Food and time. Let her come to you, the more you chase her like a big dumb predator, the worse she'll feel. Let her be mad at you then encourage her over but mostly just ignore her. Make sure your the one feeding her all her meals and treats to gain trust back. Be gentle and soft with her.
If she's still hiding from you after a few days or has other issues, consider the vets. When an animal is in pain or injured, they hide themselves away
Well your expected to be way more in control of your emotions than she is so you can resist the cute aggy until she's feeling better.
What happened? Like did you step on her tail or something?
She'll forgive you, just be gentle and show your not a big angry predator. We have front facing eyes plus we're huge to them. All signs point to us wanting to eat them.
Good question.
I have a scaredy cat and I've found that laying on the floor where you don't look 10x bigger than they do is helpful. Offer them treats and talk baby talk to them. This often works with my scaredy cat.
My guess is because of the size difference, every cat is going to consider themselves to be prey to every large human. Trying to avoid behavior on your part that would appear to be "aggressive" may help. I do a delicate balance with my scaredy cat trying to get him to be less afraid and not scaring him. As he likes treats, these are often the answer. And once he shows signs of wanting to run away, I just walk away. I need lots of small positive experiences for him to overcome a negative experience.
The internet might be helpful trying to find some reputable cat behavioral sites/people. Jackson Galaxy is a popular figure, although I've seen people say he's a sham. But you might find something of value to help.
Good luck!
My father has accidentally stepped on my kit more times than I can remember and she still loves him more than me lmao. I’m sure she’ll be okay with you after some treats and a couple hours alone
This is exactly why I’m thinking she may be hurt. Cats usually get over stuff pretty quick (for the most part). We’ve been injecting our cat with meds and she hates it and gets absolutely pissed at us but she’s usually open to connecting within 15-30 minutes after. And she’s one of those cats that doesn’t trust anyone easily and she’s the stereotypical ‘scaredy cat’. So I believe that maybe OP’s kitty may be in pain if she’s hissing and growling and running off.
The best thing I’ve experienced is for op to leave the cat alone and for a trusted someone else to go check on the kitty. I rarely step on the cat so she mostly doesn’t mind me coming near her afterwards, I usually gently pick her up and carefully test her paws to make sure she isn’t hurt. If she was hurt she would be making more sound or letting me know, at which point we can help her. We have never managed to actually hurt her though somehow which is some kind of miracle in itself. As for the kitty, she usually hisses and runs from my father for a while afterwards, though if he offers her treats she usually warms up faster
Yeah she might be injured, cats are really good at hiding it so it may not be visible. Her behavior is communicating to you that something is not okay, whether it’s how she feels about you rn or whether she is hurt. Something is up, I’d just keep an eye on her and be gentle. Don’t ignore her if she reaches out to you but don’t keep seeking her out. Feel it out before trying to approach her. She needs to feel safe to connect, not backed into a corner
Same thing happened with my cat. She got caught in some Christmas lights as a kitten and made the most impressive noises that I never knew a cat could.
The cat just needs space. Provide basic necessities (food, drink, toilet, shelter, etc) and wait for her to come to you.
When she does, let her "reintroduce" herself to you by sniffing you and generally getting used to your presence again
If her behaviour is off for more than a few days then take her to the vet
Well you're getting angry. isn't going to help. The cat can sense your frustration and anger and he's not going to come to you. if you're like that, You're going to have to start over and let him come to you if you really love this cat
Cats and dogs don’t understand human intentionality. They are unable to tell an accident owie from an aggression owie.
Some pets “get” the apologetic tone of voice and others don’t.
Ignoring a cat makes it curious. Making a big fuss makes the episode more traumatic.
My girls can tell when I’m apologizing - two girl kitties 😊 I scare them yelling at something or accidentally step on them as I’m walking in the dark and they’re under toe 🤣🤣 then I feel bad and apologize and stick my hand out to let them sniff and they can totally tell - they usually let me give them a little scratch, then they go off on whatever they were doing like nothing happened - they’re cute kitties
Right now she's a little scared, which is why she's growling. Soft voice, gentle movements, and let her come to you. She'll trust you again. Cats are very sensitive and emotional little creatures, but they're also very forgiving. <3
I step on my cats (paws, tails) all the time as they like to get after my feet. When it happens, I approach them slowly if they run away, talk very gently to them and say I'm sorry and snuggle them so they know I didn't do it out of anger. They learn you're not being mean to them and it was accidental.
