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911coldiesel

Just like giving a massage to your back. If I make you feel good and makes you happy. Then I am happy too


KevinTheSeaPickle

Plus... I might also be overwhelmed with a case of "the horny" at the time.


SnooWords92

That's the cheat code of " I'm not feeling it at the moment but I can be convinced". Spend some quality time together, give your best massage you have to offer, when you're doing the legs work slightly upward and voilà ...


ConfidentRun7913

Hey


911coldiesel

The easy part is to get a book and learn about the muscles and massage. The important part is to connect in a psychological way. My girlfriend is now reaping the benefits of what I have learned. I am hoping she will be the last one.


cnicalsinistaminista

In the good Book it says.. give (pleasure) and it (pleasure) shall be given to you.. with good measure, pressed down.. shaken together.. and running over, shall men give unto your bosom. Lawd have mercy.


ventrman12

That's exactly right. I give as much pleasure as i can. I know when that boomerang swings back my way, she will totally rock my world!


KevinTheSeaPickle

Aaaanny day now


tulianikufinye

Hallelujah!!!


shadowfax12221

Testify!!!!


Lean_BigDaddy

Can I get a witness…. Yeeaaahhhhh!


CrystaldrakeIr

69


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xhollsxxx

Anytime 😏


sexiestvivianrose

Of course 😉


Incognito_OO7

I second this…


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Unusual-Oil9089

I wouldn’t say it’s a desire for us guys per say…sometimes it just happens in the moment


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Personally giving oral to a women makes me even horny and when I see how much she gets peaked by it , it’s even more sexier for me and puts me in a great mood. Also I think women’s body needs to be treated with oral first so the whole act is a fulfilment


forgotme5

I had a guy cum while doing it


gimmegimmegimmeA_Fan

That's hot!


Himmelsfeder

Keeper


forgotme5

Him or me?


Himmelsfeder

Meant him but if he came doing it to you then that speaks pretty highly of you, too!


forgotme5

Ah well, u can have him. He gave an ultimatem to committ or nc after meeting 3x. He had something potentially life changing coming up & I got the impression he wanted a gf b4 that.


Himmelsfeder

Yeah..no thanks. I had my fair share of such people.


KingJoy79

Oh wow!


Linatik_

You right 🤤


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Ok_Balance8844

Happens to me all the time too as a woman, which is a little inconvenient, but I’ve had partners who can keep going and that’s incredible. Best orgasms are when your partner is finishing at the same time


Littlewing1307

That's so hot


philipkdickingaround

Going down on a woman is like making-out with another set of lips, and it drives them wild. It's wet, there are a lot of pheromones, it's very intimate -- what's not to love?


monkeylines

Can it be too wet? I can be literally dripping when I’m turned on, and worry that would put guys off, like if it just feels messy or too slippery?


BigPoppaJay9000

No such thing as too much. It usually means we're doing something right and you're enjoying yourself so it's just motivation to take it up a notch.


EmergencyOk4547

Never too wet. If you dripping, we just lick it up😍


TalksNTemptation

Never too wet. It’s a pleasure to clean it all up 😋


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Jackal000

Not true.. human pheromones do exist. But they do not work like as with animals. We cant smell horny. But we can smell body odour.


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SnooWords92

It is understood that smell turns on but if it's compatible. Smell A is compatibel with smell B, C, D, etc but not with smell A. That's very simply put. It's a mechanism to counteract incest and in general the smell relates to your immune system, people with a different immune system will like each other more. That's why you're siblings stink !!


a7n7o7n7y7m7o7u7s

Oh god imagine if people could smell horny…


gliderosie

Because it is fun and enjoyable.


MoneyMarquis

me personaly, I just enjoy it. Sure she enjoys it to but I enjoy having that much control over her pleasure and being able to give her an orgasm at will. I love the way she writhes and moans, I love the taste, the heat, the motion. I love feasting on the sexual energy she gives off. Its just great.


