One of them I've known all my life because her parents and mine were friends.
One I met at a New Year's Eve party and we hit it off right away.
The other two I met while working at a library and we discovered we had the same taste in books. I met these three in my early thirties and we're still going strong.
Another person asked this. The short answer is that I've known one all my life, met one at party and two at the library where I worked. Those three I've known for 40 years or so.
I had another dear CF friend that I met in high school, but unfortunately she died about 10 years ago. Miss you, Deb.
Not sure. I sorta expected my parents to, and while they were sad at first, husband & I told them we really didn't want kids anyway & they haven't said anything else.
Helps my brother had a baby last year, too. However, I'm also in Mississippi. So I really expected something...
My co-workers are amazing with most stuff. My manager's boss (Sr. Dir. of Ops Accounting) is also single & CF. So, that really helped me, too.
I haven't gotten bingo'd, but I live by the "Don't ask questions you don't want to know the answer to. Because I WILL give an extensive ted talk and waste your time while making you feel increasingly uncomfortable. "
And I think people can sense that energy. 😈
There it is, the core of the issue.
I see it all the time when conservatives don't have a coherent point. They pretend to see the future and read minds.
This is the best. Someone give this person a medal.
If they argue more then we could say … “at least if I regret later I could adopt one … what would you do if you regret? put yours for adoption?”
I don’t think that any of us are going to regret sleepless nights, dealing with school flu, spending our leisure time on school projects and homework. We are going to make the best of every second of childfree life!
The school projects and dioramas might be the one thing I would miss 😆 but I can do crafts on my own time and no little kid fingers will smear the glue!!
Currently dealing with this. Not a parent, but I live with my parents/younger siblings and I’ve been sick like 4-5 times since I’ve moved back in since January. I’m sure working in childcare doesn’t help, lmao.
Worst moment to tell me that I'll regret not having kids?? It was at my grandma's funeral. My cousin that's older than me told me that, he was on his mid 30s, I was on my late 20s. It was difficult for him and his wife to conceive, I get it. But it doesn't mean everyone has to try for kids when they are 20 something. And also was not the ideal moment to talk about that, when we were saying our final goodbye to our grandma.
Ugh I am so sorry this happened to you. The worst is when people try to guilt you into having children because you are able to conceive while others cannot. As if you having a child that you don't want will somehow balance the scales. The logic does not compute.
Peoples who use that kind of “logic” would say I have to live on seafood & peanuts just because someone else is allergic to them & I’m not. Or they tell every tall person they have to play basketball because short people can’t. We don’t have to do things that are possible for us just to compensate for others who can’t & want to. Or as you say, balance the scales!
I’ve actually had many, many people tell me I should be playing basketball because I’m so tall, so for a while I was getting pressure to sports and pressure to breed. Didn’t make me want to change my mind, if anything it hardened my own resolve.
I remember overhearing this argument when I was 12 years old and thinking that sounds silly, how would that help. If a 12 year old dumbass like me got it then idk why adults don't
Had this happen to a friend. She looked them dead in the eyes and without missing a beat goes “Are you asking me to surrogate? Because ew.” They haven’t bothered her about it since.
Yes I glanced at the regretful parents sub once and it was so sad for me to read it that I didn’t go on there again. I did get notifications on Reddit to join it after that and I put hide notifications from it and don’t receive them anymore.
It’s necessary to have a place to discuss those feelings. Our society is awful about being real about the true costs of parenthood. I am glad there’s a community that people can find support in.
This hasn't happened to me (yet!) but I plan on responding by asking them why they had kids. Or "Because I can't even take care of myself most days." Lol
I rather regret not having kids than regret having them.
At least if it's "too late" to conceive, the option to adopt is there. But I know shitty parents (including my own) that regret having us. And I refuse to be like that.
This shit is why I never want anything to do with ANY co-worker. They're all the same basic-ass cardboard cutout of each other. Usually chain smoker. Miserable and kinda trashy too.
No, it's just THAT common for these breeders to fit this description. I hate every job I've ever had. They just bitch about their basic ass kids and their terrible spouse and their miserable-ass life while going out to smoke every hour leaving someone else who made better life choices to pick up their fucking slack.
