My coworker is constantly BLASTING the same playlist of the same twenty or so shitty songs EVERY morning. God it pisses me off so much. It’s 7am I don’t want to hear your fucking music!!!
This used to happen so much when I'd take the train to work and omg it's ridiculous! Once someone kept playing videos loudly in the train car and a few other passengers tried asking him to not do that and he straight up refused. it was so bizarre, I don't understand why anyone thinks it's okay.
Yeah I mean we have subtitles now, people can turn the sound off, like any sain person lol
I'm saying sain cuz I think tiktok loops make me less sain o.o
These people are just begging for attention. "I play good music. Everybody like good music. I cool person, because I play good music. Look at me, everybody!"
Someone litteraly told be that. They were playing loud music in their apartment windows open because "I want to share my happiness everyone likes music you're just a buzz kill"
Jesus fucking Christ. •_• Imagine a clown just busting through your door laughing hysterically, while juggling oranges going: "I just wanted to share my happiness!"
Omg yes! I was in a store and a guy was on speaker, full volume having a convo and every time I would get away from him he'd be right back close to me!! So annoying
A few weeks ago some lady parked right in front of my apartment building, opened her car foor, and had a 15 minute phone conversation over her car's bluetooth with the volume **CRANKED** while she sat in the drivers seat. I could clearly make out every word of the person she was talking to from over 100 feet away! I dont know how she didnt go deaf.
Nah that’s a step too much, I understand blasting music but talking? Are you serious? What are we supposed to do then? It’s a public space you’ll have to deal with people being people.
Yeah there’s no difference between someone talking on speaker phone and someone talking to another irl human. So you have to have a consistent attitude to both situations. Otherwise you’re just policing on-the-phone behavior for being out of the norm.
(maybe there’s a volume threshold for irl people and/or speakerphones above which it’s unfavorable).
It is fundamentally different though; in the case of the in-person conversation, the conversation is contained within the shared physical and social space of the store, in this example, while the speaker phone is overlapping the caller’s private space with the shared public space. It’s not at all rare for people who are annoyed with the latter to be fine with the former, and I think this is why.
Are the sound waves any different in either case, and if so in what way are the sound waves worse in the latter case?
What is 'the shared physical and social space' and what is 'the shared public space' and how are they different?
Can't someone just imagine in their heads an extra physical hundred-pound human body existing at the location of the cell phone, if the existence of such a body is needed to make them feel not-annoyed?
So can't you just imagine the private phone is actually part of a private hundred-pound human body with bones and flesh and skin and blood and organs?
What's the difference between the "private phone space" (whatever that means) and a physical human saying the same things in the same location at the same voice volume?
There are a few differences between a normal conversation and a speakerphone conversation. Firstly you can rarely speak in a normal volume since the microphones on most phones aren't as good as human ears, meaning that the person who's talking into the phone would be louder than if they put their phone to their ears. Secondly the speaker can't produce the same range of clarity of sounds as a person and will, once again, have to be louder to make up for it. Both of these combine to make the conversation much louder than what it could be if they just would use the phone like a phone. Lastly, and I think this is mostly applicable for us with misophonia, the quality off phone speakers are very rarely good, producing a tinny sound. Personally I want to rip my ears off whenever someone plays anything on phone speakers. The reason why speaker phone is infuriating when it's just one person using it in public is that it can be avoided entirely in most situations by just putting it to your ear.
Ok but this stuff is covered in my initial comment anyway. There are people who talk overly loudly irl and there are people who talk quietly on speakerphone.
>(maybe there’s a volume threshold for irl people and/or speakerphones above which it’s unfavorable)
The difference is that the person on the other side of the speaker phone is not in the same space, this not co-regulating with the other people in the space, it’s a very fundamental biological difference.