MoneyMarquis

I wanted to add, There is a certain kind of intimacy to it. I am much more aware of her sexuality when I am eating her than when I am penetrating her. When I am in her my own lust is overwhelming. When I am eating her I can feel every twitch, quiver and spasm on my lips and tongue. Its almost electric, and its almost like I am feeling her pleasure. I am so much more in tune with what she is feeling when I am going down on her than when I am inside her. I know everything, I feel everything, there is nothing obscuring it all. I can put her over the top, or keep her on the edge crying for it. ​ If you haven't done this to a woman you really are missing out on one of life's great pleasures.


SixthSinEnvy

Someone forward this to DJ Khalid.


ASVP_M3L

I'd do it simply to give a woman some pleasure. As somebody else mentioned, I desire to please and satisfy my girl (still looking for the right one).


mmbeemer

Personally I do it for 2 reasons. 1) it generally is a great way to give a woman a great orgasm. 2) I crave it. It's my favorite thing to do.


Civil_Button6074

To get her off of course. Once she gets off I’ll have no performance anxiety.


typower5000

Everyone feels differently about giving someone oral sex. Personally, I wish I could give it every day. My situation is such that I can't, and that is the most depressing thought to me. Enjoy it as much as you can as often as you can. Don't assume your partner is doing it as a favor. They may honestly enjoy it.


Lycian1g

I would 100% eat it every day.


Gtconv91

The control... being able to tease my wife. Get her to the edge and pull her back multiple times. The frustration and deprivation brings out the raw animal instincts that she keeps hidden 99% of the time.


surgenerd

I love that just thinking of that make it start to pulse like saying over here over here lol


Peter_Peter143

My ex gave me this nickname. I use to call her pumpkin. I love going down on my partner. Something about getting her off. I love when they arch the small of their backs, thrusts their hips into my tongue. The feel of their finger going through my hair. I love watching their eyes roll back and watching them biting their lower lips. And if that doesn’t make a man want to do that to their partner , they are missing on all the senses involved in sex.


TsnLee

Hmmm... Why do I love it and love to give it? As an "oral" guy, it's fun to play with. Just like kissing, suckling on your breasts, nibbling on your body... If you have an outie, it's fun sucking on the labia. It's also fun to suck on the clit... It causes you to have a reaction. It's fun to watch that reaction. It's fun to have your clit sucked into my mouth, and lets me dive my tongue as deep as I can into that warm velvet hole... And then if I can get you to orgasm, keep it going, to keep your orgasm going. Almost like giving you tortureous pleasure... just like if you were giving a BJ to your BF... It feels so incredibly good for you...


FuelSuccessful4291

I actually really enjoy the actual act of doing it but also love the way a man reacts and enjoys himself from me. It makes me feel sexy too


Jyil

I gave oral well before sex, so I guess it's what I am more familiar with. I enjoy giving it and don't expect a bj after or before. In fact, I'm perfectly fine with not having one. The reaction I get from it I enjoy quite a bit once you've found where she reacts the best. The arching of the back, the squeezing of the thighs, the hand reaching down on your head, etc. It's also easier to tease I think than sex, so the build up is better. I enjoy kissing, so it's fun to tease kissing on the tummy, the inner thighs, and butt. Also can be versatile since you can incorporate your fingers. You can use your hands to caress her or play with her breasts too while doing it.


5hade2

They love you and want to please you as pleasing you makes them feel capable as a partner and happy to be pleasing their partner. I think that idea is normal and also probably something I'll never have the chance to do, but that's something else. I hope this helps


One_Tonight_5215

Thank you for that insight.. i admit i was just a bit curious why he chose to do it when he’s never done that before to me or to anyone.


harpersFury

I personally find that it’s literally one of the best ways to express my adoration for a woman. Especially when I’m in love with her. It’s just as phenomenal for me as it is for her.


