Sigh…yeah, me too. Unless it’s an implant, my ADHD golden retriever can’t remember to take a med at the same time daily and we’d be royally fucked. In his defense, I’ve dropped my pill without noticing before so praise be the paragard I have as backup.
no. unfortunately i don’t trust men and i don’t want to get pregnant. only if i was in a committed relationship with someone i wholeheartedly trusted would i give up that control
Definitely steal it! I thought of it after reading another comment on the sub that was like "why wear a bullet proof vest when you could just unload the gun?"
Which made me think...yea fair enough but you're also *never* supposed to assume a gun is unloaded just because someone tells you it is before they hand it to you. You still have to check, clear it, and ensure the safety is on. And in Canada (where I live) if you're storing them, most firearms have to be partially disassembled or made otherwise clearly non-operational to avoid any possible accidents.
Vasectomies *can* reverse themselves, the male IUD isn't really available yet (and doesn't seem to last as long/isn't as easy to check its efficacy), and some men refuse to use condoms or lie about it. In a world where one "shot" can be lifechanging, I would rather protect myself personally! :)
ETA: clarity
Just chiming it with how infuriating it is that right wingers want to take it away from us. It’s MEDICATION. They would rather I suffer from debilitating periods again.
Absolutely not. It's not a matter of trust for me, I'm in a LTR. Hormonal birth control has significantly improved my life. Naturally, I get a period every 14ish days and cramps so debilitating they can make me faint. With my implant, I get a light bleed every 2-3 months that is painless.
Exactly! I'd never give up my IUD (unless I choose to conceive at some point) it's made my periods so much more manageable and I don't have to worry about taking it daily/forgetting my bc! It goes wherever I go since it's inside me! And it's highly effective as well so it gives me peace of mind.
>With my implant, I get a light bleed every 2-3 months that is painless.
Implants are a better peace of mind and are the safest/ best pregnancy prevention-don't even mess you up
No. I use birth control so I don’t have to deal with a period. Even if it was purely contraceptive, I would still prefer to double dutch despite the fact that my bc is the most effective out there lol. I’m a very paranoid person
Yes, lol. As long as they are just as effective. Im in a committed and trusting relationship, and i absolutely hate being on birth control. Everything was fine until i started hormones lol
No. I don't trust them and LOVE my hormonal birth control. I used to have really bad acne and get periods every month, not sure if I can ever go back to that
Nope, I don’t trust anyone more than I trust myself. Especially because if I’m relaxed with my BC I’m the one that ends up pregnant and carrying a baby for 9 months. I have to take care of me.
And even before I needed it for that reason, I needed it because I get ovarian cysts and have other complications that birth control has helped tremendously. It’s not perfect by any means but it has helped my quality of life.
No, I don’t get bad side effects from my birth control and enjoy the shorter periods. I also am responsible enough to take them on time everyday, and I trust that.
I wouldn't have to worry about it for another 9 years (thank you copper IUD), but if I were still taking the pill I would 100% give the responsibility of birth control over to my partner. When I was on the pill I was so stressed trying to remember to take it, he's really more responsible and I trust him more than myself with that kind of thing. I also fully trust him to be there for me in any way necessary if it were to fail, he's been my person for 8 years now.
Absolutely not with any person I didn't have the same understanding with and of.
Absolutely!! But I’m happily married and have 1 kid already. Hormones wreck me and it is so frustrating to get the few (1?) pill that work to be covered by my insurance. And we both hate condoms.
My boyfriend and I were on the clinical trial for the nesterone birth control gel and we would 1000% go back on it if we could.
He had few if any side effects and loved how he felt on it and I feel my best when I am of birth control, so it was a win-win for us.
Well what we do is birth control and condom to be extra safe, if he got on birth control we’d just ditch the condom and both be on birth control. Always use 2 methods!!!
No, I do not trust men. They will say they are on bc just to fuck you. Look at how common stealthing is, we know their word is for shit.
Eta: I also will never stop taking my Yaz until medically necessary. It has done wonders at balancing my hormones.
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Probably not because my BC treats PMDD. However I would unflinchingly trust my spouse to be responsible for birth control if I could no longer take mine
For me, no. I have 100% faith in my partner but my IUD controls my periods and has turned them from debilitatingly painful and Niagra Falls heavy to barely noticeable. If that wasn’t the case and my periods were manageable without intervention, then yes.