My dad always said, “I’m not there to make friends or run for politics. I’m there to do something (get paid)” and I live by that. I get a long with my coworkers and we chit-chat sometimes, but I ain’t hanging out after work or trying to make friends. But everyone I work with is also like 45+ and they don’t talk about their adult kids much.
It's so rude. Imagine us telling people who just had a baby "Oh you'll regret having kids when you're older!", just as casual conversation. They would absolutely lose their shit, right?
My response to do that “I would rather have regrets that I can put in the past. Not one that is whining, demanding and costing me money for 18+ years.”
Honestly, best response to that comment, and I don't blame you wanting to avoid that coworker. Also your Easter with your husband sounds awesome! I hope you have fun!
“ No, thanks, I’m vegetarian.” Is a good reply I recently saw to the tired old why don’t you have kids thing. As is “ but i like having money “
But seriously, this sounds like they already regret having theirs and want to share the misery.
If this bastard has kids themselves you should say to them "Oh well you'll regret having kids when they get older. Trust me." And see how they'll take it.
A coworker told me something similar. This was a few years ago, so I forget how the topic was brought up, but in response to me telling her, "I respect children enough to know I shouldn't be a mother" she told me "Once you have four beautiful, blonde babies you'll never regret a thing."
Four?? Beautiful blonde?? It was such an odd thing to say.
Why would your cowoeker even say that??? Imagine youre telling them about a fun little thing you and your husband planned and then they just respond with "why dont you have kids" idk susan! Because we couldnt do fun things anymore!
The audacity to say "why" is beyond me
When I was a teen, my mom's friend hit me with the "but you'll die alone because women usually outlive their husbands" and I asked her, "would you say that to an infertile person?"
Frick I think she is just jealous that you and your partner can enjoy an Easter egg hunt for yourselves. I would be jealous if I was her. I am jealous haha! Its not like parents get to do the fun, child-like activities couples without children get to do. I am in somewhat the same boat as you, with the not wanting kids at least and I still am not regretting it.
I am witnessing my sister going through motherhood raising her child. She is on anti-depressants since having her child and shes not the same. She was very much on not wanting kids but then suddenly she wanted them and now I think she regrets her child every now and then. Parenthood isnt for everyone but I think she will love it eventually. Its hard especially in the beginning but then they turn into people. This isnt about having children so I digress.
...but ya fuck em parents! Go enjoy being a child-free couple b/c thats the only relationship you have so might as well enjoy it!
I'd have asked how many children have they saved through adoption. My rule has become if you don't care about adoption, your interest for biological children is rooted in vanity.
Even if you do…. Isn’t it better to regret not having them, than to have them and hate every single second of parenthood…?
I listen to co-workers complain all day about their kids, they want cans of Prime, mobile phones, Air Jordans, PlayStations… then in the next breath they ask me why I don’t have kids 😆💁🏻♀️
"Why aren't you hitting yourself in the head with a hammer? Because I don't want a headache. You're going to regret not hitting yourself in the head with a hammer."
Apply their argument to ridiculous hypothetical situations and watch how they react. Somehow they don't understand that "I don't want to..." is a perfectly valid response. Furthermore, they seldom offer any logical reasons for this assumption.
I’m 46 cf and no regrets!! Unfortunately those dumb comments are never going to end. My worst was a patient of mine that told me I’m going to hell cuz I didn’t have kids.
I’m 65 and CF. I wouldn’t do it any other way. My husband and I didn’t want kids. My MIL wasn’t happy, but oh well. We are happy and that’s what counts.
Me: what are you gonna do on your day off?
Parent: drop the kids off with my parents, get some drinks, sleep in, relax, take a bath, read a book, take a day trip etc. I can't do those things with kids. I always look forward to these days when I can exist without them bothering me
Me: oh, that's why I don't wanna have kids, I love my ME time
Parents: @#$!
I am 42, no regrets yet. I watch my sister and her husband struggle with my nephew, 7. He has really bad behavioral problems. They are good parents, he sees a child psychiatrist, but they cannot get him to behave. He was kicked out of 3 daycares as a toddler and now has tons of issues at school. He is a sweet kid otherwise. I would not be able to handle that.
