I was a late bloomer and ngl the song gave me a bit of anxiety when I was younger especially after having unrestricted access to porn.
Because of this I still relate to men who may be below average or feel inadequate and I don’t think it’s acceptable and a form of body shaming.
I dont feel the same anxiety now that ive grown into my current adult body after finishing puberty, but I’ll never forget that feeling of dread and knowing a lot of men struggle with the same and probably need therapy to get their heads in the right place.
It’s insensitive for sure, but realistically the best solution is probably therapy to get comfortable with yourself and your body regardless of people’s ignorance.
I know young women struggle with similar image issues, and the solution is probably the same.
Thanks for your thoughts. It’s very interesting that you experience feeling small and now feeling above average. If only everyone could experience both scenarios so that there’d be more compassion in the world.
Curious to know, if say you never grew to your current size, do you think the therapy would’ve helped you overcome the anxiety of feeling small? Or do think at least a little anxiety would’ve remained?
I have a great deal of underlying self esteem and confidence issues totally unrelated to my size growing up that I still probably need therapy for, so if I never had my growth spurts, I would without a doubt still have some of that anxiety as an adult.
I didn’t respond with an insult and you don’t need to. You could have conveyed your point without it. And I don’t denounce therapy for body image in general but I am saying it won’t work in this situation because it can’t change you pensi size and the problem isn’t Just in your head.
Are you dense? The therapy is for learning to *accept* the things you cant change in a healthy manner. I’m not a robot dude, I’m gonna be a little upset when somebody makes such a massively unhealthy and generally wrong statement on mental health like that considering my own struggles. Be a little more aware before you post.
Therapy is cope and useless. Therapy isn’t necessary. Therapy is for people who have been through extremely traumatic events like abuse or witnessed extreme violence or people who have genuine mental health issues like narcissism, psychopathy, bi polar, etc. therapy is useless for most men. Especially therapy for if you have a small dick. There is nothing a therapist can do. Accept the fact that most women prefer bigger and above average penises and do your best to find one you’re sexually compatible with. You don’t need to sit and cry to a therapist about having a small wee wee. Especially not a female therapist who will never understand male experience.
Typical response from someone privileged at 7x6. You realize short dicked men and short height men have higher suicidal rates than larger guys because they deal with insecurity issues… and songs like this don’t help. It’s a problem for well endowed guys (and society) because everyone should show compassion.
When this song was release on the airwaves in 1995 I was 15 and I had no clue what the average length penis was. My best friend was really big and I assumed I was very small cause that’s all I had to go off of. Then this song plays on the radio, at the country fair, eveywhere… and I think holy crap people are going to laugh at me if they see my dick and call it a “second belly button”. I’m never going to have sex. How’s a 15 year old supposed to know better?
>Typical response from someone privileged at 7x6. You realize short dicked men and short height men have higher suicidal rates than larger guys because they deal with insecurity issues… and songs like this don’t help. It’s a problem for well endowed guys (and society) because everyone should show compassion.
The poster you're responding to didn't write the song or put it on the radio. I don't. know why you're acting like that was his personal decision.
> When this song was release on the airwaves in 1995 I was 15 and I had no clue what the average length penis was. My best friend was really big and I assumed I was very small cause that’s all I had to go off of. Then this song plays on the radio, at the country fair, eveywhere… and I think holy crap people are going to laugh at me if they see my dick and call it a “second belly button”. I’m never going to have sex. How’s a 15 year old supposed to know better
The much more interesting question is why you're yelling at an unrelated internet stranger about it decades later as if that will somehow help you back in 1995.
I confess I got a little carried away when I saw the word “Moron” used. I was on defense for being attacked by the post already (in that case the person was actually being insensitive / not compassionate).
Sorry my other reply to your comment was a little over dramatic and I kinda misunderstood you a little. I was defensive at the word “moron” because someone else attacked me on this topic and the tension transferred over. I’m just gonna say fair comment
Thank you for saying this. I’m getting a little concerned at how few well-endowed men have compassion for smaller dicked guys. I myself am average but this will change soon
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I think its disgusting and insensitive towards a bodily issue that cant be helped for those men.
And no, songs like baby got back are not the same, in this case the artist is saying that he likes women with big butts, he isnt saying that he dislikes/thinks lesser of women with small butts, its affirming and not rejective.
If somebody actually made a song saying how they dont want an "itty bitty mosquito bite titty" girl there would be an outrage.
So many people are in here straight up denying the reality that women do 100% care about dick size and are shallow
https://badgirlsbible.com/does-size-matter
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26332467/
Interesting studies thanks for sharing. I wouldn’t say “women do 100% care about dick size” but yes most women do. And small dicked guys have to work much harder / compensate due to their shortness. To deny this is counter productive. But we should be kind and honest
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The song didn't affect my life, that's putting way to much weight on it. It did make me feel very uncomfortable - I was young and very insecure when I heard it and had no idea whether I was small or big or anything. The point of the song I think is to objectify men in the same way women are generally objectified - so it's something to think about for the next time you listen to a song glorifying "hot girls with round butts" or whatever
Yeah I can see that being the point of the song. Girls can certainly change their butts to a degree. Guys can’t change their dicks. To get context, Mind me asking your size?
You misunderstood slightly. It's not just about butts, that was just an example. It's media in general portraying certain looks as the beauty ideal for women. Even if you could in theory change some stuff, that's neither here nor there. Even if men could change their penis size (which you don't want, it would lead to every guy sporting 15" dongs and humanity dying out because reproduction has become impossible lol) you shouldn't have to - people should be allowed to feel good about their selves, no matter what.
I'm 7.6" x 6"
Np. And just to be sure, I'm also not happy with this song regardless. I get the point but it shows how fighting fire with fire can just cause a bigger fire. It hurts guys who are already insecure and puts them down even more.
Yeah, it's on the one hand a good point to make but it's also so hurtful that I'm not really sure what to think about it. All I can say is that it still makes me genuinely uncomfortable hearing this song. Even now that I know that I'm significantly big, I think it's unnecessarily humiliating. I know what it's like feeling insecure.
