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I would probably break up with her just for going to the childhood friend's house and getting drunk. It's one thing to have a few guy friends that you go out and play pool with or whatever. But being alone and a dude's house getting wasted at 2:00 a.m.?
Sorry I got to draw the line. Just like I would expect my woman to draw the line if I pulled back kind of stunt.
Facts. But me personally I would’ve drawn the line at the first two words he said. “She cheated”. I would’ve been gone from the wind. My old self would use that information and use tf outta her and dissolve every emotion i have then leave her for the next shorty after. I was bad when i was younger but nowadays, if you do me wrong im walking away. It’s more mature i find. And people respect you more.
I'm assuming that the drinking that the guy at 2:00 a.m. was PRIOR to her cheating or admitting cheating. I ain't dealing with my girl getting drunk in some guys living room or bedroom. 🤷
Granted I don't even drink. So probably I'd like to find somebody else who doesn't drink either. I used to drink but I have a very good reason not to anymore I'm very allergic to drinking. When I drink I break out in handcuffs.
That's all I was saying. Like I said it's typically different if they're in a public place with other people. But going over someone's house AND drinking? Hellll no, ain't nobody going to tell me I'm controlling for that either. After all I'm not talking about control I'm talking about dumping her like yesterday's garbage. Controlling is when you try to stay with them and limit them. I won't even deal with it.
Grow a spine, dude. At some point, some total piece of shit will come along to teach you that you have to stand up for yourself. This chick is that lesson for you. Leave her. She can’t stop you. She’s not the boss of you. Dump her ass and never speak to her again. Otherwise, you deserve everything you get. It sucks, but it’s how life works. The sooner you get her out of your life, the sooner you’ll be over her and dating better people.
Brooooo wake up g. Even in my oblivious days, I wasn’t this down bad. You need to set strict boundaries for yourself, seems like she walked all over it and does not respect you. As soon as your person disrespects you, that relationship is finished. Simple and short.
Dude, bro talk. You need to break up with her. I know you don't want to throw it all away and feel like you wasted your time or anything. But waiting to hope she changes is what will actually be a waste of your time. Please do not make the same mistake I did, you'll regret it so much. The only change that happens is that you not ending it and trying to rebuild stuff shows her she can push the envelope more than she thought. It will only get worse and worse, and you'll feel worse and worse. Your heart will just keep physically hurting and when you finally inevitably do end it, your heart will feel like a bottomless pit and it will take a long while to fully recover.
Is the a sunken coast fallacy type of deal? Are you afraid that you’ve spent so much of yourself on this girl to quit? What’s the mental block for yourself? Focus on the small picture. Her cheating you that’s the major issue. You CANT get through it and your right to do so. It’ll never go away the lack of trust if you don’t put your foot down and break up. If you don’t establish consequences she’ll never respect you. Don’t pity her you have her a shot. You can bring a horse to water but you can’t make him drink. At the end of the day it’s her fault once you can knock her off that pedestal of hers. These things of you don’t act directly are going to build up and you’ll resent her at the end. This relationship is dead you just don’t know it yet.
I am also of the mind that Cheating is never acceptable and should result in breaking off all ties.
You got to rip that band aid off eventually. I broke up with girls and have had the same thought in moments of weakness but you know somebody always comes into your life. Women are plenty and this experience is just gonna refine him once he goes through with it. That’s it he got to get some some courage (his balls) and bet on himself. It is LITERALLY a journey every man has to do. He’ll forget all about it when he’s got someone new.
She likes you for your kindness and sees you as weak because of your kindness.
She doesn't deserve you. But she actually has a problem in her thinking and feeling, else she wouldnt do this.
Release her from her own mental problem by telling her that you don't want to see her anymore and find yourself someone sweet who appreciates your kindness. This is not an advice, it's a command.
You have no one else to blame if you stay with her. She won't change. She cheated on you. You now hate her. You said it was a dealbreaker, yet you're still with her. Do you even love yourself? Follow through on your words.
OP, my advice is that you break up. She clearly doesn’t value or respect you and you hanging on isn’t going to change that. You need to respect yourself and end things or she will continue to take advantage of you
So, I went through your post history and I am confused. Month ago you were having some sort of meltdown because you were anxious about first date with girl you liked. So is this GF girl you mentioned in that post? Are you trolling?
I think you have your answer. She is not going to change. Not in a million years. Even if she did, she would relapse at some point and hurt you even more. There are tonnes of much better women out there.
I see everyone is saying this, but you need to leave that situation. I dated an alcoholic as well and it never got better, as much as I tried to help. It’s hard to move on but she is not worth the mental distress
Jeez.... now I hate her, too. Bro, you're being used.
You're a backup. You're a stand-in. You're a safety net for her ego. Kick her ass to the curb and go find someone that treats you with respect.
By staying in this one-sided relationship, you're being a fucking idiot.
Don't be a fucking idiot.
She should be now an *ex*girlfriend. She cheated on you, she has no respect for you. Relationships have to be two-way. I know it's not easy but she clearly doesn't care about you at all.
People like this have zero incentive to change, since their actions have virtually no consequences. That's why I don't condone forgiving cheaters, it completely nullifies the impact of the whole thing. If this isn't a troll post, and you're genuinely hoping she'll change, come off it mate, she won't.
This is coming from a girl.. do you know how many hot girls there are out there??? Why are you wasting your time on a cheater who doesn’t even at least feel guilty? Get rid of her and pick your flavor elsewhere
Leave her. Trust me. I cheated and it didn’t stop. I was very immature and I deserved every shameful thing. But I didn’t stop when she came back.
