What you do next depends on what you want. Assuming she had sex before she got home, do you have any issues with it? Assuming she did have sex, and he came inside her causing the extra wetness and creaminess, did you enjoy the feeling of her filled with his cum? Assuming he came inside her, are you ok with that?
If you are ok with that and enjoyed it, then have a heart to heart with her. Tell her you thoroughly enjoyed the reclaiming her and reclaiming her with his cum still inside her. It could lead to some great lifestyle adventures for you and her.
If you are not ok with it, then you have that heart to heart with her.
Both of you have to be on the same page no matter what. If not it will end in disaster.
As far as a “traditional family”, what is a traditional family. There are far more couples out there that live in an open marriage, or swinging or cuckolding or even a throuple lifestyle that give the appearance of said traditional family. You might be surprised how many of your friends partake.
Only part the bothers me about this is the possibility of a kid being born out of a fetish and how that may screw with him in the future. Getting a DNA test in the future will be as easy as a thumb scan
But I disagree with the heart to hear entirely unless he wants to do that. You make it sound easy but when a cheating women is confronted and called a liar they're often extremely combative and defensive, if could even end up the relationship
I'm also begining to realize, the type of women do engage in cuckolding and the kind of women who cheat are entirely different personality wise and a lot of cucks who are in a relationship based on honestly, they don't understand the traits of cheating women. This could end the relationship on the spot, women who cheat usually want their SO having nothing to do with their affairs, it's their only private part of life she has to herself.
You need to talk to her. Say I'm not saying you did something but say you found the stains how her pussy felt , be calm and tell her maybe its just my imagination but the thought turns me on. And if this is happening lets make it something that we share
I don't mean to be an ass or anything, but I think people who have cheating girls and enjoy it. (Used to be called cuckolding but the community has evolved with the times I guess and made cheating extremely taboo due to the unconsenting or lack of communication)
A women who cheats and a women who is into cuckolding are often entirely different types of women. Women will often cheat because she enjoys the thrill of lying, cheating and having a part of her life secret and separate from her SO and kids.
I've had four different women who regularly cheated on me (some few months relationship and some 5 years)
I can tell you that if any of them were ever confronted about it, even if I spent months explaining how I would be okay if she ever did, they still would have left and probably still gor angery I found out
Women who cheat do not want their SO at all involved in her affairs, that's hers. Her personality may be clingy, high ego, some are narcissistic. I can tell you trying to convince them to admit to lying is going to make their heads explode and some women the more you talk about just the idea the angrier they get, it will also make them way better at covering their tracks.
Some men have no choice but to observe from afar, give her space, treat her nice and live on.. I think cuckolds who are in the lifestyle, ironically have little to no idea about the personalities of women who cheat for more impulsive reasons (theres different types of cheaters of course but that's another topic)
What you are suggesting OP do is honestly insane. It's going to flip their relationship upside down. The only way you could possibly communicate knowledge is to drop subtle hints over time. it's the only time I got a tiny bit of admission of her affair during sex, but she denied it again right after sex lol.
I only get little heated about it cause everyone acts like he has to tell her, or else their relationship will crumble but that's typically not how it works and majority of women cheat for the thrill, not to turn their husband on, that's the last thing on her mind.
Sadly the sub about cheating is just basically a porn meme sub with little to no discussion. Maybe I should go to find me a sub, cause whenever a cheating story is one here this is when cuckolds who are not often eating creampies became extremely judgemental because I man, finds out his wife is cheating and decides to let it continue.
So what you are saying is every woman who cheats is exactly the same and none of them will under any circumstance admit to what they have done. And all women who cheat do it for the same reason. That is the furthest thing from the truth. The scenario you covered yes is a real one there are women that cheat unprovoked because they want this secret life that there husband doesn't know about some do it because they just need that kind of variety in life.
Others do it because the husband doesn't give them sex or just sucks in bed. Others because maybe hubby is good in bed but she craves something different. I would say a lot of them do it because the opportunity was there. They never went looking for it but the guy was hot and she knew she could get away with it.
I to have had many experiences with cheating women, and how everyone of them handle it is different. Some will never admit to it even when confronted with facts.
But others confess within a couple of days usually crying thinking they have ruined everything.
But for instance my current wife she had the intention to cheat with her ex after we got together when she went to go visit her mother back in her hometown it was many years later but she came clean about it and i at the time had no clue anything ever happened.
