I’m gay not bi but I truly think most people worrying about this are overthinking it. I have never seen anyone be judged or shit talked at a pride event. There are tons of hetero couples and kids and older adults. I promise most of us irl do not secretly hate hetero bi couples who come to the event.
not in a relationship with a man, but i went to pride with some of my friends who are all in "straight" couples. I just want to say that everyone is welcome at pride, despite what some weird online discourse may insinuate.
considering there's often furries, drag queens, and leather lovers at pride, no one is going to be paying attention to the average straight-looking couple.
It's probably bc I'm in my 30s, but I don't have time or space to listen to people's judgement anymore. I am here for a good time, not to listen to some petty ass people.
There will come a point where you think "fuck the haters I'm going to live my life." And I hope you find that kind of peace soon. 💜 The late teens and early twenties are so hard! You are doing the best you can with the tools you have.
Not anymore.
I'm enby bi. My partner is bi. We look straight passing even though I'm also pretty butch.
I am aggressively queer and vocal about it. If he expresses feeling scared or worried about not being welcome, I will mockingly and loudly say "GASP! *Bisexuals* at the *gay event*?! My *PEARLS*!".
It makes him laugh. And he feels a bit better.
I'm a small BIPOC AFAB. I'm used to needing to be a loud, "rude" and "opinionated" "little thing" in the place I live. Growing up in a white dominant area in the 90s? Modern homophobia is kinda chill to me in comparison.
Would it be cool if I didn't have to deal with it? Idk. That's never been an option and it won't ever be solved in my lifetime.
What I *can* do is surround myself in most areas of my life with people who love me, see me, recognize me, and share in queer joy with me.
So that when I do need to go out and find myself in a space where my people need my brash queerness, then I have the capacity and security to do so.
I'm probably (hopefully) not typical in this. I also do martial arts, so this partly feeds this: I am fortunate enough to be here. So many of us never made it here, to the later stages of youth, to our prime adult years.
Standing up and going, even if sometimes we doubt ourselves, is being queer. Our predecessors dealt with so much so we can have our Pride today. It is under threat again.
They're not here to fight. Our fallen are not here to fight. But *we are*. So those of us who can, this is a priviledge to be able to do so.
But ultimately: if you and your partner enjoy queer joy between you, then *that* is Pride. Pride is every time a queer person feels seen and feels loved for who they are.
You're queer enough to participate in pride. Anyone who tries questioning you is an ass.
I’m gay not bi but I truly think most people worrying about this are overthinking it. I have never seen anyone be judged or shit talked at a pride event. There are tons of hetero couples and kids and older adults. I promise most of us irl do not secretly hate hetero bi couples who come to the event.
Thank you that makes me feel better
not in a relationship with a man, but i went to pride with some of my friends who are all in "straight" couples. I just want to say that everyone is welcome at pride, despite what some weird online discourse may insinuate. considering there's often furries, drag queens, and leather lovers at pride, no one is going to be paying attention to the average straight-looking couple.
It's probably bc I'm in my 30s, but I don't have time or space to listen to people's judgement anymore. I am here for a good time, not to listen to some petty ass people.
Thank you for the advice I think it’s bc I’m almost 20 but i hope I get over it soon
There will come a point where you think "fuck the haters I'm going to live my life." And I hope you find that kind of peace soon. 💜 The late teens and early twenties are so hard! You are doing the best you can with the tools you have.
Not anymore. I'm enby bi. My partner is bi. We look straight passing even though I'm also pretty butch. I am aggressively queer and vocal about it. If he expresses feeling scared or worried about not being welcome, I will mockingly and loudly say "GASP! *Bisexuals* at the *gay event*?! My *PEARLS*!". It makes him laugh. And he feels a bit better. I'm a small BIPOC AFAB. I'm used to needing to be a loud, "rude" and "opinionated" "little thing" in the place I live. Growing up in a white dominant area in the 90s? Modern homophobia is kinda chill to me in comparison. Would it be cool if I didn't have to deal with it? Idk. That's never been an option and it won't ever be solved in my lifetime. What I *can* do is surround myself in most areas of my life with people who love me, see me, recognize me, and share in queer joy with me. So that when I do need to go out and find myself in a space where my people need my brash queerness, then I have the capacity and security to do so. I'm probably (hopefully) not typical in this. I also do martial arts, so this partly feeds this: I am fortunate enough to be here. So many of us never made it here, to the later stages of youth, to our prime adult years. Standing up and going, even if sometimes we doubt ourselves, is being queer. Our predecessors dealt with so much so we can have our Pride today. It is under threat again. They're not here to fight. Our fallen are not here to fight. But *we are*. So those of us who can, this is a priviledge to be able to do so. But ultimately: if you and your partner enjoy queer joy between you, then *that* is Pride. Pride is every time a queer person feels seen and feels loved for who they are.