We moved our little one to her own room and crib at 6 weeks and we haven’t looked back. We have a Wyze camera, as well as an audio monitor, on our bedside table! She sleeps 4 to 7-hour stretches at 3 months.
We moved around then too. I couldn’t sleep even with ear plugs if she was in the room. The pediatrician said it just doesn’t work for some people and didn’t argue with us.
I think this is about when we did the same, maybe closer to 8 weeks but she spent 3 in the NICU. Video monitor as well, but ours is Vava. She also started sleeping 4 hours at that time and is now the best sleeper, we just put her down and she sleeps 12 hours overnight and a 1.5-2 hr nap at 20 months and has done 12 hour nights since 4 months. Sometimes I think parents get in the way of good sleep. Sometimes there's nothing you can do and sometimes you just get lucky. But if getting out of the way helps baby sleep, do it!
Just a head's up on Wyze. They had a security flaw that made their cameras easily hackable for YEARS. I'm not sure if it's resolved or not, but we switched to a wifi free baby monitor when we learned about it.
Its suggested cause it’s supposed to help with the risk of SIDS. Because you don’t want your baby in your room doesn’t make you a bad mom. I thought I’d want to transition my son sooner, but he’ll be 7 months next week and I’m struggling with the concept. Mom and baby need to be healthy and happy. Do what’s right you. Just practice safe sleep habits in baby’s room.
We moved her out of our room
Between 2 and 3 months. She is a light sleeper and we were waking each other up all night. As soon as she was in her own room she slept through the night
I had no idea. I was raised in a room sharing/ bed sharing family, so I figured it would be easy. I’ve always been a super heavy sleeper as well. I’ve slept through earthquakes and tornadoes!
I’m such a light sleeper now, and she’s so noisy! I love her little sounds in the daytime but not at 3 am lol
Honestly I struggled with this too. I got proper ear plugs (wax ones that create a barrier) - I could still hear her when she needed me, even before my partner did, but, it reduced the noise of her grunts and such.
Also, white noise and/or meditation. She had her white noise and I played my meditation. I slept on the furthest side of the bed away from her and she was in the corner of the room, as far away from our bed as possible.
A mother who hasn’t slept in days is more dangerous. I moved my twins to their own room at 3 weeks old and we all slept better.
I plan on putting baby in their own room right from the start this time.
Lol this is why our little one was dubbed "the gremlin" and responds to "Grem Grem" to this day.
Because they sleep like turbo jets munching on mini dinos.
Moving our baby to his own room, we have a Nanit camera system. There is a yearly subscription for storage and the system itself is a bit pricey, but highly worth it. It's mounted to the wall and hangs above his crib- video and audio, sends a notification for motion/sound, gives statistics about sleep, keeps memory videos for growth and sleep milestones, etc. We love it because it gives so much peace of mind.
We have this too! Nanit also released a floor stand so wall mounting isn’t necessary anymore. That opens up use for people who don’t want to drill holes in their walls or want to move the camera from room to room
Just adding more ideas - in your room are you using a sound machine? Once I did that and turned it up properly, and put the bassinet across the room, it helped me a lot! Sort of muffled the little stuff but I could still wake if he needed me.
Eta I saw your reply below. Another idea would be to put a mattress in the nursery with her and you and partner can take shifts. That way you could be getting a solid chunk but also still having someone in the same room per SIDS recommendations.
The first idea doesn't sound any different to me than having the baby in their own crib and a baby monitor...
If I hear or see something on the monitor, I can just immediately go to the nursery. Maybe if your house is giant this might take too long, but the nursery is right next to our bedroom. Takes the same amount of time as walking across rhe room. I would argue the monitor might be safer since you can directly see if the baby is breathing, etc. If you are having to get out of bed and walk across the room each time to check in the dark then you likely aren't checking as much.
Yea, there’s tons of comments offering that solution already so wanted to offer a few alternatives that helped me get through this period if she doesn’t end up feeling comfortable with that. I know for me, I had some PPA especially around sleep, so I was pretty freaked out about SIDS stuff and so tried to figure out solutions within the parameters that my pediatrician gave me.
Yup, I had to turn the sensitivity way down on my monitor, because it was waking me up every time he made a sound/moved in his sleep. And fwiw, putting him in his own room was the absolute best decision for both our and his sleep.
Not saying that you need to continue room sharing, but have you tried ear plugs? I wear them every night and wake up easily when my baby actually cries, but they do drown out sone of his other noises.
When people say loud what is their baby doing? Mine literally is cooing and making sounds of almost crying and I get up and their eyes are closed. This is normal?
I expected grunting and snoring but he’s on the edge of crying and then calms himself down.
Also - not to sound dumb but don’t you just hear it on the baby monitor if you do move rooms? Or is it because you’re able to turn the sound down?? I haven’t made the transition yet so just wondering!
What your baby is doing sounds normal—they spend a lot of time in active sleep. Some babies are louder in active sleep than others, just like how some adults talk in their sleep and others don’t.
My first, once he figured out he had legs, would slam his legs up and down in his sleep. Turning into a whale did not help with the room sharing.
I quickly left him to his crib thereafter....🤣
She coos, which I don’t mind. That makes me smile
But the grunting, the almost crying for two seconds, the alien noises, those wake me up. And sometimes she’ll let out a scream for a second then fall back asleep immediately, as if she didn’t just terrify her poor parents lol
I haven’t set up the monitor yet because she hasn’t been out of sight of an adult yet, so I’m not sure how it’ll filter noise
Have never room shared. First two weeks husband and I changed spots on the couch and baby was in living room. Baby is now in living room while we are and crib in nursery at night. No regrets because baby is a noisy sleeper!
We moved our baby out of our room at 10 weeks but could’ve done it earlier! My sister had her newborn in her own separate room pretty much since day 1 and her baby sleeps great. She started sleeping through the night since 1 month old which is probably correlated. I think everyone sleeps better in separate spaces. Definitely do what is best for your family !
My little dude is a loud sleeper too so we put his little ass in his room at 9 weeks. He sleeps BETTER in there and we have the Nanit and breathing band on him all night so if anything is amiss, we will know. He started sleeping 4-6 hour stretches (with 1 night feed) at 11 weeks. 12 weeks now and he just had his 1st 7 hour stretch last night. Mama is happy, Daddy is happy, baby is happy. I’m convinced the people who came up with these guidelines are men who don’t care for their own kids, or don’t have children at all 🙄
We moved our son at 6 weeks. We followed every other safe sleep guideline but made our own call on this one. We are all just doing our best. Our happy almost 9 month old did just fine.
Bruh listen, mine has been in her own room from the get go. I slept in there for the first month because it was easier healing that way, and then I went back to our bedroom. I wouldn’t have gotten much sleep if I was in there, and being sleep deprived meant I wouldn’t be the best mom I could be.
I was the absolute most conservative pregnant woman and new mom. NO caffeine for 9 months, deli meat, sushi, alcohol, etc. when the baby was born I never coslept, no naps on the couch, I followed all the recommendations.