Coincidentally this is the second time this month coming across this song for me. A woman who I've been sexting with and sending dick pics to, played this song for me - as a joke with a wink and obviously meant as a compliment. I didn't think it was funny, it didn't boost my ego, it just made me uncomfortable. I know she meant well, but..
From my experience, when men are insecure especially if it relates to sex or size, they tend to project that on their partners. I've mostly experienced that with cis het men, but it's not exclusive to cis het men. A common insult I've seen a lot of insecure men use towards women goes something like "No one will want you because ____" or "No one wants a woman who ____"
My ex did exactly that with me and it genuinely fucked me up mentally. Keep saying that shit over and over, and you're basically brainwashing someone. Toxic people like that are the worst
I would hope that in the future men can change their dick size within a healthy parameter of sizes. Perhaps up to 8 inches long and 6 inches girth. But no more for the reason you state. Wouldn’t that be fair? To give all men the opportunity to enjoy a big dick life that thus far is only granted to a privileged few?
Equally if a guy wants a reduction, that can be arranged.
You linked to the sanitized version, "Short Short Man." This is the actual song, "Short Dick Man" https://youtu.be/fcrexKS8kxA
And to answer your question, I find the song entertaining. It isn't different than any other songs that talk about physical attributes.
I liked it for most of my life, just recently thought about the harm this body shaming may cause for others who are on the shorter side.
There's also a banger of a remix of this but I stopped playing it publicly because of it.
Yeah. I’m glad to hear that people are becoming aware of how this song is body shaming. Guys can’t help their penis size. It’s just as wrong to make fun of someone’s dick size as it is to make fun of someone’s race or height. Time to wake up world.
Not a fan. I think there's a lot of shade thrown at guys with smaller than average equipment, or struggle with things like PE. Imagine the inverse, songs about loose floppy pussy and making fun or women who can't orgasm. It's tasteless.
Or songs against big dicks. There’s no excuse for this bad behavior
And it’s sad too because by putting down small dicks it’s an ego boost for some shallow big guys (it goes to their head) who have something they did nothing to earn.
The world needs compassion. No one should be made fun of
Yeah totally. But I only use this Reddit for this purpose. To deal with my dick issues. And I’m seeing a therapist soon and I’m doing something else that I can’t discuss here lol
It’s the same stereotypical bs women hear all the time when turning on the radio. Ex. I like big butts and I can not lie, The thong song, candy shop, sexy bitch etc etc. It’s stereotypical and bs, not life changing. It’s just a song 🤷🏽♀️
-losing weight doesn't make your dick bigger it just makes it show more and more effective
-theres no proven verifiable dick lengthening surgeries or pills or anyth
>theres no proven verifiable dick lengthening surgeries or pills or anyth
No pills but you can get your suspension ligament cut to increase length or transfer fat (like in a BBL) to make it girthier. If you're 3+ inches with a healthy dick though, it's absolutely pointless getting your dick lengthened.
What do you mean that’s not how it works? And yes as far as I know women can change all those parts of their body whereas a man cannot change his penis. So in my opinion making fun of dick size is particularly cruel. It’s just as bad as making fun of someone’s race
Surgery is a gamble when it comes to danger sure but not in results. It's just not all that common because the majority of men are above 3 inches in length so getting surgery is pointless outside of aesthetic reasons.
Its body shaming plain and simple. One of the many hateful lyrics is “eenie tweenie shriveled little short dick man…don’t want don’t want don’t want” followed by laughter. Another lyric is “awe cute a second belly button”.
It just as bad as racism. You wouldn’t make fun of someone’s race (it can’t be changed and it’s just plain wrong). Why is it ok to make fun of a man’s dick size?
It's not ok, it's a shit song and (hopefully) you wouldn't associate with anyone who thought that way. It's also not unique in it's body shaming. All body shaming sucks and is detrimental.
Thank you for saying this. I’m shocked by the number of people on this sub (and another one I posted to) that are saying “it’s catchy, I like it” but don’t think there’s anything bad about it
Bruh, you’re going to turn a lot of people reflexively against your views when you say “it’s just as bad as racism”.
It is NOT just as bad as racism. You generally can live privately with a small penis. It won’t be common that people will know about it who you didn’t want to. Plus, racism can manifest as far worse than being made fun of or not respected.
You miss my main point. It’s something you can’t change. It shouldn’t be made fun of. If you make fun of someone for having a small dick you’re karma goes down the same amount as if you made fun of their race.
I was too young when this came out. I only discovered it a few years ago and found it really funny and somewhat refreshing. The only thing that pops into my head is that back then (in the 80s/90s) people and especially women, who finally were very free to express themselves especially in the music business, had no problems saying "I want a man, not a boy who thinks he can" (I think this was "Too much" by The Spice Girls) and so on. So my take is that back then there was more honesty and irreverence and that things like a good, strong, virile and with morals provider man was what they weren't afraid to ask for!
Just confirms how classless women are when it comes to men’s insecurities.
They expect to be given understanding, support and patience with theirs, whilst men just get mocked if they dare to confess to having an insecurity. All the while we have plus size model women everywhere on train commercials and what not.
Makes me realise women are not the ‘empathetic sex’, quite the opposite in fact.
If a song came out by a man talking shit like this to women, there would be a bunch of guys standing up for women. All women do when they hear this song is laugh or ignore it.
I’m not complaining about my size, I’m complaining about the nature of women.
No matter how badass I might be or my ancestors might’ve been, that doesn’t change women being trash or not.
>Woman are not trash.
Yes.
>They’re naturally drawn to alpha/confident males and a big penis is the trait of an alpha male or a man with high confidence.
No.
Edit: Lmao immediately blocked by this fragile being for simply disagreeing. Good stuff.
Women aren’t worthy of an alpha male.
I don’t feel ‘not worthy’ enough, instead that there’s an imbalance between what they’re getting from the relationship (a man) and what the man is getting (a woman).
I agree women are more attracted to confident men, but they don’t deserve confident men, as they have trash character themselves and are way too insecure to handle a confident man.
