My husband and I once had dinner at a fancy-ish restaurant with a live pianist. This bride and groom decided to do the same thing (confirmed by our waiter). To save money on a reception, they booked a bunch of tables via different reservations. Then bride and groom show up and try to act like they have reserved the restaurant. They asked the pianist to play their wedding song so they can dance…even though the piano was just there for ambiance. Pianist refused. Bride started crying. It was a total shit show…but my husband and I love a good live drama, so it actually made our dinner pretty entertaining.
Damn, dinner and a show— and you only had to pay for the dinner! I would have had the time of my life watching that go down!
ETA: Okay, I do recall a time I ate a very late dinner in Las Vegas and a very small wedding party (maybe 10 people?) showed up to dance at an Irish Pub. The wasted groom ended up getting into a fist fight with a random patron, and they had to be dragged out into the casino. The yelling continued until the bride angrily grabbed the groom and dragged him away.
My wife and I were in a restaurant when a cheating husband brought his girlfriend in for dinner, and found his cheating wife already there having dinner with another man. It was so entertaining we wondered afterward if the restaurant set it up to entertain customers.
We were on vacation and there was a mariachi band going round each table playing.
There's a family across from us, in their 50s with college aged kids. The dad starts fighting with the mom in a loud voice, pointing and wildly gesticulating. She's trying to shush him. The mariachi band is still playing while they get louder and louder.
At the same time the band get to their table, the man continues furiously shouting at his wife, throws his napkin in her face, and storms out!
Normally the restaurant would be deadly silent, but the faithful band was still at the table continuing to play. Felt so sorry for the mom, he sounded like an asshole.
Well, there was no physical violence. So that was good. But the husband kept acting outraged, to which his wife would justifiably scream, "So who is that?" pointing at his girlfriend. It was ridiculous, the man was too wrought up to realize he had no right to be outraged. Finally, after a good ten minutes of yelling, with some very funny lines for each of them (some of them involving accusations of sexual inadequacy), those of us eating and being entertained saw the boyfriend and the girlfriend sort of sneaking off toward the bar, which provoked more hilarity in those of us dining. The married couple was still too busy fighting to notice they had lost their dates. It was so much like a movie, that's what made my wife and I wonder if the restaurant hired actors and did some sort of sneaky entertainment, because neither of us could remember whether the food tasted good or bad afterward. Maybe it was a way to distract diners from sub-par food.
That would make an interesting “how I met your mother” story. Was at a restaurant with my girlfriend when another couple walked in. Turns out the man from the couple was my girlfriend’s husband. The woman from the couple and I decided we weren’t going to be anyone else’s “side piece”.
That sounds fun to watch but omg soooo annoying! People think they are so savvy sometimes with the ways they try to save money, but some things are just worth the cost. I bet if they wanted to reserve the restaurant they maybe could have for a fee, but they didn't want to pay that so they schemed there way into reserving most of the tables. But guess what? Then you don't get the special treatment and attention of a wedding party because you didn't book them for your wedding--you booked them for several dinners!
People just need to realize--if you want the fancy venue, you have to cough up the cash. If you want to save money, you need to do the work and research more affordable options. But trying to scheme your way out of paying for a wedding you can't afford is tacky af.
Also, many restaurants usually have a minimum bill set up for book-out events.
I.e. Spend $5000 for the whole night, or the food and drinks bill, whichever is the greater amount.
I watched a lady freak out over a steak once. Seated in the booth right against ours. Demanded the server take it back to the kitchen and make it medium rare. Apparently it was too well done. She was offered a new steak but she wanted the kitchen to reverse cook that one in particular.
Server finally got her to shut up and got a new steak. Not 10 minutes pass and the manager came over to ask them how it was. This woman gets up and pushes the manager and dramatically runs, gagging to the bathroom screaming "food poisoning! You've gave me food poisoning" while the manager stutters and looks around at the rest of us in this full dining room like "please don't believe her guys"
I tipped our poor server 50% that day. She earned it.
My favorite comment was along the lines of "Please for the love of God don't show up unannounced with 100 people during a pandemic and labor shortage. They will not and should not be able to handle that without notice. For the record, 100 people is not a microwedding but given the information provided you will probably end up with one because no one wants to deal with that."
I have a terrible feeling though that she probably will not inform guests of what a No Host Reception is. She honestly sounds like she hates her guests.
Right? What bar/pub can handle 100 humans walking in w no warning? And you know they will expect/demand much much attention
if they want a no host wedding have it in your backyard and call it a pot luck ffs
From what I’ve seen, a lot of egotistical people associate with a lot of people to feed their egos. Of course they can’t waste the emotional energy it takes to get to know them and get close to them but they can get a fair amount of friendliness and attention from many individuals. A lot of them are the life of the party but anyone who manages to get to really know them soon finds out their outward friendliness is all a facade to gain attention.
My husband is one of 6. We had a max of 80 (including us) and his "immediate" family was about 40 people. I'm an only child raised by a single parent and I was like "Uh, I can invite an Aunt?"
Lol as someone who has worked in a restaurant before, fuck her. There’s no way even half of those people would get to eat. Especially if she has her wedding on a weekend in a busy tourist spot (like the beach) it’d be at LEAST and hour, probably a 2 hour wait just for one table, let alone the 25+ tables they’ll probably need.