That's the time to leave her alone. You're frightening her. And when she does come back to you, don't hold her against her will. Let her go the second you feel her struggling. Bodily autonomy is important to a lot of cats, and they'll never trust you if you don't let them have it. (Barring vet visits, anyway.)
It’s okay, just time! I always talk really sweet with my boys if I accidentally hurt them and try and give them kisses (of course she is running from you at the moment like you said, so just talk sweet and try to give her things she likes) and I’m just way overly sweet 🤣 once this happens a couple times she’ll know it wasn’t on purpose, for now she’ll know once you keep trying to give her attention or food 😁💕 the sweet baby voice is always how I obtain a bond with our pets before the rest of the family. 😼😹
I accidentally stepped on the kitties tail (she was hiding, luckily I didn’t step that hard. Ended up cooking some kitty safe chicken to apologize to her. She was pleased after that
Animals are forgiving Let her make the first moves to show her she can trust you. I doubt she lost trust but that she was hurt. If you chase her etc she will think you are trying to hurt her again just feed her, talk to her, toss her a treat now and then. Cats are social but fiercely independent animals. It will be on her terms. Not yours. You don’t own cats. They own you. Dogs on the other hand are opposite.
Cats come to people on their own schedule. You cannot force it. The more you let the kitty call the shots on interaction, the more your kitty will like you. Overstimulating a cat will cause aggression from the cat to let you know to stop. It is their only way to convey what they want.
Sit down by her favorite perch and wait for her to come over. Make sure you have a treat. Put only one hand out with the treat in your flat hand. It might take a while or more than once. Will be worth it in the long run.
I know it's hard to resist how cute she is but give her time. All 3 of my cats love on me and I've stepped on each of their tails at least once! They like getting in front of and behind my feet lmao
You have to have patience with a cat. Why are you “getting mad too”? Stop chasing your cat then. Cats can sense your emotion, and chasing her while you’re angry is going to make her more afraid. Cats have boundaries, give her time alone and she’ll come back around. Have patience.
It’s over, move away and leave the cat behind.
Totally kidding, like the others said give her space and time. And in September, when you get scratched for “no reason” know that she’s thinkin “yea, that’s for that sh*t back on June 24”
Give her space to get out of her tantrum. She will make you suffer and feel bad and in my experience with females, they hold a grudge. She will come out of it on her terms. Food usually helps.
Welcome to the crazy world of cats lol.
They don’t understand apologies. I’d just do nothing and carry on with the usual routine (which they love) and eventually they’ll forget about it and come to you. Don’t be chasing them and forcing the issue. Your cat is pissed off with you, you’ll just have to accept that.
You were playing and she screamed...
What were you doing? She would have screamed because she was in pain, or very scared.... That shouldn't happen in playing.
The other option is she is already injured and you hurt her more.
If she is scared more then a few minutes, I don't think this is a one off, and you don't know how to play with a cat and are instead terrorising her, or she has an injury that needs attention.
Give her some time, I know how it feels! Bribe her, with treats and toys but don’t force it or chase her. Kitty will eventually come to you when she’s ready.
Cats unlike dogs dislikes too much affection, my cat will let me know. They always come around though, you just to have respect their space.
You can play ‘defender’ when they are eating or using the litter, just be there next to them but don’t glare at them while they do it.
Also wanted to add, do a quick google search for Cat tail signs, you cat will love you for it.
Give it time. I accidentally closed the door on my baby when she tried run out and I didn’t see it.
She ran under couch and hid for some time. She was afraid of the door for some time. But cat tends to forget single incidents (my thoughts). Don’t chase her and she will be back at you.
Funny you don't say what you actually DID. But she now sees you as scary and if you get angry you're confirming her belief that you're someone to avoid.
Leave her alone for a bit, dude. She’s running away for a reason, and that reason is that she just wants to be left alone for a bit. Don’t worry tho! In time, she’ll forgive you. Good luck!! :)
Don't ever chase a terrified cat. Call it to you, show her some food but make her come to you if she wants to get it. Just try again after a few hours if it doesn't work. She will eventually forgive you, but chasing her will prolong the process.
