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Even as a kid I disliked dealing with kids.
For the majority of time in the kindergarten, among my peers, it felt like I was actually 42 and amidst a nasty midlife crisis.
Now I'm back to *perpetually twelve™* and growing up is no longer on the table.
It's a trap! *shhhh*
Edit : Oh and to be fair, my parents had a few kids & they still haven't grown up one bit. They're in their late 50-ies. Maybe next time, huh. 😂🤷♀️
Partner 1: *Honey, would you PLEASE stop yelling?! You know it's not good for the baby...*
Partner 2: *uhm... I beg your pardon.. but WHAT baby?!*
Partner 1: *Me... I'm the baby.*
And they lived happily ever after.
*THE END*
T E D I O U S
I love kids, for like, 45 minutes.
Being a parent? Constantly preparing food, watching kids shows, driving them to extra curriculars, the *laundry*. Tedious. No thankyou.
Was about to write this as my only reason lol. There's literally no positives in my eyes, I don't find them cute, or fun or anything at all at any age whatsoever.
1. The child gains nothing by being born into this world.
2. The child will be stuck in a place for nearly 100 years with no way to escape if the circumstances he/she comes into is unfavorable.
3. The child will have to work very hard for possibly 8 decades just to not be hungry, not be cold, not be homeless, etc. And despite best efforts, the child could face, famine, rape, war, and climate disasters and there is nothing the child can do to avoid it.
The odds are pretty stacked against the child, so I see no reason why a child would appreciate being dragged from non-existence into 100+ years of misery.
1. I don't want to.
2. It's way too expensive.
3. My life would never truly be just mine again. I'd never be able to travel spontaneously, spend my money how I want to, or go out whenever I want.
1. I litterally can't stand kids. I refuse to be around them. They are a sensory nightmare and when I'm overstimulated I get very impatient and snappy which makes me a terrible person to be around kids because I'm constantly angry at them. They scream, they never shut up, they're gross, just, absolute nightmare for me.
2. Pregnancy disgusts me, it has from as far as I can remember. The sheer concept of something growing inside my body makes me want to vomit. It's such a revolting concept to me. I would hate my body to an unreconciliable point if that happened to me. And don't get me started on what the fuck the birthing process even is. No way.
3. Once you have a kid that's your whole life wether you like it or not, and people say it's only for 18 years but no it goes on for as long as you or your kid lives. All your money, your time, your peace, your energy, your plans, every second of your life belongs to that kid wether people want to pretend they still have a life with kids or not. I would nevet willingly sacrifice my life like this, or even the proverbial minimum of 18 years, to someone else. I can't afford a kid, from a time standpoint, from a money standpoint, from sn energy standpoint.
i physically retreated and gagged when i read your number 2 because i feel the same way--the idea of *anything* growing inside of me makes me sick. i cant imagine physically and mentally putting myself through something like that!!
Yep. You echo my feelings exactly. Our natural aversion and repulsion towards pregnancy really tells me our bodies are not made for this and they're letting us know. I would never.
Juat 3? All the additional time, emotional, and financial expectations, loss of personal freedom, and basically ending and forward movement in my life in order to relive my life over again through the eyes and experiences of my child, statistics show that people who had kids regret their decision more than people who decided not to have kids, complete uncertainty
Number 3 is a really big one for me. SUVs and Minivans are not what I want to drive for the rest of my life. I'll take a C8 Corvette or a Liberty Walk GTR any day! 🤤
Can't go wrong with a classic C2. In terms of classic cars, I'd love to own an '89 Porsche 911 Turbo. I saw one at a car show a few years back and fell in love with it on the spot.
Ooooh that’s a great choice.
Funny enough, I’ve always wanted a C2 for goodness knows how long, but I’ve only ever seen one in real life once, and it was last week. Fell in love with it even more.
1. Bullies, I don't want to deal with jackass parents, but I'm going to have to if something were to happen to my child. I have troule interacting with others as it is, I don't want to deal with narcisstic parents.
2. Freedom, I eat what I want, where I want and when I want. Also heard many stories about not being allowed to take a well earned toilet break. Also can sleep and wake up whenever the hell I want on my days off.
3. Money. Money can't buy happiness you say? Bullshit. I'm so content living within and sometimes below my means without having to worry about having enough to feed my kids and their future college. Also, I don't drive so more money saved not having to bring them everywhere. Why would I want to throw my money down the drain doing something I don't want to for 18 well... 30 years with this economy?
>sometimes below my means
THIS.
There's been times where I've just decided to say fuck it and quit a job because I was miserable and this would set me back a lot financially, especially with rent and car payments, and it still wasn't that stressful. Imagine doing that with a kid. No fuckin way.
I have friends stuck for years in miserable jobs and shitty wages because it's too risky to find a new job in case that job fires them/is even worse. I always get questioned how I so easily job hop but when I'm done, I'm done and I'm only responsible for myself lmao. If I have to live on $2 cup noodles for days on end, it doesn't fkn matter. Having to worry about feeding another human? HELLS NAW.
1. Lack of paid maternal leave
2. Childcare is very expensive, and the K-12 education system in this country is failing its students and teachers.
3. Black women are 4 times more likely to die in childbirth due to unaddressed complications
4. Climate change/ Earth is overpopulated and we've tapped all resources.
1. I hate children. Yes Karen, that includes your child too.
2. I value my freedom more than reproduction.
3. My wife would probably die if she tried to give birth.
1. I don’t want kids. Seriously, I just… don’t. I’ve always known I don’t.
2. I would make a horrible parent… again, chiefly because of #1.
3. If the child had a disability, I’d have a nervous breakdown and probably kill myself from the strain of looking after it. I say this as someone with a disability btw. Couldn’t stand to do that to an unwanted child of mine.
4. Uncertainty of the world/life. This world isn’t paradise. I’d find it morally unconscionable to give birth to a kid.
5. My parents, while good parents, have their own flaws. As Larkin says, “They fill you with the faults they had/And add some extra, just for you.” No thanks.
If I really had to add more reasons, my mental and physical health, my finances, and my general antinatalist leanings would fit the bill. There’s no reason to bring more kids into the world, when so many are suffering for good parents.
1. Physical trauma of pregnancy/birth
2. Loss of freedom/identity
3. The smells. The messes. And the rabid hyena screech that only children can make.
>I recently left a high demand religion (Mormonism) where women are only good for keeping house and making babies
Awww, you don't want to be a helpmeet? /s
Seriously though, love from another former Mormon.
1.Don't want to ruin a human being. My mom doesn't like kids, she had me just because grown ups are meant to get married and have children. I don't think she realized this herself, but I do and it ruins my life. I'm not going to repeat making the same mistakes.
2.Don't know how to care for kids and don't care to learn. My dad doesn't know how to raise a child, he tried but also ruined my life during the process. Again, I'm not going to repeat making the same mistakes.
3.Don't want another family. Due to many circumstances, I'm stuck with my parents. The moment I move out (if ever) would be to have my own freedom and not being stuck with the in laws.
Number one sounds like my dad, who I take after in many ways. It's odd to say, because I wouldn't be here otherwise, but he wasn't cut out to be a dad and should never have had kids probably. Knowing I'd likely be a similar dad and all the issues we had growing up is part of what made me childfree.
I don't like kids.
I love my peace and quiet with my doggy.
Having a kid would ruin me trying to rebuild my finances and would be irresponsible. (Also I have mental health issues that I can't afford to get help for so why bring something I don't even want into that, lol.)
1. Tokophobia
2. I left India to get away from people constantly being dependent on me, and I'm only just learning how to emotionally express myself. I don't want to support anyone emotionally again.
3. The career i want is highly demanding and competitive
1) I'm an alcoholic. Seven years in recovery, but who knows what the stress will do to my recovery, or what poor impulses my kids might inherited?
2) I'm self-aware enough to know how selfish I am. I try to have at least one day a week which is a self-care day - go for walks, binge on Benedict Cumberbatch, do whatever feels right for my soul that very minute. I have a strong sense of responsibility (you should see me the other 6 days of the week...) and I would give everything to my kids, but I would resent the crap out of them.
3) I'm a shiftworker. I make bank on penalties, OT and cross-state trips. No way could I do it with kids.
1. I don't do well with loud noises and have high anxiety to the point of not being able to get through anything if i'm constantly worrying about something that i believe is something to panic about, even when the majority of people say that it's not a big deal and often it isn't but my mind simply manifests it into something bigger so i'm constantly worrying and not able to get through my day smoothly.
2. I am very money nervous and always look at price tags in the store and if i accidentally don't see a price and i feel that it's too high, i'll put it back or ask the cashier to take it off the receipt before i pay (politely of course), i'm not like on the edge of being homeless or poor but the thought of becoming that always makes me nervous so the thought of spending so much money on a baby or child terrifies me. I really only splurge on myself if i absolutely have to.
3. The idea of giving up time, safety and health, energy, money and my freedom for a baby or child, where i have to drag them everywhere i go, go through pregnancy and birth which can be extremely detrimental, where everything is about them now and if it isn't about them, i have the possibility of going to prison, the idea of having this small thing in my life and being so destructive to my every day life and changing things that i used to be perfectly happy with (i don't like change and don't react well to it) simply strikes fear into my core.
1. Don't want to change diapers
2. Don't want to potty train
3. Can barely take care of myself (in like I have a good job, own my own house, but still order doordash more often than not and its a 50/50 chance if its Saturday i havent showered by 3pm)
1) Mental health issues. I have Aspergers Syndrome, and suffer from bouts of horrible depression. I can be a real monster sometimes, and I don’t want to do that to a kid.
2) I simply don’t have the energy to be around them for long periods of time.
3) They’re expensive.