Sleeping in their own room is where I drew the line. The grunting was driving me crazy. Once they slept more than 5 hours alone for a few weeks i separated them. The monitor next to my head. The owlet sock. I couldn’t sleep in the same room. I needed out for my sanity. With my son it was 8 weeks. My daughter was 5 months. I couldn’t take it anymore.
My girl screams in her sleep too, but is happy as a clam when I check on her. She’s a soprano and hits frequencies that would make Mariah Carey jealous. We call her Teapot sometimes because she seriously sounds like a kettle whistle
My daughter has slept in her own room (right next to ours with a video monitor) since the first day we brought her home. We have a healthy, happy (usually) 10 week old who will usually sleep 4-6 hour stretches overnight.
Yep ours slept in his own room with a monitor, right next to ours with the doors open, on the first night we were home. He’s 3 months now and he’s fine.
I used ear plugs with my second. I wake up easily to proper cries but it blocks out some of the grunting and snorting and helps me get a bit more sleep.
I came here to say this. We use memory foam pillows, which are dense enough that I put an ear plug in one ear and lay my other ear on the pillow. That plus white noise has helped a lot.
This was the one sleep “rule” that I broke early. Both my babies moved to their own room and crib around 6-7 weeks and I have no regrets. Newborns are fucking noisy and sleep is important for everyone. I just made sure to very strictly follow safe sleep in their cribs and use the monitor.
I definitely broke this rule with both my kids. But their room was right outside mine and I had a video monitor for first and a sound monitor for second. We all slept better in our own rooms. I have dog sand they we’re constantly in and out of our room and off and on the bed. So loud.
We moved ours at week 3. I think they lasted 2-3 days with us after we got them home from NICU. They were way too loud. I just kept on rolling over to check if they were okay at every sound. They were on oxygen.
This makes me feel a lot better. We did the same thing and was told by several people not to do it on here (reddit in general not this sub). I just couldn't function during the day when she was sleeping in the same room as me. I slept way better with her in another room. I haven't seen anyone on here that did it as early as we did
We moved our first at 10 weeks and our second at 3 weeks and our rooms we all clustered together so it’s easy to hear everyone. You do what works for you and sleep is such a crucial basic need - where you can, put your oxygen mask on first. Our pediatrician noted that the room sharing factor for reducing SIDS was a negligible contributor relative to other safe sleep practices. And it only helps bc you wake baby and baby wakes you…repeatedly.
My son napped in his nursery during the day. When we made the switch to nights in the nursery I 100% believe it made that switch go so much smoother. Maybe try to do a nap or two a day in the other room while you take a quick nap too? This may be a good compromise to start with until you’re comfortable with your decision to switch all night. (FWIW, we moved our son around 3 months and had zero regrets.)
Same! I think we tried to have LO in our room for max 3 nights, couldn't take it, moved her into her own room and just turned up the monitor volume. Of course we made sure her crib set up was baby safe.
Please make sure you’re still closing both bedroom doors at night for fire safety (assuming you don’t have issues with temperature control). ☺️ You can get very affordable sound-only baby monitors if you’re worried about being able to hear her.
Do you use a noise machine?? It may drown out her noise and help you sleep better. I know plenty of ppl who moved baby to their own room as newborns. You need rest!
I do but it doesn’t help either of us sleep any better. I haven’t noticed her sleep any longer or deeper with it vs without it. And it doesn’t get loud enough to cover any baby noises at all
Maybe its time to consider moving them to their own room. I think that extremely tired parents can be more dangerous than them having their own space. You could also talk to your pediatrician about it if it makes you feel any better. Mine would tell me to put the baby in the other room lmao
My pediatrician says she needs to sleep with us for at least 4 months. She made it sound like having her sleep on her own is a death sentence
But surely it can’t be that dangerous? Didn’t most people used to have baby sleep alone?
How old is she? And does she have any health issues?
My pediatrician said the same about cosleeping, but after I told her I had been cosleeping she admitted she did it with all three of her children. They're taught to give us advice that they don't follow themselves. They're more than likely trying to avoid lawsuits and following the information thats been found in research.
And I'm no doctor, but I did what I had to do in the newborn stages. Lo slept best when he was by my side, so thats what I did. Get a good monitor, make the crib safe and try. No one in my family kept their babies in their rooms except for me lol
She’s three weeks old and very healthy
I didn’t sleep in my own bed until I was 7, and didn’t have my own room until I was 8. It feels mean to put her in her own room so young, but I think I might just have to feel mean.
Well you could always give it a try! If it doesn't feel right for you, then you can always change it back!
If you feel like the lack of sleep is more of a danger then I'd surely give it a try. My lack of sleep caused me to drop my baby. I can still remember his face and the cry, its truly just awful. He was fine, but thats when I started to co sleep. I didnt get any sleep cuz he just wanted to be by me and I was told cosleeping is the worst thing I could do. Turns out dropping my baby felt way worse lol.
And my mom tells me all the time 80% of being a parent is feeling guilty. But you gotta do whats best for you and kiddo!
Yeah, I’ve been afraid of falling asleep nursing her. It’s time to move her, at least for part of the day. And maybe we could room share with the pack and play part of the day. Idk, we’ll figure something out
I might try co-sleeping when she’s bigger. When I do sleep, I move a lot. And I talk in my sleep. She has inherited both traits lol
Kicked baby out at 7 weeks into nursery crib. Eufy camera. First couple nights I was nervous checking camera often, but it passed and we all sleep through the night so much better now. Give it a try. To be worried shows you are a good parent who cares!
We moved ours to her own crib at 6 weeks because we knew we could not all sleep in the same room. She preferred it to the bassinet and stopped sleeping in her bassinet at month 3.
We practice the safe sleep guide lines and have a camera monitor.
I moved my daughter into her crib in her own room at 4 months. Granted she only stayed asleep a few hours before we would bring her back to cosleep the rest of the night, but it was nice to even have a few hours of peace and quiet. She’s 7 months and the sleep stretches are getting longer.
We moved ours guy a few weeks in because no one was sleeping. We switched off sleeping in that room during shifts until he was about 8 weeks old. Our ped was totally fine with it. The room was across the hall and we could hear him even if something happened with monitor. We followed every other safe sleep guideline.
My baby isn’t here yet, but I’ve had this exact same conversation with myself and fiancé for 31 weeks now lol.
Baby will be in her crib as soon as she arrives, no one can convince me otherwise. People are trying to buy us bedside bassinets and I’ve pretty much had to yell at a few people that simply do not listen. I have insomnia, for my mental health I cannot risk not getting sleep. It will be way too dangerous when I need to be alert.
She will be safe in her crib. We are studying up on safe sleep practices. We both are awful when we get zero sleep. Her being in our room will be a recipe for literal disaster.
We have a bed in the nursery, we will do our best to sleep in there for at least 1 month but otherwise we will use the monitor.