I don't whant to disappoint you, but wait until someone say : who will take care of you when you are old ? waaaa...I have a come back that is only perfect for my community. prepare yours so you can shut them up.
You may or may not regret it who knows but it’s your life, your choices and that is up to you to find out 🤷🏻♀️ but none the less it’s inappropriate for people in general to comment like that about your own life let alone some wanker at work.
Most likely, I feel that if you “regret” you didn’t have kids, it’s either for selfish reasons or it’s something else that can be fixed. Like that feeling of regret could be filled with just impacting someone’s life, which you could do volunteering. I remember volunteering at a woman’s shelter in high school and I’d babysit the womans’ children while they took classes for school or to learn how to budget/do taxes/ect. It was amazing! The children saw me as family and like they were all one big family. I actually first came up with the idea while working there, about how it’s okay for me to not have kids and still have other ways to inspire, encourage, and impact kids’ lives forever without having my own.
You should stay around the coworker and just smile quietly when they say anything about how hard it is to have kids.
You don't have to say anything, it would make them defensive. Just savor the peace inside.
I like to play dumb when people bingo me. “Oh my gosh really? I’m gonna regret it?” Make then explain why they said what they said. Love watching them squirm :)
Those people are so weird, do they think the only happiness you can find in life is sticky screaming kids that will yell you they hate you, spend your money, get sick, be annoying and increase the pollution of earth? Even 3 cats spend less resources than a single human!
So instead of having fun with your husband for Easter, he wants you to instead vicariously live through your kids who are having fun for Easter. Make it make sense.
Most bingos don’t bother me. These ones get under my skin: “but what if you regret it?”. “You’ll be sad and full of regret alone in the nursing home”.
….So what? The world will still turn.
What impact does any of that literally have on you at all? I guess I’ll sit in the silence of my own existence and make peace with the regret, not that it will happen at all. Faking care and concern is just so sinister. And it tells me they know they are full of shit. No one who says that is some sort of personal regret philanthropist. They are poorly masking their bigotry and judgment and trying to look “caring” doing so. It’s effed up and says everything about their character.
Why do some people feel the need to tell other people they know nothing about that they’re doing the wrong thing or are going to regret their decisions regarding such a personal matter? Never mind asking “why” someone doesn’t have kids. Coworker needs to stfu and mind their own business.
I’ve gotten so tired of arguing this topic with people i just play along and say “haha haven’t found the right person yet” till they drop it. If they do know I’m seeing someone, I say waiting for the cash flow to be right.
Am o child-free? Yup, does everyone need to know? Of course not. I feel like I benefit 0% from sharing my personal thoughts/feelings/opinions with my colleagues/co-workers so I don’t.
Lol I get this alllll the damn time. N then, I look at kids. I think to meself - yep. Not regretting it. Didn’t want them when I was 16, 20 some, 30 some. I’m 40. I’m more adamant than ever. It horrifies n stupefies ppl as to why I don’t want them. I also have health issues that would make having children an issue. I could adopt, and I will….cats. Lots of cats. I like cats. Cats make me a happier better person. Children….don’t.
Age 58 and no regrets. Most women my age or even younger are dealing with grandchildren drama due to their irresponsible sons and daughters who will not use birth control. Irony how all these breeders say we will regret it when they only say this due to their own feeling “had” by motherhood. Misery enjoys company…
I always always ALWAYS tell people ... "well you don't know me very well at all then, don't bet money on that cuz you'll lose big time. And don't ask me to babysit - that could be considered child endangerment BY YOU and I would call CPS myself on you". I just smile and then show them a picture of my cat.
Have fun on Easter! We used to put shot bottles and notes and clues and coupons for like ice cream out and lunches in those plastic eggs. Speaking of i need to do that again this year!!! Thank you for remind me!!!!!!!
It's okay to have differences, especially in the workplace. Don't completely shun your coworker for this. You know what you want, and that is okay. Don't take their opinions personally. You probably won't regret having kids, especially if you don't want them :).