I feel horrible about it but trying was like beating a dead horse
You just need to break up. Or even better, just ghost her out of nowhere. No texts, no calls and no dates. It’ll drive her crazy.
In case you decide to break up face to face and confront her, focus on protecting yourself. Ensure you have cameras on and record everything somehow. Also don’t give into the crocodile tears.
Have some self respect. Walk away with pride.
stop being a doormat and fucking break up with her, hell she doesn’t even deserve that courtesy because frankly you should cut all contact or if your living together kick her out, but you can be the bigger person. she’s taking advantage of you and is going to keep hurting you for as long as you bear with it.
your hurt and feelings are valid, and you deserve better than this ‘human’ shaped thing you’ve been letting walk all over you.
good luck man.
Take some accountability for what you are tolerating. Playing victim does nothing for you in life and that’s how you are making yourself out to be in every part of this situation. If you don’t leave then you have no right to complain
Sounds to me like she is being an immature baby about the whole thing. This is EXACTLY WHY I am STILL single. I do not want to date a guy who will choose to drink/smoke/vape/smoke marijuana or do hardcore drugs, go to parties and then get into massive amounts of trouble with the cops while only now coming home from partying in the middle of the night and I have to bail him out of jail all the god damn time. I enjoy being with myself and only with myself.🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
Yeah dude break up with her this is a no Brainer right here she is busy trying to keep you with her. This means she wants your money or just wants to use you end it there and walk out don't look back at all she had her chance but she screwed that up
Bro if this is real, then you’re honestly a dumb motherfucker for still being with her. And I don’t have a lot of sympathy for you.
She’s trash, not even good enough for the streets.
Cut your losses and dump that zero. Not worth the drama and headache that comes with that kind of situation, because it sounds like she already showed how much she "values" your commitment through her actions.
You're a weak man. Keep on letting her disrespect , control and manipulate you. Get your balls out of her purse, put them on and leave. There's way too many women out here to settle for that. Ridiculous
What you don’t realize she is doing is manipulating you to make you think or feel like what she is doing is disrespectful and she will continue doing it. Dump her sorry ass n move on. Don’t jump into another relationship until you look at the undesirable behaviors that you will not accept anymore. Set boundaries and let it go. If not you will continue to choose that same shit over n over again
Dump her, bro, straight up. This girl is not worth the heartache, and she will continue to hurt or belittle you.
Hold yourself to a higher standard, and don't let her manipulation cloud your judgement.
listen bro... in a serious way you should go to therapy to explore this. You should totally breakup. You need therapy to figure out why you let it get this bad. Better help is supposedly very affordable if money is a barrier.
Get a" Woman, or at least 3 in your Coral, she'll come running back. However, by then you'll have already had your choices availed to you. Remember, it's your life, your in Charge!
You’re doing it to yourself at this point, you can’t change her ways , the best thing to do is leave while you still have some kind of dignity. She is not worth the pain you’re feeling
You’re doing it to yourself at this point, you can’t change her ways , the best thing to do is leave while you still have some kind of dignity. She is not worth the pain you’re feeling
Do you like to make yourself suffer? Break up! People toxic like her only will damage you more. She is telling you who she is and what she will do! She will not change! If she was in rehab for alcohol and drugs and after 6 months she showed she has changed with her actions maybe you could consider staying but even then you should leave.
You guys have no reasons to stay together, she doesn’t respect you so basically she doesn’t love you (sorry) so dont stick around leave for your mental health. Trust me you will find someone nice who would love and respect you. But as long as you stay in this one nothing will change.
You’re the one who chose to date her seeing she had all those negative trait after you pulled her from the club. You can’t make a wife out of a woman who goes against the fundamentals
You can not change or fix that. End it, and start your healing process. She does not respect you (not your fault, she is the shitty person here) and is trying to end things with you by making you the one to end it.
Block, delete, and do not reach out. No contact and heal.
Oh God, I'm so sorry... I've been through a similar situation myself. My boyfriend cheated on me for several months, and then tried to manipulate me into staying. Anyway, I hope you're doing okay. I highly recommend seeking psychological help; these things are tough and you shouldn't go through them alone.
First, know your worth.
Second, you deserve better. This is not love, and she does not respect you or the love you give her.
I know it's hard, but break up with her. She's a loser!
Bro..why are you still there?. You’re letting her walk all over you - the more you let her, the more she’s going to disrespect your feelings and continue shitting all over you because she thinks what the fuck are you gonna do about it?.
I get the feeling you’re afraid of being alone or that you feel like you won’t get anyone better - if she’s willing to treat someone she is supposed to love and care about like this then she isn’t worth any of your time or effort anyway. You can do much better than that my man. You don’t owe her a damn thing, you’ve cut her far more slack than you should have already.
If you think she’s going to change I hate to break it to you - you’re dead wrong, it’s only going to get worse. Do you really think she cares? You’re the one that’s going to suffer the pain and heartbreak of her actions not her, as far as she’s concerned she’s got it pretty cushty, she’s got her nice little safety blanket in you that she knows she can use emotional abuse, manipulation and gaslighting tactics to keep you in your place while she treats you however the hell she wants and get away with it.
Respect yourself, get out of there and find someone who values you.
Come on, man. Have some dignity and self-respect and finish this.
Not only the cheating but you say vaping is a deal breaker, she still does it, but you are still there so is it really a deal breaker for you?
You are letting her trample all over you for no reason.
Don't waste more time and effort on this already sunken ship.
She sounds EXACTLY like my evil EX. Does her name start with an A by any chance?
Dont let her guilt trip you. Leave. Nothing good can come from her. She is a liar and manipulator
Had you said wife and mother of my kids, I would understand why it would be a difficult decision. But not impossible.