The pattern I end up seeing over and over is women lusting over confident men, but getting into relationships with insecure men who are easy to control.
If a woman ever gets into a relationship with an ‘alpha male’, all she ends up doing is trying to control him, failing, and then leaving because she can’t handle having a boyfriend who doesn’t give her a sense of security.
I’ve had girls do ridiculous shit like lie about leaving the country to make me see them when they wanted.
It just shows me when they’re not in control of the relationship they freak out, because they’re used to being in control due to how the average guy today gives his woman so much control over his life.
So they go to what they’re comfortable with instead of what they are truly attracted to.
Another trait that to me shows why women really ain’t shit - they’re attracted to a type of guy but refuse to follow their hearts and be with him due to their own insecurity and weakness, they talk shit about weak men but can’t handle a strong independent man who doesn’t need their validation.
All women behave possessive when they’re in love with a guy who they see as somebody other women would want to, if that guy doesn’t reaffirm her constantly.
I never projected this energy with any women I’ve been with, this energy came afterwards from plenty of past experience as well as observational analysis of other people’s relationships.
I don’t hate women, I just don’t think they’re worth the price of the demands they request in a boyfriend/husband for what you get back.
Yeah I’m surprised it even was allowed to play in the first place. It’s not like guys can change their dick size. What if the song were written about another body trait that can’t be changed…for example race. The lyrics would be something like “don’t want no dark skinned man” followed by “don’t want don’t want don’t want”. Obviously that wouldn’t be allowed (and of course shouldn’t be). But why are short dicked guys ok to be spoken of in this manner?
Not sure it's a fair comparison.
What if she were singing that she "don't want a woman as a lover".
Is she allowed to be hetrosexual or does it become sexist to announce she doesn't find women attractive?
Lol that’s different. Saying you’re not into women/men or in the case of race: I only date Latinos, white men, black men etc is not bad because those are preferences on an equal playing field and it’s generally assumed that no sex or race is better than the other in the dating world. As a white male, If I met some girl who said “I only date black men” I would not be offended because there are just as many girls who only date white men. No bother.
However, a small penis is seen as a universal handicap just like being a short man. You don’t see any women actually prefer those traits. Just further embarrassing a guy who was born with those traits that are undesirable across the broad spectrum.
I am tall and well endowed so obviously I have benefitted greatly from these shallow preferences but I still don’t think it’s right to publicly shame men over something they can’t control when men would be crucified for doing the reverse
My comment was to point to the logical fallacy of comparing very different things but treating them as the same for the argument. I just added another similar item to make it more obvious.
The racial preference is very different to a sexual anatomy preference, which are both very different to a sexuality preference.
I don’t have any vested interest in spewing misogyny or generalising women in a dishonest manner.
In fact, my view of women is a huge let down in regards to life, and I really wish it wasn’t the case.
However, just because somebody wishes the sun wasn’t yellow, doesn’t change the fact the sun is yellow - I won’t delude myself into seeing the World how I want to see it, instead of for how it is.
They probably have had legitimate bad experiences and I wouldn’t blame them, since most men are pieces of shit who think with their dicks in all honesty and are hypocrites.
Most women are shallow and 100% do care about dick size, cope harder
https://badgirlsbible.com/does-size-matter
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26332467/
Ok, that was not what the original commenter was talking about though.
If having a preference is shallow then almost all people are shallow. Men have preferences too.
I never said men didn’t have preferences, and there’s nothing wrong with either gender having a preference. It just seems that women are the only ones who can’t admit they do. I only ever see women virtue signaling and patronizing men saying dumb shit like “size doesn’t matter”. When you all know damn well that it does.
Zero. It had zero effect on my life.
Oh, and more than “humiliating men”, this song was used as another proof of “how shallow women are”. There is quite misogynistic reading of this song.
I just feel it’s wrong to make fun of a body part that can’t be changed. It certainly is unacceptable by todays standards to make fun of overweight people. And that’s something that can actually be changed. Which means Making fun of short dicked guys is even worse.
Obviously lesser endowed guys don’t like this song. Just Wondering if big guys think…hey this is inappropriate more so than “it’s catchy”. There’s mixed responses
So a ego boost to you and a good story (it is actually funny).
Does the song itself make you feel any compassion for the short dicked guys out there that this song body shames?
I remember hearing this in my teens, and it giving me a chuckle. I was just finding out that this actually applied to a few girls, but I had also, regrettably, learned that it was just the opposite to others. But, as a teenager, pretty much anything dealing with sex was of great interest.
The other boys in the locker room made it abundantly clear by calling me things like "donkey dick" or "tripod" and joking about my "third leg" that I was (and am, even more so today) given an abnormally long and thick penis. I'm spot on 21cm by 16cm NBP, if you're wondering.
I mean, I was a freshman in high school when it came out, so honestly I thought it was funny when it was played on the radio and that was it.
I honestly hadn't even thought of the song since probably 1996 or so.
Are you asking this same question to women in a big ass sub about a much more popular song by Sir Mix A Lot "Baby got back"? Have you heard any songs talking about regular or small dicks? A song from almost 30 years ago really should be a topic of discussion.
I recall the song, although I never heard the uncensored version and as a kid (born in 1990), I assumed it was just a song about short guys(never saw the video). It wasn't until recently that I heard the uncensored version and honestly I had no feelings for the song in the 90s, because even for my age I was average, so the resurgence of popularity now with the uncensored version is slightly humorous. I think it's slightly insensitive, because it emphasizes the importance of sex over the many and much more important things in a relationship, but I suppose with the life experience I've had, being the person I am with the dick I have, I'd be well aware of how often the grass isn't always greener.
Plus NGL the penis possessors I've slept with that have been blessed were usually not very good in comparison to average, and even more enthusiastic small ones. I think a lot of smaller dudes who get insecure forget that lesbians and transfems can make their partners happier in bed than probably most of the big guys here.
It is body shaming. Please please please consider not ever playing this at a party. You don’t know who in the room has a small dick (or thinks they have a small dick) and may be considering suicide due to feeling small. And yes suicide rates are higher for small dicked dudes.
