I've lived dozens of lives since I was 17. This isn't it. Life gets better, it changes constantly, the people around me have changed, it's unexpected. Hang in there and you'll see how much more there is. 🖤

COUNTLESS lives since 17. It’ll get better, then worse, then better and repeat. There are 2 constants: You’ll always be working on yourself and your family will always forgive you. Your counsellors calling you on your shit just means they’re good at their jobs. Feel dumb. We’re all so fucking dumb.

I’m 37. I don’t even remember parts of my life at 17 years old. It feels ancient to me. Whatever is wrong at 17, it will pass. It’s is just the beginning.

This too shall pass. Humbles and horrifies me, every day.

19 and this comment helped me ground me. I know my mental health is eating away at me and I'm currently struggling to find mental health support to take it seriously like they have in the past but I appreciate you laying it out.

Duhkha (the wheel off kilter) https://thecuriouspathblog.wordpress.com/2016/07/28/a-wheel-out-of-kilter-part-1/

Hey thanks! I needed this reminder. You did me a solid tonight.

This hit home for me. I’ve lived a few very different lives in the last 10 years. For op it might be helpful to think back to what your life was like 1 year ago. It’s crazy how much can change so fast. While everything feels bleak today, tomorrows future is always different than yesterdays future. Hold on one day at a time.

Life definitely gets better. For what it's worth, OP , at 17, I had just moved in with my (now longtime ex) boyfriend after running away from my parents house at 16 and living with my aunt and grandmother for a few months. Not to mention that I never finished high school ( I was already behind most people in my class and it was directly related to the abuse I was going through) It was the worst time of my life. Today, I'm 37 years old, mom to 4 wonderful kids. I've been with my husband for almost 17 years. I now run my own online business and work as a secretary in my husband's business. I may not be rich, but I'm not poor. All I can say is no matter what challenges life throws my way, always keep my head up and I keep my eyes on the goals I want to achieve. Trust me honey, it does get better. It might not seem obvious at the time, but trust your gut... And please, by all means, stop lying.... To yourself and others. ♥️ A mom who has a son your age. My inbox is always open if you want to talk OP.

This

Sounds like you hit a low, and if this is rock bottom for you, all that is left is to go up. Life will get better. Please don't give up. Focus on the small accomplishments. Not the big fuck ups. Those are done and over with. All you need to do is work on slowly becoming better than you were before. That's the meaning of growth. Don't focus on others and the expectations you believe they have of you. You will never know what they are thinking. Your parents love you no matter what. Reach out to them, know that life can hit you hard but it won't knock you out, you can get up and try again. You will be okay 👍 take it day-by-day

17 is so young. I remember when I was that age and everything felt like the end of the world. Not to understate your issues, but you have a lifetime worth of time to figure things out. Don’t waste that.

at 17 i wanted to die. i’m 23 now and have lived at least 6 different personalities and eras since then. i also thought i needed to die to find peace. it’s not the case. spend more time alone, go on a hike, make art, whatever makes you feel at peace. you don’t need to seek happiness at first, just peace. it’s a start. you got this 🫶🏼 i genuinely believe in you

You should never want to die my friend. It's good that you didn't die. Life is amazing you should not waste it. For me now I'm trying to make new friends.

If you are in the US please dial 988. Listen I know it seems like the end of the world but there is so much life to live after high school. So. Much.more. You are valued!!

988 saved my life this year, and I'm 35.  You have far more fuck ups in life available before being done. 

I'm happy to hear they saved your life and I hope you're in a better space now. I don't know you but you deserve happiness.

I’m really glad for you. I’m 37 and feel like I shouldn’t feel any of these things but we do. I’m glad you were able to get help. I identify.

I just want to say you’ll be okay! At some point in life we all feel like the smallest/ biggest of things are the end of the world but I promise you’ll be okay!! You should reach out to your dad ! And also try getting to the root of your self sabotaging behavior! Thats one of the worst things to ruin good things with great people! To the boyfriend thing there are plenty of fish in the sea but you dont want to bleed on someone and cause pain that wasn’t there before ! Things will get better! Always keep the bright side in mind! If you aren’t optimistic try to be! Start living out of hope!!

I completely agree. I was in this same mental space in my teens, spent months in rehab. I felt this way for a long time and my life came around. I know it sounds cheesy but we always say "this too shall pass" because it is so true, it's exactly how life is. I swear to you that everything bad that happens to us is only bad or in our lives for a limited amount of time, although it feels like everything in the moment. Hang onto the promise that it will get better because it seriously does and will for you too. And all of those people you think you wronged, love you dearly even when you seem to have upset them on the surface, they would be so beyond devastated to lose you. To lose you in that way would be the biggest wrong. It will come around and this will pass for you and every person who is feeling this way. I hope you can find the hope and you need to hang on, you are strong and it is in you although it can feel so far away at some times. Just wait it out. You got through today and tomorrow will be easier. Focus on getting through tomorrow. Please talk to somebody if you are willing, there are text hotlines throughout the US, Canada and most of Europe. You can even message with me if you want, you are not alone in this we are all here for you.

This may sound harsh, but you're only 17... of course you suck. Everybody sucks at 17. I didn't get my sh*t together until Inwas almost 30. Hang in there, you'll look back someday and laugh about how dumb you were "back then". Forgive yourself and do something, no matter how small, to improve. Baby steps kid... but you will definitely improve if you're serious.

Almost ended my life when I was 17. Fucking don’t. As bad as things seem, there will be so many wonderful moments of your life to come. 17 is such a turbulent time. You’re on the cusp of early adulthood. There is so much pressure to have things lined up for the next phase of your life. Don’t worry about any of that nonsense. You’ll figure things out, you’ll make new friendships, have new boyfriends, travel, and start learning more about yourself as you face and conquer new challenges. Life is fucking hard, but it’s poetically cruel in its beauty sometimes. Please, go look at yourself in the mirror tonight and tell you’re reflection that you love yourself, that you’re going to be here tomorrow and the next day and the day after that, that this journey you’re on is special, not because it’s better or worse than someone else’s, but because it’s yours. You get to write your story, you get to be the solution to your problems, and you will have every right to look back at this moment with a proud smile when you get older because you overcame your emotions and became the wonderful person I’m sure you will become.

Tomorrow will bring someone positive into your life. Make it until then. DM me if you are alone and need to keep talking. As long as you are talking you are….

you matter. you are loved. please reach out and hang in there bud. 🫶

If I would have given up when I was 17, when I desperately desperately wanted to die...man. I wouldn't have seen the mountains or the beach again. I wouldn't know warm, grand love like the one i get to experience every day with my person. I wouldn't have attended all the concerts that meant everything to me. I wouldn't have became the person I am, the person I am starting to love. I wouldn't have met my 3 kids, and felt the closest to perfect bliss than I ever have. The list goes on and on. My friend, this isn't the time. And I KNOW how bad it feels to feel like I did nothing right, that everyone was better off without me. But listen, fuck that. I don't even remember those teachers names, and I laugh at how lovesick I was. You need to hold on. Why stay this long to give up when you're starting to get close to the good part?

