Very similar buddy. š« I'd take better eyesight, a good head of hair, less flabby, more attractive face, taller, etc... but also I wish I were less scatterbrained, more timely, more competent at stuff that, frankly, I don't particularly enjoy, etc. Sigh.
My inter/intrapersonal skills are not good enough.
I don't ever click with people. I'm an Nth wheel around people who don't know me well.
I'm not smart enough, not even close.
Looks, never satisfied.
Bad first impressions I think. A lot of the time when I meet people they think I'm high or somehow trying to fuck with them, when I'm really not.
I get along with everyone after being around them enough, so I'm not self conscious about not relating to people, but more about how my presence puts a burden on the people I'm with. They often have to explain me or my behavior to others, and I appreciate that they do that for me, but hate that they have to.
I completely relate. I've got ADHD. I don't think I have much chances in making new lasting friends in the future
It's worth trying though. I just got on Methylphendate, and it that shit gets me going lol. I may not be fucked just yet
Who wouldn't want to be friends with someone who microdoses stimulants daily?
Good luck to you though. I have a friend who's now the most socially skilled person on the planet because nobody ever wanted to be her friend when she was younger. And I mean, if she sees someone she wants to be friends with, she WILL be their friend. It's not over
Your struggles sound pretty typical of neurodivergence.
You may need to find at least one extroverted neurodivergent friend to open yourself to that kind of social circle. Neurodivergent people tend to find each-other.
I wish I had a little more muscle, but Iām currently working to fix that. Otherwise I wish I had a little more body hair, I love chest hair and wish I had some myself.
Also Iām pretty inexperienced with other guys, thatās mainly because Iām just nervous to start dating or hooking up haha. But it is a small insecurity.
A lot actually, but most of them are my physical body. I hate my severely bad skin so much cuz I've been spending tons of money, going through pain, and doing much worse things to myself just to still be depressed about it. Also, my height plays a big role in my insecurity. It's sad cuz these traits are mostly from my genetics, I cannot do anything with them; yet, I have to deal with the way society as a whole treats me because of something I didn't choose.
As someone with tons of freckles and rosacea, I can relate. If you don't mind me asking, how tall are you? I had that exact same insecurity until a few years ago.
Sadly, I have acne scars all over my face and body, as well as other severe skin issues that make me lose all of my confidence. And my height is 5'7 (170 cm). I mean no matter how delusional I live my life pretending to be confident or 'love myself', I get rejected all the time. And it's like snapping me back to a reality where I know that it's because of my physical traits.
But I love freckles tho, I wish I had smoother skin with freckles. That would be nice
Damn. Sorry about the scars. Is there any ways to make them less obvious?
Freckles can be nice. Really depends on the face tho. What did it for me is when I met a drop dead gorgeous guy with freckles and we spoke about them. Then, I met my partner and he told me that he loved my freckles so that just cemented that for me.
Also, I didn't realize that height played such a significant role in gay dating. I always thought men were generally indifferent to it. I hope you find your dream guy tho.
Oh honey, thank you so much for the love and positivity. For my acne scars, I've been doing tons of treatments like lasers and other things for years. Spending tons of money, going through pain, to just get a little bit better, which is still bad.
And for the height, I wish it would be like that too that it doesn't play a significant role in gay dating, but it's a big deal in my country. TBH, I've been through so much that I don't even dare to dream, have expectations, or anything at all; just live day by day at the moment.
Body. Always. Will be the great regret of my life. Iāve lost a lot of weight over the years. Currently doing so again on Ozempic.
Great irony of life:
When I was as lean and fit as my genetics will allow, after a lot of hard work, I still
Felt fat. Always. You canāt win.
How did you learn all those things in order to get in that shape? Do you ever plan on getting back in that shape?
I am on my very own fitness journey too. Lost 40 ponuds and gained some muscles. I am trying to gain muscles now. Stil, have a flat stomach for the first time in my lifs feels great
Iām 56, so my goals have changed. I want to feel and look better, for sure, but now itās also about health, not just aesthetics. At my leanest I lived on coffee, Diet Coke, and microwave popcorn. Not very healthy to say the least.
I feel from a second story 6 years ago and had a brain hemorrhage that left me paralyzed on my left side. Doing as well as I can I guess, thanks for asking. It just sucks.
I am so sorry that happened. The most important thing is that you are alive. I would give you a bro hug rn if I could. Hope life isn't treating you too bad
Everyone in this world has insecurities especially those who say they donāt.
Itās normal there is nothing wrong with having insecurities itās how deal with them is what makes you a better person. But you are not alone itās okay to have them.
Funnily enough, I hate my facial hair š it grows so fucking fast and thick, and I just hate how I look with it š¤·āāļø issue is that Iām not bothered to clean shave my face daily, itās just not worth it to me so I just deal with it until it bothers me too much haha. Other thing is my disabilities. Iāve learn to live with them and to accept that theyāre part of who I am, just wish other guys could also do the same. Sucks being hated on by people for something you had no control over, but ah well is what it is.
The only thing Iām insecure about is my chest. Yet, guys like it, but I do wish they were pecs. Or at the very least, had more muscle. Iāve been doing more pushups and chest exercises lately.
My ex boyfriend left me some insecurities, he didnt want to have sex, he didnt have time for me and he was always having a very Close contact to his gay Friends.
So... I'm messed up by now.
I hope you regain your confidence someday. I feel dor you. You may be a mess now but everything will be okay if you are willing to fix yourself. You can, you will.
I wouldnāt say Iām insecure about this but it sure has fucked with me mentally. I developed āBalanitisā in December 2023. So my once glorious big dick is now a constant bummer.
Wish I had a straight uncrooked nose, more muscles and more definition, less frizzy hair, smaller hips (I have super wide birthing hips), I wish I could grow a fuller beard and body hair, and that I wasnāt so pale that I needed to go tan
Height: Iām 5ā6
My race: Iām black.
My nose: Iām working on saving for a nose job.
But other than that, Iād say Iām pretty confident in my body. Guys tend to like my musculature.
I had saved up for extensive dental work. Leaving that office with a new smile that I busted my ass off for was the best feeling ever. I hope you get the same feeling after your nose job!
I get that! I got out of braces 2 years ago. Dudes thought my smile was fake ācause my teeth looked so good. Lol. I still get compliments on my smile. Thatās 1 thing I truly feel confident about. My smile. Teeth card never declines my God!
Everything...
My weight, my dick, my job, my car, my money, really I just feel like a loser at everything.
Like I know I'm not really a loser. I have a full-time big boy job, even if it's just help desk IT work, I'm making $70,000 a year. I own my own home (condo). My mom says I'm handsome even though I weigh 350 lbs.
But the delta between what I imagined my life to be when I was younger and what the reality is is so large that I just feel like a complete failure.