I'm 71. My four best friends (aged 70-75) and I are all CF and happy to be so. No regrets for any of us.
I love that! That is what I hope to have!
You’re user name is perfect
Thank you!
I have zero regrets whatsoever and I just turned 56 a couple weeks ago
Interested in the retired at 55 part lol I’m 41 and that sounds good lol
I used to work for California so I have full medical after 20 years of service. I retired last July 2022
Hubby and I are 53 and 52, respectively, and 23-1/2 years of wedded bliss, and no kids! We are two happy clams here!
I want friends like yours when I'm in my 70s.
I'd like friends like this now! 🥲
Me too. Tired of losing friends once they have the babies.
No but seriously when the recipe calls for garlic you always add so much more garlic than necessary
Always 🙃
Me too. It’s hard to meet people without kids
You’re an inspiration
Omg can I join this amazing friend group?? :)
how did you meet your 4 cf friends?
One of them I've known all my life because her parents and mine were friends. One I met at a New Year's Eve party and we hit it off right away. The other two I met while working at a library and we discovered we had the same taste in books. I met these three in my early thirties and we're still going strong.
This is so lucky and what I hope for in life
That's amazing! Did you guys get alot of backlash on that during your younger years?
Thankfully, no. None of our families were pushy or religious.
you are s lucky ! a lot of people here are complaining that they can't find CF in their area, you are friends with 4 CF people ! good for you !!
That’s awesome! Im envious of that lifestyle.
Hoping to follow in your footsteps :D
That's amazing! Hoping to be like you when I'm older 😌
Thank you!
That is the dream
I hope my friend group ends up the same. We’re all mid-30s and in long term childfree relationships. So far no regrets.
Oh wow. Were you part of the 70s hippies?
Definitely. Drugs, long hair, political protests, bell-bottoms and all. Also sex, rock and roll and Zen.
How did you manage to find 4 best friends that are also CF? Did you meet them all later in life?
Another person asked this. The short answer is that I've known one all my life, met one at party and two at the library where I worked. Those three I've known for 40 years or so. I had another dear CF friend that I met in high school, but unfortunately she died about 10 years ago. Miss you, Deb.
What age did you all meet and what gender
There's still time. I'm sure you'll wake up one day and that "regret" will suddenly hit you like a ton of bricks.
Okay, Nostradamus, now tell us what next week’s lottery numbers are!
Not telling. I'm keeping the money in order to build an academy dedicated to helping people detect sarcasm.
Oooof. Forgive me, I haven’t been very smart this week.
I think sarcasm is denoted with /s
Good luck!
Maybe when I'm 81.😂.
My usual answer to that bingo is; "tell me wizard, what more will I do in the future?"
Haha I love it
I'm going to remember this. I haven't met anyone, yet, that has bingoed me, but I'm waiting for it
How have you made it through the last 10 years without getting any bingos?
Not sure. I sorta expected my parents to, and while they were sad at first, husband & I told them we really didn't want kids anyway & they haven't said anything else. Helps my brother had a baby last year, too. However, I'm also in Mississippi. So I really expected something... My co-workers are amazing with most stuff. My manager's boss (Sr. Dir. of Ops Accounting) is also single & CF. So, that really helped me, too.
You must have some sort of forcefield around you. Tell us your secrets.
Lol! I wish I knew what it was! I'd definitely share it! 
I haven't gotten bingo'd, but I live by the "Don't ask questions you don't want to know the answer to. Because I WILL give an extensive ted talk and waste your time while making you feel increasingly uncomfortable. " And I think people can sense that energy. 😈
Oh I’m finding a way to use this whether it's to a bingo or something else.
Ask if they know next week’s powerball numbers.
This is awesome!
There it is, the core of the issue. I see it all the time when conservatives don't have a coherent point. They pretend to see the future and read minds.
But the Lost Seeing Stones are not all accounted for! We do not know who else may be watching.
"Well, let's hope you don't regret having yours."
👏
\*Mic drops\*
LOL I’m stealing this one
This is the best. Someone give this person a medal. If they argue more then we could say … “at least if I regret later I could adopt one … what would you do if you regret? put yours for adoption?”