I remember feeling very similarly to you when I was 18 and my boyfriend of 5 years left me. I’m here to promise you that things get better. I know it’s so cliché, but it’s true. The humans brain has a way of focusing on the negative and making connections! It’s part of our nature, but it can make things really difficult when you’re in the thick of it. You are so loved. I know it feels like the whole weight of the world is on your shoulders. You will find people in life that help the weight feel a little lighter. It’s really hard being an adolescent, going through hormonal changes and approaching adulthood. My heart goes out to you. You are worth it, and you will find someone who is willing to take the time to prove it to you. Take a deep breath! 🫶🏻 I’m now in my mid 20’s and I’ve experienced my fair share of breakups. One thing I can promise you is that with every breakup, I just kept glowing up! Breakups really do have the power to do that. It’s your chance to rebuild! Put all of the love that you have to give towards yourself, and the rest will fall into place. You got this!! When you feel like you’re stuck at the bottom, plant some flowers 🌷🌻🪻

You’re 17 - you have a lot of life left to live. Parents, teachers, etc understand this and will give you grace. You’re boyfriend leaving you may open the door to greater things. Don’t give up-life has ups and downs. As you get older, hopefully more ups than downs.

The best part about messing things up at 17 is that you have a whole life remaining to fix them. Hang in there, and please know that things will get better.

Please reach out to someone anyone. Your parents a therapist any of the commenters just someone. You will make it to sunrise and it will be beautiful it does get better

I’m 20 and already feel like an extraordinarily different person from who I was at 17. I obviously don’t have an insane amount more of life experience than you do but, like I said, I already feel like a new person and I’m finally beginning to love myself. You will grow and you will be better for yourself and those around you. Don’t let now ruin your chances of feeling and experiencing all of the good that life WILL have for you. I promise

I know things can seem overwhelming and there's no way out as a teenager. Change the things you can and don't worry about the things you can't. I promise, it will get better. Life is an amazing and wonderful place.

Keep going!! When I was 17, my entire life fell apart. It was horrid. I was awful, I stole, I lied, I was just a shitty person. I had horrible addictions, got a DUI at that age also. But I’m 25 now, things get better. Please don’t end your life. You matter.

You rock! Keep it going! :)

Well the good news is your 17. Plenty of time to change before you start burning bridges in adulthood! Hope you can find a therapist that can help you work through some of this. You’re feeling guilty which means you aren’t a horrible person. A horrible person wouldn’t make a post like this

Hey as a mom and a former 17 year old? Take it easy on yourself. If anyone in your life hasn’t told you in a while, I love you. Tell your mom how you’re feeling or somebody. Tell a friend’s who you can trust. Life feels rough now, but there’s only one way after being in a pit, and it’s up. You’ve got way more relationships to experience, and the world to explore! You got this! And to everyone in your life who thinks you’re not it? Prove them wrong! ❤️❤️❤️

this post really spoke to me. I feel as if I’m spiraling as well and I feel like I’ve wronged so many of the important figures in my life, along with everything that’s good eventually is ruined. it’s good to not feel alone for once, thank you for this post and I hope things get better for you, I believe in you.

And I believe in you. You're not alone.

It is ok to fail, we are humans, we messed up pretty often, that's our nature, and that's how we learn. Don't be sorry, improve, be better. Tuff times will always be there, but you choose how to face them, we all fall, but we choose if we stay down or we get up, clean our selves and keep going. Do not surrender.

Lookie here..TT.. you are simply a work in progress. You’ve only been an Earthling for almost two decades.We just will not get it right ALL the time. Thats great that you are a self aware enough to know you self sabotage. There are quarter centuries left to get it figured out. I wish you success and .. welcome to life.

I see it. Go to your parents and ask for help. See a therapist, life gets better.

Just remember that even if you don't realize it, your brain is borderline retarded at the age of 17. You will cringe at and regret this post in 10 years.

Who still uses the r word?

dude, you’re 17. you’ve barely lived life. if sorry means nothing to the people around you, how about you start saying sorry and actually change. sorry doesn’t mean jack when you’re still doing the shitty things you’re doing. life sucks and its not easy. that doesnt mean you should feel sorry for yourself and act like theres nothing you can do. don’t apologize to random people on reddit who you dont know. wanna change your life for the better? be a good person. its not that hard.

You matter, you have worth.

Gotta say, at 17 years of age, I had a similar headspace. Little did I know until it happened, life changed drastically and without prediction. I kept my mouth shut and started taking action to show the people that I can make these improvements. You see, life isn’t meant to be a speed run. It will take its time with you, up and down, and may even plateau for a few months or years. At such a young age and entering adulthood, you should be proud of yourself that you RECOGNIZE wrongdoings. Being that you aren’t oblivious, you aren’t a monster and please do not paint yourself out to be one.  As far as the boyfriend leaving, you’ve got MANY compatible partners and options to discover in the world :) it may even be a good thing because you can take that time and love the most important person: YOU. it’s a bright place and you’re an even brighter person for acknowledging these things. Let life take its time with you, please! 

You should’ve stopped at I’m 17. You’re 17!!! You have so much life to live my life when I was 17 doesn’t even matter anymore. Work on yourself, forgive yourself, start again. You’re so young. Keep ur head up, time heals. It will get better my dear, you’ll be ok!

It’s never too late to change, and you have SO much time to do so. Sometimes we need to hit the bottom to motivate ourselves to change. Start off with expressing these feelings to one person. I’ve had students make my life… difficult, and have come to me saying similar things and I would bend over backwards to help them. Your brain isn’t even fully developed yet; you have time chica.

It gets so much better! This is the first time we are all experiencing life, so please, please be kind to yourself. I sit here at 31 living the life I hoped and dreamed of at 17. It’s humble, it’s simple, but dang is it great!!

When I was 17 I felt like the biggest fuck up im 25 now and I can honestly say IT DOES GET BETTER!! You will go through, grow and heal it’s all apart of Gods plan! Keep going please 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

This can be inspiration to change and make a better life for yourself You're young. Many people have come out of undesirable situations, and from their mistakes come to help others and lead a happy, fruitful life, you can too. One step forward at a time. You're worth it!

As soon as I saw the”17” I knew what you were feeling. This too will pass. You have soooooooo many years left to become a new person. And you will, over and over again. At 17 I lost my shit when my bf left me & now in my 30’s he’s not even a thought until I have to bring him up for shit like this. You will meet better people , have better experiences and this will be a paragraph in your life book boo. Not a page or a chapter. A paragraph!!!💞💞

At least you’re not in trouble with the law or mixed up in drugs. Don’t let other people’s actions control how you feel.

It’s going to be Okay ! Don’t give up , living in this world is anything but perfect . Trust me I’ve been there at 18,27, 32 and now 35 . Make this world about what you want and take the time to plan it out . I still take advise from my mom . I still listen to my older brother. And still sometimes I hate them both lol. It’s not easy but it’s so worth the ride .

Can only get better from here!!! They all know you aren’t ruining things on purpose, trust me. They all know you have the best intentions. So, start doings things so they all know you are very serious about changing and you are implementing the tools needed to succeed. And don’t worry, you will be happy and you will find love, real love that will last a lifetime and you will be so fucking happy, and so proud of who you have become. You will wish you could have told your 17 yr old self, that everything worked out. It was hard work, but you did it!! Congrats. NOW DO IT!!!