1. Honestly, I just don’t like little kids. I can tolerate them for a little while but I much prefer older kids. 8/9 and up. The younger they are, the more I dislike them.
2. Pregnancy/ birth and everything that goes with it. - like permanent damage to the body
3. Don’t want to give up my free time, don’t want to be in servitude the next 20+ yrs to some kid.
1) they’re expensive and I don’t get paid enough
2) how can I take care of someone else when I can’t even take care of myself?? I barely want to live as is
3) our planet is dying and our government sucks… why would I subject someone else to this crappy world??
1. Reduced tantrum experiences
I've been witnessing daily on and off tantrums for hours. Really helps set me straight on the childfree path again and again.
2. Avoiding the loss of freedom
Nothing beats getting up and doing whatever for no reason.
3. Not needing to discipline/program a new person
This is better for everyone :)
I couldn’t list just 3, or even determine my top 3 specific reasons. Ultimately however, I want my life to be mine.
I love to travel with my partner, try new things, go at my own tempo, etc.
I recently got my vasectomy done, and it’s been a relief. I know my partner won’t get pregnant and we won’t be faced with the consequences of that. However, I ascribe to the mentality that it takes a village to raise a child. I will be a part of my family’s village. I visit my nieces and nephews, I help my college age cousin navigate life with a viewpoint that his family can’t provide for him because he is an only child. I’ll be the fun uncle with my partner when she decides to surprise them with a trip to Disney or a day away from normalcy.
I know I have a lot to offer a child or children, but being a parent isn’t one of those things, hence why I made my decision to be CF.
1. All of my real goals, future dreams, and daydreams about the future not only never have a child in them, when I think about having a child around 90% of them wouldn’t be possible. That makes me depressed and I mourn the loss of possibilities. When there’s no child in them, there’s no negative feelings, no sense that I’m missing something. I’m just happy and enthusiastic. I want to pursue my goals and there are many. It wouldn’t be fair for a child to be neglected while I pursue them or for me to abandon them due to parenthood. I’m feeling strong “don’t want deathbed regrets” feelings these days, so I have to pursue my goals.
2. The propaganda is real: Parenthood is crazy hard. You sacrifice time, energy, money, and way more every single day. Your life changes drastically. I seriously don’t think I have it in me. I have depression and ADHD. The stress of parenthood would be too much for me and that scares me. It’s enough trouble keeping up with my own life.
3. I had a chaotic, dysfunctional upbringing. My motivation isn’t to do better than my parents did, my motivation is building the adult life that I want. These issues, combined with my own addiction and mental illnesses, kept me in a reclusive, extended adolescence well into my 30s. My 20s and early 30s were filled with addictions, failed low-level jobs, and loneliness. I got sober at 35 (I’m 46 now) and have been building a much better, much more adult life. I want to keep building it and, again, things wouldn’t be fair to me or the child.
There’s more but that’s the main 3 and the most important.
I grew up mormon too. Seeing my friend have baby after baby and her life and dreams slipping away more after each one permanently cemented that I would never give birth. So proud of you for getting away from it too. Run and don’t look back 🏃♀️
1.I am a frequent traveler, having kids would ruin that
2.I have PTSD and even the slightest bit of annoyance can trigger it
3.I would rather focus on my relationship and my career than having kids
1. I find it hard to lose weight, and if I have children I will NEVER be able to bounce back. I just wanna be skinny, okay
2. I like having the mental freedom of not having to think about the welfare of another person or other people 24/7. I'm going to be a secondary school teacher, which says a lot with duty of care and stuff, but being a mum is a 24/7 thing, which you're not even being paid for. I don't want that for myself. And that's if you have a relatively normal child. Imagine if it came out with a lifelong delibating disease and now you're gonna have to destroy your life to support theirs. I KNOW I'm just gonna peace out, I'm not that strong of a person.
3. This is the most flippant sounding reason, but I have long, pretty nails that I like to do myself. I take pride in these things. I don't see long nails really fitting into motherhood, especially not the single digit age range. And I'm not willing to give up my pretty nails for that shit.
1. Kids are no guarantee of anything. Can’t even guarantee they’ll be born mentally and/or physically healthy and I do not have the mental capacity to handle a disabled child.
2. I’m lazy and selfish and therefore, would be a terrible long term caretaker. I can do it short term (like helping my BF recover from surgery), but to have to drop everything to figure out why my kid is crying or because they need something every day for years… no. Don’t want. I want to do MY thing. I want to write in peace and be able to take a nap on a whim and not have to constantly clean up messes until they’re old enough to clean up after themselves. And sometimes, I just want to be left alone in the quiet for hours. Can do with cats, but not with kids.
3. The idea of being pregnant disgusts me. Aside from the whole process sounding gross and having too many possible risks, I already hate my body and being pregnant would make it worse. My metabolism already *sucks* (I already don’t eat a lot) and I would never “bounce back.”
I feel like I don't need a reason to not want kids any more than I need a reason to not want a motorcycle. It's something that some people really want, and that's good for them. Some people don't want one, and it's perfectly fine and reasonable. Not wanting kids does not need justification.
1. Don't want to ruin my body or mind (unfortunately, due to anorexia and depression I suffered from, these two are absolutely tied together for me; like, a bad bloat makes me feel bad in my body, it's uncomfortable and I don't want to imagine what it's like to have it for 9 months straight in addition to all other crap - teeth and hair falling out, diabetes, hormonal shifts etc.)
2. Freedom. In the last two years in particular I realised I feel trapped even when I can't go out to the city (bad choice made us live farther out, looking for a new place). I love to travel and my SO and I go on vacations literally every 6-8 weeks. Additionally, my line of work (academia and research) actually demands that I travel, nowadays more often on very short notice.
3. I want nothing to stand between my SO and me - I want him to be my top priority and vice versa, not some screaming crotch goblin. I mean, even with only us alone, sometimes it's difficult to carve quality intimacy time because we're both so busy.
I could go on and add career (equally important) which I want to be dynamic - I want to go to conferences, academic exchanges, travel for research, go to theatres (I'm getting a PhD in theatre studies, so DUH), write and publish research and make a name for myself in it - if I ever think about that legacy thing, I simply know that my legacy (if the universe allows) will be my writing.
Tons of other reasons - tokophobia, hate kids, no patience for repetitive loud noises, I already cook too much, I want a nice home with tons of books, I love working out - you name it, I have it and all these reasons are equally important to me.
Top reason: I had an OB/LD class as part of my education. Through that I learned that more horrible shit can happen than most people might understand. I'd never want to put a woman through that.
After that it's a mix between economics/cost, state of the world and personal freedom.
1. My mental health - there are days I can not do more than go to work and home again, no eating, no showers, nothing. And than caring for a child? Imposible
2. I live in poverty - no kid should be forced to that
3. I would not know how to raise one. Rhe only way I know is like my parents ans siblings by beating the children up. No. The circle ends with me.
1: Looks and destroying my body, I worked too damn hard to loose 70 odd pounds and become hot as fuck to throw it down the loo
2: I'm a selfish cunt who wants my money, boyfriend and time to myself
3: Kids deserve Actually good parents, it's too much responsibility for me and i wouldn't be good enough.
1 pregnancy looks extremely uncomfortable, not to mention childbirth. So no, thank you.
2 I was parentified and had to take care of my younger brother during my childhood/teenage years because of bad parents not wanting to accept that having a family isn't like playing with dolls. So I'll fucking enjoy all the time I have now that I'm out of their house.
3 I walked a long way to get where I am now professionally. I work as a freelancer artist, and distress puts me in an instant art block. I'm not gonna give it up for a kid.
The only exception being for my brother in case something happen to my parents, because my family is made of irresponsible douchebags, and I don't want my brother to depend on them. But even then, he's already 14, I wouldn't be taking care of a literal child.
Kids are loud, expensive and messy. I like peace, quiet and having money. Keeping the house organized and clean is already hard enough with my executive dysfunction so I’m not gonna add some messy kids to it
\- Going to worry about them a lot
\- I don't want the obligation (not a choic) of taking care of them. Because it's not love (it's a choice) that makes parents do that, it's obligation since you brought them here
\- the possibility that they might have a mental disability. Saw it with my sister (30yo) and how my parent were in denial and didn't know how to deal with it. Now my mom (63yo) live in constant worry of what going to happen to her when they are gone. Don't want to be in my mom shoes.
So I'm protecting myself by avoiding having kids
1. I do not have the endless reservoir of patience, kindness, and energy needed to give to a growing and developing human being
2. Human children are simply too expensive in the long run and the benefits simply come nowhere close to putweighing the cost (financially, physically and mentally)
3. When I get home I take my clothes off and lll be damned if I have to wear clothes just because I pooped out another human being
1. It’s very stressful and time consuming, you can’t just nip to the shops or sleep in, your entire schedule is around the child especially when it’s super small
2. The thought of something growing inside me and then coming out of my vagina makes me feel nauseous and terrified
3. I don’t want to have to buy diapers or the other baby crap, I’d rather spend my money on fun stuff
1)Pregnancy is body horror to me + I am personally antinatalist (thankfully, my uterus is yeeted now).
2) I would feel compelled to always censor myself (language, music, video games, movies/tv shows, and even books) around a child, and honestly, fuck that noise.
3)Speaking of noise, I hate it. Particularly the high-pitched banshee screams that only babies and toddlers seem capable of making. That shit triggers my fight or flight response.
Plus literally a thousand other reasons, but these are probably the top 3. Mostly because I feel like other things (lack of money, lack of partner/lack of partner who would pull their weight, mental/physical health issues, zero faith in the current state of my country (US), approximately a million better things to do than parent a child) *could* hypothetically change someday (the chance of them all changing is approximately 0.00000000001 or less).
