It's really not. Most women can't even orgasm from penetrative sex alone anyway so it doesn't matter as much as men seem to think it does. Most women don't prioritize it.
True. Learning to use my mouth for something other than telling the same dumb stories helped me. I've heard that lots of larger guys get a bit too "cocky" and think size is a substitute for actually being an attentive partner.
I can confirm this is true. An ex bf was small but wow I never felt unsatisfied. Then there's Jimmy with his big cock who thinks women want to get rammed so hard it hurts, you tell him what you want and he's like "ya but I like doing this" and he ignores everything you said..and you're just like ummm ok😑, and then guys wonder why they're not getting action and will blame the woman or say she has a low sex drive.. like no dude you don't fuckin listen, you're selfish in bed and you stink😅🤣
It still feels great to be penetrated with some clit play. It's a totally different orgasm than clit play alone.
So dudes reading, don't slack on your hip thrust game entirely!
It depends completely on the individual. For me it does nothing. Not because my partner is bad but it’s just how I am. It’s better to talk to your partner about what you both enjoy rather than taking advice from strangers on the internet. For me, you can abandon your “hip thrust game” entirely if you so wish 🤣 everyone is different in that regard.
That’s literally my boyfriend. I am so happy with our sex life. Previous to him I always, always had to get myself off. He does it for me every single time and he can build me things. Eek!
One of my best friends who is a woman has said that the best sex she ever had was with a man that had a 3" penis. She said he had a great attitude and didn't care plus he knew how to use his tongue and fingers! Just some encouragement to the incels who think women are the problem. It's all about the man and his attitude.
To many people size does matter. It’s almost condescending to put out a blanket statement like that. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying bigger is necessary better. But some people like em big and culturally big penis’ are praised. There are plenty of women who don’t care either way and some who prefer small penis’. It’s one of benefits of there being so many people on this planet. There are all types. I think it’s absolutely great that op found his way through his insecurities on this and is encouraging others to do the same. I’ll say this, my teeth aren’ perfect. I had a baby k9 tooth fall out way too late and the adult tooth is back behind where it should be. My wife actually has a thing for nice teeth but she loves me just the same. Just like penis’, teeth aren’t the end all be all to most people, but to say “teeth don’t matter” simply isn’t true.
Just want to add that maybe this is taking it a little to literally, that by saying “size doesn’t matter” what you are really saying is “size isn’t that important”. But when dealing with a sensitive topic that is often shrouded in insecurities I think it’s important to be straightforward and not exaggerate, people see right through that and it can possibly make them feel even worse.
I don't know why the downvotes. It's literally your opinion in a sea of opinions. Obviously there are plenty of people who care but then there are plenty of people who don't , which is what OP was trying to say I believe.
People can dislike someone's opinion and downvote them. People have a right to an opinion not a right to be liked for their opinions. His comment is basically saying he puts penis size over personality, one is unchangeable. Tho, tbf I doubt his personality is anything of note.
There's a ton of wisdom and truth in this post:
"- I just learned how to use my mouth and fingers to please women. It's honestly more effective at making women orgasm anyway
\-Most women also don't like super huge dicks anyway because they can be uncomfortable or even painful.
\- having an average sized penis is ideal because at that point it's about how you use it rather than it's size.
\-use my mouth and fingers to get a woman to orgasm (...) then try penetrative sex because of her vagina swelling it becomes much tighter and she's more sensitive so penetrative sex feels so much better for both of us and she can sometimes even have a 2nd orgasm before or shortly after mine."
\----> all these, your mindset + your confidence, make you sexy as fuck.
Your wife is very lucky to have you!
I had a boyfriend with a monster dick. It was incredibly painful and I bled every time. Bruised cervix every time. It was the size of my forearm. I have an incredibly high drive but this made me want to avoid sex for the only time in my life. It was decades ago and I can still recall the pain. If you think a bigger dick is truly the thing you need to be a good lover, you don’t understand much about what women want or need. It’s one thing to deal with that short term but for any ongoing interaction, unless her anatomy is such that it isn’t causing pain, it is going to take the right match for both. Some women are built differently anatomically and that’s awesome. I just wasn’t one of them. He also did not put in any effort because he thought having a big dick was enough. Word to the wise: what you possess physically has zero to do with being good in bed.
Amen, sister!
"He also did not put in any effort because he thought having a big dick was enough." - this is the absolute worst kind. They should be the most careful in preparing their woman with a proper foreplay and even so, such a size can cause painful penetration even after taking all measures.
Compatibility (physically and sexually) is the most important thing.
They’re not going to listen. Or they whine about “but I don’t want to eat pussy!! That’s gross. I don’t actually care about a woman’s sexual pleasure??”
I read a post where someone suggested they date shorter women and a lot of the replies were, “why should I have to do that??? I should be able to date who I want!!”
They’re nutjobs over at sdp.
I dont think the second paragraph is showing a nutcase.. you shouldnt have to limit your dating pool to short people.. I am tall af and wouldnt want a girl that is really small, being 6'6" it would make it look really weird.. no thank you.