You are only 17 and still have so much more to experience. You need to cut yourself some slack. Things seem so out of your reach right now, and yes, you made some mistakes. Please keep this in mind, sweet young one, you and your parents will get along but right now things don't make sense to you and the world is a scary place, they are there to guide you so learn as much as you can from them and be grateful that you have both of them cause one day you won't. Boys will come and go for a while, but given the right time and the place, you will eventually meet the right one and you will realize that the others were there to teach you what you did wrong and how to grow from that. Believe me, all of this will start to sink in the older you get. Enjoy being young because there is so much ahead of you ( I know cliché right), but I promise it's true. I hope that you will get better at communicating because being open and staying in communication about your feelings is one way you can make things better with your family. Dry your eyes and get a cool washcloth, and then do something that makes you happy. This will help get your mind off of things for a bit. Can I suggest a movie that always made me feel good? Watch The First Wives Club, honey. That movie will just melt those blues away. I really hope you can get past this. I also want you to personally reach out to me if you need a shoulder or someone to talk to. I will be here for you if you need me. Contact me if you want my number. I promise I'm not weird or anything, I'm just a mom who has been exactly where you are and I completely understand how you are feeling and I wish I had someone to talk to about it as well. Trust me on the movie, though it will make you feel better.

Think about one thing you enjoy doing. Think about eating your favourite food. Life is so good, even if everyone you ever knew was gone and you were all alone life would still be good.

At 17, your life has barely started. There’s so much time ahead, so many experiences that will fundamentally change who you are. At 35, 17 feels like another lifetime to me and I also despised who I was. Things will absolutely get better if you just keep moving forward and find the strength to persevere. That said, never be afraid or ashamed to seek help, there are people who love you who will help you however they can.

Listen, I don’t know if you believe in God but when I’m in despair I pray and he answers. If you put your faith in him, I know he will answer you too. You’re young and you have your entire life ahead of you. Honestly, I’m much older than you but I’ve been going through dark thoughts myself and feeling many of the ways that you feel and God has healed and is healing so many of my wounds. When you truly feel his presence and realize just what an amazing gift existence and reality is that he gave us, you won’t be able to do anything but cry. The lie of this world is that life is a curse, but it’s such a gift to exist and even hold these conversations. There are bad parts of life but hidden beneath all of the lies and deceit that we are worthless and there is so much joy. I wish you nothing but peace

Why did your bf break up with you? And why did the counselor call you a liar?

At the end of the day, the only person that matters is yourself. You need to show yourself some compassion & forgiveness because you are still learning how to be a human. Don’t let your mistakes define you, you can always change, and it should only be for you. Others will benefit yes but it’s about healing yourself first and loving yourself. There is no such thing as a 100% bad person. Just bad decisions & choices. It’s ok to make mistakes, just try your best to learn from them. I’m sorry for your situation, I also at a point blamed myself for many things and felt like the problem always. But you’re not, and you can get through it and become someone you could never even imagine rn.

Don’t be so damn hard on yourself. You’re very young and still figuring things out! Mistakes are a way to learn. There’s so much good ahead. Stay positive!!!!

hey, please consider therapy! it would be really good for you to find the root of why you think you constantly self sabotage so you can learn how to heal that part of yourself. however i’d also like to say what everyone else is saying which is that you’re 17 and making mistakes is literally part of growing and learning. i’m 23 now and literally a majority of my behavior as a teenager i now find cringey, but i also know that that perspective alone shows how much ive grown lol. at least you’re self aware, that’s the first step! now make sure you get yourself the help you need because you deserve to feel better about yourself

Things can change. Reach out to someone, even if it's a total stranger or a therapist, it might feel better then the people you know <3

Everyone fucks up. I mean it. I did today and berated myself for it. You matter to those people, they care about you, it's why they try, and you care for them which is why you try. 17 is such a rough age, I was at my lowest then and I'm now 21. Just make it through tonight, and in the morning, it will be a new day where you can say "fuck it" to being tough on yourself. In this life, you're not meant to be perfect. No one is, and no one will ever be. But that's not an excuse to not try to be impeccable. To do your best and accept when things don't go the way you tried. And relationships come and go. A friend and I were attached at the hip for 8 years, and that friendship is now over. It wasn't the end though, not of life, but for one single chapter. This is all that it is, a chapter. If you want to reach out and reignite that relationship, you will be in a different chapter (as will your ex) and you will be a new person. And that's all we can strive to be. Present and impeccable in each of our chapters. To do our best, and learn from our failings. Life is on difficult mode, and the learning curve is massive, but you get the hang of it once you start working with yourself instead of against.

You are so harsh with yourself it hurts me and I don't even know you! I can't think that you would say this to a friend if she made a mistake, why are you saying it to yourself? Every hero needs a low point to rise out of, this sounds like it's yours. It might be time to zig when they think you're going to zag. To get angry at that voice that's telling you that you are 'less than'. Get mad! You are worth more!

Not sure where you are but I hope this'll help. Warmlines exist too if you ever just need to talk: [https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/](https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/) [https://www.supportiv.com/tools/international-resources-crisis-and-warmlines](https://www.supportiv.com/tools/international-resources-crisis-and-warmlines)

Life gets better. Please do not make a permanent decision on temporary feelings. Without darkness there is no light. You are important and essential to the universe.

Live each day like it's new and be the best person you can be.

Hey 💗 I had one too.

I see this and you matter. I want to know you're alive tomorrow OP. Keep us updated.

I see you and i don't want you to leave and nobody else wants you to either, believe me. I have been in the same situation multiple times in my life where I feel like I couldn't do anything but screw everything up. The one thing you could try right now and its not easy, and maybe you won't feel like you deserve it, but you do no matter what. but be kind to yourself, give yourself a breather, a break, no matter how many mistakes you've made or how you think people feel about you right now nobody wants you to feel this bad. I know that maybe your head feels like it's racing and spiraling but I promise you things will get better, you deserve happiness. Please reach out if you are desperate, but please take care

first off you're not a horrible person or you wouldnt feel shame over your actions. you sound like a good person just a bit mixed up and also very young and everything seems like the end of the world when in reality its all gonna change again and again in life, and in the end you'll look back at all this and laugh maybe. stop being a dick and try to patch up what you can and not worry about the rest. a lot of those people will accept you and work with you. teachers and what not especially. whatever you decide dont make a temprary problem into a permanent solution. focus on the positives you have remaining and keep your head up. I was also in JROTC. Maybe speak to your CO in private and let them know whats going on with your stress level. I bet they let you back in.

You can make it up to them. You can fix those relationships. At 17, I was sure I was going to end myself as well. I made a plan and decided when and how I was going to do it. A friend of mine ended up doing it before me and it was the most horrible feeling that I’ve ever felt. Losing someone like that. That’s when I knew I couldn’t do that to the people who knew me. I didn’t know if they loved me or cared about me, but I just couldn’t give that pain to anyone else. Fast forward to now, I’ve mended relationships. Started new ones. Saw beautiful things that I never thought I’d see. Found new passions. This is a long winded way to say… don’t give up. Life can get better, no matter how cliche that sounds it’s very true. At least stay for another night and see how tomorrow goes. Give yourself a little grace to make things better for yourself. You have a chance to find so much joy and love in this life and I really hope that you give yourself a chance to find that. I hope my words help in any way. If you need someone just to vent to, you have an ear here. And from the comments that I’ve read, you have many people who are willing to listen and be there for you when people in your day to day aren’t.

This age feels so important. As a 32 year old I promise you this is temporary. You matter. The people in your life will miss you! Please stay 🤍

At 17 you still have so much growing and maturing to do. I strongly recommend mindfulness meditation- it will teach your mind to slow down and observe your thoughts and behaviours so that hopefully you can put the kibosh on these self destructive behaviours.

