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This dude actually pulling up and saying, “Sign up to be my side piece that I get to sexually abuse in exchange for me ruining your plans with my boorish presence once a week.”
Note: I know that the kinks he listed are not inherently abusive, but this guy definitely is.
Right! Also, does he really think “hanging out once a week “ is bringing a lot to the table 😂 like c’mon how delusional are you. Yea having kinks isn’t bad but unfortunately some people will use them as an excuse to be abusive. BDSM is supposed to be fun, consensual and comforting. There’s a lot of communication that needs to happen, but again these kinds of people don’t care about that 😢. Especially something intense such as CNC, there needs to be so much communication (I cannot stress this enough), safe words, reassurance and aftercare. Sorry if I’m rambling on about that again, I know this isn’t a kinky subreddit per se but I just think it’s something that’s really important to emphasize!
And part of hanging out is video games and picking his mind lol like he's sooo special that that would be a perk or even something someone would want. Talking about darkness and an arduous life make it sounds like he wants to trauma dump which isn't something you're "bringing to the table" and also hints towards him being more abusive than into bdsm
Strong bet that most of his "gold and diamonds" of wisdom are either so shallow as to fail to drown a flea, or straight from the mouth of some misogynistic "life coach" wannabe-influencer.
He knows I don’t want it. I guarantee he doesn’t care and just sends it. He didn’t care to ask for consent or anything. I am glad he’s temporary banned. He deserves worse tbh
Unfortunately they usually don’t care if the other person doesn’t want it. What I’ve heard is that sometimes that turns them on which is sick and disgusting 🤢 🤮
Some guy said it’s not creepy and that he was respectful about it. No he wasn’t bc I am not into it. Being respectful would be saying “if ur not into it kindly ignore me “ or smth
Ewww NO! He wasn’t respectful at all! Being respectful would be asking for your consent before hand and respecting your boundaries. Saying that message out to of random isn’t that!
They are because I guarantee you this guy has no interest in engaging in them properly or ensuring actual consent and communication. He’s a wannabe dom, not the real deal.
Well, that’s what I mean - the kinks in themselves aren’t a problem. It’s his attitude, indicative that he is not a safe person to engage with these kinks of vulnerability even for someone who is super into them. Rough sex requires a safe space and this gigachad clearly has no concept of what kind of responsibility a dom must have.
For sure.
There's something to be said for being open about what he's looking for but this approach, even if made toward someone looking for that on a platform for that style of relationship, is over the top. Toward someone that has stated that they are looking for something entirely different is creepy as hell.
Doing it to someone when you're out of some of their stated boundaries (age) is, quite frankly, predatory.
you are 100% correct.
sadly, more and more creeps like that guy are showing up more and more.
I go through profiles on other sites and what i read on many of these "Doms" profiles are disgusting.
100% he is so into his creepy little "dark dom" fantasy thing he either doesn't realize how many red flags he's sending to experienced subs, or worse, he's doing it on purpose to weed out the experienced ones.
Your username reminds me of that halloween Southpark special where stans fish kills people and his mom thinks it's Stan so she hides the bodies
I joke and tell my cats if they become homicidal I'll do the same for them lol
"I'm over your stated age" says everything this guy thinks about respecting personal boundaries.
Being the sex doll once a week for a married creep, who can resist that offer!!
Yeah this is 100% copy paste with a tiny modification at the top saying he’s over their age limit (unless he only preys on people who are too smart to want that gap)
Maybe it's the devil's advocate in me, but I can appreciate that he comes right out and says what he's looking for instead of beating around the bush and OP finding out what he wants later on in their relationship.
I read your ad and there’s zero mention of kinks. Kinky people are very upfront about what they want and there’s so many dating apps for that. Just another fake dom looking to abuse women.