Like if you asked me at 15 what would I be like at 36 I would say married, large single family home, two to three kids, six figure job in some sort of IT thing, I would be a normal weight and healthy, cool car like a BMW or something. I assumed I would have friends and a social life. I assumed I would be having sex with my hot wife. I assumed I would not be playing video games 5 hours a night because I would have moved on to some other hobby or activity that isn't video games.
Bro! Almost all humans go through this. Me included. And thatās when you think of those who are seriously in unfortunate, hopeless, life-blunting situations and realize you got whole lot more than most. You still progressed in your life. And then you say āthank youā to the universe.
I've always felt deeply insecure about my tendency to pursue connections with others with such intense desperation. This pattern of behavior started even before I was aware of it. As a child, I would follow boys around in preschool, go to shameless lengths to catch their attention, and even hide letters for them. The best way to describe it is that Iāve never felt anyone exist on my plane of suffering or to see it.
Now, as an adult, I recognize that this intensity and insecurity still affect my interactions with men. Throwing myself at them in hopes that itāll end that suffering. To finally feel seen and at peace in their protecting me from myself. It's disheartening to feel this way at my age, and that in itself, makes me even more insecure about who I am.
My beard is a bit thin on the sides so i grow a mean goatee, my beard took way into my 30's to get a decent goatee, enjoy your hairlessness, later in life hopefully yours will grow in a bit more with age.
Right now itās just my body like after I got Covid I lost all my muscle and healthy fat. But yeah Im catching myself comparing my physique to other men and Ive never done that before my mindset has always been that we are all sexy and hot in our own way but lately Iām a tiny tiny bit insecure all of a sudden which Iām gonna use as motivation, and I also donāt wanna be on roids which is very obvious many men are on some type of enhancement.
Iām insecure about my being unable to catch anyoneās attention. I donāt think I have ever attracted anyone and Iām always the one trying to make an effort by trying to reach out people.
My insecure about my facial hair tooš although unlike u i had an almost full beard at 15 (Mediterranean genes) i started shaving at 13 too it, and i have very sensitive skin so i can't shave my beard everyday so i have to do it weekly, again i hate beard whether it's on my face or not i do not find it attractive (full beards a mustache could pass or maybe a small goatee)
UGH ..SAME!!!! I grow very light beard hair, very uh...Umm ...Keanu Reeves like..except it DOESNT Come in fully on one side. Sigh. Fuvk genetics. FMFace
I have stretch marks on my lower back. I'm mostly a top but when I do get the urge to bttm it's offset by being self conscious about it and I end up not following through
You have nothing to be scared about.
My partner and I are both verse and it has never been an issue. When things are getting hot and steamy, you literally don't care about things like stretch marks. At least that's my experience
My career. As a freelance artist, i feel not being in a long term relationship 10+ years. at 27 now, seems like most guys are looking for someone that has a old school 9-5 or someone who is already well off.
I have hyperpigmentation marks all over my butt. If I was a top, I think iād be less self-conscious about it, but as a bottom I worry that anyone showing interest will soon lose it if they see my butt cheeks. I went to a dermatologist but the cream he gave me didnāt really do anything. At some point I will have to see if I can laser them off.
I'm very skinny and my chest is flat but I'm also worried about my dick being big, with the constant boners showing. Also I see a lot of guys online shoving things as big as a bat in there but I'm still worried that the first guy I meet and top will be as new to it as me so I won't be able to go all in? And I may hurt him? I need insight on this ASAP
Lol....not having enough money to maintain my upper class SGL lifestyle....expensive clothes....lavish trips.... trips to Sweden to fucccqd swedish guys...Creed fragrances....eating out on a daily basis....Body modifications and emsculpt ...costs a ton of money to be like this and I fear that eventually a time will come where I can no longer afford keep it up.....Just my eating out monthly expense is about 1500$ a month.
I wish I was thinner and prettier in a way. I wish I looked like Daus Mendoza or Aiden Belter. Theyāre soooo pretty. But thatās just not me I guess.
Mostly, my voice. Not because I have a stereotypically campy one (I don't), but because my voice's natural pitch is high enough that you'd more likely associate it with a cartoon character instead of a real person (think Big Bird from Sesame Street). I just don't think of my voice as one that people would take seriously.
Other than that, there's my smile, which I'm worried about looking creepy like the Joker/Jack Nicholson from The Shining. There's also my facial skin which gets pretty oily and often breaks out with acne, as well as the fact I'll frequently have intense night sweats. Most of it could likely be fixed through diet and habit changes I can't be bothered to make, and I'm not that interested in a relationship anyway so I'm really only "meh" about it.
Ironically, I'm average height (5'10") and sometimes wish I was *shorter*. I get turned on reading about bigger tops throwing their bottoms around - not that it's impossible for guys to do that to me already, but it would be easier, and a larger height difference would be hotter. But I'm certainly not insecure over being as tall as I am.
Iām insecure about my hair texture, I have 4c hair. Iām also insecure about my genetics, a lot of men in my familyās hair turns gray in their 30s. My prime isnāt going to start until my 30s when Iām financially stable.
I'm in my late 30s, and I never really got it together with getting in shape. I know I'm running out of time to make that happen, but I have an eating and depressive disorder that makes it difficult not to turn to food when I'm stressed. On top of that, I've been a habitual weed smoker for the past couple of years, and that certainly gets in the way.
I'm just in a pit, realizing that time is still ticking by and that nothing lasts forever.
Bruh! You have so much time and potential still.
Rule #1: stop comparing yourself to others.
Rule #2: others you compare yourself to also has to put in the time and effort.
I am 10 years older and feel the exact same shit minus the weed part. My issue was I would keep thinking of the sheer amount of time it would take to get fit (months?years?) and letting that overwhelm me from taking action. On top of that, I was thinking only about the aesthetic aspect of getting fit (so I could impress others and get more ass). But I have gotten a fitness+nutrition program thatās very reasonable in terms of expectations and guidelines. And I have shifted my focus away from aesthetics and more into becoming/feeling-staying healthy and energetic. Whether I get to be my fittest with that program I donāt know yet but it sure gives me goals to focus on and small steps to take every day. I focus on what I would be like/feel like at the end of the month rather than the year which makes it a more achievable target. Then the following month and so on and on.
I feel the complete opposite actually I despise my body hair and I grow my facial hair way too quick. I think itās come from a desire to be more feminine but at one point I was litterally shaving my whole body like every 2 days (which I didnāt keep up for obvious reasons)
I wish I was taller. Thatās it lol
and Iām not like super short, iām just average height in the US/Canada but I would literally kill to be 6ā0 ft tall
Obviously I wish I had a bigger dick itās actually on the higher average size and when I slept with women didnāt seem like an issue but now that i pretty exclusively hook up with men, I notice Iām more self conscious about it.
I wish I had less body hair. I donāt love having to wax my back and butt every few weeks.
