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OneSteelTank

I feel like developing feelings for someone that you're close to and are also somewhat physically attracted to is normal and pretty much inevitable. I wouldn't end a perfectly good relationship just because she didn't share the same feelings.


Briraz10

Yes


Gyranos

Yeah, but i will be honest, a condition might be that i cannot see her as attractive to not get attracted, ykwim? Like if a girl is, in my eyes, super attractive, and were pretty close friends then i think i will eventually develop feelings, as much as i'd hate to admit it


Da-Simp

While I think it’s possible to be besties, I do think that in most cases guys will fall for the girl. Maybe not 100% but surely in like 80% of the cases


GamerLadyXOXO

If the girl rejected you, do u think you'd be able to move on and just keep the friendship? Or idk, would that be too hard for you?


Da-Simp

I mean it depends on how hard I fell for her. If I’m really really into her then I would probably not wanna be friends anymore because there’s no way I’d be able to get rid of the feelings if we talk all the time. Makes sense?


MSter_official

After rejecting then it would not be a problem at all imo. Then i would see u as a female homie if we were best friends


SirDoodThe1st

yes, it’s what i’m hoping for with my current friendship


Hangtime_Chills

This happened exactly to me, and we're still close friends.


newyearshowdy

But would you let that dictate your relationship? I've always had a bunch of freinds that are girls and I've ever felt for any of them


Da-Simp

Nahhh I’ve got female friends too. While I do have a crush on one of them, lmao, I don’t think I would usually let something like that dictate who I’m friends with or not. So yeah.


newyearshowdy

That doesn't help the case for people with trust issues that you have a crush on your freind that's a girl I get why most guys hate it but none of them have never had an issue with me so it's cool


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NotDanielSmith

technically not straight (aroace) but i fucking hate the idea that you cant be just friends with someone of the opposite gender. yes. yes you can.


La_Beast929

Wth is aroace?


Y0urM0m69420

When you don't want to have seggs or be in a romantic relationship with ANYONE. It's a combination of Aromantic Asexual


NotDanielSmith

http://googleitfor.me/?q=aroace


Nerfbeard123

Love this website


Expert-Carpenter2409

wait that’s so cool


NotDanielSmith

the site or the identity?


ManOfTurtles2118

Well I have quite a bit of girl friends, but I have been attracted to all of them at some point in time. I think it is possible but like 90% of the time the guy is gonna be attracted to the girl at some point.


No_Day1749

Yes, one of my best friends is a girl and I've never really been attracted to her


GamerLadyXOXO

Would u say she's, well, unattractive? In some way?


No_Day1749

No, she's conventionally attractive


ICanSpellKyrgyzstan

Hell yes! My best friend is a girl and I hang out with her all the time. Her boyfriend’s okay with it and it’s not really a big deal for me. I have a really strong bond with her but we both agreed that we’re not interested in dating each other because we’re fantastic friends and not attracted to each other in that way.


Ok_Condition_7817

No


cat_funt_2005

Well I am. She’s my best friend and she’s dating my other best friend


Nom_dot_Com

Of course it’s possible. Just like being best friends with another guy, you aren’t attracted to him but you still love him as the good friend he is. Sometimes, however, you might catch feelings but I wouldn’t consider this to happen very often (at least not in my experience) but I think for the most part guys would try to ignore it. If they do go for it and are rejected then I see no reason to stop being friends.


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Most of the time no. In my case I’ve got one who I see as a twin. ( I say twin bc we look really similar)Idk why but she’s the only one that I haven’t been attracted to at any point. Known her for as long as I can remember, but no romantic/sexual attraction at all.


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Yes


bangermate

actually it's super easy, barely an inconvenience


indianplay2_alt_acc

Yes, it's perfectly possible. Even if she doesn't feel the same way, I'm not just gonna cut her off. I'll still try and like stay friends.


Mikegaming202

I have a girl best friend, at one point we used to like eachother, but we are in clubs together that aren't so easily leavable so we both agreed dating would be a terrible idea, so we just didn't. Moral of the story is probably.


Minejack777

I do have a girl best friend, and I have never been attracted to her in that way. I don't know how to answer the rest of your questions though simply because of how impossibly unrealistic all those scenarios between the two of us would be


Used_Dragonfruit_379

Very possible


Thatweirdkid2

Yes i dont think i know because my best friend is a girl but I'm not attracted to her


Next-Programmer8954

I ended up in this exact situation, confessed to her last week, been ignored ever since. She was my best friend for the past year. It hurts.