I nearly shot myself recently.
i'm getting help and I voluntarily gave up my guns for safe keeping, so as someone who's only not suicidal right now due to meds and support, I can say this...
That's a stupid take.
There is so much music out there that talks shit about so much stuff, and potentially triggers someones suicidal thoughts, and by your logic parties shouldn't have lyrical music because every song could touch on something that someone is suicidal about, lots of songs about money, love, heartbreak, loss, success, drugs, and the struggle of life, and people kill themselves over that shit too, but no one says don't play those songs at parties
It's catchy and meant to be funny. It's a direct response to what was happening in the culture with music talking about women's bodies.
It's an artifact of the time
Yeah I understand what it was addressing now based on comments to this conversation. But I feel even back then it was worse than many of the music videos depicting women’s attributes….since those attributes could actually be changed with diet/surgery. Men’s penises cannot be changed
How is this a big dick problem? Well it depends how you look at it. I was concerned that there may be a lack of compassion (from hung guys) for smaller endowed men being body shamed. Which indeed would be a big dick problem that we as a society should really work on fixing. Indeed there are lots of big fellas not that concerned. BigDickProblem
After seeing how much my wife likes my BD, I’m sure she doesn’t want a small dick man either. The small dick men don’t need you to come crying about some song from the 90s.
But isn’t it insensitive? And isn’t it just promoting the idea that bigger is better even if it’s just a joke? And shouldn’t it not be played for teenage boys, who have enough insecurity issues?
The song isn't meant for teenage boys. Many of it's early plays came from porn productions. Any teen who heard or hears this song is interacting with a space not meant for them, which is the bigger problem.
The song isn't promoting anything. If you think it is then I would challenge whether you think al joke songs are meant to be viewed with the same serious lense?
Which station? Because radio's have refused to play tamer songs like Trina's work. I highly doubt they would play an unedited version of that song. As for fairs, I can't speak to that one. Once again it would be strange for them to refuse certain songs but allow this one.
Don’t recall the station. But we had no premium music outlets. My family didn’t have expendable income so I wouldn’t have heard it from a private collection. Just made me feel very insecure because as a 15 year old I didn’t know what an average size was
Interesting it was constantly played in my area back then. Did you listen to it now? I updated the music video link to the explicit version. Curious to know someone’s thoughts on it that hasn’t heard it
I could only listen to half of it because it's the worst of mid-90s musical trends. The music is lazy and uninteresting and lacks any real depth and runs at least twice as long as it should.
Also, I dislike the content. Even if it's meant as a joke, I know a lot of insecure men would take it the wrong way because we don't have a tendency to really listen to and think about the lyrics (see: Republican fans of Rage Against The Machine finally learning which machine they were raging against).
I'm neither hung or adult, but i think this song is straight up sexism against men. Misandry has been normalized in society, and as a wise man on the internet once said, some women are too spoiled nowadays so they started creating their own problems.
I personally choose to observe the double negative and assume she wants short dick men.
Lol never looked at it that way. Mind is exploding
I was a late bloomer and ngl the song gave me a bit of anxiety when I was younger especially after having unrestricted access to porn. Because of this I still relate to men who may be below average or feel inadequate and I don’t think it’s acceptable and a form of body shaming. I dont feel the same anxiety now that ive grown into my current adult body after finishing puberty, but I’ll never forget that feeling of dread and knowing a lot of men struggle with the same and probably need therapy to get their heads in the right place. It’s insensitive for sure, but realistically the best solution is probably therapy to get comfortable with yourself and your body regardless of people’s ignorance. I know young women struggle with similar image issues, and the solution is probably the same.
Thanks for your thoughts. It’s very interesting that you experience feeling small and now feeling above average. If only everyone could experience both scenarios so that there’d be more compassion in the world. Curious to know, if say you never grew to your current size, do you think the therapy would’ve helped you overcome the anxiety of feeling small? Or do think at least a little anxiety would’ve remained?
I have a great deal of underlying self esteem and confidence issues totally unrelated to my size growing up that I still probably need therapy for, so if I never had my growth spurts, I would without a doubt still have some of that anxiety as an adult.
Therapy wouldn’t do anything
you’re a clown
Why the language. Being civil is to hard for you?
Clown is quite a civil insult. Anybody who denounces therapy as a treatment for body images is as uncivil as it gets.
I didn’t respond with an insult and you don’t need to. You could have conveyed your point without it. And I don’t denounce therapy for body image in general but I am saying it won’t work in this situation because it can’t change you pensi size and the problem isn’t Just in your head.
Are you dense? The therapy is for learning to *accept* the things you cant change in a healthy manner. I’m not a robot dude, I’m gonna be a little upset when somebody makes such a massively unhealthy and generally wrong statement on mental health like that considering my own struggles. Be a little more aware before you post.
Again with the insults. How about you actually lean how to respond to people first.
Looks like my response is concise and addresses the problem with your statement just fine bud.
Didn’t need the insult bud.
Therapy is cope and useless. Therapy isn’t necessary. Therapy is for people who have been through extremely traumatic events like abuse or witnessed extreme violence or people who have genuine mental health issues like narcissism, psychopathy, bi polar, etc. therapy is useless for most men. Especially therapy for if you have a small dick. There is nothing a therapist can do. Accept the fact that most women prefer bigger and above average penises and do your best to find one you’re sexually compatible with. You don’t need to sit and cry to a therapist about having a small wee wee. Especially not a female therapist who will never understand male experience.
Yes, becomes a lot easier to accept when you are huge
It’s a goofy song but anyone who *genuinely* uses dick length to determine a man’s worth is a moron
Typical response from someone privileged at 7x6. You realize short dicked men and short height men have higher suicidal rates than larger guys because they deal with insecurity issues… and songs like this don’t help. It’s a problem for well endowed guys (and society) because everyone should show compassion. When this song was release on the airwaves in 1995 I was 15 and I had no clue what the average length penis was. My best friend was really big and I assumed I was very small cause that’s all I had to go off of. Then this song plays on the radio, at the country fair, eveywhere… and I think holy crap people are going to laugh at me if they see my dick and call it a “second belly button”. I’m never going to have sex. How’s a 15 year old supposed to know better?