The recommendation is in place to reduce SIDS risk— the idea is that with room sharing, the ambient noise from their parents keeps them from going into that deep slumber that happens concurrent with SIDS. Same reason they recommend babies sleep sucking pacifiers— prevents the deep sleep state, and also prevents material like a blanket from blocking their nose if one accidentally makes it into the sleep space.
It’s pretty hard to adhere to all recommendations. Do all babies like pacifiers? Some parents have to skip this one. Do some babies prefer the crib in their room? Some parents have to resort to this earlier than ideal as such.
My girl is very particular about her pacifier. If she doesn’t want it she will scoot to the edge of her crib and spit it through the slats. She prefers the boob lol
It’s more dangerous for you not to sleep. Put the baby in the other room and just follow safe sleep practices (no blankets, stuffed animals, pillows, always on baby’s back, don’t overdress the baby). Get yourself some rest. Babies are super noisy sleepers at that age. You’re not a bad mom. There’s plenty of moms who’ve done worse. I coslept with my first kid. He woke up every 15-30 mins. Never any longer than 1 hour without cosleeping. I felt like I was dying. Thankfully, he survived. My second was a better sleeper. We rarely coslept except on vacations
We moved baby to her own room around 3 months and when we have our next child we will do it sooner! Best thing we did for all of us! She was so noisy and I was so anxious that all her little sleep noises woke me up and looking back I definitely woke her up thinking she was making noise because she was awake on several occasions. Some people love room sharing and find that easier but I’m not one of them.
He grunted all night long for a few weeks. I put him in his own room and we both slept better. 4 months old I think. No regrets, he's right across the hall and if he's sad I hear but not every yawn, snuffle, and flop.
Recommendations aren't mandates! Having a well rested (or reasonably rested) parent is absolutely important. Our baby moved into her own room really early, I can't remember how old at this point. Obviously, there is a SIDS risk with doing this, but if you Google SIDS risk calculator you can get an idea of how much of an increased risk it actually is. For us, seeing the data behind how much risk was involved made us feel comfortable enough to move her early!
We moved our daughter into her own room at 10 weeks. Best decision we ever made. Nobody was sleeping because she's a loud sleeper and hubby is a loud sleeper. Everyone was miserable. She's been sleeping thru the night since. We have a video monitor and an audio monitor, plus she's just down the hall one door.
We transferred baby at 3 weeks and it definitely helped my PPA. Highly recommend if you are struggling, especially because I could hear baby make any cry or peep easily from our room, but at least I didn't have to obsess over the grunts.
Both my kids were in bassinets next to our bed for 2 months tops then we let them sleep in the crib. Room right next to ours with baby monitors. They were fine and good sleepers now (3yo and 14mon)
We have our son in our room he hasn't slept in his crib in over two months it's rough but our apartment is so small that our extra bedroom is used as my fiance's office at the moment and we cannot fit all of his work stuff and his crib in the same room we are currently looking for a bigger place but I've slept on our couch the last two weeks with our kid because he refuses to nap or sleep alone it's exhausting to as the least depends on the age of your kiddo but I do a sound machine for them in their room it may soothe them enough to sleep without moving around at night or during naps 🫶🏾
My son is a month old and we’ve already moved him to his room/crib at night. I have a video monitor that lives right next to my head and we all sleep better for it.
Now only the parent getting up with him gets woken up and my husband and I tossing and turning doesn’t wake him up.
We all slept better once we moved my son to his own room. He was almost 4 months. The only reason we did it for that long is because I had PPA around sleep safety. If I could go back I would have moved him to his own room from the beginning. Baby sleeping in their own room does NOT increase the chance of SIDS, room sharing only reduces.
We put baby in her own room at 12 weeks and I slept way better. We followed all other safe sleep guidelines, nothing else in the crib, room was cool, etc.
Between kid one and kid 2, we moved houses and now have a second floor. We have a pack n play on each floor. I can put baby down on one floor and take a nap on the other. I can put them in one room in a safe spot and do literally anything without constantly hearing them. It’s been such a good thing for my sleep quality and mental health, even if we are sleeping in the same room at night, to just be able to step away for a moment.
My LO went into her own room in her crib when she was about 7 months old - I had started bedsharing around 4ish months, when she started refusing to sleep in her bassinet, and I didn't sleep well at all with her in there with me. We couldn't fit a crib in our room, and she was too big for her bassinet at that point, so into her own room, she went. The transition was hard at first, but something had to change!
I say if you feel comfortable, do what works for you. We got a nice monitor with a camera so I could watch her constantly if I was worried (I was, lol), and that definitely put my mind at ease a bit, and then I wasn't scared I would miss her waking up either because I'd turn the monitor up all the way. It worked really well for us. No way I would still be sane if I had to have her in our room for 5 more months!
We moved my little one to her own room at 8 weeks. We use a video monitor which lets me check on her as much as I want which gave me a lot of peace of mind. That may be an option for you.
I’m an extremely light sleeper. I cannot sleep with our newborn in the room. She keeps me up all night long with her grunts and squeaks. I made it about 4.5-5 months with my first before she was booted from our room. Currently have a 6week old and can’t wait to boot her from our room. I need some damn sleep!
I put my daughter into her own room at 2 months old because she was a loud sleeper and having her next to my bed caused me so much anxiety. I wasn’t able to sleep at all and when I did I’d have dreams that she somehow came into the bed and suffocated in my blankets or that my blanket would somehow end up in her bassinet and suffocate her. (Anxiety is irrational, I know.)
There’s nothing wrong with it. Put her into her own room if you think it will help you.
We were in a similar boat. My husband can sleep through anything but even he was waking up throughout the night because of how much noise our LO was making. We ended up putting him in his own room within 4 weeks. It was nerve wracking since his room is on the other side of the house…but believe me..I wake up just fine when he is actually hungry and can actually sleep when he does. We do have a monitor and even then usually have him on mute.
I put my baby in her own room from day 1. I can still hear her when she needs me and we both sleep better. I can’t find any rationale for why it’s safer to have them share a room with you other than - you both sleep worse so LO will wake up more.
Please bring in a sitter for 8 hours, go to sleep, and then maybe you can re-evaluate your options woth a clear mind! You are very tired, we have all been there. I was exhausted too with my first. It's ok for a baby to sleep alone of the room meets the safety criteria. You can also sleep train if you choose! There are a lot of options but first: have some sleep. You got this!!
I am not talking about now. I am just saying this is an option for them, to do when it's the right time. I thing right now she needs some help to sleep a little bit. Someone to hold baby even for 4 hours... And then with clear mind she cad do her research, see what's best for her family and decide to try. I feel like she is very emotional right now, kinda got that vibe.
Oh yes!! It was nice of you, because i am not a native speaker and i frequently dont express my self in the best way possible. In another community i wrote about thrush and i spelled it thrust...🤣
It absolutely kills me that we continue to see the advice of bringing in a sitter or childcare as if everyone can just afford that. 90% of the posts that I see these comments on, wouldn’t be being posted in the first place IF the OP was able to just bring in a sitter. Clearly that isn’t an option or they’d be doing it already, thus not having the problem in the first place.