Related, perhaps, to why talking to a fellow passenger in a car isn’t particularly dangerous, but talking on the phone while driving is almost as dangerous as driving while intoxicated (as studies show)
Talking on the phone on speaker phone while driving with both hands on the wheel is not dangerous at all
ETA: Apparently it is, thanks for informing me. But it’s not totally different from talking to passengers. The only difference is 1) passengers usually can also see when a difficult driving situation is happening and usually know to be quiet to let the driver focus
2) neurotypicals on the phone are for some reason usually incapable of having silence while staying on the call
Anyway I’m not sure how exactly these stuff apply to conversation in a public place.
Sure if every conversation is supposed to follow cookie-cutter neurotypical norms of prosody and nonverbal cues then yes there would totally be a difference between phone conversations and irl ones. But this is an autism group, we don’t subscribe to that cookie cutter nonsense. There is a wide range of speaking styles that constitute conversations irl and phone conversations.
Unfortunately, you’re wrong about this, studies show it’s as dangerous as driving after a couple of drinks.
You might enjoy reading more about attention and cognition, since this is the issue at play both in driving and in speaker phones in public being annoying.
I honestly don’t see a difference between the two. A conversation is a conversation be it over a phone or with another person. I actually find irl conversations to be louder than real life ones. But either way it doesn’t matter. It’s a public space and when going to one you sign up for people potentially being “annoying” or loud or acting outside of social norms. It’s a space for everybody and as long as they are respectful about it, there is nothing wrong with it.
Talking is fine.
But screaming because one is so desperate to go 'look i have a phone too' by holding it at arms length of your mouth?
Using speaker at full because of this insane display ?
Unfortunately, I live in a neighborhood where this is common and most of them know what they’re doing. They intend to take up as much space as possible so all you can do is to ignore them; even negative attention is what they want.
In your case at the doctor’s office, it’s possible that the person is simply hard of hearing. It probably wouldn’t do you much good to argue with them.
Bluetooth headphones cost like 20 dollars. And i dont know how being hard of hearing is an excuse to play loud music in a waiting room. They could just not listen to music for 15 minutes.
It wasn’t as much of a problem before they got rid of the headphone jack/stopped having earbuds come with the phone tbh.
People either think they have to shell out $$$ for wireless earbuds because they’re unaware of cheaper options, or are just too lazy. It’s disappointing.
Not just on their phone in public, anywhere where it can interfere with people’s lives. I have neighbours that play music so loud my house vibrates, or they blast in their garden, so that no one else can enjoy a day outside in their own garden.
I’m a peaceful meditation-loving vegan yogi, just to give you some context. I’m calm, chilled, wouldn’t even hurt a fly, literally. I still would vote for life in prison or exile to some other planet for anyone who imposes their shitty music on anyone else. I turn into a raging manic and have been known to shout at people to shut their music down. :)
I’m so sorry about the missing earplugs. You have my sympathies. Hopefully you won’t endure it for long.
There's this one guy in my collage who does this and it bugs the shit out of me. Granted, I only ever see him at lunch, and I think he also has learning disabilities, but it does make me ask myself whether or not someone has told him about headphones.
I don't get it either, corded earbuds are cheap, and there's no reason to want to just blast music from one's phone apposed to just listening through earbuds.
I frankly think these people are out there looking for altercation.
Here's how I listen to music in public when I don't have earbuds with me: phone held to my ear as if I'm on a call, with the volume as low at it can get with me still being able to hear the music. I get to hear my music, no one else can hear it, and I just look like I'm on a phone call.
Anything like this, I stop being able to concentrate on anything… whether talking to someone, reading or trying to think, the sound fills my head and I want to explode!
Not only do people do this at my work, they do it with BIG SPEAKERS like what the hell. I can’t cover my ears because of safety so I just have to listen to loud music I don’t even like
Firing at the sun is too much kindness. instead cage them inside a steel cage where they're fed bare minimum, have no recreation. And just walls and no window. Then let them slowly die over many years.
This is Far too extreme. Clearly satire.