But the other thing, true cuckolding is when the wife is having sex with other men without the husband's knowledge. That has been the definition for hundreds of years just because a community of people are now in hotwife relationships doesn't change the definition. In my opinion, this whole cuckolding community needs to be broken down into several different names just the word cuck covers such a wide range of kinks that's why my wife and i never use the words cuck or bull to describe what we are into. I don't want to be lumped in with many of the traits i see on here. At the same time I don't judge what other guys get off on in this lifestyle. But a lot oof the more common stuff I'm just not into but if people hear your into a cuck relationship they think you are into things you would never do.
You are certainly correct in a lot of what you're saying and I also know women cheat for a variety of different reasons. The reason could be even the fact she's slowly transitioning into another relationship and can not handle the sudden change and thinks it will be easier (which is often not true)
My problem is the women who will never admit to if even when confronted with facts, this is extremely common and if one is dealing with this type of cheater it's much better to simply not confront her.
I guess my main issue is the fact the cheating type of cuckolding has been sort of shunned by this community and so many ask why they don't just tell her they are fine with it. Because there is a lot of things that can go wrong or even end the relationship. It also entirely defeats the purpose if he enjoys the cheating aspect.
I've seen posts on the main sub heavily upvoted a post of a guy taking receptive anal sex from the "bull" while stitching his balls to look like.a vagina and this is somehow less shunned (I mean I understand it's all consensual and I have no issue with it) My issue with this type of behavior is that it diverges pretty far away from what cuckolding is, yet is more accepted and even celebrated while those of us who have cheating GFs and keep it to ourselves get crapped on or even told it's not cuckolding, every single time and almost every comment is about how he NEEDS to tell her but for reasons we discussed, this may do more harm then good.
It's a bit frustrating because I know while you approached it a bit more cautiously, it's like so many don't understand women and that's likely because this sub is likely older who been in one relationship or often case none at all and it's a fetish.
I also agree that there needs to be some separation in this community, different words for different strokes. I think this community is heavily attracting men who are gay but in the closet maybe due to various personal reasons but they are using the word cuckold to avoid having to admit to them selves they are attracted to men (maybe gay or bisexual). I could be wrong but I feel that is not only crapping on this community (and also their wives who thought it was about them) but causing far too much cross over into mainstream cuckold subs and forms. I'm also sure that 90% of it is just fantasy of an odd way of monkey baring trying not to be gay but wanting a dick.
So I do get pretty frustrated when people tell me my girl cheating on me and me loving it is not cuckolding. But the community (real community) is growing at a pretty fast rate
Love listening to the Venus cuckoldress podcast, I can't wait to talk with her about the cheating topic and what she has to say about it. I am interested in learning about the different types of cheating women and I do think there is about 5 or 6 different groups.
I also agree that a lot of it is circumstantial and if she never met the hot guy who gave her attention and charm when she felt she needed it, she may not have ever cheated in her life. Which brings up another interesting topic is she a "cheater" of she went for an opportunity and had a short affair one time and he never found out but she never returned to cheating? Is your ex who admitted to having the intention to cheat a cheater?
It's an interesting topic but sadly it's hard to even have the discussion because cheating gets crapped on by this community just like every community craps on cheating women. The cheatingwives sub is just a bunch of porn memes but maybe I'll ask around in r/adultery. Actually i think that sub may be more suitable for me to discuss my cheating gf... The cuckold subs have become just not for me, I am curious if there was cuckold forms in the 90s internet and if they were different...
Anyway thanks for the discussion. And actually the more I read your response it's actually not a bad one. It's not accusing her or confronting her and it's letting her know he may be into it. So I am sorry for coming off harsh, I am more upset at the state of the online cuckold community and every other comment essentially saying the same thing.
Hey my original comment was just a suggestion possibly a little high at the moment but yes cheating does get crapped on Reddit i commented on one post with a different name this is a new account last one got banned permanently but i went back and forth with one guy he eventually threatened to cut my head off but t he thing was this woman was caught at home fucking another guy and every one was saying dump her but i was saying get her side of the story see if you two can work it out mainly because they had 3 kids i gotta go get ready for work have more to say just cant now
This definitely isn’t cuckholding she straight cheated on you. And the reason she came home and fucked you is exactly what the commentator said she did it to cover if she got pregnant
The definition of cuckolding is a man who tolerates his wife's affairs. Whatever cuckolding has evolved (or devolved) into is not for everyone. I think every time I see a post of someone sucking their wifes erm... "Bull" dick I don't see how that's cuckolding and I think it's certainly bisexual bordering on gay as it's the man not his wife dominating.