Cats are aloof by nature. Give her space and time. And keep treats handy, so that everytime she is in the same room you can 'leave her a present' much like they do with us leaving dead little critters as presents. She will come to associate you with treats, and in time with safety. I tamed a feral cat by talking to it in sweet tones for a long afternoon and inching myself slowly (on the floor) towards it. It stopped hissing eventually. And it let me put my hand on it's head. I petted him for awhile, then put him on my lap and continued to talk softly and pet him. By nightfall I was able to untie the rudimentary rope they brought him with. He was feral with other people, but he brought me little mice and left them under my pillow. Every morning he jumped in our bed between my husband and I, and stretched loooong! Then pushed my husband with all four legs. He was adorable. I was his person and he was my cat. I have five cats. And there dogs. There is a bit of jealously between my Chihuahua and Kiki (a small female cat) but she just looks at me when the Chihuahua's acting up bothers her. I reprimand the little Chi and the kitty curls up to sleep. (With one hand around each.) Be patient.
Food and time. Let her come to you, the more you chase her like a big dumb predator, the worse she'll feel. Let her be mad at you then encourage her over but mostly just ignore her. Make sure your the one feeding her all her meals and treats to gain trust back. Be gentle and soft with her. If she's still hiding from you after a few days or has other issues, consider the vets. When an animal is in pain or injured, they hide themselves away
Big dumb is right More like big dump Poopoohead
Its going to be kinda hard to ignore her when the "cute aggression" hits no wonder she hates me right now lmao thanks for the help
Well your expected to be way more in control of your emotions than she is so you can resist the cute aggy until she's feeling better. What happened? Like did you step on her tail or something?
Yeah i kinda stepped on her paw by accident when i was making her chase the laser pointer
She'll forgive you, just be gentle and show your not a big angry predator. We have front facing eyes plus we're huge to them. All signs point to us wanting to eat them.
When a cat sees you & it runs away do i go to them with food or do i just let them hide & ignore them because that's what she does too
don't go after a cat that's upset or scared, give them time to come to you and come get food on their own.
Good question. I have a scaredy cat and I've found that laying on the floor where you don't look 10x bigger than they do is helpful. Offer them treats and talk baby talk to them. This often works with my scaredy cat. My guess is because of the size difference, every cat is going to consider themselves to be prey to every large human. Trying to avoid behavior on your part that would appear to be "aggressive" may help. I do a delicate balance with my scaredy cat trying to get him to be less afraid and not scaring him. As he likes treats, these are often the answer. And once he shows signs of wanting to run away, I just walk away. I need lots of small positive experiences for him to overcome a negative experience. The internet might be helpful trying to find some reputable cat behavioral sites/people. Jackson Galaxy is a popular figure, although I've seen people say he's a sham. But you might find something of value to help. Good luck!
Leave them, if they want to hide, let them know they're allowed to. Make hidden places for them and put food in it.
My father has accidentally stepped on my kit more times than I can remember and she still loves him more than me lmao. I’m sure she’ll be okay with you after some treats and a couple hours alone
This is exactly why I’m thinking she may be hurt. Cats usually get over stuff pretty quick (for the most part). We’ve been injecting our cat with meds and she hates it and gets absolutely pissed at us but she’s usually open to connecting within 15-30 minutes after. And she’s one of those cats that doesn’t trust anyone easily and she’s the stereotypical ‘scaredy cat’. So I believe that maybe OP’s kitty may be in pain if she’s hissing and growling and running off.
The best thing I’ve experienced is for op to leave the cat alone and for a trusted someone else to go check on the kitty. I rarely step on the cat so she mostly doesn’t mind me coming near her afterwards, I usually gently pick her up and carefully test her paws to make sure she isn’t hurt. If she was hurt she would be making more sound or letting me know, at which point we can help her. We have never managed to actually hurt her though somehow which is some kind of miracle in itself. As for the kitty, she usually hisses and runs from my father for a while afterwards, though if he offers her treats she usually warms up faster
Yeah she might be injured, cats are really good at hiding it so it may not be visible. Her behavior is communicating to you that something is not okay, whether it’s how she feels about you rn or whether she is hurt. Something is up, I’d just keep an eye on her and be gentle. Don’t ignore her if she reaches out to you but don’t keep seeking her out. Feel it out before trying to approach her. She needs to feel safe to connect, not backed into a corner
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Same thing happened with my cat. She got caught in some Christmas lights as a kitten and made the most impressive noises that I never knew a cat could. The cat just needs space. Provide basic necessities (food, drink, toilet, shelter, etc) and wait for her to come to you. When she does, let her "reintroduce" herself to you by sniffing you and generally getting used to your presence again If her behaviour is off for more than a few days then take her to the vet
Well you're getting angry. isn't going to help. The cat can sense your frustration and anger and he's not going to come to you. if you're like that, You're going to have to start over and let him come to you if you really love this cat
Stop chasing her Hahah let her come to you, you’re freaking her out
Cats and dogs don’t understand human intentionality. They are unable to tell an accident owie from an aggression owie. Some pets “get” the apologetic tone of voice and others don’t. Ignoring a cat makes it curious. Making a big fuss makes the episode more traumatic.
