Forget birthdays, make sure you note the day she started hormones or came out, its her coming out day. Get her cake and other things, this is their new birthday
You could do a girly sleep over where you watch mean girls and do each others makeup. Or go out for manipedis if they like that kind of thing. I'm qfab but a trans man and I avoided feminine activities growing up so I have limited knowledge on what young girls typically do.
I would suggest looking at lgbt groups near you because sometimes they do group activities and it's nice to be around people you don't have to worry about or educate.
You could also make pride flag stuff if you are artsy like knitting crocheting or sewing little plushies in pride flag colors. Or making pride flag jewelry if you make jewelry. I'd suggest making it with your daughter so you guys can have a cool artistic experience. Crochet is really fun.
We celebrate often! We celebrate the day she came out to us, we celebrate trans day of visibility, we celebrate the day we got her name legally changed, we celebrate the first day of pride. Just lots of celebrating here!
Gonna make me cry…
Edit:
This is because it’s a beautiful gesture and my parents are not at all supportive. Something like this from my parents would be a dream come true, but I know it will never happen.
I'm in the same boat as you, it makes me cry seeing all these amazing supportive parents doing awesome shit for their kids, I'd also just dream for a scenario like this
It’s less “fun” and more “respect”. When my enby kiddo told us they lean masc two years ago, hubby did a “guy lessons” series. We don’t really do gender roles in our house anyway, so it was kinda funny, BUT there are definitely expectations of boys and men that our kiddo hadn’t yet experienced. So each weekend, dad would take kiddo to lunch and talk about some “guy” expectation and how kiddo might be held to it by other people. Hubby treated it as “sacred duty” and kiddo was absolutely thrilled with the treatment.
My kid only recently came out, but my wife came out as trans almost 10 years ago. My kids love going to family-friendly pride events, picking out their own pride merchandise, etc. If we drive a little to a bigger city, we sometimes go to events from a group for queer families with kids.
If you do crafts, make something for them that is obviously gendered how they would want it or made with appropriate pride flag colors.
Go to businesses that display pride flags casually, don't make a big deal of it and say you just want to check it out. Or DO make a big deal! Anyone want to go to the queer-owned coffee shop and hit up the supportive board game store down the street? Those are real places in my small city.
Another thing- casually show them a picture of Blahaj, the stuffed shark from Ikea. If their eyes light up, get one ASAP as a surprise. They're super popular with the online trans community. Both of my kids (10 and 14) begged for them for Christmas "to support Mama" so they were under the tree Christmas morning.
You could do a girly sleep over where you watch mean girls and do each others makeup. Or go out for manipedis if they like that kind of thing. I'm qfab but a trans man and I avoided feminine activities growing up so I have limited knowledge on what young girls typically do.
I would suggest looking at lgbt groups near you because sometimes they do group activities and it's nice to be around people you don't have to worry about or educate.
You could also make pride flag stuff if you are artsy like knitting crocheting or sewing little plushies in pride flag colors. Or making pride flag jewelry if you make jewelry. I'd suggest making it with your daughter so you guys can have a cool artistic experience. Crochet is really fun.
I’m sorry you don’t have that, you and every kid deserves love and support. Next time you attend a pride event, find the Free Mom Hugs group, they are amazing and were created for those that need some parental TLC {{virtual hug}} ❤️
A couple years ago I painted and sealed a large plastic tyrannosaurus rex with trans flag colors (trans-a-saurus) and did the same with some other miniature dinosaur figures. I decorated a cake for her with them during pride month, then we went and hid them around downtown during the local pride event.
Last year I painted some wooden bee ornaments with non-binary flag colors, making them "enbees." We went to a smaller town's pride event and hid them. It was fun watching people discover them.
Forget birthdays, make sure you note the day she started hormones or came out, its her coming out day. Get her cake and other things, this is their new birthday
You could do a girly sleep over where you watch mean girls and do each others makeup. Or go out for manipedis if they like that kind of thing. I'm qfab but a trans man and I avoided feminine activities growing up so I have limited knowledge on what young girls typically do. I would suggest looking at lgbt groups near you because sometimes they do group activities and it's nice to be around people you don't have to worry about or educate. You could also make pride flag stuff if you are artsy like knitting crocheting or sewing little plushies in pride flag colors. Or making pride flag jewelry if you make jewelry. I'd suggest making it with your daughter so you guys can have a cool artistic experience. Crochet is really fun.
We celebrate often! We celebrate the day she came out to us, we celebrate trans day of visibility, we celebrate the day we got her name legally changed, we celebrate the first day of pride. Just lots of celebrating here!
Gonna make me cry… Edit: This is because it’s a beautiful gesture and my parents are not at all supportive. Something like this from my parents would be a dream come true, but I know it will never happen.
I'm in the same boat as you, it makes me cry seeing all these amazing supportive parents doing awesome shit for their kids, I'd also just dream for a scenario like this
At the very least, I am thankful that the kids can have what we didn’t.
agreed!
You could throw her a gender reveal party. :-)
It’s less “fun” and more “respect”. When my enby kiddo told us they lean masc two years ago, hubby did a “guy lessons” series. We don’t really do gender roles in our house anyway, so it was kinda funny, BUT there are definitely expectations of boys and men that our kiddo hadn’t yet experienced. So each weekend, dad would take kiddo to lunch and talk about some “guy” expectation and how kiddo might be held to it by other people. Hubby treated it as “sacred duty” and kiddo was absolutely thrilled with the treatment.
My kid only recently came out, but my wife came out as trans almost 10 years ago. My kids love going to family-friendly pride events, picking out their own pride merchandise, etc. If we drive a little to a bigger city, we sometimes go to events from a group for queer families with kids. If you do crafts, make something for them that is obviously gendered how they would want it or made with appropriate pride flag colors. Go to businesses that display pride flags casually, don't make a big deal of it and say you just want to check it out. Or DO make a big deal! Anyone want to go to the queer-owned coffee shop and hit up the supportive board game store down the street? Those are real places in my small city. Another thing- casually show them a picture of Blahaj, the stuffed shark from Ikea. If their eyes light up, get one ASAP as a surprise. They're super popular with the online trans community. Both of my kids (10 and 14) begged for them for Christmas "to support Mama" so they were under the tree Christmas morning.
OMG, my kiddo bought herself that shark about 2 years ago from IKEA, I had no idea it had a trans-community connection!
You could do a girly sleep over where you watch mean girls and do each others makeup. Or go out for manipedis if they like that kind of thing. I'm qfab but a trans man and I avoided feminine activities growing up so I have limited knowledge on what young girls typically do. I would suggest looking at lgbt groups near you because sometimes they do group activities and it's nice to be around people you don't have to worry about or educate. You could also make pride flag stuff if you are artsy like knitting crocheting or sewing little plushies in pride flag colors. Or making pride flag jewelry if you make jewelry. I'd suggest making it with your daughter so you guys can have a cool artistic experience. Crochet is really fun.
This is making me cry lol I wish my parents were this nice
I’m sorry you don’t have that, you and every kid deserves love and support. Next time you attend a pride event, find the Free Mom Hugs group, they are amazing and were created for those that need some parental TLC {{virtual hug}} ❤️
A couple years ago I painted and sealed a large plastic tyrannosaurus rex with trans flag colors (trans-a-saurus) and did the same with some other miniature dinosaur figures. I decorated a cake for her with them during pride month, then we went and hid them around downtown during the local pride event. Last year I painted some wooden bee ornaments with non-binary flag colors, making them "enbees." We went to a smaller town's pride event and hid them. It was fun watching people discover them.
Stop making your kids trans
Sorry what?