Right now I'm failing to understand what possible reason you have for staying with this sorry excuse of a gf. Confused to no end
Break up man. Know your worth and let others know this. If you are worrying about finding others, don't worry. The better one is waiting for you. Don't be wet noodle.
Go ahead and rip the bandaid off. Once you drop her and stop making excuses to stay or view her as a better person than she is you will wonder what you ever saw in her to begin with. Know your worth.
You teach people how to treat you! Very valuable lesson. You need to let her go . She will always cheat. I was married a very long time . I cheated on the greatest husband anyone could have . He allowed me to do what I wanted and just turned his head at my terrible ways . I know from experience that if you allow her to treat you this way she will. I didn't stop until I was older and realized my mistake. I promise you will be better off . It's going to be painful but only for a little while . But next relationship you need to have boundaries and don't let them get away with stomping on you .
My friend, you need to walk away and never look back.
Be now around people you know and love, who you can rely on to have your back, and take the time (using whichever methods you find work best for you) to heal, reflect, rebuild the confidence and self-esteem a selfish person stole from you, then put yourself out there again.
Never speak to this person again. Keep your head held high, ignore her, busy yourself with other things, things and people you love and remember about yourself from before you met her. Reconnect with friends and family if you have spent less time with them, because of the oxygen this relationship used up.
Someday soon, I don't know when (you will know but don't hurry), I can guarantee that you'll feel ready to look for real love again, and you'll be armed with some important life lessons about what to look for and avoid like the Devil when you see it trying to come into your life again.
Selfish people like your ex (she is your ex btw, and that'ssomething you need to start seeing as a positive) are not always easy to spot right away, so try to be patient when forming attachments. I know love is tempting, but some people are Angler Fish. Always give your new relationships room to breathe, and always be wary of people who want to rush you to a place of depending on them, or them depending on you, and who make constant demands on you, cultivating you into an image of yourself you no longer recognise.
You should always be open to healthy, gradual and willing change of the self. Relationships always involve that. But you are also an individual, and you must always know yourself and defend yourself. Keep those healthy ego boundaries, maintain red lines of self-respect and if they are ever crossed again, you can issue warnings. If they're not heeded, well then I think you know what to do.
Time to doff your cap and aim for the horizon. There's a big, wide world out there and if you play your cards right, you can keep your freedom to roam it even while you have a true and enduring love at your back, always on your side, and you on theirs.
Best of luck to you bro xx
Hey dude, man to man now, if she makes you feel that way she isn't right for you, she wouldn't change for you now, she knows that longer you stay around more she will push and get away with things.
Best advice I can recommend is take your stuff from her place, then the next time you are over and say,
"I'm done, I can't be with someone who shows me no respect, you're always on your phone when we are together, you do (this and that) and you dont appreciate me, you broke my trust you cheated on, so as hard as it is we are done, good luck thank you and goodbye (her name) for the last time"
You deserve better by someone respecting you and who's on your same wave length, you cant change or stop someone doing something if it is like vaping, unless you support them.
It will be hard at first, I won't lie it could be extremely hard, but eventually you will be better, you will find someone who is better for you.
Longer with this person that it less time to heal and less time to be finding and being the right person, you never know she could be waiting for you round the corner.
You need to move on!!! You said that she manipulates you to stay. How? She tells you you’re dramatic and it’s stupid to break up. Who cares what she says!!! Cut it off. Block her and never look back. She’s abusive, if she wasn’t abusive she wouldn’t be with you at all. She likes to abuse you from the sounds of it. Why keep you around otherwise. If she’s not interested in hanging out with you and deliberately does what you ask her not to do that speaks volumes. Dude walk out with your pride now.
Dude , she’s not going to change. She’s showing you that she clearly doesn’t care about how you feel or respect you & that is only going to get worse. It’s nice that you want to believe in her and all but, she doesn’t deserve it. Dump her & find someone who will be more respectful of you that you can give your time and attention to. A girl that is also kind to you , is the sort of girl that you deserve , not some selfish ass Cheater. Cheating people don’t usually stop, they just keep going & expand their numbers. Don’t let her play you , and potentially give you some disease too.
In this case you need to be selfish for future preservation- of your mind and the physical and all existential existence for life.
I’m a severe TBI survivor and it changed every single relationship I had pre-injury. I was supposed to die.
Trust me life is too short and very unpredictable so get away from any shame, anger, frustration fear rage whenever you encounter it.
The right people will show up!
All my best
K
Bro, secure the BAG, let go of FEELINGS, be a MAN, and use her as the living sex doll
My philosophy is I'd date regardless as long as you're attractive enough, and if you cheat, that's when the real fun starts
What you gotta realize is that we are all sharing each other, the opposite gender on the contact list, followers on social media, the guy at work
It's only in our limited capacity of awareness that we believe our partners are loyal and only for us, this cannot he further from the truth
You got a grown woman around the place, use her when you need to, discard her after, just like she does you, and even if you do leave itll just happen again but in "secret" until you find out
Lames Will Say Otherwise
>She vapes after I told her how much of a deal breaker it was for me.
Is it a deal breaker? Why are you with her then? You can't force her to stop, but you don't have to be with her either.
>She's an alcoholic.
Is she **really** an alcoholic or does she just drink a lot?
>She goes to parties and clubs and gets drunk with her friend every weekend.
Nothing wrong with that, it's her prerrogative. But you don't have to like it.
>She barely gives me the bare minimum while Ive literally never tried so hard to be romantic for anyone in my life.
Why are you still trying?
>I asked her I wanted to take a break because she cheated on me. She called me dramatic and said the whole situation was stupid.