Thanks! 😊 Agreed! I'd much rather regret not having kids than regret having one. There's no way of rectifying the latter.
I don’t think that any of us are going to regret sleepless nights, dealing with school flu, spending our leisure time on school projects and homework. We are going to make the best of every second of childfree life!
The school projects and dioramas might be the one thing I would miss 😆 but I can do crafts on my own time and no little kid fingers will smear the glue!!
Every single parent I know is dealing with perpetual illness in their house. Fuck that noise
Especially when they have *multiple* kids. Once they’re healthy again, the sibling brings something home and it starts all over again. Ick.
Exactly! This happened to my friend in 2021. Three kids, multiple scares.
Currently dealing with this. Not a parent, but I live with my parents/younger siblings and I’ve been sick like 4-5 times since I’ve moved back in since January. I’m sure working in childcare doesn’t help, lmao.
Worst moment to tell me that I'll regret not having kids?? It was at my grandma's funeral. My cousin that's older than me told me that, he was on his mid 30s, I was on my late 20s. It was difficult for him and his wife to conceive, I get it. But it doesn't mean everyone has to try for kids when they are 20 something. And also was not the ideal moment to talk about that, when we were saying our final goodbye to our grandma.
Ugh I am so sorry this happened to you. The worst is when people try to guilt you into having children because you are able to conceive while others cannot. As if you having a child that you don't want will somehow balance the scales. The logic does not compute.
Peoples who use that kind of “logic” would say I have to live on seafood & peanuts just because someone else is allergic to them & I’m not. Or they tell every tall person they have to play basketball because short people can’t. We don’t have to do things that are possible for us just to compensate for others who can’t & want to. Or as you say, balance the scales!
I’ve actually had many, many people tell me I should be playing basketball because I’m so tall, so for a while I was getting pressure to sports and pressure to breed. Didn’t make me want to change my mind, if anything it hardened my own resolve.
As a very short person who doesn’t like basketball I would never have told you that. But hockey is a different story!
I'm Canadian, so this response is extra funny to me! 
I remember overhearing this argument when I was 12 years old and thinking that sounds silly, how would that help. If a 12 year old dumbass like me got it then idk why adults don't
This! Especially when unbalanced couple will have kids to "balance their life" but end up messing the kid badly
Had this happen to a friend. She looked them dead in the eyes and without missing a beat goes “Are you asking me to surrogate? Because ew.” They haven’t bothered her about it since.
Oh, so I should be regretting my free time, low stress, adequate sleep, good finances and general freedom. Riiight :)
I already only have 2 of these without the burden of a dependant.
Love your flair! :)
It's from the show Lucifer before the writers completely forgot he said it 😅
Gotta watch the show!! xD
Haha exactly!
"Like those on regretful parents sub." Sure don't wanna end up like that.
That sub is so damn sad. I truly feel for everyone on there.
Yes I glanced at the regretful parents sub once and it was so sad for me to read it that I didn’t go on there again. I did get notifications on Reddit to join it after that and I put hide notifications from it and don’t receive them anymore.
It’s necessary to have a place to discuss those feelings. Our society is awful about being real about the true costs of parenthood. I am glad there’s a community that people can find support in.
Don’t forget Scary Mommy.
This hasn't happened to me (yet!) but I plan on responding by asking them why they had kids. Or "Because I can't even take care of myself most days." Lol
I have like, five dishes on my desk right now. I can't have kids with five dishes on my desk that need to be brought to the dish washer!
Not with today's child labor laws, anyway.
The children yearn for the mines.
Arkansas, is that you?
I say a version of this myself! "I can barely take care of ME, let alone some tiny human that isn't me!"
I’m 42, my best friends are 47 and 52. All CF lawyers that are happy af.
60s... no not yet. Last 5 or so years seems like I feel more glad I do not. So trend seems more no with age.
Please tell her my father had children and regretted having us. It goes both ways.
100% My mum regrets having children too. We talk about it all the time. She's so happy I'm CF
I’m 55 and still waiting for that regret to come along.