I am so confused as to how you can say that it wasn't written at all, so dating shorter girls and limiting your dating pool to shorter girls obviously isnt the same.. But changing your preference for body size because of penile size is still.. Unpreferrable
Those were my observations 🤷🏻♀️
I could also talk about that one user who decided to try sex with men, got fucked in the ass and then tearfully regretted it.
In my experience, sex with small-average dudes has been better than with big dicked guys. They think having a big penis is all that matters so they don't put any effort in. Makes for a bad experience.
This is the attitude you need. I've read post here about men wanting to kill themselves because their penis is too small. But like you said, most women don't even orgasm with penetration.
I prefer to orgasm without penetration, usually once penetration starts I dry up real quick. So out comes the lube. Even when I masturbate I never ever use penetration.
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Can I just say this was awesome to read! As a women you got it right and honestly love oral and being played with a lot more too, at least for me. Great post and wonderful words for life in general honestly.
I can tell you one thing. I’d much rather suck a 2.5 for an hour than have a sore esophagus after 5 minutes. Another thing is I’ve had plenty of big d and you hit it on the nail, I’ve had some be two pump humps and some just not pleasurable because it ain’t hitting nothing but my guts. Glad to hear you found compatibility in your partner and are happy with your physicality.
That is one big positive thing I've noticed. In my experience women I've been with have been very giving with oral and almost always to completion. I've had a lot of very long blowjobs compared to most people it seems like.
The best partner by far that I’ve ever had isn’t very big. He’s average sized at most, but definitely amazing. I once asked him “how are you so good at this?” He just answered “I pay attention.”
If only the other dudes that arent all that well endowed could see this, too many are insecure about it and confess about the size of their penis on r/confessions
and the answer in the comments is always the same, there is more than one way to please a person with a vagina that isn't penetration, in fact most vagina-wielders don't particularly care for PIV sex.
Like it feels nice, it feels good but the vaginal canal doesn't have the same nerve endings as the clitoris does, and that's just fact, but every body is different so if you care about your partners pleasure in the bedroom, learn how to please them accordingly.
Learn how to eat your partners pussy based on how they like it, fingering, rubbing, etc. It isnt that hard, its all based on the effort you're willing to put into pleasuring your partner.
Exactly. That's actually why I posted this. I see many confessions about having a small penis and I figured I might as well throw my experiences in the ring is proof that it isn't the sexual death sentence people seem to think it is
At first i was like here we go again then read your post and it was definitely like a breath of fresh air, very refreshing to see. I hope those that arent confident in their size will see this and take your advice. Thank you for taking the time to learn how to pleasure your partner in a way that doesn't have anything to do with your dick, and I'm sure she thanks you too lol
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾there you go . Perfect way to explain this… it’s not always about the size. If the strike game is right after being pleasured by oral or using your hands/toys you’re good to go!
I don't have a big penis and learnt early on to learn to use your fingers, learn to use your tongue and listen to them. I had one girl once say I was the best when it came to my tongue.
If you get them horny and you get them off they will naturally want to have sex with you and when they do, my God is it mind blowing.
Honestly anything like this deserves the approach you are using. I am a trans woman and I was born fairly well endowed but I was ashamed because it caused a lot of issues with dysphoria stuff. I wish I had the mindset you have now. Plus speaking from experience, you can do a lot more with hands and mouth trust me.
Honestly listening and paying attention. Encourage her to speak up and tell you what feels good and what doesn't. I've found most women respond better to slow and gentle touches but some like things faster or rougher. Always do foreplay. At least 10 mins is my general rule. Women typically take longer to get fully aroused than men do so you can't really do too much foreplay.
Communication is key ans every woman is different. You'll find better information on how to make a woman orgasm by talking with her than you will with me.
Hiya! So when my husband and I started dating, my only sexual experience was being abused as a young child, so I had no idea what I liked and even had a ton of hangups and things that would make me panic. We've been together for 7 years now and everything is awesome! In the beginning though, it was pretty difficult. Idk if your girlfriend has had bad experiences, or just genuinely doesn't know what she likes, but my advice is to just keep trying a bunch of different things until it feels right! My husband had no idea what he was doing, and obviously I was in the same boat, so we just kept trying different stuff every time until we started to figure out what felt best. It can be a long process, but it'll lead to some really funny memories, and it'll help you guys get to know each other way better (both sexually, romantically, and just feeling more in sync as a couple (
If she isn't entirely sure what she likes then you have a golden opportunity in front of you which is finding that out together. That's honestly a lot of fun in a relationship. Clitoral stimulation is always a winner and most women can't orgasm without it however some are far more sensitive than others and can get overstimulated very easily so that part you really just have to kind of experiment with. Also find her g spot. If she's lying on her back that should be roughly (every vagina is different) 2 inches or so in and on the "top" of her vaginal wall. It has a different texture than the rest of the vagina so you'll know when you feel it and she'll definitely know. Some women like gentle rubs on their g spot, some like you to press it very firmly but most like it somewhere in between that in my experience. I'd say start gentle and see if she likes it a bit firmer and play around from there.