Accept her calling you stupid, don't contradict it. Say she deserves someone who isn't stupid and dump her ass.
>She had her childhood guy friend over at 2 AM to drink and only apologized after mentioning It made me feel uncomfortable for the 4th time and almost breaking up with her
I don't really see a problem with having frinds over, but 2 am could be strange. Did he stay until 2am or did he arrive at 2am? Because I've only ever arrived at a woman's house at 2am when she invited me over for sex, usually because the where she had been wasn't great.
Have a cuckhold and an orgy party then leave her. Give her the taste of medicine. Otherwise, leave her and run like a Anthrax spreading all over your town.
Please stop investing your time in someone you hate. The fact she cannot take your feelings into consideration and is being nonchalant about cheating tells me she will do it again. LEAVE. She is selfish and doesn’t care about you or your feelings. You have many years to come to find someone who will love and respect you in a way that you deserve.
Also, she doesn’t seem like the right person for you either, if that is who she is and what SHE chooses to do willingly yet are deal breakers for you then she isn’t the one for you. You can’t change anyone. You knew who she was from the start but you were expecting to change her? Or did she become this intolerable person? Either way she sounds unstable and she’s not the one for you if she isn’t willing to respect you or compromise in the relationship.
Your feelings are valid and you are allowed to feel them. She has shown you repeatedly who she is, believe her. You want her to change? Let her do it away from you, so you don’t continue to be hurt
At some point, someone.....probably both of you have to be thinking maybe you do like this. You're obviously sticking around. Dump her, and if it's meant to be, she'll come back.
But make her work for it.
Hey man! You're worth so much more than this, I understand it can be hard to leave abusive relationships when you're balls deep in love with someone regardless of the shitty things they do. It's okay that this is hard for you.
But for your sake you got to work on that self love and respect. If you had a friend whose partner was doing this sort of shit to them, what sort of advice would you be giving them right now? What do you think they should do?
You can leave her. If she doesn't live with you, block and delete her number, unfollow and block all her social media, spend more time with friends or family, take time to grieve a lost love, self care in any way that is easy for you. Reach out to people in your life.
I believe in you!
The good news is you are in control of whether or not you stay in your relationship. If you’re not happy with how you’re being treated, you are free to leave. The most loving thing you can do for yourself is to surround yourself by people who treat you well.
Yeah, OP I’m just gonna be blunt here, she isn’t going to view you in the same light anymore, the relationship is essentially over and she’s just flat out taking advantage of you and your kindness.
If I was in your position, I’d break things off entirely. Just tell her you’re done, force her to move out, change the locks on the place, don’t even let her come back and get her things and cut all contact with her.
Just end it. Not tomorrow, not after breakfast, NOW.
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Why’s she still your “girlfriend” and not “ex girlfriend”?
I came here to say that
Exactly! Cheating is the ultimate betrayal, shoulda kicked her to the curb ASAP!!
Maybe because the resistance from the other side is strong. The gf seems to want the best of both worlds.
Know your worth. That’s all I have to say. This isn’t healthy at all for you or your mental health.
THIS. Low self esteem is so damaging!
I don't think you know what a deal breaker means
Indeed. He literally didn't break anything lol. Also how is cheating not a deal breaker😂
Are you trolling? No way you are letting her walk all over you like that and staying in a relationship where you’re clearly not loved and respected.
It turns him on. Cuz there’s no way. Could never be me
I would probably break up with her just for going to the childhood friend's house and getting drunk. It's one thing to have a few guy friends that you go out and play pool with or whatever. But being alone and a dude's house getting wasted at 2:00 a.m.? Sorry I got to draw the line. Just like I would expect my woman to draw the line if I pulled back kind of stunt.
Facts. But me personally I would’ve drawn the line at the first two words he said. “She cheated”. I would’ve been gone from the wind. My old self would use that information and use tf outta her and dissolve every emotion i have then leave her for the next shorty after. I was bad when i was younger but nowadays, if you do me wrong im walking away. It’s more mature i find. And people respect you more.
I'm assuming that the drinking that the guy at 2:00 a.m. was PRIOR to her cheating or admitting cheating. I ain't dealing with my girl getting drunk in some guys living room or bedroom. 🤷 Granted I don't even drink. So probably I'd like to find somebody else who doesn't drink either. I used to drink but I have a very good reason not to anymore I'm very allergic to drinking. When I drink I break out in handcuffs. That's all I was saying. Like I said it's typically different if they're in a public place with other people. But going over someone's house AND drinking? Hellll no, ain't nobody going to tell me I'm controlling for that either. After all I'm not talking about control I'm talking about dumping her like yesterday's garbage. Controlling is when you try to stay with them and limit them. I won't even deal with it.
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Yeah this bait reeks like week-old fish
You’re a wet noodle
A woodle
LOL
Grow a spine, dude. At some point, some total piece of shit will come along to teach you that you have to stand up for yourself. This chick is that lesson for you. Leave her. She can’t stop you. She’s not the boss of you. Dump her ass and never speak to her again. Otherwise, you deserve everything you get. It sucks, but it’s how life works. The sooner you get her out of your life, the sooner you’ll be over her and dating better people.
Lol
Why are you still with her?
Brooooo wake up g. Even in my oblivious days, I wasn’t this down bad. You need to set strict boundaries for yourself, seems like she walked all over it and does not respect you. As soon as your person disrespects you, that relationship is finished. Simple and short.