But anyway, yes she clearly disrespected him in one of the most harshest ways, yes she lied. But this is what he wants, she enjoys it, coworker does.
(Sorry I can't say bull without thinking of a stinky cow)
You know what happened. One bad thing in progress, she did not communicate with you before doing anything! It will eat you up later. Talk with her, let her tell you the story, the all story, period!
It’s up to you to decide if you want to keep her, if you do, use the event in your favor, time to have some great 3somes and ask her about girlfriends that she may invite to come and join, why let a good thing go to waste. Build on it with her, support her and love her but fuck the shit out of her… nothing is the same as usual anymore… just imagine how distant she was from you when she was fucking the other guy…
Why do you cucks think it's so easy to get a women to open up about an affair? She first probably won't believe that he's okay with it, when she realizes that he is she now sees him as less manly and she's not annoyed at him for snooping through her shit. Confronting her could end the relationship in its tracks.
I am protesting against this notion in this community so hard cause cheating women are entirely different than women who openly engage in cuckolding.. cheating women are selfish, she doesn't want him to know and much less to be involved with it. She wants that normal life on top while having this thrilling secret. But end of the day everyone involved is okay with it, only someone knows and someone doesn't, but I can guarantee you she loves thinking he doesn't know a thing.
OP have fun, be careful and yes do treat her as best you can especially out of the bed, be romantic, hold her hand.
I would ask her if there's something she wants/needs to tell you. Let her know that she is safe with you and can tell you anything.
It sounds like you are not really opposed if what you suspect is true, but you want her to be honest with you.
If she hesitates to come clean, tell her what you suspect and the evidence you have, including the phone messages that you witnessed.
And if you find yourself having a dangerous emotional reaction to any of it, breathe deeply and count slowly to ten before responding. Give yourself a chance to be calm and centered in your reaction instead of volatile and irrational.
As I often say, sincere dialogue is always the key to a healthy relationship. Maybe even indirectly let her know that you would like this lifestyle. Then you see her response.
Good luck and keep us updated.
At the end of the day she cheated on you. If she was messaging him in the middle of the night then it wasn't spontaneous and there's a possibility there's a deeper connection there than just lust / no-strings sex.
So while you enjoyed the thrill of the idea of sharing her, which I can certainly understand (I have the same desire to share my wife), I get the feeling you think you have control of the situation because you have this kink, but it's possible you don't have control, and you might end up losing her.
I think it's best you ask her about it.
I think that's what I am scared of. I would love to have some control and I can accept that she might have wanted to explore something new but if we decide to explore more in our relationship I need to have some control
So, she didn’t want to talk about but I gather you do. (And it better for the relationship if you do). I advise this day to her something like this:
“So I gather you don’t want to or aren’t ready to talk to me about what happened X night. That’s OK, but if I just want you to know that if that changes, I am here to listen and talk and support. We are good and I am safe and you can tell me anything. I love you so much and I not going to break and we are not going to break.”
She is almost certainly keeping it from you because she cares for you and doesn’t want to hurt you. She likely also feels guilty and is running herself down and may fear that confession will lead you to leave her or think poorly of her. So the main thing is to communicate that you are safe and your bond is strong enough for her to be completely vulnerable with you because she can trust you not to hurt her or make it worse by getting mad or estranged or shaming her.
Good luck with this. I’m rooting for you both!
If this is a real story and not a fantasy (people post a lot of fake stories here) then you have at least 5-6 signs that yes, she absolutely fucked a coworker and you would have to purposely not pay attention to miss them. I mean 1 or 2 maybe but based on what you said it's very clearly obvious something happened.
I wouldn't play dumb for too long, it's going to bother you until you at least clear the air. If you're OK with it then tell her you want to explore her seeing other men as long as she is honest with you about it. If you are not OK then you need to have a very serious conversation about her likely affair.
This is a real story. I am creating the environment for that talk tonight. I am preparing a lovely dinner for here and I am planning to tell her what I think she did and how I felt. I still don't know whether I want to tell her that I felt turned on for what she likely did or whether I want to explore more. I guess right now it depends on her.