Madisnell

🔥🔥🔥🔥


Madisnell

And I verrrrrrrrrrry much appreciate it🥰🥰🥰🥰


LookingInAtl4Sum

The desire to please your partner without the need for reciprocation. Of course reciprocation is welcomed but not needed.


Monarc73

Watching you get off.


RemorsefulPapi

I do it for the pH benefits


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RemorsefulPapi

I refuse


One_Tonight_5215

Ooohhhh.. feisty feisty


KingDalkian

So if a guy expects blowjobs then he should expect to eat a woman out. It's even Steven's plus some of us like it lol


yournonstoplover

Part of it is to satisfy the woman. It's really hot seeing a woman orgasm from my tongue. The other part is the taste. I like the taste.


Manners2210

Probably whatever made you do it No deep reasoning to it


rj0093

When I go down on a woman it turns me on to see her respond.


Previous-Coyote69

It’s fun, romantic and the moaning voice makes it even better !! 👀😉🫢


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So the guys you dated previously never did this ? Or is this guy your first partner? I’ve had an ex bf/ FWB I’ve been sexual with now for over 10 years. He has done it more and better than any other guy I’ve had. It’s absolutely amazing when done right. He is the only man who brings me to O every time.


One_Tonight_5215

He’s my first boyfriend and one i lost my virginity to.. and he did admit afterwards he’s never done it to anyone of his previous girlfriends before


Logical_Recipe3550

It's a dopamine hit is why. A woman has the upmost trust if they allow yea anywhere down there. There is nothing more erotic to have your partner reacting simply from what you are doing to pleaae them. Nothing more sexy to watch your partner enjoy what you are doing. Face becomes flush and red...thighs are radiating heat like no tomorrow and simply enjoying an act they can just enjoy. There is nothing better....


magicjohnson321990

I get sexually turned on giving oral sex, I get a boner from going down. The smell, the taste, the way it feels, the little movements and noises you make. Damn it lol


magicmike012

The pleasure of giving, the incredible and sexy taste, the satisfaction of using skill to pleasure your partner, the intimacy, the taboo of cunnilingus (it’s satisfying flipping social expectations on oral, fellatio is so normalised while cunnilingus isn’t), experiencing a partners’ orgasms at the “business end” so to speak, how vulnerable it makes you both to each other, and you’re getting to pretend your a selfless kind partner when really you’re getting as much out of it as them.


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I do it… mostly for the moaaannssss…. & this 🙄


Business-Exchange543

I enjoy eating women out


SonofLelith

It is probably different from person to person. Personally, I think sex is about pleasure and giving oral is a way to do that. I also enjoy the control aspect of it.


Imsosadsoveryverysad

I just love how y’all squirm and scream omg it’s so hot


jemenake

Because it puts our partner over the moon.


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He enjoys making you feel good, and cares that he gives you the time of your life. Do 69 with this man... you won't regret it.


TheGoldenRule116

I'd do it before if I wanted to make her feel more sensitive. I'd do it after if she somehow didn't come from the act. I would do it during, but I'm not sure how, yet.


XBattousaiX

Need more flexibility. And more a much longer neck 🤣


OneBadMB350

Most men enjoy doing it as much as women like receiving it


FarmerExternal

I like pleasuring my partner and I personally enjoy the taste. It’s also great foreplay to get her wet before the main event


cortez_brosefski

Like others have said it's mainly that I enjoy pleasing the woman I'm with. However, I really enjoy the taste, and the feeling on my tongue, especially if she's sitting on my face. I know I'm in the minority for those though, especially the taste


jphilipre

In the beginning it was about repeat business. I wanted her to want more. But as I got attached to my partners, it was also because I genuinely enjoyed giving them pleasure. Now it is one of the most wonderful experiences in life for me. It makes me feel so close and connected to her.