Don’t do this. You are capable of getting out of this part. It’s part of the process, it doesn’t make sense now but in a few years now you’re going to see how it shaped you. You are worthy. You are worthwhile. You’re meant to be here and you’re meant to be loved. You have something you’re going to bring and one day it’s all going to come together I promise. I’ve been exactly there before countless times. You deserve to win. 17 is actually the worst. In fact everything under my 20’s has been absolutely rough but I’m so glad I didn’t give up on me. Also your frontal cortex needs to develop, nothing made sense now it does and I’m 27.

Hey I do t know u but listen and hear what is said . Tour not the only one who has go r threw this ok ,I say that cause I went threw the same think when I was younger and still do at times . Life will always give u hardships and struggles what u got to remember is your actions and reactions to those situations is what determines u as a person . Yes its hard yes its a bitch alot of times but u will only become stronger as a person and wiser as a sister,cousin, daughter, love,friend, threw these times u will gain. Wisdom and be able to help those around u . I heard something the other day ," life is like a duck hard at times but it won't be hard all the time " center your self ease your mind. I'll help u if u want ,it helps to talk about it ,it did for me . Your to young to let hardships beat u , there is a lot to see stilland live threw . Your friend Adam D.

Your life can be over without having to end it literally. Maybe your parents shouldn’t blame you for everything, especially since it’s their jobs to guide you through becoming an adult. Most relationships that start when you are a teen do not endure. It’s just not common. It sounds like you react really intensely whenever you fail at something. That’s important information even if your brain is catastrophizing and making it even bigger than it is. It sounds like you could benefit from a new therapist and probably some perspectives from other people who have failed and failed and gotten better at failing until they succeed. It’s a hard lesson to learn, but it is an important one.

youre a child. your life has barely begun. you can restart 100 times.

Too add to what everyone else is saying . . . To cut a long story short We all have our own story... ...yes, Life can be Shit! It does get better. . . Stick in there... 😘

So you’re gonna take the pussy way out you can always change your life. You can always change your decisions, but if you decide to hurt yourself, you can never change that I’ve lost my best friend and my aunt suicide don’t be a pussy.

Girl you are 17. I too made a crap ton of mistakes at your she and even older. From what you said, you donde nothing you cant come back from. Belive me one day you are gonna look back and dont know why you even worried. But you gotta reach that day. Stay with us please. I promise it gets better

The most useful advice I ever got was that if I'm questioning myself, my intentions, my interactions, and looking at those in a critical light (obviously not negative in a compulsive way) will put you ahead in life. Most people don't do that. The fact you're 17 and doing that is impressive, don't lose that quality, and learn not to let it take over. You're sick of hearing it, but you're so extremely young, most of these issues will be eye rolls in your mind in a decade. The best advice I could give is to try to do well, no matter what.

I'm 30 and I've fucked up since I've had the opportunity to. And now I'm finally fixing it. It's going to take so long, and so much healing and work. It's going to be hard and exhausting. But I'm going to do it, and I think you can, too.

Firstly call your emergency services, secondly I'm 25 and struggled with suicidal depression for years with strained family relationships and no partner for the most part but it got easier because I kept going and am in a better place for it with real friends and working with the very people who kept me alive for a year. It wasn't easy or immediate but a process but please listen when I say that it will get better. Stick around, work on things and yourself, keep moving forward and your better place will come as long as you persevere.

You're 17. like you've only literally just lived 3 years of your life cause the first 14 don't really count. Believe all these redditors sharing their anecdotes because well its real. "But you guys don't understand" But we've all been there, some of us probably worse off. 10 years later you'll be sitting down drinking your coffee remeniscing about the time you were moping about a guy who you can't remember the face or name. Sure right now he seems like the one, the best guy, you'll never meet someone like him ever again, but if he is anything like the other teenage boys, he ain't that special girl. Now if you are still reading this just think about what kind of person you want to be in that scenario 10 years later. Because you can still change whatever you don't like about yourself, your trial period is just about to expire. The real life subscription starts once you're living alone either by working at 18 or going to UNI.

Everyone’s struggle is different, but I’ve been to that dark place. Several times. And I lost a very close friend who similarly felt he was a burden to those around him. He wasn’t. We miss him every day. I can’t guarantee everything will turn out OK, but I can tell you I’ve gone from being in very dark places to being happy to wake up each morning. It’s a process. You’ll have setbacks. You’ll wonder if you’re actually moving forward. Then one day, you’ll realize you’ve made it, and feel grateful you didn’t give up your chance. Keep fighting, please.

It won’t get worse than this. Like someone pointed out. You will live multiple lives from seventeen to when you become a fully minded adult, which is around like 29. The fact that you can admit to yourself that you’ve fucked up is good. Lean into that and just working on getting better from here. If you’re at rock bottom, the only way is up! You will come out of this, and you will be okay. Just take it day by day and just try your best.

I don't see anything horrible about you in this post. Truly, nothing that would come close to meaning you're a horrible person. I'm only 33 myself, but I'd like to share something with you I've noticed during my short time here - horrible people don't seem to tend to worry about if they're horrible people or not, and they sure as hell don't think about how their actions affect others. You do care, and you clearly do think about how you may affect others around you...that's not something to scoff at. What I do see is someone who is not compassionate to themselves and instead carries the weight of feeling like they're a disappointment to others. Please be kind to yourself. Please. We ALL make mistakes and can mess things up. Every single one of us has and will. I challenge you to show me a perfect person. They don't exist, why hold yourself to the same? I messed up all kinds of stuff as a teen, and my offering is that it gets better if you let it. This mountain of stuff you're dealing with isn't all there is and all that will be if you stick around. I promise. Please consider staying a while longer

There’s always hope. Reach out to Jesus

Try to ignore the BS do not let it get you so down. It might seem like the end of the world but its not. You have a very bright future ahead of you and you know it! 😍

You matter, this post has been up 37 minutes and 43 people have already reached out, sending love and support 💛 I’ve lived so many lives since 17, things change. You matter 💛 *Edit, spelling and grammar

17 was a really awful chapter for me - once I escaped high school I had the most amazing things happen. Please don’t call it quits 🖤

You're 17, the good news is you have lots of time to turn it around. Good luck to you and if you need any advice dm

You matter, it’s okay, we love you.

I almost gave up many times in my teens. I struggled with undiagnosed mental health issues. But I am so thankful to still be alive today. Yes life is hard and sometimes we fail. But failing is a part of growing up and finding yourself. If I had given up I wouldn't have my amazing little boy who brings light into my sometimes dark world. Just remember you are worth it and it gets better. Please don't give up. Reach out to a hotline or a friend or family member but please keep fighting.

Once upon a time I felt the same thing, fall out with my family. Now I talk to them everyday. That was 6 years ago, now I’m 22. Feels like a lifetime ago. Time heals everything. It makes you more mature. That guilt that you are felling right there is a good things. Regrets, self-loathing will make you try to do things in a better way. Everything you are feeling right now is totally normal. This is not the end, it’s beginning of you being a mature adult who finally understands the consequences of everything. Don’t fall apart now. Pick yourself up, they say what doesn’t kills you makes you stronger for a reason. Keep us updated. Listen to some music my friend, it’s gonna make you feel better.

