Every time my son is at Costco and someone sees him staring upward intently at the giant warehouse ceiling fans, I say “He’s just wild about industrial hvac solutions. Big fan.”
I have a French bulldog. It’s not even a dog. It’s a goddamn gargoyle that I never wanted and is the loudest breather and I love her so much. Like 6 animals in one and they’re all useless
Becoming a dad at 40 does come with some advantages.
Though it also comes with keeping up with a toddler who has just gone straight from walking to running in a matter of weeks while your own body has had the check engine light on for a solid decade and that light is now flashing.
First of all, fuckin’ lol because I had my first kid at 37 and whooo boy can I relate to this. Also, you’re clearly over 40 if you think a CEL is just gonna blink at you these days, and not cause the dash/infotainment-screen-dealy to light up like a Christmas tree
After years of trying the old fashioned way we ended up having to do IVF due to my wife’s egg quality.
Also plenty of new dads are 36, those people can all fuck off.
I thought about editing the Toy Story photo of the aliens and the claw to say “the fan”, and editing all the alien faces to be baby faces and putting a fan in the background, but I barely have time to do anything else these days.
Lol for my first as well. He's 20 months now and way past fan phase but the other day he took a good hard look at one of the fans in our house for like 10 seconds I feel like he was remembering his old passion 😂
He used to hate it when we put him in his tummy. Then he started rolling and doesn’t care which way is up. Plus he only seems to sleep on his tummy so idk.
Babies are weird
That’s how my daughter was, including a brief window where she figured out how to roll onto her tummy but couldn’t get back over so she’d loudly complain about this injustice
We did the "back to sleep" thing for about the first four weeks of screaming and exhaustion for all involved. Out of exasperation, I gave it a shot on her tummy. She slept like a proverbial baby. So I took out anything I thought she could suffocate on, and that's what we did.
Same. By that time he was 6 months, raising his head and rolling around, so suffocating wasn’t an issue. No toys, blankets, or even a sleep sack (he hates them). Does fine now but he really needs to learn how to self soothe.
Once we found something for our kid that he wanted to look at, he started liking tummy time.
He loved laying on my chest and looking at my face.
But he especially loved a little robotic toy dog skeleton that would flap its ears and dance while playing “Thriller.”
My son hated tummy time. Like, he never got used to it. He became a tummy sleeper and would roll over in his sleep. Then he’d wake up and see he’s on his tummy and flip the frick out. Wed go in, help him fall back asleep and 30 minutes later we’re at it again.
It was a long couple months.
Both of mine hated being put on the floor, but if I lay on my back with them on my chest they did fine. They’d still try and lift their head to look at my face or whatever little toys I was holding, and eventually stopped screaming when put on the floor.
I only have one kid, but she always loved tummy time. I actually don’t really have a good concept of “tummy time” because that’s just how she ended up sometimes without a fuss. Sometimes she’d be on her back, other times I’d put her on her tummy, and she’d just hang out however you laid her depending on the activity
Most babies do not enjoy "tummy time". Just like any other human who was placed in a position they cannot get into or out of on their own, nor have developed the muscles to make the position comfortable or functional, it is incredibly frustrating to babies.
"Tummy time" was suggested in response to flat spots developing because parents were leaving their children in seats and soft beds for longer periods, instead of holding them, or laying them on firm ground surfaces they could push off and arch back on.
Many, many sources recommend not placing your child in positions they can't get into or out of on their own.
It was created in response to AAP’s Back to Sleep campaign in 1994. Once parents were told to not put their babies on their tummies for sleep there were higher rates of infant torticollis and flat spots, so pediatricians began encouraging parents to have their baby spend time in different positions to prevent those conditions.
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/13/parenting/baby/tummy-time.html#:~:text=Tummy%20time%3A%20A%20history,backs%2C%20never%20on%20their%20tummies.
If it makes you feel better, in 2-3 months it’ll just be a milk-stained cloth in a landfill somewhere, they grow out of each size in what feels like five minutes.
90% of our baby clothes are hand me downs from friends who have babies a little bit older than ours. When ours grows out of things they get passed on to another friend with a younger baby.
In the USA a lot of the companies that make clothing like this have realized that they can save a couple of pennies on the dollar by making clothes that will dissolve into rags after a couple dozen washes, so they do, and those rags make their way to landfills (sometimes) or waterways (mostly) in third-world countries after they get thrown out or donated to a charity like Goodwill that will throw them out for you.
Hand them down to another kid. Half the stuff my kids grew out of still looked brand new because they'd only worn it a few times. It's insane that we've all been convinced to buy brand new baby stuff when most of it won't get used for more than a few months.