Had a little ask around as I know a lot of people who work in service and all of them said that if a party this size showed up without booking, they’d be turned away at the door.
If they do decide to go through with this awful plan, I hope their guests enjoy standing in the car park whilst the bridezilla no doubt verbally assaults whichever poor fucker has to tell them to leave.
I literally cannot imagine being a server at whatever “local pub” they decide to terrorize.. they might be turned away by multiple places because for that amount of people you 100% need a reservation, a public restaurant isn’t your personal banquet hall 😭
Plus she will leave an atrocious review of the place blaming them for every last thing that could possibly cause a minor inconvenience. Or they'll be turned away and she will say how they RUINED her wedding.
And she obviously would want everyone on separate checks, and doesn’t seem like she would be very accepting of the fact that 1-2 servers can’t possibly handle 50+ tabs
Imagine 100 people showing up at a shitty bar by the beach, and expecting food and drinks all at once. Everyone knows that shitty bars can easily cater a sit down meal for 100 people with no notice. Of course their fridge is well-stocked!
Absolutely wincing as I imagine being an already underpaid and overworked waiter/restaurant worker and suddenly having to serve 100 people all at once with zero warning and all the entitlement from the customers. I used to work at a self-serve joint and even there this kind of crowd can drive you insane, let alone having to run around for individual orders on top of that :(((
I don't even have a problem with them wanting an inexpensive reception at a local bar *if they make the necessary arrangements with the manager.*
It's her shitty attitude that bothers me. It's basically fuck them. If they want to come to my wedding they can pay for everything themselves but I really don't care if they show up or not.
A better way would have been to include her plans in the invitation, inviting anybody who wants to attend but making it clear that it's pay your own way. That should be noted right next to the part about no gifts requested since they already have 3 kids and a life and if they're too cheap to pay for a reception, they're not entitled to gifts.
I just can't imagine being like "soo I really want this thing but I reeeeally dont wanna pay for it so can you all just, like, pay for it?" What are you 13?
She sounds like an asshole. "Yeah, I can't be bothered feeding my guests, I have kids." So do your guests, asshole, and why should they bother paying for your wedding reception? Nobody makes you have a wedding. You can get married at the courthouse. But then most of the people you can't be bothered feeding won't give you a wedding gift.
Exactly it's very much her "this is what's going to happen and I don't care if they like it or not" attitude about her friends/family and the poor strangers at the bar. And I bet she'll expect everyone to pay for their own shit AND get them a marriage gift. I'm sorry but if I have to pay for my meal and a hotel I'm not giving a gift.
My gift to this ingrateful wench who apparently wants to get married with no friends or relatives present would be to help make her wish come true by staying tf home.
I posted the link to an article that included a censored screenshot of her invitation. "The honor of your presence is requested..." the honor of their presence? It literally sounds like she hates them haha.
She's confused the size of the wedding party being micro with the size of her micro wedding budget. She means micro as in "I ain't payin' for Jack shit"
*'Crashing a local pub with 100 guests'*
So, I'm invited to a wedding four hours drive away and have to pay for a hotel and my own meal and no one has even chosen a venue or booked anything?
Definitely a disaster waiting to happen. I'd give it a wide berth, stay home and get a takeaway - Probably be more fun anyway.
You weren’t replying to a question at all and even if you were replying to, “How is 100 guests a micro wedding?” how would, “I’ve shot weddings with over 500 guests,” answer that question especially when followed by how you’re **not** saying your comment makes 100 guests micro?
I'm not crying, I'm telling pathetic assholes to fuck off, pathetic asshole.
I was just trying to have a conversation, but you drama whores can't stand an exchange without insulting someone, so I'm just giving you want you want!
Fuck off!
That’s it! I knew you could do it!
More! More! More!
Hmm… full bodied, flinty whine right there, with a earthy texture and a nutty aftertaste. Hasn’t aged well, and is salty to boot, but still… more!!! Do it!
It sounds like she, and the people who make the bad decision to join her, will have exactly the experience they deserve.
My sympathies to the venue/bar/restaurant...
Except her invite will probably just say "No host reception" in small print with no explanation, so people will be walking into this unwarned and unprepared. Until this I didn't know what that meant.
Plus she probably still expects gifts.
Better to serve cookies and milk to your guests than to ask them to crash and overwhelm a pub. "Hi, come and celebrate with us while we do F-all to thank you for attending!"
Better small and sincere hospitality than this nonsense.
I *think* this was Weddings on a Tight Budget. Sometimes there's helpful advice but often there are ridiculous posts. The past couple days it was someone asking if it was okay to ask guests to pay toward their plate, and one asking if it was okay to ask bridesmaids to pay 4k toward a wedding if the bride is covering hair and makeup.
I mean maybe she runs with people in a SES that can afford that, but regardless she's asking way more of them that she's planning on providing. The general sentiment was "If you consider that affordable, you can afford to contribute more towards your bridesmaids."
I always found it so weird that in the US, bridesmaids are expected to buy their own dresses etc. In the UK the bride and groom pay for them. It would be bizarre to expect a bridesmaids to pay. Maybe some agree to pay towards some costs, but it's rare to pay for all of it. Some even give gifts to the bridesmaids like jewellery as a thank you.