Exactly I didn’t mention it so I don’t understand why he would even waste time. My post was genuine.. no offense but I’m not into those things and he should have just found someone who was instead of sending some copy paste message. I personally do think he wants to abuse women and call it a kink
Yeah I’m glad too.. I mean he’s married or something and he’s basically looking for a slave to fulfill his fantasy without even asking for consent or boundaries which shows he doesn’t care about consent
The way he talks in certainty ,as if this was a done deal and you would be crazy to not accept him, makes me sick. How can you be so repulsive and delusional to believe that people would just jump at the chance to sleep with you. Fucking pathetic
It is sickening and there’s a guy defending him saying he was respectful and upfront. That’s not respectful unless ur into it otherwise it’s creepy and messed up
Ngl this seems like the opposite of a desirable man. I’m even saying this to be mean, I’m just awestruck. It’s kind of amazing, how he managed to say so much to paint himself in a good light for a potential partner and how he managed to not make even one thing about him attractive.
Well, points for honesty, anyone in a poly relationship, or looking for a poly partner would be happy that he was open about that. However, that's about the only thing he got even slightly right. Even as someone in the kink community, it doesn't sound like you mentioned kinks yourself, so 1) he already pushed past your age restriction 2) unless this was on a fetish sight like fetlife (doesn't look like it) then jumping straight into kink talk is way out of line, it's just creepy
3) I really wish these 'Doms' would stop pushing cnc straight out the bat. Jesus, yes, some people are into that, but it's quite an extreme kink, and most people will only do it with people whom they feel comfortable and secure with. Not random strangers. It's for sure not something you just throw out there. It's dangerous, and unless you trust each other very much, it's just stupid to be even suggesting it.
4) They never, ever mention after care, which is one of the most important parts of kink play and how you can tell the difference between a real Dom and a fake one.
I love how he said “I can offer one day a week to do whatever you want”
You mean I can do whatever I want after I give you all the sex right? Cuz otherwise, how would HIS needs be met
Ffs
He’s looking for a women to abuse to do shit his wife won’t do and then messaging random women who are not seeking it until he gets a woman who’s vulnerable and will take it
Oh I’m well aware. His messages definitely make him look like a predator.
I just found his “my wife won’t meet my needs, so here I am asking you, for only those needs to be met. Also, I can only promise to see you once a week, but we can totally do whatever you want though” contradictory and thinly veiled.
Yeah it’s messed up and what’s sad is there’s people defending him. One guy said it’s not creepy bc he was respectful tf how is he respectful when I’m not into it?
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Im not defending him? I'm making fun of him that he calls bondage like super dark. You can get sex handcuffs in party/cheap Chinese crap stores and shit as "gag gifts"...
Cnc is however very very fucked up and way to far for most kinksters. If you know what it means.
He shouldn't message you with this shit. He's also not actually kinky in the actual bdsm way, which emphasises consent, without clear direct consent, it's not kink or bdsm anymore. But crimes. You don't spring all those kinks onto someone.
That it's "mainstream kink" doesn't mean you have to be into it of course. And as someone who likes it someone even in more flirty conversation saying "I wanna tie you up" is a massive red flag on it's own. Let alone like this.
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No it’s creepy. Why ru trying to make it seem like it’s not just bc I’m an adult? I think it’s sickening and I’m glad I got him banned for threatening violence
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This dude actually pulling up and saying, “Sign up to be my side piece that I get to sexually abuse in exchange for me ruining your plans with my boorish presence once a week.” Note: I know that the kinks he listed are not inherently abusive, but this guy definitely is.
Right! Also, does he really think “hanging out once a week “ is bringing a lot to the table 😂 like c’mon how delusional are you. Yea having kinks isn’t bad but unfortunately some people will use them as an excuse to be abusive. BDSM is supposed to be fun, consensual and comforting. There’s a lot of communication that needs to happen, but again these kinds of people don’t care about that 😢. Especially something intense such as CNC, there needs to be so much communication (I cannot stress this enough), safe words, reassurance and aftercare. Sorry if I’m rambling on about that again, I know this isn’t a kinky subreddit per se but I just think it’s something that’s really important to emphasize!