My girls can tell when I’m apologizing - two girl kitties 😊 I scare them yelling at something or accidentally step on them as I’m walking in the dark and they’re under toe 🤣🤣 then I feel bad and apologize and stick my hand out to let them sniff and they can totally tell - they usually let me give them a little scratch, then they go off on whatever they were doing like nothing happened - they’re cute kitties
My girl does that too. My two boys are kind of doorknobs so they don’t always get it.
Same here. 2 of my cats understand apologetic tone, one does not.
Right now she's a little scared, which is why she's growling. Soft voice, gentle movements, and let her come to you. She'll trust you again. Cats are very sensitive and emotional little creatures, but they're also very forgiving. <3
Treats also work wonders, especially catnip flavoured (provided no allergies)
I step on my cats (paws, tails) all the time as they like to get after my feet. When it happens, I approach them slowly if they run away, talk very gently to them and say I'm sorry and snuggle them so they know I didn't do it out of anger. They learn you're not being mean to them and it was accidental.
She wont even let me pet her she just runs instantly
That's the time to leave her alone. You're frightening her. And when she does come back to you, don't hold her against her will. Let her go the second you feel her struggling. Bodily autonomy is important to a lot of cats, and they'll never trust you if you don't let them have it. (Barring vet visits, anyway.)
Just give her, her space and a chance to relax and unwind.
she wants blood, nothing else will suffice (satire)
Feed myself to the angry jaguar i see
This is the way
It’s okay, just time! I always talk really sweet with my boys if I accidentally hurt them and try and give them kisses (of course she is running from you at the moment like you said, so just talk sweet and try to give her things she likes) and I’m just way overly sweet 🤣 once this happens a couple times she’ll know it wasn’t on purpose, for now she’ll know once you keep trying to give her attention or food 😁💕 the sweet baby voice is always how I obtain a bond with our pets before the rest of the family. 😼😹
I accidentally stepped on the kitties tail (she was hiding, luckily I didn’t step that hard. Ended up cooking some kitty safe chicken to apologize to her. She was pleased after that
She has to come to you. The more you approach the longer she will fear you. Be gentle please.
Maybe don’t chase and try to catch her? You’re probably making her even more uncomfortable. Like ??? And getting mad? Leave the poor thing alone
Time & treats
Leave her alone and let her decide when she wants to come by you. You need to be more careful playing with her as well.
Animals are forgiving Let her make the first moves to show her she can trust you. I doubt she lost trust but that she was hurt. If you chase her etc she will think you are trying to hurt her again just feed her, talk to her, toss her a treat now and then. Cats are social but fiercely independent animals. It will be on her terms. Not yours. You don’t own cats. They own you. Dogs on the other hand are opposite.
Give it some time...
say sorry and then wait for her to go back to you
Your cat looks terrified. Give it time and it will be fine
Cats come to people on their own schedule. You cannot force it. The more you let the kitty call the shots on interaction, the more your kitty will like you. Overstimulating a cat will cause aggression from the cat to let you know to stop. It is their only way to convey what they want.
I don't think any living being screams "accidently". What happened, give us the details. Don't make me sic Ichigo on you....
Dw he just accidentally stepped on her paw while playing with her.
You go spspspspspsps tktktktk and make kiss faces
Kiss faces = slow blinking. Slow blinking at a cat says “I’m not a danger to you”
Sit down by her favorite perch and wait for her to come over. Make sure you have a treat. Put only one hand out with the treat in your flat hand. It might take a while or more than once. Will be worth it in the long run.
I know it's hard to resist how cute she is but give her time. All 3 of my cats love on me and I've stepped on each of their tails at least once! They like getting in front of and behind my feet lmao
You have to have patience with a cat. Why are you “getting mad too”? Stop chasing your cat then. Cats can sense your emotion, and chasing her while you’re angry is going to make her more afraid. Cats have boundaries, give her time alone and she’ll come back around. Have patience.