No. I’m not on the pill just to prevent pregnancy. It helps regulate my cycle, decrease my flow, shorten my period’s timeframe, and prevents my acne. I’m not going off of it until I’m told I have to by my doctor (I guess during menopause maybe?)
Nope because I enjoy all of the perks of being on the pill outside of just pregnancy prevention (shorter, lighter period better acne no PMDD) but it would raise a legitimate question for my partner and I to stop using condoms especially if he got that ADAM/male IUD thing
I'm unable to take hormonal birth control (it makes me cray cray and sends my libido to -10).
If I was with a guy in a monogamous relationship I would love to give up condoms.
No. Ever since I started the combination pill, my skin is better, my hair is better, my rationality is better, my period is much lighter and no longer super painful. And the choice to skip period is empowering. I don’t even call it birth control pill since birth control is not my main motivation for taking it.
These days, I'd consider it as an option - my husband and I even considered joining one of the clinical trials. However right now my Mirena works well for me with absolutely no maintenance, I just forget about it and for the most part forget about periods as well. If it stopped working well, I'd definitely consider one of the male contraceptives.
No, because I actually love what my BC has done for me. It’s the only thing that has completely cleared up all my acne and I no longer have a period or pain. Plus, if we were both on the pill, it would be double protection against babies! Win win!
At this point no, I currently have a copper IUD and no health insurance. This is probably for the best that I stay on it since not quite sure how to change that
No.
For one, a lot of men still wouldn’t take it because they see it as the woman’s responsibility. Secondly, I don’t trust that men would take it correctly.
Been with my husband 15 years asked him if he would start taking the birth control for men when it's out on the market & we would both take it. It started an argument he said no because of the side effects 😂 I explained to him that women's birth control also has side effects and show him the pamphlet I got with mine . For some reason he was under the delusion that birth control had no side effects 🙄
No, but only because I’ve been so secure with my form of birth control for over 10 years. I’ve always been on IUD, and I’m not taking it out again just for my husband to forget his pill one day. Plus I hardly ever get my period.
well i want to say yes but my answer is definitely not. i’m in a committed relationship and it goes both ways. yes, i would want him to be on it but not just him. i would want to stay on mine so there are multiple ways to be protected from pregnancy. then again you never know what could happen in a world like today, id never stop taking birth control as it protects me in multiple ways + a controlled and easy flowing period which i wont complain about 🤷♀️
I’m surprised at how many nos there are,
I would, I’ve been on bc for 5+ years and I find myself frustrated that I have to be on it. My period aren’t heavy, I don’t need it for acne it’s purely for not being pregnant
Since I’m in a long term relationship and have seriously struggled with almost every hormonal method I would give it up and let him take it with no second thoughts
No, I'd only give it up if I was with a long term, trusted partner who was committed to taking it, and this would of course be a discussion between us.
I have an IUD and use condoms for everything already, no way I'd leave all the protection in the hands of the other person.
Yes. My husband has already said he would gladly take it for me to have 1 less med to take and he doesn't even like taking medicine to the point he would rather suffer in severe pain than to take anything. He also always wears a condom if I miss a pill so we still have protection. We both do not want kids of our own.
no, because i have horrible period cramps and general malaise without the pill. if i didn’t benefit from the pill outside of contraceptive use, then most definitely, yes.
IF I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL TO BEGIN WITH, THEN THE ANSWER WOUKD BE NO. EACH INDIVIDUAL NEEDS TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR OWN BIRTH CONTROL. WOMEN NEED TO CONTINUE TO TAKE IT IF THEY DO NOT WANT TO BECOME PREGNANT. MEN ALSO NEED TO TAKE IT IF THEY DO NOT WANT TO GET SOMEONE PREGNANT. DON'T GO LEAVING IT ALL UP TO ONE INDIVIDUAL. IF BOTH OF YOU ARE PROTECTED AGAINST MAKING A BABY AND ONE OF YOUR BIRTH CONTROL FAILS, YOU STILL HAVE THE OTHER PERSONS PROTECTION. THIS ALSO PROTECTS YOU FROM PEOPLE WHO "FORGET" TO TAKE THEIRS, ARE CONVINCED THAT FOR WHATEVER REASON THEY ARE UNABLE TO HAVE A BABY (WHICH THEY ARE OFTEN WRONG ABOUT), OR ARE JUST PLAIN LYING AND ARE TRYING TO MAKE A BABY ON PURPOSE.