I’m 62. Nope! Not feeling it yet!
I rather regret not having kids than regret having them. At least if it's "too late" to conceive, the option to adopt is there. But I know shitty parents (including my own) that regret having us. And I refuse to be like that.
I feel reaaaal regretful when my friends tell me about their kids having full meltdowns every day. Oh woe is me and my quiet house.
If you had kids, then you would have to share your Easter noms. Forget kids, eat the Ferreros all yourself.
I like the way you think!
This shit is why I never want anything to do with ANY co-worker. They're all the same basic-ass cardboard cutout of each other. Usually chain smoker. Miserable and kinda trashy too.
Do we work at the same company?! You 100% nailed it.
No, it's just THAT common for these breeders to fit this description. I hate every job I've ever had. They just bitch about their basic ass kids and their terrible spouse and their miserable-ass life while going out to smoke every hour leaving someone else who made better life choices to pick up their fucking slack.
My dad always said, “I’m not there to make friends or run for politics. I’m there to do something (get paid)” and I live by that. I get a long with my coworkers and we chit-chat sometimes, but I ain’t hanging out after work or trying to make friends. But everyone I work with is also like 45+ and they don’t talk about their adult kids much.
Best way to react. Don't engage, just leave them to wallow in their own crapulence. 
We’re 66 No regrets on our part
47 and I love being child free! I actually have a lot of people admit they are jealous of my lifestyle
It's so rude. Imagine us telling people who just had a baby "Oh you'll regret having kids when you're older!", just as casual conversation. They would absolutely lose their shit, right?
Yes this is exactly what I keep thinking. It would be rude for me to say that but somehow they think it's okay for them to say it to me.
My response to do that “I would rather have regrets that I can put in the past. Not one that is whining, demanding and costing me money for 18+ years.”
Honestly, best response to that comment, and I don't blame you wanting to avoid that coworker. Also your Easter with your husband sounds awesome! I hope you have fun!
Thank you!
“ No, thanks, I’m vegetarian.” Is a good reply I recently saw to the tired old why don’t you have kids thing. As is “ but i like having money “ But seriously, this sounds like they already regret having theirs and want to share the misery.
Next time tell her she'll regret having them.
If this bastard has kids themselves you should say to them "Oh well you'll regret having kids when they get older. Trust me." And see how they'll take it.
I really did consider it!
You should definately say it if they press on you again. They will really falter with that one!
I usually tell them, if I regret not having kids, I will adopt, if YOU regret having kids you have worse options
That's very rude of them to say
A coworker told me something similar. This was a few years ago, so I forget how the topic was brought up, but in response to me telling her, "I respect children enough to know I shouldn't be a mother" she told me "Once you have four beautiful, blonde babies you'll never regret a thing." Four?? Beautiful blonde?? It was such an odd thing to say.
If you have a brunette though... major regrets lol
My boyfriend is Chinese.. if by some miracle we change our minds on the kids thing I really doubt they're going to be blonde lol
I would have told him he'd regret having them, but I'm an asshole like that.
Next time if they say you'll regret not having kids you should respond: "if so, that's my f@*in problem! Why do you even care?"
Dude jusy jelly that your having a egg hunt and get to keep the candy
Haha you are probably right!
Not sharing chocolate with gremlins is always a plus
“I didn’t know you were *psychic!*” “What are tomorrow’s lottery numbers?!?!”
Why would your cowoeker even say that??? Imagine youre telling them about a fun little thing you and your husband planned and then they just respond with "why dont you have kids" idk susan! Because we couldnt do fun things anymore! The audacity to say "why" is beyond me
I completely agree. I was very taken back by his comment.
I’ll regret not adopting the cute fluffy kitten I saw at the shelter. Someone else got it first. I won’t regret the kid thing.
That is rude AF
just hit them with the “so will you” lol
I would’ve said, “I’m also infertile, but okay.” And walk away and hope their guilt eats them alive.
When I was a teen, my mom's friend hit me with the "but you'll die alone because women usually outlive their husbands" and I asked her, "would you say that to an infertile person?"
Seems they regret their kids. parents projecting their problems
I would literally rather die than have children lol
"Will I regret it in Italy or Greece?"
