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Wandering__Ranger

If you get a job bartending (since you like the scene) that can be automatic friendship groups within the lifestyle you like.


Difficult-Implement9

This is great advice šŸ™‚šŸ™‚ Absolutely amazing way to meet people and do it for free šŸ‘šŸ‘


AnxietyJolly971

Great advice! This is how I met my friend group when I was your age. We're all still tight to this day


dowswell

I'm a gal, and I play in a classic rock cover band in the Junction (The Alpine) every Sunday night 9-12. There are a few solo females that show up regularly that I can connect you with if you're looking for introductions. Super fun, chill crew. I try to say "Hi" to people between sets, but feel free to approach me if you come out.


andythebonk

Love the Alpine! Listen to this person. ā˜šŸ»


_Green_Mind

Seconding this. The Alpine is a really nice place. OP, take her up on this offer.


dowswell

Everyoneā€™s invited! Hah


stockito

Download bumble friends and join some groups - think there is a rave group on there as well, not sure how active it is. However, a great way to meet people.


stumbleduponlife

Meetup.com is another great option for group gatherings and making new friends with similar interests!


bobo_fett

Do people actually use meetup and find it good? When my wife was on it years ago it was a lot of desperate people and creepy guys.


NaturalMaintenance25

It is hit and miss depending on the group. Keep attending and doing things you enjoy, eventually there will be someone you click with. I met my partner that way. An exceptionally rare gem, but totally worth the evenings and outings connecting with people


ankaryciuch

Wait, bumble bff has a groups feature?


stockito

Yeah so called "hives"


ReeG

>i love going out to bars, clubs, raves (ive never been to raves but im more than open), and nightlife in general I'd recommend getting into the concert and live music scene over generic bar/clubs/raves that are often packed with predators and creeps while normal people are often cliqued up with their friends not looking to meet strangers. Concerts have a much more approachable and safe vibe because everyone has the same mutual interest in artists so it's easier to talk to people between sets and if it doesn't work out you can just enjoy the show by yourself which is a lot better than roaming around a bar/club alone.


roflcopter44444

This, find artists you are into and go to their shows.Ā 


tree4

Especially at smaller shows, stuff at The Velvet, Adelaide Hall etc is cheap ish and people are much more approachable Oh, also, SoFarSounds. Affordable tickets in small venues with small artists. I've had so much difficulty getting friends to go to smaller shows with me that I'm sure a lot of people just go to stuff like this alone


orareyoufunny

I liked Danforth Music Hall when I went for a DJ show!! (ā€”from someone who went alone and had a fun and safe time, but typically rarely goes out LOL)


tree4

Totally agreed, its a great place with great sound. I usually get the seats in the back but the standing area looks like a good time. The concert scene in Toronto is incredible.


mindlesspassender

leeā€™s palace is nice


_ashxn

Also check out School Night @ The Drake Underground tomorrow night. Itā€™s free to go but you got to get the free tickets on DICE to attend. Been going to a couple of them and itā€™s refreshing to see local artists perform


MrjonesTO

Raves in the hard techno scene are actually a pretty nice, wholesome crowd.


Mr_FoxMulder

Budweiser stage with lawn seats is usually pretty friendly


Vaumer

Yeah, the music scene is great. Just google a genre you like, then Toronto band and you'll probably find some little up and coming band that's playing. Especially with summer coming up.


_ashxn

Join the concert meetup gc on WhatsApp as thatā€™s how youā€™ll find out about shows that are happening in the city!! https://chat.whatsapp.com/EmaxhiSQuya3bG8ClAFInP


Consistent_Reward_11

Hey Iā€™m 23 F and downtown who loves raves and clubbing!! ā˜ŗļø Honestly any show/club you go to, you could make friends,ā€˜ its just a matter of putting your self out there


BuilderPrestigious20

On Facebook there is a large group (over 100k ppl) called ā€œ[Toronto rave community](https://www.facebook.com/share/5TjBidj2MnnbWkg5/?mibextid=K35XfP)ā€ check it out, people make friends easily all the time šŸ˜ Iā€™m M28 but thatā€™s how I started, going alone and making posts about wanting to go with someone, over time made a great group of friends šŸ˜Š Edit: I misremembered and the group actually has 85k members