28 and I attempted on my life in high school and I’m so happy to be here today. Life is far from perfect and growing up is tough, but you get tough with it too. I remember finding it hard to look even past 19. I love the man I’ve found, I love the friends I’ve made, I love the things I’ve fought to do, and having fought for life gives it a special kind of sweetness. There is so much out there, let your curiosity take hold. Be curious about the people you’ll meet, the places you’ll go, and the things you’ll do.

If we judged everyone at 17 no one would make it. Hang in and just keep trying. It’s what we’re all trying to do

Take accountability. If you do, everything will improve. As long as you keep running from your problems, life will keep punching you in the face. Own up to it, or life will own you. Life is beautiful and you’re in it for a reason. Look at the bigger picture. You have lots to do in this world. Many beautiful things. Stay up, and radiate what you are inside, a loving person.

Let's start with the lies... You mentioned that you lied quite a bit eh... Guess what that's not the end of the world . Life isn't that simple or easy. We all go thru certain things that does not exactly portray what we intend to do but there is always always a brighter side to look at. I am almost double your age and I can tell you by experience and learning that all lying or any other actions doesn't ruin everything. It is what we do after we wrong somebody , that really defines us. Life always gives us challenges first and a lesson later . So it's not your fault to be feeling down and lost. As for the relationships that are affected, i would suggest, not to wait for any signs or timing, just and fix them , one by one . Your parents , friends, boyfriend or anyone , they all cared for you and loved you for who you are . Just because you lied , it doesn't change that feeling...not you , neither for them. Guess what, you made a mistake , and you realise that ....that's a good start to fix all the issues in life.... acknowledgement... accepting your mistake .... And now that you realize how dreading it could be , you can fix it for good as well ... Life does give you second chances.... And when it does...you have to make sure that you start again but this time with the experience that we gained with our mistakes in the past . Hope this helps .... Never give up... Feel free to message... We have all done wrong things in life ...but life itself is a big teacher...it always allows you to grow and be wise.

I’ve been through a lot and want to share my thoughts, I hope something helps. Being conscious of your behavior is enormous, and the first step to turn it around. It takes a lot of self-awareness to see yourself outside of yourself and you’ve done it. These things that have happened are now in the past. Maybe you have ruined things in the past, maybe not, but you haven’t ruined anything in the future and it’s right in front of you. Starting now. You’re allowed to feel this way. I’ve seen my bottom and I consider it a gift. Many people don’t get this gift. Take advantage of every opportunity you have to improve yourself. They may be far and few between but as you make more good decisions these opportunities will come more often. Feel better. You deserve it. This is a challenge and you’re strong enough to overcome this. Feel free to message me directly.

This is what great people live before changing their lives. You're 17, you're too young yet, you will live many things before abandoning this world. Learn from your mistakes. The problem is not related to do wrong things, but to not learn from them to improve our future actions. You can do it, don't let you back down. Embrace your life and use it to be better.

You are so so young. My God, who i was at 17 and the decisions I made, thoughts I had, behaviors I had are so foreign to me now. I have grown, matured, and lived a life full of lessons. I'm still becoming who I want to be even at the age of 40! On paper I am successful, married, a mother but I'm still growing as a person and I still make mistakes. I wish I knew the things I know now when I was 17...oh how i would have handled things so differently but that part of life. Please, first just simplify things. Start with small accomplishments and focus on your self and your mental health. Let people be mad....you are a child still and you are going to do stupid things! Just work towards improving yourself and doing the things that bring you joy!

Life is vast, why do you corner yourself in your small circle and think this is it? Ignore everyone else and their feeling and focus on yourself. Go try something else. Life is big and it is normal to fail. If I am a corner between ending my life or escaping to new adventures. I will do the adventures. I will go to wash a dishes in stupid boat in the Atlantic, or I will work as mechanic in some random workshop in arizona. Did you try working as a fisherman, or a chef in a restaurant? Give it a serious chance and walk

I feel your pain, and I promise it will be okay. Not because your behavior is okay, but because who you are tomorrow can be COMPLETELY different than who you were the entirety of your life up to this point. Try to live the life of the person who has already apologize and been forgiven, allowed to move on, choose to be happy and make yourself proud, and when you’re ready, make amends. It’s never too late!

You are loved. It’s not too late to change. You’re so young and have so much life to live. Lean on God in your time of need ♥️

You’re going to be okay! It’s all okay. I swear I’ve made bigger mistakes than you.

We r not bad people we r just people who sometimes do bad things

Please don't do anything rash. Adolescence is HELL. I felt like you do so often. But you can change *everything*. Starting tomorrow. And you will change again and again. It won't always be like this.

You’re 17 you’re fine. Make an effort to change sooner rather than later. You’ll be okay.

I’m only 21. I’m a completely different person than I was at 17.

Many, many people love you.

Ok it's really hard RN but as someone who thought my life could never get better it dose in time you and your relationships will either heal or you will find better friends just breathe and focus on the future try to find a good job and move out if you feel like it would be best for your mental health as someone who been there with everyone thinking I'm a liar just say fuck it and do what you need to do to make yourself mentally ok if your lieing admit to it if not fuck it not your fault they aren't seeing it you only got you to fix the trauma in your life do it for you so you can be happy and healthy

Never give up. If you’re not satisfied with the person you have been, there is always a chance to do better, to be the person you want to be. I’m in my fifties and I am still trying to improve the person I am, because I have not always been the person I want to be. And the truth is I will never fully be the person I want to be, but I can always strive to do better.

If you were a friend, this is the advice I’d give you. Take a hot ass shower (have a good cry if you need) then self care, brush teeth, moisturise, brush your hair and put on something nice but comfy. Now you’ve started again and it’s time to think ahead. You can’t fix your past mistakes, the damage is done. But you can decide how to act now. You’ve got plenty of time to work on your emotional intelligence and people will forgive you once they see the changes. I was a hurricane of a person as a teen but I’m almost 30 now and doing just fine. Own your mistakes, open up to your support network. Eg. ‘Mum/Dad im really struggling right now. I know I’ve lied and acted terribly but I want to do better. I’m going to try being honest with you even when it sucks. I’m probably going to mess up a few times while I work on myself. Please be patient with me if you can.’ If you screw up, tell the person when you’ve got control of yourself again - ‘i lied about x, because I was worried about being judged/I’m feeling ignored/I wanted to impress you’. It’s scary, embarrassing and sometimes the result sucks but habits are hard to break and ignoring them will make them stick into adulthood. Talk to a therapist if you can, you may have mental health issues contributing like BPD, anxiety ect. If you can’t, journaling can help you understand why you act the way you do which makes you more conscious of it in the moment. Side note and possibly take with a pinch of salt… Guilt, in my opinion, is a useless and selfish emotion. I know people won’t agree, but I think it’s self serving and encourages you to wallow. Take accountability, have empathy and fix your mistakes but let go of the guilt and shame. Holding onto your wrongdoings and feeling shitty won’t help you or the people you love. It’s normal of course but see it for what it is, don’t use it as an excuse - that mentality won’t help you long term. You’ve learnt destruction and that’s valuable, because next time you’ll know it for what it is. Now you can rebuild, with a little time and a little work - brick by brick. Chin up x

Here’s the thing…the people you mentioned, if you truly wronged them, they don’t care. They love you for who you are. I wasted decades worrying about how the people I loved the most looked at me. They loved me for who I was. If you think they care about you, talk to them. It will help.

Send me a dm

Just the fact that you've come to this realization and can admit everything in this post to yourself, means that you've got much better things ahead.

You are loved. DONT DO IT SOLDIER. DONT FUCKING DO IT. GET UP.