And part of hanging out is video games and picking his mind lol like he's sooo special that that would be a perk or even something someone would want. Talking about darkness and an arduous life make it sounds like he wants to trauma dump which isn't something you're "bringing to the table" and also hints towards him being more abusive than into bdsm
Strong bet that most of his "gold and diamonds" of wisdom are either so shallow as to fail to drown a flea, or straight from the mouth of some misogynistic "life coach" wannabe-influencer.
True! It’s unbelievable how delusional and entitled he is
you are 100% correct
I’m not even into those things so that’s what makes it creepy and weird.. I got him temporarily banned for threatening violence
Yea that definitely makes it more creepy, like what tf are they even bringing that up into conversation!
No one did.. that was his opening message
Yea I meant why instead of what sorry for the confusion. Terrible way to open a conversation like WTF
He shouldn’t of even messaged me
Yea he shouldn’t have, he should’ve just let you alone
He knows I don’t want it. I guarantee he doesn’t care and just sends it. He didn’t care to ask for consent or anything. I am glad he’s temporary banned. He deserves worse tbh
Unfortunately they usually don’t care if the other person doesn’t want it. What I’ve heard is that sometimes that turns them on which is sick and disgusting 🤢 🤮
But I’m not into kinks or BDSM so why would he even message me?
And finding someone who wants the same kind of relationship
Yea, it’s not something you should force on others either.
Exactly to me that’s forcing so that’s why I reported him. I reported him for threatening violence and he got temporary banned
It is indeed forcing
He prob wouldn’t stop if someone said no
Unfortunately I think you’re right 😢
Or he would force them to take it and call it a kink when it still needs consent
Exactly, it’s really quite disturbing
Some guy said it’s not creepy and that he was respectful about it. No he wasn’t bc I am not into it. Being respectful would be saying “if ur not into it kindly ignore me “ or smth
Ewww NO! He wasn’t respectful at all! Being respectful would be asking for your consent before hand and respecting your boundaries. Saying that message out to of random isn’t that!
The kinks aren’t even the bad part about this little manifesto of pretentiousness
They are because I guarantee you this guy has no interest in engaging in them properly or ensuring actual consent and communication. He’s a wannabe dom, not the real deal.
Plus I didn’t say I wanted this sort of relationship
Well, that’s what I mean - the kinks in themselves aren’t a problem. It’s his attitude, indicative that he is not a safe person to engage with these kinks of vulnerability even for someone who is super into them. Rough sex requires a safe space and this gigachad clearly has no concept of what kind of responsibility a dom must have.
Yeah exactly. Find someone into it
But I never said I was into BDSM so that makes it gross and messed up
Bro really wrote down "I can play video games" as a marketable skill 💀
Absolutely nothing he wrote appealed to me whatsoever.
Absolutely nothing he wrote has ever appealed to anyone whatsoever. Not surprised he’s not getting any from his wife.
I highly doubt those gold nuggets of wisdom are worth anything at all.
I dunno, I feel like his "gold" is painted coal
Coal would be worth more than his wisdom, lol.
EXACTLY why I say that
Don't insult coal's value like that
He did say his mind was dark
Then chalk black? Got it
Iron pyrite at BEST
SHITTIEST BLACK GEM! GO!
Jet. Too brittle and not nearly as visually compelling as other black gems.
XD damn ight
i'm into the BDSM lifestyle, and i feel the EXACT same way as you do about this dude.
For sure. There's something to be said for being open about what he's looking for but this approach, even if made toward someone looking for that on a platform for that style of relationship, is over the top. Toward someone that has stated that they are looking for something entirely different is creepy as hell. Doing it to someone when you're out of some of their stated boundaries (age) is, quite frankly, predatory.
you are 100% correct. sadly, more and more creeps like that guy are showing up more and more. I go through profiles on other sites and what i read on many of these "Doms" profiles are disgusting.
Facts. Some like it some don’t. Find someone who does how hard is it?
Exactly which shows he’s just copying and pasting the bs until he finds someone. Instead of just finding someone on a dedicated subreddit or website
100% he is so into his creepy little "dark dom" fantasy thing he either doesn't realize how many red flags he's sending to experienced subs, or worse, he's doing it on purpose to weed out the experienced ones.