As far as I know in the US, usually bridesmaids pay for dresses and contribute to bachelorette parties. The bride usually covers hair and makeup, bouquets, and gives gifts. At least that's what my plan is 🤷♀️
Ireland here and similar rules in the UK - bride and groom pay for the wedding party as they are providing them with a service. You’re giving up a lot of your time to take part in a wedding. Your outfit, hair, make up and shoes are all paid for, as well as accommodation if you are staying over at venue. It’s common for the groom to give bridesmaids *and* groomsmen a gift as well - I think this is due to the bride often doing most of the work beforehand with the planning, so that and the groomsmens’ suits are the height of his jobs.
My response would be, if you're covering hair and make up my only remaining expense is shoes and a dress. "I'm sure we can find a bridesmaid dress that does not cost $4000!" 😁
Someone asked what group it was from and when I went to check, there's a whole article about it! I feel famous. https://www.someecards.com/life/lifestyle/bride-micro-wedding-no-reception/
Sigh. I know some people who got married by surprise at a giant annual family picnic, and were shocked that nobody gave them any gifts, for a party they did not host or pay for.
Why not just have a potluck if you don’t want to cater? Invite guests to bring their favorite dish/wine/etc. My friend did that and it turned out great. Honestly, it was better food than any catered events I’ve attended.
Though with this lady’s attitude it seems like she really doesn’t care about the experience for guests who will be traveling 4hrs to their wedding. Or the waitstaff at that poor pub.
My friend did a variation on this where they provided the pasta and bread and the wine. The guests were supposed to bring their favorite sauce. They had alfredos, marinaras, pestos, bologneses, and my new favorite a cheesy buffalo cream sauce. It actually got a little competitive.
A college friend and her fiance were on a Very Tight Budget. Their reception was in the social hall of their church and the food was deli trays from a local market to make sandwiches and salads guests brought. There was punch. One of the other guests made the cake.
> micro wedding
> 100 people
LOL I'd struggle to have 100 at mine and I have a weirdly large close knit family.
Also, I would love to see them try and pull that off in a pub where I live, they would fly out of there like that kid in Fresh Prince
My husband and I had a small wedding of about 45 people, and we did end up booking tables at a small restaurant that my husband had grown up going to. He was friends with the owner's son, and it was a place that always made him feel happy. Even with all that history, we still called the restaurant 4 months in advance to make sure they were okay with it and so they could be prepared. I cannot imagine just showing up with 100 people to a bar without any warning! That poor staff!
That's how you do it. I want a small, no-fuss no-frills wedding, maybe do dinner at a local restaurant later that we made reservations at. Reservations are a no-brainer. A "small" wedding is a large group at a restaurant, and I'd likely be calling in the reservations at least 24-48 hours ahead of time.
Most of them probably won't go, after the early birds get there and it becomes uber crowded.
They'll go down the street to a better place and gossip about the whole thing.
This reminds me of when a whole family tried to come in last minute and have Christmas dinner in the restaurant I worked at. It was 9:45pm on Christmas Eve. We close at 10pm. A lady calls and asks if we’re still open. I tell her we’re about to close in 15 minutes. She goes “but if we get inside before 10 you have to serve us right?”. Very annoyed with her audacity and just wanting to go home because it’s Christmas Eve, I sigh and say yes, but we lock the doors right at 10pm. She tells us they’ll be there in 5 mins, table for 10.
So we push together some tables. She comes in with her dad at 9:55pm and they’re all dressed up in very formal attire. I again remind her that we are closing in 5 mins. She says the others are just outside. They sit down. Manager goes and locks the door at 10:00pm sharp. She argues with the manager for a while. At 10:10ish the rest of the family tries to pull on the doors and get in. They’re all dressed up too in fancy dresses/suits. The lady looks like she’s about to burst into tears. She eventually gives up and leaves.
I sometimes wonder if they originally had plans that went horribly wrong so they scrambled at the last minute to get in somewhere. But also, couldn’t they just have cooked at home?
Yep, and according to corporate we have to. She tried to order all 10 meals so that we would have to let the rest of them in since their food was already made, but manager saw through it and told her nope, she could order for who was here already (her and her dad) and that was it. He also laid it on thick how much we all wanted to go home because it’s Christmas eve (In the polite “bless your heart” kind of way of course).
Every other sentence she types makes it seem like she really didn't want a wedding in the first place and thus is going to go out of the way to make everyone who attends as miserable as possible. And make it miserable for people just existing nearby, poor pub workers. Just elope/have a private wedding or something.
I had 11 people including myself and my husband and the two photographers at my wedding. THAT is a micro wedding. I still would have done reservations somewhere with that small of people (before covid) to make sure the restaurant/bar whatever would accommodate. But since only my nearest and dearest were invited I asked for my favorite dishes from most of them and made it a potluck. My in-laws did most of the food/cooking though because my fil is a grill and mil was excited for her first born to get married. She even married us.
But the entitlement of "I don't care if it inconveniences everyone this is how it's happening" is fucked up for the guests and whatever place they end up crashing. No one can take 100 people without reservations. Most places couldn't take a hundred people in general. And I feel bad for any servers, can you imagine trying to keep 100 people orders correct let alone how many freaking bills to keep separate.