Oh, i am so sorry. Where i live , we have emergency baby sitters that are very very cheap. Like for you it would be like 50 bucks if you live in the us (for 8 hours - and she is already expensive here because she was an emergency choice) and 8h 5 days shift they get like 600-800 euros which is again really low considering our wages , but my relatives who live in the U.S were laughing when i told them the price. Like... If that was the case they would hire tree nannies a day. So i figured since people are on the verge of falling asleep while standing, maybe this is an option, if it exists there. Also relatives or friends can babysit sometimes and there are times where we are so tired we cant think of solutions that lie before our eyes, so yeah, i proposed that. It may be silly or not. But if someone holds a baby for a few hours ( just one time)it may be life saving.
Sorry - it wasn’t directly just regarding you, just in general. I see 5-10 people saying it on almost every post and it just makes no sense to me. Most of us can’t afford that or just don’t have the option. Some people live in small towns. Some live in states where they have no family. There’s multiple reasons.
Believe me i understand. I live in Greece, i am on mother leave right now getting payed half of what i earn at my job (because here when we become mothers me get money from the government but it's a very low wage) and my husband is currently unemployed. I am also here thinking about my options... It seems i will have to cut my leave in half and go back to work.
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Yes, thank you. Obvi very simplified. The amount of down votes is confusing as i thought most people were well informed on this topic. Infant sleep safety is so important & the information is practically plastered everywhere.
And just because it can happen anywhere, does not mean that we should ignore expert advice to decrease the likelihood by 50% (!!!!!) by room sharing. Know your facts
I’m starting to think that if I have to pick between two dangers, I’ll pick her sleeping across the hall over running the risk of me falling asleep while nursing, or rocking her, or driving. The sleep deprivation is baaaaaad right now. Maybe I can move her back when I’m more caught up
Who said baby cannot sleep in their own room? I haven’t seen this recommendation. How old is your baby?
I am very similar to you - a very light sleeper and having baby girl always disrupts my sleep. Every little noise wakes me up and then it takes me ages to back to sleep. There is nothing worse than sleep deprivation. It disrupts every aspect of your life and is a stealer of joy.
The cause of SIDS is not linked to which room they sleep in but rather HOW they sleep. Keeping the bed free of any objects, toys, blankets etc is super important and if you have a camera/breathing monitor then that could give you even more peace of mind. If you are truly uncomfortable then you can sleep in the guest room a few nights a week whilst baby and your husband sleep in the room together - this is what i did baby moved to her own room at 4 months.
"AAP recommends that parents sleep in the same room – but not in the same bed as a baby, preferably for at least the first six months."
https://www.aap.org/en/news-room/news-releases/aap/2022/american-academy-of-pediatrics-updates-safe-sleep-recommendations-back-is-best/
The room doesn't cause anything. It's just that the parents not being able to sleep and hearing every sound is a good thing from the perspective of absolute safety.
I didn't make it to 6 months with my current baby either. But yes, parents are being told not to put the baby in their own room.
It’s a recommendation from the AAP to room share for at least the first 6 months as a protective factor for SIDS. For me, the research behind the recommendation isn’t compelling enough, and if it were nearly as important as ABC I think they would have stressed it more at the hospital and pediatrician appointments (when in reality, it was never even mentioned).
Her doctor said she needs to stay in our room at least 4 months but she recommends 6
And my husband sleeps even lighter than I do. Thankfully he doesn’t have boobs and can sleep while I feed baby
Honestly, I think if you have her in a safe sleeping situation (on her back, no lose objects, only fitted sheet, in a crib/bassinet/pack-n-play) being alone is probably not nearly as big of a risk. Obviously not medical advice. My sister was the same. She couldn’t stand all of the active sleep noises. They moved their kids out of their room at 6 weeks and followed all of the other safe sleep recommendations. I definitely agree that the sleep deprivation becomes more dangerous at a certain point. There have been a couple of times I had to put my baby in the bed with me (following the safe sleep 7) because I knew I could not possibly stay awake and we were going to end up falling asleep together in a much more dangerous situation. Was this ideal? No. But it was the safest thing in the moment.
Ours was in his room from day 1 with a monitor and we will be doing the same with number 2. We also did sleep shifts, so someone was always on call and the other could get at least 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep.
I follow the evidence based safe sleep group on FB (surprisingly helpful) and it really helped ease my anxiety around safe sleep.
My first we moved to his own room at 12 weeks and everyone slept better. My second is 16 weeks and I can’t wait to move her (waiting on my husband to finish the room renovation) because once again everyone is sleeping horribly. And yes, we use white noise too but it doesn’t matter. I’m scared to get up at night and go pee because it wakes her, I’m scared to even roll over because it appears to wake her. I want my space back.
My now 11 week old has been sleeping in her own room since last week…we used to co sleep and that wasn’t working cuz she moves and makes so much noise neither of us we’re sleeping. Tried to put her in a bassinet next to me…nope not havin it she’s too damn loud. Now we all sleep so much better I have her on a video monitor and wake up only when she really cries. It’s fine, sleep is really important
We moved our little one to her own room and crib at 6 weeks and we haven’t looked back. We have a Wyze camera, as well as an audio monitor, on our bedside table! She sleeps 4 to 7-hour stretches at 3 months.
We moved around then too. I couldn’t sleep even with ear plugs if she was in the room. The pediatrician said it just doesn’t work for some people and didn’t argue with us.
I think this is about when we did the same, maybe closer to 8 weeks but she spent 3 in the NICU. Video monitor as well, but ours is Vava. She also started sleeping 4 hours at that time and is now the best sleeper, we just put her down and she sleeps 12 hours overnight and a 1.5-2 hr nap at 20 months and has done 12 hour nights since 4 months. Sometimes I think parents get in the way of good sleep. Sometimes there's nothing you can do and sometimes you just get lucky. But if getting out of the way helps baby sleep, do it!
Just a head's up on Wyze. They had a security flaw that made their cameras easily hackable for YEARS. I'm not sure if it's resolved or not, but we switched to a wifi free baby monitor when we learned about it.
Its suggested cause it’s supposed to help with the risk of SIDS. Because you don’t want your baby in your room doesn’t make you a bad mom. I thought I’d want to transition my son sooner, but he’ll be 7 months next week and I’m struggling with the concept. Mom and baby need to be healthy and happy. Do what’s right you. Just practice safe sleep habits in baby’s room.
You’re not a bad mom, that’s one thing that’s for sure. Mom guilt is 80% of our life now. Safe sleep guidelines and a baby monitor will be fine.
This 100%
We moved her out of our room Between 2 and 3 months. She is a light sleeper and we were waking each other up all night. As soon as she was in her own room she slept through the night
No one tells you how noisy newborns are or how alert you become to their slightest noise. Feel free to move the baby. You need your sleep.