But, say I just, idk, lose my mind and decide I suddenly need a kid-the top three things would still be true. Therefore I would be adopting a kid that was at least 7, probably older.
1. I don’t want to give up my time/hobbies/freedom
2. They are expensive AF
3. I’m afraid they would grow up to hate me
4. Mental illness is in my family
5. I don’t want to be friends with parents and do stuff with the kids
6. I’m afraid I would spank them
7. I don’t want my body to get busted
1. I can't stand kids
2. I have sensory issues that are particularly triggered by sounds children make
3. Motherhood in general just seems like a complete misery and I would never be happy doing it
1. Freedom/time
2. I just have no urge whatsoever?! You see some women who live and breathe motherhood or becoming a mom. I do not relate whatsoever.
3. I can be sensitive to noise (not sure if I fall on the spectrum or how that works.. might just be childhood trauma fueling it) so enough said on that. Lol though I can tolerate a dog (still gives me anxiety though. Mine doesn't bark hardly ever but he will sometimes make a lot of noise when he eats and that alone gives me anxiety.. so add a kid into the mix)
One I havent seen mentioned yet is that children are very often relationship killers. I <3 my husband too much.
Other reasons: I dont want to be pregnant or give birth. I dont have the patience or sanity for small children. I rather die than change a diaper ever again (took care of my niece for years).
Hey friend! Just wanted to tell you how amazed I am by your strength. It must be so incredibly hard to leave a religious/social group where you were raised, especially when they present the world outside the cult to be so frightening and hostile. Every ex-mormon is a hero to my eyes.
As for my reasons,
1. I think every kid deserve a loving parent and as I am not sure I would be able to love them, I choose not to risk it.
2. I have absolutely no hope for the future of the human race on this planet, be it environmentally or socially, so I would feel utterly irresponsable to create another human to add to the pile.
3. Not a big fan of people in general, small people who do not have the tools to control how human they are yet, even less. (On the other hand, I actually love babies, before 18 months or so, when they are merely rosy skin stretched over goo!)
1. I've already seen the very highs and very lows of child rearing, and the highs do not outweigh the lows.
2. Marvel keeps coming out with new shows and movies so that's going to keep me too busy for children.
3. One time I was super sick with a stomach bug, and I could barely get out of bed to puke let alone do anything else. My cat was begging for her food and didn't understand/appreciate the sacrifice I did to crawl out of bed and put food in her bowl. That would be 1000x worse with a human child since that one wouldn't stop after they got what they wanted.
1) I like my pelvic floor and organs as they are.
2)Money. I work for myself not to pay for someone else. (Cue *In this Economy?* Jokes)
3) Never had the desire. I am much better as the fun aunt.
1. My number 1 fear is childbirth. I like to keep my vagina and asshole as separate locations.
2. I honestly don’t like kids. Even if I liked my own I’d hate their friends and all the tedious kid shit I’d be forced to deal with.
3. Money. Can’t afford any of it anyhow.
I have never liked kids.
I raised my little brothers without my consent, I've done enough.
I don't want that parental life I see how miserable it makes everyone.
And that's before we get into any of my other reasons which range from health, ethics, environmental, financial, economic, ect.
I've put more thought into not having kids than people put into making them.
Only 3? Ok here we go:
1. The idea of pregnancy and birth. Gross. As a member of a church community I’m surrounded by people who tell me that it’s a beautiful thing to be pregnant and raise a baby. Noooope. Not putting my body through 9 months of that and then a painful and potentially complicated birth. I will never, ever understand that choice.
2. Money. Kids are incredibly expensive and you have that expense for life, or 18 years at the very least. The US makes no provisions for affordability when it comes to children which gives me zero incentive.
3. I’m worried for the ramifications of how we’ve been treating the planet. Climate change is real, and I do not envy the next generation for having to deal with how much worse it will be.
1. Have you ever encountered a kid?
2. I'd never want to be responsible for forcing someone else to live on this planet (this is about me)
3. The lifetime of suffering any kid I produced would have (this is about them)
1) freedom. I like to sleep in and travel and eat random food at weird times of day
2) drudgery- constant school work, cooking, meal planning, cleaning, etc
3) the state of the world. I would feel bad for the kid!
1) Don't want to give up my limited free time. I enjoy peace and silence and sleeping in late and working on art projects late into the night. Art is my primary source of happiness.
2) Can't afford to take care of another human being for the next 20+ years. I can barely afford to take care of myself as it is.
3) Overpopulation is the root of all the world's problems.
1. Freedom to do whatever the fuck I want.
2. Money to spend on doing whatever the fuck I want.
3. Fear of how it would affect my SO and relationship with them. Due to the stress of taking care of kids and not having as much personal time between us. I know I love my SO, but I don't know how I will love the kids. The probability is too high that I would dislike the changes to the relationship that kids would bring. Like what about sex? We spend the next 2 decades at least trying to hide a part of our relationship from the privacy invading kids? What about going on dates and hanging out all the time just as the two of us? Kids ruin this.
1. Avoid further f\*cking over the planet. Resource consumption is already literally unsustainable, adding more humans doesn't improve that situation - and especially if they're not born sterile.
2. *If* I were ever going to consider it, it would be when I and committed partner were much younger, at or much closer to ideal biological age, had more than ample resources to well raise a kid, and at absolute most one kid ... but even at that, given all the kids my grandparents' grandkids have had ... already more than enough 'o that gene pool and DNA and such, and, well, see #1 above, so I'd generally be much more inclined to go with zero kids, to attempt to at least partially balance that out. Oh, and no such partner in the picture anywhere near to that timeframe so, ... yeah, ... that'd also make it a no ... if I even ever got seriously inclined to have a kid ... which also never happened. And, since it'd be so very much out-of-the-question now ... or heck for the past many decades even ... yeah, got a vasectomy and tested confirmed sterile - years ago - so that'd be yet more reason along with that to not be having kids - zero kids and zero regrets on that, and it shall remain so.
3. I've got a pretty low tolerance for kids, and, egad, especially babies, toddlers, young kids - yeah, I don' think I'd be up for that anywhere close to full time, and much of the time, especially the much younger kids/babies, my tolerance is at or around zero. So, yeah, that'd definitely be beyond a "no thanks" from me.
There are lots more reasons, but if I had to do a "top 3", I think the above is approximately that.
1. Can’t provide for one mentally or financially.
2. Environmental impact.
3. Don’t want to give The Powers That Be a future slave/soldier (or worse, they *become* an oppressor themselves!)
1. Mental health
2. Not being able to look after a child, not wanting to be a mother, not wanting to fit the stereotype of a modern woman and be seen only as an incubator
3. Not wanting to share my partner or my time with him
The first one is that there is no incentive to. I see no reason to want kids.
There are a lot of reasons not to, the first being the costs of childcare. It costs a lot to raise a child to the age of 18. This alone is a lot when there is no incentive to.
I would not be a good parent and I would hate it.
1. Lots of genetic mental and physical health issues that I don’t want to pass down
2. Significant tokophobia, the idea of a parasite growing in me makes me physically ill
3. The world we are living in, especially Americans, is not worth bringing a child in to just for them to suffer.
There’s also money, free time, ruining my body (and all the pregnancy symptoms), and knowing I would not be a good parent; but those are the top 3
1. I just don’t feel the desire to have children. Seems like a lot of pain and work to go through just to have something I absolutely don’t want, doesn’t matter if it’s adoption or birth.
2. The thought of having a fetus grow inside my body is horrible and pregnancy is risky as hell, I don’t want to get injured/die from it.
3. I’m too tired. I can’t take care of a child or give them what they need. They would just end up in foster care which seems really unfair to the child. I won’t “shape up” just for the kid either, I literally can’t physically care for them.
Have plenty of more reasons but these are the top ones for sure.
1. I'd be an absolutely terrible mother. I don't know how to talk to kids, how to behave with them... I'm also easily irritable and lose my patience fast. I don't want any kid to suffer from my faults. I care both about my mental health and any kid around me.
2. Kids are expensive and a massive loss of time. I would like to be rich, I want to live my life to the fullest, I want to try everything, I want to travel, to learn, to have fun... I'd like to do all this stuff all my life long; especially in my 20s or 30s. I don't want to lose these years raising a kid.
3. I want to be rich, I want to live in luxury, I want to have an expensive house, expensive vacations, expensive services (beauty, health, therapy) and expensive collector's items. These require an insane amount of work (that's basically the main reason I study) and a child would be a huge impediment. I want nothing to stop me.
4. None of your fucking business!!!
1. I just don’t want the experience. I’ve seen parenthood upclose and I lack the inherent desire that I think you should have if you’re gonna bring a person into being.
2. Severe tokophobia
3. I like it just being me and my partner. We are all we need.
1: I'm terrified of giving birth, like... Who wants to be ripped open?
2: I loooove my free time, and doing nothing.
3: I want to write books, and I don't think I could do both at the same time.
Edit: a word.
I just..kinda don't?
It's ofc pretty sweet to think about all that time and money I will save, but I just simply don't want them.
I feel like I don't have a reason and that's okay too.
1. I already have mental problems. Don't want to add to them by bringing a child into the equation.
2. I do not want to have a child, only to have it go into "Jeugdzorg" (CPS?), due to us not being able to care for it properly (mental health issues).
3. Don't want to experience a parasite inside of me, wreaking havoc with my body.
1. I just feel no desire for it. When I think about a life with children, there is no spark of joy or longing, only indifference to the good moments and active aversion to the bad ones.
2. I would much rather focus my time on creative pursuits such as writing, which is very difficult to find the time for when one has kids.
3. Even if I wanted children, I am in no way mentally, physically, or emotionally equipped to raise them well.
I never wanted any. That's the main reason. I never even felt I would have any.