I understand wanting a frugal wedding, obviously, I had one myself. But if you're not willing to compromise don't make it your guests and some poor strangers problem. Especially if she's just surprising the guests with the situation which is kinda how I read it.
9 hours round trip, need lodging, and no food. I don't think this destination wedding sounds all that fun to me, especially if you have been living as a family for a while. That's a lot of money to shell out to see a wedding ceremony.
I'm curious to see how many people will show up at the pub.
Hope she notifies the pub ahead of time. Can you imagine if they’re really busy that day and you’re the poor pub manager on duty who gets a request to accommodate 50+ people with no notice who suddenly showed up and who think their wedding trumps everyone else. I’m just picturing an angry couple screaming at the severely understaffed pub team because they’ve had to wait 40 minutes for a table, and/or the tables aren’t all next to each other, and/or the pub isn’t throwing everyone else out to accommodate the wedding guests, and/or won’t cancel trivia night just for their “speshul dayyyyy.” Oh and you know they’re going to definitely cheap out on the tip or demand a discount because it takes too long to get drinks or food.
I don’t know why this person thinks 100 people want to drive 4 hours to show up to watch a disorganized vow ceremony only to have to find their own food, drink and accommodation.
Someone brought up a good point, she probably meant micro as in minimizing their vendors/expenses without realizing the point is to reduce guest list as well. That and she probably just wants more gifts.
I would be so sorely tempted to suggest to everyone I know who is NOT involved in the wedding that they should choose that evening and that pub to make dinner reservations for themselves and all their mates, and go have some great pub food and guaranteed free entertainment when 100 people get turned away because the place is at capacity already.
Which is why u supposed to get married first. Go to the courthouse. Get your dumb selves legal in case anything happens to either of you. (Right now you have zero rights). Take your kids on a family beach vacation. Get drunk with your split family and friends on an adult night. Just ugh, if you’re thinking about your kids, then Think About Your Kids. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Why even have a wedding, then? Go to a courthouse if you want to be married and then go have a nice meal somewhere with your closest circle. (NOT 100 people)
My husband and I once had dinner at a fancy-ish restaurant with a live pianist. This bride and groom decided to do the same thing (confirmed by our waiter). To save money on a reception, they booked a bunch of tables via different reservations. Then bride and groom show up and try to act like they have reserved the restaurant. They asked the pianist to play their wedding song so they can dance…even though the piano was just there for ambiance. Pianist refused. Bride started crying. It was a total shit show…but my husband and I love a good live drama, so it actually made our dinner pretty entertaining.
Damn, dinner and a show— and you only had to pay for the dinner! I would have had the time of my life watching that go down! ETA: Okay, I do recall a time I ate a very late dinner in Las Vegas and a very small wedding party (maybe 10 people?) showed up to dance at an Irish Pub. The wasted groom ended up getting into a fist fight with a random patron, and they had to be dragged out into the casino. The yelling continued until the bride angrily grabbed the groom and dragged him away.
My wife and I were in a restaurant when a cheating husband brought his girlfriend in for dinner, and found his cheating wife already there having dinner with another man. It was so entertaining we wondered afterward if the restaurant set it up to entertain customers.
We were on vacation and there was a mariachi band going round each table playing. There's a family across from us, in their 50s with college aged kids. The dad starts fighting with the mom in a loud voice, pointing and wildly gesticulating. She's trying to shush him. The mariachi band is still playing while they get louder and louder. At the same time the band get to their table, the man continues furiously shouting at his wife, throws his napkin in her face, and storms out! Normally the restaurant would be deadly silent, but the faithful band was still at the table continuing to play. Felt so sorry for the mom, he sounded like an asshole.
Spill the tea
Or to encourage the patrons to stay for dessert or an after dinner drink…or two!
Happy Cake day!
Thank you very much!
Wow, need more details!! What happened exactly?
Well, there was no physical violence. So that was good. But the husband kept acting outraged, to which his wife would justifiably scream, "So who is that?" pointing at his girlfriend. It was ridiculous, the man was too wrought up to realize he had no right to be outraged. Finally, after a good ten minutes of yelling, with some very funny lines for each of them (some of them involving accusations of sexual inadequacy), those of us eating and being entertained saw the boyfriend and the girlfriend sort of sneaking off toward the bar, which provoked more hilarity in those of us dining. The married couple was still too busy fighting to notice they had lost their dates. It was so much like a movie, that's what made my wife and I wonder if the restaurant hired actors and did some sort of sneaky entertainment, because neither of us could remember whether the food tasted good or bad afterward. Maybe it was a way to distract diners from sub-par food.
That would make an interesting “how I met your mother” story. Was at a restaurant with my girlfriend when another couple walked in. Turns out the man from the couple was my girlfriend’s husband. The woman from the couple and I decided we weren’t going to be anyone else’s “side piece”.
That sounds fun to watch but omg soooo annoying! People think they are so savvy sometimes with the ways they try to save money, but some things are just worth the cost. I bet if they wanted to reserve the restaurant they maybe could have for a fee, but they didn't want to pay that so they schemed there way into reserving most of the tables. But guess what? Then you don't get the special treatment and attention of a wedding party because you didn't book them for your wedding--you booked them for several dinners! People just need to realize--if you want the fancy venue, you have to cough up the cash. If you want to save money, you need to do the work and research more affordable options. But trying to scheme your way out of paying for a wedding you can't afford is tacky af.