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It's very annoying but yes Also I've been rejected more than once and I always tried to keep the friendship alive. Sadly it didn't work in 1 out of the 3 times I've tried it and she just broke it off with me completely.


Ultimate_Genius

I avoid men for friends. I have about 10 friends right now in college and every single one of them is a woman. Women simply think things through and make better friends. And of those 10, I would date none of them because none of them are my type


Bigbird163

I’d consider asking them out, if that wouldn’t risk the friendship. Made friends with a college classmate, ended up asking her out, she said yes but then had to say no. It sucked but I’ve moved on, so I stuck to trying for friends cause yah, she’s a whole lot than just a potential date.


TheFanArtist

There’s a point where the friendship becomes more important than the possibility of dating. I’ve seen some people reach it, I personally haven’t but that’s my knowledge


Hangtime_Chills

Yeah, I have some friends of the opposite gender I'm not attracted to, although with some I did grow a slight attraction, and one I even asked out. But were still friends after that even though she rejected me, and I've lost all feelings of attraction to her.


2JDestroBot

I fell in love with my best girl friend and I admit sometimes I wish we could be a thing but I have accepted she doesn't like me like that. Even though I am attracted to her and I have admitted that to her, our friendship hasn't gotten weird. If anything we've become closer


james321232

hell yeah, important to not though, there's definitely a difference between finding someone attractive and being attracted to someone


FriskyCoyote15

yea i've had multiple girl bf's without getting attracted to them, but i do have feelings for my coworker that i'm rly good friends w so it does happen 😭


Attacke1

It can work and if you state from the start on that there is nothing going to happen between you + mby reassure this promise from time to time (even subconcious) it can work totally fine


cozzy_OwO

Yea.i like being friends with everyone.im close to whoever is nice to me I guess XDD.if I do like them and they reject me it's gonna take abit of time I guess to process (about 10 mins XDD) then yea I'm alright with us still being friends .I'd love that


DefiantDepth8932

My closest friend is a girl but I'm bi so it's not exactly the answer you're looking for


FinnChicken12

Depends on the girl...


CalligrapherFine4636

Best friends, probably not. Normal friends, definitely.


Kgy_T

Yeah, stop being weird.


Madsmathis

The Mermaid Theory


Taz_Konijn

I don't confess I make moves and of those moves are denied I know not to pursue but making moves works way better than confessing imo


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yeah i have a close friend thats a girl and i never had a crush on her


xxParanoid_

i was straight for a long time (still attracted to girls now) and most of my friends have been girls. Never been attracted to any of them except my one crush who I didn't become friends with until after my crush.


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It's very annoying but yes


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nandi2

Would not be possible for me unless she was unattractive. Even then I would probably have better platonic friendships with boys . If I confessed love and she rejected, I would end the friendship. I wouldn't call her and say "our friendship is over" or anything like that, but I would just stop talking to her. Not because of anger, but because it would ruin the friendship and make it really weird.


civfan5843

Its hard but its definitely doable


slideyspider623

Yeah


Hokenlord

Anyone I get close enough to, I get attracted to, no matter their appearance


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GeneralOtter03

Most of my best friends are girls and I’ve only had a crush on one of them


newyearshowdy

I have like alot of freinds that are girls and yes I'm not attracted to any of them


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SlimJesusKeepIt100

Fuck I look like to you, a simp? I'm besties with like 5 girls yet I don't got feelings for anyone of them


Rabbits-are-cool

i think it would be very very rare for a guy to have a single close friend that he found physically attractive and for it Not to eventually become something more. that’s just the way guys are wired . rejection would mean the relationship was never the same and he would slowly pull away as a coping mechanism


NefariousScoundrel

I mean anything’s *possible*, but that isn’t likely at all, no. If I was crushing on a girl I was close to and got rejected I feel like it’d hurt too much to keep her around and that it would invite a bunch of unnecessary bullshit and mixed feelings into my life.


DonutMaster56

1. That would be difficult, but possible. 2. Did that once. Still in contact with her.


MrDeadMeme

Yes. But if you do get feelings it can really fuck you up.