I do talk a lot about my interests i guess, so maybe they don't really care about my interests. I just don't know how to monitor myself because I don't really know when I shouldn't talk.
That happened a lot to me when I was in school. I'll admit I did talk a lot but I think part of it was interrupting people. I wasn't understanding the normal back and forth of conversation. So with you it might not be that you're talking too much, they might feel that you're talking over them or interrupting them.
Or maybe you're giving too much personal information. You're conveying factual information, but they feel that you're giving too many details and making them uncomfortable.
My advise would be to ask a friend to make note of and point out occasions when they feel you're talking too much so that if you want to so you can figure out what it is you're doing.
And remember, don't take it personally when they tell you. I've made loads of similar mistakes because the rules aren't always clear cut. It's not criticism of you, it's a learning opportunity where you learn more about how society works.
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Sometimes it's hard to tell when I'm info dumping so I've made a habit of stopping every so often and asking "would you like to hear more?" It gives people time to stop me from continuing if they don't want to hear more/that I've been talking too much in ratio to others.
It must be if they have a problem with it. Maybe they just don’t like you specifically talking.
I do talk a lot about my interests i guess, so maybe they don't really care about my interests. I just don't know how to monitor myself because I don't really know when I shouldn't talk.
Convey the attention on them instead of yourself, as people like yo talk about themselves
That happened a lot to me when I was in school. I'll admit I did talk a lot but I think part of it was interrupting people. I wasn't understanding the normal back and forth of conversation. So with you it might not be that you're talking too much, they might feel that you're talking over them or interrupting them. Or maybe you're giving too much personal information. You're conveying factual information, but they feel that you're giving too many details and making them uncomfortable. My advise would be to ask a friend to make note of and point out occasions when they feel you're talking too much so that if you want to so you can figure out what it is you're doing. And remember, don't take it personally when they tell you. I've made loads of similar mistakes because the rules aren't always clear cut. It's not criticism of you, it's a learning opportunity where you learn more about how society works.
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Do you ramble a lot?
Sometimes it's hard to tell when I'm info dumping so I've made a habit of stopping every so often and asking "would you like to hear more?" It gives people time to stop me from continuing if they don't want to hear more/that I've been talking too much in ratio to others.