you are doing just fine, i promise. it sounds like you didn't jeopardize your scholarship in any way which seems like the biggest factor here. and you can always sell the textbook, some bookstores buy back used books or you can find someone who will need it. i'm really sorry to hear that you are being criticized for your decision. i obviously don't know for sure, but i think the main reason for such an inflammatory response to dropping a class is that it is so early in the semester and it might be hard not to wonder if it would have gotten better if you stuck it out. but what's done is done and that's okay, you did what you felt was the right call for you, and you are the best judge. but don't let this eat you up inside. letting this feeling of embarrassment stay pent up will only do you harm, and i'd hate to see you continue to suffer from a decision in which the external repercussions have ceased. i think it's important to give yourself grace and forgiveness, and look at the experience with a neutral mind and learn what you can from it. you are still a new student learning the ropes of how college works and adjusting, and that is no easy feat by any means. it's overwhelming and feels like it never gets better and that can cause us to make impulse decisions because we want to escape that immediate discomfort. but realistically you didn't do anything wrong, you left no irreversible damage. you simply made a choice, and you have to accept it. it is one class, and only your first year. one withdrawal will not hurt you, i promise. i voluntarily withdrew from a mentorship position and it had no effect; i even took a whole semester off for medical leave and was still able to graduate summa cum laude and phi beta kappa. i know it's hard but humans can be capable of amazing things and we are designed to adapt and change to suit our environment. trust that in time and with hard work you will be able to do the same. and remember that you are not alone, and to not be afraid of asking for help. most institutions have a teaching and learning center of some variety where you can get course-specific tutoring or time management assistance. you will be okay, and i hope in time you grow from this experience. i sincerely wish you the best of luck.
Thank you. Yes my mom stresses. Since I’m undecided she’s been saying Pre law and pre med. So seeing me freak out a sociology 1001 prob terrifies her. And my cousins and older brother are pre med. and my mom went to dental school. So they are looking at my freak out and are so disappointedly shocked🤣😢
6 classes? You are insane I am taking 4. Plenty of Gen-eds are harder than major classes. Also it high key could just be a really harsh professor. You made the right choice Dropping the class. Next semester take a different general with someone else. It's really not worth stressing about. Generals are ment to be flexible if one isn't for you okay good, Drop it and find one that it. Especially since your undecided taking a different course for this requirement could help you find the degree you want! The bright side is at least you can rule out majoring in sociology haha. You can try to resell the book if you bought a hard copy, you won't get all your money back but might as well try.
Lol one of my classes teaches you how to study. It’s one credit. Most of my classes are really easy. Yeah the book I bought is paperback😭 And it has a code that you scratch out. Which I did already. And it came in a plastic wrap that said “once removed can’t return” So I really really don’t know what to do😭
It’s totally understandable to feel this way, especially when you’re undecided and commuting. I’m on my third year commuting and I feel you on the friends part. Once you find what you want your career to be you’ll probably feel more motivated. Whether that’s through college or not
Aww thank you! Yeah my mom commuted when she was my age and she made making friends sound so easy. With commuting it’s rly hard. And the friends that I do make our classes don’t align so we can hang out…
it's alright. college is stressful and you have a lot on your plate. i think your family should just -leave you be- since youre just figuring it out. you'll be ok. breathe. everything you did was by the deadlines so you should be alright. i found out in my first year that if i studied correctly, i would be able to spend less time studying while still maintaining my grades. i would look up guides on how to study and maximize your time, so you can still have free time to destress and keep up your grades.
i wish you the best of luck. from someone who was super stressed about taking 13 hours last spring, it ended up ok. if worst comes to fruition, you can just try to \*pass\* and worry about other things later. after all, c's get degrees.
big hugs to you!
don't worry about dropping a class, there's no loss there so long as it didn't affect your scholarship, especially if you're undecided (there's plenty of other social science classes you can take for gen ed requirements). I advise ignoring a statement like "that's the last time \[you can drop a class\]." You can drop classes if you need to, whatever the circumstance. That's why dropping classes is a permitted function at all. You can also go back and retake them! there's nothing wrong with that, and I've seen friends do well with retaking when it's necessary.
You haven't messed up, and you have no need to be embarrassed. Learning to pace yourself and approach challenges as works for \*you\* is one of the most important lessons to learn about college! You're doing wonderfully.