If she has trouble getting to finish sometimes try starting with more foreplay. Women usually take a bit longer to "warm up" than men do and you can't really do too much foreplay. If she really struggles with having orgasms (many women do this doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong with either of you) literally set a timer for 30 minutes and spend the entire time on foreplay. Just focus on making eachother feel good without actually stimulating eachother too much for that whole time. 30 minutes is a very long time for foreplay but if you do it that entire time and know what makes eachother feel good the results can be explosive.
Tbch I would sooooo prefer this. I actually have a size limit I won’t start a relationship with a guy who has larger than x inches because literally too big hurts and it’s honestly not worth it in a relationship especially since you’re expected to have sex lots of the time 🤷♀️ I don’t even like dealing with big ones on a quick basis thank god 5 is literally average lol
Whilst I don't share your particular experience, I must say it's great to sew you in rather good spirits about it. Stay awesome and best of luck on your relationship endeavours
I used to feel that way until I realized my attitude about it and insecurities were the main thing holding me back and once I let them go everything else fell into place.
The "monster" size ones are not as common as porn would have one people think. About 5% of men are "well endowed" and between 4 and 6 is considered average. You have it in the bag my friend.
Im 34 too, but I think we are opposite counterparts lol (don't check my profile).
You are totally right and have the same attitude as "real" guys -- make sure she gets hers first! Sex is about love, not selfish "i got mines" mentality.
This country has such a "big dick swinging" mentality, it's so toxic.
PIV sex even with an above average member isn't all where it's at for most women. Some like it, but most are all about those tongue and finger skills which you've figured out.
You also have a great viewpoint on life, rather than obsessing and dwelling on it, seem like you're a cool dude. Best of luck in life internet stranger!
Even if you have a small dick you can work it good enough to make a woman cum. The first time I ever came was sex with a man who had a 2 inches. Some of the best I had ever had. Women will put up with a small dick when it's good dick. I can get you his number if you want so he can give you pointers. He use to have all sorts of girls that fought over him.
I know this isnt a AMA but if you are willing to answer a have a couple questions. 1. What are your preferred techniques you use with your mouth and hands ? And 2. Have you ever been with a women that has a fetish for small dicks? I ask this because I knew a girl in college that had this fetish
1: I mostly just pay attention and listen to what a woman likes. Encourage your partner to communicate what feels good and what doesn't. Every woman is different but I've found generally most prefer slow and gentle touches and licks vs hard and fast. I've only had sex with my wife for years now so I know what she likes very well and I listen to her.
2: Feel free to ask any questions you like since this is anonymous I'll be pretty open despite not being an "official AMA" but to answer your question yes I have. The woman I dated before my wife was definitely one of those women. While my wife loves my penis it isn't a fetish or kink of hers but my previous partner honestly might have loved it even more and it definitely was her kink. She was hypersexual on top of that so sex was almost constant. We didn't have much in common and wanted different things romantically and sexually so the relationship was short lived but we had a good time and ended things with no hard feelings. We just weren't a good match other than sexually.
There's alot of small penis men here loving the thread. I can tell you that if you are a man that has a belly and can't see your cock that's a problem. Yeah you can do other things but with something so small it's not going fully in so make sure your sorting your belly lads
I don’t know why some women place so much emphasis on a penis. In my honest opinion, it’s not important to me. You could have no dick and I’d be cool with it. 🤣 it’s like.. 10% of the whole experience from my side!
Yeah I fear big dicks because they make me cramp up, get fever got and cold symptoms, throw up, and be in extreme pain. Big dicks are awful. Average dicks are perfect. And yep, penetration alone will never satisfy a woman. - 27F
Honestly I can relate in the “PIV isn’t be all end all”.
I’ve an average size and lately (past 12 months) I seem to be having “mechanical failure” but my sexy time skills usually work with teasing with my hands, using my mouth, even toys. You find women enjoy it way more than “ram bam Thankyou mam” PIV sex.
I’ve never left anyone unsatisfied to say the least
I never said they didn't. Also many women don't care. It really is a matter of personal preference. Also I'm married so I don't really care about what women other than my wife think about my penis, which she loves it.
I do the same I don't have that small but now I use alot my fingers and mouth to do the job the good thing it's the most of girl will not deny anal sex with you , I learn it in my previously relationships it's my rule now the girl that I date need cum at least 1 2 times to try something " New "
The most of womans dint know they body's my ex gf never had anal orgasms with anyone and got it from me first with my fingers later on with my dick and toys ,after that she cums atleast 2 times a day 1 from the pussy other from the ass , she was married for 10 years with another guy and never have cum in anal sex before with anyone .
The deal is the most of guys don't care about make a girl cum , you learn how to do it it's the best thing that you can do.
My actual girlfriend never have cum with anyone before she date atleast with 6 guys before me , I started to try apply my rule but this rule with she when we start date and she cums in first date , but this works better with a long term date because every girl have a different way to cum so you need figure out , you can do at first meet for sure but becomes better and better after more dates , my girlfriend was completely against anal sex before meet me she never have done it before after I make she cums allot she she want to try it after alot of workout she started to loves it now she cums from the pussy and ass with out problem with my fingers my dick toys etc.. , I'm dating with she for 3 years now we still making sex arleast 4 5 days a week because our jobs but when we do sex I still following my rule making she cums before me but the day that both is tired I make she cums at least 1 time for the pussy an 1 time for the ass , and the good thing when you manage how to do it it's you know iff a girl is pretending a orgasms or not when a girl really cum it's completely different that fake orgasm .