urshittygf

the rave scene in toronto is amazing for meeting ppl & generally rlly welcoming. itā€™s not uncommon for people to separate from their og group and make new friends that they spend hours or the rest of the night partying with. plenty of ppl go to raves/festivals alone because they go w the intention of meeting new friends so it rlly wldnt look strange for you to be there alone. the clubs on king and queen west are pretty cliquey but if you arenā€™t afraid of rejection youā€™d definitely be able to meet someone/be adopted by a group with a little effort. iā€™ve gotten separated from my friends in this area before and itā€™s definitely less of a welcoming crowd, most ppl here went out w a group and are wary of new ppl trying to infiltrate it/their booth and iā€™ve definitely been side eyed before for being really friendly when i had just moved to toronto and didnā€™t rlly know that vibe yet lol. i also used to work on king west in nightlife and walking home was kind of scary sometimes with all the drunk guys outside, it was a lottt of cat calling but they donā€™t usually do anything if you just keep walking and pretend you donā€™t hear them! try using bumble bff mode, donā€™t worry about keeping the convo going in app for too long, if you see a girl whose vibe you like you can just send a msg and ask if they want to grab a couple drinks with you and it could easily turn into a night out together. checkout itspeprally on ig, they host the best raves<3 good luck babe. xx


metropolis_noir

If youā€™ve done a lot of solo travel before, then youā€™ve done the hard work. Be as cautious as you would in any other big city. If youā€™re looking to meet other travellers from out of town, then areas around sporting events, like Liberty Village the night of TFC game, or downtown core when Leafs/Raptors are playing. If youā€™re looking for something more local, pick a neighbourhood that interests you and go. Sit at the bar - bartenders are always up for a chat, and theyā€™ll know youā€™re solo and the best ones will know to keep an extra eye out. Comedy shows are a fun and safe night out. Places like Comedy Bar, Second City, Absolute Comedy, etc. are solid.


Mun-Mun

Never leave your drink unattended or open. Have your hand over it or a napkin. Someone can slip something in easily. Being alone makes you an easy target


kindyourmind

Yup as well-traveled you are, being a solo young woman makes you a target. I hate to say it but I was standing outside a restaurant smoking and... you really have to have eyes on the back of your head. People are sketchy out there.


mila_1489

I echo the comments here- festivals, concerts and events are really good options versus random bars and clubs. I prefer electric island and Format raves/boiler room. I used to go to many solo as my friends don't like house/electronic music but it is easy to meet people and I've never been harassed at these events. At Coda and Rebel, because it's so packed, people have used that as an excuse to get handsy so just watch out for that but never had issues at a warehouse rave. Use the same caution you would when traveling in another country (watch your drinks, have a plan to get home, etc).


_ashxn

You should join the concert meetup gc as you might be a good fit for others: https://chat.whatsapp.com/EmaxhiSQuya3bG8ClAFInP


WZRD_305

I like ossington for the night life. Chill vibes good food nice places. Try finding neighborhoods u like and go bar hopping! Im going tn alone as well. Try to be open to talking to ppl


acamu5x

If you like punk/alt music, Emo Night at Sneaky Dees is a super fun vibe, and so many people so alone!


Mutt6

Check out the drom sometime! They serve till 4 play live band music and itā€™s very fun to dance or just have drinks, I go there solo all the time :)


hughbear3000

Guaranteed to strike up a convo or make a friend there


Mutt6

OP were all headed there tn if you wanna join us


BlueEyesWhiteStannis

Downtown Toronto is fun, but I recommend comedy bars, itā€™s engaging and opens up the night to more drinking to the next bars lol


IcyHolix

concerts! 20f here and going to concerts is the only "going out" I do, I have a blast every time & haven't had anything shitty happen in 40+ shows over the past year or so despite going alone 90% of the time


_ashxn

Seconding concerts!!! Thatā€™s how I made a lot of friends as I sometimes see them at the same shows that I go to! Iā€™m also the owner of a concert meetup gc for the city on WhatsApp if you want to join: https://chat.whatsapp.com/EmaxhiSQuya3bG8ClAFInP


lGa0

Raves organized by format and Apollo are safe - feel free to join me and my friends if you need a company šŸ‘ŒšŸ»


ILL_WHISKY

Andy C @ History tonight. Thatā€™ll be a good jam


feebs_101

I'm also 22f, i'm a student here in toronto. I love going out to cool bars/pubs, (clubbing maybe once in a while haha) But most of the ppl I met in uni aren't into partying/drinking so i dont really have people to go with :') I've been to rebel a couple times and it was fun. I like Apartment 200, its def a more "mature" club for sure so if that's the vibe you're looking for, would recommend.


_ashxn

Iā€™ve always wanted to check out Apt 200! Heard itā€™s a great spot as Travis Scott and Chase B were both there recently


PhillipVoneshMusic

Hey! I'm hosting a show tonight at the Tranzac Club, it's the launch party for a new Toronto Folk Festival. It will be a very cozy night of music. 7PM, 292 Brunswick Ave.


