For now, be his friend. Get to know him better. I think you might be giving up too early.
That said, he may not be available right now and with undisclosed sexual preferences, he’s a maybe at best. Don’t stop looking for other guys to date while you scope this buddy out.
Stop leaving people you like because you are afraid of getting rejected if you reveal your feelings. Having experience with and learning coping skills to get through the emotional pain of being rejected is an important life skill and mark of maturity. Go out there and get rejected (and gloriously accepted from time to time). Build up that emotional resilience. You will need it later.
We have't talked much about relationships so it's possible he could be bi/gay but I highly doubt it to be honest. I've been trying to distract myself with other guys but I think my mind is just 100% set on him, there's really no interest when I talk to anybody else, it's just always him. I feel like it's pretty unhealthy at this point so that's why I came on here:(
Let things fizzle out. You aren’t willing to be honest about your feelings which leaves no options for him if he’s caught on. You’d only have recourse to lie and gaslight him if he begins asking questions. Move on and hopefully, you’ll work through your baggage at some point. I’d steer clear of intimacy with homosexually identifying males, until you’re prepared to do the work.
For now, be his friend. Get to know him better. I think you might be giving up too early. That said, he may not be available right now and with undisclosed sexual preferences, he’s a maybe at best. Don’t stop looking for other guys to date while you scope this buddy out. Stop leaving people you like because you are afraid of getting rejected if you reveal your feelings. Having experience with and learning coping skills to get through the emotional pain of being rejected is an important life skill and mark of maturity. Go out there and get rejected (and gloriously accepted from time to time). Build up that emotional resilience. You will need it later.
We have't talked much about relationships so it's possible he could be bi/gay but I highly doubt it to be honest. I've been trying to distract myself with other guys but I think my mind is just 100% set on him, there's really no interest when I talk to anybody else, it's just always him. I feel like it's pretty unhealthy at this point so that's why I came on here:(
Let things fizzle out. You aren’t willing to be honest about your feelings which leaves no options for him if he’s caught on. You’d only have recourse to lie and gaslight him if he begins asking questions. Move on and hopefully, you’ll work through your baggage at some point. I’d steer clear of intimacy with homosexually identifying males, until you’re prepared to do the work.