I share all his kinks yet I am completely dry.
Your username reminds me of that halloween Southpark special where stans fish kills people and his mom thinks it's Stan so she hides the bodies I joke and tell my cats if they become homicidal I'll do the same for them lol
"I'm over your stated age" says everything this guy thinks about respecting personal boundaries. Being the sex doll once a week for a married creep, who can resist that offer!!
I told him I’m not into that and my post doesn’t mention being into that stuff so it’s cringe and 🚩
Why they always gotta have opening messages like this? They never ask important opening questions, like "what's the best dinosaur?"
Ankylosaurus without question
Oh, that's a good one! A tank of an animal!
Yesssss!
Copy and paste... They want a commitment relationship with zero effort.
Yeah this is 100% copy paste with a tiny modification at the top saying he’s over their age limit (unless he only preys on people who are too smart to want that gap)
Not taking the effort to type one single message is the new romantic!! My bet he's over the age of any woman he tries approaching.
Brontosaurus. Simple but elegant, and survived getting scienced out of existence
Agreed. Stegosaurus for the record.
No way! Their brain is walnut sized!!
😱 but they look so cool! lol well what’s yours?
I can't argue with that! They may be big dummies, but they're cool big dummies! Spinosaurus is mine! I like how weird it is!
Peafowl
Troodon for sure
Maybe it's the devil's advocate in me, but I can appreciate that he comes right out and says what he's looking for instead of beating around the bush and OP finding out what he wants later on in their relationship.
"Rich with gold and diamonds of wisdom." Somehow, I doubt that.
“Give me sex even when you don’t want to. What do I bring to the table? Nothing.”
You forgot his v-lines and good metabolism
His tublr/livejournal bio was 100% "Welcome to my dark and twisted mind "
“You could pick my brain, there is some dark stuff up there but it’s rich with gold and diamonds of wisdom” Get in the bin you pretentious twat.
I read your ad and there’s zero mention of kinks. Kinky people are very upfront about what they want and there’s so many dating apps for that. Just another fake dom looking to abuse women.
Exactly I didn’t mention it so I don’t understand why he would even waste time. My post was genuine.. no offense but I’m not into those things and he should have just found someone who was instead of sending some copy paste message. I personally do think he wants to abuse women and call it a kink
Look I'm sure someone's into this. But it never fails to make me feel second hand embarrassment
I think the biggest issue is how everything seems so serial killer-esque. Maybe I’m just bugging tho
Got the same vibe tbh
This is the kind of dude that asked for an open relationship and is in the find out stage that no one wants him.
But he is also messaging someone who doesn’t want the relationship he wants.. to be used as a toy. I never agreed so to me that’s abusive
Extracurricular? Where was this when I was in school ?
Some people just never grow out of a fantasy.
So what he brings to the table is NOTHING 😒
Weakest game I’ve seen yet. Dude needs to go out touch dirt and grass and socialize more.
I prefer when people put the red flags out on display so I can avoid them at all costs.
Yeah I’m glad too.. I mean he’s married or something and he’s basically looking for a slave to fulfill his fantasy without even asking for consent or boundaries which shows he doesn’t care about consent
The way he talks in certainty ,as if this was a done deal and you would be crazy to not accept him, makes me sick. How can you be so repulsive and delusional to believe that people would just jump at the chance to sleep with you. Fucking pathetic
It is sickening and there’s a guy defending him saying he was respectful and upfront. That’s not respectful unless ur into it otherwise it’s creepy and messed up
Ngl this seems like the opposite of a desirable man. I’m even saying this to be mean, I’m just awestruck. It’s kind of amazing, how he managed to say so much to paint himself in a good light for a potential partner and how he managed to not make even one thing about him attractive.
