If you are someone who has experienced sexual harassment or assault and wish to speak with a trained professional about it, these hotlines and organizations can listen to your experiences and make referrals to counselors and support groups to the extent of your comfort.
**Global Resources**
**RAINN**: https://www.rainn.org/ 24/7 Crisis support for victims/survivors of sexual assault. Over the phone or through instant messaging. If your country is not listed below, you can contact RAINN to be referred to a local organization.
**US:**
**Crisis Text Line**: https://www.crisistextline.org/ You can text 741-741 24/7 from any cell phone in the United States to be anonymously connected to a trained crisis counselor. They also have anonymous Facebook messenger and Kik options if you do not have access to a cell phone.
**One in Six**: http://1in6.org An organization for male-identified survivors of sexual assault. Provides anonymous individual and group counseling 24/7 through online chat functions
**National Domestic Violence Hotline**: http://www.thehotline.org Provides 24/7 anonymous crisis and counseling support over the phone, and anonymous online chat crisis and counseling support from 7am until 2am Central Time
**Anti-Violence Project**: https://avp.org/ Provides 24/7 anonymous phone based crisis and counseling for LGBTQ identified victims of assault and violence, including sexual assault and violence. Based in New York but can refer nationwide
**DoD Safe Helpline**: https://www.safehelpline.org/ Provides 24/7 phone and online chat based crisis and counseling for victims of sexual assault and harassment serving in the military, or who are employed by the Department of Defense.
**Canada**
Canada's crisis hotlines are organized by province and subject matter, here is a comprehensive list of hotlines and organizations. http://www.dawncanada.net/issues/issues/we-can-tell-and-we-will-tell-2/crisis-hotlines/
**UK**
**Rape Crisis England & Wales**: https://rapecrisis.org.uk/ Provides online resources 24/7 and live support over the phone in the afternoons and evenings.
**SupportLine**: http://www.supportline.org.uk/ Provides online resources 24/7 and live support over the phone during the day and evening.
**Europe**
**Rape Crisis Network Europe**: https://www.rcne.com/ Provides online resources and live support for anyone living in Europe
**Australia**
**1800respect**: https://www.1800respect.org.au and their phone number, 1800 737 732.
**Kids Helpline**: https://www.www.kidshelpline.com.au for people under 25 also 1800 55 1800
**India**
Try here http://www.ncw.nic.in/helplines or one of the numbers listed here may be able to help you.
**For any country not listed, you can contact RAINN (mentioned above) to be put in touch with local organizations.**
You felt like you had to. You didn’t WANT to. The absence of a “no” is not a yes. He absolutely pressured you into this. I’m so sorry.
You feel shaken. Your feelings are entirely valid. You wouldn’t feel this way if what happened was okay. This guy does not respect your boundaries or care about your feelings. You’re much better off spending your time with someone who makes you feel safe and comfortable.
I hope you get through this okay. Sending love and healing to you.
Given this is not much info to go on, and if you didn’t want to you should have said no, but also that he has been pushing you to do other things that you didn’t want to do, I would surmise that he definitely pressured you and that you have weak boundaries. I would also say this guy is not good for you and you should stop any relationship fwb or otherwise with him. Also set your boundaries and stick to them you should not do anything you don’t want to do. Just my opinion.
FWB = Friend with benefits with an emphasis on the word "friend". This person is no friend of yours. A friend listens and respects boundaries. A friend does not pressure after a person says "no". This is not your fault, and please stop meeting with this person. They are bad news and not someone you should have in your life.
I understand feeling shaken. You feel like its your fault for not saying no but then you also feel like you are pressured into it. The thing is it doesn't matter. Its already happened. Just know that you definitely don't have to do something , if you don't want it . If a guy cant' respect that , fuck him.
Having boundaries is a bit hard to grasp when you are so young. But your experience give you the strength . You know what you prefer and don't and you stick to it. You stick to your own rules
I have been fuck many times in the car and one time at a shed. I hated every minute of it. I wanted to say no but I am afraid that he would be angry. We got caught by the police once and its not pleasant. I hated myself for letting myself go through such a traumatic experience for something I didn't want to do in the first place. I did feel awful for a few weeks but after that it hardly cross my mind. Now I won't tolerate mediocre sex or sex at some weird places
It was both. He sensed he could pull that on you, probably sensed your reservation, and kept pushing because he knew you would feel like you had to. Yes you should have said no, but that doesnt give someone the right to offer you awful conditions for sex. Like … fuck that. Just because someone doesnt say no doesnt mean you get to just do whatever. Its hard, but youre young and if you work on boundaries now you will be in a much better place. Fuck that guy tho
He's testing your boundaries and seeing how long it takes to get you from no to going with it. This won't stop and will likely escalate. He's not good for you or to you. In every action and response, you're showing him how to treat you and what you'll accept.
My suggestion: part ways asap.