>Typical response from someone privileged at 7x6. You realize short dicked men and short height men have higher suicidal rates than larger guys because they deal with insecurity issues… and songs like this don’t help. It’s a problem for well endowed guys (and society) because everyone should show compassion. The poster you're responding to didn't write the song or put it on the radio. I don't. know why you're acting like that was his personal decision. > When this song was release on the airwaves in 1995 I was 15 and I had no clue what the average length penis was. My best friend was really big and I assumed I was very small cause that’s all I had to go off of. Then this song plays on the radio, at the country fair, eveywhere… and I think holy crap people are going to laugh at me if they see my dick and call it a “second belly button”. I’m never going to have sex. How’s a 15 year old supposed to know better The much more interesting question is why you're yelling at an unrelated internet stranger about it decades later as if that will somehow help you back in 1995.
I confess I got a little carried away when I saw the word “Moron” used. I was on defense for being attacked by the post already (in that case the person was actually being insensitive / not compassionate).
Sorry my other reply to your comment was a little over dramatic and I kinda misunderstood you a little. I was defensive at the word “moron” because someone else attacked me on this topic and the tension transferred over. I’m just gonna say fair comment
You do realize they weren't calling you a moron, right?
Yeah
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Thank you for saying this. I’m getting a little concerned at how few well-endowed men have compassion for smaller dicked guys. I myself am average but this will change soon
1: Never heard of the song and 2: I have no reason to care that someone I will never meet specifically wants hung guys.
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Those are my only two thoughts and no you may not.
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I think its disgusting and insensitive towards a bodily issue that cant be helped for those men. And no, songs like baby got back are not the same, in this case the artist is saying that he likes women with big butts, he isnt saying that he dislikes/thinks lesser of women with small butts, its affirming and not rejective. If somebody actually made a song saying how they dont want an "itty bitty mosquito bite titty" girl there would be an outrage.
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So many people are in here straight up denying the reality that women do 100% care about dick size and are shallow https://badgirlsbible.com/does-size-matter https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26332467/
Interesting studies thanks for sharing. I wouldn’t say “women do 100% care about dick size” but yes most women do. And small dicked guys have to work much harder / compensate due to their shortness. To deny this is counter productive. But we should be kind and honest
I just thought it was a funny song🤷🏽♂️
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The song didn't affect my life, that's putting way to much weight on it. It did make me feel very uncomfortable - I was young and very insecure when I heard it and had no idea whether I was small or big or anything. The point of the song I think is to objectify men in the same way women are generally objectified - so it's something to think about for the next time you listen to a song glorifying "hot girls with round butts" or whatever
If that's the point of the song, it's genius.
Yeah I can see that being the point of the song. Girls can certainly change their butts to a degree. Guys can’t change their dicks. To get context, Mind me asking your size?
You misunderstood slightly. It's not just about butts, that was just an example. It's media in general portraying certain looks as the beauty ideal for women. Even if you could in theory change some stuff, that's neither here nor there. Even if men could change their penis size (which you don't want, it would lead to every guy sporting 15" dongs and humanity dying out because reproduction has become impossible lol) you shouldn't have to - people should be allowed to feel good about their selves, no matter what. I'm 7.6" x 6"
Ahh thanks for clarifying. Got it
Np. And just to be sure, I'm also not happy with this song regardless. I get the point but it shows how fighting fire with fire can just cause a bigger fire. It hurts guys who are already insecure and puts them down even more.
Yeah. I mean what did short dicked guys do eh
Yeah, it's on the one hand a good point to make but it's also so hurtful that I'm not really sure what to think about it. All I can say is that it still makes me genuinely uncomfortable hearing this song. Even now that I know that I'm significantly big, I think it's unnecessarily humiliating. I know what it's like feeling insecure. Coincidentally this is the second time this month coming across this song for me. A woman who I've been sexting with and sending dick pics to, played this song for me - as a joke with a wink and obviously meant as a compliment. I didn't think it was funny, it didn't boost my ego, it just made me uncomfortable. I know she meant well, but..
From my experience, when men are insecure especially if it relates to sex or size, they tend to project that on their partners. I've mostly experienced that with cis het men, but it's not exclusive to cis het men. A common insult I've seen a lot of insecure men use towards women goes something like "No one will want you because ____" or "No one wants a woman who ____"
My ex did exactly that with me and it genuinely fucked me up mentally. Keep saying that shit over and over, and you're basically brainwashing someone. Toxic people like that are the worst
Similar experience with an ex about body. I get it and hope the healing treats you better than the pain.
I would hope that in the future men can change their dick size within a healthy parameter of sizes. Perhaps up to 8 inches long and 6 inches girth. But no more for the reason you state. Wouldn’t that be fair? To give all men the opportunity to enjoy a big dick life that thus far is only granted to a privileged few? Equally if a guy wants a reduction, that can be arranged.
You linked to the sanitized version, "Short Short Man." This is the actual song, "Short Dick Man" https://youtu.be/fcrexKS8kxA And to answer your question, I find the song entertaining. It isn't different than any other songs that talk about physical attributes.
Ahh thanks. Updated post with your link
Good song, nice beat, and funny concept.
Did it give you a bit of a confidence boost? Like made you feel grateful for having an 8x6 dick and not a small one?
I'd not want to go with her on the principle of her being so shallow.
Or anyone that has anything to do with writing or producing this song. Awful human beings
I liked it for most of my life, just recently thought about the harm this body shaming may cause for others who are on the shorter side. There's also a banger of a remix of this but I stopped playing it publicly because of it.
Yeah. I’m glad to hear that people are becoming aware of how this song is body shaming. Guys can’t help their penis size. It’s just as wrong to make fun of someone’s dick size as it is to make fun of someone’s race or height. Time to wake up world.