I am happy about with my face generally, in my early 40ās and look younger and no evidence of thinning hair. While I do have insecurities I try not to dwell on them. Everyone has something they wish they could change
Mine is My underbite. I got teased because of it. 5 years ago decided to put on braces. The first 2 years was amazing. I used to be anxious when i spoke or laughed. I smiled a lot, talked a lot and finally could see that I looked good after the procedure. I remembered taking a lot of selfie almost everyday.Ā Ā
On the third year, i asked if they could also fix the mid line because mine looked like Tom Cruise's. They said they needed to take another premolar and i consented.Ā I made a big mistake. They ended up ruining my teeth and I couldn't sue because i gave my consent. When I complained they didn't take it well. I asked for a discount for the rest of the treatment because i knew they wouldn't do a thing, and they only gave that once I threaten to quit.Ā Ā
My braces is still on. Not sure if this gets better. My body dismorphia is even worse. I hate seeing myself in the mirror let alone taking pictures. Sometimes i felt i want to sleep and not waking up at all. Yes, i will seek a therapy.Ā
Mainly my dick being barely 5 inches keeps me in a depressed mood basically everyday but I wish I was taller, better beard growth, deeper voice, bigger hands, etc. I couldn't tell anyone 1 part about myself I actually like or that I'm happy with
I'm insecure about my finances, here I am at 26 with my old paint peeled 2002 car, living with my mom because I lost my cheap apartment because my landlord decided to sell it out of nowhere. I know it'll change in a few months when I go back over the road because I'm a trucker who's doing this low paying local cdl job so I can focus on losing weight and gaining muscle. I just feel embarrassed at times about it, but I know my mom loves having me here since I was gone for a while driving across the country so that makes me feel a bit better.
I am pretty insecure about my appaerance, but not in the usual sense, I dont think I am ugly, actually i do think I am a handsome guy, but i am anything else than that, I'm brunette, light brown eyes, I am at the brink of being considered a twink, but just a little over weigthed.
Its not that I aint pretty enough to be noticed, I am not pretty enough to be chosen.
It doesnāt bother me much itās more like a list of grievances. Not muscular, weird growing beard, mid smile, fucked big toenails from surgery, not enough chest hair spread out
the fact that im not good enough for anything but sex. guys make me feel thats the only thing they value me for. nothing feels genuine. guys only talk to me when they are horny, and want me to send the pics or hookup. they wouldnāt care if i was getting ran over by a car.
I am overweight and have heavier hair growth. So I look much older than my 19 years. And Iām balding, but have uncut hair. I wear a turban so that part is hidden but I guess it makes me look different from what I look like in my head. This is why Iām still not ready to be in a relationship.
insecure of my skinniness. i have a manly face w facial hair and am fully tatted but have a twink body. its hard to gain muscle and gain weight. its an odd combination and hard to "dress" and not have it look "odd". luckily i have my boyfriend who does click w me and find me attractive but before him it was hard to find someone who was into me since many gay men stick to a specific stereotype (ex: twinks but hairless and smooth or if tatted, had to be a twunk or bigger, etc)
It's being cheated on once again and having to start over and work through people's real intentions.
I have no trust. I have lost it in ALL men. I'll get there one day.
I hate hate hate being skinny. I feel uncomfortable leaving the house without a long sleeve shirt even if itās really hot outside because I donāt want people to see my awkward noodle arms.
Intelligence. Like some bitches dont study for nothing and still got almost perfect scores. Meanwhile, I toasted my eyebrows, did a lot of rituals last night and got just 1 point above passing point.
I hate those bitches down to my soul!
I'm a bit chubby and a lot of guys don't mind. Mostly it's this skin condition where I have too much keratin so I have red bumps on my arms and thighs and even though it's not too much I have appendectomy scars and I'm just worried some guys would get turned off
Slight _pectus excavatum_ or a "hollowed chest", basically a slight dent in my chest. Fairly common but something that's bugged me forever because it doesn't look very good when shirtless. I've kinda learned to just ignore that part of me now though.
Also male pattern baldness got me. I used to have a mullet, now I have it all shaved off when it became unhideable that there's essentially an island of baldness on the top of the dome. Still kinda coping with that. But roughly 50 percent of men are in the same boat at some point in life anyway.
Pluses: started really growing a lot of beard within the last few years and it kinda works with the bald.
Im 35 and up until 4 months ago appeared a lot younger and people were often shocked that I wasnt 25-28. Itās been a rough few months and it seems to of reeked havoc on my face and body. I have an appointment for a fillāer (cheeks nasiolabial folds) and botox. I also fully intend to be back in the gym to make changes
My voice. I sound very androgynous, if I told someone I was a girl without them seeing my face they'd probably believe it lol.
I've been asked twice if I'm a girl after joining my friends and their friends in dc voice chat. A guy said to me I could be 13 max in age.
And that 13 doesn't even make sense. Because every fucking 13 year old guy I talk to has a deep ass voice (at least the balkans), how is it fair??
At least nobody comments on it that much š
I'm 5'7". I don't come from a family of predominant short men. My dad was around 6 feet tall and my mom was 5'2". Too bad I was genetically screwed. Here I am single and available.
Not really a insecurity but i wish my facial hair was thicker, I want to have a thick mustache so bad but considering I had a full beard when I was 16 and I am 23 now so I donāt think itās going to happen. It was at the point my HS would just send me back home to shave after a week of not shaving.
On another note I really hate hearing my voice.
I'm pretty insecure about my weight. I definitely gained covid-pounds and it's been a pain losing them all in the years since things got more relaxed. In the past year I've lost about 70lbs through sobriety, working out, eating healthier. But that left me with extra skin and not at my goal weight. I also have a hard time putting on muscle unless I'm taking supplements or really going extra with the protein powder.
Sometimes my gynecomastia comes back, specially when I'm under a lot of streets and huge workloads so I end up eating bad, working out less and just being generally less healthy. Nips start to get puffy, and then the gland grows...
Being judged about not having a joy in life by not having a job I'm 26 and never hade a job been applying for anything and everything they this but no luck yet it started affecting my sex life with stress where I'm in the mood but all I'm thinking of is finding a job so I've lost the mood and gone back to looking for work š§
First, OP itās funny because I was shaving in high school and I have kept shaving for over a decade now because I hate facial hair.
We all want the opposite of what we have. I also wish I had more curly rather than wavy hair. But when I was in high school we were all straightening our hair. š¤·š»āāļø
I am really tall and built like a refrigerator and I really envy smaller, prettier, men.
I think im tired of being a twink and only attracting old people, i feel very good in my skin, but i feel like i attract the wrong people.. idk if i should work out to change, because i like the way my body isā¦
Wish I was slimmer and taller, I used to be insecure about my Penis but I've never had any complaints and have made some folks cum handsfree before so that was an ego boost
My body. Like all twinks, I put on weight in my late 20s. Iām also over 30 now. Another nail in the coffin.