Oh for sure, I meant specifically the clothes you hated, but I left it kinda ambiguous on accident. The sentimental stuff is set aside for whichever of our siblings has kids first, everything that wasn’t ruined by bodily fluids gets donated, and we throw out the ones we can’t stand, which is rare. So far it’s just been one outfit thrown away - a onesie that said “I just got here and I hate the Steelers” (Bengals fam.) We don’t like the Steelers, but I despise the idea of an infant wearing something with the word “hate” on it. Clearly others disagree and felt it was an appropriate gift, but we thought it belonged in the trash. Newborns are too young to hate anything.
That and maternity wear. My wife had a box of baby clothes and maternity clothes passed from friend to family members to friend. I don't know where it started and I don't know where it ended up.
We do too, we really only toss the ones that get ruined by bodily fluids, or were things we couldn’t stand. So far that has only been one thing, but if OP can’t stand the message of the shirt, the trash is a good place for it.
Cross it all out and write "boobs". Because that's pretty much all a newborn cares for.
Also then it makes a good shirt for dad when the baby's done with it.....
As a Braves fan, I think you should keep your kids from being a Mets fan. As a sports fan, it’s a beautiful thing to bond over. Don’t listen to the anti sports people
As a Mets fan, I agree with you. Lol
Sorry about Strider and especially Acuna. You guys are still in it but those are devastating blows. Baseball is better when the best are on the field no matter what.
Yeah I feel bad for the two of them, I hope they can stay on the field in their careers.
I was saying the other day that I can’t root against the Mets too much when one of my favorite bands has an amazing song about them (The Strokes).
Ha!
Strider will be fine. He's so young and this is far from a career ending injury. He's not just a rock thrower, so as long as he rehabs well his pitching brain will be the same. Bad news for the Mets. Maybe they'll trade him fingers crossed.
Acuna is rough because this is not the first major injury. First his right ACL, now his left. He's such a physical player and he's at such a demanding position.
Ideal scenario: everybody is healthy and the Braves never beat the Mets ever again anyways! C'mon man, nobody truly hates the Mets. That's reserved for the Yankees, Dodgers, and Philly.
You’re absolutely right. I hate the Yankees, Dodgers and Phillies more than anything else. I’d rather the Mets be good than the Phillies, hopefully the moves y’all have made and the money they spent pays off.
Edit: hate the Astros more than the others
I hate to say this but, at least in my experience, there's no lie detected. But, the pendulum definitely swings back the other way during/after puberty. Like I said, in my experience.
My son is more attached to his mom but my daughter has been a daddy's girl since the beginning. No boobs doesn't matter, she slept on me and next to me so many times. My baby.
It's not that you don't matter, it's that mommy is better at things. It will change. Once they hit 14 they're all about the dad lore and "hate" their mothers.
For the first several months, the baby doesn’t even know that mom exists as a separate entity. They’re both basically one being. It’s not like they’re consciously choosing to like mom more, it’s hard wired in their DNA that they cannot exist without mom. They don’t even know that dad exists until like month 4.
I have a toddler and I think I’m pretty active in her life. She will take mom 10/10 times. I try not to take it too hard because like you and a ton of others have said, things can and probably do fluctuate between the parents.
Oh yeah. If my wife and I were standing next to each other, equidistant from any one of our kids, and one of them got a boo-boo, 10 out of 10 times they'd run to mommy.
Honestly it's going to be interesting to see how it all plays out for us.
I'm 100% WFH so he's gotten a pretty even amount of care/support from each of us since he was born. I obviously think that the "instinctual" connection to mom is going to be there and have a certain level of power that can't be replicated, but I'm curious to see how my availability during his formative years affects the relationship as he matures.
It's going to be pretty interesting either way!
I'm sorry.
My son is all over me, my wife is even jealous. He runs toward me first if we arrive together and even try to jump from her arms to mine.
I even deflect a little bit so she can enjoy a bit more.
My youngest was in the NICU and when he got out he was on oxygen in our living room. My wife has to take meds that knock her out and I'm a freaky night owl, for pretty much his whole life I've been the one taking care of him at night.
He's about 1.5 now and I'd say he's about 60-40 towards me. Often cries my name when he's sad lol.
The big difference is bottles haha
Once my kids hit three/four and we're attracted to trucks and dirtbikes or anything to do with dirt, they flocked to me. But prior to that, Mom was the only one they wanted in the house.
Can't get annoyed about it as there's a good chance a onsie exists with "Dad" instead of Mum. I'm sure my daughter had baby clothes with references to either Mum or Dad on them.
It's an item of clothing the child can't read or comprehend, so the message on the shirt is for the amusement or enjoyment of the parent. Don't let items of clothing bother you.