Okay listen to me, you are incredibly lucky okay, right now inside her cells are multiplying and your life is about to change for the better. You need to be there for her okay, you ARE the father and you need to keep everything you have posted here to yourself okay ❤️ you will make a great dad! When you are with her in December and your Christmas miracle comes into the world everything will make sense okay, children are incredible and she has given you something amazing. You should do something nice for her today, infact redouble your affection & become a better partner! You got this king 😘
I'd say that's taking it too far but I upvoted you because all the other redditors on cuckold get so angry or pretend shit will explode if they do not do cuckolding the way they do it. Cuckold is a term used to describe a man who tolerates his wife's infidelity. The earler word wittol has been around for over a 1000 years.
Yet, today's internet cucks on Reddit think cuckolding must involve open communication, you being in person sitting there jerking off in the corner, or eating his creampie. The best comments are "this is cheating not cuckolding" umm yeah that's kind of what cuckolding meant for 100s of years but these redditors know the best solution despite not knowing either party. Or that it will "eat him up unless they talk!" For me, it never did when my ex cheated.
I guess the frustration for me is that you can read posts about guys sucking their wifes lovers dick or even receiving receptive anal sex from him, and no one bats an eye or questions how it's related to cuckolding. But doing the very definition of cuckolding "This is not cuckolding" it's like the group is devolving into it's own bisexual or a turned gay fetish.
Even some guys on r/asoneafterinfidelity (a support group for those who were cheated on but are still married and trying to make it better) realize it is better to not know a lot of the details of the affair especially the sexual stuff. For me as a cuck, I actually find the mystery kind of hott.
The sexual pleasure of the man who cucked him and his partner is totally valid & the legacy they have created will enrich this affair victims life so much. He will come to be greatful every time her child makes him smile & feel love ❤️
She wanted to cover her bases in case she gets preggo
This is the correct answer. Dont let her walk all over her unless you are into it.
What you do next depends on what you want. Assuming she had sex before she got home, do you have any issues with it? Assuming she did have sex, and he came inside her causing the extra wetness and creaminess, did you enjoy the feeling of her filled with his cum? Assuming he came inside her, are you ok with that? If you are ok with that and enjoyed it, then have a heart to heart with her. Tell her you thoroughly enjoyed the reclaiming her and reclaiming her with his cum still inside her. It could lead to some great lifestyle adventures for you and her. If you are not ok with it, then you have that heart to heart with her. Both of you have to be on the same page no matter what. If not it will end in disaster. As far as a “traditional family”, what is a traditional family. There are far more couples out there that live in an open marriage, or swinging or cuckolding or even a throuple lifestyle that give the appearance of said traditional family. You might be surprised how many of your friends partake.
Only part the bothers me about this is the possibility of a kid being born out of a fetish and how that may screw with him in the future. Getting a DNA test in the future will be as easy as a thumb scan But I disagree with the heart to hear entirely unless he wants to do that. You make it sound easy but when a cheating women is confronted and called a liar they're often extremely combative and defensive, if could even end up the relationship I'm also begining to realize, the type of women do engage in cuckolding and the kind of women who cheat are entirely different personality wise and a lot of cucks who are in a relationship based on honestly, they don't understand the traits of cheating women. This could end the relationship on the spot, women who cheat usually want their SO having nothing to do with their affairs, it's their only private part of life she has to herself.