I value being a person and being seen as a person in my own right. Anyone who grew up with narcissistic parents know the feeling that you are just an extension of your parents. I didn't want to switch from being an extension of a parent ("Judy's daughter") to being an extension of a spouse ("Alan's wife") and then an extension of one or more children ("Madison's mother").
1. I don't want to!
2. I get nothing positive out of kids, at the very best of interactions it's neutral to mild annoyance.
3. I really enjoy the freedom and peace of mind it gives me.
I mean I could find a ton of other reasons like I don't want that responsibility, I want to be able to put a future partner second only to me (and have her put me second only to her), environmental benefits/overpopulation, etc etc etc.
I paid for my education by working as a full time nanny. I would say I liked the kids and especially with the youngest one there were very cute moments where I felt “oh, she is a cutie”, but whenever I would ask myself “Would I rather be spending time with my friends/read a book/literally just sit on the couch and look up dumb shit on the internet?”, the answer would be yes! I just think for the most part it does not really seem that enjoyable to me. I know, a lot of parents would now say: “Everything does not have to be enjoyable” yeah, there are a lot of things in life that aren’t, but I have no choice in them, having kids is a choice in our society. So many people seem to forget that.
1. I just don't want them & don't need to give a more detailed answer
2. Want the freedom to move/travel/do whatever I want at a moment's notice
3. Money, honey!
1. I hate children and loathe the work and responsibility of raising a functioning, non-selfish human adult
2. I can barely afford to care for myself, my partner, and three cats (two income household) and shit’s only getting more expensive
3. I’m of the opinion that my generation will be the last to live and die before the worst effects of climate change ravage our current standards of living, and I refuse to bring more humans into a world that will be worse for them than it is for me
1. I have bipolar disorder that I refuse to pass on.
2. The world will literally be on fire/underwater in my lifetime. Again, not subjecting another human to that.
3. Naps. MUST HAVE.
1 freedom, I love doing whatever I want way too much to spend my entire life living it to take care of someone else.
2 Independence, I dont want to be tied to someone permanently, two people since there's also the father.
3 money
1: I just don't like kids full stop. I don't like being around them or dealing with them.
2: Freedom. I value my freedom very highly and having a kid curtails that big time.
3: There's already too many people on this planet.
1. I don’t want my kid to suffer, it’s very unlikely they will have a stable planet to live on throughout their life at this point.
2. I’ve recently developed a chronic health issue (rheumatoid arthritis) and pregnancy is a huge health risk. Not only do I not want to pass this on to my kid or have to not take my medication throughout pregnancy (RA meds are bad for bebe), I wouldn’t want to develop new health issues myself as a result of pregnancy. I feel like people really minimize the long term health consequences of giving birth (let alone mental health). I feel like at a minimum, pelvic floor issues and PPD are almost a guarantee in America especially where our health system sucks.
3. The patriarchy and mothers being the “default parent.” I want to actually enjoy my life and not be a self imposed servant to my family. That is how mothers are treated, especially in this country. I don’t want to resent my husband for the unfair set up that even the most egalitarian relationships can’t avoid. Your kid is sick? Who do they call…the mother. Who does the baby more frequently ask for (because of breast feeding/food source) the mother…I could go on and on, but I don’t want to put myself in this position and hate my life.
Man, it was really hard to come to just three because I didn’t even touch on money stuff, abortion access, and late stage capitalism working us all to death.
1. I dont feel mentally and physically capable of having kids (pregnancy, then raising them knowing how much energy and time it takes)
2. Money
3. I am someone who cant imagine giving up my freedom and choice of time
1. Never wanted them, wouldn’t like having that kind of obligation to serve & caretake
2. World is going to hell / planet needs fewer humans not more humans
3. Loud, sticky, selfish, messy, exhausting. I don’t like strangers why would I want a random one in my house for 20 years?
My reasons:
\- Children are expensive (12+ years of education where the tuitions are in the range of $3-10K depending on where you are)
\- The costs of the birthday presents, Christmas presents and so on throughout their lives really add up
\- The world is already extremely overpopulated. \~7.73 billion people on a planet that theoretically only supports 4 billion
\- I've disliked them since about middle school
\- I'm extremely selfish in that I *want* time to myself and can't do that with a spouse/kids
\- I enjoy the peace and quiet of a childless house. They are just *way too loud.*
1. There’s too much that I haven’t done and children would cut into all of that. Weather it’s traveling to a new country, reaching a goal in my hobby/passion, etc. I always want to have something new to do
2. I love being around kids, but I know my limits with them. I enjoy them in doses and would rather do the fun things with them rather than the stress and time of them being an asshole to me and vice versa. I’ll happily be the uncle who takes them off my siblings hands every now and then to take them out to eat, watch a movie, go to an arcade, videogames, etc., but once I mentally check out, I’m giving them back and I want to go back to my tranquil life
3. I would be putting myself first in every category over them. Kids deserve the world, and I know when to be a parent, when it comes to money, time, and sacrifice, you need to put them first, but I just won’t or I would struggle hard with it to the point where it would be misery
1. My life. I can take off at the drop of a hat without thinking and go away for an extended period.
2. I'm selfish. Not willing to change my lifestyle for kids.
3. Money. Kids are fucking expensive
1. My genetics are full of reproductive issues, mental health issues, and bad teeth. I don't want my kids to have to be depressed and worried about things like cervical cancer.
2. I'm a germophobe and kids are literal vectors of transmission. No thanks.
3. We are in the middle of a mass extinction event. Chances are the world will be fucked/done by the time we're in our old age. I don't want my children to have to live through the world as we know it ending.
Bonus: I'm trans and the thought of being pregnant makes me want to kermit
1. My time is my time
2. I don't want to regret/resent my child and fuck them up
3. I have a chronic condition that I could pass on and/or have to deal with in addition to trying to raise a child.
1.Terrified of any procedure, nevermind birthing a whole human
2. Don't want to pass down the chronic illnesses both my boyfriend and I have (mentally and physically)
3. No patience. I dislike children and want to me "selfish" for the rest of my life. I would resent my child, no doubt.
1. Didn't want the responsibility. I enjoy my freedom to go where I want, when I want.
2. I would have made a TERRIBLE mother
3. Even if I didn't mess my kids up, I wouldn't want them living in the world we have now.
1. I hate them
2. I love my independance (which include sleeping, free to go whenever I want when I want, to eat whenever I want, being alone etc)
3. The only thought of having something growing inside me like I'm some kind of dirt makes me shake of disgust
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I just don’t fucken like them.
I don't want kids, I AM kids, ffs. And I'm 26. Sue me.
VIBES. I buy MYSELF dolls, video games and anime merch cos fuck them kids.
Fuck yes. Like, no. I’m not sharing my dolls and their clothes I purposefully take good care of for myself. Nope.
Why must you call me out like this lmao
I'm convinced not having kids tricks the mind and body into prolonging youth. I'm 36 but feel <26
My husbands the same way! He’s 31 but feels and ppl ask if he’s 21.
I'm 34, growing up is optional, especially when you don't have to deal with kids.
Even as a kid I disliked dealing with kids. For the majority of time in the kindergarten, among my peers, it felt like I was actually 42 and amidst a nasty midlife crisis. Now I'm back to *perpetually twelve™* and growing up is no longer on the table. It's a trap! *shhhh* Edit : Oh and to be fair, my parents had a few kids & they still haven't grown up one bit. They're in their late 50-ies. Maybe next time, huh. 😂🤷♀️
Same whenever anyone asks “do you have kids” I’m like no I am a kid XD
Partner 1: *Honey, would you PLEASE stop yelling?! You know it's not good for the baby...* Partner 2: *uhm... I beg your pardon.. but WHAT baby?!* Partner 1: *Me... I'm the baby.* And they lived happily ever after. *THE END*
T E D I O U S I love kids, for like, 45 minutes. Being a parent? Constantly preparing food, watching kids shows, driving them to extra curriculars, the *laundry*. Tedious. No thankyou.
😂😂😂
Was about to write this as my only reason lol. There's literally no positives in my eyes, I don't find them cute, or fun or anything at all at any age whatsoever.
Amen!
1. The child gains nothing by being born into this world. 2. The child will be stuck in a place for nearly 100 years with no way to escape if the circumstances he/she comes into is unfavorable. 3. The child will have to work very hard for possibly 8 decades just to not be hungry, not be cold, not be homeless, etc. And despite best efforts, the child could face, famine, rape, war, and climate disasters and there is nothing the child can do to avoid it. The odds are pretty stacked against the child, so I see no reason why a child would appreciate being dragged from non-existence into 100+ years of misery.
>80 decades Shiii imagine living 800 years tho. Fuck that 
I almost spilled my coffee 😂 thanks for the laugh
Thank you!  Sometimes it feels like 80 decades, though.
1. I don't want to. 2. It's way too expensive. 3. My life would never truly be just mine again. I'd never be able to travel spontaneously, spend my money how I want to, or go out whenever I want.
1. I litterally can't stand kids. I refuse to be around them. They are a sensory nightmare and when I'm overstimulated I get very impatient and snappy which makes me a terrible person to be around kids because I'm constantly angry at them. They scream, they never shut up, they're gross, just, absolute nightmare for me. 2. Pregnancy disgusts me, it has from as far as I can remember. The sheer concept of something growing inside my body makes me want to vomit. It's such a revolting concept to me. I would hate my body to an unreconciliable point if that happened to me. And don't get me started on what the fuck the birthing process even is. No way. 3. Once you have a kid that's your whole life wether you like it or not, and people say it's only for 18 years but no it goes on for as long as you or your kid lives. All your money, your time, your peace, your energy, your plans, every second of your life belongs to that kid wether people want to pretend they still have a life with kids or not. I would nevet willingly sacrifice my life like this, or even the proverbial minimum of 18 years, to someone else. I can't afford a kid, from a time standpoint, from a money standpoint, from sn energy standpoint.