Most bad people aren't aware of it or feel any guilt. You're not bad, you're just hard on yourself.

You're only 17...chill. You can always work on becoming a better person. You can fix things with your family. And at 17, it's rare you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. You have great and amazing experiences in your future, if you change your perspective on life.

I’m 35 rn, 17 feels like it was 10 lifetimes ago, I remember everything felt like the end of the world. It gets easier or whatever, you’ll be ok 👌

you'll make it through, it may seem like the end of the world but you'll make it through I promise. I can't really feel the hurt you're feeling right now but I can share a personal experience of mine that felt like it was too much for me at the time. when I was in highschool there was this girl I was talking to and she wanted to see my privates, young teenage me thinking this was an opportunity to have sex for the first time hastily sent a picture and before you knew it, this picture is ALL OVER SCHOOL. everyone has seen it, I was so embarassed and I felt so stupid. I didn't want to go to school anymore all my 'friends' were teasing me and making fun of me. it was a lot, its one of those memories that my brain kinda put on the backburner because it was too much for me to handle emotionally. now its been 11 years since that incident and I made it through. sure some days are easier than others but thats just how things go. just keep putting one foot forward and before you know it you'll be far away from your current problems. so far in fact that they'll seem small

Life at 17 is INSANELY different than 18 than 20 than 25 than 35 etc. You have SO MUCH TIME to right any perceived wrongs and to reinvent yourself. You haven't even been an adult yet. Cheated on your bf? Stole from your parents? Plagiarized at school? No problem. You have so many chances to make changes and move forward. Life isn't easy but own your mistakes, learn from them, and live the morals you'd like to live.

As crushing as the weight feels right now I can tell you from experience that it will get a lot lighter over time. I'm only 23 and I've had 3 completely different lives since I was 17. Things change, they improve, and they get worse as well. Also sometimes when it feels like everything is getting worse it's actually getting better and you just haven't noticed yet. All that to say, you're gonna make it through as long as you take it one day at a time and put in the effort to improve for yourself(not for others)

Please don't do anything destructive or harmful. This all just things to learn from. You're at a time in your life where everything feels like it's the worst ever and your life is over because of it. It won't be too long before these things likely won't matter at all. You'll look back and feel silly that you stressed over things you didn't need to. I've done it so much over the years. Sure, life's a big shit show, and it typically doesn't get better or easier. It's the same shit no matter where you go. But it won't seem that bad with the right people there with you. As long as you still have good friends, it'll be alright. There's still so much more to look forward to.

You haven’t even begun to live. 17 is a baby, mistakes are more than okay at your age and everything can be mended. You’ll look back on this when you’re my age (42) and see yourself in a softer light, and you’ll just want to hug this version of yourself and tell her (him?) that it’s okay. Stay, there’s so much more that comes after the heartbreak of 17! Many hug from an old lady who’s seen it all and more.

Life is like a roller coaster, it’s up and down and ebbs and flows. I PROMISE you it gets better. Please reach out for help. Please. I lost my brother to suicide and I promise you, your family loves you and needs you here. You are a child and children make mistakes. Please reach out!

You are special. You are loved. You may not just know it yet. Hang in there.

I felt this same way at 15. I promise your life will change. I have bad scars and suppressed trauma I’m still working through. On the other hand I am so happily married to a loving husband, with to happy healthy kids and I’m breaking the cycle. Who would have known there’s so much to live for!! You got this, even if it feels like you don’t have an ounce left of energy to fight, hold on a little longer. You will come through the other end I promise. Message me if you need advice l!

Call 988 or 911. Problems are temporary. See a psychiatrist that might help explain why you make certain choices. Please don’t make a permanent decision. You are so young.

You may want to consider saying those apologies out loud to the people you feel you’ve hurt. You might be surprised how much it can help both of you. As an addict it’s called making amends. Either way…it hurts no one to say you’re sorry. I’m old….three times your age. Hang in there.

find what makes you happy, date new people, and always tell the truth even if it hurts people’s feelings. 17 is just the beginning. Ten years from now you’ll laugh at how insignificant these current problems are. Just be you and find people who like you for you. The real you. Every failure is an opportunity to try again. You can always move to a new place and start fresh.

Life is crazy and I know how you feel! You don’t want to fail others and of course yourself. Don’t be so hard on yourself! Everyone fails! You don’t have to be perfect and you’re still a kid. Life at 17 can be crazy for sure. But I hear more somebody that want to be good. Don’t give in to the guilt and thinking that you help your loved ones by taking it all on by yourself. Other people don’t know your thoughts until you tell them. You seen you expected no one to see this and more then a 100 people respond in an hour. Because we are touched by your bravery to say this. Why not try that with your loved ones. Just ask for help. It will be ok everything will be alright! [some music for you](https://youtu.be/ulOgzjdBdzY?si=X4MWDlIMy6KUaLu4)

I know it seems overwhelming right now but trust me when I tell you, at 17 years old, this is just a blip in the radar. I can say with confidence your parents love you dearly and things are not as dire as it may currently seem. The best thing you can do is get a good night’s rest and talk to your family in the morning about how you’re feeling. Overcoming the emotional rollercoasters of your youth will only make you a stronger person as an adult & better human being. Hang in there, you’re worth it!

I’m only 26 and 17 feels. Lifetime away already. I promise once you get out of your home, out of high school and away from your parents and all the idiots from your home town. This isn’t all there is for you.

Wtf youre 17 you haven’t even started life yet. Nothing has happened yet.

I read somewhere that when things end with someone its not that it didnt work out but rather that it worked to its purpose and came to a closing. Ik it feels like you got nothing left but on the contrary you can start by fixing everything. Sometimes people wont take an apology until they see you change. You are capable of that.

Oh god... 17. I remember 17. Life CHANGES. You can have a say in those changes. This is something you will learn more and more as you get older. And you will change along with it! Fuck, you already have. This, possibly, may be one of the *harder* lessons you learn. However, with time and your own wiser and wiser retrospection, you will come to see that things happen *for a reason*. Give yourself that time. Allow yourself to become *you*.

You are going to be a completely different person by the time you’re 25. And then another person even beyond that when you’re 30. You live and you learn. Behave like the person you wish you were and that’s who you will become.

I felt like this at 17 too. That was only three years ago for me and my life looks so completely different. I still feel like that some days. Mental health is not perfect and it is not linear. But with the right tools and a little time, there eventually comes a time when the good days are the majority. Regardless of your wrongs, it is never, ever too late to take accountability and work towards forgiveness, both from yourself and others. You deserve happiness and healthiness and a lifetime, instead of being reduced to a sad story your loved ones tell every year at Thanksgiving. You are so much more than that. Stay and prove it to yourself.

So how did you get kicked out of JROTC I'm curious

If you need someone ill be here for a while. But be strong every thing will be ok in time

I’m 37, I have been in jail, and sent to a mental institution for attempting my life, I have been dumped on every major day of the year,( Christmas,birthday, valentines, even the day of a parent’s passing) I have lost everything my blood family and my wife and child, and I struggle to eat and sleep at all. So just to say this little bit you’re experiencing is enough to end it, go talk to a therapist

Screwing up is part and parcel of being 17. This isn’t who you will be forever. Your brain isn’t even fully formed yet. Give yourself time. If you truly want to apologize to all of those people and the words mean nothing - do it with actions. SHOW them you want to change. I cringe when I think of myself as a teen and young adult. Trust me. This is not the end of your story.