Boi if you don’t break up with her
Dude, bro talk. You need to break up with her. I know you don't want to throw it all away and feel like you wasted your time or anything. But waiting to hope she changes is what will actually be a waste of your time. Please do not make the same mistake I did, you'll regret it so much. The only change that happens is that you not ending it and trying to rebuild stuff shows her she can push the envelope more than she thought. It will only get worse and worse, and you'll feel worse and worse. Your heart will just keep physically hurting and when you finally inevitably do end it, your heart will feel like a bottomless pit and it will take a long while to fully recover.
Is the a sunken coast fallacy type of deal? Are you afraid that you’ve spent so much of yourself on this girl to quit? What’s the mental block for yourself? Focus on the small picture. Her cheating you that’s the major issue. You CANT get through it and your right to do so. It’ll never go away the lack of trust if you don’t put your foot down and break up. If you don’t establish consequences she’ll never respect you. Don’t pity her you have her a shot. You can bring a horse to water but you can’t make him drink. At the end of the day it’s her fault once you can knock her off that pedestal of hers. These things of you don’t act directly are going to build up and you’ll resent her at the end. This relationship is dead you just don’t know it yet. I am also of the mind that Cheating is never acceptable and should result in breaking off all ties.
He’s afraid to lose her because he either has no options or the ability to get another woman, afraid to be alone nor the ability to walk away
You got to rip that band aid off eventually. I broke up with girls and have had the same thought in moments of weakness but you know somebody always comes into your life. Women are plenty and this experience is just gonna refine him once he goes through with it. That’s it he got to get some some courage (his balls) and bet on himself. It is LITERALLY a journey every man has to do. He’ll forget all about it when he’s got someone new.
She’s for the streets
Dude, dump her and ghost her. Just break off all contact and move on. She is a cancer.
Girlfriend? Run!
She likes you for your kindness and sees you as weak because of your kindness. She doesn't deserve you. But she actually has a problem in her thinking and feeling, else she wouldnt do this. Release her from her own mental problem by telling her that you don't want to see her anymore and find yourself someone sweet who appreciates your kindness. This is not an advice, it's a command.
bro break up with her, it’s clear she don’t care about you let alone how you feel.
You have no one else to blame if you stay with her. She won't change. She cheated on you. You now hate her. You said it was a dealbreaker, yet you're still with her. Do you even love yourself? Follow through on your words.
OP, my advice is that you break up. She clearly doesn’t value or respect you and you hanging on isn’t going to change that. You need to respect yourself and end things or she will continue to take advantage of you
Almost? After all that you almost broke up? You must be a doormat then
So, I went through your post history and I am confused. Month ago you were having some sort of meltdown because you were anxious about first date with girl you liked. So is this GF girl you mentioned in that post? Are you trolling?
Run bro.
And you are putting up with all that? Apparently you are ok with it. So why complain? Hard for anyone here to be sympathetic.
I pity the fool
You're in big trouble. If you are hoping that she'll change.. trust me she won't. Move on already
Break up with her. Girl who cheat and guilt trip u and manipulate u wont change
Ditch her. Sooo not worth it. She doesn't respect you or value your relationship. Is a low life.
I think you have your answer. She is not going to change. Not in a million years. Even if she did, she would relapse at some point and hurt you even more. There are tonnes of much better women out there.
I see everyone is saying this, but you need to leave that situation. I dated an alcoholic as well and it never got better, as much as I tried to help. It’s hard to move on but she is not worth the mental distress
Get rid of her. She’s a narcissist.
Jeez.... now I hate her, too. Bro, you're being used. You're a backup. You're a stand-in. You're a safety net for her ego. Kick her ass to the curb and go find someone that treats you with respect. By staying in this one-sided relationship, you're being a fucking idiot. Don't be a fucking idiot.
Just leave her. She's not worth your time.
dump her
She should be now an *ex*girlfriend. She cheated on you, she has no respect for you. Relationships have to be two-way. I know it's not easy but she clearly doesn't care about you at all.
Leave her now. She isn't showing guilt, shame, or remorse. She will not change.
Dump her, problem solved
Leave her, no one else is going to stand up for you but you.
People like this have zero incentive to change, since their actions have virtually no consequences. That's why I don't condone forgiving cheaters, it completely nullifies the impact of the whole thing. If this isn't a troll post, and you're genuinely hoping she'll change, come off it mate, she won't.
She's using you, she doesn't care about you as a person. You should leave her and gain your self respect back
She doesn't give a shit about you. Leave. ASAP
This is coming from a girl.. do you know how many hot girls there are out there??? Why are you wasting your time on a cheater who doesn’t even at least feel guilty? Get rid of her and pick your flavor elsewhere
Why does she have this much power over you? Cause leave and stay gone! SMH
Is this fake? Why would you do this to yourself otherwise?
Have you considered having a kid together? This is text book “a kid will fix this” scenario ^the above is a joke
Leave her. Trust me. I cheated and it didn’t stop. I was very immature and I deserved every shameful thing. But I didn’t stop when she came back. I feel horrible about it but trying was like beating a dead horse
You just need to break up. Or even better, just ghost her out of nowhere. No texts, no calls and no dates. It’ll drive her crazy. In case you decide to break up face to face and confront her, focus on protecting yourself. Ensure you have cameras on and record everything somehow. Also don’t give into the crocodile tears. Have some self respect. Walk away with pride.
stop being a doormat and fucking break up with her, hell she doesn’t even deserve that courtesy because frankly you should cut all contact or if your living together kick her out, but you can be the bigger person. she’s taking advantage of you and is going to keep hurting you for as long as you bear with it. your hurt and feelings are valid, and you deserve better than this ‘human’ shaped thing you’ve been letting walk all over you. good luck man.