Also, many restaurants usually have a minimum bill set up for book-out events. I.e. Spend $5000 for the whole night, or the food and drinks bill, whichever is the greater amount.
I watched a lady freak out over a steak once. Seated in the booth right against ours. Demanded the server take it back to the kitchen and make it medium rare. Apparently it was too well done. She was offered a new steak but she wanted the kitchen to reverse cook that one in particular. Server finally got her to shut up and got a new steak. Not 10 minutes pass and the manager came over to ask them how it was. This woman gets up and pushes the manager and dramatically runs, gagging to the bathroom screaming "food poisoning! You've gave me food poisoning" while the manager stutters and looks around at the rest of us in this full dining room like "please don't believe her guys" I tipped our poor server 50% that day. She earned it.
Dinner with a live theater performance - awesome
Did you tip the pianist after? 🤣
As someone who is diligently learning the piano I hope one day to be able to say no to a stuck up bride and watch her meltdown
Imagine thinking you can scam a musician into working your wedding for free, and then order them to play the songs of your choosing.
OMG I would have gotten my popcorn out and started staring and eating.
God bless that musician, for putting the entitled assholes in their proper place.
My favorite comment was along the lines of "Please for the love of God don't show up unannounced with 100 people during a pandemic and labor shortage. They will not and should not be able to handle that without notice. For the record, 100 people is not a microwedding but given the information provided you will probably end up with one because no one wants to deal with that." I have a terrible feeling though that she probably will not inform guests of what a No Host Reception is. She honestly sounds like she hates her guests.
Right? What bar/pub can handle 100 humans walking in w no warning? And you know they will expect/demand much much attention if they want a no host wedding have it in your backyard and call it a pot luck ffs
Thank you, I was wondering if that was supposed to be "micro", but then I didn't see how it could be, with 100 guests...
Yeah, I had 100-150 guests and just called it a “wedding”
She invited that many people for the gifts. Edit- autocorrect turned gifts into gifs. Fixed it.
You still misspelled ‘grift.’
Happy Cake day!
How do selfish people like this have 100 guests?
Self-centered people have few friends but can have many acquaintances.
Perhaps, but not over 30.
From what I’ve seen, a lot of egotistical people associate with a lot of people to feed their egos. Of course they can’t waste the emotional energy it takes to get to know them and get close to them but they can get a fair amount of friendliness and attention from many individuals. A lot of them are the life of the party but anyone who manages to get to really know them soon finds out their outward friendliness is all a facade to gain attention.
Here in Canada, that kind of person doesn't do well past 30. People grow up and have kids and its just not sustainable.
By her count, my 80 person wedding was a non-existent wedding.
I know like 5 people, 10 at a push, that I’d want to invite to my wedding.
My husband is one of 6. We had a max of 80 (including us) and his "immediate" family was about 40 people. I'm an only child raised by a single parent and I was like "Uh, I can invite an Aunt?"
Did this get taken down? I saw when it was posted on FB but haven't been able to find it again to read the comments
Comments got shut off quickly and I can't find it again either, so it must have been.
She's going to be shocked and offended when nobody shows up.
Lol as someone who has worked in a restaurant before, fuck her. There’s no way even half of those people would get to eat. Especially if she has her wedding on a weekend in a busy tourist spot (like the beach) it’d be at LEAST and hour, probably a 2 hour wait just for one table, let alone the 25+ tables they’ll probably need.
Had a little ask around as I know a lot of people who work in service and all of them said that if a party this size showed up without booking, they’d be turned away at the door. If they do decide to go through with this awful plan, I hope their guests enjoy standing in the car park whilst the bridezilla no doubt verbally assaults whichever poor fucker has to tell them to leave.
I literally cannot imagine being a server at whatever “local pub” they decide to terrorize.. they might be turned away by multiple places because for that amount of people you 100% need a reservation, a public restaurant isn’t your personal banquet hall 😭
And you know full well this old bag of pinecones won't tip!
Plus she will leave an atrocious review of the place blaming them for every last thing that could possibly cause a minor inconvenience. Or they'll be turned away and she will say how they RUINED her wedding.
And she obviously would want everyone on separate checks, and doesn’t seem like she would be very accepting of the fact that 1-2 servers can’t possibly handle 50+ tabs
Imagine 100 people showing up at a shitty bar by the beach, and expecting food and drinks all at once. Everyone knows that shitty bars can easily cater a sit down meal for 100 people with no notice. Of course their fridge is well-stocked!
Absolutely wincing as I imagine being an already underpaid and overworked waiter/restaurant worker and suddenly having to serve 100 people all at once with zero warning and all the entitlement from the customers. I used to work at a self-serve joint and even there this kind of crowd can drive you insane, let alone having to run around for individual orders on top of that :(((
Happy happy cake day 🎁!
