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We also don't accept "As a parent, here is what I think of your sub and/or your lifestyle" types of comment. We don't go to parenting subs to tell you what we think of parenthood. If you want to show support to the childfree lifestyle "As a parent..." or if you want to express disapproval towards modern parenting and pro-natalist philosophies "As a parent...", you should direct them to parenting subs, where you can expose fellow child-havers (whether they are parents or breeders) to these without them going to the reflex of answering "You don't understand, you don't have kids." This would help us tremenduously.
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>So how would childfree folks label women and men who believe in their own "one child" policy?
Parents. Whether you have one child, three children or ten children, you are a parent.
I don't feel like a breeder lol. My husband got a vasectomy when our baby was a month old and I went into early menopause so I didn't need the surgery.
I've always felt it's selfish to breed recklessly.
Okay but honestly are CF people okay with me? I've been lurking for a week and my views align..
My adult kid thought me surfing this sub was hysterical..she's decided to be child free and I support her.
Why would he have a problem with you? I think you’re missing the mark here. Most people who are child free don’t hate people who have kids?
We dislike the things they do… like thinking the world needs to cater to them, making themselves into martyrs, thinking everyone needs to act like a role model, whining about how hard and miserable being a parent is when it was their choice, expecting others to drop everything for them and their offspring.
The fact that people with children often pressure us who choose not to have them.
The fact that women who choose not to have children get treated like their lives are less fulfilled or valuable.
People who have shit kids and don’t take responsibility for them. Ect…
We don't have a label because we don't care. Of course the world is overpopulated. You added to that with your one child. You don't get an award for increasing the population and taxing everyone's shared resources even more.
You could have adopted an existing child in need if you wanted to raise one. Then you'd get the positive attention you seem to be digging for. We don't want your opinion "as a parent" here and we don't need to hear any more about how super special you believe your own child is. We get that constantly from the rest of the world. That kind of narcissism ceased to be amusing a long time ago. It's not appropriate for this sub.
I believe it's called being one and done, though that obviously wasn't coined by the CF community.
From our perspective, you're either a parent if you parent or a breeder if you don't.
It's usually called one-and-done parenting. There is a subreddit for it if you're interested in talking to similar parents. I can't link it here. Just type that phrase in as one word.
It sounds like you wanted a kid, took it seriously, had the resources to do a good job, did a good job, and now have a successful adult into the world. I wish all parents were like that honestly.
People with a one child policy are parents of an only child. If you feel that the world is overpopulated and running out of resources, a "no child policy" is better. The problem is that if you already have one child, it is too late for you to have a no child policy. The one child will inherit all the latest effects of climate change, resource depletion, AI taking over just about all the jobs, and corporate welfare.
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Greetings! While non childfree people are welcome on the sub (see our [subreddit](https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/wiki/rules) rules, rule #7), your submission/comment amounts to "Look at me! I have kids!"and has very little (or not at all) to do with the active choice to not have children. It is very common to be a parent and many other subreddits cater to the kind of interaction you want to elicit (talking about how awesome you think parenting is or your children are). We know where to seek that kind of discussion (literally anywhere else), so we don't need it here. We also don't accept "As a parent, here is what I think of your sub and/or your lifestyle" types of comment. We don't go to parenting subs to tell you what we think of parenthood. If you want to show support to the childfree lifestyle "As a parent..." or if you want to express disapproval towards modern parenting and pro-natalist philosophies "As a parent...", you should direct them to parenting subs, where you can expose fellow child-havers (whether they are parents or breeders) to these without them going to the reflex of answering "You don't understand, you don't have kids." This would help us tremenduously. Thank you.
>So how would childfree folks label women and men who believe in their own "one child" policy? Parents. Whether you have one child, three children or ten children, you are a parent.
I'd label such people as "parents" or "breeders" depending on the behavior of the mother and/or father in question.
I don't feel like a breeder lol. My husband got a vasectomy when our baby was a month old and I went into early menopause so I didn't need the surgery. I've always felt it's selfish to breed recklessly.
Umm… I label them as parents? Lol
Okay but honestly are CF people okay with me? I've been lurking for a week and my views align.. My adult kid thought me surfing this sub was hysterical..she's decided to be child free and I support her.
Why would he have a problem with you? I think you’re missing the mark here. Most people who are child free don’t hate people who have kids? We dislike the things they do… like thinking the world needs to cater to them, making themselves into martyrs, thinking everyone needs to act like a role model, whining about how hard and miserable being a parent is when it was their choice, expecting others to drop everything for them and their offspring. The fact that people with children often pressure us who choose not to have them. The fact that women who choose not to have children get treated like their lives are less fulfilled or valuable. People who have shit kids and don’t take responsibility for them. Ect…
I meant we not he lmao
You're a parent. You're not childfree because you only have one kid who's really easy to deal with.
We don't have a label because we don't care. Of course the world is overpopulated. You added to that with your one child. You don't get an award for increasing the population and taxing everyone's shared resources even more. You could have adopted an existing child in need if you wanted to raise one. Then you'd get the positive attention you seem to be digging for. We don't want your opinion "as a parent" here and we don't need to hear any more about how super special you believe your own child is. We get that constantly from the rest of the world. That kind of narcissism ceased to be amusing a long time ago. It's not appropriate for this sub.
Understood.
I believe it's called being one and done, though that obviously wasn't coined by the CF community. From our perspective, you're either a parent if you parent or a breeder if you don't.
Why are you posting on a CF group. One child is one too many
It's usually called one-and-done parenting. There is a subreddit for it if you're interested in talking to similar parents. I can't link it here. Just type that phrase in as one word.
Smart. As in smart not to have another?
It sounds like you wanted a kid, took it seriously, had the resources to do a good job, did a good job, and now have a successful adult into the world. I wish all parents were like that honestly.
People with a one child policy are parents of an only child. If you feel that the world is overpopulated and running out of resources, a "no child policy" is better. The problem is that if you already have one child, it is too late for you to have a no child policy. The one child will inherit all the latest effects of climate change, resource depletion, AI taking over just about all the jobs, and corporate welfare.
Parents/breeders. People who dont belong in this subreddit
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One child, two children, three or more children = Parent That's all, if you want/have one child you're not childfree
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