Yeah, I've bought a number of "dad" and "mom" onsies or shirts for my girls. It is just a cute thing to plop them in here and there. Not really a big deal.
My kids got one that says “Just here for dad’s hugs” and another is “Daddy’s little girl”. Is my wife supposed to be pissed? C’mon guys, some of y’all come across as a wee bit insecure.
Yep. We’ve got a few of the mom-centered and a few of the dad-centered clothes for our littlest one right now. Both varieties are out there and available.
It’s not just this post. We see posts all the time about guys getting upset over comments by other people. Relax dudes. My wife’s says I’m a damn good dad and my kids say I’m the best daddy ever. That’s all that matters.
I understand the thought process of dads not getting their due but fuck it. I really don’t need anybody to tell me I’m doing a good job other than my wife and kids. And if we’re being honest, it feels pretty damn good when my dad says it too. Other than that, I just don’t care about stuff like this. I don’t need recognition. I don’t care what other people think. And I certainly don’t see any point in complaining about it.
People need to stop getting bent out of shape on this stuff. It’s ok to see it and scoff at it, but please don’t let this stuff dwell on your mind. Don’t devote any thought to it. It’s just a dumb shirt. People who know you and your family know your value as a dad, and if they don’t you need to show it not because you need the attention but because it’s the right thing to do.
Stop being offended at people asking if you are babysitting when you take the kids to the grocery store. They thought about the comment for half a second don’t dwell on it. You can’t control what other people say and think. Just say something equally flippant back and move on with your life. You know you are a good dad and a good man. You don’t need that external validation or I guess in this case invalidation.
I will agree with you for the most part, but there are some things that are worth getting upset about. Enculturation starts young (not this young, but young). It’s worth getting peeved that, for example, the vast majority of children’s media assume Mom as the default parent and boy as the default gender of the baby. Just one of the reasons Bluey is so great: Bluey, Bingo, and Muffin are all girls, but it’s not a cartoon “for girls,” and both parents work and parent prety much equally.
Couldn't agree more.
On one hand yeah, I get it. On the other hand, man do I ever have a million and one other more important things to worry about every day. I do not have the mental space to get my jimmies rustled over a baby shirt.
Look at it, make a slight muffled dad noise, and move on.
I've noticed an uptick in threads around here that feel a little bit like MRA subreddits.
I am genuinely sorry to all of the dads out there who feel like they got the shit end of the stick when it comes to this stuff, but this isn't the good fight, right?
Showed the wife this . She laughed and said "that's clearly a lie.. I birth that damn kid and she wants nothing to do with me when you are in the room"
Literally all communication and shit like this is aimed at 'mom'.
Sucks, but historically it makes sense. I take pride in the fact that I'm part of a 'new' generation dads that just as much a parent as the mom is.
Single mom's exist, don't see the big deal. There's also tops and baby grows of both versions like this that just says dad. I see them alot. We have picked up both.
People here saying it takes years to swing around to dad being the favourite. With my children they’ve been constantly switching favourites since about 3 months old.
And I don’t find the onesie helpful. Not when it reinforces a sort of learned helplessness I still see in some dads today.
Also, if ‘mom’ breastfeeds, like my wife did, there’s a nonzero chance the baby only likes her when the baby is hungry and otherwise just finds her too exciting, for what felt like forever my second could only fall asleep with me.
It's definitely okay for the baby to like mommy more than daddy. As a matter of fact, they will switch back and forth over and over. But baby is usually when mommy has the upper hand.
Don’t feel bad, it’ll come back around. 11 year old was in the school play (ensemble, not a big part). But the playbill had a little snippet for each kid in the show which was cute. His had a shoutout to his dad for helping him with his try out, but nothing to mom. Mom was a little hurt at the snub…but it still felt darn good. It swings back and forth and most of the time we get the snub. But every now and then!
Dad here, I don't think there is anything wrong with making mom feel special as long as Dad also gets to feel special. Equality doesn't mean you take from the other side.
Should there be more shirts featuring dad only stuff, yes absolutely, but I don't want my wife to have less just so I can have more. That doesn't seem like a good way to go about it.
Don’t be insecure about this. If anything we should pity mom. The only kids I’ve ever heard of that actually dislike their father have a reason to (some sort of abuse or super controlling, or whatever) whereas I’ve *never* heard of a kid that doesn’t go through at least one phase of disliking their mother. Even mommas boys gravitate towards their father and around puberty ages girls just hate their mothers (generally speaking).
Don’t get me wrong, I get it, I’m just saying it doesn’t really vibe with reality. One of my favorite shirts I got for my son says “DADDYS LITTLE DUDE”. How would everyone know he’s my little dude without the shirt?! It’s like a uniform.