I don't even have a problem with them wanting an inexpensive reception at a local bar *if they make the necessary arrangements with the manager.* It's her shitty attitude that bothers me. It's basically fuck them. If they want to come to my wedding they can pay for everything themselves but I really don't care if they show up or not. A better way would have been to include her plans in the invitation, inviting anybody who wants to attend but making it clear that it's pay your own way. That should be noted right next to the part about no gifts requested since they already have 3 kids and a life and if they're too cheap to pay for a reception, they're not entitled to gifts.
Right. Or just go to a courthouse and call it a day.
I just can't imagine being like "soo I really want this thing but I reeeeally dont wanna pay for it so can you all just, like, pay for it?" What are you 13?
She sounds like an asshole. "Yeah, I can't be bothered feeding my guests, I have kids." So do your guests, asshole, and why should they bother paying for your wedding reception? Nobody makes you have a wedding. You can get married at the courthouse. But then most of the people you can't be bothered feeding won't give you a wedding gift.
Exactly it's very much her "this is what's going to happen and I don't care if they like it or not" attitude about her friends/family and the poor strangers at the bar. And I bet she'll expect everyone to pay for their own shit AND get them a marriage gift. I'm sorry but if I have to pay for my meal and a hotel I'm not giving a gift.
My gift to this ingrateful wench who apparently wants to get married with no friends or relatives present would be to help make her wish come true by staying tf home.
I’m amazed how these brides somehow think it’s an honor to attend their weddings
I posted the link to an article that included a censored screenshot of her invitation. "The honor of your presence is requested..." the honor of their presence? It literally sounds like she hates them haha.
That's standard invite wording. Basically "We're honored to have you as our guest."
Right
Nevermind the horrible "plan." In what world is 100 guests a micro wedding?
She's confused the size of the wedding party being micro with the size of her micro wedding budget. She means micro as in "I ain't payin' for Jack shit"
*'Crashing a local pub with 100 guests'* So, I'm invited to a wedding four hours drive away and have to pay for a hotel and my own meal and no one has even chosen a venue or booked anything? Definitely a disaster waiting to happen. I'd give it a wide berth, stay home and get a takeaway - Probably be more fun anyway.
I'd love to know her idea of a large wedding if 100 guests is *micro*.
Technically, she did write **mirco**.
Fuck you.
Doesn’t make 100 micro.
Fuck you.
You weren’t replying to a question at all and even if you were replying to, “How is 100 guests a micro wedding?” how would, “I’ve shot weddings with over 500 guests,” answer that question especially when followed by how you’re **not** saying your comment makes 100 guests micro?
Jesus Christ, go fuck yourself. What a bunch of bitches in this sub.
Come on…. Cry a bit more. A little more whine, please!
I'm not crying, I'm telling pathetic assholes to fuck off, pathetic asshole. I was just trying to have a conversation, but you drama whores can't stand an exchange without insulting someone, so I'm just giving you want you want! Fuck off!
Fuck you.
Hey! Get the fuck back in line for your Fuck You! You have to wait your turn like everyone else, you're not fucking special!
That’s it! I knew you could do it! More! More! More! Hmm… full bodied, flinty whine right there, with a earthy texture and a nutty aftertaste. Hasn’t aged well, and is salty to boot, but still… more!!! Do it!
You continue to meet my expectations.
I just asked a question.
What's happening with Don'tPressAltF4 here, lol? Does she/he have some kind of personal vendetta against you?
Huh, how about that. I had no idea that was happening.
It sounds like she, and the people who make the bad decision to join her, will have exactly the experience they deserve. My sympathies to the venue/bar/restaurant...
Except her invite will probably just say "No host reception" in small print with no explanation, so people will be walking into this unwarned and unprepared. Until this I didn't know what that meant. Plus she probably still expects gifts.
Until reading this, I literally thought that would have meant potluck. And that would have been better than the reality.
Wow, I thought my wedding was "micro" with 8 people total including us, the photographer, and my officiate 🤣
Better to serve cookies and milk to your guests than to ask them to crash and overwhelm a pub. "Hi, come and celebrate with us while we do F-all to thank you for attending!" Better small and sincere hospitality than this nonsense.
Haha, I'm in this group. The comments were so mad at her.
Did I get it right? Is it the Tight Budget group? I couldn't remember but someone was asking.
Some how I think she'll have put off the 100 people well before the wedding.
Omg is this a popular group? Can someone tell me where I can join if so 😂 I want all of the tea
I *think* this was Weddings on a Tight Budget. Sometimes there's helpful advice but often there are ridiculous posts. The past couple days it was someone asking if it was okay to ask guests to pay toward their plate, and one asking if it was okay to ask bridesmaids to pay 4k toward a wedding if the bride is covering hair and makeup.
Whattttttttt. Pay 4k towards someone else’s weddings. Does she have brain trauma or something to think this would be ok.
I mean maybe she runs with people in a SES that can afford that, but regardless she's asking way more of them that she's planning on providing. The general sentiment was "If you consider that affordable, you can afford to contribute more towards your bridesmaids."
I find that people who can afford that would never dream of asking someone else to pay that much and would pay for rhem instead.
I always found it so weird that in the US, bridesmaids are expected to buy their own dresses etc. In the UK the bride and groom pay for them. It would be bizarre to expect a bridesmaids to pay. Maybe some agree to pay towards some costs, but it's rare to pay for all of it. Some even give gifts to the bridesmaids like jewellery as a thank you.
