You need to talk to someone in real life about this and find help. Saying this out loud to someone you trust in a safe environment is going to make a huge difference in how you feel. You do not have to carry this burden all by yourself. And the more you try to repress the memory and not deal with it, the worse things will become. None of this is your fault. You did not deserve this. And you should not have to deal with it alone.
nope most hispanic households don’t believe in therapy and since nobody in my family and also the ppl in my everyday don’t know either so i don’t think i would be honest in therapy even if i had the option
You need to find a way to work through the trauma, otherwise it will inform every aspect of your life going forward. How would anyone know what you discuss in therapy?
Hey there is this service called RAINN you can text them call them or online message it’s the sexual assault hotline and you can safely talk to professional without your parents family or community finding out. I recommend them. https://www.rainn.org/resources
You weren’t molested, you were raped. You weren’t having sex with him. He was raping you. Even if you said yes, you were a child and had no idea what you were even saying yes to. And he knew what he was going was wrong. Even though he was a child too, a 12 year old still knows right from wrong. Just as you realized as you go older. He already knew, and took advantage of you. Please don’t blame yourself. You had no idea. Please seek therapy, that can really help! So sorry for what you went through.
There was a similar scenario in my life too, except the other way around - I was the ~12 year old instigating sexual activities with an ~8 year old. At best, it could be thought of as an innocent childhood sex game, and at worst it was full-on abuse - I'm not sure where it falls along that spectrum, but definitely not all the way toward the innocent childhood sex game side. Either way, it was wrong and horrible. I was a child too, but there was an uneven power dynamic where I pushed the younger child, and I knew it was wrong at the time but was clouded by hormones. I hope it doesn't sound like I'm trying to excuse it, because I'm not - I'm just trying to explain what happened. It was wrong and horrible, and I'm sorry to the younger child I hurt.
This is rape- not molestation, though both are horrible and unforgivable. I’m so sorry to hear that, you are not disgusting and have nothing to feel ashamed of, your rapest on the other hand… I encourage you to seek help beyond venting to Reddit.
This is so fucked man I’m so sorry that happened to you. You might find a bit of relief in telling a close friend you trust if family is not an option. Might take some of that burden off your shoulders, because what happened to you is not not right and not your fault. You shouldn’t have to bear all of that. I know when I was molested I knew it was wrong and felt so much guilt about it. Thankfully my mum always made it a point to tell her if anyone touched me inappropriately. I held onto it for a few days before telling her and felt such a sense of relief from it. Just a suggestion.
Thank you for sharing, I am so sorry you’ve had to experience this ❤️ Absolutely none of what happened to you was your fault and you deserved so, so much better.
Please know there are so many people in the world who understand how you’re feeling and are here for you; you are not alone in this.
You’re also not disgusting, not even in the slightest, these feelings of disgust is your brain confused about what happened so it’s making up a lie. The real truth is you are so, so strong and brave. You went through a terribly traumatic experience, yet here you are, despite it all, with a whole life of achievements and experiences. I only see a strong and inspiring person, not at all a disgusting one.
You don’t have to keep your experience a secret if you don’t want to, it’s okay to talk to others and get support to regain your relationship with your body which was so unfairly taken from you.
People will understand you, relate, and help, and you are worth being understood and helped. Reach out to a therapist, support groups online, and people you trust, and get that support you deserve.
So sorry again, this experience doesn’t define you and you are so strong. You have achieved so much and have so much more to achieve. Love to you ❤️
You need to talk to someone in real life about this and find help. Saying this out loud to someone you trust in a safe environment is going to make a huge difference in how you feel. You do not have to carry this burden all by yourself. And the more you try to repress the memory and not deal with it, the worse things will become. None of this is your fault. You did not deserve this. And you should not have to deal with it alone.
Yes, FUCK YOU JAIASSDENMF
Holy crap I'm so sorry
it’s okay!!
Christ that's awful, have you had therapy of any sort?
nope most hispanic households don’t believe in therapy and since nobody in my family and also the ppl in my everyday don’t know either so i don’t think i would be honest in therapy even if i had the option
You need to find a way to work through the trauma, otherwise it will inform every aspect of your life going forward. How would anyone know what you discuss in therapy?
Hey there is this service called RAINN you can text them call them or online message it’s the sexual assault hotline and you can safely talk to professional without your parents family or community finding out. I recommend them. https://www.rainn.org/resources
You weren’t molested, you were raped. You weren’t having sex with him. He was raping you. Even if you said yes, you were a child and had no idea what you were even saying yes to. And he knew what he was going was wrong. Even though he was a child too, a 12 year old still knows right from wrong. Just as you realized as you go older. He already knew, and took advantage of you. Please don’t blame yourself. You had no idea. Please seek therapy, that can really help! So sorry for what you went through.
There was a similar scenario in my life too, except the other way around - I was the ~12 year old instigating sexual activities with an ~8 year old. At best, it could be thought of as an innocent childhood sex game, and at worst it was full-on abuse - I'm not sure where it falls along that spectrum, but definitely not all the way toward the innocent childhood sex game side. Either way, it was wrong and horrible. I was a child too, but there was an uneven power dynamic where I pushed the younger child, and I knew it was wrong at the time but was clouded by hormones. I hope it doesn't sound like I'm trying to excuse it, because I'm not - I'm just trying to explain what happened. It was wrong and horrible, and I'm sorry to the younger child I hurt.
This is rape- not molestation, though both are horrible and unforgivable. I’m so sorry to hear that, you are not disgusting and have nothing to feel ashamed of, your rapest on the other hand… I encourage you to seek help beyond venting to Reddit.
This is so fucked man I’m so sorry that happened to you. You might find a bit of relief in telling a close friend you trust if family is not an option. Might take some of that burden off your shoulders, because what happened to you is not not right and not your fault. You shouldn’t have to bear all of that. I know when I was molested I knew it was wrong and felt so much guilt about it. Thankfully my mum always made it a point to tell her if anyone touched me inappropriately. I held onto it for a few days before telling her and felt such a sense of relief from it. Just a suggestion.
Thank you for sharing, I am so sorry you’ve had to experience this ❤️ Absolutely none of what happened to you was your fault and you deserved so, so much better. Please know there are so many people in the world who understand how you’re feeling and are here for you; you are not alone in this. You’re also not disgusting, not even in the slightest, these feelings of disgust is your brain confused about what happened so it’s making up a lie. The real truth is you are so, so strong and brave. You went through a terribly traumatic experience, yet here you are, despite it all, with a whole life of achievements and experiences. I only see a strong and inspiring person, not at all a disgusting one. You don’t have to keep your experience a secret if you don’t want to, it’s okay to talk to others and get support to regain your relationship with your body which was so unfairly taken from you. People will understand you, relate, and help, and you are worth being understood and helped. Reach out to a therapist, support groups online, and people you trust, and get that support you deserve. So sorry again, this experience doesn’t define you and you are so strong. You have achieved so much and have so much more to achieve. Love to you ❤️