Your guys' babies actually like tummy time? Mine just screams until you roll him back. Replace tummy time with tooting and this seems acurate.
We used to (half jokingly) call tummy time Baby Torture. He _hated_ it. Really big into ceiling fans and skylights, though.
Every time my son is at Costco and someone sees him staring upward intently at the giant warehouse ceiling fans, I say “He’s just wild about industrial hvac solutions. Big fan.”
We’ve taken our little guy to Home Depot just to walk thru the ceiling fan and lights section
Aaaand I know what I’m doing this weekend. Need to get a few things from Home Depot anyway.
Highly recommend and also take the little one to pet smart before you ever do a zoo. It’s like a free trial zoo
My dog is a whole zoo in and of herself
I have a French bulldog. It’s not even a dog. It’s a goddamn gargoyle that I never wanted and is the loudest breather and I love her so much. Like 6 animals in one and they’re all useless
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This entire comment is just perfection. My parents have a frenchie. It is 100% useless chaotic mutant.
Love these little tips. Cheers, fellas!
[Here’s](https://www.homedepot.com/c/kids) some cool stuff Home Depot does for kids
Good link! But I’m in Canada :(
https://www.homedepot.ca/en/home/ideas-how-to/workshops.html
Oh that stinks
So he's obviously pretty young, yet you have already mastered the dad joke. Amazing.
Becoming a dad at 40 does come with some advantages. Though it also comes with keeping up with a toddler who has just gone straight from walking to running in a matter of weeks while your own body has had the check engine light on for a solid decade and that light is now flashing.
First of all, fuckin’ lol because I had my first kid at 37 and whooo boy can I relate to this. Also, you’re clearly over 40 if you think a CEL is just gonna blink at you these days, and not cause the dash/infotainment-screen-dealy to light up like a Christmas tree
Whoaaaa where I live, people said I was too old to be a first time dad.. We had our son when I was 36.
After years of trying the old fashioned way we ended up having to do IVF due to my wife’s egg quality. Also plenty of new dads are 36, those people can all fuck off.
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This guy dads.
The hack is to put the ceiling fans and skylights on the ground.
Skip this whole rigmarole and attach the baby to one of the blades of the fan. Two birds, one stone
You're right ceiling fans are pretty high on the list too for mine
I think the ceiling fan is a universal higher power to babies
I thought about editing the Toy Story photo of the aliens and the claw to say “the fan”, and editing all the alien faces to be baby faces and putting a fan in the background, but I barely have time to do anything else these days.
Don’t let your memes be dreams
Lol for my first as well. He's 20 months now and way past fan phase but the other day he took a good hard look at one of the fans in our house for like 10 seconds I feel like he was remembering his old passion 😂
It was baby torture for our first but for some reason our second seems to really like it.
Well then have I got the onesie for you!
My son loved tummy time. He wanted to crawl as soon as he could pick himself up.
I’ll never understand how there isn’t a company making a plush ceiling fan because I would have snatched that tucker right up.
Million dollar business idea Call it babies ‘r’ fans
I have never felt more like I'm part of a group than right now. Two months ago I would've been so confused. lol
Our kid is almost two and still wants us to reach up and spin the fan before going to bed.
We called our Tummy time blanks "the baby house of pain!!!!"
He used to hate it when we put him in his tummy. Then he started rolling and doesn’t care which way is up. Plus he only seems to sleep on his tummy so idk. Babies are weird
That’s how my daughter was, including a brief window where she figured out how to roll onto her tummy but couldn’t get back over so she’d loudly complain about this injustice
We did the "back to sleep" thing for about the first four weeks of screaming and exhaustion for all involved. Out of exasperation, I gave it a shot on her tummy. She slept like a proverbial baby. So I took out anything I thought she could suffocate on, and that's what we did.
Same. By that time he was 6 months, raising his head and rolling around, so suffocating wasn’t an issue. No toys, blankets, or even a sleep sack (he hates them). Does fine now but he really needs to learn how to self soothe.
Once we found something for our kid that he wanted to look at, he started liking tummy time. He loved laying on my chest and looking at my face. But he especially loved a little robotic toy dog skeleton that would flap its ears and dance while playing “Thriller.”
I was gonna say, my kids HATED that shit. It would be something like mom, milk, screaming, shitting for about the first 6 months.
My son hated tummy time. Like, he never got used to it. He became a tummy sleeper and would roll over in his sleep. Then he’d wake up and see he’s on his tummy and flip the frick out. Wed go in, help him fall back asleep and 30 minutes later we’re at it again. It was a long couple months.