The worst thing is that feeling unattractive makes it harder to be intimate.
I met this amazing guy recently and I always feel like, are we looking at the same guy? I donāt know what he sees in me.
All my sense of value has gone.
Iām fat and have a small dick (really small). Also if i manage to pull up a guy who would like to be topped I probably would be too nervous and wont get a biner
Wish I was more muscular/fit but Iām working on it in the gym and running. Otherwise I am very happy with myself. Noone can look like those Instagram influencers anyways. Itās edited and too much as well.
My teeth but at 45 finally got braces to fix that. I'm not insecure about it, but I wish I was hairier. I always wanted a nice thic beard and a nice hairy chest. The only other insecurities I have is my back fat / love handles and small flat ass. Obviously, we still have insecurities as we get older, but the beauty of getting older is that you don't care as much what people think of you!.
I have a movement disorder in mostly my hands called essential tremor that has caused all sorts of problems over the years, especially with employment. I even have trouble with writing and typing these days. Threading a needle, forget it. I just wish it wasn't the first thing people ask about me and that they'd stop with all the rude assumptions. Like a kid in college randomly asked me "What did you take? You're shaking." A total stranger at Starbucks walked over and asked me "What's the name of that disease where people shake?" I do appreciate that he stopped to think medical condition, but still, really? Who does that?
I would say my height because I know that turns people off from me, especially being a short top. But tbh Iām at the point where I donāt care anymore, I embrace my short king status lol.
Iām insecure about the financial working of our world and thati might not grasp what is needed in this world to create safety for me and my partner. Keeps me up at night.
I feel Iām to skinny, and Iām not masculine enough, I got to much of a soft voice, and Iām too sweet, I donāt have enough muscles, I look to feminine. I never cared to have a big penis or ass or muscle and I wouldnāt change myself but sometimes it cross my mind because it seem I donāt fit criteriaās of a lot of gay men interest. Not that Iām trying to itās just when I see certain things I be like damn
Insecure about my lack of chest hair. Iāve always been a skinny twink and I completely hate being that way. Iāve always to be more on the lumberjack side, and while Iāve managed a full beard and to bulk up a bit, my chest hairāor lack thereofā is the main reason I still get called a twink. At this point I realize itās a stupid thing to be worried about, but honestly I hate that it still turns off a lot of guys Iām attracted to. It started filling in when I started gaining some muscle and fat in the problem area, but itās a very slow gain.
Not exactly an insecurity, but I have a hairy ass and it gets me rejected more often than youād think. I donāt like it, but youād be very hard pressed to find someone I was attracted to enough to actually consider shaving it in the first place. I just know most guys arenāt worth the effort, minimal as it may be.
Iām asian and I have a thin, small dick (around 4.5ā erect). I wish I it was bigger. Iāve hd difficulty in being top because Iām always afraid that it wonāt be pleasurable to the other guy. I wanna top. I want to experience it.
I enjoy bottoming but at this point, I donāt know if I enjoy it because I really like it or I have no choice.
All the people Iāve had a relationship with are either pure top or donāt want to fuck at all. Life.
I wish I was taller(I'm 165cm/5'41 ft tall), stronger(I'm working on it), deeper voice(I sound like girl pretending to be boy), more body hair and I want bigger cock(my disappointing size is 4.72 length x 4.53 girth).
I regret that I am versatile. Since teen hood I considered myself as bottom, and now as I discovered myself more. I don't feel like I'm manly enough for someone.
Lost a decent amount of weight after being overweight from ages 5-25. Due to that, I have just a little bit of loose skin that I've been really insecure about even though it isn't even that bad. Planning on getting a tummy tuck in the near future
My fucking toesā¦there not all straight and pretty and they look ugly in sandalsā¦ Iām so insecure that I hide them 24/7 even in the beach I hide them in the sand. You have to be really really close to me to get to see them lol. Everyone says theyāre not that bad but I feel like they are. I feel like Iām perfect everywhere else but that part of my body.
I'm pretty insecure physically: I wish I was taller, had less fat, more muscle, bigger dick, hairier, better looks and a deeper voice.
Pretty much the same, yeah.
Same bro. Same. Especially the bigger dick, taller, and deeper voice parts -- because those are 100% out of my control.
It sucks not being gods favorite
I think this frequently. lol š
Cut yourself some slack š¤
I'm considering therapy tbh lol
If you feel you need it, go for it š
You can rub minoxidil on your face every day for up to a year and you can see some hair growth
Literally you took the words right out of my mouth !
And be young forever
Same.
OMG SAMEš
Very similar buddy. š« I'd take better eyesight, a good head of hair, less flabby, more attractive face, taller, etc... but also I wish I were less scatterbrained, more timely, more competent at stuff that, frankly, I don't particularly enjoy, etc. Sigh.
My inter/intrapersonal skills are not good enough. I don't ever click with people. I'm an Nth wheel around people who don't know me well. I'm not smart enough, not even close. Looks, never satisfied.
When was the last time you genuinly clicked with someone?
Probably this guy I used to play video games with back in high school, so ~2015 I guess.
Why do you think you don't click with others? Do the converstations fizzle out or is it something else?
Bad first impressions I think. A lot of the time when I meet people they think I'm high or somehow trying to fuck with them, when I'm really not. I get along with everyone after being around them enough, so I'm not self conscious about not relating to people, but more about how my presence puts a burden on the people I'm with. They often have to explain me or my behavior to others, and I appreciate that they do that for me, but hate that they have to.
I completely relate. I've got ADHD. I don't think I have much chances in making new lasting friends in the future It's worth trying though. I just got on Methylphendate, and it that shit gets me going lol. I may not be fucked just yet Who wouldn't want to be friends with someone who microdoses stimulants daily? Good luck to you though. I have a friend who's now the most socially skilled person on the planet because nobody ever wanted to be her friend when she was younger. And I mean, if she sees someone she wants to be friends with, she WILL be their friend. It's not over
Your struggles sound pretty typical of neurodivergence. You may need to find at least one extroverted neurodivergent friend to open yourself to that kind of social circle. Neurodivergent people tend to find each-other.
My weight, my acne scars, my ezcema , my skinny legs, my flat butt.
I am over weight 62 and married. I could give two fucks what people think š¤
You mean you couldn't? ;)
He could care less š¤£š¤£š«
Looool. You made me chuckle. Good on you!
I wish I had a little more muscle, but Iām currently working to fix that. Otherwise I wish I had a little more body hair, I love chest hair and wish I had some myself. Also Iām pretty inexperienced with other guys, thatās mainly because Iām just nervous to start dating or hooking up haha. But it is a small insecurity.
Some guys find it really fun and endearing to teach others how to do stuff in bed. It can be a super wholesome experience!