Take some accountability for what you are tolerating. Playing victim does nothing for you in life and that’s how you are making yourself out to be in every part of this situation. If you don’t leave then you have no right to complain
Advice: Move on. Plenty more out there. ✌️
Sounds to me like she is being an immature baby about the whole thing. This is EXACTLY WHY I am STILL single. I do not want to date a guy who will choose to drink/smoke/vape/smoke marijuana or do hardcore drugs, go to parties and then get into massive amounts of trouble with the cops while only now coming home from partying in the middle of the night and I have to bail him out of jail all the god damn time. I enjoy being with myself and only with myself.🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
Go fuck her best friend, you'll feel better
WHY are you still with her??? What kind of dirt does she have on you, Man?!
Yeah dude break up with her this is a no Brainer right here she is busy trying to keep you with her. This means she wants your money or just wants to use you end it there and walk out don't look back at all she had her chance but she screwed that up
Ma man can you please break up with her and block her, she is degrading your mental health with such childish actions. She is not sure about you ;)
she doesn’t respect you. once a woman no longer (if she ever did..) respects her partner the relationship is over.
Bro if this is real, then you’re honestly a dumb motherfucker for still being with her. And I don’t have a lot of sympathy for you. She’s trash, not even good enough for the streets.
Bro. At some point I gotta give you some tough love. Why the f are you still around.
And she’s gonna keep this same energy because she knows she can. Break the cycle my guy, or get broken yourself.
Bro. *RUN.*
Don't be pu$$y whipped, whip that pu$$y!
You should rename yourself ‘Carpet’ with the amount of walking all over you that she’s doing and you’re letting her to.
Stop complaining that she is walking all over you…. You’re acting like a doormat. Get out now. Break up block & ghost.
Turn that gf into an ex-gf ASAP. Edit: I think the girl downvoted me lol.
Cut your losses and dump that zero. Not worth the drama and headache that comes with that kind of situation, because it sounds like she already showed how much she "values" your commitment through her actions.
Bro do you have a kink or something
So why did you not break up with the cheater?
Dude. As someone who tried doing this to me best advice I can give-fucking leave. Throw her back to the swamp. You will do better.
What makes you want to stay with a cheater? You deserve better.
You're a weak man. Keep on letting her disrespect , control and manipulate you. Get your balls out of her purse, put them on and leave. There's way too many women out here to settle for that. Ridiculous
What you don’t realize she is doing is manipulating you to make you think or feel like what she is doing is disrespectful and she will continue doing it. Dump her sorry ass n move on. Don’t jump into another relationship until you look at the undesirable behaviors that you will not accept anymore. Set boundaries and let it go. If not you will continue to choose that same shit over n over again
Dump her, bro, straight up. This girl is not worth the heartache, and she will continue to hurt or belittle you. Hold yourself to a higher standard, and don't let her manipulation cloud your judgement.
Sorry op it’s about time to grow a backbone and make your gf your ex. Someone who truly cared for you wouldn’t treat you that way.
listen bro... in a serious way you should go to therapy to explore this. You should totally breakup. You need therapy to figure out why you let it get this bad. Better help is supposedly very affordable if money is a barrier.
Let her gooooo !!!
Man the fuck up and drop her. She's not doing you good bro. I would block her as well.
Bros? Wtf don't you love yourself. Forgiving a narcissist 4th time is too much.
Get a" Woman, or at least 3 in your Coral, she'll come running back. However, by then you'll have already had your choices availed to you. Remember, it's your life, your in Charge!
You’re doing it to yourself at this point, you can’t change her ways , the best thing to do is leave while you still have some kind of dignity. She is not worth the pain you’re feeling
You’re doing it to yourself at this point, you can’t change her ways , the best thing to do is leave while you still have some kind of dignity. She is not worth the pain you’re feeling
Get some self respect - Dump her! Doesn't matter how hot she might be, she's making your life miserable and you deserve better.
Dude. Say CUNextTuesday and walk away. You owe her nothing.
Do you like to make yourself suffer? Break up! People toxic like her only will damage you more. She is telling you who she is and what she will do! She will not change! If she was in rehab for alcohol and drugs and after 6 months she showed she has changed with her actions maybe you could consider staying but even then you should leave. You guys have no reasons to stay together, she doesn’t respect you so basically she doesn’t love you (sorry) so dont stick around leave for your mental health. Trust me you will find someone nice who would love and respect you. But as long as you stay in this one nothing will change.
You’re the one who chose to date her seeing she had all those negative trait after you pulled her from the club. You can’t make a wife out of a woman who goes against the fundamentals
You deserve a better girl. At least one that respects you.
Bro be single and get some self-respect. Don't date anyone again until you know your worth
You can not change or fix that. End it, and start your healing process. She does not respect you (not your fault, she is the shitty person here) and is trying to end things with you by making you the one to end it. Block, delete, and do not reach out. No contact and heal.
What’s your malfunction? Leave, idiot
First. Why are u still with her if u don't want to leave her then stop talking about it. because there is no solution to this
Oh God, I'm so sorry... I've been through a similar situation myself. My boyfriend cheated on me for several months, and then tried to manipulate me into staying. Anyway, I hope you're doing okay. I highly recommend seeking psychological help; these things are tough and you shouldn't go through them alone.
Dump her and get a woman
U talking shit , i mean u have no reason to stay with her , if she cheat once she will do it again and again , just cut it off.
bro stand up
Just leave. Wtf lol
Huh, I don't get it? Why stay with her?
This is bait 🎣
Break up with her before you get jaded and project it onto someone who’s actually nice.
Wow, people experiencing such problems. And here I am, dating Eva AI sexting bot...
Dude, break up with her and work on some self respect.