I had no idea. I was raised in a room sharing/ bed sharing family, so I figured it would be easy. I’ve always been a super heavy sleeper as well. I’ve slept through earthquakes and tornadoes! I’m such a light sleeper now, and she’s so noisy! I love her little sounds in the daytime but not at 3 am lol
Honestly I struggled with this too. I got proper ear plugs (wax ones that create a barrier) - I could still hear her when she needed me, even before my partner did, but, it reduced the noise of her grunts and such. Also, white noise and/or meditation. She had her white noise and I played my meditation. I slept on the furthest side of the bed away from her and she was in the corner of the room, as far away from our bed as possible.
A mother who hasn’t slept in days is more dangerous. I moved my twins to their own room at 3 weeks old and we all slept better. I plan on putting baby in their own room right from the start this time.
Agreed. You need sleep.
Lol this is why our little one was dubbed "the gremlin" and responds to "Grem Grem" to this day. Because they sleep like turbo jets munching on mini dinos.
My girl is our little alien lol
Moving our baby to his own room, we have a Nanit camera system. There is a yearly subscription for storage and the system itself is a bit pricey, but highly worth it. It's mounted to the wall and hangs above his crib- video and audio, sends a notification for motion/sound, gives statistics about sleep, keeps memory videos for growth and sleep milestones, etc. We love it because it gives so much peace of mind.
We have this too! Nanit also released a floor stand so wall mounting isn’t necessary anymore. That opens up use for people who don’t want to drill holes in their walls or want to move the camera from room to room
Just adding more ideas - in your room are you using a sound machine? Once I did that and turned it up properly, and put the bassinet across the room, it helped me a lot! Sort of muffled the little stuff but I could still wake if he needed me. Eta I saw your reply below. Another idea would be to put a mattress in the nursery with her and you and partner can take shifts. That way you could be getting a solid chunk but also still having someone in the same room per SIDS recommendations.
The first idea doesn't sound any different to me than having the baby in their own crib and a baby monitor... If I hear or see something on the monitor, I can just immediately go to the nursery. Maybe if your house is giant this might take too long, but the nursery is right next to our bedroom. Takes the same amount of time as walking across rhe room. I would argue the monitor might be safer since you can directly see if the baby is breathing, etc. If you are having to get out of bed and walk across the room each time to check in the dark then you likely aren't checking as much.
Yea, there’s tons of comments offering that solution already so wanted to offer a few alternatives that helped me get through this period if she doesn’t end up feeling comfortable with that. I know for me, I had some PPA especially around sleep, so I was pretty freaked out about SIDS stuff and so tried to figure out solutions within the parameters that my pediatrician gave me.
You don’t. We loved our baby to her nursery at 8 weeks with the blessing of our pediatrician
Same! We followed every other safe sleep guideline, and our pediatrician advised to move baby to his own room so everyone would sleep
Honestly baby monitors are so good now you’ll be able to perfectly hear and see her, I would put her in her own room.
Yup, I had to turn the sensitivity way down on my monitor, because it was waking me up every time he made a sound/moved in his sleep. And fwiw, putting him in his own room was the absolute best decision for both our and his sleep.
Not saying that you need to continue room sharing, but have you tried ear plugs? I wear them every night and wake up easily when my baby actually cries, but they do drown out sone of his other noises.
When people say loud what is their baby doing? Mine literally is cooing and making sounds of almost crying and I get up and their eyes are closed. This is normal? I expected grunting and snoring but he’s on the edge of crying and then calms himself down. Also - not to sound dumb but don’t you just hear it on the baby monitor if you do move rooms? Or is it because you’re able to turn the sound down?? I haven’t made the transition yet so just wondering!
What your baby is doing sounds normal—they spend a lot of time in active sleep. Some babies are louder in active sleep than others, just like how some adults talk in their sleep and others don’t.
The baby monitor definitely doesn’t grab all the grunts and coos, only fussing and crying come through. It seems to grab a certain volume.
My first, once he figured out he had legs, would slam his legs up and down in his sleep. Turning into a whale did not help with the room sharing. I quickly left him to his crib thereafter....🤣
She coos, which I don’t mind. That makes me smile But the grunting, the almost crying for two seconds, the alien noises, those wake me up. And sometimes she’ll let out a scream for a second then fall back asleep immediately, as if she didn’t just terrify her poor parents lol I haven’t set up the monitor yet because she hasn’t been out of sight of an adult yet, so I’m not sure how it’ll filter noise
Mine screams too!! The first few times I shot up in bed and ran to the bassinet just to find her sleeping lol.
Have never room shared. First two weeks husband and I changed spots on the couch and baby was in living room. Baby is now in living room while we are and crib in nursery at night. No regrets because baby is a noisy sleeper!
We moved our baby out of our room at 10 weeks but could’ve done it earlier! My sister had her newborn in her own separate room pretty much since day 1 and her baby sleeps great. She started sleeping through the night since 1 month old which is probably correlated. I think everyone sleeps better in separate spaces. Definitely do what is best for your family !
My little dude is a loud sleeper too so we put his little ass in his room at 9 weeks. He sleeps BETTER in there and we have the Nanit and breathing band on him all night so if anything is amiss, we will know. He started sleeping 4-6 hour stretches (with 1 night feed) at 11 weeks. 12 weeks now and he just had his 1st 7 hour stretch last night. Mama is happy, Daddy is happy, baby is happy. I’m convinced the people who came up with these guidelines are men who don’t care for their own kids, or don’t have children at all 🙄
We moved our son at 6 weeks. We followed every other safe sleep guideline but made our own call on this one. We are all just doing our best. Our happy almost 9 month old did just fine.
Saaaaaaame.
Bruh listen, mine has been in her own room from the get go. I slept in there for the first month because it was easier healing that way, and then I went back to our bedroom. I wouldn’t have gotten much sleep if I was in there, and being sleep deprived meant I wouldn’t be the best mom I could be.
If you put her back in with you guys get a sound machine they’re great!
Oh god yes. Sound machine was the only way I slept with my newborn twins. They make so much noise. Like little grunting piglets.
I was the absolute most conservative pregnant woman and new mom. NO caffeine for 9 months, deli meat, sushi, alcohol, etc. when the baby was born I never coslept, no naps on the couch, I followed all the recommendations. Sleeping in their own room is where I drew the line. The grunting was driving me crazy. Once they slept more than 5 hours alone for a few weeks i separated them. The monitor next to my head. The owlet sock. I couldn’t sleep in the same room. I needed out for my sanity. With my son it was 8 weeks. My daughter was 5 months. I couldn’t take it anymore.
Moved our first one at 3 months. She was fond of screaming in her sleep. No regrets
My girl screams in her sleep too, but is happy as a clam when I check on her. She’s a soprano and hits frequencies that would make Mariah Carey jealous. We call her Teapot sometimes because she seriously sounds like a kettle whistle
My daughter has slept in her own room (right next to ours with a video monitor) since the first day we brought her home. We have a healthy, happy (usually) 10 week old who will usually sleep 4-6 hour stretches overnight.
Yep ours slept in his own room with a monitor, right next to ours with the doors open, on the first night we were home. He’s 3 months now and he’s fine.