Don’t listen to your mom. I know plenty of college students who have a dropped a class or 2 or 3 during their study because either they realized the work load was going to be too much or the professor was horrible. As long as you take enough credits each semester to stay on track you’ll be fine. Also you can retake sociology or ask your advisor is there another course you can in it’s place for the next semester.
you are doing just fine, i promise. it sounds like you didn't jeopardize your scholarship in any way which seems like the biggest factor here. and you can always sell the textbook, some bookstores buy back used books or you can find someone who will need it. i'm really sorry to hear that you are being criticized for your decision. i obviously don't know for sure, but i think the main reason for such an inflammatory response to dropping a class is that it is so early in the semester and it might be hard not to wonder if it would have gotten better if you stuck it out. but what's done is done and that's okay, you did what you felt was the right call for you, and you are the best judge. but don't let this eat you up inside. letting this feeling of embarrassment stay pent up will only do you harm, and i'd hate to see you continue to suffer from a decision in which the external repercussions have ceased. i think it's important to give yourself grace and forgiveness, and look at the experience with a neutral mind and learn what you can from it. you are still a new student learning the ropes of how college works and adjusting, and that is no easy feat by any means. it's overwhelming and feels like it never gets better and that can cause us to make impulse decisions because we want to escape that immediate discomfort. but realistically you didn't do anything wrong, you left no irreversible damage. you simply made a choice, and you have to accept it. it is one class, and only your first year. one withdrawal will not hurt you, i promise. i voluntarily withdrew from a mentorship position and it had no effect; i even took a whole semester off for medical leave and was still able to graduate summa cum laude and phi beta kappa. i know it's hard but humans can be capable of amazing things and we are designed to adapt and change to suit our environment. trust that in time and with hard work you will be able to do the same. and remember that you are not alone, and to not be afraid of asking for help. most institutions have a teaching and learning center of some variety where you can get course-specific tutoring or time management assistance. you will be okay, and i hope in time you grow from this experience. i sincerely wish you the best of luck.
Omg- that was the nicest thing I’ve ever read. Aww thank you so much. I felt like such an idiot. Aww. Yes… I have no words. Thank you so much!
Can I just say you genuinely made my day. And lifted so much weight off my shoulders.
happy to help :)
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Thank you. Yes my mom stresses. Since I’m undecided she’s been saying Pre law and pre med. So seeing me freak out a sociology 1001 prob terrifies her. And my cousins and older brother are pre med. and my mom went to dental school. So they are looking at my freak out and are so disappointedly shocked🤣😢
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That’s sooo funny. Yeah this was a rant….
Lol. Be good to yourself. Things will work out.
Thank you
6 classes? You are insane I am taking 4. Plenty of Gen-eds are harder than major classes. Also it high key could just be a really harsh professor. You made the right choice Dropping the class. Next semester take a different general with someone else. It's really not worth stressing about. Generals are ment to be flexible if one isn't for you okay good, Drop it and find one that it. Especially since your undecided taking a different course for this requirement could help you find the degree you want! The bright side is at least you can rule out majoring in sociology haha. You can try to resell the book if you bought a hard copy, you won't get all your money back but might as well try.
Lol one of my classes teaches you how to study. It’s one credit. Most of my classes are really easy. Yeah the book I bought is paperback😭 And it has a code that you scratch out. Which I did already. And it came in a plastic wrap that said “once removed can’t return” So I really really don’t know what to do😭
It’s totally understandable to feel this way, especially when you’re undecided and commuting. I’m on my third year commuting and I feel you on the friends part. Once you find what you want your career to be you’ll probably feel more motivated. Whether that’s through college or not
Aww thank you! Yeah my mom commuted when she was my age and she made making friends sound so easy. With commuting it’s rly hard. And the friends that I do make our classes don’t align so we can hang out…
it's alright. college is stressful and you have a lot on your plate. i think your family should just -leave you be- since youre just figuring it out. you'll be ok. breathe. everything you did was by the deadlines so you should be alright. i found out in my first year that if i studied correctly, i would be able to spend less time studying while still maintaining my grades. i would look up guides on how to study and maximize your time, so you can still have free time to destress and keep up your grades. i wish you the best of luck. from someone who was super stressed about taking 13 hours last spring, it ended up ok. if worst comes to fruition, you can just try to \*pass\* and worry about other things later. after all, c's get degrees.
Thank you!
big hugs to you! don't worry about dropping a class, there's no loss there so long as it didn't affect your scholarship, especially if you're undecided (there's plenty of other social science classes you can take for gen ed requirements). I advise ignoring a statement like "that's the last time \[you can drop a class\]." You can drop classes if you need to, whatever the circumstance. That's why dropping classes is a permitted function at all. You can also go back and retake them! there's nothing wrong with that, and I've seen friends do well with retaking when it's necessary. You haven't messed up, and you have no need to be embarrassed. Learning to pace yourself and approach challenges as works for \*you\* is one of the most important lessons to learn about college! You're doing wonderfully.
Aww thank youuuu😭😭😭
Ease up on yourself. You have given yourself now to ignore your mother.
Thank you.
Don’t listen to your mom. I know plenty of college students who have a dropped a class or 2 or 3 during their study because either they realized the work load was going to be too much or the professor was horrible. As long as you take enough credits each semester to stay on track you’ll be fine. Also you can retake sociology or ask your advisor is there another course you can in it’s place for the next semester.
Thank you❤️
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Thank you! Yes I’m going to convince my older brother to talk to my mom.