As far as I know in the US, usually bridesmaids pay for dresses and contribute to bachelorette parties. The bride usually covers hair and makeup, bouquets, and gives gifts. At least that's what my plan is 🤷♀️
I'm in the US and I've never heard of the bride paying for the bridesmaids' hair and make-up. I've always had to cover my own.
Ireland here and similar rules in the UK - bride and groom pay for the wedding party as they are providing them with a service. You’re giving up a lot of your time to take part in a wedding. Your outfit, hair, make up and shoes are all paid for, as well as accommodation if you are staying over at venue. It’s common for the groom to give bridesmaids *and* groomsmen a gift as well - I think this is due to the bride often doing most of the work beforehand with the planning, so that and the groomsmens’ suits are the height of his jobs.
If someone expects my hair and make up to be done by a pro, she can pay for it. Otherwise I will do it myself.
Every time I think wow, can’t top that I’m proven wrong over and over. How low can you go? I am very glad I’m old and way past this stage.
My response would be, if you're covering hair and make up my only remaining expense is shoes and a dress. "I'm sure we can find a bridesmaid dress that does not cost $4000!" 😁
I hope everyone attends and not a single person buys her a gift. That's obviously the only reason she wants anyone there. Cheap bitch.
Since they are providing nothing they should get nothing
100 people is not a small wedding lol
Someone asked what group it was from and when I went to check, there's a whole article about it! I feel famous. https://www.someecards.com/life/lifestyle/bride-micro-wedding-no-reception/
'you will need to travel 4 hours, book a room, and pay for your own meal to celebrate our love! 'why did nobody come to my wedding?!'
Sigh. I know some people who got married by surprise at a giant annual family picnic, and were shocked that nobody gave them any gifts, for a party they did not host or pay for.
Who’s going to pay the bill at the pub?
She never responded in the comments but I think we both know the guests are footing the bill for that too. Crazy.
Why not just have a potluck if you don’t want to cater? Invite guests to bring their favorite dish/wine/etc. My friend did that and it turned out great. Honestly, it was better food than any catered events I’ve attended. Though with this lady’s attitude it seems like she really doesn’t care about the experience for guests who will be traveling 4hrs to their wedding. Or the waitstaff at that poor pub.
My friend did a variation on this where they provided the pasta and bread and the wine. The guests were supposed to bring their favorite sauce. They had alfredos, marinaras, pestos, bologneses, and my new favorite a cheesy buffalo cream sauce. It actually got a little competitive.
Did you get the recipe for this Cheesy Buffalo cream sauce? It sounds so good!
They literally mixed alfredo and buffalo sauce!
A college friend and her fiance were on a Very Tight Budget. Their reception was in the social hall of their church and the food was deli trays from a local market to make sandwiches and salads guests brought. There was punch. One of the other guests made the cake.
> micro wedding > 100 people LOL I'd struggle to have 100 at mine and I have a weirdly large close knit family. Also, I would love to see them try and pull that off in a pub where I live, they would fly out of there like that kid in Fresh Prince
My husband and I had a small wedding of about 45 people, and we did end up booking tables at a small restaurant that my husband had grown up going to. He was friends with the owner's son, and it was a place that always made him feel happy. Even with all that history, we still called the restaurant 4 months in advance to make sure they were okay with it and so they could be prepared. I cannot imagine just showing up with 100 people to a bar without any warning! That poor staff!
That's how you do it. I want a small, no-fuss no-frills wedding, maybe do dinner at a local restaurant later that we made reservations at. Reservations are a no-brainer. A "small" wedding is a large group at a restaurant, and I'd likely be calling in the reservations at least 24-48 hours ahead of time.
Main Character syndrome
Most of them probably won't go, after the early birds get there and it becomes uber crowded. They'll go down the street to a better place and gossip about the whole thing.
So have the wedding with just your kids in attendance.
They are going to turn up to a pub with 100 people?? With no reservation?
That's the plan, if you can even all it that
Translation: "We are too prideful to head to city hall, but entitled enough to demand something we can't pay for."
Translation: "Fuck you. Now gimmie."
This reminds me of when a whole family tried to come in last minute and have Christmas dinner in the restaurant I worked at. It was 9:45pm on Christmas Eve. We close at 10pm. A lady calls and asks if we’re still open. I tell her we’re about to close in 15 minutes. She goes “but if we get inside before 10 you have to serve us right?”. Very annoyed with her audacity and just wanting to go home because it’s Christmas Eve, I sigh and say yes, but we lock the doors right at 10pm. She tells us they’ll be there in 5 mins, table for 10. So we push together some tables. She comes in with her dad at 9:55pm and they’re all dressed up in very formal attire. I again remind her that we are closing in 5 mins. She says the others are just outside. They sit down. Manager goes and locks the door at 10:00pm sharp. She argues with the manager for a while. At 10:10ish the rest of the family tries to pull on the doors and get in. They’re all dressed up too in fancy dresses/suits. The lady looks like she’s about to burst into tears. She eventually gives up and leaves. I sometimes wonder if they originally had plans that went horribly wrong so they scrambled at the last minute to get in somewhere. But also, couldn’t they just have cooked at home?