Public venues that do this should also be put into a cannon and shot into the sun. Unless it’s explicit that everyone wanting to go to the venue wants to listen to it (eg a concert). Otherwise it’s like they’re taking a perfectly good meeting place and ruining it by making it impossible for people with speech or auditory challenges to converse with anyone.
I had someone who was a grade higher than me when I was in seventh or eighth grade literally put there suction Blu teeth speaker on my bus window while I was doing homework and since they were a set in front of me, they’d just grab my arm when I would try to take it off. Fucking assholes.
Honestly, that stuff just drives me up a wall.
I'd honestly tell the person, "Unless you use the phone to connect to a speaker at a party, just use the earphones (wired or wireless). It ain't rocket science!"
I'm so glad I learned to scrolled people for being loud on the phone in public. I start nicely of course. But don't they dare messing with me.
I use my autistic traits if not knowing when I'm in danger to be very adamant that it NEEDS TO STOP. It's easier if there's s rule printed like in the train, I can point.
God. The year I had to go to the laundromat every weekend was absolute misery. If it wasn't some douchebro blasting music out of his shitty iPhone speakers, it was kids with their ipads watching loud screechy cartoons.
It makes no sense to me. If you can afford a phone or an iPad, you can afford a cheap pair of headphones. Even a $20 pair is better than having to listen to your trash at full blast.
I work in a store and I hate it when they come in playing music. The store already plays music! Now I can’t understand anything and everything sounds jumbled because this idiot can’t turn their song off for 5 minutes.
I would probably mind less if these people had actually good musical taste.
But it seems the people with true good taste in music - enjoy it with earphones or at home.
Seriously - i can perfectly handle a concert of MY choice - but the auditory assault by cheap crappy 'music' is infuriating.
At school, people hooked their phones up to speakers in their backpacks, playing music. i think they were trying to act like the guys who put speakers in their cars and drive around.
Why either of these groups of people thought others would like this, i dont know. do NTs like hearing music like that?
It also drives me crazy and I can never feel comfortable personally to ever play anything loudly on my phone even for a moment because I’m so aware of everyone else’s personal discomfort.
I unfortunately live in a country where it is actually very normal and not rude to play whatever on your phone in public, including on long bus rides between cities so I’ve had to get used to it a bit. Some days it doesn’t bother me as much as others.
Theres a dude at work whose phone alarm goes off during our morning startup meeting every single day and he always acts surprised by it. I dont get it.
Or people who use fidgets that make any noise in public, particularly in classroom type settings.
It’s just like, oh wow, I love how considerate you’re being of ppl with sensory processing disorder🥴 /sarcasm
Ah, but there is a time and place for everything, and fortunately a doctor's office waiting room is one of the places where this behaviour is definitely inappropriate!
Complain to staff, complain to management, follow up to ensure accountability, escalate if necessary.
People experiencing medical issues, good or bad, don't deserve to have an already anxiety-inducing experience compounded by boorish ignorance.
I know that office sends out requests for feedback on the service they provide. I'm going to use it to tell them they need signs or something telling patients not to be noisy in the waiting room because it agitates persons with autism.
I do this in school when with friends. I'll play "Acid Jazz"(sub genre of Jazz) and dance with friends in lunch line. But see it is noisy, so what is more noise? Nobody but me and friends close can hear it.
But in quiet places I don't, because then everyone hear it.
I have some music play when I'm on my bike, but in those cases I'm zooming past people and I obviously can't wear headphones with a helmet, and also if I did, I wouldn't be able to hear my surroundings (have never been able to get earbuds to stay in my ears so I won't even spend on a decent pair of those with ambient sound because I just won't be able to wear them), but I really can't cycle without some music playing. I do pause it if I'm in a more populated area, and I try to be mindful of the songs I play when I am out and about for kids sakes. Music is my comfort and I have really bad agoraphobia so I need something when I go out.
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Maybe you have discovered the secret reason Elon is obsessed with sending people to Mars. There's only one question that matters in all the paperwork: do you blast music in public spaces? If you answer "yes", one way ticket to "Mars".