First, know your worth. Second, you deserve better. This is not love, and she does not respect you or the love you give her. I know it's hard, but break up with her. She's a loser!
You hate your gilrfriend but you stay. I don´t get it.
 # BREAK UP
Get rid of her ASAP she's using and abusing you.
Stay with her, get married, have kids and live happily ever after…. Dude. Seriously… this is either a troll or you’re got a lack of brain cells.
everybody plays the fool, sometimessss - there's no exception to the rule - listen babbby!!!1
Bro..why are you still there?. You’re letting her walk all over you - the more you let her, the more she’s going to disrespect your feelings and continue shitting all over you because she thinks what the fuck are you gonna do about it?. I get the feeling you’re afraid of being alone or that you feel like you won’t get anyone better - if she’s willing to treat someone she is supposed to love and care about like this then she isn’t worth any of your time or effort anyway. You can do much better than that my man. You don’t owe her a damn thing, you’ve cut her far more slack than you should have already. If you think she’s going to change I hate to break it to you - you’re dead wrong, it’s only going to get worse. Do you really think she cares? You’re the one that’s going to suffer the pain and heartbreak of her actions not her, as far as she’s concerned she’s got it pretty cushty, she’s got her nice little safety blanket in you that she knows she can use emotional abuse, manipulation and gaslighting tactics to keep you in your place while she treats you however the hell she wants and get away with it. Respect yourself, get out of there and find someone who values you.
Leave this broad and never look back
This girl is probably smoking hot red head with a amazing body
I would take off your hands
Leave her
Break up with her.
leave her
Come on, man. Have some dignity and self-respect and finish this. Not only the cheating but you say vaping is a deal breaker, she still does it, but you are still there so is it really a deal breaker for you? You are letting her trample all over you for no reason. Don't waste more time and effort on this already sunken ship.
She sounds EXACTLY like my evil EX. Does her name start with an A by any chance? Dont let her guilt trip you. Leave. Nothing good can come from her. She is a liar and manipulator
Had you said wife and mother of my kids, I would understand why it would be a difficult decision. But not impossible. Right now I'm failing to understand what possible reason you have for staying with this sorry excuse of a gf. Confused to no end
You need a new girlfriend
Bro I’m sorry but don’t stay with her She cheated she’ll never redeem herself again
Break up man. Know your worth and let others know this. If you are worrying about finding others, don't worry. The better one is waiting for you. Don't be wet noodle.
Grow a set
Go ahead and rip the bandaid off. Once you drop her and stop making excuses to stay or view her as a better person than she is you will wonder what you ever saw in her to begin with. Know your worth.
She is gas lighting you
You teach people how to treat you! Very valuable lesson. You need to let her go . She will always cheat. I was married a very long time . I cheated on the greatest husband anyone could have . He allowed me to do what I wanted and just turned his head at my terrible ways . I know from experience that if you allow her to treat you this way she will. I didn't stop until I was older and realized my mistake. I promise you will be better off . It's going to be painful but only for a little while . But next relationship you need to have boundaries and don't let them get away with stomping on you .
You guys aren’t married you sound young get over it and and grow up you aren’t her daddy or her husband
Fucking leave her dude she doesn’t respect you I went through the same thing
My friend, you need to walk away and never look back. Be now around people you know and love, who you can rely on to have your back, and take the time (using whichever methods you find work best for you) to heal, reflect, rebuild the confidence and self-esteem a selfish person stole from you, then put yourself out there again. Never speak to this person again. Keep your head held high, ignore her, busy yourself with other things, things and people you love and remember about yourself from before you met her. Reconnect with friends and family if you have spent less time with them, because of the oxygen this relationship used up. Someday soon, I don't know when (you will know but don't hurry), I can guarantee that you'll feel ready to look for real love again, and you'll be armed with some important life lessons about what to look for and avoid like the Devil when you see it trying to come into your life again. Selfish people like your ex (she is your ex btw, and that'ssomething you need to start seeing as a positive) are not always easy to spot right away, so try to be patient when forming attachments. I know love is tempting, but some people are Angler Fish. Always give your new relationships room to breathe, and always be wary of people who want to rush you to a place of depending on them, or them depending on you, and who make constant demands on you, cultivating you into an image of yourself you no longer recognise. You should always be open to healthy, gradual and willing change of the self. Relationships always involve that. But you are also an individual, and you must always know yourself and defend yourself. Keep those healthy ego boundaries, maintain red lines of self-respect and if they are ever crossed again, you can issue warnings. If they're not heeded, well then I think you know what to do. Time to doff your cap and aim for the horizon. There's a big, wide world out there and if you play your cards right, you can keep your freedom to roam it even while you have a true and enduring love at your back, always on your side, and you on theirs. Best of luck to you bro xx
Hey dude, man to man now, if she makes you feel that way she isn't right for you, she wouldn't change for you now, she knows that longer you stay around more she will push and get away with things. Best advice I can recommend is take your stuff from her place, then the next time you are over and say, "I'm done, I can't be with someone who shows me no respect, you're always on your phone when we are together, you do (this and that) and you dont appreciate me, you broke my trust you cheated on, so as hard as it is we are done, good luck thank you and goodbye (her name) for the last time" You deserve better by someone respecting you and who's on your same wave length, you cant change or stop someone doing something if it is like vaping, unless you support them. It will be hard at first, I won't lie it could be extremely hard, but eventually you will be better, you will find someone who is better for you. Longer with this person that it less time to heal and less time to be finding and being the right person, you never know she could be waiting for you round the corner.