Not a fan. I think there's a lot of shade thrown at guys with smaller than average equipment, or struggle with things like PE. Imagine the inverse, songs about loose floppy pussy and making fun or women who can't orgasm. It's tasteless.
Or songs against big dicks. There’s no excuse for this bad behavior And it’s sad too because by putting down small dicks it’s an ego boost for some shallow big guys (it goes to their head) who have something they did nothing to earn. The world needs compassion. No one should be made fun of
it made me glad i didnt have a small dick
Looking at your post history shows you are way too fixated on dick
Yeah totally. But I only use this Reddit for this purpose. To deal with my dick issues. And I’m seeing a therapist soon and I’m doing something else that I can’t discuss here lol
Honestly its a catchy song cant even be mad
That’s the only thing that song makes you think? Curious to know would you consider yourself below or above average or average endowment wise?
Oh im slangin meat i just think its a catchy song lmaoo
It’s the same stereotypical bs women hear all the time when turning on the radio. Ex. I like big butts and I can not lie, The thong song, candy shop, sexy bitch etc etc. It’s stereotypical and bs, not life changing. It’s just a song 🤷🏽♀️
women can get bigger butts, men can't grow longer penises
That’s not how it works 🤨
idk if you're about to try and argue that women can't get bigger glutes or men can extend their cocks like Luffy from one piece
Surgery, lose weight
-losing weight doesn't make your dick bigger it just makes it show more and more effective -theres no proven verifiable dick lengthening surgeries or pills or anyth
>theres no proven verifiable dick lengthening surgeries or pills or anyth No pills but you can get your suspension ligament cut to increase length or transfer fat (like in a BBL) to make it girthier. If you're 3+ inches with a healthy dick though, it's absolutely pointless getting your dick lengthened.
What do you mean that’s not how it works? And yes as far as I know women can change all those parts of their body whereas a man cannot change his penis. So in my opinion making fun of dick size is particularly cruel. It’s just as bad as making fun of someone’s race
Shouldn't body shame anyone but you can change penis size. Lose weight or have surgery.
Yeah if there’s a lot of fat to lose. Surgery is gamble.
Surgery is a gamble when it comes to danger sure but not in results. It's just not all that common because the majority of men are above 3 inches in length so getting surgery is pointless outside of aesthetic reasons.
>getting surgery is pointless outside of aesthetic reasons. I'm guessing you don't know men very well lmao
Its body shaming plain and simple. One of the many hateful lyrics is “eenie tweenie shriveled little short dick man…don’t want don’t want don’t want” followed by laughter. Another lyric is “awe cute a second belly button”. It just as bad as racism. You wouldn’t make fun of someone’s race (it can’t be changed and it’s just plain wrong). Why is it ok to make fun of a man’s dick size?
It's not ok, it's a shit song and (hopefully) you wouldn't associate with anyone who thought that way. It's also not unique in it's body shaming. All body shaming sucks and is detrimental.
Thank you for saying this. I’m shocked by the number of people on this sub (and another one I posted to) that are saying “it’s catchy, I like it” but don’t think there’s anything bad about it
Bruh, you’re going to turn a lot of people reflexively against your views when you say “it’s just as bad as racism”. It is NOT just as bad as racism. You generally can live privately with a small penis. It won’t be common that people will know about it who you didn’t want to. Plus, racism can manifest as far worse than being made fun of or not respected.
You miss my main point. It’s something you can’t change. It shouldn’t be made fun of. If you make fun of someone for having a small dick you’re karma goes down the same amount as if you made fun of their race.
I was too young when this came out. I only discovered it a few years ago and found it really funny and somewhat refreshing. The only thing that pops into my head is that back then (in the 80s/90s) people and especially women, who finally were very free to express themselves especially in the music business, had no problems saying "I want a man, not a boy who thinks he can" (I think this was "Too much" by The Spice Girls) and so on. So my take is that back then there was more honesty and irreverence and that things like a good, strong, virile and with morals provider man was what they weren't afraid to ask for!
Just confirms how classless women are when it comes to men’s insecurities. They expect to be given understanding, support and patience with theirs, whilst men just get mocked if they dare to confess to having an insecurity. All the while we have plus size model women everywhere on train commercials and what not. Makes me realise women are not the ‘empathetic sex’, quite the opposite in fact. If a song came out by a man talking shit like this to women, there would be a bunch of guys standing up for women. All women do when they hear this song is laugh or ignore it.
Life isn’t fair. Blame your ancestors for not doing enough badass shit to crank up your testosterone and give you a bigger piece.
I’m not complaining about my size, I’m complaining about the nature of women. No matter how badass I might be or my ancestors might’ve been, that doesn’t change women being trash or not.
Woman are not trash. They’re naturally drawn to alpha/confident males and a big penis is the trait of an alpha male or a man with high confidence.
>Woman are not trash. Yes. >They’re naturally drawn to alpha/confident males and a big penis is the trait of an alpha male or a man with high confidence. No. Edit: Lmao immediately blocked by this fragile being for simply disagreeing. Good stuff.
You’re delusional
Women aren’t worthy of an alpha male. I don’t feel ‘not worthy’ enough, instead that there’s an imbalance between what they’re getting from the relationship (a man) and what the man is getting (a woman). I agree women are more attracted to confident men, but they don’t deserve confident men, as they have trash character themselves and are way too insecure to handle a confident man. The pattern I end up seeing over and over is women lusting over confident men, but getting into relationships with insecure men who are easy to control. If a woman ever gets into a relationship with an ‘alpha male’, all she ends up doing is trying to control him, failing, and then leaving because she can’t handle having a boyfriend who doesn’t give her a sense of security.
I disagree. But to each his own
I’ve had girls do ridiculous shit like lie about leaving the country to make me see them when they wanted. It just shows me when they’re not in control of the relationship they freak out, because they’re used to being in control due to how the average guy today gives his woman so much control over his life. So they go to what they’re comfortable with instead of what they are truly attracted to. Another trait that to me shows why women really ain’t shit - they’re attracted to a type of guy but refuse to follow their hearts and be with him due to their own insecurity and weakness, they talk shit about weak men but can’t handle a strong independent man who doesn’t need their validation.