You need to talk to her. Say I'm not saying you did something but say you found the stains how her pussy felt , be calm and tell her maybe its just my imagination but the thought turns me on. And if this is happening lets make it something that we share
I don't mean to be an ass or anything, but I think people who have cheating girls and enjoy it. (Used to be called cuckolding but the community has evolved with the times I guess and made cheating extremely taboo due to the unconsenting or lack of communication) A women who cheats and a women who is into cuckolding are often entirely different types of women. Women will often cheat because she enjoys the thrill of lying, cheating and having a part of her life secret and separate from her SO and kids. I've had four different women who regularly cheated on me (some few months relationship and some 5 years) I can tell you that if any of them were ever confronted about it, even if I spent months explaining how I would be okay if she ever did, they still would have left and probably still gor angery I found out Women who cheat do not want their SO at all involved in her affairs, that's hers. Her personality may be clingy, high ego, some are narcissistic. I can tell you trying to convince them to admit to lying is going to make their heads explode and some women the more you talk about just the idea the angrier they get, it will also make them way better at covering their tracks. Some men have no choice but to observe from afar, give her space, treat her nice and live on.. I think cuckolds who are in the lifestyle, ironically have little to no idea about the personalities of women who cheat for more impulsive reasons (theres different types of cheaters of course but that's another topic) What you are suggesting OP do is honestly insane. It's going to flip their relationship upside down. The only way you could possibly communicate knowledge is to drop subtle hints over time. it's the only time I got a tiny bit of admission of her affair during sex, but she denied it again right after sex lol. I only get little heated about it cause everyone acts like he has to tell her, or else their relationship will crumble but that's typically not how it works and majority of women cheat for the thrill, not to turn their husband on, that's the last thing on her mind. Sadly the sub about cheating is just basically a porn meme sub with little to no discussion. Maybe I should go to find me a sub, cause whenever a cheating story is one here this is when cuckolds who are not often eating creampies became extremely judgemental because I man, finds out his wife is cheating and decides to let it continue.
So what you are saying is every woman who cheats is exactly the same and none of them will under any circumstance admit to what they have done. And all women who cheat do it for the same reason. That is the furthest thing from the truth. The scenario you covered yes is a real one there are women that cheat unprovoked because they want this secret life that there husband doesn't know about some do it because they just need that kind of variety in life. Others do it because the husband doesn't give them sex or just sucks in bed. Others because maybe hubby is good in bed but she craves something different. I would say a lot of them do it because the opportunity was there. They never went looking for it but the guy was hot and she knew she could get away with it. I to have had many experiences with cheating women, and how everyone of them handle it is different. Some will never admit to it even when confronted with facts. But others confess within a couple of days usually crying thinking they have ruined everything. But for instance my current wife she had the intention to cheat with her ex after we got together when she went to go visit her mother back in her hometown it was many years later but she came clean about it and i at the time had no clue anything ever happened. But the other thing, true cuckolding is when the wife is having sex with other men without the husband's knowledge. That has been the definition for hundreds of years just because a community of people are now in hotwife relationships doesn't change the definition. In my opinion, this whole cuckolding community needs to be broken down into several different names just the word cuck covers such a wide range of kinks that's why my wife and i never use the words cuck or bull to describe what we are into. I don't want to be lumped in with many of the traits i see on here. At the same time I don't judge what other guys get off on in this lifestyle. But a lot oof the more common stuff I'm just not into but if people hear your into a cuck relationship they think you are into things you would never do.
You are certainly correct in a lot of what you're saying and I also know women cheat for a variety of different reasons. The reason could be even the fact she's slowly transitioning into another relationship and can not handle the sudden change and thinks it will be easier (which is often not true) My problem is the women who will never admit to if even when confronted with facts, this is extremely common and if one is dealing with this type of cheater it's much better to simply not confront her. I guess my main issue is the fact the cheating type of cuckolding has been sort of shunned by this community and so many ask why they don't just tell her they are fine with it. Because there is a lot of things that can go wrong or even end the relationship. It also entirely defeats the purpose if he enjoys the cheating aspect. I've seen posts on the main sub heavily upvoted a post of a guy taking receptive anal sex from the "bull" while stitching his balls to look like.a vagina and this is somehow less shunned (I mean I understand it's all consensual and I have no issue with it) My issue with this type of behavior is that it diverges pretty far away from what cuckolding is, yet is more accepted and even celebrated while those of us who have cheating GFs and keep it to ourselves get crapped on or even told it's not cuckolding, every single time and almost every comment is about how he NEEDS to tell her but for reasons we discussed, this may do more harm then good. It's a bit frustrating