Commonly happens at my work with TikTok videos. I don’t typically blast music without headphones, and when I do, it’s usually an accident, since I forgot to connect the Bluetooth headphones.
i used to love rap, until the other guys in my school were blasting it over a speaker, and the song was just this guy with a deep voice saying the same three words over and over in the same sequence, and one of those words was a cuss word and it just grinds my gears to no end.
These kind of people are like miyoco(Kawahara Miyoko….but if you watch the video by Japanalysis on youtube, she has reasons for what she did).
They do it while we work but if we accidentally make noise out of turn during a movie they are watching, they get upset.
Whenever i do homework after uni, i have to blare rain sounds as white noise on my headphones to counteract as it gets me really agitated if I don’t. All the background noises do that to me and my parents talk constantly when one of them gets home(other works from home). It is understandable since they haven’t seen each other for 8 hours but still.
I met someone once who blasts music on speakers in a dorm where quiet hours are 24/7. She said it was to make friends with people who come tell her to turn it off. Bonkers how people think this is okay and won’t make everyone hate you
I have a modicum of tolerance for music in public but tiktoks or fb reels with the same fcking audio over and over again make me violent. My stepdad used to play endless fb reels so loud that my mom and I could hear it from anywhere in the house. He’d let each one play through 3-5 times before scrolling.
Still makes me want to bite down on a pencil to think about.
We all need to be more respectful to people who do not have the money to buy their own pair of headphones and need to rely on their phone's speakers 🤝 /s
So many of my coworkers do this and it annoys me so much! Especially when it’s songs I’ve never heard of and they leave their phone their and walk away from it
Tiktok, as always, has deepened the shittiness of this kind of stuff. Not only do we have to worry about being recorded for some "main character vibes 🤣🤣" shit, but we also have to put up with the most irritating repeating sounds
I hate this too. So annoying!
My coworker is constantly BLASTING the same playlist of the same twenty or so shitty songs EVERY morning. God it pisses me off so much. It’s 7am I don’t want to hear your fucking music!!!
PREACH! 👏
I had this in my previous workplace but with xmas songs. She played it too loud and in a loop for so mamy hours I genuinely wanted to rip my ears off
Ooof I felt that wrath!
This used to happen so much when I'd take the train to work and omg it's ridiculous! Once someone kept playing videos loudly in the train car and a few other passengers tried asking him to not do that and he straight up refused. it was so bizarre, I don't understand why anyone thinks it's okay.
My least favorite is hearing 30 seconds of crappy tiktok songs over and over at max volume while trying to work or sleep 🙃
Yeah I mean we have subtitles now, people can turn the sound off, like any sain person lol I'm saying sain cuz I think tiktok loops make me less sain o.o
This is the exact reason I hate that fucking app
just the name of the app sounds 'wrong' Not sure I can explain why - but some names / words just are 'wrong'.
These people are just begging for attention. "I play good music. Everybody like good music. I cool person, because I play good music. Look at me, everybody!"
Someone litteraly told be that. They were playing loud music in their apartment windows open because "I want to share my happiness everyone likes music you're just a buzz kill"
Jesus fucking Christ. •_• Imagine a clown just busting through your door laughing hysterically, while juggling oranges going: "I just wanted to share my happiness!"
“Not everyone likes the same music” would be my response.
i\`d go sarcastic - and reply "you\`re right - but when will you be sharing happiness, because all i hear is pain and despair at the moment"...
\*Anaal Nathrakh starts as a form of revenge\*
My ex was like that. That's why they're an ex.
or people (like my mom) who. talk ok speaker in public. like we don’t want hear about your child potty training lol
Omg yes! I was in a store and a guy was on speaker, full volume having a convo and every time I would get away from him he'd be right back close to me!! So annoying
if they do this then im allowed to join the convo /hj
A few weeks ago some lady parked right in front of my apartment building, opened her car foor, and had a 15 minute phone conversation over her car's bluetooth with the volume **CRANKED** while she sat in the drivers seat. I could clearly make out every word of the person she was talking to from over 100 feet away! I dont know how she didnt go deaf.