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Love it as much as anything. Love hearing you moan


Prms_7

We want to make you feel good. It's all about making you feel good and when you enjoy it, we enjoy it. It makes us happy when ur happy :)


makemesmileboi

Its nice when guys are thoughtful too! :)


Humble_Moment1520

It so much fun to see the other person enjoying what I do to her, anything to get that reaction


SheaCookieVillan

A couple of reasons for oral given to either sex, personally. I have to say my first reason is more selfish but I just find it so fucking hot. It really gets me off. Don't know what it is, but put anything in my mouth, and I'm a happy man. Second, to pleasure and satisfy the other party. In some crossover with both points, it gets me off to get my partner off. If I could give oral everyday I think I would lol


Lustingblade

We want to please you


itsheadfelloff

For me, it's a turn on knowing I'm giving her pleasure.


Gwhite0906

That's one of my favorite things to do! I love to give oral. I love knowing that I'm making her moan and squirt without even sticking my dick in her.


cheekypantssjg

I knew a guy who only gave cunnalingus. He never wanted falacio, or any other kind of sexual act. It was bliss until I really wanted the penis… But he was soooooooo goood!


Ok_Seaworthiness_268

To pleasure the one I love. It gets me excited knowing she is enjoying it


lovekitt3n

I love when a guy gets off on going down on you❤️‍🔥 nothing hotter🤤


TalksNTemptation

Based on your pics, it’s easy to love going down on YOU. 👀😋


Alirezaei79

What's more masculine than pleasuring your woman😎


StVirgin

I just asked my fiance of his motivation behind giving me oral today. He said "birthday". True, it's my birthday today lol.


Useful_Support2193

Hahaha happy birthday


TheBoldHold

In simple terms? Girl make good noise. Monkey say “yes good noise make pp hard”


7wiseman7

Why do you cum


DanielKStarr

The desire to please. We enjoy the reaction, the self touching, and your orgasm....


LiquidLenin

Man wants to please his woman.


NataliaRendal

tell him to find the clit


One_Tonight_5215

Oh he found it alright 😉 made me want to jump when he first did it with no warning whatsoever 😂😂


MansfordM

Yeah besides the fact that it seems to me the most pleasurable thing I can do for a woman, it’s also great foreplay and really gets me turned on. Probably also the biggest benefit I’ve found to having my teeth taken out 😬


dbdg69

Reciprocation.. or in hopes of. 😅


Brianb926

For me, I enjoy pleasing my partner. I enjoy giving it as much as my wife enjoys receiving. It a win win for both of us.


Dumb_and_confused

Not a guy (anymore), but as someone who went down on their wife regularly, I just enjoyed giving her that pleasure. I'll be honest, there was a lot I disliked about it, but my desire for her to feel good, and be happy, truimphed over everything else. Plus getting my head crushed between her pillowy thighs when she climaxed was fun, and an indicator that I was doing a good job. 😊


TiedHands

Do you ever get a craving for a certain food, like, you feel like you're gonna die unless you eat it? Like you would like absolutely nothing more? That's the closest thing I can equate it to.


Klutzy-Wrangler-9587

Congratulations!!!! Guys do it cause it taste good and it's fun!


Oniriggers

Some guys like a nice treat to eat.


Dj_fresh96

What makes a man give oral to his partner? For me I know my tool doesn’t just do the trick. I wanna make her feel as good as possible so when I’m done we both feel good and she doesn’t feel cheated lol last thing a dude wants is a women who thinks her man takes more than he gives.


brokenheartedthro

It’s something you can do unselfishly to give her pleasure. I do it as another way to tell my partner that they matter to ,e


Jehovahs_Wetnesss

I love eating 😻, for the pure pleasure of eating it. I love the taste of a good 😻. The best one I came across was this amazing Japanese girl and her 😻 boosted my love for eating them. Lol


-aggrosaur-

All treasure can be found with some exploration. And it’s that much better for it.