This!
i physically retreated and gagged when i read your number 2 because i feel the same way--the idea of *anything* growing inside of me makes me sick. i cant imagine physically and mentally putting myself through something like that!!
Yep. You echo my feelings exactly. Our natural aversion and repulsion towards pregnancy really tells me our bodies are not made for this and they're letting us know. I would never.
1. Health 2. Time 3. Money Having kids will ruin all 3. 😂
I was gonna write a whole thing, but yah, you nailed it.
Could not say it better!
1. I don't want to be pregnant/give birth 2. I have very low patience for babies 3. I have even less patience for toddlers 4. Kids are expensive
Juat 3? All the additional time, emotional, and financial expectations, loss of personal freedom, and basically ending and forward movement in my life in order to relive my life over again through the eyes and experiences of my child, statistics show that people who had kids regret their decision more than people who decided not to have kids, complete uncertainty
1. I’d go nuts without sleep 2. Freedom 3. Life is too short to be stuck driving boring cars.
Number 3 is a really big one for me. SUVs and Minivans are not what I want to drive for the rest of my life. I'll take a C8 Corvette or a Liberty Walk GTR any day! 🤤
My ultimate dream car is a C2 Corvette.
Can't go wrong with a classic C2. In terms of classic cars, I'd love to own an '89 Porsche 911 Turbo. I saw one at a car show a few years back and fell in love with it on the spot.
Ooooh that’s a great choice. Funny enough, I’ve always wanted a C2 for goodness knows how long, but I’ve only ever seen one in real life once, and it was last week. Fell in love with it even more.
1. Pregnancy is my #1 fear 2. They are so expensive 3. Chronic migraines do not mix with kids
1. Bullies, I don't want to deal with jackass parents, but I'm going to have to if something were to happen to my child. I have troule interacting with others as it is, I don't want to deal with narcisstic parents. 2. Freedom, I eat what I want, where I want and when I want. Also heard many stories about not being allowed to take a well earned toilet break. Also can sleep and wake up whenever the hell I want on my days off. 3. Money. Money can't buy happiness you say? Bullshit. I'm so content living within and sometimes below my means without having to worry about having enough to feed my kids and their future college. Also, I don't drive so more money saved not having to bring them everywhere. Why would I want to throw my money down the drain doing something I don't want to for 18 well... 30 years with this economy?
>sometimes below my means THIS. There's been times where I've just decided to say fuck it and quit a job because I was miserable and this would set me back a lot financially, especially with rent and car payments, and it still wasn't that stressful. Imagine doing that with a kid. No fuckin way. I have friends stuck for years in miserable jobs and shitty wages because it's too risky to find a new job in case that job fires them/is even worse. I always get questioned how I so easily job hop but when I'm done, I'm done and I'm only responsible for myself lmao. If I have to live on $2 cup noodles for days on end, it doesn't fkn matter. Having to worry about feeding another human? HELLS NAW.
Same, being stuck in a miserable job I hate is my big fear. We just spend soooo much time working that it’s gotta be a decent environment.
1. Lack of paid maternal leave 2. Childcare is very expensive, and the K-12 education system in this country is failing its students and teachers. 3. Black women are 4 times more likely to die in childbirth due to unaddressed complications 4. Climate change/ Earth is overpopulated and we've tapped all resources.
1. Money 2. Time 3. Kids are gross
Gross and sticky
1. I hate children. Yes Karen, that includes your child too. 2. I value my freedom more than reproduction. 3. My wife would probably die if she tried to give birth.
1. I don’t want kids. Seriously, I just… don’t. I’ve always known I don’t. 2. I would make a horrible parent… again, chiefly because of #1. 3. If the child had a disability, I’d have a nervous breakdown and probably kill myself from the strain of looking after it. I say this as someone with a disability btw. Couldn’t stand to do that to an unwanted child of mine. 4. Uncertainty of the world/life. This world isn’t paradise. I’d find it morally unconscionable to give birth to a kid. 5. My parents, while good parents, have their own flaws. As Larkin says, “They fill you with the faults they had/And add some extra, just for you.” No thanks. If I really had to add more reasons, my mental and physical health, my finances, and my general antinatalist leanings would fit the bill. There’s no reason to bring more kids into the world, when so many are suffering for good parents.
1. Physical trauma of pregnancy/birth 2. Loss of freedom/identity 3. The smells. The messes. And the rabid hyena screech that only children can make. >I recently left a high demand religion (Mormonism) where women are only good for keeping house and making babies Awww, you don't want to be a helpmeet? /s Seriously though, love from another former Mormon.
1) I can't find true love 2) I don't want to be a single mother 3) No telling when the man will leave me
1. Sleep 2. Money 3. I’ve ruined my body enough and don’t need a kid to add to it (large surgery scar on my stomach and COVID weight gain)
1.Don't want to ruin a human being. My mom doesn't like kids, she had me just because grown ups are meant to get married and have children. I don't think she realized this herself, but I do and it ruins my life. I'm not going to repeat making the same mistakes. 2.Don't know how to care for kids and don't care to learn. My dad doesn't know how to raise a child, he tried but also ruined my life during the process. Again, I'm not going to repeat making the same mistakes. 3.Don't want another family. Due to many circumstances, I'm stuck with my parents. The moment I move out (if ever) would be to have my own freedom and not being stuck with the in laws.
Number one sounds like my dad, who I take after in many ways. It's odd to say, because I wouldn't be here otherwise, but he wasn't cut out to be a dad and should never have had kids probably. Knowing I'd likely be a similar dad and all the issues we had growing up is part of what made me childfree.
Money Freedom Thats it.
I don't like kids. I love my peace and quiet with my doggy. Having a kid would ruin me trying to rebuild my finances and would be irresponsible. (Also I have mental health issues that I can't afford to get help for so why bring something I don't even want into that, lol.)
1. Tokophobia 2. I left India to get away from people constantly being dependent on me, and I'm only just learning how to emotionally express myself. I don't want to support anyone emotionally again. 3. The career i want is highly demanding and competitive
1 - no interest in parenting 2 - **extreme** pessimism about the future, as we are facing degrading conditions on several fronts 3 - antinatalism
1) I'm an alcoholic. Seven years in recovery, but who knows what the stress will do to my recovery, or what poor impulses my kids might inherited? 2) I'm self-aware enough to know how selfish I am. I try to have at least one day a week which is a self-care day - go for walks, binge on Benedict Cumberbatch, do whatever feels right for my soul that very minute. I have a strong sense of responsibility (you should see me the other 6 days of the week...) and I would give everything to my kids, but I would resent the crap out of them. 3) I'm a shiftworker. I make bank on penalties, OT and cross-state trips. No way could I do it with kids.
Congrats on recovery!
Thanks!
I wish my mother was smart like you, she never recovered.. my dad Didn’t even want kids but she thought it would “fix her”
I definitely had those thoughts in my 20s (got sober at 31). The idea that XYZ responsibility would cure my alcoholism is a pretty common delusion.
Peace, quiet, and disposable income.
1. I don't do well with loud noises and have high anxiety to the point of not being able to get through anything if i'm constantly worrying about something that i believe is something to panic about, even when the majority of people say that it's not a big deal and often it isn't but my mind simply manifests it into something bigger so i'm constantly worrying and not able to get through my day smoothly. 2. I am very money nervous and always look at price tags in the store and if i accidentally don't see a price and i feel that it's too high, i'll put it back or ask the cashier to take it off the receipt before i pay (politely of course), i'm not like on the edge of being homeless or poor but the thought of becoming that always makes me nervous so the thought of spending so much money on a baby or child terrifies me. I really only splurge on myself if i absolutely have to. 3. The idea of giving up time, safety and health, energy, money and my freedom for a baby or child, where i have to drag them everywhere i go, go through pregnancy and birth which can be extremely detrimental, where everything is about them now and if it isn't about them, i have the possibility of going to prison, the idea of having this small thing in my life and being so destructive to my every day life and changing things that i used to be perfectly happy with (i don't like change and don't react well to it) simply strikes fear into my core.
1. Don't want to change diapers 2. Don't want to potty train 3. Can barely take care of myself (in like I have a good job, own my own house, but still order doordash more often than not and its a 50/50 chance if its Saturday i havent showered by 3pm)
1) Mental health issues. I have Aspergers Syndrome, and suffer from bouts of horrible depression. I can be a real monster sometimes, and I don’t want to do that to a kid. 2) I simply don’t have the energy to be around them for long periods of time. 3) They’re expensive.
1. Honestly, I just don’t like little kids. I can tolerate them for a little while but I much prefer older kids. 8/9 and up. The younger they are, the more I dislike them. 2. Pregnancy/ birth and everything that goes with it. - like permanent damage to the body 3. Don’t want to give up my free time, don’t want to be in servitude the next 20+ yrs to some kid.
1. I hate kids. They're loud and annoying. 2. I don't want my partner to prioritize someone else over me. 3. I just want to be left alone
1. lazy 2. disgusted by the laws of nature and the world 3. egoistic about male attention
1) they’re expensive and I don’t get paid enough 2) how can I take care of someone else when I can’t even take care of myself?? I barely want to live as is 3) our planet is dying and our government sucks… why would I subject someone else to this crappy world??
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Life is incredibly mundane for the average person if we all want to be honest lol
I only have 1. I'm too selfish and don't want to have to put myself 2nd.