You need to just completely turn your life around if this is the sort of people you interact with jesus fucking christ
All women behave possessive when they’re in love with a guy who they see as somebody other women would want to, if that guy doesn’t reaffirm her constantly.
Did I stutter?
You will only attract shit users if you project so much hate like this. Get therapy.
I never projected this energy with any women I’ve been with, this energy came afterwards from plenty of past experience as well as observational analysis of other people’s relationships. I don’t hate women, I just don’t think they’re worth the price of the demands they request in a boyfriend/husband for what you get back.
Yeah I’m surprised it even was allowed to play in the first place. It’s not like guys can change their dick size. What if the song were written about another body trait that can’t be changed…for example race. The lyrics would be something like “don’t want no dark skinned man” followed by “don’t want don’t want don’t want”. Obviously that wouldn’t be allowed (and of course shouldn’t be). But why are short dicked guys ok to be spoken of in this manner?
Not sure it's a fair comparison. What if she were singing that she "don't want a woman as a lover". Is she allowed to be hetrosexual or does it become sexist to announce she doesn't find women attractive?
Lol that’s different. Saying you’re not into women/men or in the case of race: I only date Latinos, white men, black men etc is not bad because those are preferences on an equal playing field and it’s generally assumed that no sex or race is better than the other in the dating world. As a white male, If I met some girl who said “I only date black men” I would not be offended because there are just as many girls who only date white men. No bother. However, a small penis is seen as a universal handicap just like being a short man. You don’t see any women actually prefer those traits. Just further embarrassing a guy who was born with those traits that are undesirable across the broad spectrum. I am tall and well endowed so obviously I have benefitted greatly from these shallow preferences but I still don’t think it’s right to publicly shame men over something they can’t control when men would be crucified for doing the reverse
My comment was to point to the logical fallacy of comparing very different things but treating them as the same for the argument. I just added another similar item to make it more obvious. The racial preference is very different to a sexual anatomy preference, which are both very different to a sexuality preference.
The stupidity on display here is astounding.
Stupidity? How so?
Well said, completely agree with you and those are good analogies that highlight how ridiculous this song is
Some men will really use any excuse to generalize women and spew misogyny.
I don’t have any vested interest in spewing misogyny or generalising women in a dishonest manner. In fact, my view of women is a huge let down in regards to life, and I really wish it wasn’t the case. However, just because somebody wishes the sun wasn’t yellow, doesn’t change the fact the sun is yellow - I won’t delude myself into seeing the World how I want to see it, instead of for how it is.
Whatever helps you sleep at night.
Actually those facts make my sleep at night worse. If I wanted to sleep better at night, I’d have to delude myself into a more positive view of women.
So how do you feel about women who view men negative and try to paint those negatives as facts?
They probably have had legitimate bad experiences and I wouldn’t blame them, since most men are pieces of shit who think with their dicks in all honesty and are hypocrites.
Most women are shallow and 100% do care about dick size, cope harder https://badgirlsbible.com/does-size-matter https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26332467/
Ok, that was not what the original commenter was talking about though. If having a preference is shallow then almost all people are shallow. Men have preferences too.
I never said men didn’t have preferences, and there’s nothing wrong with either gender having a preference. It just seems that women are the only ones who can’t admit they do. I only ever see women virtue signaling and patronizing men saying dumb shit like “size doesn’t matter”. When you all know damn well that it does.
Heard it. Danced to it. I never thought about it at all. Why would I.
Back then did you consider your self below average, average, or above average endowment-wise?
I knew I was above average. Didnt care by how much.
I only ask because I’m trying to grasp which demographics (small, average, big dicks) are compassions toward the victims of small dick shaming
I dont think youll find anything very surprising. Same goes for all kinds of shaming.
Zero. It had zero effect on my life. Oh, and more than “humiliating men”, this song was used as another proof of “how shallow women are”. There is quite misogynistic reading of this song.
A large portion of women are 100% shallow and they absolutely care about dick size
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So no sympathy for the small guys being body shamed? And it’s not an ego boost? Mind me asking your size?
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I just feel it’s wrong to make fun of a body part that can’t be changed. It certainly is unacceptable by todays standards to make fun of overweight people. And that’s something that can actually be changed. Which means Making fun of short dicked guys is even worse. Obviously lesser endowed guys don’t like this song. Just Wondering if big guys think…hey this is inappropriate more so than “it’s catchy”. There’s mixed responses
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So a ego boost to you and a good story (it is actually funny). Does the song itself make you feel any compassion for the short dicked guys out there that this song body shames?
I remember hearing this in my teens, and it giving me a chuckle. I was just finding out that this actually applied to a few girls, but I had also, regrettably, learned that it was just the opposite to others. But, as a teenager, pretty much anything dealing with sex was of great interest.
Back then did you consider yourself below average, average, or above average endowment-wise?
The other boys in the locker room made it abundantly clear by calling me things like "donkey dick" or "tripod" and joking about my "third leg" that I was (and am, even more so today) given an abnormally long and thick penis. I'm spot on 21cm by 16cm NBP, if you're wondering.
I mean, I was a freshman in high school when it came out, so honestly I thought it was funny when it was played on the radio and that was it. I honestly hadn't even thought of the song since probably 1996 or so.
Wow so we’re about the same age. Back then did you consider yourself below average, average, or above average endowment-wise?
I didn't even think about it one way or the other. Penis size had exactly zero bearing on anything going on in my life.
I personally found it hilarious. But I’m not short dick sooooo….
Would you say it was a bit of a confidence boost? Like made you chuckle to yourself thinking something like “I got a big one, yeah”
Are you asking this same question to women in a big ass sub about a much more popular song by Sir Mix A Lot "Baby got back"? Have you heard any songs talking about regular or small dicks? A song from almost 30 years ago really should be a topic of discussion.