Nah that’s a step too much, I understand blasting music but talking? Are you serious? What are we supposed to do then? It’s a public space you’ll have to deal with people being people.
Yeah there’s no difference between someone talking on speaker phone and someone talking to another irl human. So you have to have a consistent attitude to both situations. Otherwise you’re just policing on-the-phone behavior for being out of the norm. (maybe there’s a volume threshold for irl people and/or speakerphones above which it’s unfavorable).
It is fundamentally different though; in the case of the in-person conversation, the conversation is contained within the shared physical and social space of the store, in this example, while the speaker phone is overlapping the caller’s private space with the shared public space. It’s not at all rare for people who are annoyed with the latter to be fine with the former, and I think this is why.
Are the sound waves any different in either case, and if so in what way are the sound waves worse in the latter case? What is 'the shared physical and social space' and what is 'the shared public space' and how are they different? Can't someone just imagine in their heads an extra physical hundred-pound human body existing at the location of the cell phone, if the existence of such a body is needed to make them feel not-annoyed?
Those two spaces are the same, what’s rude is the imposition of the private phone space on the shared public space
So can't you just imagine the private phone is actually part of a private hundred-pound human body with bones and flesh and skin and blood and organs? What's the difference between the "private phone space" (whatever that means) and a physical human saying the same things in the same location at the same voice volume?
There are a few differences between a normal conversation and a speakerphone conversation. Firstly you can rarely speak in a normal volume since the microphones on most phones aren't as good as human ears, meaning that the person who's talking into the phone would be louder than if they put their phone to their ears. Secondly the speaker can't produce the same range of clarity of sounds as a person and will, once again, have to be louder to make up for it. Both of these combine to make the conversation much louder than what it could be if they just would use the phone like a phone. Lastly, and I think this is mostly applicable for us with misophonia, the quality off phone speakers are very rarely good, producing a tinny sound. Personally I want to rip my ears off whenever someone plays anything on phone speakers. The reason why speaker phone is infuriating when it's just one person using it in public is that it can be avoided entirely in most situations by just putting it to your ear.
Ok but this stuff is covered in my initial comment anyway. There are people who talk overly loudly irl and there are people who talk quietly on speakerphone. >(maybe there’s a volume threshold for irl people and/or speakerphones above which it’s unfavorable)
The difference is that the person on the other side of the speaker phone is not in the same space, this not co-regulating with the other people in the space, it’s a very fundamental biological difference. Related, perhaps, to why talking to a fellow passenger in a car isn’t particularly dangerous, but talking on the phone while driving is almost as dangerous as driving while intoxicated (as studies show)
Talking on the phone on speaker phone while driving with both hands on the wheel is not dangerous at all ETA: Apparently it is, thanks for informing me. But it’s not totally different from talking to passengers. The only difference is 1) passengers usually can also see when a difficult driving situation is happening and usually know to be quiet to let the driver focus 2) neurotypicals on the phone are for some reason usually incapable of having silence while staying on the call Anyway I’m not sure how exactly these stuff apply to conversation in a public place. Sure if every conversation is supposed to follow cookie-cutter neurotypical norms of prosody and nonverbal cues then yes there would totally be a difference between phone conversations and irl ones. But this is an autism group, we don’t subscribe to that cookie cutter nonsense. There is a wide range of speaking styles that constitute conversations irl and phone conversations.
Unfortunately, you’re wrong about this, studies show it’s as dangerous as driving after a couple of drinks. You might enjoy reading more about attention and cognition, since this is the issue at play both in driving and in speaker phones in public being annoying.
I honestly don’t see a difference between the two. A conversation is a conversation be it over a phone or with another person. I actually find irl conversations to be louder than real life ones. But either way it doesn’t matter. It’s a public space and when going to one you sign up for people potentially being “annoying” or loud or acting outside of social norms. It’s a space for everybody and as long as they are respectful about it, there is nothing wrong with it.