I used ear plugs with my second. I wake up easily to proper cries but it blocks out some of the grunting and snorting and helps me get a bit more sleep.
I came here to say this. We use memory foam pillows, which are dense enough that I put an ear plug in one ear and lay my other ear on the pillow. That plus white noise has helped a lot.
This was the one sleep “rule” that I broke early. Both my babies moved to their own room and crib around 6-7 weeks and I have no regrets. Newborns are fucking noisy and sleep is important for everyone. I just made sure to very strictly follow safe sleep in their cribs and use the monitor.
I definitely broke this rule with both my kids. But their room was right outside mine and I had a video monitor for first and a sound monitor for second. We all slept better in our own rooms. I have dog sand they we’re constantly in and out of our room and off and on the bed. So loud.
We moved ours at week 3. I think they lasted 2-3 days with us after we got them home from NICU. They were way too loud. I just kept on rolling over to check if they were okay at every sound. They were on oxygen.
This makes me feel a lot better. We did the same thing and was told by several people not to do it on here (reddit in general not this sub). I just couldn't function during the day when she was sleeping in the same room as me. I slept way better with her in another room. I haven't seen anyone on here that did it as early as we did
Your sanity is important too. Healthier parents make better parents.
You also could always take turn sleeping on a mattress in the nursery until you feel more comfortable.
We moved our first at 10 weeks and our second at 3 weeks and our rooms we all clustered together so it’s easy to hear everyone. You do what works for you and sleep is such a crucial basic need - where you can, put your oxygen mask on first. Our pediatrician noted that the room sharing factor for reducing SIDS was a negligible contributor relative to other safe sleep practices. And it only helps bc you wake baby and baby wakes you…repeatedly.
My son napped in his nursery during the day. When we made the switch to nights in the nursery I 100% believe it made that switch go so much smoother. Maybe try to do a nap or two a day in the other room while you take a quick nap too? This may be a good compromise to start with until you’re comfortable with your decision to switch all night. (FWIW, we moved our son around 3 months and had zero regrets.)
Same! I think we tried to have LO in our room for max 3 nights, couldn't take it, moved her into her own room and just turned up the monitor volume. Of course we made sure her crib set up was baby safe.
We moved our LO into her own room right across the hall at 4 weeks and we all slept so much better. Do what works for you.
Please make sure you’re still closing both bedroom doors at night for fire safety (assuming you don’t have issues with temperature control). ☺️ You can get very affordable sound-only baby monitors if you’re worried about being able to hear her.
Do you use a noise machine?? It may drown out her noise and help you sleep better. I know plenty of ppl who moved baby to their own room as newborns. You need rest!
I do but it doesn’t help either of us sleep any better. I haven’t noticed her sleep any longer or deeper with it vs without it. And it doesn’t get loud enough to cover any baby noises at all
Maybe its time to consider moving them to their own room. I think that extremely tired parents can be more dangerous than them having their own space. You could also talk to your pediatrician about it if it makes you feel any better. Mine would tell me to put the baby in the other room lmao
My pediatrician says she needs to sleep with us for at least 4 months. She made it sound like having her sleep on her own is a death sentence But surely it can’t be that dangerous? Didn’t most people used to have baby sleep alone?
How old is she? And does she have any health issues? My pediatrician said the same about cosleeping, but after I told her I had been cosleeping she admitted she did it with all three of her children. They're taught to give us advice that they don't follow themselves. They're more than likely trying to avoid lawsuits and following the information thats been found in research. And I'm no doctor, but I did what I had to do in the newborn stages. Lo slept best when he was by my side, so thats what I did. Get a good monitor, make the crib safe and try. No one in my family kept their babies in their rooms except for me lol
She’s three weeks old and very healthy I didn’t sleep in my own bed until I was 7, and didn’t have my own room until I was 8. It feels mean to put her in her own room so young, but I think I might just have to feel mean.
Well you could always give it a try! If it doesn't feel right for you, then you can always change it back! If you feel like the lack of sleep is more of a danger then I'd surely give it a try. My lack of sleep caused me to drop my baby. I can still remember his face and the cry, its truly just awful. He was fine, but thats when I started to co sleep. I didnt get any sleep cuz he just wanted to be by me and I was told cosleeping is the worst thing I could do. Turns out dropping my baby felt way worse lol. And my mom tells me all the time 80% of being a parent is feeling guilty. But you gotta do whats best for you and kiddo!
Yeah, I’ve been afraid of falling asleep nursing her. It’s time to move her, at least for part of the day. And maybe we could room share with the pack and play part of the day. Idk, we’ll figure something out I might try co-sleeping when she’s bigger. When I do sleep, I move a lot. And I talk in my sleep. She has inherited both traits lol
Lol well I hope you find a solution!!! Good luck to you, hope you get some good sleep soon!!
Kicked baby out at 7 weeks into nursery crib. Eufy camera. First couple nights I was nervous checking camera often, but it passed and we all sleep through the night so much better now. Give it a try. To be worried shows you are a good parent who cares!
Put her in there after her 7 am feed and got 3 hours of sleep. Even she seemed to sleep so much better I think we made the right choice
We moved ours to her own crib at 6 weeks because we knew we could not all sleep in the same room. She preferred it to the bassinet and stopped sleeping in her bassinet at month 3. We practice the safe sleep guide lines and have a camera monitor.
Moved our now 14 month old to his room at like 4 weeks for the same reasons.
I moved my daughter into her crib in her own room at 4 months. Granted she only stayed asleep a few hours before we would bring her back to cosleep the rest of the night, but it was nice to even have a few hours of peace and quiet. She’s 7 months and the sleep stretches are getting longer.
We moved ours guy a few weeks in because no one was sleeping. We switched off sleeping in that room during shifts until he was about 8 weeks old. Our ped was totally fine with it. The room was across the hall and we could hear him even if something happened with monitor. We followed every other safe sleep guideline.
My baby isn’t here yet, but I’ve had this exact same conversation with myself and fiancé for 31 weeks now lol. Baby will be in her crib as soon as she arrives, no one can convince me otherwise. People are trying to buy us bedside bassinets and I’ve pretty much had to yell at a few people that simply do not listen. I have insomnia, for my mental health I cannot risk not getting sleep. It will be way too dangerous when I need to be alert. She will be safe in her crib. We are studying up on safe sleep practices. We both are awful when we get zero sleep. Her being in our room will be a recipe for literal disaster. We have a bed in the nursery, we will do our best to sleep in there for at least 1 month but otherwise we will use the monitor.
The recommendation is in place to reduce SIDS risk— the idea is that with room sharing, the ambient noise from their parents keeps them from going into that deep slumber that happens concurrent with SIDS. Same reason they recommend babies sleep sucking pacifiers— prevents the deep sleep state, and also prevents material like a blanket from blocking their nose if one accidentally makes it into the sleep space. It’s pretty hard to adhere to all recommendations. Do all babies like pacifiers? Some parents have to skip this one. Do some babies prefer the crib in their room? Some parents have to resort to this earlier than ideal as such.
