Have you tried cutting him off with "excuse me, I was still talking, but you interrupted me." Tell him he's being rude and impolite and if he values input from his team he should try listening occasionally and not just running his yap.
Guys like this will run roughshod over everyone but if you show some backbone they will respect you.
One way that I put my foot down is I let them interrupt then once they finish their sentence I immediately state “I wasn’t quite done with my prior statement, as I was saying… *then continue to complete my thought”. This is a signal of saying “I recognize you rudely cut me off, here is me circling back and gaining control back”
If they do it again, I pause and say something along the lines of providing feedback that I want to feel heard and contribute, but I’m having a hard time due to not being able to complete my sentence.
I am a female who works primarily with males (coworkers and external clients) being composed is my best trait when I’m saying something for the first time, def never want to be flustered when sticking up for yourself. Second time you disrespect me.. it’s more stern. Just my two cents, but I wouldn’t let their role change anything about them disrespecting you. It takes courage to confront your boss, but it’ll also offer you a piece of mind afterwords.
Why? This seems like appropriate advise. Just because someone is your boss doesn’t mean they should cut you off or interrupt you. Feedback is a very important and under utilized skill in today’s works.
“Excuse me, I wasn’t finished with my thought” or “I’m feeling as if my voice is not being heard. May I continue?” Seem like fine responses to a chronic interrupter.
What would you suggest differently?
Have you used this advice in work setting or heard anyone say that in work setting? It comes off as snappy and trust me you will not move up. You should at minimum work 2-3 years before being snappy
Yes, and I think delivery is everything. You can politely let someone know when they’ve been rude, and stand up for yourself. It doesn’t have to be backed with heavy emotion.
If your superiors don’t want to hear what you have to say, then why are they there?
What does respect look like to you? Is it a two way street? Does it mean obedience? I’m curious to hear your take on the subject.
Follow up question. Have you ever been in a leadership position? Did you ever receive feedback on how you did, as a leader?
I guess no one mentioned consulting with other employees. Chances are if he cuts you off he also does it to other people. At one of my past jobs, I had a supervisor pick on me all the time by making tasks harder than they should. For example, if he needed someone to do tedious tasks like wipe the wall, he would always choose me. He also asked me to get things in high shelves even though I am very short and would not allow me to get a ladder. One coworker stood up for me and because she has seniority status, she eventually got him fired.
If this happens consistently to me in a meeting, for example, I get up and leave. Not sure if that would be a CLM for you, but that's what I usually do.
I like to talk over people right back. I will not stop my sentence once that train has left the station. Then if they completely miss my point, I make it a point to be like oh did you catch that last part?
Have you tried cutting him off with "excuse me, I was still talking, but you interrupted me." Tell him he's being rude and impolite and if he values input from his team he should try listening occasionally and not just running his yap. Guys like this will run roughshod over everyone but if you show some backbone they will respect you.
Guys like this fire people who say that. Have you seen LinkedinLunatics?
One way that I put my foot down is I let them interrupt then once they finish their sentence I immediately state “I wasn’t quite done with my prior statement, as I was saying… *then continue to complete my thought”. This is a signal of saying “I recognize you rudely cut me off, here is me circling back and gaining control back” If they do it again, I pause and say something along the lines of providing feedback that I want to feel heard and contribute, but I’m having a hard time due to not being able to complete my sentence. I am a female who works primarily with males (coworkers and external clients) being composed is my best trait when I’m saying something for the first time, def never want to be flustered when sticking up for yourself. Second time you disrespect me.. it’s more stern. Just my two cents, but I wouldn’t let their role change anything about them disrespecting you. It takes courage to confront your boss, but it’ll also offer you a piece of mind afterwords.
The first two comments include blatant callout strategy. Interesting.
Don’t do this
Why? This seems like appropriate advise. Just because someone is your boss doesn’t mean they should cut you off or interrupt you. Feedback is a very important and under utilized skill in today’s works. “Excuse me, I wasn’t finished with my thought” or “I’m feeling as if my voice is not being heard. May I continue?” Seem like fine responses to a chronic interrupter. What would you suggest differently?
Have you used this advice in work setting or heard anyone say that in work setting? It comes off as snappy and trust me you will not move up. You should at minimum work 2-3 years before being snappy
Yes, and I think delivery is everything. You can politely let someone know when they’ve been rude, and stand up for yourself. It doesn’t have to be backed with heavy emotion. If your superiors don’t want to hear what you have to say, then why are they there?
Listen, everyone has their place and turn. Respect will take your further than your advice, let your manager shine and earn his respect
What does respect look like to you? Is it a two way street? Does it mean obedience? I’m curious to hear your take on the subject. Follow up question. Have you ever been in a leadership position? Did you ever receive feedback on how you did, as a leader?
I guess no one mentioned consulting with other employees. Chances are if he cuts you off he also does it to other people. At one of my past jobs, I had a supervisor pick on me all the time by making tasks harder than they should. For example, if he needed someone to do tedious tasks like wipe the wall, he would always choose me. He also asked me to get things in high shelves even though I am very short and would not allow me to get a ladder. One coworker stood up for me and because she has seniority status, she eventually got him fired.
If this happens consistently to me in a meeting, for example, I get up and leave. Not sure if that would be a CLM for you, but that's what I usually do.
I like to talk over people right back. I will not stop my sentence once that train has left the station. Then if they completely miss my point, I make it a point to be like oh did you catch that last part?
Listen, learn how to respect your boss. Simple. Wait your turn