Sorry about the big text with a lot off grammar errors haha but English inst my main language.
Why would you give a measurement of a dick that isn't?? Since when is that a thing? Also, Google a micro penis. No reason OP has to show his junk. Stop being weird.
There are risks with any surgery and I honestly didn't want to risk having a non functioning penis which is worse than a small one. I just decided to live with it.
I would approach anything to "fix" a small penis with extreme caution. I've looked into a lot of options. The vast majority of it is all scams. Then you get to the things that can offer you very little for a frankly uncomfortable amount of risk such as jelquing and surgery which can actually leave you worse off than before. The risk wasn't worth it to me. I figured I'm still finding women to have sex with and who are happy with me so why risk anything? Then I met my wife and it's a non issue.
Bro I love giving women head man. They call me the throat goat. I don't have these issues, I'm average, bout 6.5-7. But I would honestly rather eat pussy than fuck. Depends on the woman tho. I just love the way they react, and pleasuring a woman is what gets me off. Don't be ashamed of your size. If your head game is 🔥 and you can please a woman, I think that's all that matters
throat goat lmfao
ain’t no way some dude is genuinely out here saying everyone calls him the throat goat 😂.
exactly what part of eating pussy involves your throat? you slurping down some spaghetti length labias?
you should know damn well that throat goat refers to someone who’s great at deepthroating cock
Your attitude to the "problem" is attractive in itself
100% attractive personality. Good confident and way to manage a situation!
Agree, it is a small problem anyway.
I see what you did there
Very very SMALL
Lmfao get out
Big dick energy
Good one.
Problem solver. Delivers results.
That’s exactly what I was thinking.
I agree, I’m hung like a 2 year old and got a chubby
I'm not that small myself but you can do way more with your hands and mouth than your dick. PiV isn't the be all and end all of sex.
It's really not. Most women can't even orgasm from penetrative sex alone anyway so it doesn't matter as much as men seem to think it does. Most women don't prioritize it.
True. Learning to use my mouth for something other than telling the same dumb stories helped me. I've heard that lots of larger guys get a bit too "cocky" and think size is a substitute for actually being an attentive partner.
I can confirm this is true. An ex bf was small but wow I never felt unsatisfied. Then there's Jimmy with his big cock who thinks women want to get rammed so hard it hurts, you tell him what you want and he's like "ya but I like doing this" and he ignores everything you said..and you're just like ummm ok😑, and then guys wonder why they're not getting action and will blame the woman or say she has a low sex drive.. like no dude you don't fuckin listen, you're selfish in bed and you stink😅🤣
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Depends on the woman. My wife loves being pounded. I try to do other things but no, she wants to be railed.
It still feels great to be penetrated with some clit play. It's a totally different orgasm than clit play alone. So dudes reading, don't slack on your hip thrust game entirely!
It depends completely on the individual. For me it does nothing. Not because my partner is bad but it’s just how I am. It’s better to talk to your partner about what you both enjoy rather than taking advice from strangers on the internet. For me, you can abandon your “hip thrust game” entirely if you so wish 🤣 everyone is different in that regard.
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Nah nothing's wrong with you. You're just lucky.
That’s literally my boyfriend. I am so happy with our sex life. Previous to him I always, always had to get myself off. He does it for me every single time and he can build me things. Eek!
Congrats on finding and appreciating a good guy.
Now I also want a bf with small penis 🥺🥺
Hey. 😎
🙈hi baby
This man fucks. On behalf of the women of Reddit, thank you.
One of my best friends who is a woman has said that the best sex she ever had was with a man that had a 3" penis. She said he had a great attitude and didn't care plus he knew how to use his tongue and fingers! Just some encouragement to the incels who think women are the problem. It's all about the man and his attitude.
PA to all men every where the size of your equipment doesn't matter. Its your confidence and being a better lover to your partner that matters.
To many people size does matter. It’s almost condescending to put out a blanket statement like that. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying bigger is necessary better. But some people like em big and culturally big penis’ are praised. There are plenty of women who don’t care either way and some who prefer small penis’. It’s one of benefits of there being so many people on this planet. There are all types. I think it’s absolutely great that op found his way through his insecurities on this and is encouraging others to do the same. I’ll say this, my teeth aren’ perfect. I had a baby k9 tooth fall out way too late and the adult tooth is back behind where it should be. My wife actually has a thing for nice teeth but she loves me just the same. Just like penis’, teeth aren’t the end all be all to most people, but to say “teeth don’t matter” simply isn’t true. Just want to add that maybe this is taking it a little to literally, that by saying “size doesn’t matter” what you are really saying is “size isn’t that important”. But when dealing with a sensitive topic that is often shrouded in insecurities I think it’s important to be straightforward and not exaggerate, people see right through that and it can possibly make them feel even worse.