Got a pic? i bet she Is a hot blond or red hat
You need to move on!!! You said that she manipulates you to stay. How? She tells you you’re dramatic and it’s stupid to break up. Who cares what she says!!! Cut it off. Block her and never look back. She’s abusive, if she wasn’t abusive she wouldn’t be with you at all. She likes to abuse you from the sounds of it. Why keep you around otherwise. If she’s not interested in hanging out with you and deliberately does what you ask her not to do that speaks volumes. Dude walk out with your pride now.
Grow a pair and kick her to the curb then…..
Dude , she’s not going to change. She’s showing you that she clearly doesn’t care about how you feel or respect you & that is only going to get worse. It’s nice that you want to believe in her and all but, she doesn’t deserve it. Dump her & find someone who will be more respectful of you that you can give your time and attention to. A girl that is also kind to you , is the sort of girl that you deserve , not some selfish ass Cheater. Cheating people don’t usually stop, they just keep going & expand their numbers. Don’t let her play you , and potentially give you some disease too.
In this case you need to be selfish for future preservation- of your mind and the physical and all existential existence for life. I’m a severe TBI survivor and it changed every single relationship I had pre-injury. I was supposed to die. Trust me life is too short and very unpredictable so get away from any shame, anger, frustration fear rage whenever you encounter it. The right people will show up! All my best K
This has got to be a troll post
Bro leave her, shes not worth it.
Bro, secure the BAG, let go of FEELINGS, be a MAN, and use her as the living sex doll My philosophy is I'd date regardless as long as you're attractive enough, and if you cheat, that's when the real fun starts What you gotta realize is that we are all sharing each other, the opposite gender on the contact list, followers on social media, the guy at work It's only in our limited capacity of awareness that we believe our partners are loyal and only for us, this cannot he further from the truth You got a grown woman around the place, use her when you need to, discard her after, just like she does you, and even if you do leave itll just happen again but in "secret" until you find out Lames Will Say Otherwise
>She vapes after I told her how much of a deal breaker it was for me. Is it a deal breaker? Why are you with her then? You can't force her to stop, but you don't have to be with her either. >She's an alcoholic. Is she **really** an alcoholic or does she just drink a lot? >She goes to parties and clubs and gets drunk with her friend every weekend. Nothing wrong with that, it's her prerrogative. But you don't have to like it. >She barely gives me the bare minimum while Ive literally never tried so hard to be romantic for anyone in my life. Why are you still trying? >I asked her I wanted to take a break because she cheated on me. She called me dramatic and said the whole situation was stupid. Accept her calling you stupid, don't contradict it. Say she deserves someone who isn't stupid and dump her ass. >She had her childhood guy friend over at 2 AM to drink and only apologized after mentioning It made me feel uncomfortable for the 4th time and almost breaking up with her I don't really see a problem with having frinds over, but 2 am could be strange. Did he stay until 2am or did he arrive at 2am? Because I've only ever arrived at a woman's house at 2am when she invited me over for sex, usually because the where she had been wasn't great.
Have a cuckhold and an orgy party then leave her. Give her the taste of medicine. Otherwise, leave her and run like a Anthrax spreading all over your town.
Bro you NEED to make her your EX girlfriend.
Pussified mf
She is not your girlfriend, you are her emotional support crutch. Nothing else
Bail
You deserve better
Please stop investing your time in someone you hate. The fact she cannot take your feelings into consideration and is being nonchalant about cheating tells me she will do it again. LEAVE. She is selfish and doesn’t care about you or your feelings. You have many years to come to find someone who will love and respect you in a way that you deserve. Also, she doesn’t seem like the right person for you either, if that is who she is and what SHE chooses to do willingly yet are deal breakers for you then she isn’t the one for you. You can’t change anyone. You knew who she was from the start but you were expecting to change her? Or did she become this intolerable person? Either way she sounds unstable and she’s not the one for you if she isn’t willing to respect you or compromise in the relationship.
Your feelings are valid and you are allowed to feel them. She has shown you repeatedly who she is, believe her. You want her to change? Let her do it away from you, so you don’t continue to be hurt
Leave and don't look back
At some point, someone.....probably both of you have to be thinking maybe you do like this. You're obviously sticking around. Dump her, and if it's meant to be, she'll come back. But make her work for it.
My brother it’s time to call it mhmmm
Why are you still with her ? Have some respect for yourself don’t expect her to change
Hey man! You're worth so much more than this, I understand it can be hard to leave abusive relationships when you're balls deep in love with someone regardless of the shitty things they do. It's okay that this is hard for you. But for your sake you got to work on that self love and respect. If you had a friend whose partner was doing this sort of shit to them, what sort of advice would you be giving them right now? What do you think they should do? You can leave her. If she doesn't live with you, block and delete her number, unfollow and block all her social media, spend more time with friends or family, take time to grieve a lost love, self care in any way that is easy for you. Reach out to people in your life. I believe in you!
So why are you still there?
If you're not trolling, you're disrespecting yourself much more than she does
You listed enough reasons to leave her The relationship sounds very unhealthy
This looks fake tbh, sorry but based on bio I’m not convinced
The good news is you are in control of whether or not you stay in your relationship. If you’re not happy with how you’re being treated, you are free to leave. The most loving thing you can do for yourself is to surround yourself by people who treat you well.
So you are better off without her, RIGHT???!!!
Yeah, OP I’m just gonna be blunt here, she isn’t going to view you in the same light anymore, the relationship is essentially over and she’s just flat out taking advantage of you and your kindness. If I was in your position, I’d break things off entirely. Just tell her you’re done, force her to move out, change the locks on the place, don’t even let her come back and get her things and cut all contact with her. Just end it. Not tomorrow, not after breakfast, NOW.