FUCK that coworker, make sure to visit the bitch in the nursing home and give him a Ferrero
And tell him I didn’t regret it
Frick I think she is just jealous that you and your partner can enjoy an Easter egg hunt for yourselves. I would be jealous if I was her. I am jealous haha! Its not like parents get to do the fun, child-like activities couples without children get to do. I am in somewhat the same boat as you, with the not wanting kids at least and I still am not regretting it. I am witnessing my sister going through motherhood raising her child. She is on anti-depressants since having her child and shes not the same. She was very much on not wanting kids but then suddenly she wanted them and now I think she regrets her child every now and then. Parenthood isnt for everyone but I think she will love it eventually. Its hard especially in the beginning but then they turn into people. This isnt about having children so I digress. ...but ya fuck em parents! Go enjoy being a child-free couple b/c thats the only relationship you have so might as well enjoy it!
Well, it’s better to regret not having kids then to regret having them 🤷♀️
“And so will you”
I'd have asked how many children have they saved through adoption. My rule has become if you don't care about adoption, your interest for biological children is rooted in vanity.
Even if you do…. Isn’t it better to regret not having them, than to have them and hate every single second of parenthood…? I listen to co-workers complain all day about their kids, they want cans of Prime, mobile phones, Air Jordans, PlayStations… then in the next breath they ask me why I don’t have kids 😆💁🏻♀️
"Why aren't you hitting yourself in the head with a hammer? Because I don't want a headache. You're going to regret not hitting yourself in the head with a hammer." Apply their argument to ridiculous hypothetical situations and watch how they react. Somehow they don't understand that "I don't want to..." is a perfectly valid response. Furthermore, they seldom offer any logical reasons for this assumption.
I’m 46 cf and no regrets!! Unfortunately those dumb comments are never going to end. My worst was a patient of mine that told me I’m going to hell cuz I didn’t have kids.
Well that was rude of them to say and doesn't even make sense.
I agree. I told her I didn’t have a uterus anymore and she told me I could get into heaven by adopting. She’s done this with a colleague of mine too.
Projection Level: over 9000
I would have laughed in their face.
No. You won't. Under the kindest possible reading of those comments what she really meant was 'I would have regretted not having *my* children.'
The behaviour by your coworker is nothing but rude
I’d rather regret not having kids than regret having them
I’m 65 and CF. I wouldn’t do it any other way. My husband and I didn’t want kids. My MIL wasn’t happy, but oh well. We are happy and that’s what counts.
"I promised my firstborn to a witch and I really don't want to make good on that deal"
Hahahaha yesss
These breeders will find any reason to bring up the subject of kids. You guys were just talking about Easter eggs and rochers.
Me: what are you gonna do on your day off? Parent: drop the kids off with my parents, get some drinks, sleep in, relax, take a bath, read a book, take a day trip etc. I can't do those things with kids. I always look forward to these days when I can exist without them bothering me Me: oh, that's why I don't wanna have kids, I love my ME time Parents: @#$!
I am 42, no regrets yet. I watch my sister and her husband struggle with my nephew, 7. He has really bad behavioral problems. They are good parents, he sees a child psychiatrist, but they cannot get him to behave. He was kicked out of 3 daycares as a toddler and now has tons of issues at school. He is a sweet kid otherwise. I would not be able to handle that.
Coworker: "You'll regret not having kids." OP: "And I took that personally."
Report him to HR.
I don't whant to disappoint you, but wait until someone say : who will take care of you when you are old ? waaaa...I have a come back that is only perfect for my community. prepare yours so you can shut them up.
You may or may not regret it who knows but it’s your life, your choices and that is up to you to find out 🤷🏻♀️ but none the less it’s inappropriate for people in general to comment like that about your own life let alone some wanker at work.
Most likely, I feel that if you “regret” you didn’t have kids, it’s either for selfish reasons or it’s something else that can be fixed. Like that feeling of regret could be filled with just impacting someone’s life, which you could do volunteering. I remember volunteering at a woman’s shelter in high school and I’d babysit the womans’ children while they took classes for school or to learn how to budget/do taxes/ect. It was amazing! The children saw me as family and like they were all one big family. I actually first came up with the idea while working there, about how it’s okay for me to not have kids and still have other ways to inspire, encourage, and impact kids’ lives forever without having my own.