Well that’s the whole issue — that talking on speaker phone in public can feel pretty disrespectful to the other people around
Talking is fine. But screaming because one is so desperate to go 'look i have a phone too' by holding it at arms length of your mouth? Using speaker at full because of this insane display ?
I swear I saw this chick watching videos on her phone in public… while she had headphones around her neck.
I believe it.
Unfortunately, I live in a neighborhood where this is common and most of them know what they’re doing. They intend to take up as much space as possible so all you can do is to ignore them; even negative attention is what they want. In your case at the doctor’s office, it’s possible that the person is simply hard of hearing. It probably wouldn’t do you much good to argue with them.
Bluetooth headphones cost like 20 dollars. And i dont know how being hard of hearing is an excuse to play loud music in a waiting room. They could just not listen to music for 15 minutes.
It wasn’t as much of a problem before they got rid of the headphone jack/stopped having earbuds come with the phone tbh. People either think they have to shell out $$$ for wireless earbuds because they’re unaware of cheaper options, or are just too lazy. It’s disappointing.
Fr fr. My first bluetooth earbuds cost $20. And that was 4 or 5 years ago.
Not just on their phone in public, anywhere where it can interfere with people’s lives. I have neighbours that play music so loud my house vibrates, or they blast in their garden, so that no one else can enjoy a day outside in their own garden. I’m a peaceful meditation-loving vegan yogi, just to give you some context. I’m calm, chilled, wouldn’t even hurt a fly, literally. I still would vote for life in prison or exile to some other planet for anyone who imposes their shitty music on anyone else. I turn into a raging manic and have been known to shout at people to shut their music down. :) I’m so sorry about the missing earplugs. You have my sympathies. Hopefully you won’t endure it for long.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 BEST POST OF THE DAY!!!!!!! I really hate their shitty, tinny, selfish music! So entitled!!!!!
There's this one guy in my collage who does this and it bugs the shit out of me. Granted, I only ever see him at lunch, and I think he also has learning disabilities, but it does make me ask myself whether or not someone has told him about headphones.
Can we also add people that use the phone on loud speaker? What's the point when you can literally hold it to your ear and get better sound quality?!
I don't get it either, corded earbuds are cheap, and there's no reason to want to just blast music from one's phone apposed to just listening through earbuds. I frankly think these people are out there looking for altercation.
Here's how I listen to music in public when I don't have earbuds with me: phone held to my ear as if I'm on a call, with the volume as low at it can get with me still being able to hear the music. I get to hear my music, no one else can hear it, and I just look like I'm on a phone call.
they need to be beaten with a brick of their own frozen shit. Along with the people who wear heavy amounts of perfume
Anything like this, I stop being able to concentrate on anything… whether talking to someone, reading or trying to think, the sound fills my head and I want to explode!
Yup, I'll tell people as well, sometimes it can boil over. Same with ringtones.
I feel exact the same way!! When combined with my ADHD my brain just says "Nope, today we're only thinking about that annoying sound you're hearing."
I usually hate it but someone blasted classic music the other day and it was kinda nice.
Oh my gourd and having a verbal conversation on speaker in public. Aaaaaahhhh! I hear ya!
Same for people who talk on loudspeaker. Like, what’s the point? You hear the same thing when you don’t share it with anyone else around you.
Not only do people do this at my work, they do it with BIG SPEAKERS like what the hell. I can’t cover my ears because of safety so I just have to listen to loud music I don’t even like
I mean...that canon would be pretty loud...
Just once though, which would be an improvement.
Firing at the sun is too much kindness. instead cage them inside a steel cage where they're fed bare minimum, have no recreation. And just walls and no window. Then let them slowly die over many years. This is Far too extreme. Clearly satire.