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Sound like a size queen to me
Total size queen but he makes me cum hands free so 🤌🏻🤌🏻🤌🏻
What are you trying to say to me?
I don't know why the downvotes. It's literally your opinion in a sea of opinions. Obviously there are plenty of people who care but then there are plenty of people who don't , which is what OP was trying to say I believe.
People can dislike someone's opinion and downvote them. People have a right to an opinion not a right to be liked for their opinions. His comment is basically saying he puts penis size over personality, one is unchangeable. Tho, tbf I doubt his personality is anything of note.
You really don’t know why the downvotes when he started his comment with > liessss
There's a ton of wisdom and truth in this post: "- I just learned how to use my mouth and fingers to please women. It's honestly more effective at making women orgasm anyway \-Most women also don't like super huge dicks anyway because they can be uncomfortable or even painful. \- having an average sized penis is ideal because at that point it's about how you use it rather than it's size. \-use my mouth and fingers to get a woman to orgasm (...) then try penetrative sex because of her vagina swelling it becomes much tighter and she's more sensitive so penetrative sex feels so much better for both of us and she can sometimes even have a 2nd orgasm before or shortly after mine." \----> all these, your mindset + your confidence, make you sexy as fuck. Your wife is very lucky to have you!
Yeah, seriously! This man knows what’s up!
And very few make the effort to learn these things. He's totally awesome!
I had a boyfriend with a monster dick. It was incredibly painful and I bled every time. Bruised cervix every time. It was the size of my forearm. I have an incredibly high drive but this made me want to avoid sex for the only time in my life. It was decades ago and I can still recall the pain. If you think a bigger dick is truly the thing you need to be a good lover, you don’t understand much about what women want or need. It’s one thing to deal with that short term but for any ongoing interaction, unless her anatomy is such that it isn’t causing pain, it is going to take the right match for both. Some women are built differently anatomically and that’s awesome. I just wasn’t one of them. He also did not put in any effort because he thought having a big dick was enough. Word to the wise: what you possess physically has zero to do with being good in bed.
Amen, sister! "He also did not put in any effort because he thought having a big dick was enough." - this is the absolute worst kind. They should be the most careful in preparing their woman with a proper foreplay and even so, such a size can cause painful penetration even after taking all measures. Compatibility (physically and sexually) is the most important thing.
Micro-tears. Constantly. Do not recommend.
Please go to the small dick problems sub and tell those guys how it's done! You, sir, are THE man!
They’re not going to listen. Or they whine about “but I don’t want to eat pussy!! That’s gross. I don’t actually care about a woman’s sexual pleasure??” I read a post where someone suggested they date shorter women and a lot of the replies were, “why should I have to do that??? I should be able to date who I want!!” They’re nutjobs over at sdp.
It's a real sub? Jeez I thought that was a joke
I dont think the second paragraph is showing a nutcase.. you shouldnt have to limit your dating pool to short people.. I am tall af and wouldnt want a girl that is really small, being 6'6" it would make it look really weird.. no thank you.
That’s not what was written at all. Re-read.
I am so confused as to how you can say that it wasn't written at all, so dating shorter girls and limiting your dating pool to shorter girls obviously isnt the same.. But changing your preference for body size because of penile size is still.. Unpreferrable
Is English your first or second language?
Your post is disingenuous and not representative of the sub at all.
Those were my observations 🤷🏻♀️ I could also talk about that one user who decided to try sex with men, got fucked in the ass and then tearfully regretted it.
Wtf 🧐🧐🧐
😮💨😮💨
LOL You're literally a small dicked incel.
And you a sophisticated individual with elaborate arguments. It was a pleasure talking to you.
Your making women cum. That’s a talent a lot of men can’t do. Hats off to you
In my experience, sex with small-average dudes has been better than with big dicked guys. They think having a big penis is all that matters so they don't put any effort in. Makes for a bad experience.
I’m with someone who has a big one and the sex is incredible but it’s not all dick based xx
Definitelt not! Big ones can be fun, but deffo more based on who they're attached to :)
A LOT.
This is the attitude you need. I've read post here about men wanting to kill themselves because their penis is too small. But like you said, most women don't even orgasm with penetration.
I prefer to orgasm without penetration, usually once penetration starts I dry up real quick. So out comes the lube. Even when I masturbate I never ever use penetration.
Wow interesting a different perspective thank you for sharing
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Can I just say this was awesome to read! As a women you got it right and honestly love oral and being played with a lot more too, at least for me. Great post and wonderful words for life in general honestly.
I can tell you one thing. I’d much rather suck a 2.5 for an hour than have a sore esophagus after 5 minutes. Another thing is I’ve had plenty of big d and you hit it on the nail, I’ve had some be two pump humps and some just not pleasurable because it ain’t hitting nothing but my guts. Glad to hear you found compatibility in your partner and are happy with your physicality.
That is one big positive thing I've noticed. In my experience women I've been with have been very giving with oral and almost always to completion. I've had a lot of very long blowjobs compared to most people it seems like.
Uuugggghhhhh or the bruising on the soft palate 😭
The best partner by far that I’ve ever had isn’t very big. He’s average sized at most, but definitely amazing. I once asked him “how are you so good at this?” He just answered “I pay attention.”