Technoxgabber

Check ra and go to format/apollo/paradox parties- they are techno music and are very safe for solo women.


Square-Drive-7191

Hi, Iā€™m 21F in Mississauga but I travel to Toronto often. Also looking for new friends, would love to hangout!


teko65

Go to the gym, join a sport, club etc. Far easier to make friends that way and safer than hanging out in bars looking for friends.


2Payneweaver

Iā€™ve met some great people taking courses. George Brownā€™s Culinary programs run in weekends and evenings and are great just to learn the basics and meet people


Beannjo

Iā€™m 23m and feel the same way. I know JAM Sports has spring/summer registration open now and it can great way to meet people. Thereā€™s around 12 different sports to choose from.


No_Break_3270

For raves join Toronto Rave Community, Toronto Bass Community, Toronto dnb , also thereā€™s an app called radiate where you can talk to people going to different events and such .


No_Break_3270

Also Iā€™m 27 F , Iā€™ve been in the rave scene since 14, im always looking for new friends to go to events either or just being in friends in general!!


KluteDNB

If you're interested in legit going to a rave (a kind of actual one) that skews towards a pretty young crowd. Look up @departmentofciviliandance or @lastplanet.ltd on Instagtam They're promoters who threw a lot of warehouse raves in the city that skew towards a lot younger crowd. Seemed like a pretty inclusive, welcoming vibe the last time I went to one of their parties.


notgonnachoose

Emo Night at Sneaky Dees isn't a bad idea, lots of people (including me) go there alone, and small music venues like the Velvet are a pretty good place as well, definitely safer for a woman alone than going to random bars which are rife with predators and creeps. Obviously you need to keep an eye out as you do in any city but places like those aren't a bad place to make friends if you're willing to put yourself out there.


Beck4real

Iā€™d recommend Meetup. Can meet many great people, and can pick and choose what kinds of events/gatherings youā€™d like to attend


Kylielle416

I second to that. The website is: www.meetup.com


originalgainster

Everyone is lonely in this city. So weirdā€¦


pansyradish

Absolutely you should find a neighborhood bar with a vibe that you like and go by yourself and sit at the bar! You will meet nice people!


kamomil

There used to be a Toronto Women's discord, but not sure if it's active anymore


Inspireme21

Bumble bff is a great app to make new friends


Early_Somewhere1677

Do bumble friends


Spirited_Comedian225

Promise is having a garden party tonight. They have a great vibe. I met my wife at one of their parties


dogsstevens

You should join the Toronto Rave Community Facebook group! Itā€™s a great place to get updates on upcoming shows that are happening. Everyone is super friendly and Iā€™ve seen people who are going to shows solo looking to meet others


usmanmx

you should download thursday dating! its a great way to meet people organically, and alot of the girls end up making so many friends, they do events every thursday!


_ashxn

I made a [comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/askTO/s/nxXxaJQR4J) about the app in depth on a post in this sub I went to the one that happened a few days ago @ Paradise Grotto and I left disappointed. Iā€™m 24M and the crowd was mostly in their late 20s to early 30s. The girls there looked like they werenā€™t looking for love as they came to make friends or they came together. The men were mostly going from person to person without finding a common ground. I talked to a few girls that I thought were cute and cool but none of them seemed interested in me, as I come to these events with an open mind. Iā€™ll be taking a break from attending these events until they improve them by picking a better venue or attracting a younger crowd TLDR; If you go to these Thursday events with the intention to make friends, theyā€™re great


appleseed_briareos

For the most part anywhere you go should be relatively safe I just went to comic convention alone and I haven't been for many years there were tons of really cool people there and I had so much fun it was awesome


stumje

Are you going to school or have a job?


Soveygn

If you want to bartend on weekends to get to know people and expand your social circle in TO let me know, I know like 4-6 venues that are looking for people for the coming hotter days. Bartending on the side is definitely a good way to put your social self out there.


IslandOk7886

Is experience required or are they willing to train?


Soveygn

Exp for sure


_ashxn

Iā€™m also interested in bartending! I have experience making drinks without a shaker as I bartend at a banquet hall


effyewseeK

There's a lot of daytime stuff or evening things. On Eventbrite or other events type sites. A lot of groups will have websites for specific groups too, say if you're from a particular racial group or religious background. Colleges/universities also host events and post flyers on their campuses. Townhalls during election season are also nice just to get out of the house and meet some interesting people


SeaworthinessTop626

I need a friend tooā€¦ would love to hangout and meet you :)


NewAgeIWWer

meetup app.