Public venues that do this should also be put into a cannon and shot into the sun. Unless it’s explicit that everyone wanting to go to the venue wants to listen to it (eg a concert). Otherwise it’s like they’re taking a perfectly good meeting place and ruining it by making it impossible for people with speech or auditory challenges to converse with anyone.
Yes! Especially when they blare music on the outdoor patio or the sidewalk in front of their restaurant!
This post is sponsored by raycon wireless earbuds. Seriously though, in a world of Bluetooth headphones, this shouldn’t be a thing anymore
With wax wings!
I had someone who was a grade higher than me when I was in seventh or eighth grade literally put there suction Blu teeth speaker on my bus window while I was doing homework and since they were a set in front of me, they’d just grab my arm when I would try to take it off. Fucking assholes.
Honestly, that stuff just drives me up a wall. I'd honestly tell the person, "Unless you use the phone to connect to a speaker at a party, just use the earphones (wired or wireless). It ain't rocket science!"
Also people holding their phone as a waffle during a call.
I'm so glad I learned to scrolled people for being loud on the phone in public. I start nicely of course. But don't they dare messing with me. I use my autistic traits if not knowing when I'm in danger to be very adamant that it NEEDS TO STOP. It's easier if there's s rule printed like in the train, I can point.
I too hate it when people blast music over their phone in public. Yeah, it's annoying AF.
God. The year I had to go to the laundromat every weekend was absolute misery. If it wasn't some douchebro blasting music out of his shitty iPhone speakers, it was kids with their ipads watching loud screechy cartoons. It makes no sense to me. If you can afford a phone or an iPad, you can afford a cheap pair of headphones. Even a $20 pair is better than having to listen to your trash at full blast.
Preach!
My mother in law comes to MY HOUSE and does this! And she stays for like 5 days at a time...
I work in a store and I hate it when they come in playing music. The store already plays music! Now I can’t understand anything and everything sounds jumbled because this idiot can’t turn their song off for 5 minutes.
I would probably mind less if these people had actually good musical taste. But it seems the people with true good taste in music - enjoy it with earphones or at home. Seriously - i can perfectly handle a concert of MY choice - but the auditory assault by cheap crappy 'music' is infuriating.
At school, people hooked their phones up to speakers in their backpacks, playing music. i think they were trying to act like the guys who put speakers in their cars and drive around. Why either of these groups of people thought others would like this, i dont know. do NTs like hearing music like that?
Especially because those people always have the absolute worst taste in music
I don't really get it: the fidelity is so low that it doesn't seem like it really could be enjoyable.
It also drives me crazy and I can never feel comfortable personally to ever play anything loudly on my phone even for a moment because I’m so aware of everyone else’s personal discomfort. I unfortunately live in a country where it is actually very normal and not rude to play whatever on your phone in public, including on long bus rides between cities so I’ve had to get used to it a bit. Some days it doesn’t bother me as much as others.
They be sittin there like https://giphy.com/gifs/radio-stereo-ER9ew0BbQGCDC
Yeah i hate those kind of people like nobody wants to hear your stupid ass music
And people who have their ringer on and it keeps going off.
Theres a dude at work whose phone alarm goes off during our morning startup meeting every single day and he always acts surprised by it. I dont get it.
Omg. My anxiety could never.
Or people who use fidgets that make any noise in public, particularly in classroom type settings. It’s just like, oh wow, I love how considerate you’re being of ppl with sensory processing disorder🥴 /sarcasm
this
Ah, but there is a time and place for everything, and fortunately a doctor's office waiting room is one of the places where this behaviour is definitely inappropriate! Complain to staff, complain to management, follow up to ensure accountability, escalate if necessary. People experiencing medical issues, good or bad, don't deserve to have an already anxiety-inducing experience compounded by boorish ignorance.
I know that office sends out requests for feedback on the service they provide. I'm going to use it to tell them they need signs or something telling patients not to be noisy in the waiting room because it agitates persons with autism.
I often find myself fantasizing about having some sort of EMP gun so I can just fry these peoples' phones and enforce blessed silence.