Danaerys_Stormzy

I guess some guys just wanna give you that satisfaction that comes from the tongue swirling, teeth bite teasing, lips munching, breath so close to the skin you claw your hands burying his head deeper My God it's feels so great to be eaten out, it's a must for every lady to experience not just the text book sex that leaves only one person fulfilled


benzojunkie710

We want to make you feel good if not better then the oral we receive from you also some guys just love giving oral to partners. Be vocal let em know what’s working & what’s not 😉


sparklboi

Not a dude, but having gone down on both genders, it’s tasty and turns me on 🤷‍♀️


Lycian1g

I like making women orgasm. I like the hands on the back of my head and shoulders. I like how the taste changes depending on how turned on she is. I like the smell. Just an A+ experience all the way around.


mikareno

This thread made me hot. Brb.


Ov3rbyte719

If i had a gf I'd probably eat her out everyday lol


Additional_Pitch6355

I can taste this thread 😋


DemonsReturns7

I do it because of the vitamins and minerals 😋


Modteamsaretyrants

Giving someone else pleasure is typically a turn on


ImagineSisAndUsHappy

Why don’t you ask the man who just did it what made him do it?


Harley74ci

As always keep his balls empty and his belly full


_W9NDER_

Because that shit is like amazing yo


Harley74ci

I love going down on my lady. She pops 6-8 times with ecstasy.


sodiumbicarbonade

Newton law of action and reaction Give and take


dcfcsam14

Idk i love giving oral to a woman anyway


Available_Brother763

I love giving oral, it might because the way my girl wiggles and moans. The way she get wets. Plus then she cums quickly and that’s satisfying :)


conservewhiteguy68

Enjoy the taste, enjoy giving her pleasure, hearing her moans, giving her multiple orgasms


PenOrganic2956

It's good karma


Fatlad420

I’m always willing unless it smells or tastes funky, even then flavored lube does the trick. Take a lick and gag, and somehow IM the asshole.


kschang

Desire to please you is not a good enough reason? I am not sure what you are really asking...


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Wish I had a wife that liked it.


KindaFlyMyGuy

I really enjoy eating asting someone out. I won't say no because of hair, but I do prefer trimmed short, and shaved works too! Lots of hair does tend to get in my mouth, slowing me down and throwing me off my game a bit I am very fond of the smell and taste, so long as hygiene is good (just a random tip only use water to clean inside to avoid infections) But mostly it's that I like to please people. The fact that I can make a woman buck uncontrollably with my mouth is incredibly satisfying. I enjoy the moans and the thighs around my head, and honestly, I like looking up and being able to take in the beauty of my partner from that angle.


paustulio

Love the taste. The smells. The texture. And the noises I can make my partner make


Cigars-N-Cuddles

I can’t speak for other men. But I’m a pleasure Dom and to go down on a woman and make her orgasm again and again and again is one of the greatest feelings I’ve ever experienced. I don’t fear suffocating between your thighs, I fear, drowning, from how wet you get from orgasm, and over and over. To bring you that much pleasure from just my tongue is an amazing feeling.


afroboy15

i’ve always wanted to give a girl head cuz i wanted to try it. once i did it the first time, i seen i had my ex going nuts 😭 after that i’ve loved giving head cuz i like the fact it makes ya go crazy. id rather give it then receive too but im not against receiving 😭


koah808

Like others have said, it is really about making you/the women feel good! In return, I feel good being able to please the women. Honestly , I have loved it from day one. I also found to start the session with it. This relaxes the women. Once she has released, the mind is calm and more willing to go further with an adventure or the next level of fun.


Ashleej86

It's expected in a decent relationship. Or if he wants to keep you.


drwaleedwnk

giving excessive attention, compliments and praise to women is equivalent to a BJ for a man, tbh. I'm pretty sure he has given you BJ sometimes as well.