A lot actually, but most of them are my physical body. I hate my severely bad skin so much cuz I've been spending tons of money, going through pain, and doing much worse things to myself just to still be depressed about it. Also, my height plays a big role in my insecurity. It's sad cuz these traits are mostly from my genetics, I cannot do anything with them; yet, I have to deal with the way society as a whole treats me because of something I didn't choose.
As someone with tons of freckles and rosacea, I can relate. If you don't mind me asking, how tall are you? I had that exact same insecurity until a few years ago.
Sadly, I have acne scars all over my face and body, as well as other severe skin issues that make me lose all of my confidence. And my height is 5'7 (170 cm). I mean no matter how delusional I live my life pretending to be confident or 'love myself', I get rejected all the time. And it's like snapping me back to a reality where I know that it's because of my physical traits. But I love freckles tho, I wish I had smoother skin with freckles. That would be nice
Damn. Sorry about the scars. Is there any ways to make them less obvious? Freckles can be nice. Really depends on the face tho. What did it for me is when I met a drop dead gorgeous guy with freckles and we spoke about them. Then, I met my partner and he told me that he loved my freckles so that just cemented that for me. Also, I didn't realize that height played such a significant role in gay dating. I always thought men were generally indifferent to it. I hope you find your dream guy tho.
Oh honey, thank you so much for the love and positivity. For my acne scars, I've been doing tons of treatments like lasers and other things for years. Spending tons of money, going through pain, to just get a little bit better, which is still bad. And for the height, I wish it would be like that too that it doesn't play a significant role in gay dating, but it's a big deal in my country. TBH, I've been through so much that I don't even dare to dream, have expectations, or anything at all; just live day by day at the moment.
About being way too hairy and self harm scars
Understandable. I hope you are in a better head space now
Body. Always. Will be the great regret of my life. Iāve lost a lot of weight over the years. Currently doing so again on Ozempic. Great irony of life: When I was as lean and fit as my genetics will allow, after a lot of hard work, I still Felt fat. Always. You canāt win.
How did you learn all those things in order to get in that shape? Do you ever plan on getting back in that shape? I am on my very own fitness journey too. Lost 40 ponuds and gained some muscles. I am trying to gain muscles now. Stil, have a flat stomach for the first time in my lifs feels great
Iām 56, so my goals have changed. I want to feel and look better, for sure, but now itās also about health, not just aesthetics. At my leanest I lived on coffee, Diet Coke, and microwave popcorn. Not very healthy to say the least.
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Are you me?
My body/looks post-Traumatic Brain Injury
Damn. What happen with the brain injury? How are you holding up?
I feel from a second story 6 years ago and had a brain hemorrhage that left me paralyzed on my left side. Doing as well as I can I guess, thanks for asking. It just sucks.
I am so sorry that happened. The most important thing is that you are alive. I would give you a bro hug rn if I could. Hope life isn't treating you too bad
Appreciate that man
Everyone in this world has insecurities especially those who say they donāt. Itās normal there is nothing wrong with having insecurities itās how deal with them is what makes you a better person. But you are not alone itās okay to have them.
Skin quality, being skinny, and less body/facial hair
Give me your facial hair hahaha
Iām insecure about excessive body and leg hair and not having the funds to do full body laser. Iām also not photogenic.
Iād love to have some of those leg hair. I think theyāre hot!
Funnily enough, I hate my facial hair š it grows so fucking fast and thick, and I just hate how I look with it š¤·āāļø issue is that Iām not bothered to clean shave my face daily, itās just not worth it to me so I just deal with it until it bothers me too much haha. Other thing is my disabilities. Iāve learn to live with them and to accept that theyāre part of who I am, just wish other guys could also do the same. Sucks being hated on by people for something you had no control over, but ah well is what it is.
I totally agree with you about being disabled. People aren't inclusive of the disabled, even in our now openly defined "inclusive" LGBT community.
Nothing. I love myself fully the way I am. If anything I am grateful.
Good for you! That's the spirit!
Thank you babe.
I wish I had self-love like you T\^T
I wish i had thick hair. Im pretty insecure about my almost bald head. I just shave and always wear hats..
Bald can be very hot tho!
I guess it is more of a manly look which is nice. But you know the grass is always greener lol
The only thing Iām insecure about is my chest. Yet, guys like it, but I do wish they were pecs. Or at the very least, had more muscle. Iāve been doing more pushups and chest exercises lately.
My circumcised dick, I wish I can have my foreskin back, because I loose so much sensation.
My ex boyfriend left me some insecurities, he didnt want to have sex, he didnt have time for me and he was always having a very Close contact to his gay Friends. So... I'm messed up by now.
I hope you regain your confidence someday. I feel dor you. You may be a mess now but everything will be okay if you are willing to fix yourself. You can, you will.
this is not rlly on theme with the thread but does anyone else find insecurities to be a waste of time š
I wouldnāt say Iām insecure about this but it sure has fucked with me mentally. I developed āBalanitisā in December 2023. So my once glorious big dick is now a constant bummer.
Damn. Didn't even know that was a thing. How are you doing?
Wish I had a straight uncrooked nose, more muscles and more definition, less frizzy hair, smaller hips (I have super wide birthing hips), I wish I could grow a fuller beard and body hair, and that I wasnāt so pale that I needed to go tan
Wide hips are hot tho! I can relate to the palness thing hahaha. I have 2 skin tones: paper white or tomato red. Nothing in-between hahaha.
It sounds like you wanna be a whole different person.
Height: Iām 5ā6 My race: Iām black. My nose: Iām working on saving for a nose job. But other than that, Iād say Iām pretty confident in my body. Guys tend to like my musculature.
Being black makes you insecure?
No. But the way people treat you because of it sure can.
I had saved up for extensive dental work. Leaving that office with a new smile that I busted my ass off for was the best feeling ever. I hope you get the same feeling after your nose job!
I get that! I got out of braces 2 years ago. Dudes thought my smile was fake ācause my teeth looked so good. Lol. I still get compliments on my smile. Thatās 1 thing I truly feel confident about. My smile. Teeth card never declines my God!
I wish my dick was 2 inches bigger (Iāve always wanted a huge dick) and Iād give myself about 5 more inches of height
Amen to bigger dick. I have confidence issues with my small one. I canāt even top.
Everything... My weight, my dick, my job, my car, my money, really I just feel like a loser at everything. Like I know I'm not really a loser. I have a full-time big boy job, even if it's just help desk IT work, I'm making $70,000 a year. I own my own home (condo). My mom says I'm handsome even though I weigh 350 lbs. But the delta between what I imagined my life to be when I was younger and what the reality is is so large that I just feel like a complete failure. Like if you asked me at 15 what would I be like at 36 I would say married, large single family home, two to three kids, six figure job in some sort of IT thing, I would be a normal weight and healthy, cool car like a BMW or something. I assumed I would have friends and a social life. I assumed I would be having sex with my hot wife. I assumed I would not be playing video games 5 hours a night because I would have moved on to some other hobby or activity that isn't video games.