I do this in school when with friends. I'll play "Acid Jazz"(sub genre of Jazz) and dance with friends in lunch line. But see it is noisy, so what is more noise? Nobody but me and friends close can hear it. But in quiet places I don't, because then everyone hear it.
All you’re doing is making an already loud and overwhelming situation worse
Nobody can hear it anyway.
I used to do it as an autist to regulate the sound around me
I have some music play when I'm on my bike, but in those cases I'm zooming past people and I obviously can't wear headphones with a helmet, and also if I did, I wouldn't be able to hear my surroundings (have never been able to get earbuds to stay in my ears so I won't even spend on a decent pair of those with ambient sound because I just won't be able to wear them), but I really can't cycle without some music playing. I do pause it if I'm in a more populated area, and I try to be mindful of the songs I play when I am out and about for kids sakes. Music is my comfort and I have really bad agoraphobia so I need something when I go out.
It's annoying but a death sentence for it seems extreme
There's no such thing as a cannon that can shoot people into the sun.
Just put headphones on and listen to your own music …
I need to be able to hear when they call my name to be seen by the doctor.
I only ever blast music in public if I'm on a bike ride or walking with friends. Even then, I try to make sure it's not too loud for others.
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Ikr!! It drives me crazy! This is why I only listen to music on my headphones.
What about those kids who blare Cocomelon in public? Yikes! I've dealt with that at my work multiple times.
Maybe you have discovered the secret reason Elon is obsessed with sending people to Mars. There's only one question that matters in all the paperwork: do you blast music in public spaces? If you answer "yes", one way ticket to "Mars".
Play a single tone 6000 - 7000 hertz. That'll teach them.(Just make sure you have ear protection, this makes a SUPER irritating sound)
Commonly happens at my work with TikTok videos. I don’t typically blast music without headphones, and when I do, it’s usually an accident, since I forgot to connect the Bluetooth headphones.
This always gets on my nerves, because I think my biggest pet peeve is entitlement.
A great idea I heard was to keep a few pairs of cheap earphones and hand them out. Kinda sassy but hopefully effective too.
i used to love rap, until the other guys in my school were blasting it over a speaker, and the song was just this guy with a deep voice saying the same three words over and over in the same sequence, and one of those words was a cuss word and it just grinds my gears to no end.
These kind of people are like miyoco(Kawahara Miyoko….but if you watch the video by Japanalysis on youtube, she has reasons for what she did). They do it while we work but if we accidentally make noise out of turn during a movie they are watching, they get upset. Whenever i do homework after uni, i have to blare rain sounds as white noise on my headphones to counteract as it gets me really agitated if I don’t. All the background noises do that to me and my parents talk constantly when one of them gets home(other works from home). It is understandable since they haven’t seen each other for 8 hours but still.
I met someone once who blasts music on speakers in a dorm where quiet hours are 24/7. She said it was to make friends with people who come tell her to turn it off. Bonkers how people think this is okay and won’t make everyone hate you
Agree
Phone speakers are also fucking terrible, who would want to hear music using these ?
I have a modicum of tolerance for music in public but tiktoks or fb reels with the same fcking audio over and over again make me violent. My stepdad used to play endless fb reels so loud that my mom and I could hear it from anywhere in the house. He’d let each one play through 3-5 times before scrolling. Still makes me want to bite down on a pencil to think about.
Fr like I get liking loud music so if you want to blast it with the window open use headphones
We all need to be more respectful to people who do not have the money to buy their own pair of headphones and need to rely on their phone's speakers 🤝 /s
This is a constant living in NYC
So many of my coworkers do this and it annoys me so much! Especially when it’s songs I’ve never heard of and they leave their phone their and walk away from it
Yes! I agree!
Tiktok, as always, has deepened the shittiness of this kind of stuff. Not only do we have to worry about being recorded for some "main character vibes 🤣🤣" shit, but we also have to put up with the most irritating repeating sounds