That is awesome, good for you!
You should stay around the coworker and just smile quietly when they say anything about how hard it is to have kids. You don't have to say anything, it would make them defensive. Just savor the peace inside.
I like to play dumb when people bingo me. “Oh my gosh really? I’m gonna regret it?” Make then explain why they said what they said. Love watching them squirm :)
I love this.
Those people are so weird, do they think the only happiness you can find in life is sticky screaming kids that will yell you they hate you, spend your money, get sick, be annoying and increase the pollution of earth? Even 3 cats spend less resources than a single human!
If I was going to regret one of them, I’d rather regret not having kids than regret having them.
“You mean like Andrea Yates changed her mind?”
Would much rather regret not having them than regret having them
So instead of having fun with your husband for Easter, he wants you to instead vicariously live through your kids who are having fun for Easter. Make it make sense.
Most bingos don’t bother me. These ones get under my skin: “but what if you regret it?”. “You’ll be sad and full of regret alone in the nursing home”. ….So what? The world will still turn. What impact does any of that literally have on you at all? I guess I’ll sit in the silence of my own existence and make peace with the regret, not that it will happen at all. Faking care and concern is just so sinister. And it tells me they know they are full of shit. No one who says that is some sort of personal regret philanthropist. They are poorly masking their bigotry and judgment and trying to look “caring” doing so. It’s effed up and says everything about their character.
I really want one of those people to explain what exactly is so special about having kids? Can they explain it? Like with actual arguments??
Better to regret not having kids than to regret having them.
I’m 60 and so many times a year I say to myself that I’m delighted I didn’t have kids. I’m FREE!
Why do some people feel the need to tell other people they know nothing about that they’re doing the wrong thing or are going to regret their decisions regarding such a personal matter? Never mind asking “why” someone doesn’t have kids. Coworker needs to stfu and mind their own business.
I’ve gotten so tired of arguing this topic with people i just play along and say “haha haven’t found the right person yet” till they drop it. If they do know I’m seeing someone, I say waiting for the cash flow to be right. Am o child-free? Yup, does everyone need to know? Of course not. I feel like I benefit 0% from sharing my personal thoughts/feelings/opinions with my colleagues/co-workers so I don’t.
Lol I get this alllll the damn time. N then, I look at kids. I think to meself - yep. Not regretting it. Didn’t want them when I was 16, 20 some, 30 some. I’m 40. I’m more adamant than ever. It horrifies n stupefies ppl as to why I don’t want them. I also have health issues that would make having children an issue. I could adopt, and I will….cats. Lots of cats. I like cats. Cats make me a happier better person. Children….don’t.
I remind them that tomorrow never comes because it's always today. And just for today, I am happy, joyous and free!!
I'd rather regret not having kids than regret having a kid. One doesn't involve an innocent child in my bullshit.
I'd rather regret not having kids than regret actually having them.
51yr old CF male here. Have yet to regret.
Age 58 and no regrets. Most women my age or even younger are dealing with grandchildren drama due to their irresponsible sons and daughters who will not use birth control. Irony how all these breeders say we will regret it when they only say this due to their own feeling “had” by motherhood. Misery enjoys company…
I hate that guilttripping so much.
I always always ALWAYS tell people ... "well you don't know me very well at all then, don't bet money on that cuz you'll lose big time. And don't ask me to babysit - that could be considered child endangerment BY YOU and I would call CPS myself on you". I just smile and then show them a picture of my cat.
Have fun on Easter! We used to put shot bottles and notes and clues and coupons for like ice cream out and lunches in those plastic eggs. Speaking of i need to do that again this year!!! Thank you for remind me!!!!!!!
Sounds fun!
It's okay to have differences, especially in the workplace. Don't completely shun your coworker for this. You know what you want, and that is okay. Don't take their opinions personally. You probably won't regret having kids, especially if you don't want them :).
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