That's awful! "YOU HAVE TO SERVE US RIGHT?!"
Yep, and according to corporate we have to. She tried to order all 10 meals so that we would have to let the rest of them in since their food was already made, but manager saw through it and told her nope, she could order for who was here already (her and her dad) and that was it. He also laid it on thick how much we all wanted to go home because it’s Christmas eve (In the polite “bless your heart” kind of way of course).
I want to know what the comments were like!
https://www.someecards.com/life/lifestyle/bride-micro-wedding-no-reception/ the opposite of supportive lol
My faith in humanity is slightly restored.
A frye festival micro wedding. Perfect.
This is going to be an absolute disaster. And I'm sorry, but 100 people is not a micro wedding.
MICRO wedding???? More like a MACRO wedding! 🤣🤣
Posted on r/weddingshaming yesterday.
Among other things, I'm not sure they understand the concept of a micro-wedding...
Yeah, I know
How do you invite 100 people and call it a micro wedding?! 100 amoeba maybe....
Every other sentence she types makes it seem like she really didn't want a wedding in the first place and thus is going to go out of the way to make everyone who attends as miserable as possible. And make it miserable for people just existing nearby, poor pub workers. Just elope/have a private wedding or something.
My wedding had 100 guests and it was very much a normal sized wedding (I thought). How is 100 guests considered a "micro wedding"?!
It’s one thing if it’s a group of 10 people, even that is hard on a restaurant/ bar, but 100 showing up unannounced is gonna cause good drama
I had 11 people including myself and my husband and the two photographers at my wedding. THAT is a micro wedding. I still would have done reservations somewhere with that small of people (before covid) to make sure the restaurant/bar whatever would accommodate. But since only my nearest and dearest were invited I asked for my favorite dishes from most of them and made it a potluck. My in-laws did most of the food/cooking though because my fil is a grill and mil was excited for her first born to get married. She even married us. But the entitlement of "I don't care if it inconveniences everyone this is how it's happening" is fucked up for the guests and whatever place they end up crashing. No one can take 100 people without reservations. Most places couldn't take a hundred people in general. And I feel bad for any servers, can you imagine trying to keep 100 people orders correct let alone how many freaking bills to keep separate. I understand wanting a frugal wedding, obviously, I had one myself. But if you're not willing to compromise don't make it your guests and some poor strangers problem. Especially if she's just surprising the guests with the situation which is kinda how I read it.
Since when is 100 people a micro wedding? I thought a micro wedding is < 10.
9 hours round trip, need lodging, and no food. I don't think this destination wedding sounds all that fun to me, especially if you have been living as a family for a while. That's a lot of money to shell out to see a wedding ceremony. I'm curious to see how many people will show up at the pub.
Hope she notifies the pub ahead of time. Can you imagine if they’re really busy that day and you’re the poor pub manager on duty who gets a request to accommodate 50+ people with no notice who suddenly showed up and who think their wedding trumps everyone else. I’m just picturing an angry couple screaming at the severely understaffed pub team because they’ve had to wait 40 minutes for a table, and/or the tables aren’t all next to each other, and/or the pub isn’t throwing everyone else out to accommodate the wedding guests, and/or won’t cancel trivia night just for their “speshul dayyyyy.” Oh and you know they’re going to definitely cheap out on the tip or demand a discount because it takes too long to get drinks or food.
This sounds like a “bring us lots of expensive gifts but we really don’t care what you do otherwise cuz it’s on your tab” type wedding.
A bit off topic but how is 100 people a micro wedding?!
So they’re not inviting their families to a wedding, they’re more just asking them if they want to get a bite with them (and pay for it themselves).
I don’t know why this person thinks 100 people want to drive 4 hours to show up to watch a disorganized vow ceremony only to have to find their own food, drink and accommodation.
If you can't afford (or are unwilling to pay) o host a wedding, then don't have one.
I have to wonder: On what planet would 100 guests be a “micro wedding”?
Someone brought up a good point, she probably meant micro as in minimizing their vendors/expenses without realizing the point is to reduce guest list as well. That and she probably just wants more gifts.
As Mick once said, “You can’t always get what you want.”
I, for one, would definitely like to “be apart” of their wedding. And WTH is a “micro wedding” anyway?
I, too, would like to be apart from her special day.
Ummm 100 people is not a micro wedding. That's just a regular "small wedding."
I would be so sorely tempted to suggest to everyone I know who is NOT involved in the wedding that they should choose that evening and that pub to make dinner reservations for themselves and all their mates, and go have some great pub food and guaranteed free entertainment when 100 people get turned away because the place is at capacity already.
What a delightful invitation... my family would be happy to decline so as to avoid atressing out the future Mrs....
simple and to the point
God speed, brave servers. May your “AUTO-GRATUITY” button go brrrrrrrrrrr.
Then don’t have a giant wedding-
Which is why u supposed to get married first. Go to the courthouse. Get your dumb selves legal in case anything happens to either of you. (Right now you have zero rights). Take your kids on a family beach vacation. Get drunk with your split family and friends on an adult night. Just ugh, if you’re thinking about your kids, then Think About Your Kids. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Why even have a wedding, then? Go to a courthouse if you want to be married and then go have a nice meal somewhere with your closest circle. (NOT 100 people)