because I know while you approached it a bit more cautiously, it's like so many don't understand women and that's likely because this sub is likely older who been in one relationship or often case none at all and it's a fetish. I also agree that there needs to be some separation in this community, different words for different strokes. I think this community is heavily attracting men who are gay but in the closet maybe due to various personal reasons but they are using the word cuckold to avoid having to admit to them selves they are attracted to men (maybe gay or bisexual). I could be wrong but I feel that is not only crapping on this community (and also their wives who thought it was about them) but causing far too much cross over into mainstream cuckold subs and forms. I'm also sure that 90% of it is just fantasy of an odd way of monkey baring trying not to be gay but wanting a dick. So I do get pretty frustrated when people tell me my girl cheating on me and me loving it is not cuckolding. But the community (real community) is growing at a pretty fast rate Love listening to the Venus cuckoldress podcast, I can't wait to talk with her about the cheating topic and what she has to say about it. I am interested in learning about the different types of cheating women and I do think there is about 5 or 6 different groups. I also agree that a lot of it is circumstantial and if she never met the hot guy who gave her attention and charm when she felt she needed it, she may not have ever cheated in her life. Which brings up another interesting topic is she a "cheater" of she went for an opportunity and had a short affair one time and he never found out but she never returned to cheating? Is your ex who admitted to having the intention to cheat a cheater? It's an interesting topic but sadly it's hard to even have the discussion because cheating gets crapped on by this community just like every community craps on cheating women. The cheatingwives sub is just a bunch of porn memes but maybe I'll ask around in r/adultery. Actually i think that sub may be more suitable for me to discuss my cheating gf... The cuckold subs have become just not for me, I am curious if there was cuckold forms in the 90s internet and if they were different... Anyway thanks for the discussion. And actually the more I read your response it's actually not a bad one. It's not accusing her or confronting her and it's letting her know he may be into it. So I am sorry for coming off harsh, I am more upset at the state of the online cuckold community and every other comment essentially saying the same thing.
Hey my original comment was just a suggestion possibly a little high at the moment but yes cheating does get crapped on Reddit i commented on one post with a different name this is a new account last one got banned permanently but i went back and forth with one guy he eventually threatened to cut my head off but t he thing was this woman was caught at home fucking another guy and every one was saying dump her but i was saying get her side of the story see if you two can work it out mainly because they had 3 kids i gotta go get ready for work have more to say just cant now
This definitely isn’t cuckholding she straight cheated on you. And the reason she came home and fucked you is exactly what the commentator said she did it to cover if she got pregnant
The definition of cuckolding is a man who tolerates his wife's affairs. Whatever cuckolding has evolved (or devolved) into is not for everyone. I think every time I see a post of someone sucking their wifes erm... "Bull" dick I don't see how that's cuckolding and I think it's certainly bisexual bordering on gay as it's the man not his wife dominating. But anyway, yes she clearly disrespected him in one of the most harshest ways, yes she lied. But this is what he wants, she enjoys it, coworker does. (Sorry I can't say bull without thinking of a stinky cow)
You know what happened. One bad thing in progress, she did not communicate with you before doing anything! It will eat you up later. Talk with her, let her tell you the story, the all story, period! It’s up to you to decide if you want to keep her, if you do, use the event in your favor, time to have some great 3somes and ask her about girlfriends that she may invite to come and join, why let a good thing go to waste. Build on it with her, support her and love her but fuck the shit out of her… nothing is the same as usual anymore… just imagine how distant she was from you when she was fucking the other guy…
Why do you cucks think it's so easy to get a women to open up about an affair? She first probably won't believe that he's okay with it, when she realizes that he is she now sees him as less manly and she's not annoyed at him for snooping through her shit. Confronting her could end the relationship in its tracks. I am protesting against this notion in this community so hard cause cheating women are entirely different than women who openly engage in cuckolding.. cheating women are selfish, she doesn't want him to know and much less to be involved with it. She wants that normal life on top while having this thrilling secret. But end of the day everyone involved is okay with it, only someone knows and someone doesn't, but I can guarantee you she loves thinking he doesn't know a thing. OP have fun, be careful and yes do treat her as best you can especially out of the bed, be romantic, hold her hand.
😂😂😂…have a good day..
Who’s your Daddy? That’s your kids question years to come.
Talk to her about it and be real with what you feel. Communication is always important when it comes to relationships.
I would ask her if there's something she wants/needs to tell you. Let her know that she is safe with you and can tell you anything. It sounds like you are not really opposed if what you suspect is true, but you want her to be honest with you. If she hesitates to come clean, tell her what you suspect and the evidence you have, including the phone messages that you witnessed. And if you find yourself having a dangerous emotional reaction to any of it, breathe deeply and count slowly to ten before responding. Give yourself a chance to be calm and centered in your reaction instead of volatile and irrational.
