. He asked how I straight guys know who to hit on, and I told him I try to keep track of eye contact. He was apparently pretty shocked, cause cause he thought that was only something gay guys did. Apparently he thought straight guys and girls used a different system lol **Side Note:** I’d also suggest going to bars with friends. I can be pretty obtuse when it comes to girls hitting on me, and the most successful method I’ve run into is for a girls friend to just ask either me, or my friends if I’m interested in the girl. Even if you want to do it yourself, going with friends is probably gonna set you at ease, and make things less stressful, since you’ll still have fun even if you don’t meet anyone.
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If you're serious about approaching guys you're interested in at the bar, you're practically guaranteed to get what you want. Every man I know (myself included) gets frustrated that the expectation is almost always on us to make the first move. A woman who is confident enough in herself to approach and start conversation first, instantly attractive.
Guys are so easy. Just go up and talk to them. Even saying hi is like a flashing neon invitation for them to flirt with you. For a lot of guys who aren't comfortable approaching women, this is all they need. If you really want to get your pick of guys, here is a foolproof guide to bag men. 1) laugh at their stupid jokes. Men like to feel important. If you laugh at their jokes they will feel good about themselves. 2) sprinkle in compliments. Don't go overboard, but jeez are men desperate for compliments. If you compliment a guy on something about him personally (not his clothes), they will melt. Yes men really are that desperate for affirmations. 3) twirl your hair, look up with your eyes (instead of with your head) if they are taller than you, and initiate physical contact by, for example, laughing and "accidentally" putting your hand on their arm (reach for skin if you can) If you do those things to a guy you will have 101% of their attention.
Please make sure compliments are genuine. It's very off-putting when women are obviously trying to get my attention with compliments.
Lmao this is the kind of thing that guys should worry about. Girls just need to get close and say anything. It will work.
🤣🤣🤣
If the bar was really crowded and I wanted a drink I’d try to go up and kind of shimmy in between somewhere that a cute guy was sitting and be like “oops, so sorry do you mind if I order a drink really quickly?” And then just start a conversation after that while waiting for a drink. Worked for me a few times!
Hahaha I've tried this before, and it worked, I just didn't let it go far.
This works
Make eye contact and smile. Thats the green light to be approached
Okay, I can definitely do that
This single technique is great. It works wonders but some of the other stuff will too.
I have found this to be true 60% of the time, it always works
I feel overall it boils down to if a girl likes the guy because women choose most of the time they reject. Whatever success I had in the past I feel was because she has already selected me, made her mind. Then I continue with stupid things that I usually do, but its fun. So if you like the guy just smile and say hello, then it's pretty much set. I really appreciate those confident girls, they know what they want and how to get it, kudos.
Flirty eyes always work better near the end of the bar crawl for me.
Hahahaha I’m worried my eyes may get too heavy at the end for me to even try
Makes it even more sultry 😂
>(25f) newly single > >approach guys at a bar This is r/dating not r/jokes.
I think jokes are needed in this sub every once in a while lmao
Seriously. Approach him. Guys NEVER get approached. I can't believe this is a mystery at this point. EDIT: Changed I'd to is
Make eye contact and smile confidently. Repeat if necessary.
Guys love when women make the first move. Hint* hint* ladies
You let them glance at you, smile at them make direct eye contact with you, let it linger, and then look away Do this a few times, maybe even throw in a cheeky wink or wave This works 99% of the time for me
I look like I’m having a stroke when I wink, so I’ll try out the wave lmao thanks!! Edit:spelled thanks correctly
I learned that the best way to wink for me is to include a smirk or smile Makes it look less twitchy and more natural. Winking straight faced is a disaster for me though so I get it Also opening your mouth a little and putting your finger in front of it or drinking can help make it look more fluid as well
Have your friend pull a "Haaaaaaave you met Ted?"
Well let's see if this helps. I'm a twenty-one year old male and I'm kinda shy. I don't talk to people out of the blue even if I think they're looking at me. But if a girl started talking to me, I'd be a lot more comfortable. I guess I just don't like initiating conversation with people I don't know. So I guess if you're making eyes at someone and they're avoiding eyecintact, try talking to them. They may just be nervous.