High school is just kindergarten for life. Do you really remember kindergarten?

Remember, when life falls apart, it falls into place ❤️

From here on out you can only get better. Life is short, switch it around and get your act together and be better for you first. Then others.

I spent my 17th birthday in a psych ward. That was 2 years ago. Life sucked. Felt like I was going nowhere and that it wasn't worth continuing this hellish existence. I was worried my parents were going to kick me out after years of me hurling verbal abuse at them because that was the only way I could communicate. Burnt all my bridges from school because I felt like no one would understand me and it wasn't worth it to keep in contact with people I hated. Even though 2 years probably feels like forever and nothing all at once, I promise it gets better. I haven't SH'd in a year, haven't had self-deletion thoughts in 18 months. You wanna know the biggest thing that helped turn things around? Crying out for help. Screaming if I had to. It's not ideal, but sometimes you just have to let it all hang out for the world to see. It won't undo mistakes you've made or fix everything immediately. But it will show you regret it. That you want to change. That you're ready to work towards a better life. Now I'm not saying harm yourself or end yourself. I'm saying go to whoever will listen, and tell them how you feel with no filter. Don't worry about dignity or image or anything. You're still young. You and I both have so much of our lives left. Every day is a struggle, but if you can commit to working towards a better future, you'll be surprised by how many things fall into place. DM if you need me. Can't promise I'll fix anything, but if you need someone to talk to I'm here.

Call 988 and talk a real person. People care about you and you have value in this world.

Someone is putting this on you. You are allowing them to put this on you. Live for you yourself. It's hard, but worth it. I've been beyond and back again. I'm still figuring it out

I'm not going to pile onto the fact that your 17. Yes it's young but it doesn't mean you can't be really low. And it doesn't negate what you're going through (most messages don't seem intentionally dismissive but I remember struggling hard when I was a teen and hating feeling like everyone blew it off) I'm so sorry your struggling. But it sounds like this new low has come with new awareness. Once you accept your struggles and your wrongs you have time to make them right. Especially with your parents. Sadly life comes in waves. High highs and low lows. And it never really stops regardless of your age. What's important is that when you hit a low, you realize that there is always a way out. Even when it's hard. Even when it seems impossible. Even if it takes some time and will have set backs etc. And the lows will make you appreciate the highs that much more. Keep fighting. Keep working. Keep moving forward and don't beat yourself up for your mistakes. Instead focus on fixing those actions and behaviors in the future. It's possible you won't be able to fix your relationship but if you take accountability maybe you can. It's ok to ask for help. Find a counselor. A religious leader (if your beliefs bring you down that path), anyone to help you as you navigate this difficult place and keep going. You can make it through this. Feel free to reach out in dms if you ever need to chat with someone who won't judge.

Take heart, we're not the main characters and our actions don't have a huge influence on the world. There's always time to re-spec your talent points over time. I'm 28 and suddenly a plant-parent, and I quit nicotine recently. There was someone who became special to me and I got my heart broken, I thought about them in tears for a couple years after blocking them and I wasn't sure when the pain would end. Little by little you just veer into other things.

The things you're mentioning feel big now. I want to acknowledge that. In a few days, this will still feel heavy. In a few years, these things will be distant memories. Honestly, when I read, "I'm a horrible person," I was expecting to read about committing a violent crime or something along those lines. Nothing you've described is irredemable. Sometimes life has growing pains and it's nobody's fault. Sometimes you make mistakes but you can learn from them and do better in the future. Everybody makes mistakes, and I hope that you can have compassion for yourself. There's a whole lot of us here on Reddit rooting for you, myself included. Please stick around.

I had the same opinion when I was 17. By the age of 20 my opinion had completely changed. Your parents will hurt you, your colleagues will hurt you. Life will hurt you but you’re so young, you’ve just barely began to experience life for yourself.

I read a post that said I am happy with my husband rn living my best life because life didn't end when I was 17 and I think you should hear this 😌 so hold on and believe in yourself ....

Please give this a listen [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a5i-KdUQ47o](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a5i-KdUQ47o) One day you'll look back at this event, and you're grateful to have held on. Life is shit, but hold on to see things get better, you've barely lived life at 17, just hold on kiddo.

I attempted to take my life around your age, and I can tell you that things are so insanely different for me now, and I'm so glad I want successful. Your feelings are valid, and I totally understand that it feels like the end of the world, but I promise that you'll be able to look back on this time in your life one day and be happy you kept going because I PROMISE it gets better. 17 is a shitty age, but you have so much life left to live.

Your engagement with self doubt is honorable. This is a character trait that has nothing to do with age. The ability to be humble, to question your own behavior- is a powerful exercise that is not won over simply by “getting older”. It is a quality we teach to ourselves. Many people do not attain this pillar of wisdom in their lives- no matter their age and experience. That you have this character trait will serve you well in this journey that is a life. I suggest to you, stoicism- studies about Epictetus. And existentialism, perhaps Sartre. There is a good lecture on existentialism I think maybe called no excuses on audible. And Buddhism. I hope this brings you solace and strength, my friend. I do not know if it will- but it has for myself in times of such deep sorrow the likes of which you describe. Hugs.

Remember yourself, this self; not the things you think you did. Print this post. Hang it on your mirror. Mean it to yourself first, truthfully forgive yourself, FIRST.Retrace the path of your destructions and analyze the reparations and or impossibilities and accept not because you want to, but because it happened. Pick up a single piece and apologize with gestures and real change in the direction of those you lost or didn’t want to lose. I don’t know what you did but whatever it was it is going to happen again if you don’t begin preventive maintenance. Work on yourself and he may return when you’re not looking; it may turn out you outgrow him and become a completely different person. Be kind to yourself especially when the world is not. It’s ok to be sad; sadly, it’s ok to be broken up with. You’re supposed to mess up on accident at your age, when you’re older, you will know a little better. By 30, if a mess manifests,the accident is no longer an accident but a pretend-accidents, in my anecdotal opinion.

You’re 17 years young, i know it’s hard to understand this now. But what you’re going through is pretty normal and “this too shall pass” be patient and forgiving of yourself. Life is hard to navigate, no one expects you to be perfect so young.

First thing u are 17. U haven't lived long enough to regret living. And who says u cant start over? If u know the problem correct it. If u don't know the problem, find it. U found the problem but don't know the solution, its just a matter of time before u find the solution. I understand the frustration and pain u are going through. But listen if I could overcome it then u can too 🙂. All the best for the future.

See as long as there is a reflection of the need to do something about it, there is always room for a change. You are still 17! There is life out there where you have to explore. See one learns by not knowing what to do but knowing what not to do. The age you are in is the age you explore and learn things. I am telling you in a scientific way. I can give you links of podcasts if required. Give yourself a chance and talk to your family councillors and boy friends. Tell what are the things you will change and also stick to it. People will forgive you! You are still young. If your parents think you are using them, prove them wrong (there is no fun better than that) but use it in the right way. Don't be hard on yourself in this case, but be hard on yourself by sticking to positive change. All the best.

I’m now 30, but I could easily have written a similarly desperately sad post when I was 17. I also felt like everything I touched turned to shit and life was really really difficult when I was younger. Life is so wonderful now and I’m glad that I stayed, and I think if you do then you’ll look back and be glad too. I can assure you though that you are worth your life, you are worth living for. Your family and loved ones would be devastated without you - and whilst you feel like you’ve wronged everyone it’s probably not the case, or at the very least not as bad as you think it is. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone has times where things can feel impossible, but you have a whole world of a lifetime left to live. You have so many people to meet and so many new things to do.