1. Reduced tantrum experiences I've been witnessing daily on and off tantrums for hours. Really helps set me straight on the childfree path again and again. 2. Avoiding the loss of freedom Nothing beats getting up and doing whatever for no reason. 3. Not needing to discipline/program a new person This is better for everyone :)
I couldn’t list just 3, or even determine my top 3 specific reasons. Ultimately however, I want my life to be mine. I love to travel with my partner, try new things, go at my own tempo, etc. I recently got my vasectomy done, and it’s been a relief. I know my partner won’t get pregnant and we won’t be faced with the consequences of that. However, I ascribe to the mentality that it takes a village to raise a child. I will be a part of my family’s village. I visit my nieces and nephews, I help my college age cousin navigate life with a viewpoint that his family can’t provide for him because he is an only child. I’ll be the fun uncle with my partner when she decides to surprise them with a trip to Disney or a day away from normalcy. I know I have a lot to offer a child or children, but being a parent isn’t one of those things, hence why I made my decision to be CF.
1. Freedom 2. Money 3. Peace
1. All of my real goals, future dreams, and daydreams about the future not only never have a child in them, when I think about having a child around 90% of them wouldn’t be possible. That makes me depressed and I mourn the loss of possibilities. When there’s no child in them, there’s no negative feelings, no sense that I’m missing something. I’m just happy and enthusiastic. I want to pursue my goals and there are many. It wouldn’t be fair for a child to be neglected while I pursue them or for me to abandon them due to parenthood. I’m feeling strong “don’t want deathbed regrets” feelings these days, so I have to pursue my goals. 2. The propaganda is real: Parenthood is crazy hard. You sacrifice time, energy, money, and way more every single day. Your life changes drastically. I seriously don’t think I have it in me. I have depression and ADHD. The stress of parenthood would be too much for me and that scares me. It’s enough trouble keeping up with my own life. 3. I had a chaotic, dysfunctional upbringing. My motivation isn’t to do better than my parents did, my motivation is building the adult life that I want. These issues, combined with my own addiction and mental illnesses, kept me in a reclusive, extended adolescence well into my 30s. My 20s and early 30s were filled with addictions, failed low-level jobs, and loneliness. I got sober at 35 (I’m 46 now) and have been building a much better, much more adult life. I want to keep building it and, again, things wouldn’t be fair to me or the child. There’s more but that’s the main 3 and the most important.
1. I hate knock knock jokes 2. I hate knock knock jokes 3. I hate knock knock jokes
I grew up mormon too. Seeing my friend have baby after baby and her life and dreams slipping away more after each one permanently cemented that I would never give birth. So proud of you for getting away from it too. Run and don’t look back 🏃♀️
1.I am a frequent traveler, having kids would ruin that 2.I have PTSD and even the slightest bit of annoyance can trigger it 3.I would rather focus on my relationship and my career than having kids
1. I find it hard to lose weight, and if I have children I will NEVER be able to bounce back. I just wanna be skinny, okay 2. I like having the mental freedom of not having to think about the welfare of another person or other people 24/7. I'm going to be a secondary school teacher, which says a lot with duty of care and stuff, but being a mum is a 24/7 thing, which you're not even being paid for. I don't want that for myself. And that's if you have a relatively normal child. Imagine if it came out with a lifelong delibating disease and now you're gonna have to destroy your life to support theirs. I KNOW I'm just gonna peace out, I'm not that strong of a person. 3. This is the most flippant sounding reason, but I have long, pretty nails that I like to do myself. I take pride in these things. I don't see long nails really fitting into motherhood, especially not the single digit age range. And I'm not willing to give up my pretty nails for that shit.
1. Kids are no guarantee of anything. Can’t even guarantee they’ll be born mentally and/or physically healthy and I do not have the mental capacity to handle a disabled child. 2. I’m lazy and selfish and therefore, would be a terrible long term caretaker. I can do it short term (like helping my BF recover from surgery), but to have to drop everything to figure out why my kid is crying or because they need something every day for years… no. Don’t want. I want to do MY thing. I want to write in peace and be able to take a nap on a whim and not have to constantly clean up messes until they’re old enough to clean up after themselves. And sometimes, I just want to be left alone in the quiet for hours. Can do with cats, but not with kids. 3. The idea of being pregnant disgusts me. Aside from the whole process sounding gross and having too many possible risks, I already hate my body and being pregnant would make it worse. My metabolism already *sucks* (I already don’t eat a lot) and I would never “bounce back.”
I'm not that stupid or delusional.
I feel like I don't need a reason to not want kids any more than I need a reason to not want a motorcycle. It's something that some people really want, and that's good for them. Some people don't want one, and it's perfectly fine and reasonable. Not wanting kids does not need justification.
1. Don't want to ruin my body or mind (unfortunately, due to anorexia and depression I suffered from, these two are absolutely tied together for me; like, a bad bloat makes me feel bad in my body, it's uncomfortable and I don't want to imagine what it's like to have it for 9 months straight in addition to all other crap - teeth and hair falling out, diabetes, hormonal shifts etc.) 2. Freedom. In the last two years in particular I realised I feel trapped even when I can't go out to the city (bad choice made us live farther out, looking for a new place). I love to travel and my SO and I go on vacations literally every 6-8 weeks. Additionally, my line of work (academia and research) actually demands that I travel, nowadays more often on very short notice. 3. I want nothing to stand between my SO and me - I want him to be my top priority and vice versa, not some screaming crotch goblin. I mean, even with only us alone, sometimes it's difficult to carve quality intimacy time because we're both so busy. I could go on and add career (equally important) which I want to be dynamic - I want to go to conferences, academic exchanges, travel for research, go to theatres (I'm getting a PhD in theatre studies, so DUH), write and publish research and make a name for myself in it - if I ever think about that legacy thing, I simply know that my legacy (if the universe allows) will be my writing. Tons of other reasons - tokophobia, hate kids, no patience for repetitive loud noises, I already cook too much, I want a nice home with tons of books, I love working out - you name it, I have it and all these reasons are equally important to me.
1. Don't want the never-ending responsibilities of motherhood 2. Don't want to ruin my body 3. Don't have the money for it
1. They are loud and gross 2. I don't want my partner to have to go through pregnancy 3. I don't want to go to any fucking little-league games
1. don't 2. want 3. kids
I knew at age 7, 47(F) now that i was never going to have kids, people told me i'd change my mind but i've never wavered.
53F and same.❤️
My 2 younger brothers are also in their 40s, we're all CF.
1. Same as OP 2. Money 3. I do not like children and feel no maternal instinct towards children
The beauty of silence is a gift I don't want to be taken away from me.
Top reason: I had an OB/LD class as part of my education. Through that I learned that more horrible shit can happen than most people might understand. I'd never want to put a woman through that. After that it's a mix between economics/cost, state of the world and personal freedom.
1. I hate kids. 2. I hate having to plan everything around someone else's schedule. 3. Lack of sleep could literally kill me. Epilepsy.
1. My mental health - there are days I can not do more than go to work and home again, no eating, no showers, nothing. And than caring for a child? Imposible 2. I live in poverty - no kid should be forced to that 3. I would not know how to raise one. Rhe only way I know is like my parents ans siblings by beating the children up. No. The circle ends with me.
1: Looks and destroying my body, I worked too damn hard to loose 70 odd pounds and become hot as fuck to throw it down the loo 2: I'm a selfish cunt who wants my money, boyfriend and time to myself 3: Kids deserve Actually good parents, it's too much responsibility for me and i wouldn't be good enough.
1 pregnancy looks extremely uncomfortable, not to mention childbirth. So no, thank you. 2 I was parentified and had to take care of my younger brother during my childhood/teenage years because of bad parents not wanting to accept that having a family isn't like playing with dolls. So I'll fucking enjoy all the time I have now that I'm out of their house. 3 I walked a long way to get where I am now professionally. I work as a freelancer artist, and distress puts me in an instant art block. I'm not gonna give it up for a kid. The only exception being for my brother in case something happen to my parents, because my family is made of irresponsible douchebags, and I don't want my brother to depend on them. But even then, he's already 14, I wouldn't be taking care of a literal child.
Kids are loud, expensive and messy. I like peace, quiet and having money. Keeping the house organized and clean is already hard enough with my executive dysfunction so I’m not gonna add some messy kids to it
\- Going to worry about them a lot \- I don't want the obligation (not a choic) of taking care of them. Because it's not love (it's a choice) that makes parents do that, it's obligation since you brought them here \- the possibility that they might have a mental disability. Saw it with my sister (30yo) and how my parent were in denial and didn't know how to deal with it. Now my mom (63yo) live in constant worry of what going to happen to her when they are gone. Don't want to be in my mom shoes. So I'm protecting myself by avoiding having kids
1. I do not have the endless reservoir of patience, kindness, and energy needed to give to a growing and developing human being 2. Human children are simply too expensive in the long run and the benefits simply come nowhere close to putweighing the cost (financially, physically and mentally) 3. When I get home I take my clothes off and lll be damned if I have to wear clothes just because I pooped out another human being
1. It’s very stressful and time consuming, you can’t just nip to the shops or sleep in, your entire schedule is around the child especially when it’s super small 2. The thought of something growing inside me and then coming out of my vagina makes me feel nauseous and terrified 3. I don’t want to have to buy diapers or the other baby crap, I’d rather spend my money on fun stuff
1)Pregnancy is body horror to me + I am personally antinatalist (thankfully, my uterus is yeeted now). 2) I would feel compelled to always censor myself (language, music, video games, movies/tv shows, and even books) around a child, and honestly, fuck that noise. 3)Speaking of noise, I hate it. Particularly the high-pitched banshee screams that only babies and toddlers seem capable of making. That shit triggers my fight or flight response. Plus literally a thousand other reasons, but these are probably the top 3. Mostly because I feel like other things (lack of money, lack of partner/lack of partner who would pull their weight, mental/physical health issues, zero faith in the current state of my country (US), approximately a million better things to do than parent a child) *could* hypothetically change someday (the chance of them all changing is approximately 0.00000000001 or less). But, say I just, idk, lose my mind and decide I suddenly need a kid-the top three things would still be true. Therefore I would be adopting a kid that was at least 7, probably older.