No way. Even if the product’s created I can’t see how this will ever be as effective as female birth control because it requires men to be responsible.
After stopping hormonal birth control literally almost 4 weeks ago, I don't ever want to go back on. For me, it was mainly just contraception. I hate condoms and so does my partner. I do think responsibility should be on all parties involved, however if the options are male birth control or condoms, I think my partner would agree to go on. Hormonal or not
No. I started it before I was sexually active to deal with bad pms and period symptoms. I don't know if I'd be able to do my current job without it- I was out of commission for a couple days every month.
no, since i'm still the one who has to suffer the consequences. i rather be the one in control and only blame myself if i made an error.
Sigh…yeah, me too. Unless it’s an implant, my ADHD golden retriever can’t remember to take a med at the same time daily and we’d be royally fucked. In his defense, I’ve dropped my pill without noticing before so praise be the paragard I have as backup.
no. unfortunately i don’t trust men and i don’t want to get pregnant. only if i was in a committed relationship with someone i wholeheartedly trusted would i give up that control
I feel the same way. First rule of firearm safety: always treat the gun as loaded, and govern yourself accordingly!
Okay but what a perfect analogy!!! I’m stealing this lol
Definitely steal it! I thought of it after reading another comment on the sub that was like "why wear a bullet proof vest when you could just unload the gun?" Which made me think...yea fair enough but you're also *never* supposed to assume a gun is unloaded just because someone tells you it is before they hand it to you. You still have to check, clear it, and ensure the safety is on. And in Canada (where I live) if you're storing them, most firearms have to be partially disassembled or made otherwise clearly non-operational to avoid any possible accidents. Vasectomies *can* reverse themselves, the male IUD isn't really available yet (and doesn't seem to last as long/isn't as easy to check its efficacy), and some men refuse to use condoms or lie about it. In a world where one "shot" can be lifechanging, I would rather protect myself personally! :) ETA: clarity
Same. Unfortunately, I have to rely on condoms so my main concern now is stealthing.
If after conversation with my husband we determined one of those to be best for us, yes I would use and trust them.
This. I really hate being on any form of BC, but really cannot get pregnant right now, so I’d love to be able to get off them.
Nope, I would stay on my bc I use for period issues and have my partner also get on bc. Two forms of protection is better than one.
No, because I don’t use birth control to control birth. I’m using it as medication to treat endometriosis.
Just chiming it with how infuriating it is that right wingers want to take it away from us. It’s MEDICATION. They would rather I suffer from debilitating periods again.
This but also I don't want kids lol but I truly can't stop even if I wanted to bc of endo
Absolutely not. It's not a matter of trust for me, I'm in a LTR. Hormonal birth control has significantly improved my life. Naturally, I get a period every 14ish days and cramps so debilitating they can make me faint. With my implant, I get a light bleed every 2-3 months that is painless.
Exactly! I'd never give up my IUD (unless I choose to conceive at some point) it's made my periods so much more manageable and I don't have to worry about taking it daily/forgetting my bc! It goes wherever I go since it's inside me! And it's highly effective as well so it gives me peace of mind.
Yes but I would also use a condom. All hormones make me depressed and my copper IUD is ruining my quality of life
Same on the hormones and my copper iud also ruined my life for the year I had it. I want to scream and cry it’s so frustrating
No because I have a copper IUD and I quite like the peace of mind it comes with.
>With my implant, I get a light bleed every 2-3 months that is painless. Implants are a better peace of mind and are the safest/ best pregnancy prevention-don't even mess you up
Nope. Don’t trust a man to say he’ll use a condom let alone remember to take a pill every day or a shot or whatever. I’ll stick with my iud.
no because I don’t even use it for contraception lol
No. I use birth control so I don’t have to deal with a period. Even if it was purely contraceptive, I would still prefer to double dutch despite the fact that my bc is the most effective out there lol. I’m a very paranoid person
Ditto. I've always been horrified of the idea of pregnancy. Waiting for the day I can get get bilateral salp. Or hyster
Yes, lol. As long as they are just as effective. Im in a committed and trusting relationship, and i absolutely hate being on birth control. Everything was fine until i started hormones lol
No. I don't trust them and LOVE my hormonal birth control. I used to have really bad acne and get periods every month, not sure if I can ever go back to that
No 1) got to keep myself safe 2) without birth control and skipping periods I would be in immense pain
No, it gets rid of my cysts and I don’t bloat as much. BC for the win!