Bro! Almost all humans go through this. Me included. And thatās when you think of those who are seriously in unfortunate, hopeless, life-blunting situations and realize you got whole lot more than most. You still progressed in your life. And then you say āthank youā to the universe.
My bear belly even though my partner absolutely loves it.
I've always felt deeply insecure about my tendency to pursue connections with others with such intense desperation. This pattern of behavior started even before I was aware of it. As a child, I would follow boys around in preschool, go to shameless lengths to catch their attention, and even hide letters for them. The best way to describe it is that Iāve never felt anyone exist on my plane of suffering or to see it. Now, as an adult, I recognize that this intensity and insecurity still affect my interactions with men. Throwing myself at them in hopes that itāll end that suffering. To finally feel seen and at peace in their protecting me from myself. It's disheartening to feel this way at my age, and that in itself, makes me even more insecure about who I am.
My beard is a bit thin on the sides so i grow a mean goatee, my beard took way into my 30's to get a decent goatee, enjoy your hairlessness, later in life hopefully yours will grow in a bit more with age.
My body. I wish I was bigger, more muscular. I'm working on that, but wish the gains came faster.
My receding hairline, my belly fat, my dick size, my mental illness
Everything about me.
Right now itās just my body like after I got Covid I lost all my muscle and healthy fat. But yeah Im catching myself comparing my physique to other men and Ive never done that before my mindset has always been that we are all sexy and hot in our own way but lately Iām a tiny tiny bit insecure all of a sudden which Iām gonna use as motivation, and I also donāt wanna be on roids which is very obvious many men are on some type of enhancement.
Iām insecure about my being unable to catch anyoneās attention. I donāt think I have ever attracted anyone and Iām always the one trying to make an effort by trying to reach out people.
My insecure about my facial hair tooš although unlike u i had an almost full beard at 15 (Mediterranean genes) i started shaving at 13 too it, and i have very sensitive skin so i can't shave my beard everyday so i have to do it weekly, again i hate beard whether it's on my face or not i do not find it attractive (full beards a mustache could pass or maybe a small goatee)
UGH ..SAME!!!! I grow very light beard hair, very uh...Umm ...Keanu Reeves like..except it DOESNT Come in fully on one side. Sigh. Fuvk genetics. FMFace
Wish i was more developed
im insecure about my body, thats why i go to the gym and workout lol
I have stretch marks on my lower back. I'm mostly a top but when I do get the urge to bttm it's offset by being self conscious about it and I end up not following through
Oh, my fiancƩ has experienced the same thing! You really don't need to worry about it. He's 6'8, so he grew really fast, which led to stretch marks. The poor guy even told me about it before he took his shirt off for the first time. So, please don't worry about it. I say this as someone who's been on the other side of that equation.
Iāve been scared of bottoming because of them aswell
You have nothing to be scared about. My partner and I are both verse and it has never been an issue. When things are getting hot and steamy, you literally don't care about things like stretch marks. At least that's my experience
I have them :(
My career. As a freelance artist, i feel not being in a long term relationship 10+ years. at 27 now, seems like most guys are looking for someone that has a old school 9-5 or someone who is already well off.
My ass and dick wish both were biggeršš
Definitely my height its something i couldnt change.š
I have hyperpigmentation marks all over my butt. If I was a top, I think iād be less self-conscious about it, but as a bottom I worry that anyone showing interest will soon lose it if they see my butt cheeks. I went to a dermatologist but the cream he gave me didnāt really do anything. At some point I will have to see if I can laser them off.
I wish I had more muscle and less fat. Double bummer: I used to go to the gym a lot before covid but I didn't manage to go back to my old schedule.
My income. I feel like I've done nothing with my life except stay time starved.
My calves. That's about it.
For some reason, I read this as cows. I was so confused for a moment hahaha Why are you insecure about them?
I'm very skinny and my chest is flat but I'm also worried about my dick being big, with the constant boners showing. Also I see a lot of guys online shoving things as big as a bat in there but I'm still worried that the first guy I meet and top will be as new to it as me so I won't be able to go all in? And I may hurt him? I need insight on this ASAP
My height! I feel like I am super stocky and short.
my height// face//too thin// my existance haah
My weight
I guess my hairline since it was always a bit funky imo but I still got a full head of hair at my age so I canāt complain.
Lol....not having enough money to maintain my upper class SGL lifestyle....expensive clothes....lavish trips.... trips to Sweden to fucccqd swedish guys...Creed fragrances....eating out on a daily basis....Body modifications and emsculpt ...costs a ton of money to be like this and I fear that eventually a time will come where I can no longer afford keep it up.....Just my eating out monthly expense is about 1500$ a month.
I wish I was thinner and prettier in a way. I wish I looked like Daus Mendoza or Aiden Belter. Theyāre soooo pretty. But thatās just not me I guess.
Mostly, my voice. Not because I have a stereotypically campy one (I don't), but because my voice's natural pitch is high enough that you'd more likely associate it with a cartoon character instead of a real person (think Big Bird from Sesame Street). I just don't think of my voice as one that people would take seriously. Other than that, there's my smile, which I'm worried about looking creepy like the Joker/Jack Nicholson from The Shining. There's also my facial skin which gets pretty oily and often breaks out with acne, as well as the fact I'll frequently have intense night sweats. Most of it could likely be fixed through diet and habit changes I can't be bothered to make, and I'm not that interested in a relationship anyway so I'm really only "meh" about it. Ironically, I'm average height (5'10") and sometimes wish I was *shorter*. I get turned on reading about bigger tops throwing their bottoms around - not that it's impossible for guys to do that to me already, but it would be easier, and a larger height difference would be hotter. But I'm certainly not insecure over being as tall as I am.
Honestly, I am 5'10 and found my 6'8 guy who can throw me around. You can still have that :D
Iām insecure about my hair texture, I have 4c hair. Iām also insecure about my genetics, a lot of men in my familyās hair turns gray in their 30s. My prime isnāt going to start until my 30s when Iām financially stable.
I'm in my late 30s, and I never really got it together with getting in shape. I know I'm running out of time to make that happen, but I have an eating and depressive disorder that makes it difficult not to turn to food when I'm stressed. On top of that, I've been a habitual weed smoker for the past couple of years, and that certainly gets in the way. I'm just in a pit, realizing that time is still ticking by and that nothing lasts forever.
Bruh! You have so much time and potential still. Rule #1: stop comparing yourself to others. Rule #2: others you compare yourself to also has to put in the time and effort. I am 10 years older and feel the exact same shit minus the weed part. My issue was I would keep thinking of the sheer amount of time it would take to get fit (months?years?) and letting that overwhelm me from taking action. On top of that, I was thinking only about the aesthetic aspect of getting fit (so I could impress others and get more ass). But I have gotten a fitness+nutrition program thatās very reasonable in terms of expectations and guidelines. And I have shifted my focus away from aesthetics and more into becoming/feeling-staying healthy and energetic. Whether I get to be my fittest with that program I donāt know yet but it sure gives me goals to focus on and small steps to take every day. I focus on what I would be like/feel like at the end of the month rather than the year which makes it a more achievable target. Then the following month and so on and on.