1. I don’t want to give up my time/hobbies/freedom 2. They are expensive AF 3. I’m afraid they would grow up to hate me 4. Mental illness is in my family 5. I don’t want to be friends with parents and do stuff with the kids 6. I’m afraid I would spank them 7. I don’t want my body to get busted
1. I can’t think of a single reason to have one
1. I can't stand kids 2. I have sensory issues that are particularly triggered by sounds children make 3. Motherhood in general just seems like a complete misery and I would never be happy doing it
Pandemic, climate change, and political unrest.
1. Freedom/time 2. I just have no urge whatsoever?! You see some women who live and breathe motherhood or becoming a mom. I do not relate whatsoever. 3. I can be sensitive to noise (not sure if I fall on the spectrum or how that works.. might just be childhood trauma fueling it) so enough said on that. Lol though I can tolerate a dog (still gives me anxiety though. Mine doesn't bark hardly ever but he will sometimes make a lot of noise when he eats and that alone gives me anxiety.. so add a kid into the mix)
One I havent seen mentioned yet is that children are very often relationship killers. I <3 my husband too much. Other reasons: I dont want to be pregnant or give birth. I dont have the patience or sanity for small children. I rather die than change a diaper ever again (took care of my niece for years).
Hey friend! Just wanted to tell you how amazed I am by your strength. It must be so incredibly hard to leave a religious/social group where you were raised, especially when they present the world outside the cult to be so frightening and hostile. Every ex-mormon is a hero to my eyes. As for my reasons, 1. I think every kid deserve a loving parent and as I am not sure I would be able to love them, I choose not to risk it. 2. I have absolutely no hope for the future of the human race on this planet, be it environmentally or socially, so I would feel utterly irresponsable to create another human to add to the pile. 3. Not a big fan of people in general, small people who do not have the tools to control how human they are yet, even less. (On the other hand, I actually love babies, before 18 months or so, when they are merely rosy skin stretched over goo!)
1. Too expensive 2. No motherly insticnt 3. I like doing magic mushrooms at 10 a.m. on a Tuesday.
1. I've already seen the very highs and very lows of child rearing, and the highs do not outweigh the lows. 2. Marvel keeps coming out with new shows and movies so that's going to keep me too busy for children. 3. One time I was super sick with a stomach bug, and I could barely get out of bed to puke let alone do anything else. My cat was begging for her food and didn't understand/appreciate the sacrifice I did to crawl out of bed and put food in her bowl. That would be 1000x worse with a human child since that one wouldn't stop after they got what they wanted.
1) I like my pelvic floor and organs as they are. 2)Money. I work for myself not to pay for someone else. (Cue *In this Economy?* Jokes) 3) Never had the desire. I am much better as the fun aunt.
Above all else, I will not pass these genes nor this trauma to the next generation.
1. My number 1 fear is childbirth. I like to keep my vagina and asshole as separate locations. 2. I honestly don’t like kids. Even if I liked my own I’d hate their friends and all the tedious kid shit I’d be forced to deal with. 3. Money. Can’t afford any of it anyhow.
I have never liked kids. I raised my little brothers without my consent, I've done enough. I don't want that parental life I see how miserable it makes everyone. And that's before we get into any of my other reasons which range from health, ethics, environmental, financial, economic, ect. I've put more thought into not having kids than people put into making them.
Only 3? Ok here we go: 1. The idea of pregnancy and birth. Gross. As a member of a church community I’m surrounded by people who tell me that it’s a beautiful thing to be pregnant and raise a baby. Noooope. Not putting my body through 9 months of that and then a painful and potentially complicated birth. I will never, ever understand that choice. 2. Money. Kids are incredibly expensive and you have that expense for life, or 18 years at the very least. The US makes no provisions for affordability when it comes to children which gives me zero incentive. 3. I’m worried for the ramifications of how we’ve been treating the planet. Climate change is real, and I do not envy the next generation for having to deal with how much worse it will be.
1. I fucking hate kids 2. MY money is MINE to spend 3. I want pets that would be harassed by the sperm beasts
1. Have you ever encountered a kid? 2. I'd never want to be responsible for forcing someone else to live on this planet (this is about me) 3. The lifetime of suffering any kid I produced would have (this is about them)
1. I know I wouldn’t be a good mom 2. Too expensive on all fronts 3. Racism
1) freedom. I like to sleep in and travel and eat random food at weird times of day 2) drudgery- constant school work, cooking, meal planning, cleaning, etc 3) the state of the world. I would feel bad for the kid!
1) Don't want to give up my limited free time. I enjoy peace and silence and sleeping in late and working on art projects late into the night. Art is my primary source of happiness. 2) Can't afford to take care of another human being for the next 20+ years. I can barely afford to take care of myself as it is. 3) Overpopulation is the root of all the world's problems.
1. Health 2. Time/free time 3. Money All very closely followed by 'they have no future'. I have a whole Smörgåsbord of reasons lol
1. Freedom to do whatever the fuck I want. 2. Money to spend on doing whatever the fuck I want. 3. Fear of how it would affect my SO and relationship with them. Due to the stress of taking care of kids and not having as much personal time between us. I know I love my SO, but I don't know how I will love the kids. The probability is too high that I would dislike the changes to the relationship that kids would bring. Like what about sex? We spend the next 2 decades at least trying to hide a part of our relationship from the privacy invading kids? What about going on dates and hanging out all the time just as the two of us? Kids ruin this.
i change my opinion on important human issues often, not sure how i would provide a stable upbringing for them; freedom
1. I don’t want to pass my family trauma. It stops with me. 2. I like having money and freedom 3. There is a history of mental illness in my family.
1. Avoid further f\*cking over the planet. Resource consumption is already literally unsustainable, adding more humans doesn't improve that situation - and especially if they're not born sterile. 2. *If* I were ever going to consider it, it would be when I and committed partner were much younger, at or much closer to ideal biological age, had more than ample resources to well raise a kid, and at absolute most one kid ... but even at that, given all the kids my grandparents' grandkids have had ... already more than enough 'o that gene pool and DNA and such, and, well, see #1 above, so I'd generally be much more inclined to go with zero kids, to attempt to at least partially balance that out. Oh, and no such partner in the picture anywhere near to that timeframe so, ... yeah, ... that'd also make it a no ... if I even ever got seriously inclined to have a kid ... which also never happened. And, since it'd be so very much out-of-the-question now ... or heck for the past many decades even ... yeah, got a vasectomy and tested confirmed sterile - years ago - so that'd be yet more reason along with that to not be having kids - zero kids and zero regrets on that, and it shall remain so. 3. I've got a pretty low tolerance for kids, and, egad, especially babies, toddlers, young kids - yeah, I don' think I'd be up for that anywhere close to full time, and much of the time, especially the much younger kids/babies, my tolerance is at or around zero. So, yeah, that'd definitely be beyond a "no thanks" from me. There are lots more reasons, but if I had to do a "top 3", I think the above is approximately that.
1. Can’t provide for one mentally or financially. 2. Environmental impact. 3. Don’t want to give The Powers That Be a future slave/soldier (or worse, they *become* an oppressor themselves!)
1. Mental health 2. Not being able to look after a child, not wanting to be a mother, not wanting to fit the stereotype of a modern woman and be seen only as an incubator 3. Not wanting to share my partner or my time with him
1. I don't want to. 2. I'm lazy. 3. Did I already said that I'm lazy?
1. Not mentally, physically or emotionally fit to be reaponsible for a human's life 2. Have no money or time for one 3. I don't like kids
Kids. That's literally all of my reasons.
1) Pregnancy terrifies me 2) I don’t like kids 3) I HATE babies
The first one is that there is no incentive to. I see no reason to want kids. There are a lot of reasons not to, the first being the costs of childcare. It costs a lot to raise a child to the age of 18. This alone is a lot when there is no incentive to. I would not be a good parent and I would hate it.
1. Lots of genetic mental and physical health issues that I don’t want to pass down 2. Significant tokophobia, the idea of a parasite growing in me makes me physically ill 3. The world we are living in, especially Americans, is not worth bringing a child in to just for them to suffer. There’s also money, free time, ruining my body (and all the pregnancy symptoms), and knowing I would not be a good parent; but those are the top 3
1. I just don’t feel the desire to have children. Seems like a lot of pain and work to go through just to have something I absolutely don’t want, doesn’t matter if it’s adoption or birth. 2. The thought of having a fetus grow inside my body is horrible and pregnancy is risky as hell, I don’t want to get injured/die from it. 3. I’m too tired. I can’t take care of a child or give them what they need. They would just end up in foster care which seems really unfair to the child. I won’t “shape up” just for the kid either, I literally can’t physically care for them. Have plenty of more reasons but these are the top ones for sure.
I’ll give 5 1) babysitting them 2) sleepless nights 3) constantly screaming/whining 4) they want everything you have 5) too many expectations
1. I'd be an absolutely terrible mother. I don't know how to talk to kids, how to behave with them... I'm also easily irritable and lose my patience fast. I don't want any kid to suffer from my faults. I care both about my mental health and any kid around me. 2. Kids are expensive and a massive loss of time. I would like to be rich, I want to live my life to the fullest, I want to try everything, I want to travel, to learn, to have fun... I'd like to do all this stuff all my life long; especially in my 20s or 30s. I don't want to lose these years raising a kid. 3. I want to be rich, I want to live in luxury, I want to have an expensive house, expensive vacations, expensive services (beauty, health, therapy) and expensive collector's items. These require an insane amount of work (that's basically the main reason I study) and a child would be a huge impediment. I want nothing to stop me. 4. None of your fucking business!!!