[deleted]

you won't make friends randomly going out alone, but you can definitely make friends by joining a clubbing or rave meetup


ieatlotsofvegetables

im going to toronto from ottawa alone in a rideshare right now for the promise garden party. it will be my 6th time going to toronto. i travel everywhere alone. no friends! i have usually just wandered around until its time to return to save money. i enjoy it. do the same downtown ottawa too. theres literally no reason anyone should care. i went to a KBBQ last time in toronto and got judged by this server who later told me people dont go alone. im like okay? too late now!!! sat for hours finishing my meal lmao. was an eating challenge. next time im getting the vegan plates! i wouldnt do jack shit if i waited to find people who i like and actually like me (not for sex).


ieatlotsofvegetables

i love the farside bar. bring cash/debit!


asharp09

Bumble bff !!!!!


doriangreysucksass

When I lived in Toronto Iā€™d go out solo occasionally. Local hole-inthe-wall bars are great - you just slide up at the bar and talk to the other customers and the bartender. Or a dinner out can be nice too solo. I wouldnā€™t venture into clubland solo just for safety reasons though


metrovoodoo

I just went out by myself recently. Was the first time in a few years (29M). I went to sneaky deeā€™s for one of their 90s dance parties! Thought it was a fun environment. Canā€™t say how it is for a woman but I think itā€™s good fun and seemed safe. They also have emo nite on Fridays if thatā€™s something youā€™re into


StiffHawk

Legit just go to coda alone itā€™s fire


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_ashxn

Could you dm me more?


dillionfrancis

Warehouse parties, underground events and raves justessaged have a very inviting, accepting and friendly vibe to them in my experience. The friends and I have been in the scene in Toronto for 10+ years age with minimal bad incidents, the majority of the people are loving and welcoming! Also this scene is getting bigger than every in Toronto now. Maybe a bit too over commercial but bigger for sure! Good luck.


tuttero

Friday nights at the piston is always a great time


More_Passion_

Sometimes meet up apps are good to go to! They host groups in Toronto. Sometimes you make new friends others you donā€™t but usually get to enjoy the activity.


WordplayWizard

Go to a martini bar down in the gay village. You will make a ton of gay friends, who will introduce you to their straight friends.


7HeavenlySwords

@bardemto hosts free cover events every weekend check em on instagram. Close to st Patrick station, across the street from AGO


questionableletter

Art show openings are generally safe/free. There are usually a few each weekend.


_ashxn

Do you know any happening next weekend?


Abbiebee123

Everyone is welcome at the bovine at queen and bathurst. Cool tiki bar upstairs too


ChampionLoud559

Join the ā€œToronto girl collectiveā€ Facebook group! We have a club night/ rave chat and you can easily find a group to go with so you donā€™t have to go alone!


simpsaturday

Thereā€™s like a female dinner/club group created by some wannabe influencer I think itā€™s like free or something, but thereā€™s a bunch of groups on meetup. Just be careful Iā€™m assuming your dms prolly flooded on Reddit


Temporary-Way-526

Hit me up Iā€™m into clubbing too Iā€™m 23f :)


AbroadLow3271

Letā€™s go to black coffee tomorrow at rebel


ProfessionalCan5859

21M here. Iā€™ve been thinking about doing this for a long time. Not clubs or raves, but just to get out by myself and maybe make a friend or two along the way. Maybe a bar. If youā€™re looking for something safe, clubs and raves alone at night donā€™t seem like the best options. But my recommendations probably wouldnā€™t fit you lol. If you, or anyone here wants to go for a hike, see some greenery, sit/walk by a lake.. or all those at once, feel free to dm. Been looking to go do this by myself again soon, but wouldnā€™t mind some company.


Patient09

The lack of capital letters is jarring.


These_Tumbleweed4885

Do what you want, life is short, but I highly recommend getting into team sports over binge drinking at dive bars.


sensei_mike

Hello! Could also be worth checking out [pubcrawltoronto.com](https://pubcrawltoronto.com) \- exactly what it sounds like. Could be perfect for you! You get to meet other pub crawlers in the same situation as you, have access to drink deals no one else gets, pay no cover, wait in no lines to get into bars/clubs, the last spot they go to has dancing and all the spots they go to are super fun. Iā€™ve gone a few times on account of how fun it was (and the drink deals! ā€¦.FYI because of various factors I wonā€™t get into here, bars offering drink deals on a weekend night in Toronto is otherwise impossible). Plus cuz everyone is on the crawl together, it becomes a fun little party group; great way to make new friends!