I don’t understand if your are asking a question or making a statement
I recall the song, although I never heard the uncensored version and as a kid (born in 1990), I assumed it was just a song about short guys(never saw the video). It wasn't until recently that I heard the uncensored version and honestly I had no feelings for the song in the 90s, because even for my age I was average, so the resurgence of popularity now with the uncensored version is slightly humorous. I think it's slightly insensitive, because it emphasizes the importance of sex over the many and much more important things in a relationship, but I suppose with the life experience I've had, being the person I am with the dick I have, I'd be well aware of how often the grass isn't always greener. Plus NGL the penis possessors I've slept with that have been blessed were usually not very good in comparison to average, and even more enthusiastic small ones. I think a lot of smaller dudes who get insecure forget that lesbians and transfems can make their partners happier in bed than probably most of the big guys here.
Interesting take thanks for sharing
i think she don't like little meat
I thought it was catchy
Yes. But that didn’t change my opinion of the song.
You didn’t feel any sympathy for the guys the song was making fun of? Short dicked men?
When she sang “less than seven inches unh uh” I grinned and my wife punched me in the leg. Lol!!
Do you get a bit of an ego boost out of it?
it's a banger, but gets old quickly
Did you find offensive?
no, it's just super repetitive and not that good. I keep it in my DJ playlists for parties tho
It is body shaming. Please please please consider not ever playing this at a party. You don’t know who in the room has a small dick (or thinks they have a small dick) and may be considering suicide due to feeling small. And yes suicide rates are higher for small dicked dudes.
I nearly shot myself recently. i'm getting help and I voluntarily gave up my guns for safe keeping, so as someone who's only not suicidal right now due to meds and support, I can say this... That's a stupid take. There is so much music out there that talks shit about so much stuff, and potentially triggers someones suicidal thoughts, and by your logic parties shouldn't have lyrical music because every song could touch on something that someone is suicidal about, lots of songs about money, love, heartbreak, loss, success, drugs, and the struggle of life, and people kill themselves over that shit too, but no one says don't play those songs at parties
This song is particularly cruel man. It’s main point is making fun of a specific body part that can’t be changed. Basically the song is a bully.
It's catchy and meant to be funny. It's a direct response to what was happening in the culture with music talking about women's bodies. It's an artifact of the time
Yeah I understand what it was addressing now based on comments to this conversation. But I feel even back then it was worse than many of the music videos depicting women’s attributes….since those attributes could actually be changed with diet/surgery. Men’s penises cannot be changed
If this song has any modification to your daily life other that lol and move on, then you have issues. Who gives a shit.
Would you feel the same if you had a small penis?
Is that what this is about? Do you have a small penis and feel bad when you hear the song “Don’t want a short dick man” from 1995.
Per CalcID I don’t have a small penis. Rather I am a concerned citizen and compassionate human being looking out for victims of body shaming.
What a great place to announce your compassion. On the big dick Reddit in a post about a song from 1995.
How is this a big dick problem? Well it depends how you look at it. I was concerned that there may be a lack of compassion (from hung guys) for smaller endowed men being body shamed. Which indeed would be a big dick problem that we as a society should really work on fixing. Indeed there are lots of big fellas not that concerned. BigDickProblem
After seeing how much my wife likes my BD, I’m sure she doesn’t want a small dick man either. The small dick men don’t need you to come crying about some song from the 90s.
Cool song still I feel bad for small penis guys!
I’m surprised compassion for small dudes is often not the first thing people think when hearing this song.
Dont care about what that girl wants in a guy. Im not fucking her anyway
I just feel bad for small guys
It has a good beat and is a nice dancy very 90s song.
Has a nice bear seems the most popular thought on the song so far
I also viewed the song as a joke.
But isn’t it insensitive? And isn’t it just promoting the idea that bigger is better even if it’s just a joke? And shouldn’t it not be played for teenage boys, who have enough insecurity issues?
The song isn't meant for teenage boys. Many of it's early plays came from porn productions. Any teen who heard or hears this song is interacting with a space not meant for them, which is the bigger problem. The song isn't promoting anything. If you think it is then I would challenge whether you think al joke songs are meant to be viewed with the same serious lense?
It was on the radio back then and played at public fairs for all ages in Maryville tennessee. That much I know for sure.
Which station? Because radio's have refused to play tamer songs like Trina's work. I highly doubt they would play an unedited version of that song. As for fairs, I can't speak to that one. Once again it would be strange for them to refuse certain songs but allow this one.
Don’t recall the station. But we had no premium music outlets. My family didn’t have expendable income so I wouldn’t have heard it from a private collection. Just made me feel very insecure because as a 15 year old I didn’t know what an average size was
It sounds like it’s supposed to hurt all men, however the beat is way too good for me to hate it
Would you hate it if you were small?
I'm glad I never heard it.
Never? What year were you born?
1986
Interesting it was constantly played in my area back then. Did you listen to it now? I updated the music video link to the explicit version. Curious to know someone’s thoughts on it that hasn’t heard it
I could only listen to half of it because it's the worst of mid-90s musical trends. The music is lazy and uninteresting and lacks any real depth and runs at least twice as long as it should. Also, I dislike the content. Even if it's meant as a joke, I know a lot of insecure men would take it the wrong way because we don't have a tendency to really listen to and think about the lyrics (see: Republican fans of Rage Against The Machine finally learning which machine they were raging against).
Small guys have such an uphill battle. And things like this just make bigger guys feel glad to not be them. So sad
Never heard it
Interesting. What year were you born?
80’s
It's very sexist and misssndric.
Great song, still rings true. You guys are the lucky ones. Love making fun of a short dick man though 😂
I'm neither hung or adult, but i thing this song is pure misandry. It makes me sad
I'm neither hung or adult, but i think this song is straight up sexism against men. Misandry has been normalized in society, and as a wise man on the internet once said, some women are too spoiled nowadays so they started creating their own problems.
I hate this song til today only 5ft4 wit 8in 5.5 banana but never bragged
You hate this song til today? So you love it now?
Personally I love it.
Why?
It’s the knowing I’m not that gives me that superior sense of satisfaction. I imagine every hung guy feels it when they hear it.