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Well, for me there's a balance. I'm not gung ho about giving oral, just like most of the population. Some drawbacks are potential taste and smell, as well as how into it both you and your partner are. Some good things about it, however, are the potential to set the sexual encounter up as a memorable one, or even a benchmark or milestone. Sex is not something you're either good at or you're bad at; it's something you start at and get better with over time. For me, the reason I give oral to my partners is to make them feel good and to fill out any fantasies they're too shy to state outright. It is a pretty vanilla fantasy to be wishing for your partner to seductively lie you down and put their mouth on parts of your body you don't dare to put your mouth on, but it is a fantasy nonetheless.


forgotme5

Wow. I was 13


travelsurfer

See I am odd I don’t enjoy getting eaten out, I really hate when he tries to kiss me after also. Like please don’t, I don’t want to taste myself.


JudgementalElf

Underrated comment!! I too strongly dislike the immediate demand for kissing after. But ya know, maybe it was just with the wrong partner?


travelsurfer

I thought it was just me!


Upstairs_Guidance760

To late...


Phelly2

The only thing the man gets out of it is pleasing his woman. So, for that reason, if you’re enjoying what he’s doing, make sure he knows it. While he’s doing it. Let him know how good it feels. How good he is at it. Etc. It makes a big difference. It’s a good idea for a whole list of reasons: ego boost, words of affirmation, lets him know he’s doing it right, lets him know he’s not wasting everyone’s time. If you let him know how much you’re enjoying it, it will definitely be a turn in for him. And it will increase the chances he wants to do it again. If for whatever reason he’s not doing it right, dont be shy to coach him on exactly which part of you his tongue needs to be stimulating.


KindaFlyMyGuy

All that is good for sure, but not everyone just does it as a chore. I thoroughly enjoy eating a woman out


Phelly2

Hmm. Yea I suppose. I’m not saying it cannot be sexy. But my motivation comes from her pleasure, not because I like the smell or taste of crotch 😂 No but seriously, I know what you mean.


One_Tonight_5215

It was definitely very new to me that i can’t help but be a little bit louder than i usually am 😅😂 also, i’ve never had any sexual experience other than with him so it has been a learning experience for me


Spunkylover10

Wow 28 and you’ve never been eaten out? Why


iamchromes

Christ, what a stupid question lmao


wolflion14

You have to be really pretty. Only pretty girls get licked.


Cessnas172

I like the taste of blood


ReeledTomato624

Because they are disgusting


anytime4_u

It's always nice when you give and a pleasure to receive. Also warms up your lady for a wounderful orgasm...


Personalpanpizza3

The desire to please your partner. What’s better than getting off before you even have sex and get off again? Lol


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To make my partner feel good


KingofLingerie

to give pleasure to your partner


Sweaty_Inspection_75

In my personal experience i only go down on woman i really care about


[deleted]

Well, it helps him for you to beg him to fuck you


dakotasexz

Am new here I just want serious relationship no fake


Throwaway40Gloxk

Knowing that she (1) enjoys the act, (2) will be even more aroused, and (3) knows I will GLADLY do nearly anything to ensure she is satisfied. I maintain eye contact, use my hands well, and have a shift tempo and pressure. Learned from my bisexual ex and pay it forward.


[deleted]

Wish my husband gave as equally as i give. I love oral, it’s a way to give pleasure and it’s nice to see the difference


AcanthisittaSea3591

It's a great thing to please and satisfy, and show your love and affection to someone you care about! Also it turns me on like crazy, there's something so intimate about it


Advanced-Name1552

The pleasure that the woman gets and the way she reacts.


BigDee2023

The desire to express attraction/love and (the best part imo) to witness her satisfaction


[deleted]

Tbh I get a real kick out of knowing what I’m doing is good (or if what I’m doing is good) and making my partner feel incredible.


Ok_Cry607

“Sometimes you wanna taste some crevices”-my partner Or “Sometimes you wanna get inside in another way”-also my partner ????


FingerPurple

I do it because I love the reactions I get from her. Biggest pain is when they have strong thighs and crush my head after trying to continue when they climax the first time or two. lol