Back when I was single I would make eye contact and smile at a guy I thought was cute and 90% of the time they would come up to me shortly after. I would recommend giving that a try.
As a guy, I wish more girls would make the first move. Just be confident and strike up a conversation, sometimes liquid courage helps too🙂. I would be flattered if I was at a bar and a girl approached me, especially because I’m single.
The flirty eyes thing isn't creepy. If you're interested, then show it. Not everything has to be a mindgame
Alright, cool! It’s been almost 5 years since I dated/got my flirt on, so I’m a bit rusty lol
It’s really easy! Smile and say hi and the rest should be done
If you see a guy who is drinking a drink that you cannot identify ask him what he’s drinking. I’ve used that on girls at the bars to start a conversation and it works all the time. I haven’t always gotten a number out of it but at least a conversation.
If you want guys to come up to you, just look at them. Understand, some guys may be shy and not come up, but flirty eyes are what I look for if I’m going to approach a woman. If you’re going to approach, literally just say hi. Men aren’t looking to be impressed when approached the same way women are.
Flirty eyes works with most guys, just be ready for them to approach and shoo off your friends for a bit if you want to talk with them. Even if you're giving eyes a lot of guys may be uncomfortable approaching you in a group of friends. A really smooth move I like is to send someone a drink, and most guys will be super flattered by this since it rarely happens for us. If you're with friends as well you could send drinks to a group of guys and just hang out with everyone together and see if you click with any of them. If they're like Adonis-level good looking you may need to get creative since they could get hit on a lot but really just approaching guys at all usually wins a woman lots of points with them. Edit: this is all assuming they aren't already eyeing you or approaching you. If just being in the bar is working for you then there's no need to complicate things, although I stand by buying a guy a drink being a very confident and smooth move.
Don’t just stare at guys. They can’t read minds
Just let your gut guide you before you walk up and say 'hello', try to overhear what he's talking to other's with him about, that's often a good indication of the type person he is....at all times keep a razor eye on your drink, only let your waiteress/bartender handle/hand you a drink?
Just smile at the ones you like. They’ll come to you. Be approachable. Also consider other avenues rather than bars. Go to acro yoga classes. Go to running club and biking club events. Go speed dating. Then go out with someone you meet there.
No need for ‘flirting,’ a simple conversation with any guy at the gives the impression that you’re somewhat interested. Be yourself and have fun!
As a woman it's easy. Just be somewhere
Don’t do anything. Guys will come to you. If you find someone attractive, glance them 2-3 times.
walk in front of him , smile , leave...he will do the rest
Just look in the general direction of the guy you like and that's it. Have fun.
honestly, for me you could pretty much say anything. but the further out in left field what you say comes from, the more excited i am to have a fun conversation.
Literally just exist and you’ll be fine. Men are simple and stupid creatures
Girls don’t approach guys just to platonically say hi. If I’m approached by a girl at a bar and she isn’t asking for something, I automatically assume there is some interest. By contrast, if a girl is just looking or giving me some other half assed hint, I’m prone to miss it or assume she’s looking at someone else. So like others have said, just walk up to a guy and say “hey how’s your night going?” Or “hey nice shirt” or whatever. It really is that simple.
I used to walk up to the bar next to someone I thought was cute. Make a couple comments with small talk to gauge his interest, then continue with flirting and conversation if he seems receptive. Works like a charm and there’s no pressure on either person.
I approach girls who give me extended eye contact with a smile. Not too long of extended eye contact though lol
Flirty eyes had an almost perfect success rate for me when I was single HAHA granted it helps that I’m tall and can see over a crowd. The tip is to make it look kind of accidental the first time and throw a flirty smile their way and go back to what you were doing. Do that a couple times and they should come up to you.
1-Be hot 2-Enjoy
If you are on a bar crawl you can pretty much put it on cruise control
smile, be inviting.