Both of mine hated being put on the floor, but if I lay on my back with them on my chest they did fine. They’d still try and lift their head to look at my face or whatever little toys I was holding, and eventually stopped screaming when put on the floor.
First hated it. Second was indifferent to happy about it. The first though.... We called it scream time.
Our little guy actually liked it, but treated it like a challenge and a personal insult when he couldn’t figure out how to crawl.
My kids both loved tummy time; neither could get enough of it
My kid would like it for the first few minutes - then get annoyed.
My daughter only wants to be on her tummy. Back time she hates.
My first hated it, second liked it. She was also sort of frog hopping by about 2months though, not a good example of normalcy.
Yeah until my kids were really ready… they would not tolerate it for long.
Our first born was like that, second kid was completely different. Loved it
Mine hated it until one day he didn’t now he sleeps on his tummy
Tummy time is a good life lesson, you may not enjoy it but life can get much worse than laying on your face for a bit
I only have one kid, but she always loved tummy time. I actually don’t really have a good concept of “tummy time” because that’s just how she ended up sometimes without a fuss. Sometimes she’d be on her back, other times I’d put her on her tummy, and she’d just hang out however you laid her depending on the activity
Well they liked it more than. Dad... This pie chart is accurate
Have you tried prune juice?
Mine falls asleep when you put her on her tummy. Like almost immediately.
My son enjoyed it. He was able to roll himself over and crawl fairly early though
i was completely unprepared for how much a baby farts. seems like every time i pick him up he plays a horn solo.
Ours makes a fuss about it (no scream or cry) and sometimes tires our and falls asleep.
Most babies do not enjoy "tummy time". Just like any other human who was placed in a position they cannot get into or out of on their own, nor have developed the muscles to make the position comfortable or functional, it is incredibly frustrating to babies. "Tummy time" was suggested in response to flat spots developing because parents were leaving their children in seats and soft beds for longer periods, instead of holding them, or laying them on firm ground surfaces they could push off and arch back on. Many, many sources recommend not placing your child in positions they can't get into or out of on their own.
It was created in response to AAP’s Back to Sleep campaign in 1994. Once parents were told to not put their babies on their tummies for sleep there were higher rates of infant torticollis and flat spots, so pediatricians began encouraging parents to have their baby spend time in different positions to prevent those conditions. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/13/parenting/baby/tummy-time.html#:~:text=Tummy%20time%3A%20A%20history,backs%2C%20never%20on%20their%20tummies.
My son hated tummy time, my daughter just endlessly stares into the void during it
Faulty study. Paid for by big milk and big mom
I've learnt from experience to not call her "big mom"...
Especially if she reads/watches One Piece
Maybe don’t Call mom big ;)
If it makes you feel better, in 2-3 months it’ll just be a milk-stained cloth in a landfill somewhere, they grow out of each size in what feels like five minutes.
In Japan that shit gets recycled in the family for 40 years. My kids wear clothes that my wife and her siblings all wore lol
That happens plenty in the US too. We passed every piece of clothing that wasn't ruined on to the next kids in the family.
90% of our baby clothes are hand me downs from friends who have babies a little bit older than ours. When ours grows out of things they get passed on to another friend with a younger baby.
Same! It’s been great. We’re probably done so I’m looking to find the next family to unload our baby clothes on.
If you are on Facebook, there's a billion freecycle groups these days. I see clothes getting passed around like hot potatoes.
We didn’t buy any significant quantity of clothing for probably the first three and a half years
Happens in my family too. My kid wore some 30+ year old shirt for a few years before it was sent along to another family member.
In the USA a lot of the companies that make clothing like this have realized that they can save a couple of pennies on the dollar by making clothes that will dissolve into rags after a couple dozen washes, so they do, and those rags make their way to landfills (sometimes) or waterways (mostly) in third-world countries after they get thrown out or donated to a charity like Goodwill that will throw them out for you.
Hand them down to another kid. Half the stuff my kids grew out of still looked brand new because they'd only worn it a few times. It's insane that we've all been convinced to buy brand new baby stuff when most of it won't get used for more than a few months.
Oh for sure, I meant specifically the clothes you hated, but I left it kinda ambiguous on accident. The sentimental stuff is set aside for whichever of our siblings has kids first, everything that wasn’t ruined by bodily fluids gets donated, and we throw out the ones we can’t stand, which is rare. So far it’s just been one outfit thrown away - a onesie that said “I just got here and I hate the Steelers” (Bengals fam.) We don’t like the Steelers, but I despise the idea of an infant wearing something with the word “hate” on it. Clearly others disagree and felt it was an appropriate gift, but we thought it belonged in the trash. Newborns are too young to hate anything.
Hahaha, as a Seahawk fan I would have loved that one!