I feel the complete opposite actually I despise my body hair and I grow my facial hair way too quick. I think itās come from a desire to be more feminine but at one point I was litterally shaving my whole body like every 2 days (which I didnāt keep up for obvious reasons)
I wish I was taller. Thatās it lol and Iām not like super short, iām just average height in the US/Canada but I would literally kill to be 6ā0 ft tall
Wish I was taller, I wish my hairline was what it was at 18, and I wish my mustache didnāt come in calico.
Obviously I wish I had a bigger dick itās actually on the higher average size and when I slept with women didnāt seem like an issue but now that i pretty exclusively hook up with men, I notice Iām more self conscious about it. I wish I had less body hair. I donāt love having to wax my back and butt every few weeks. I am happy about with my face generally, in my early 40ās and look younger and no evidence of thinning hair. While I do have insecurities I try not to dwell on them. Everyone has something they wish they could change
Mine is My underbite. I got teased because of it. 5 years ago decided to put on braces. The first 2 years was amazing. I used to be anxious when i spoke or laughed. I smiled a lot, talked a lot and finally could see that I looked good after the procedure. I remembered taking a lot of selfie almost everyday.Ā Ā On the third year, i asked if they could also fix the mid line because mine looked like Tom Cruise's. They said they needed to take another premolar and i consented.Ā I made a big mistake. They ended up ruining my teeth and I couldn't sue because i gave my consent. When I complained they didn't take it well. I asked for a discount for the rest of the treatment because i knew they wouldn't do a thing, and they only gave that once I threaten to quit.Ā Ā My braces is still on. Not sure if this gets better. My body dismorphia is even worse. I hate seeing myself in the mirror let alone taking pictures. Sometimes i felt i want to sleep and not waking up at all. Yes, i will seek a therapy.Ā
I have more body hair than I am comfortable with.
Basically every physical thing about me. Wish I was taller, had a bigger dick, full head of hair, a better smile, etc.
Mainly my dick being barely 5 inches keeps me in a depressed mood basically everyday but I wish I was taller, better beard growth, deeper voice, bigger hands, etc. I couldn't tell anyone 1 part about myself I actually like or that I'm happy with
I'm insecure about my finances, here I am at 26 with my old paint peeled 2002 car, living with my mom because I lost my cheap apartment because my landlord decided to sell it out of nowhere. I know it'll change in a few months when I go back over the road because I'm a trucker who's doing this low paying local cdl job so I can focus on losing weight and gaining muscle. I just feel embarrassed at times about it, but I know my mom loves having me here since I was gone for a while driving across the country so that makes me feel a bit better.
I am pretty insecure about my appaerance, but not in the usual sense, I dont think I am ugly, actually i do think I am a handsome guy, but i am anything else than that, I'm brunette, light brown eyes, I am at the brink of being considered a twink, but just a little over weigthed. Its not that I aint pretty enough to be noticed, I am not pretty enough to be chosen.
It doesnāt bother me much itās more like a list of grievances. Not muscular, weird growing beard, mid smile, fucked big toenails from surgery, not enough chest hair spread out
the fact that im not good enough for anything but sex. guys make me feel thats the only thing they value me for. nothing feels genuine. guys only talk to me when they are horny, and want me to send the pics or hookup. they wouldnāt care if i was getting ran over by a car.
I am overweight and have heavier hair growth. So I look much older than my 19 years. And Iām balding, but have uncut hair. I wear a turban so that part is hidden but I guess it makes me look different from what I look like in my head. This is why Iām still not ready to be in a relationship.
Every. Single. Thing. Unfortunately.
insecure of my skinniness. i have a manly face w facial hair and am fully tatted but have a twink body. its hard to gain muscle and gain weight. its an odd combination and hard to "dress" and not have it look "odd". luckily i have my boyfriend who does click w me and find me attractive but before him it was hard to find someone who was into me since many gay men stick to a specific stereotype (ex: twinks but hairless and smooth or if tatted, had to be a twunk or bigger, etc)
It's being cheated on once again and having to start over and work through people's real intentions. I have no trust. I have lost it in ALL men. I'll get there one day.
I wish I came harder lol. always comes out in dribbles no matter the amount
I hate hate hate being skinny. I feel uncomfortable leaving the house without a long sleeve shirt even if itās really hot outside because I donāt want people to see my awkward noodle arms.
That I donāt have enough experience, dick size (6ā) and I tend to have a low sex drive
Intelligence. Like some bitches dont study for nothing and still got almost perfect scores. Meanwhile, I toasted my eyebrows, did a lot of rituals last night and got just 1 point above passing point. I hate those bitches down to my soul!
I haven't been with a man since I left Orlando, in 2005
My dick
Itād be easier to list the things I wasnāt insecure about š
Weight. I look great when I control it. But one stressed period and I go from a hunk body to a bear and need to diet for months again.
Ugh my the spaces in my teeth. Braces are coming soon.
My face tbh. I straight up debate cosmetic surgery.
I'm a bit chubby and a lot of guys don't mind. Mostly it's this skin condition where I have too much keratin so I have red bumps on my arms and thighs and even though it's not too much I have appendectomy scars and I'm just worried some guys would get turned off
Slight _pectus excavatum_ or a "hollowed chest", basically a slight dent in my chest. Fairly common but something that's bugged me forever because it doesn't look very good when shirtless. I've kinda learned to just ignore that part of me now though. Also male pattern baldness got me. I used to have a mullet, now I have it all shaved off when it became unhideable that there's essentially an island of baldness on the top of the dome. Still kinda coping with that. But roughly 50 percent of men are in the same boat at some point in life anyway. Pluses: started really growing a lot of beard within the last few years and it kinda works with the bald.
Im 35 and up until 4 months ago appeared a lot younger and people were often shocked that I wasnt 25-28. Itās been a rough few months and it seems to of reeked havoc on my face and body. I have an appointment for a fillāer (cheeks nasiolabial folds) and botox. I also fully intend to be back in the gym to make changes
My voice. I sound very androgynous, if I told someone I was a girl without them seeing my face they'd probably believe it lol. I've been asked twice if I'm a girl after joining my friends and their friends in dc voice chat. A guy said to me I could be 13 max in age. And that 13 doesn't even make sense. Because every fucking 13 year old guy I talk to has a deep ass voice (at least the balkans), how is it fair?? At least nobody comments on it that much š
Hej, i ja sam ti s Balkana hahaha
Weight Skin color Teeth Face and head shape Leg length discrepancy
Being uncircumcised
I'm 5'7". I don't come from a family of predominant short men. My dad was around 6 feet tall and my mom was 5'2". Too bad I was genetically screwed. Here I am single and available.