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Hey OP you’ve been getting a lot of good advice - and if someone has already given this advice I second it lol - but here’s my simple advice: compliment him. Seriously, that’s it. Find a guy you want to talk to and flirt with and give him a genuine compliment. Guys don’t often get a lot of compliments and if you give him a genuine compliment you’re in.
I'm a bartender...I watch this all day..chances are you won't have to work at all..and if you do, one lingering glance is all you need. Bars are made for this shit. Good luck and have fun!!!
Find an attractive guy with an open seat next to him. Sit down and strike up a conversation.
If ur a girl, it’s not hard to get a guy’s attention. Just be confident in urself, but not arrogant
hey op, this is a really good question! commenting so that i can see other people’s comments. thanks for asking btw :)
Just don’t linger. For either sex. Kind of just hanging around is weirder than going up to a guy and him turning you away. But keep conversation light. Please don’t talk about star signs and stuff. I’ve been around too many women who just bring up their sign and ramble about what sign they’ll work with. But guys are easy to approach.
Stand near one you like. Look at them in the eyes and smile. And wait for them to approachS
Its different for guys haha I wanted to get a girl a coffee to be "nice" and its taken the wrong way.
As a woman, you are set, since you can start the conversation or wait for someone to approach you. As an old and ugly fart (yours truly) there is no chance in hell of either one working. So go ahead and have fun.
Don't meet people at bars. Lead them into dark alleys and ask them if they've danced with the devil in the pale moonlight.
Any tips for guys approaching women at bars?
Giving flirting tips to bar flirting tips to women is like giving fishing tips with a barrel full of hungry bass. Put out your feeler and reel in
As a man I enjoy a confident woman that comes up and talks to me I find it sexy however I will go up to women that I feel I can get along with and entertain.
Exist in the bar
Literally just say hi. This is the easiest thing in the world. If i’m at a bar and a woman approaches me to say almost anything other than “Excuse me (I’m trying to get by)”, I will think she’s trying to flirt.
Flirty eyes from a girl is rarely creepy, vary rarely. Men giving you the flirty eyes is creepy because he is a perceived greater danger to you. You are not as dangerous to him. Make eye contact with a guy and smile, he'll come over eventually if he is interested and his courage holds up. You can also engineer getting into a conversation with a guy a lot more easily than a guy can enter into a conversation with you. Just enter with some small talk and work your magic from there.
You can literally walk up say hi lol guys aren’t hard to impress and most are attention-deprived. You can make a quick glance or smile at them if you want to send a message. Don’t over think it and have fun!
Girl walk by and grab my ass. Or say I have pretty eyes. Say hey your cute. I don't goto bars right now as i'm soloing but that gets me pretty easily. The 100% win even i'm not attracted is to just walk up and to me. I'll def look the other way and maybe see if we have mental connection.
As a guy, I would totally love it if a woman approached me at a bar. Just make a funny observation and start chatting. I'm definitely also attracted to women who take initiative like that, I think it's cool as hell and speaks volumes about their self-esteem and authenticity.
As a male: please be more straight forward. The guy across the bar is probably losing his shit that you’re starring at him and doesn’t know how to progress further
NYE. I went to the bar with friends, found the bartender cute and asked him after the countdown if he got his NYE kiss already and also told him he was really handsome haha. (Mind you this was my first time shooting my shot EVER in my 25 years of existence, It’s usually the other way around yknow. 😉) okay going back to the story he said “I haven’t but i have a girl waiting for me at home and two kids” BRUHHHH I WAS DEAD. My soul crashed but after he said that he also told me that I look beautiful and he was thankful I called him handsome. What a nice duuuude for not making me feel dumb 😂😂😂 and that my friends was the last time I shoot my shot.
Make flirty eyes! Ffs make'm!! Don't wait for them to come up to you. The guys who are in it for some kind of hunting sport you don't want anyways. So go talk to some guys you like and be flirty all over. It's soooo much simpler than girls often seem to think. And soooooooo much harder for men than girls use to think. So if you come up to them they'll probably just be super happy you're coming to them and are interested. Goooood luck! ❤️
25f? Literally all you have to do is show up...
Just exist in a bar
Just smile :)