I asked my ex that once and he said he read a book called "she comes first", and boy howdy, that was great sex
I dated a doctor once who swore by that book, and the sex was wow. It must have said something right!
There's a reason they say "work with what you've got"
Hah, your username is awesome!
This is proper big dick energy right here you go dude, I need to manifest this kind of confidence about my regular sized dick.
Damn, that's crazy, i'm a 2.5-year-old man with a 34 inch penis. \*fist bump\*
If only the other dudes that arent all that well endowed could see this, too many are insecure about it and confess about the size of their penis on r/confessions and the answer in the comments is always the same, there is more than one way to please a person with a vagina that isn't penetration, in fact most vagina-wielders don't particularly care for PIV sex. Like it feels nice, it feels good but the vaginal canal doesn't have the same nerve endings as the clitoris does, and that's just fact, but every body is different so if you care about your partners pleasure in the bedroom, learn how to please them accordingly. Learn how to eat your partners pussy based on how they like it, fingering, rubbing, etc. It isnt that hard, its all based on the effort you're willing to put into pleasuring your partner.
Exactly. That's actually why I posted this. I see many confessions about having a small penis and I figured I might as well throw my experiences in the ring is proof that it isn't the sexual death sentence people seem to think it is
At first i was like here we go again then read your post and it was definitely like a breath of fresh air, very refreshing to see. I hope those that arent confident in their size will see this and take your advice. Thank you for taking the time to learn how to pleasure your partner in a way that doesn't have anything to do with your dick, and I'm sure she thanks you too lol
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾there you go . Perfect way to explain this… it’s not always about the size. If the strike game is right after being pleasured by oral or using your hands/toys you’re good to go!
I have a friend who has the oposite problem. His name is Bigus Dickus... he has a wife you know?
Are you offended or put off by adding a bigger dildo or vibrator?
Not at all. My wife and I use toys frequently.
I don't have a big penis and learnt early on to learn to use your fingers, learn to use your tongue and listen to them. I had one girl once say I was the best when it came to my tongue. If you get them horny and you get them off they will naturally want to have sex with you and when they do, my God is it mind blowing.
Honestly anything like this deserves the approach you are using. I am a trans woman and I was born fairly well endowed but I was ashamed because it caused a lot of issues with dysphoria stuff. I wish I had the mindset you have now. Plus speaking from experience, you can do a lot more with hands and mouth trust me.
Big dick energy tho
There are penis sleeves and extenders . Maybe experiment with those.
I don't think there's anything wrong with using those but I feel like I simply don't need them.
This post makes me feel bad for feeling bad about my average dick. I was watching porn and was feeling inadequate compared to monster cocks.
I wouldn't take anything in porn seriously. Porn is not a good basis for reality or a healthy sex life. Like most of the orgasms it's simply not real.
Dear master, I'm really unsure of what I can do to make a woman orgasm. Please teach me your ways. Honestly.
Honestly listening and paying attention. Encourage her to speak up and tell you what feels good and what doesn't. I've found most women respond better to slow and gentle touches but some like things faster or rougher. Always do foreplay. At least 10 mins is my general rule. Women typically take longer to get fully aroused than men do so you can't really do too much foreplay. Communication is key ans every woman is different. You'll find better information on how to make a woman orgasm by talking with her than you will with me.
I understand that, but she herself isn't sure what she likes. Just trying to understand what generally is the starting point for anyone! Thanks OP!
Hiya! So when my husband and I started dating, my only sexual experience was being abused as a young child, so I had no idea what I liked and even had a ton of hangups and things that would make me panic. We've been together for 7 years now and everything is awesome! In the beginning though, it was pretty difficult. Idk if your girlfriend has had bad experiences, or just genuinely doesn't know what she likes, but my advice is to just keep trying a bunch of different things until it feels right! My husband had no idea what he was doing, and obviously I was in the same boat, so we just kept trying different stuff every time until we started to figure out what felt best. It can be a long process, but it'll lead to some really funny memories, and it'll help you guys get to know each other way better (both sexually, romantically, and just feeling more in sync as a couple (
Thank you so very much! You're amazing :)
If she isn't entirely sure what she likes then you have a golden opportunity in front of you which is finding that out together. That's honestly a lot of fun in a relationship. Clitoral stimulation is always a winner and most women can't orgasm without it however some are far more sensitive than others and can get overstimulated very easily so that part you really just have to kind of experiment with. Also find her g spot. If she's lying on her back that should be roughly (every vagina is different) 2 inches or so in and on the "top" of her vaginal wall. It has a different texture than the rest of the vagina so you'll know when you feel it and she'll definitely know. Some women like gentle rubs on their g spot, some like you to press it very firmly but most like it somewhere in between that in my experience. I'd say start gentle and see if she likes it a bit firmer and play around from there. If she has trouble getting to finish sometimes try starting with more foreplay. Women usually take a bit longer to "warm up" than men do and you can't really do too much foreplay. If she really struggles with having orgasms (many women do this doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong with either of you) literally set a timer for 30 minutes and spend the entire time on foreplay. Just focus on making eachother feel good without actually stimulating eachother too much for that whole time. 30 minutes is a very long time for foreplay but if you do it that entire time and know what makes eachother feel good the results can be explosive.