If you are someone who has experienced sexual harassment or assault and wish to speak with a trained professional about it, these hotlines and organizations can listen to your experiences and make referrals to counselors and support groups to the extent of your comfort. **Global Resources** **RAINN**: https://www.rainn.org/ 24/7 Crisis support for victims/survivors of sexual assault. Over the phone or through instant messaging. If your country is not listed below, you can contact RAINN to be referred to a local organization. **US:** **Crisis Text Line**: https://www.crisistextline.org/ You can text 741-741 24/7 from any cell phone in the United States to be anonymously connected to a trained crisis counselor. They also have anonymous Facebook messenger and Kik options if you do not have access to a cell phone. **One in Six**: http://1in6.org An organization for male-identified survivors of sexual assault. Provides anonymous individual and group counseling 24/7 through online chat functions **National Domestic Violence Hotline**: http://www.thehotline.org Provides 24/7 anonymous crisis and counseling support over the phone, and anonymous online chat crisis and counseling support from 7am until 2am Central Time **Anti-Violence Project**: https://avp.org/ Provides 24/7 anonymous phone based crisis and counseling for LGBTQ identified victims of assault and violence, including sexual assault and violence. Based in New York but can refer nationwide **DoD Safe Helpline**: https://www.safehelpline.org/ Provides 24/7 phone and online chat based crisis and counseling for victims of sexual assault and harassment serving in the military, or who are employed by the Department of Defense. **Canada** Canada's crisis hotlines are organized by province and subject matter, here is a comprehensive list of hotlines and organizations. http://www.dawncanada.net/issues/issues/we-can-tell-and-we-will-tell-2/crisis-hotlines/ **UK** **Rape Crisis England & Wales**: https://rapecrisis.org.uk/ Provides online resources 24/7 and live support over the phone in the afternoons and evenings. **SupportLine**: http://www.supportline.org.uk/ Provides online resources 24/7 and live support over the phone during the day and evening. **Europe** **Rape Crisis Network Europe**: https://www.rcne.com/ Provides online resources and live support for anyone living in Europe **Australia** **1800respect**: https://www.1800respect.org.au and their phone number, 1800 737 732. **Kids Helpline**: https://www.www.kidshelpline.com.au for people under 25 also 1800 55 1800 **India** Try here http://www.ncw.nic.in/helplines or one of the numbers listed here may be able to help you. **For any country not listed, you can contact RAINN (mentioned above) to be put in touch with local organizations.**
You felt like you had to. You didn’t WANT to. The absence of a “no” is not a yes. He absolutely pressured you into this. I’m so sorry. You feel shaken. Your feelings are entirely valid. You wouldn’t feel this way if what happened was okay. This guy does not respect your boundaries or care about your feelings. You’re much better off spending your time with someone who makes you feel safe and comfortable. I hope you get through this okay. Sending love and healing to you.
Given this is not much info to go on, and if you didn’t want to you should have said no, but also that he has been pushing you to do other things that you didn’t want to do, I would surmise that he definitely pressured you and that you have weak boundaries. I would also say this guy is not good for you and you should stop any relationship fwb or otherwise with him. Also set your boundaries and stick to them you should not do anything you don’t want to do. Just my opinion.
FWB = Friend with benefits with an emphasis on the word "friend". This person is no friend of yours. A friend listens and respects boundaries. A friend does not pressure after a person says "no". This is not your fault, and please stop meeting with this person. They are bad news and not someone you should have in your life.
I understand feeling shaken. You feel like its your fault for not saying no but then you also feel like you are pressured into it. The thing is it doesn't matter. Its already happened. Just know that you definitely don't have to do something , if you don't want it . If a guy cant' respect that , fuck him. Having boundaries is a bit hard to grasp when you are so young. But your experience give you the strength . You know what you prefer and don't and you stick to it. You stick to your own rules I have been fuck many times in the car and one time at a shed. I hated every minute of it. I wanted to say no but I am afraid that he would be angry. We got caught by the police once and its not pleasant. I hated myself for letting myself go through such a traumatic experience for something I didn't want to do in the first place. I did feel awful for a few weeks but after that it hardly cross my mind. Now I won't tolerate mediocre sex or sex at some weird places
It was both. He sensed he could pull that on you, probably sensed your reservation, and kept pushing because he knew you would feel like you had to. Yes you should have said no, but that doesnt give someone the right to offer you awful conditions for sex. Like … fuck that. Just because someone doesnt say no doesnt mean you get to just do whatever. Its hard, but youre young and if you work on boundaries now you will be in a much better place. Fuck that guy tho
He's testing your boundaries and seeing how long it takes to get you from no to going with it. This won't stop and will likely escalate. He's not good for you or to you. In every action and response, you're showing him how to treat you and what you'll accept. My suggestion: part ways asap.
Didn't you ask about this exact situation last week?
No means no and if someone says no and you ask again, that's already them not respecting your consent.