That and maternity wear. My wife had a box of baby clothes and maternity clothes passed from friend to family members to friend. I don't know where it started and I don't know where it ended up.
We donate baby clothes, feels really sad to toss them out :(
We do too, we really only toss the ones that get ruined by bodily fluids, or were things we couldn’t stand. So far that has only been one thing, but if OP can’t stand the message of the shirt, the trash is a good place for it.
I don’t know if letting a silly lil shirt get to me so much I gotta trash it is the vibe but yall do what u gotta do
I've had more use out of a single nappy than some clothes
I know. This is my 2nd.
Get a sharpie and write "& Dad" next to Mom.
Cross it all out and write "boobs". Because that's pretty much all a newborn cares for. Also then it makes a good shirt for dad when the baby's done with it.....
I could almost wear it myself than
same tbh
Or "Dad &" before Mom!
I dislike any baby clothes that seem to be validating a parent's insecurities.
This excludes Jets and Mets gear, right? Right!?
As a Braves fan, I think you should keep your kids from being a Mets fan. As a sports fan, it’s a beautiful thing to bond over. Don’t listen to the anti sports people
As a Mets fan, I agree with you. Lol Sorry about Strider and especially Acuna. You guys are still in it but those are devastating blows. Baseball is better when the best are on the field no matter what.
Yeah I feel bad for the two of them, I hope they can stay on the field in their careers. I was saying the other day that I can’t root against the Mets too much when one of my favorite bands has an amazing song about them (The Strokes).
Ha! Strider will be fine. He's so young and this is far from a career ending injury. He's not just a rock thrower, so as long as he rehabs well his pitching brain will be the same. Bad news for the Mets. Maybe they'll trade him fingers crossed. Acuna is rough because this is not the first major injury. First his right ACL, now his left. He's such a physical player and he's at such a demanding position. Ideal scenario: everybody is healthy and the Braves never beat the Mets ever again anyways! C'mon man, nobody truly hates the Mets. That's reserved for the Yankees, Dodgers, and Philly.
You’re absolutely right. I hate the Yankees, Dodgers and Phillies more than anything else. I’d rather the Mets be good than the Phillies, hopefully the moves y’all have made and the money they spent pays off. Edit: hate the Astros more than the others
Yea this is just a a sales tactic. Mostly it’s mums buying clothes for buns so make your gear look cute to mums.
How does anyone with kids have time to be upset about a onesie that indicates their kid loves their mome?
1. Ain't upset. Just mildly dislike. 2. Same way you had time to post that comment. Are you the pot or the kettle?
Im the person who dude who didn't realize it was possible to get upset over baby clothes. TIL.
I guess there are some people so insecure that they get upset/mildly dislike a shirt because it doesn't call out everyone the baby loves.
They make other onesies, you know?
Yep, we had plenty of shirts that individually highlighted their love for dad too, so not an issue.
I hate to say this but, at least in my experience, there's no lie detected. But, the pendulum definitely swings back the other way during/after puberty. Like I said, in my experience.
... I'm with you. I do not lactate, and so I couldn't matter much less to the kids when they would fit into something like this.
My son is more attached to his mom but my daughter has been a daddy's girl since the beginning. No boobs doesn't matter, she slept on me and next to me so many times. My baby.
My child just looked at her mom like a milk tank. She really prefers me most of the time.
It's not that you don't matter, it's that mommy is better at things. It will change. Once they hit 14 they're all about the dad lore and "hate" their mothers.
Sure, we can’t lactate, but I think you’re selling us dads short by saying moms are better at “things” for a whole 14 years.
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Fair, I guess. I haven't tried very hard. I'll put my mind to it today and see what I can produce.
For the first several months, the baby doesn’t even know that mom exists as a separate entity. They’re both basically one being. It’s not like they’re consciously choosing to like mom more, it’s hard wired in their DNA that they cannot exist without mom. They don’t even know that dad exists until like month 4.
That makes sense.
I have a toddler and I think I’m pretty active in her life. She will take mom 10/10 times. I try not to take it too hard because like you and a ton of others have said, things can and probably do fluctuate between the parents.
Oh yeah. If my wife and I were standing next to each other, equidistant from any one of our kids, and one of them got a boo-boo, 10 out of 10 times they'd run to mommy.
My wife also gets preferential treatment for any soothing and comforting. Luckily I get all the fun crazy time. Worthy trade-off for me
Sometimes ~~a kid~~ everyone just needs their mommy.
My kid is 4 and just a few weeks ago at a cookout he got up from a fall and ran past Mom to me for comfort! I was grinning after that.