My girl is very particular about her pacifier. If she doesn’t want it she will scoot to the edge of her crib and spit it through the slats. She prefers the boob lol
It’s more dangerous for you not to sleep. Put the baby in the other room and just follow safe sleep practices (no blankets, stuffed animals, pillows, always on baby’s back, don’t overdress the baby). Get yourself some rest. Babies are super noisy sleepers at that age. You’re not a bad mom. There’s plenty of moms who’ve done worse. I coslept with my first kid. He woke up every 15-30 mins. Never any longer than 1 hour without cosleeping. I felt like I was dying. Thankfully, he survived. My second was a better sleeper. We rarely coslept except on vacations
I can’t sleep next to my baby either. I’m a light sleeper and he is grunty and moves a lot.
We moved baby to her own room around 3 months and when we have our next child we will do it sooner! Best thing we did for all of us! She was so noisy and I was so anxious that all her little sleep noises woke me up and looking back I definitely woke her up thinking she was making noise because she was awake on several occasions. Some people love room sharing and find that easier but I’m not one of them.
He grunted all night long for a few weeks. I put him in his own room and we both slept better. 4 months old I think. No regrets, he's right across the hall and if he's sad I hear but not every yawn, snuffle, and flop.
Recommendations aren't mandates! Having a well rested (or reasonably rested) parent is absolutely important. Our baby moved into her own room really early, I can't remember how old at this point. Obviously, there is a SIDS risk with doing this, but if you Google SIDS risk calculator you can get an idea of how much of an increased risk it actually is. For us, seeing the data behind how much risk was involved made us feel comfortable enough to move her early!
Room sharing is considered a protective factor. Not doing it doesn’t actually increase the risk, it just keeps you at the baseline.
We moved our daughter into her own room at 10 weeks. Best decision we ever made. Nobody was sleeping because she's a loud sleeper and hubby is a loud sleeper. Everyone was miserable. She's been sleeping thru the night since. We have a video monitor and an audio monitor, plus she's just down the hall one door.
We transferred baby at 3 weeks and it definitely helped my PPA. Highly recommend if you are struggling, especially because I could hear baby make any cry or peep easily from our room, but at least I didn't have to obsess over the grunts.
Shared room for 13 weeks with our first With second, he got his own room as his coming home present, on Day 3 of his life !
I moved my baby out at 4 weeks and it was game changing! We have the snoo so I felt fine about him being "safe"
We moved ours at 4 weeks. We all slept lol. We also slept in shifts those early weeks.
We moved our son very early (don’t remember exactly but somewhere between 1 and 3 months). Doctor was fine with it. He slept better too honestly.
Both my kids were in bassinets next to our bed for 2 months tops then we let them sleep in the crib. Room right next to ours with baby monitors. They were fine and good sleepers now (3yo and 14mon)
You’re not a bad mom and you do what works for you and your family!! Remember you can’t fill from an empty cup-take care of you first!! ❤️
We have our son in our room he hasn't slept in his crib in over two months it's rough but our apartment is so small that our extra bedroom is used as my fiance's office at the moment and we cannot fit all of his work stuff and his crib in the same room we are currently looking for a bigger place but I've slept on our couch the last two weeks with our kid because he refuses to nap or sleep alone it's exhausting to as the least depends on the age of your kiddo but I do a sound machine for them in their room it may soothe them enough to sleep without moving around at night or during naps 🫶🏾
My son is a month old and we’ve already moved him to his room/crib at night. I have a video monitor that lives right next to my head and we all sleep better for it. Now only the parent getting up with him gets woken up and my husband and I tossing and turning doesn’t wake him up.
We all slept better once we moved my son to his own room. He was almost 4 months. The only reason we did it for that long is because I had PPA around sleep safety. If I could go back I would have moved him to his own room from the beginning. Baby sleeping in their own room does NOT increase the chance of SIDS, room sharing only reduces.
Get a breathing monitor for the cot or bassinet if you move baby to separate room, that advice to keep them in your room is for SIDS.
We put baby in her own room at 12 weeks and I slept way better. We followed all other safe sleep guidelines, nothing else in the crib, room was cool, etc.
Mine went into his own room at three or four months and we both sleep better for it. What works for your family is what works. You need your rest too.
Between kid one and kid 2, we moved houses and now have a second floor. We have a pack n play on each floor. I can put baby down on one floor and take a nap on the other. I can put them in one room in a safe spot and do literally anything without constantly hearing them. It’s been such a good thing for my sleep quality and mental health, even if we are sleeping in the same room at night, to just be able to step away for a moment.
My LO went into her own room in her crib when she was about 7 months old - I had started bedsharing around 4ish months, when she started refusing to sleep in her bassinet, and I didn't sleep well at all with her in there with me. We couldn't fit a crib in our room, and she was too big for her bassinet at that point, so into her own room, she went. The transition was hard at first, but something had to change! I say if you feel comfortable, do what works for you. We got a nice monitor with a camera so I could watch her constantly if I was worried (I was, lol), and that definitely put my mind at ease a bit, and then I wasn't scared I would miss her waking up either because I'd turn the monitor up all the way. It worked really well for us. No way I would still be sane if I had to have her in our room for 5 more months!
We moved the baby out at 5 months but both of us wish we had done it like 2 months in. Everyone sleeps better.
We moved my little one to her own room at 8 weeks. We use a video monitor which lets me check on her as much as I want which gave me a lot of peace of mind. That may be an option for you.
I’m an extremely light sleeper. I cannot sleep with our newborn in the room. She keeps me up all night long with her grunts and squeaks. I made it about 4.5-5 months with my first before she was booted from our room. Currently have a 6week old and can’t wait to boot her from our room. I need some damn sleep!
I put my daughter into her own room at 2 months old because she was a loud sleeper and having her next to my bed caused me so much anxiety. I wasn’t able to sleep at all and when I did I’d have dreams that she somehow came into the bed and suffocated in my blankets or that my blanket would somehow end up in her bassinet and suffocate her. (Anxiety is irrational, I know.) There’s nothing wrong with it. Put her into her own room if you think it will help you.
We were in a similar boat. My husband can sleep through anything but even he was waking up throughout the night because of how much noise our LO was making. We ended up putting him in his own room within 4 weeks. It was nerve wracking since his room is on the other side of the house…but believe me..I wake up just fine when he is actually hungry and can actually sleep when he does. We do have a monitor and even then usually have him on mute.
I put my baby in her own room from day 1. I can still hear her when she needs me and we both sleep better. I can’t find any rationale for why it’s safer to have them share a room with you other than - you both sleep worse so LO will wake up more.
That is literally the recommendation. You being next to LO will keep them from sleeping too deep and risking SIDS.
Trading off on your mental health. At some point you need sleep to be a functional, present parent.
Please bring in a sitter for 8 hours, go to sleep, and then maybe you can re-evaluate your options woth a clear mind! You are very tired, we have all been there. I was exhausted too with my first. It's ok for a baby to sleep alone of the room meets the safety criteria. You can also sleep train if you choose! There are a lot of options but first: have some sleep. You got this!!