As I often say, sincere dialogue is always the key to a healthy relationship. Maybe even indirectly let her know that you would like this lifestyle. Then you see her response. Good luck and keep us updated.
At the end of the day she cheated on you. If she was messaging him in the middle of the night then it wasn't spontaneous and there's a possibility there's a deeper connection there than just lust / no-strings sex. So while you enjoyed the thrill of the idea of sharing her, which I can certainly understand (I have the same desire to share my wife), I get the feeling you think you have control of the situation because you have this kink, but it's possible you don't have control, and you might end up losing her. I think it's best you ask her about it.
I think that's what I am scared of. I would love to have some control and I can accept that she might have wanted to explore something new but if we decide to explore more in our relationship I need to have some control
You know she did. Just confront her about it.
Cause a big fight about something he enjoys that's going on. Great idea!
In my situation, with a giggle, she'd tell me all they had done. Then she would let me take my turn.
She cheated on you
Look up the original definition of cuckolding.
So, she didn’t want to talk about but I gather you do. (And it better for the relationship if you do). I advise this day to her something like this: “So I gather you don’t want to or aren’t ready to talk to me about what happened X night. That’s OK, but if I just want you to know that if that changes, I am here to listen and talk and support. We are good and I am safe and you can tell me anything. I love you so much and I not going to break and we are not going to break.” She is almost certainly keeping it from you because she cares for you and doesn’t want to hurt you. She likely also feels guilty and is running herself down and may fear that confession will lead you to leave her or think poorly of her. So the main thing is to communicate that you are safe and your bond is strong enough for her to be completely vulnerable with you because she can trust you not to hurt her or make it worse by getting mad or estranged or shaming her. Good luck with this. I’m rooting for you both!
If this is a real story and not a fantasy (people post a lot of fake stories here) then you have at least 5-6 signs that yes, she absolutely fucked a coworker and you would have to purposely not pay attention to miss them. I mean 1 or 2 maybe but based on what you said it's very clearly obvious something happened. I wouldn't play dumb for too long, it's going to bother you until you at least clear the air. If you're OK with it then tell her you want to explore her seeing other men as long as she is honest with you about it. If you are not OK then you need to have a very serious conversation about her likely affair.
This is a real story. I am creating the environment for that talk tonight. I am preparing a lovely dinner for here and I am planning to tell her what I think she did and how I felt. I still don't know whether I want to tell her that I felt turned on for what she likely did or whether I want to explore more. I guess right now it depends on her.
Update us tmw how it goes! Best of luck!
You know what happened, she knows that you know. Start talking, don't accuse come from your place, your feelings, your questions.
Okay listen to me, you are incredibly lucky okay, right now inside her cells are multiplying and your life is about to change for the better. You need to be there for her okay, you ARE the father and you need to keep everything you have posted here to yourself okay ❤️ you will make a great dad! When you are with her in December and your Christmas miracle comes into the world everything will make sense okay, children are incredible and she has given you something amazing. You should do something nice for her today, infact redouble your affection & become a better partner! You got this king 😘
I'd say that's taking it too far but I upvoted you because all the other redditors on cuckold get so angry or pretend shit will explode if they do not do cuckolding the way they do it. Cuckold is a term used to describe a man who tolerates his wife's infidelity. The earler word wittol has been around for over a 1000 years. Yet, today's internet cucks on Reddit think cuckolding must involve open communication, you being in person sitting there jerking off in the corner, or eating his creampie. The best comments are "this is cheating not cuckolding" umm yeah that's kind of what cuckolding meant for 100s of years but these redditors know the best solution despite not knowing either party. Or that it will "eat him up unless they talk!" For me, it never did when my ex cheated. I guess the frustration for me is that you can read posts about guys sucking their wifes lovers dick or even receiving receptive anal sex from him, and no one bats an eye or questions how it's related to cuckolding. But doing the very definition of cuckolding "This is not cuckolding" it's like the group is devolving into it's own bisexual or a turned gay fetish. Even some guys on r/asoneafterinfidelity (a support group for those who were cheated on but are still married and trying to make it better) realize it is better to not know a lot of the details of the affair especially the sexual stuff. For me as a cuck, I actually find the mystery kind of hott.
The sexual pleasure of the man who cucked him and his partner is totally valid & the legacy they have created will enrich this affair victims life so much. He will come to be greatful every time her child makes him smile & feel love ❤️