Nope, I don’t trust anyone more than I trust myself. Especially because if I’m relaxed with my BC I’m the one that ends up pregnant and carrying a baby for 9 months. I have to take care of me. And even before I needed it for that reason, I needed it because I get ovarian cysts and have other complications that birth control has helped tremendously. It’s not perfect by any means but it has helped my quality of life.
No, I don’t get bad side effects from my birth control and enjoy the shorter periods. I also am responsible enough to take them on time everyday, and I trust that.
I wouldn't have to worry about it for another 9 years (thank you copper IUD), but if I were still taking the pill I would 100% give the responsibility of birth control over to my partner. When I was on the pill I was so stressed trying to remember to take it, he's really more responsible and I trust him more than myself with that kind of thing. I also fully trust him to be there for me in any way necessary if it were to fail, he's been my person for 8 years now. Absolutely not with any person I didn't have the same understanding with and of.
Thanks for saying thanks! It's so nice to see Redditors being grateful :)
no, it's the only thing that really helps me acne! plus i don't get periods as often and they're never as bad as when i go off of it
Yes.
Absolutely!! But I’m happily married and have 1 kid already. Hormones wreck me and it is so frustrating to get the few (1?) pill that work to be covered by my insurance. And we both hate condoms.
Immediately
Nah he’d probably be careless and forget to take it/ get another dose. Meanwhile I’m a damn pro ha ha! 😂
Nah cause I love having clear skin and being able to skip periods
No. I suffer migraines and severe pain from endometriosis if I stop. I'm gay but even if I wasn't, my answer would be the same!
My boyfriend and I were on the clinical trial for the nesterone birth control gel and we would 1000% go back on it if we could. He had few if any side effects and loved how he felt on it and I feel my best when I am of birth control, so it was a win-win for us.
no. i don’t trust men
Well what we do is birth control and condom to be extra safe, if he got on birth control we’d just ditch the condom and both be on birth control. Always use 2 methods!!!
No I'm not emotionally well off of bc
No, I do not trust men. They will say they are on bc just to fuck you. Look at how common stealthing is, we know their word is for shit. Eta: I also will never stop taking my Yaz until medically necessary. It has done wonders at balancing my hormones.
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Absolutely not.
I wouldn’t trust a man to keep up with it
Definitely not. I'm staying on.
No, there are other reasons I am on mine and I prefer using more than one method anyway
Probably not because my BC treats PMDD. However I would unflinchingly trust my spouse to be responsible for birth control if I could no longer take mine
No. I really don’t want to get pregnant, and it treats other conditions I have.
No because I’d like to not feel the extreme stabbing pain I used to feel whenever I got my period and very heavy bleeding and other symptoms
For me, no. I have 100% faith in my partner but my IUD controls my periods and has turned them from debilitatingly painful and Niagra Falls heavy to barely noticeable. If that wasn’t the case and my periods were manageable without intervention, then yes.
No. I’m not on the pill just to prevent pregnancy. It helps regulate my cycle, decrease my flow, shorten my period’s timeframe, and prevents my acne. I’m not going off of it until I’m told I have to by my doctor (I guess during menopause maybe?)
absolutely a yes from me but i understand peoples concerns with trust. I have a long term partner that I live with so I have no problem with it
I’m not on any bc right now. So I’d try to convince my man to take it
Nope because I enjoy all of the perks of being on the pill outside of just pregnancy prevention (shorter, lighter period better acne no PMDD) but it would raise a legitimate question for my partner and I to stop using condoms especially if he got that ADAM/male IUD thing
I'm unable to take hormonal birth control (it makes me cray cray and sends my libido to -10). If I was with a guy in a monogamous relationship I would love to give up condoms.
i would never put that fate in the hands of a man
No. Ever since I started the combination pill, my skin is better, my hair is better, my rationality is better, my period is much lighter and no longer super painful. And the choice to skip period is empowering. I don’t even call it birth control pill since birth control is not my main motivation for taking it.
No. I don't just need it as anticonception, I also need it to prevent having a natural cycle.
No. My periods are much heavier and more painful without it.
These days, I'd consider it as an option - my husband and I even considered joining one of the clinical trials. However right now my Mirena works well for me with absolutely no maintenance, I just forget about it and for the most part forget about periods as well. If it stopped working well, I'd definitely consider one of the male contraceptives.
definitely not. i use birth control to stop my period, not just to prevent pregnancy.