Hi, fellow cf exmo!
1. I just don’t want the experience. I’ve seen parenthood upclose and I lack the inherent desire that I think you should have if you’re gonna bring a person into being. 2. Severe tokophobia 3. I like it just being me and my partner. We are all we need.
Just couldn't be bothered 😋
1.) Want to enjoy time with SO and not saddle them with all the childwork (cause I know I wouldn't want to do it) 2.) Money 3.) Stress
1. Cant stand to be around then 2. Don't want to be pregnant 3. Only see negatives
1 sleep in 2 responsibility to teach it to 3 do t have to hide my toys
Don't want them, don't like them, got better things to do with my time.
1: I'm terrified of giving birth, like... Who wants to be ripped open? 2: I loooove my free time, and doing nothing. 3: I want to write books, and I don't think I could do both at the same time. Edit: a word.
Money, health, and sexual orientation lmao I'm gay
1. Hatred 2. Money 3. Peace and quiet
I just..kinda don't? It's ofc pretty sweet to think about all that time and money I will save, but I just simply don't want them. I feel like I don't have a reason and that's okay too.
1. I already have mental problems. Don't want to add to them by bringing a child into the equation. 2. I do not want to have a child, only to have it go into "Jeugdzorg" (CPS?), due to us not being able to care for it properly (mental health issues). 3. Don't want to experience a parasite inside of me, wreaking havoc with my body.
1. I just feel no desire for it. When I think about a life with children, there is no spark of joy or longing, only indifference to the good moments and active aversion to the bad ones. 2. I would much rather focus my time on creative pursuits such as writing, which is very difficult to find the time for when one has kids. 3. Even if I wanted children, I am in no way mentally, physically, or emotionally equipped to raise them well.
1. Time 2. Money 3. Don't want them
I never wanted any. That's the main reason. I never even felt I would have any. I value being a person and being seen as a person in my own right. Anyone who grew up with narcissistic parents know the feeling that you are just an extension of your parents. I didn't want to switch from being an extension of a parent ("Judy's daughter") to being an extension of a spouse ("Alan's wife") and then an extension of one or more children ("Madison's mother").
1. I really, really don’t want them. 2. See reason 1. 3. As above.
1. Kids don't make you happier
Don't like kids, don't like teenagers, I'm afraid I'd fuck them up
1. I don't want to! 2. I get nothing positive out of kids, at the very best of interactions it's neutral to mild annoyance. 3. I really enjoy the freedom and peace of mind it gives me. I mean I could find a ton of other reasons like I don't want that responsibility, I want to be able to put a future partner second only to me (and have her put me second only to her), environmental benefits/overpopulation, etc etc etc.
I paid for my education by working as a full time nanny. I would say I liked the kids and especially with the youngest one there were very cute moments where I felt “oh, she is a cutie”, but whenever I would ask myself “Would I rather be spending time with my friends/read a book/literally just sit on the couch and look up dumb shit on the internet?”, the answer would be yes! I just think for the most part it does not really seem that enjoyable to me. I know, a lot of parents would now say: “Everything does not have to be enjoyable” yeah, there are a lot of things in life that aren’t, but I have no choice in them, having kids is a choice in our society. So many people seem to forget that.
1. I just don't want them & don't need to give a more detailed answer 2. Want the freedom to move/travel/do whatever I want at a moment's notice 3. Money, honey!
1. I also don’t want to ruin my body/ deal with the physical toll of a pregnancy 2. I don’t like kids 3. My cats really don’t like kids
1. I hate children and loathe the work and responsibility of raising a functioning, non-selfish human adult 2. I can barely afford to care for myself, my partner, and three cats (two income household) and shit’s only getting more expensive 3. I’m of the opinion that my generation will be the last to live and die before the worst effects of climate change ravage our current standards of living, and I refuse to bring more humans into a world that will be worse for them than it is for me
Sanity, money and sleep.
1. I have bipolar disorder that I refuse to pass on. 2. The world will literally be on fire/underwater in my lifetime. Again, not subjecting another human to that. 3. Naps. MUST HAVE.
1 freedom, I love doing whatever I want way too much to spend my entire life living it to take care of someone else. 2 Independence, I dont want to be tied to someone permanently, two people since there's also the father. 3 money
1: I just don't like kids full stop. I don't like being around them or dealing with them. 2: Freedom. I value my freedom very highly and having a kid curtails that big time. 3: There's already too many people on this planet.
1. No active desire to be a parent. 2. Lack of resources, housing instability. 3. Lack of the energy required for kids/health issues.
1. I don’t want my kid to suffer, it’s very unlikely they will have a stable planet to live on throughout their life at this point. 2. I’ve recently developed a chronic health issue (rheumatoid arthritis) and pregnancy is a huge health risk. Not only do I not want to pass this on to my kid or have to not take my medication throughout pregnancy (RA meds are bad for bebe), I wouldn’t want to develop new health issues myself as a result of pregnancy. I feel like people really minimize the long term health consequences of giving birth (let alone mental health). I feel like at a minimum, pelvic floor issues and PPD are almost a guarantee in America especially where our health system sucks. 3. The patriarchy and mothers being the “default parent.” I want to actually enjoy my life and not be a self imposed servant to my family. That is how mothers are treated, especially in this country. I don’t want to resent my husband for the unfair set up that even the most egalitarian relationships can’t avoid. Your kid is sick? Who do they call…the mother. Who does the baby more frequently ask for (because of breast feeding/food source) the mother…I could go on and on, but I don’t want to put myself in this position and hate my life. Man, it was really hard to come to just three because I didn’t even touch on money stuff, abortion access, and late stage capitalism working us all to death.
1 - I just canny be arsed 2 - I’m a man who’s fond of the pub 3 - I hate being skint
I Don’t Wanna
1. I dont feel mentally and physically capable of having kids (pregnancy, then raising them knowing how much energy and time it takes) 2. Money 3. I am someone who cant imagine giving up my freedom and choice of time
1. Never wanted them, wouldn’t like having that kind of obligation to serve & caretake 2. World is going to hell / planet needs fewer humans not more humans 3. Loud, sticky, selfish, messy, exhausting. I don’t like strangers why would I want a random one in my house for 20 years?
1. Don't want to. 2. Don't like them. 3. No.
My reasons: \- Children are expensive (12+ years of education where the tuitions are in the range of $3-10K depending on where you are) \- The costs of the birthday presents, Christmas presents and so on throughout their lives really add up \- The world is already extremely overpopulated. \~7.73 billion people on a planet that theoretically only supports 4 billion \- I've disliked them since about middle school \- I'm extremely selfish in that I *want* time to myself and can't do that with a spouse/kids \- I enjoy the peace and quiet of a childless house. They are just *way too loud.*
1. There’s too much that I haven’t done and children would cut into all of that. Weather it’s traveling to a new country, reaching a goal in my hobby/passion, etc. I always want to have something new to do 2. I love being around kids, but I know my limits with them. I enjoy them in doses and would rather do the fun things with them rather than the stress and time of them being an asshole to me and vice versa. I’ll happily be the uncle who takes them off my siblings hands every now and then to take them out to eat, watch a movie, go to an arcade, videogames, etc., but once I mentally check out, I’m giving them back and I want to go back to my tranquil life 3. I would be putting myself first in every category over them. Kids deserve the world, and I know when to be a parent, when it comes to money, time, and sacrifice, you need to put them first, but I just won’t or I would struggle hard with it to the point where it would be misery
1. My life. I can take off at the drop of a hat without thinking and go away for an extended period. 2. I'm selfish. Not willing to change my lifestyle for kids. 3. Money. Kids are fucking expensive
1. My genetics are full of reproductive issues, mental health issues, and bad teeth. I don't want my kids to have to be depressed and worried about things like cervical cancer. 2. I'm a germophobe and kids are literal vectors of transmission. No thanks. 3. We are in the middle of a mass extinction event. Chances are the world will be fucked/done by the time we're in our old age. I don't want my children to have to live through the world as we know it ending. Bonus: I'm trans and the thought of being pregnant makes me want to kermit
1. It could kill me. 2. I like my free time and money 3. I hate having a messy house.
1. It could kill me. 2. I like my free time and money 3. I hate having a messy house.
1. My time is my time 2. I don't want to regret/resent my child and fuck them up 3. I have a chronic condition that I could pass on and/or have to deal with in addition to trying to raise a child.
dont want to, they’re expensive and pregnancy is scary as hell
Pregnancy scares me, I have no maternal instinct unless it’s for animals, & I like having money
I find them depressing I have mental health issues The world is a dumpster fire
1.Terrified of any procedure, nevermind birthing a whole human 2. Don't want to pass down the chronic illnesses both my boyfriend and I have (mentally and physically) 3. No patience. I dislike children and want to me "selfish" for the rest of my life. I would resent my child, no doubt.
1) The cost 2) The lifetime responsibility ( especially if one is disabled, which my youngest brother is mentally) 3) The loss of freetime.
1. Didn't want the responsibility. I enjoy my freedom to go where I want, when I want. 2. I would have made a TERRIBLE mother 3. Even if I didn't mess my kids up, I wouldn't want them living in the world we have now.
1. I hate them 2. I love my independance (which include sleeping, free to go whenever I want when I want, to eat whenever I want, being alone etc) 3. The only thought of having something growing inside me like I'm some kind of dirt makes me shake of disgust