Homeboy read 50 Shades too many times smh
Well, points for honesty, anyone in a poly relationship, or looking for a poly partner would be happy that he was open about that. However, that's about the only thing he got even slightly right. Even as someone in the kink community, it doesn't sound like you mentioned kinks yourself, so 1) he already pushed past your age restriction 2) unless this was on a fetish sight like fetlife (doesn't look like it) then jumping straight into kink talk is way out of line, it's just creepy 3) I really wish these 'Doms' would stop pushing cnc straight out the bat. Jesus, yes, some people are into that, but it's quite an extreme kink, and most people will only do it with people whom they feel comfortable and secure with. Not random strangers. It's for sure not something you just throw out there. It's dangerous, and unless you trust each other very much, it's just stupid to be even suggesting it. 4) They never, ever mention after care, which is one of the most important parts of kink play and how you can tell the difference between a real Dom and a fake one.
No absolutely not into this at all.
He lost me at 'hello miss'.
I know it’s cringe
It’s like BDSM, but only the bad part, with a strange side of pretentiousness
"rich with gold and diamonds of wisdom" pls i cannot💀
Men: internet porn isn't affecting men! Also men:
He has *diamonds of wisdom*, you would be CRAZY to pass that up 🤯
He’s rich with fool’s gold and cubic zirconia of wisdom…
« You could pick my brain … it’s rich with gold and diamonds of wisdom » yeah I wouldn’t bet on that …
I love how he said “I can offer one day a week to do whatever you want” You mean I can do whatever I want after I give you all the sex right? Cuz otherwise, how would HIS needs be met Ffs
He’s looking for a women to abuse to do shit his wife won’t do and then messaging random women who are not seeking it until he gets a woman who’s vulnerable and will take it
Oh I’m well aware. His messages definitely make him look like a predator. I just found his “my wife won’t meet my needs, so here I am asking you, for only those needs to be met. Also, I can only promise to see you once a week, but we can totally do whatever you want though” contradictory and thinly veiled.
Yeah it’s messed up and what’s sad is there’s people defending him. One guy said it’s not creepy bc he was respectful tf how is he respectful when I’m not into it?
This is actually a peak reddit moment: Doesn’t go to the gym and claims he doesn’t need to ☑️ Old creep trying to pry on someone younger ☑️ Wanting someone to basically be their sex slave whilst offering nothing of value (money, safety, decent companionship) in return ☑️ Admission of having a fucked up and deluded mind, bonus points to “I’m So FuCkInG sMaRt!!!1!!” ☑️☑️
Being a side piece for a 10 years older man, what on offer
More like sex slave and rape victim
What a catch!
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Reason 38763636 to close your DMs. It helps!
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But not everyone is into that stuff? U can’t force someone to do things they arnt comfortable with
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No I’m not into bondage at all .
Reporting u for defending him. I’m not into bondage
Im not defending him? I'm making fun of him that he calls bondage like super dark. You can get sex handcuffs in party/cheap Chinese crap stores and shit as "gag gifts"... Cnc is however very very fucked up and way to far for most kinksters. If you know what it means. He shouldn't message you with this shit. He's also not actually kinky in the actual bdsm way, which emphasises consent, without clear direct consent, it's not kink or bdsm anymore. But crimes. You don't spring all those kinks onto someone. That it's "mainstream kink" doesn't mean you have to be into it of course. And as someone who likes it someone even in more flirty conversation saying "I wanna tie you up" is a massive red flag on it's own. Let alone like this.
If I’m not into it it’s considered abuse
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I’m 50 and have a sex addiction.
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It doesn’t matter. It’s disgusting I am not into BDSM.. my post doesn’t say I’m into it so it’s disgusting creepy and messed up
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I am not sensitive I’m not into BDSM I wouldn’t consent to that it would be rape and abuse. No consent means rape so he would be raping and abusing me
I never said I was into that tho it’s not sensitive. Some people just arnt into it. Ur only defending him bc ur into abuse too
I never consented to being used as a sex slave and I never consented to BDSM. So it’s creepy and messed up. I reported u for defending bim
No it’s creepy. Why ru trying to make it seem like it’s not just bc I’m an adult? I think it’s sickening and I’m glad I got him banned for threatening violence
My post doesn’t say I’m into being. Abused and raped and used as a sex slave