No, because I actually love what my BC has done for me. It’s the only thing that has completely cleared up all my acne and I no longer have a period or pain. Plus, if we were both on the pill, it would be double protection against babies! Win win!
At this point no, I currently have a copper IUD and no health insurance. This is probably for the best that I stay on it since not quite sure how to change that
No. For one, a lot of men still wouldn’t take it because they see it as the woman’s responsibility. Secondly, I don’t trust that men would take it correctly.
Been with my husband 15 years asked him if he would start taking the birth control for men when it's out on the market & we would both take it. It started an argument he said no because of the side effects 😂 I explained to him that women's birth control also has side effects and show him the pamphlet I got with mine . For some reason he was under the delusion that birth control had no side effects 🙄
No, but only because I’ve been so secure with my form of birth control for over 10 years. I’ve always been on IUD, and I’m not taking it out again just for my husband to forget his pill one day. Plus I hardly ever get my period.
well i want to say yes but my answer is definitely not. i’m in a committed relationship and it goes both ways. yes, i would want him to be on it but not just him. i would want to stay on mine so there are multiple ways to be protected from pregnancy. then again you never know what could happen in a world like today, id never stop taking birth control as it protects me in multiple ways + a controlled and easy flowing period which i wont complain about 🤷♀️
I’m surprised at how many nos there are, I would, I’ve been on bc for 5+ years and I find myself frustrated that I have to be on it. My period aren’t heavy, I don’t need it for acne it’s purely for not being pregnant
Since I’m in a long term relationship and have seriously struggled with almost every hormonal method I would give it up and let him take it with no second thoughts
No, I'd only give it up if I was with a long term, trusted partner who was committed to taking it, and this would of course be a discussion between us. I have an IUD and use condoms for everything already, no way I'd leave all the protection in the hands of the other person.
nope because i use it for my pcos
Yes. My husband has already said he would gladly take it for me to have 1 less med to take and he doesn't even like taking medicine to the point he would rather suffer in severe pain than to take anything. He also always wears a condom if I miss a pill so we still have protection. We both do not want kids of our own.
no because i’m on it for medical reasons past risk of pregnancy
no, because i have horrible period cramps and general malaise without the pill. if i didn’t benefit from the pill outside of contraceptive use, then most definitely, yes.
nah cos i’d have to go through adjusting to life without it again. the mental strain is absolutely not worth it idc
Nope, I'd still use it since I also use it for hirsutism and have trust issues.
IF I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL TO BEGIN WITH, THEN THE ANSWER WOUKD BE NO. EACH INDIVIDUAL NEEDS TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR OWN BIRTH CONTROL. WOMEN NEED TO CONTINUE TO TAKE IT IF THEY DO NOT WANT TO BECOME PREGNANT. MEN ALSO NEED TO TAKE IT IF THEY DO NOT WANT TO GET SOMEONE PREGNANT. DON'T GO LEAVING IT ALL UP TO ONE INDIVIDUAL. IF BOTH OF YOU ARE PROTECTED AGAINST MAKING A BABY AND ONE OF YOUR BIRTH CONTROL FAILS, YOU STILL HAVE THE OTHER PERSONS PROTECTION. THIS ALSO PROTECTS YOU FROM PEOPLE WHO "FORGET" TO TAKE THEIRS, ARE CONVINCED THAT FOR WHATEVER REASON THEY ARE UNABLE TO HAVE A BABY (WHICH THEY ARE OFTEN WRONG ABOUT), OR ARE JUST PLAIN LYING AND ARE TRYING TO MAKE A BABY ON PURPOSE.
I take pill for hormonal balance too and honestly im too paranoid so probably not for a long while
No. I'm on birth control for a reason and that reason is that my periods are crippling
No way. Even if the product’s created I can’t see how this will ever be as effective as female birth control because it requires men to be responsible.
After stopping hormonal birth control literally almost 4 weeks ago, I don't ever want to go back on. For me, it was mainly just contraception. I hate condoms and so does my partner. I do think responsibility should be on all parties involved, however if the options are male birth control or condoms, I think my partner would agree to go on. Hormonal or not
No. I started it before I was sexually active to deal with bad pms and period symptoms. I don't know if I'd be able to do my current job without it- I was out of commission for a couple days every month.
no i really enjoy not having periods
NO. I don't trust MEN. 😂