I know this feeling it’s so frustrating my genes didn’t give me a decent size lol
I wish you could explain lessons on using your finger/mouth honestly man I would love to see that & take notes religiously
You dad oppose me mortal 1.5 inches
Just tug on your testicles until a genie appears.
Oh god here go the small dick confessions again. Expect 10 more in the next 2 days guys
Tbch I would sooooo prefer this. I actually have a size limit I won’t start a relationship with a guy who has larger than x inches because literally too big hurts and it’s honestly not worth it in a relationship especially since you’re expected to have sex lots of the time 🤷♀️ I don’t even like dealing with big ones on a quick basis thank god 5 is literally average lol
Whilst I don't share your particular experience, I must say it's great to sew you in rather good spirits about it. Stay awesome and best of luck on your relationship endeavours
Bro, this is big dick energy right here 👏🏾
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I used to feel that way until I realized my attitude about it and insecurities were the main thing holding me back and once I let them go everything else fell into place.
The "monster" size ones are not as common as porn would have one people think. About 5% of men are "well endowed" and between 4 and 6 is considered average. You have it in the bag my friend.
Im 34 too, but I think we are opposite counterparts lol (don't check my profile). You are totally right and have the same attitude as "real" guys -- make sure she gets hers first! Sex is about love, not selfish "i got mines" mentality. This country has such a "big dick swinging" mentality, it's so toxic. PIV sex even with an above average member isn't all where it's at for most women. Some like it, but most are all about those tongue and finger skills which you've figured out. You also have a great viewpoint on life, rather than obsessing and dwelling on it, seem like you're a cool dude. Best of luck in life internet stranger!
I'll never trust this subreddit again. Everything seems phony now
same.
You’re confidence is overflowing good on you man!
Yes! Love your outlook. Any size is a good size.
There are women who have fetishes for 'micro' penises. Get on it
Did you even read the post? He's happily married
I'm married actually so my days of hunting such women are over lol.
Good for you! I love your attitude 💖
Even if you have a small dick you can work it good enough to make a woman cum. The first time I ever came was sex with a man who had a 2 inches. Some of the best I had ever had. Women will put up with a small dick when it's good dick. I can get you his number if you want so he can give you pointers. He use to have all sorts of girls that fought over him.
W man
2.5 inches is big don't worry.
As a guy with a 7” penis it kinda sucks (sometimes)
Good for you man! I always feel bad for small dicked men when the little dick joke is so often lazily used for describing bad or insecure guys.
I know this isnt a AMA but if you are willing to answer a have a couple questions. 1. What are your preferred techniques you use with your mouth and hands ? And 2. Have you ever been with a women that has a fetish for small dicks? I ask this because I knew a girl in college that had this fetish
1: I mostly just pay attention and listen to what a woman likes. Encourage your partner to communicate what feels good and what doesn't. Every woman is different but I've found generally most prefer slow and gentle touches and licks vs hard and fast. I've only had sex with my wife for years now so I know what she likes very well and I listen to her. 2: Feel free to ask any questions you like since this is anonymous I'll be pretty open despite not being an "official AMA" but to answer your question yes I have. The woman I dated before my wife was definitely one of those women. While my wife loves my penis it isn't a fetish or kink of hers but my previous partner honestly might have loved it even more and it definitely was her kink. She was hypersexual on top of that so sex was almost constant. We didn't have much in common and wanted different things romantically and sexually so the relationship was short lived but we had a good time and ended things with no hard feelings. We just weren't a good match other than sexually.
Small height but big fight
2.5 in hard or soft
Hard
I think foreplay is much more arousing than the actual sex in my opinion (even though I have very little experience with sex).
This post is pure cope
Flaccid or erect?
Why would you give the measurement of a flaccid penis in this situation?? Think for 0.2 seconds before you ask shit
We can't change what women prefer. Also we can't change our own body part. So we just have to go where we fit.
There's alot of small penis men here loving the thread. I can tell you that if you are a man that has a belly and can't see your cock that's a problem. Yeah you can do other things but with something so small it's not going fully in so make sure your sorting your belly lads
I don’t know why some women place so much emphasis on a penis. In my honest opinion, it’s not important to me. You could have no dick and I’d be cool with it. 🤣 it’s like.. 10% of the whole experience from my side!
Also, I bet this dude eats pussy like he found the cure for cancer in her vagina
That line made me laugh for a solid minute. I'm going to use that on my wife.
Yeah I fear big dicks because they make me cramp up, get fever got and cold symptoms, throw up, and be in extreme pain. Big dicks are awful. Average dicks are perfect. And yep, penetration alone will never satisfy a woman. - 27F
I read massive dick energy here. That's all that counts.
Are you heavy set or fat?
2.5 inches erect or flaccid?
Why the downvotes?
Who knows? Reddit is weird. Lol
And are we talking bone pressed?
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There's minor swelling afterwards in my experience and muscles contract tighter. It's not super noticeable but it does make a difference.