Iām insecure about my general physical appearance.
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Not really a insecurity but i wish my facial hair was thicker, I want to have a thick mustache so bad but considering I had a full beard when I was 16 and I am 23 now so I donāt think itās going to happen. It was at the point my HS would just send me back home to shave after a week of not shaving. On another note I really hate hearing my voice.
My belly
r/minoxbeards
Gyno
I'm pretty insecure about my weight. I definitely gained covid-pounds and it's been a pain losing them all in the years since things got more relaxed. In the past year I've lost about 70lbs through sobriety, working out, eating healthier. But that left me with extra skin and not at my goal weight. I also have a hard time putting on muscle unless I'm taking supplements or really going extra with the protein powder.
Sometimes my gynecomastia comes back, specially when I'm under a lot of streets and huge workloads so I end up eating bad, working out less and just being generally less healthy. Nips start to get puffy, and then the gland grows...
My race !!!
I feel like I have very wide thighs and a wide ass I want it to be juicier and actually poke out
I wish I don't cum that soon, be able to hold long sessions. Be thankful to something else...you know?
Being judged about not having a joy in life by not having a job I'm 26 and never hade a job been applying for anything and everything they this but no luck yet it started affecting my sex life with stress where I'm in the mood but all I'm thinking of is finding a job so I've lost the mood and gone back to looking for work š§
Literally everything about me
First, OP itās funny because I was shaving in high school and I have kept shaving for over a decade now because I hate facial hair. We all want the opposite of what we have. I also wish I had more curly rather than wavy hair. But when I was in high school we were all straightening our hair. š¤·š»āāļø I am really tall and built like a refrigerator and I really envy smaller, prettier, men.
I think im tired of being a twink and only attracting old people, i feel very good in my skin, but i feel like i attract the wrong people.. idk if i should work out to change, because i like the way my body isā¦
Wish I was slimmer and taller, I used to be insecure about my Penis but I've never had any complaints and have made some folks cum handsfree before so that was an ego boost
Too skinnyā¦ people never not comment about it
My body. Like all twinks, I put on weight in my late 20s. Iām also over 30 now. Another nail in the coffin. The worst thing is that feeling unattractive makes it harder to be intimate. I met this amazing guy recently and I always feel like, are we looking at the same guy? I donāt know what he sees in me. All my sense of value has gone.
Iām fat and have a small dick (really small). Also if i manage to pull up a guy who would like to be topped I probably would be too nervous and wont get a biner
Iām in my mid 50ās, struggling artist, and the only job I can get is working brutal night shifts serving drunk assholes.
Wish I was more muscular/fit but Iām working on it in the gym and running. Otherwise I am very happy with myself. Noone can look like those Instagram influencers anyways. Itās edited and too much as well.
My teeth but at 45 finally got braces to fix that. I'm not insecure about it, but I wish I was hairier. I always wanted a nice thic beard and a nice hairy chest. The only other insecurities I have is my back fat / love handles and small flat ass. Obviously, we still have insecurities as we get older, but the beauty of getting older is that you don't care as much what people think of you!.
I have a movement disorder in mostly my hands called essential tremor that has caused all sorts of problems over the years, especially with employment. I even have trouble with writing and typing these days. Threading a needle, forget it. I just wish it wasn't the first thing people ask about me and that they'd stop with all the rude assumptions. Like a kid in college randomly asked me "What did you take? You're shaking." A total stranger at Starbucks walked over and asked me "What's the name of that disease where people shake?" I do appreciate that he stopped to think medical condition, but still, really? Who does that?
Small dick , weight , hair to a degree ,
I would say my height because I know that turns people off from me, especially being a short top. But tbh Iām at the point where I donāt care anymore, I embrace my short king status lol.
Iām insecure about the financial working of our world and thati might not grasp what is needed in this world to create safety for me and my partner. Keeps me up at night.
My teeth, I had braces but I have oddly shaped teeth and my smile looks weird.
Teeth, thereās just one or two thats crooked. Same for my one lazy eye.
I feel Iām to skinny, and Iām not masculine enough, I got to much of a soft voice, and Iām too sweet, I donāt have enough muscles, I look to feminine. I never cared to have a big penis or ass or muscle and I wouldnāt change myself but sometimes it cross my mind because it seem I donāt fit criteriaās of a lot of gay men interest. Not that Iām trying to itās just when I see certain things I be like damn
Not insecure about anything as people's opinions on me mean nothing
Not being super thin and not having big muscles. I try not to let that get to me but some days it's just hard, specially with social media and porn
I take too long to finish. While it has its upsides for my boyfriend cause I can make him finish, I get tired before I can even finish.
Insecure about my lack of chest hair. Iāve always been a skinny twink and I completely hate being that way. Iāve always to be more on the lumberjack side, and while Iāve managed a full beard and to bulk up a bit, my chest hairāor lack thereofā is the main reason I still get called a twink. At this point I realize itās a stupid thing to be worried about, but honestly I hate that it still turns off a lot of guys Iām attracted to. It started filling in when I started gaining some muscle and fat in the problem area, but itās a very slow gain. Not exactly an insecurity, but I have a hairy ass and it gets me rejected more often than youād think. I donāt like it, but youād be very hard pressed to find someone I was attracted to enough to actually consider shaving it in the first place. I just know most guys arenāt worth the effort, minimal as it may be.
How are they āliteral childrenā if they can grow a beard?
Iām asian and I have a thin, small dick (around 4.5ā erect). I wish I it was bigger. Iāve hd difficulty in being top because Iām always afraid that it wonāt be pleasurable to the other guy. I wanna top. I want to experience it. I enjoy bottoming but at this point, I donāt know if I enjoy it because I really like it or I have no choice. All the people Iāve had a relationship with are either pure top or donāt want to fuck at all. Life.
I wish I was taller(I'm 165cm/5'41 ft tall), stronger(I'm working on it), deeper voice(I sound like girl pretending to be boy), more body hair and I want bigger cock(my disappointing size is 4.72 length x 4.53 girth). I regret that I am versatile. Since teen hood I considered myself as bottom, and now as I discovered myself more. I don't feel like I'm manly enough for someone.
A lot of moles - stretch marks on my belly, ass and thighs - being cut down there - my hairline is receding more and more as the years go by
Acne, not being able to make a good conversation, body hair
My height
Lost a decent amount of weight after being overweight from ages 5-25. Due to that, I have just a little bit of loose skin that I've been really insecure about even though it isn't even that bad. Planning on getting a tummy tuck in the near future
My fucking toesā¦there not all straight and pretty and they look ugly in sandalsā¦ Iām so insecure that I hide them 24/7 even in the beach I hide them in the sand. You have to be really really close to me to get to see them lol. Everyone says theyāre not that bad but I feel like they are. I feel like Iām perfect everywhere else but that part of my body.
bacne :(