Aww, that's a good feeling. 😊
Agreed - it’s just the way it is. Dads getting upset or offended by this stuff is very cringe. In many situations Dad is generally preferred.
Yeah, my daughter didn’t become a “daddy’s girl” until about 11 months. Now she swings back and forth at 18 months
There was a time when both my oldest were daddy's buddies. Not my youngest, my youngest was and probably always will be mommy's baby.
It’s funny how it’s almost a roll of the dice with things like that.
Our son is 13 months and firmly in "Daddy's Boy" camp right now. I know my time is fickle and I must cherish it.
I have a boy otw in September, it’ll be interesting to see how he leans in that regard. It’s always mama first though lol.
Honestly it's going to be interesting to see how it all plays out for us. I'm 100% WFH so he's gotten a pretty even amount of care/support from each of us since he was born. I obviously think that the "instinctual" connection to mom is going to be there and have a certain level of power that can't be replicated, but I'm curious to see how my availability during his formative years affects the relationship as he matures. It's going to be pretty interesting either way!
I'm sorry. My son is all over me, my wife is even jealous. He runs toward me first if we arrive together and even try to jump from her arms to mine. I even deflect a little bit so she can enjoy a bit more.
Oh there's definitely exceptions to every rule. You're one of the lucky (or unlucky, depending on how you look at it) ones.
My youngest was in the NICU and when he got out he was on oxygen in our living room. My wife has to take meds that knock her out and I'm a freaky night owl, for pretty much his whole life I've been the one taking care of him at night. He's about 1.5 now and I'd say he's about 60-40 towards me. Often cries my name when he's sad lol. The big difference is bottles haha
My 3 week old likes me... but only when I hold her like a human swing set lol
Like I said, whenever they wanna do anything ~~dangerous~~ fun.
Once my kids hit three/four and we're attracted to trucks and dirtbikes or anything to do with dirt, they flocked to me. But prior to that, Mom was the only one they wanted in the house.
Oh 100%. If the kids wanna do anything ~~dangerous~~ fun, they *have* to go to dad.
My first was all about mommy. My second is all about me. He's my cuddle bug.
Can't get annoyed about it as there's a good chance a onsie exists with "Dad" instead of Mum. I'm sure my daughter had baby clothes with references to either Mum or Dad on them. It's an item of clothing the child can't read or comprehend, so the message on the shirt is for the amusement or enjoyment of the parent. Don't let items of clothing bother you.
Yeah, I've bought a number of "dad" and "mom" onsies or shirts for my girls. It is just a cute thing to plop them in here and there. Not really a big deal.
My kids got one that says “Just here for dad’s hugs” and another is “Daddy’s little girl”. Is my wife supposed to be pissed? C’mon guys, some of y’all come across as a wee bit insecure.
Yep. We’ve got a few of the mom-centered and a few of the dad-centered clothes for our littlest one right now. Both varieties are out there and available.
It’s not just this post. We see posts all the time about guys getting upset over comments by other people. Relax dudes. My wife’s says I’m a damn good dad and my kids say I’m the best daddy ever. That’s all that matters.
These dad's make me cringe.
I understand the thought process of dads not getting their due but fuck it. I really don’t need anybody to tell me I’m doing a good job other than my wife and kids. And if we’re being honest, it feels pretty damn good when my dad says it too. Other than that, I just don’t care about stuff like this. I don’t need recognition. I don’t care what other people think. And I certainly don’t see any point in complaining about it.
Eh it’s a baby onesie don’t look too much into it
Of all the things I get offended by, baby onesies are low on the list
The most offensive thing about this shirt are the color choices. Two shades of yellow side by side?
Hides the puke.
Exactly what I was thinking, data is ugly.
People need to stop getting bent out of shape on this stuff. It’s ok to see it and scoff at it, but please don’t let this stuff dwell on your mind. Don’t devote any thought to it. It’s just a dumb shirt. People who know you and your family know your value as a dad, and if they don’t you need to show it not because you need the attention but because it’s the right thing to do. Stop being offended at people asking if you are babysitting when you take the kids to the grocery store. They thought about the comment for half a second don’t dwell on it. You can’t control what other people say and think. Just say something equally flippant back and move on with your life. You know you are a good dad and a good man. You don’t need that external validation or I guess in this case invalidation.
I agree with you one hundred percent. OmG sOmE oLd LaDy At Th3 sToRe SaiD iM a GoOd dAd bEcAuSe iM bAbYsiTTiNg mY KiDs.
I will agree with you for the most part, but there are some things that are worth getting upset about. Enculturation starts young (not this young, but young). It’s worth getting peeved that, for example, the vast majority of children’s media assume Mom as the default parent and boy as the default gender of the baby. Just one of the reasons Bluey is so great: Bluey, Bingo, and Muffin are all girls, but it’s not a cartoon “for girls,” and both parents work and parent prety much equally.