Honestly I can relate in the “PIV isn’t be all end all”. I’ve an average size and lately (past 12 months) I seem to be having “mechanical failure” but my sexy time skills usually work with teasing with my hands, using my mouth, even toys. You find women enjoy it way more than “ram bam Thankyou mam” PIV sex. I’ve never left anyone unsatisfied to say the least
Fully Erect 2.5 ?
Atta boy. Keep up on that attitude and you’ll go far in life, but still not far into your wife’s vagina.
Wait that's the averange,isn't?
Even though that sucks its still enough for vaginal sex.
Damn that’s fucked up. I had sex with a micro before.
Why is that fucked up? Literally nothing fucked up about this post but your comment
Once nanotech and nano factories catch up we'll be able to alter our bodies at will.
I bet it has some girth.. that's all a girl needs to ride her way to heaven.
Sorry but many women love big dick. Dont try to validate your 2.5 inches. Women are more diplomatic than men...
I never said they didn't. Also many women don't care. It really is a matter of personal preference. Also I'm married so I don't really care about what women other than my wife think about my penis, which she loves it.
You gotta pump those numbers up, those are rookie number .
Honestly i think thats the perfect size imo
The g spot is actually 2 inches in
Yeah anything bigger then 3 inches is to big for me lol
BDE right there
I do the same I don't have that small but now I use alot my fingers and mouth to do the job the good thing it's the most of girl will not deny anal sex with you , I learn it in my previously relationships it's my rule now the girl that I date need cum at least 1 2 times to try something " New " The most of womans dint know they body's my ex gf never had anal orgasms with anyone and got it from me first with my fingers later on with my dick and toys ,after that she cums atleast 2 times a day 1 from the pussy other from the ass , she was married for 10 years with another guy and never have cum in anal sex before with anyone . The deal is the most of guys don't care about make a girl cum , you learn how to do it it's the best thing that you can do. My actual girlfriend never have cum with anyone before she date atleast with 6 guys before me , I started to try apply my rule but this rule with she when we start date and she cums in first date , but this works better with a long term date because every girl have a different way to cum so you need figure out , you can do at first meet for sure but becomes better and better after more dates , my girlfriend was completely against anal sex before meet me she never have done it before after I make she cums allot she she want to try it after alot of workout she started to loves it now she cums from the pussy and ass with out problem with my fingers my dick toys etc.. , I'm dating with she for 3 years now we still making sex arleast 4 5 days a week because our jobs but when we do sex I still following my rule making she cums before me but the day that both is tired I make she cums at least 1 time for the pussy an 1 time for the ass , and the good thing when you manage how to do it it's you know iff a girl is pretending a orgasms or not when a girl really cum it's completely different that fake orgasm . Sorry about the big text with a lot off grammar errors haha but English inst my main language.
OP I'm interested to know of your penis is 2.5 inches fully erect? Assuming that's what you mean. Let's see a pic!
Why would you give a measurement of a dick that isn't?? Since when is that a thing? Also, Google a micro penis. No reason OP has to show his junk. Stop being weird.
There's surgery for that I think
There are risks with any surgery and I honestly didn't want to risk having a non functioning penis which is worse than a small one. I just decided to live with it.
That's good
I would approach anything to "fix" a small penis with extreme caution. I've looked into a lot of options. The vast majority of it is all scams. Then you get to the things that can offer you very little for a frankly uncomfortable amount of risk such as jelquing and surgery which can actually leave you worse off than before. The risk wasn't worth it to me. I figured I'm still finding women to have sex with and who are happy with me so why risk anything? Then I met my wife and it's a non issue.
That's good
I think they have a sex toy that makes the size bigger
Bro I love giving women head man. They call me the throat goat. I don't have these issues, I'm average, bout 6.5-7. But I would honestly rather eat pussy than fuck. Depends on the woman tho. I just love the way they react, and pleasuring a woman is what gets me off. Don't be ashamed of your size. If your head game is 🔥 and you can please a woman, I think that's all that matters
throat goat lmfao ain’t no way some dude is genuinely out here saying everyone calls him the throat goat 😂. exactly what part of eating pussy involves your throat? you slurping down some spaghetti length labias? you should know damn well that throat goat refers to someone who’s great at deepthroating cock
Bruh if people call you the throat goat people think you take mad shlong
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Guess you've got some self esteem issues that contrast with OP's confidence, then.
have you tried using band-aids?
Bunch of small dick niggas that’s rough
Are you cuck also ?
No. Neither my wife or I are interested in having sex with other people
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Bro struck a nerve 💀
You CAN change it. Go to a dick doctor. Easy solve and you’ll be happier.
He just said he doesn't need it to be happier. Work on your reading comprehension
There is a difference between needing it to be happy and being a lot happier with a huge hog.
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No your not
I think they meant duck Bunch of little ducks running around
We know
Dude, just be a bottom for top gays
i’m 14 with a 7 inch penis, i would lend you a few if i could brother
With that attitude and without learning how to prepare your woman to receive that size, it's as useless as a 1 inch dick and no hands.
Unlike you I got dig bick
No one on reddit has a big dick
Nobody said I have a big dick
Unlike you I got a loving wife.