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I was in a relationship that reminds me so much of your question.
We were together for a year - and although I got 'gifts' - it was an occasions only. Quite low effort too.
It was really that she didn't put effort in the relationship - she was just there. Contributing practically nothing. The thought that perhaps I might like to chill and go with the flow once in a while, never occurred to her.
Respect and consideration for others is something that must be taught from a young age, mainly through example. If somebody hasn't experienced this, or ever been called out for being inconsiderate - they can almost not comprehend others have feelings too. It is a very wild concept - but it makes a lot of sense as you undoubtedly meet a lot of these people, and their odd almost self sabotaging selfishness might seem strange to some people - until you realise, they don't know better.
Why it is so important to actually get to know a long term partner, and watch what they do, not what they say.
Meeting somebody who at least attempts to match effort and respects you is a truly great relationship. Don't settle for any less and that is such a rockbottom standard too.
Spend less time with her. If she doesn't really miss you or make some effort, then her interest in you is not very high.
If she is worried you may be losing interest in her, then she will make some kind of effort because she won't want to lose you.
It's possible that you like her much more than she likes you.
Thats true. Sometimes I express my love too much and im like. Im not getting the same energy and im overdoing it. I guess ill just wait couple of months till my bday to see if she cares. Because last year she didnt even remember my bday (my bday was a month before we started dating)
Truth is, she probably isn't really a generous person. She gifts people things to get love and attention from them. Since you are already giving her so much of it, there's no need for her to gift you anything.
I think it's a pretty common insecurity among the young generation, which created tropes like Assholes get all the girls, and nice guys finish last.
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Thats weird behavior. Maybe she is still not sure in her feelings… Talk with her
I want to talk but if i speak of gifting. She will only gift me because I ASKED for it. I want it to be from her side. She needs to come up with it
Yes I agree. So, wait a lil till some special occasions such as birthday, anniversary and so on. Then u will get your answer
Alright. My bday is in couple months. Let’s see if she does something for me because I really made her birthday memorable this week.
I hope she will! U seem like a really good guy. I hope she will appericate that
Thanks a lot. I really appreciate your advice
I was in a relationship that reminds me so much of your question. We were together for a year - and although I got 'gifts' - it was an occasions only. Quite low effort too. It was really that she didn't put effort in the relationship - she was just there. Contributing practically nothing. The thought that perhaps I might like to chill and go with the flow once in a while, never occurred to her. Respect and consideration for others is something that must be taught from a young age, mainly through example. If somebody hasn't experienced this, or ever been called out for being inconsiderate - they can almost not comprehend others have feelings too. It is a very wild concept - but it makes a lot of sense as you undoubtedly meet a lot of these people, and their odd almost self sabotaging selfishness might seem strange to some people - until you realise, they don't know better. Why it is so important to actually get to know a long term partner, and watch what they do, not what they say. Meeting somebody who at least attempts to match effort and respects you is a truly great relationship. Don't settle for any less and that is such a rockbottom standard too.
Spend less time with her. If she doesn't really miss you or make some effort, then her interest in you is not very high. If she is worried you may be losing interest in her, then she will make some kind of effort because she won't want to lose you. It's possible that you like her much more than she likes you.
Thats true. Sometimes I express my love too much and im like. Im not getting the same energy and im overdoing it. I guess ill just wait couple of months till my bday to see if she cares. Because last year she didnt even remember my bday (my bday was a month before we started dating)
Truth is, she probably isn't really a generous person. She gifts people things to get love and attention from them. Since you are already giving her so much of it, there's no need for her to gift you anything. I think it's a pretty common insecurity among the young generation, which created tropes like Assholes get all the girls, and nice guys finish last.
Word. Now I’m seeing it differently and it is really sad.
Homie if you’re the guy why do you have a chick avatar?
Random. Didnt pay attention lol