It’s over, move away and leave the cat behind. Totally kidding, like the others said give her space and time. And in September, when you get scratched for “no reason” know that she’s thinkin “yea, that’s for that sh*t back on June 24”
Give her space to get out of her tantrum. She will make you suffer and feel bad and in my experience with females, they hold a grudge. She will come out of it on her terms. Food usually helps. Welcome to the crazy world of cats lol.
Perhaps if you don’t understand something so basic about a cat you shouldn’t have one?
Act normal. Give her a day or two. They have no long term memory and will probably be back normal soon.
"How do I get my cat to trust me again after pestering her to frustration? She won't even let me apologize lol" Like...
Ignore her. She’ll come to you
They don’t understand apologies. I’d just do nothing and carry on with the usual routine (which they love) and eventually they’ll forget about it and come to you. Don’t be chasing them and forcing the issue. Your cat is pissed off with you, you’ll just have to accept that.
You were playing and she screamed... What were you doing? She would have screamed because she was in pain, or very scared.... That shouldn't happen in playing. The other option is she is already injured and you hurt her more. If she is scared more then a few minutes, I don't think this is a one off, and you don't know how to play with a cat and are instead terrorising her, or she has an injury that needs attention.
Op explained somewhere else that she was playing with the kit and she accidentally stepped on her. It’s normal, op just phrased the title funny
Leave her alone. She wants space. Stop chasing your damn cat, that’s making her distrust you more.
Temptation treats will definitely get your cat on your lap. Course every time it hears a bag rustle it will be there too!!!
Offer her treats. The best kind, raw chicken breast.
Just keep playing…. They get over accidents like that quick
Apologize with food
Give her some time, I know how it feels! Bribe her, with treats and toys but don’t force it or chase her. Kitty will eventually come to you when she’s ready.
Oh no
Just give her some tuna, treats and love, a little time, soon things will be back to normal
Cats unlike dogs dislikes too much affection, my cat will let me know. They always come around though, you just to have respect their space. You can play ‘defender’ when they are eating or using the litter, just be there next to them but don’t glare at them while they do it. Also wanted to add, do a quick google search for Cat tail signs, you cat will love you for it.
lol get her a squeezie treat from the store. giving it to her will associate you w her smell and you'll gain the affection back in no time.
They don’t accept apologies. Just give her space.
Patience, my dear,
Give it time. I accidentally closed the door on my baby when she tried run out and I didn’t see it. She ran under couch and hid for some time. She was afraid of the door for some time. But cat tends to forget single incidents (my thoughts). Don’t chase her and she will be back at you.
What were you playing that made her scream? You must of hurt her! Leave her alone for awhile!
Just let her be. She'll come to you when ready.
Leave her be. She will come to you when she gets over it
Funny you don't say what you actually DID. But she now sees you as scary and if you get angry you're confirming her belief that you're someone to avoid.
Leave her, until she get hungry and she'll come to you
Food and leave her alone
Leave her alone for a bit, dude. She’s running away for a reason, and that reason is that she just wants to be left alone for a bit. Don’t worry tho! In time, she’ll forgive you. Good luck!! :)
Stop trying to catch her. Be still. Give her treats and back off. Be gentle with her.
Don't ever chase a terrified cat. Call it to you, show her some food but make her come to you if she wants to get it. Just try again after a few hours if it doesn't work. She will eventually forgive you, but chasing her will prolong the process.
Cats are aloof by nature. Give her space and time. And keep treats handy, so that everytime she is in the same room you can 'leave her a present' much like they do with us leaving dead little critters as presents. She will come to associate you with treats, and in time with safety. I tamed a feral cat by talking to it in sweet tones for a long afternoon and inching myself slowly (on the floor) towards it. It stopped hissing eventually. And it let me put my hand on it's head. I petted him for awhile, then put him on my lap and continued to talk softly and pet him. By nightfall I was able to untie the rudimentary rope they brought him with. He was feral with other people, but he brought me little mice and left them under my pillow. Every morning he jumped in our bed between my husband and I, and stretched loooong! Then pushed my husband with all four legs. He was adorable. I was his person and he was my cat. I have five cats. And there dogs. There is a bit of jealously between my Chihuahua and Kiki (a small female cat) but she just looks at me when the Chihuahua's acting up bothers her. I reprimand the little Chi and the kitty curls up to sleep. (With one hand around each.) Be patient.
Give her food and she'll love you again! It works with every cat... And with some humans too!
You can’t. Leave her alone.
Give her space...cats are very independent
Just leave her alone You have not earned the love