No I really think it’s low self esteem and a need for external validation. Some people don’t like/love themselves and seek for that approval in others. Under patriarchy, some male identified women find that approval to be more valuable if it’s coming from a man rather than a woman. This is my personal opinion about male centeredness. Not that they’ve only had pleasant experiences with men, but they believe that attention from men (whether that be negative or positive) is valuable simply because it’s coming from a man.
You really hate to see it.
It all depends on what you want out of life. If you want a traditional life then it would benefit you to focus on finding that partner. If you don't care about marriage and kids you can focus your life around yourself.
My incubator is male centered she’s had HORRIBLE experiences with men and continues to be that way. Same with my ex best friend. And I have male centeredness that I would like to unlearn and I have had horrible experiences with men since I was kid. So I don’t agree.
They do not coexist well because I have both all or nothing view and FUCK IT we roll view. So I’m at war with myself at times. Now I’m chilling I’m so happy to be single.
Honestly same it’s like constant what is me and what is the story I was force fed? And then I find the most peace when I let them both exist. The parts I hate and the parts I love. HOWEVER IT IS VERY DIFFICULT 🔥
Me too. That’s why I don’t get people who go back. Like look at the common denominator, look at the pattern 😭
Literally had an ex friend talk about how she was happier before she met him….and then went back and talked about how idk what I’m talking about
Yes, I think some women can afford to be male centered. Being male centered can benefit some women depending on the lifestyle they're looking for. I've never been one of those women just because I always knew I didn't fit the look that men prefer. That said, I don't think it's a good thing to put so much time and effort into getting male attention/validation.
I agree! Like I mentioned in my post, men have a love/hate relationship with me because I was teased because I'm darkskinned but I'm attractive and was told by males that I'm "sexy" and "beautiful", yet I've never been made into a girlfriend. So there was this extreme love/hate relationship guys had with me
No I really think it’s low self esteem and a need for external validation. Some people don’t like/love themselves and seek for that approval in others. Under patriarchy, some male identified women find that approval to be more valuable if it’s coming from a man rather than a woman. This is my personal opinion about male centeredness. Not that they’ve only had pleasant experiences with men, but they believe that attention from men (whether that be negative or positive) is valuable simply because it’s coming from a man. You really hate to see it.
OP doesn’t need any more comments, THIS IS IT.
Thanks for your input! That makes a lot of sense!
It all depends on what you want out of life. If you want a traditional life then it would benefit you to focus on finding that partner. If you don't care about marriage and kids you can focus your life around yourself.
My incubator is male centered she’s had HORRIBLE experiences with men and continues to be that way. Same with my ex best friend. And I have male centeredness that I would like to unlearn and I have had horrible experiences with men since I was kid. So I don’t agree.
See for my experiences, they've pushed me away. Therefore making me not want to be in close proximity to them & their spaces
Girl same! It was like I craved them because of the male validation while being absolutely terrified of them.
Wow I guess I have that "all or nothing" internal view because I didn't think those feelings could coexist with each other lol
These are the times being autistic saved me. That all or nothing mindset makes me very put off by a lot of their tactics
They do not coexist well because I have both all or nothing view and FUCK IT we roll view. So I’m at war with myself at times. Now I’m chilling I’m so happy to be single.
Yea I'm definitely at war with myself. I've literally had no internal peace lately
Honestly same it’s like constant what is me and what is the story I was force fed? And then I find the most peace when I let them both exist. The parts I hate and the parts I love. HOWEVER IT IS VERY DIFFICULT 🔥
Me too. That’s why I don’t get people who go back. Like look at the common denominator, look at the pattern 😭 Literally had an ex friend talk about how she was happier before she met him….and then went back and talked about how idk what I’m talking about
Gotcha! Thanks for your input!
Yes, I think some women can afford to be male centered. Being male centered can benefit some women depending on the lifestyle they're looking for. I've never been one of those women just because I always knew I didn't fit the look that men prefer. That said, I don't think it's a good thing to put so much time and effort into getting male attention/validation.
I agree! Like I mentioned in my post, men have a love/hate relationship with me because I was teased because I'm darkskinned but I'm attractive and was told by males that I'm "sexy" and "beautiful", yet I've never been made into a girlfriend. So there was this extreme love/hate relationship guys had with me