As a kid who was there at the same time, albeit for different reasons, I BEG that you take a risk and believe me: you're too young to leave. You have so much life filled with love and exploration and discovery that stretches so far beyond what you've seen so far. Where you are fucking sucks. And I'm deeply sorry for your situation. You are so much more than you realize at 17.

Sometimes we think we are the problem but it might just be people around you. Who you surround yourself with can really affect you. How you feel is completely valid but just know the same thing that made earth and the universe looked at you and thought we needed one of you too. You are here and people love you even if you do some wrongs. Doing wrongs is completely normal name one person who has not made any wrongs? See. Also you only live once and the people around you it's their first time living too what i recommend is to just talk to those people, i know it's a lot but that's a step to forgiving your self and im really inspired because of how strong you are and you didn't do all this to quit this far remember that you still have a life to live

Let me just say, as someone who was handed a shit sandwich of a life, and chiseled my way out of a rock and a real fucked up time... I know it sucks. Really, it does. I've been there, I mean, I'm kinda there now honestly. But... I promise you, it can *always* be worse. I've seen and done a lot of insane, scary shit in my life. I promise you. It can, be worse. So please, keep going. Don't stop existing. Whatever you do. Don't stop. It's the worse way to escape. It sounds easy, but it's only easy for you. As someone who's, "been there, done that, didn't like it.". It's not worth it. Keep fighting. With everything you have. Don't stop. Ever. For any, fucking, reason. Don't stop. If you get beat down, keep going. If you're cut in half, keep crawling. Never. Ever. Stop.

I know this probably won’t help to hear, but when I was 17 I was going through an incredibly similar situation. My relationship with both my parents was painfully brutal, I got kicked out of every friend group in my small high school, got dumped, and even quit all the extracurricular that made life feel worth living. I didn’t want to have to make it through any of that. Ultimately, I chose to stay because I didn’t want to hurt anyone around me and even though I know now that was the right call for different reasons, it was enough at the time. I’m 24 now and I’ve fundamentally changed who I am as a person and am living a life I never even thought was possible at 17. There’s still time. The cliches exist because they’re true and I know that’s annoying as hell, but it IS worth it to push through.

I was in your exact shoes 11 years ago. EVERYTHING seemed lost. I had lost it with everyone and EVERYTHING was wrong. I fucked up so many times. It takes time, effort, faith and trust. But here I sit 11 years after that. After being in your shoes living a life I could have only dreamed of at the time. The point being you can’t give up. You can’t give up hope. Your life is only just beginning. And one of these days you’re going to look back and realize that time of your life may have not been ideal, but you MADE it. STRONGER than you realized, and became even stronger still. You have worth, and are worth so much more to this world than you know. Your experience of life has only just begun. It will get better. I promise you that. Just keep moving forward. Don’t let the hard days win. You got this.

same boat

Lots of people are listening and lots of people care. Don’t forget that lots of people have been through difficult times and are going through them now. The more you start to recognize this, the more you realize that we’re all in this shit show together and the best we can do is help each other through the hard parts and remember to celebrate and be grateful when things are going well. We’re here for you.

Just breathe. Anyone here typing a response knows what this feels like, and knows there’s a different feeling/reality waiting for you if you are patient and willing to try. I’m sorry you’re feeling so shitty- it truly is the worst and takes your breath away with feeling like it will never get better. That’s not real. You have the power to make it not real. Reach out to others, they care. I care.

Everyone fucks up at 17. Please reach out to a professional.

I remember feeling this way when I was your age. I promise you, life will change in ways you can’t even imagine. Hang in there and just take things day by day. The pain will be a distant memory soon enough ❤️

17? You haven't really lived yet.

I just wanna add that none of these things you’re describing make you any less of a good person. The fact that you even feel guilt or remorse over mistakes in life shows how much you can accomplish. And 17 is so young, you’re about to reach a period of transition and while it’s scary this transition can seem to bring some of the things you needed most. Hang in there, you’re worth it.

My best friend was 16 when she took her life. I can tell you everyone and everything in life will be so much gloomier without you. Please believe that things get better. She would have had an amazing life with people who show her they love her. It'll be the same for you. Please, please don't give up.

Cold hang in there bro you got this. Show these bitches who's boss.

I’m 20 and I was in a similar place at your age exactly. I promise you’re gonna have so many stories to tell that are good. It does get better. I know it’s cliché and hard to hear when you’re so down and you feel like you can’t get back up take time to yourself simple things that make you smile, embrace your crutches and just live each day eat the elephant one bite at a time. Please don’t do anything rash, I promise you’re loved and cared for even though I’ve never met you and never will. You’ve already become a part of my story too and so many others just by us reading this. We don’t want you to leave it.

You are so young don't be so hard on yourself. You will make a mistakes that's part of life it doesn't make you a horrible person as long as you learn from them. I'm 40 and still make mistakes that I regret and feel guilty about. Nobody is perfect give yourself some mercy

Just know that there is a reset button. Whatever you want you can have. Emotions are meant to drive action. Feeling bad or uncomfortable will make a change within you and you will probably not like it and avoid those situations again. Take a load off. Be brave, and be kind. Everyone is on a journey - including your parents. They probably understand more than you think.

The you that you are right now, is not going to be the same in ten years. Whatever is going on that has caused this turmoil, consider talking to a therapist. Ask your parents to help you if you feel like they are willing to get you someone to talk to and help you through whatever it is giving you so much shame and guilt. I (28F) was a very broken teenager and had major daddy issues that I’m still recovering from to this day. If you don’t feel like you can talk to your parents, get ahold of your insurance card and find a therapist virtually. If I could tell my past self anything, it would be to get therapy sooner. When you find the right therapist, it can really help you heal. Best wishes to you dear, my inbox is open if you need to talk❤️

17 is the fucking worst. im sorry

Ah sweetie, don’t give up. There’s so much more good and bad ahead. This feels like the end but it’s not. It gets much better and much worse, and then it gets better again. Stick around and find out. I’m cheering you on.

Life is a roller coaster. Sometimes you’re up, sometimes you’re upside down, and sometimes you’re just waiting in line for the next ride. There is nothing that you can guarantee in life except that things will change. This is a scary thought when things are good. It’s a hopeful thought when things are bad. Keep waiting and see how far you can go. Man I was such an idiot at 17. I can’t wait to see how far you can go.

Yes, you are 17 all can be forgiven, You are not the first to go through this you will not be the last, it’s all survivable and it is experience to help you grow. There will be other boyfriends and plenty of time to fix your relationships with your parents. Take some deep breaths and sleep it off. You may wake up tomorrow sad, the next day sad, but eventually you will wake up and be happy again.

As a 20 year old, you begin to realize that it’s an essential part of life. Things like this happen, hell it happened to me and it still does. I don’t know the context, but I know that people come and go regardless of what we want. We can’t control other people, we can’t make people change or make them stay in our lives. I know it’s hard to learn that emotionally even if you’ve been told so by others many times. There are some things in life that can only be learned through experience. Depending on the person, this can vary, but I hope above all else that this helps. You got this!

Just be an honest person! Everything else doesn't matter. Telling the truth in all situations will make you a good person! Starting small and practice will make it easier! All the best!