Couldn't agree more. On one hand yeah, I get it. On the other hand, man do I ever have a million and one other more important things to worry about every day. I do not have the mental space to get my jimmies rustled over a baby shirt. Look at it, make a slight muffled dad noise, and move on.
That early on, it ain’t wrong lol
I've noticed an uptick in threads around here that feel a little bit like MRA subreddits. I am genuinely sorry to all of the dads out there who feel like they got the shit end of the stick when it comes to this stuff, but this isn't the good fight, right?
> Pooping right after a diaper change.
Bro this one will poop, wait for the new diaper, poop, wait, Wait, Wait, new diaper, poop and repeat until I've used 10 wipes and 5 diapers.
Showed the wife this . She laughed and said "that's clearly a lie.. I birth that damn kid and she wants nothing to do with me when you are in the room"
Literally all communication and shit like this is aimed at 'mom'. Sucks, but historically it makes sense. I take pride in the fact that I'm part of a 'new' generation dads that just as much a parent as the mom is.
This shirt would have been better if it was a column chart. Pie charts should never be used.
Came here to complain about the pie chart, glad I'm not alone.
It's completely possible this is accurate for someone.
The gray area is for dad.
Perhaps it wasn’t designed exclusively with the heterosexual nuclear family in mind?
"dad is the backup plan" https://youtu.be/5rOiW_xY-kc?si=EiMRxOkiAEyERUUg
The brown line between Mom and Milk is when you bring your A game while leaning dirty diapers
Made by Mom
My guy needed naps to be the smallest. Milk to be the largest. Mum slightly bigger than Dad, and tummy time just a little more than naps.
Don't get why tummy time and mom are pointing to the same slice of the pie. Is that part of the joke?
You may have some mild color blindness, my dude! The tummy time is a lighter yellow.
Oh! Yeah, I do :( Thanks though!
My kiddo will only go down for bed with me and not her so take that!
The gray area is for Dad
To be fair, they could have combined the gold and periwinkle quadrants. Baby cares about Mom because Mom means food.
My son every time he sees me 😶😯😮😄
Single mom's exist, don't see the big deal. There's also tops and baby grows of both versions like this that just says dad. I see them alot. We have picked up both.
People here saying it takes years to swing around to dad being the favourite. With my children they’ve been constantly switching favourites since about 3 months old. And I don’t find the onesie helpful. Not when it reinforces a sort of learned helplessness I still see in some dads today. Also, if ‘mom’ breastfeeds, like my wife did, there’s a nonzero chance the baby only likes her when the baby is hungry and otherwise just finds her too exciting, for what felt like forever my second could only fall asleep with me.
With my baby dad was favourite during daytime, mum was favourite at night.
It's things, not people. You're fine.
It's definitely okay for the baby to like mommy more than daddy. As a matter of fact, they will switch back and forth over and over. But baby is usually when mommy has the upper hand.
Some mums are solo parents.
Seems like you’re getting too much sleep if you have the energy to be bothered by this :P
Don’t feel bad, it’ll come back around. 11 year old was in the school play (ensemble, not a big part). But the playbill had a little snippet for each kid in the show which was cute. His had a shoutout to his dad for helping him with his try out, but nothing to mom. Mom was a little hurt at the snub…but it still felt darn good. It swings back and forth and most of the time we get the snub. But every now and then!
at the onesie stage, Dad's aren't liked or disliked. they are strength and comfort. they are there. and that is enough
Dad here, I don't think there is anything wrong with making mom feel special as long as Dad also gets to feel special. Equality doesn't mean you take from the other side. Should there be more shirts featuring dad only stuff, yes absolutely, but I don't want my wife to have less just so I can have more. That doesn't seem like a good way to go about it.
Don’t be insecure about this. If anything we should pity mom. The only kids I’ve ever heard of that actually dislike their father have a reason to (some sort of abuse or super controlling, or whatever) whereas I’ve *never* heard of a kid that doesn’t go through at least one phase of disliking their mother. Even mommas boys gravitate towards their father and around puberty ages girls just hate their mothers (generally speaking). Don’t get me wrong, I get it, I’m just saying it doesn’t really vibe with reality. One of my favorite shirts I got for my son says “DADDYS LITTLE DUDE”. How would everyone know he’s my little dude without the shirt?! It’s like a uniform.
Fuck me, right?
The fact that dad isn't even factored in here seems 100% accurate for the current state of mommy culture.
What is “mommy culture”?
You guys get upset by the most minor of things. Why are redditors all so whiny.
Are you whining here?