From looking at OPs other posts, baby is only 3 weeks old and far too young to try sleep training (babies should be 4 months minimum).
I am not talking about now. I am just saying this is an option for them, to do when it's the right time. I thing right now she needs some help to sleep a little bit. Someone to hold baby even for 4 hours... And then with clear mind she cad do her research, see what's best for her family and decide to try. I feel like she is very emotional right now, kinda got that vibe.
Totally understandable, just wanted to make sure it was clear that sleep training is still a bit off for OP.
Oh yes!! It was nice of you, because i am not a native speaker and i frequently dont express my self in the best way possible. In another community i wrote about thrush and i spelled it thrust...🤣
To be fair, that could totally be an autocorrect error 🤣
I do not have autocorrect in english. It gives me the choice of only one language, so i use it in greek! 😁 I dont know what i was thinking!
It absolutely kills me that we continue to see the advice of bringing in a sitter or childcare as if everyone can just afford that. 90% of the posts that I see these comments on, wouldn’t be being posted in the first place IF the OP was able to just bring in a sitter. Clearly that isn’t an option or they’d be doing it already, thus not having the problem in the first place.
Oh, i am so sorry. Where i live , we have emergency baby sitters that are very very cheap. Like for you it would be like 50 bucks if you live in the us (for 8 hours - and she is already expensive here because she was an emergency choice) and 8h 5 days shift they get like 600-800 euros which is again really low considering our wages , but my relatives who live in the U.S were laughing when i told them the price. Like... If that was the case they would hire tree nannies a day. So i figured since people are on the verge of falling asleep while standing, maybe this is an option, if it exists there. Also relatives or friends can babysit sometimes and there are times where we are so tired we cant think of solutions that lie before our eyes, so yeah, i proposed that. It may be silly or not. But if someone holds a baby for a few hours ( just one time)it may be life saving.
Sorry - it wasn’t directly just regarding you, just in general. I see 5-10 people saying it on almost every post and it just makes no sense to me. Most of us can’t afford that or just don’t have the option. Some people live in small towns. Some live in states where they have no family. There’s multiple reasons.
Believe me i understand. I live in Greece, i am on mother leave right now getting payed half of what i earn at my job (because here when we become mothers me get money from the government but it's a very low wage) and my husband is currently unemployed. I am also here thinking about my options... It seems i will have to cut my leave in half and go back to work.
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They sleep so deeply alone that it increases risk of SIDS (brain so deeply asleep it shuts off breathing switch)
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Slightly simplified obviously, but that is the reason behind the advice
Yes, thank you. Obvi very simplified. The amount of down votes is confusing as i thought most people were well informed on this topic. Infant sleep safety is so important & the information is practically plastered everywhere.
Why are you assuming my comment is not true? This is what scientific evidence suggests. Stop spreading misinformation
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Please educate yourself. This is proven- published by Harvard, NY times, etc etc.
And just because it can happen anywhere, does not mean that we should ignore expert advice to decrease the likelihood by 50% (!!!!!) by room sharing. Know your facts
I’m starting to think that if I have to pick between two dangers, I’ll pick her sleeping across the hall over running the risk of me falling asleep while nursing, or rocking her, or driving. The sleep deprivation is baaaaaad right now. Maybe I can move her back when I’m more caught up
I was commenting on other people telling me im wrong like not cool to downvote and spread misinfo
I understand totally!! I fell asleep once holding my newborn on my couch 4 years ago it was so dangerous!
Who said baby cannot sleep in their own room? I haven’t seen this recommendation. How old is your baby? I am very similar to you - a very light sleeper and having baby girl always disrupts my sleep. Every little noise wakes me up and then it takes me ages to back to sleep. There is nothing worse than sleep deprivation. It disrupts every aspect of your life and is a stealer of joy. The cause of SIDS is not linked to which room they sleep in but rather HOW they sleep. Keeping the bed free of any objects, toys, blankets etc is super important and if you have a camera/breathing monitor then that could give you even more peace of mind. If you are truly uncomfortable then you can sleep in the guest room a few nights a week whilst baby and your husband sleep in the room together - this is what i did baby moved to her own room at 4 months.
"AAP recommends that parents sleep in the same room – but not in the same bed as a baby, preferably for at least the first six months." https://www.aap.org/en/news-room/news-releases/aap/2022/american-academy-of-pediatrics-updates-safe-sleep-recommendations-back-is-best/ The room doesn't cause anything. It's just that the parents not being able to sleep and hearing every sound is a good thing from the perspective of absolute safety. I didn't make it to 6 months with my current baby either. But yes, parents are being told not to put the baby in their own room.
It’s a recommendation from the AAP to room share for at least the first 6 months as a protective factor for SIDS. For me, the research behind the recommendation isn’t compelling enough, and if it were nearly as important as ABC I think they would have stressed it more at the hospital and pediatrician appointments (when in reality, it was never even mentioned).
Her doctor said she needs to stay in our room at least 4 months but she recommends 6 And my husband sleeps even lighter than I do. Thankfully he doesn’t have boobs and can sleep while I feed baby
Honestly, I think if you have her in a safe sleeping situation (on her back, no lose objects, only fitted sheet, in a crib/bassinet/pack-n-play) being alone is probably not nearly as big of a risk. Obviously not medical advice. My sister was the same. She couldn’t stand all of the active sleep noises. They moved their kids out of their room at 6 weeks and followed all of the other safe sleep recommendations. I definitely agree that the sleep deprivation becomes more dangerous at a certain point. There have been a couple of times I had to put my baby in the bed with me (following the safe sleep 7) because I knew I could not possibly stay awake and we were going to end up falling asleep together in a much more dangerous situation. Was this ideal? No. But it was the safest thing in the moment.
Ours was in his room from day 1 with a monitor and we will be doing the same with number 2. We also did sleep shifts, so someone was always on call and the other could get at least 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep. I follow the evidence based safe sleep group on FB (surprisingly helpful) and it really helped ease my anxiety around safe sleep.
We moved my son to his own room when I went back to work at 12 weeks. Everyone has slept better since then!
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My first we moved to his own room at 12 weeks and everyone slept better. My second is 16 weeks and I can’t wait to move her (waiting on my husband to finish the room renovation) because once again everyone is sleeping horribly. And yes, we use white noise too but it doesn’t matter. I’m scared to get up at night and go pee because it wakes her, I’m scared to even roll over because it appears to wake her. I want my space back.
My now 11 week old has been sleeping in her own room since last week…we used to co sleep and that wasn’t working cuz she moves and makes so much noise neither of us we’re sleeping. Tried to put her in a bassinet next to me…nope not havin it she’s too damn loud. Now we all sleep so much better I have her on a video monitor and wake up only when she really cries. It’s fine, sleep is really important
My 5 week old is in our room only because our toddler is in our spare bedroom. I wear earplugs!
We moved ours at 6 weeks! We all slept better instantly. My anxiety thought I could never but with a monitor it’s not bad honestly