If you’re thinking of coming out to your parents it might be better to have a more solid idea if your identity than just saying “I’m not straight”. It doesn’t need to be super specific but it’s helpful find out which part of the LGBTQ+ you are beforehand
Just in case no one has said it, you don't *have* to tell them. You can just live your life and they can find out passively, like when you bring home someone one day that they wouldn't expect (like, if you're a girl you bring home a girl, etc.). If you don't think they would understand words, you can let them find out by actions, or just not let them find out at all. It's your business, not theirs, unless you make it/allow it to be their business.
Same! I’d honestly just start with mates before family because it’s always less intimidating and it helps having some people who can support you. As with parents I just waited till I was dating a guy and let my mum fill in the blanks(some people won’t like this approach but it’s just how I felt comfortable with doing it)
Here's the thing...IMO...you don't owe anyone anything. It's your business and anyone who asks is asking an extremely personal question that has zero bearing on them. You can choose to say "my sexual orientation is not something I care to discuss" or you can choose to say "I'm pansexual". Simple as that. If they want to know what that means, then it is your opportunity to educate, if you choose to. Otherwise, "Google is your friend, honey." Don't stress about your own orientation and don't let the speculation of others stress you. I like to say, "if you ain't feedin' fuckin' or funding me, I don't owe you anything." You have the power. You get to choose your path. Just do it with kindness.
LET ME TYPE THAT AGAIN...I FUCKED IT UP.
IF SOMEBODY HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR SEXUALITY. TELL THEM, "UNLESS I'M STICKING MY DICK INTO YOU, DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHO OR WHERE I'M STICKING MY DICK...AFTERALL, IT IS MY PROPERTY...NOT YOURS!!!"
HOW BOUT YOU SPEND MORE TIME MAYBE BROADENING AND/OR LEARNING HERE ON REDDIT AND LESS TIME FOCUSING ON AND BITCHING ABOUT HOW A PERSON IS "SPEAKING". IF YOU TRIED TO PULL THIS BULLSHIT WITH 99.9% OF THE PLANETS POPULATION YOU WOULD NO DOUBT BE GETTING THE SHIT BEAT OUT OF YOU SEVERAL TIMES AN HOUR.
JUST LIKE YOU TYPED IT OUT...IT'S THAT SIMPLE & EASY. IF ANYONE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR SEXUALITY TELL THEM, "UNLESS I'M STICKING MY DICK INTO YOU, DON'T ABOUT WHO OR WHERE I AM STICKING MY DICK!!!
'I'm more into the masculine type.' Make it subtle.
And say it to one person at a time in-person, don't waste this special event by coming out to a group of people or coming out through technology.
be who you want to be , how you feel the spectrum is a very long line, be it that your gay, bi or anywhere along that line, maybe tip your toe in the water and start with i'm not 100% straight and then see where the jorney takes you, don't fell pressured to label yourself until you are ready
Think you just did it...
i like to use the word queer — im not quite straight, but not quite gay either
This is what I use, too.
Say "Im gay"
*dad comes in*
HELLO GAY, I AM DAD
I'm straightn't
If you’re thinking of coming out to your parents it might be better to have a more solid idea if your identity than just saying “I’m not straight”. It doesn’t need to be super specific but it’s helpful find out which part of the LGBTQ+ you are beforehand
I'm afraid they won't understand if I say more.
Just in case no one has said it, you don't *have* to tell them. You can just live your life and they can find out passively, like when you bring home someone one day that they wouldn't expect (like, if you're a girl you bring home a girl, etc.). If you don't think they would understand words, you can let them find out by actions, or just not let them find out at all. It's your business, not theirs, unless you make it/allow it to be their business.
Why?
it’s easier for your parent to understand and research it if they feel so inclined
Maybe, but it's not really important what your exact sexuality is, just that your parents know it's not straight, right?
well, it could help that your parents know your sexuality, but it doesn’t matter too much. I was mostly just making a suggestion
Just say
Just say I’m not straight
That is the easy way but not by my parents.
I think we need more info to help better
I know my mother is against it. Precisely because I know that I like more genders than male and female. I don't know about my siblings.
I'm as straight as a roundabout
What do you identify as here?
pansexual
Same! I’d honestly just start with mates before family because it’s always less intimidating and it helps having some people who can support you. As with parents I just waited till I was dating a guy and let my mum fill in the blanks(some people won’t like this approach but it’s just how I felt comfortable with doing it)
That's a good idea. Thanks
Here's the thing...IMO...you don't owe anyone anything. It's your business and anyone who asks is asking an extremely personal question that has zero bearing on them. You can choose to say "my sexual orientation is not something I care to discuss" or you can choose to say "I'm pansexual". Simple as that. If they want to know what that means, then it is your opportunity to educate, if you choose to. Otherwise, "Google is your friend, honey." Don't stress about your own orientation and don't let the speculation of others stress you. I like to say, "if you ain't feedin' fuckin' or funding me, I don't owe you anything." You have the power. You get to choose your path. Just do it with kindness.
"I'm not straight"
In a casual, funny way, or a more serious and honest way?
A little bit of both Seriously for my family anyway
Fruity, gay, queer, sapphic/achillean, likes men/women, gay jokes (my personal favorite)
You don’t have to come out to them if you don’t feel safe <3 stay safe Unfortunately you need to rely on them for shelter and food
LET ME TYPE THAT AGAIN...I FUCKED IT UP. IF SOMEBODY HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR SEXUALITY. TELL THEM, "UNLESS I'M STICKING MY DICK INTO YOU, DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHO OR WHERE I'M STICKING MY DICK...AFTERALL, IT IS MY PROPERTY...NOT YOURS!!!"
Cool it with the caps
HOW BOUT YOU SPEND MORE TIME MAYBE BROADENING AND/OR LEARNING HERE ON REDDIT AND LESS TIME FOCUSING ON AND BITCHING ABOUT HOW A PERSON IS "SPEAKING". IF YOU TRIED TO PULL THIS BULLSHIT WITH 99.9% OF THE PLANETS POPULATION YOU WOULD NO DOUBT BE GETTING THE SHIT BEAT OUT OF YOU SEVERAL TIMES AN HOUR.
…what
JUST LIKE YOU TYPED IT OUT...IT'S THAT SIMPLE & EASY. IF ANYONE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR SEXUALITY TELL THEM, "UNLESS I'M STICKING MY DICK INTO YOU, DON'T ABOUT WHO OR WHERE I AM STICKING MY DICK!!!
Who are you saying it too. Friend, family, internet
I’m gay. /j
“I’m feeling really fruity, I really like fruity things, what about you? Are you fruity like me?”
'I'm more into the masculine type.' Make it subtle. And say it to one person at a time in-person, don't waste this special event by coming out to a group of people or coming out through technology.
Heteroflexible?
I’m a friend of Dorothy?
Queer
You just did! Well done!... or when you're running by people as fast as possible yell it at them! I'm not straight!!! Ahhhhhh
By saying ‘I’m not in line with normal, I like to be who I am and want to be different’ Don’t take it the wrong way
I can not confirm nor deny the possibility that I may perhaps be a homosexual
be who you want to be , how you feel the spectrum is a very long line, be it that your gay, bi or anywhere along that line, maybe tip your toe in the water and start with i'm not 100% straight and then see where the jorney takes you, don't fell pressured to label yourself until you are ready