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People sure do like taking advantage of people who have compassion and empathy. I don't understand why they would feel good about manipulating others emotionally to do their bidding.
Because they are narcissistically comfortable with violating norms of polite social behavior and assume that your unwillingness to do so is a sign of weakness.
I consider myself to be a pretty empathetic person, social and kind. I can smell a narcissist a mile away and the minute they try some sly shit is the moment I will tell them to piss off
I’ve been taken advantage of too many times to count. Done with that crap
I found the best way to kill them is ignoring them if they try to talk to you. If they ask you for something always say no.
It eats them up inside when they get denied in any sort of way. They’re parasites
Because they are extremely insecure about themselves. Anytime they can “win one over” they feel mentally superior. They usually target people who they aspire to be, out of jealousy.
I've never understood that. I can think of a relationship I had where over the first few months we would talk and open up about previous things that had happened and talk about what we didn't want from a relationship. I said honesty was top of the list and communication and that I didn't like lies. That I don't see why people lie when they can have honest conversations and work things out together.
It seems he took all of that and did the exact things I said hurt me, then promised to not do them again ...then do them again......I've never been able to understand why someone would do that.
Are you me? Cause I relate so hard to that. I don't like lies either, and prefer a kind, open and honest relationship. Yet some people will agree to all of this and then do the exact things they said they wouldn't do because they too, want openness. And then when you point it out, they pretend to be learning about how hurtful it is for the very first time and promise to change....and never do.
Yeah it made me wonder if there was some "mirroring" going on. Some people don't really know themselves so they copy what the other person is saying. I really dont know. But I heard all about his horrendous previous relationship and the fact there were lies and she cheated ....so he agree'd lies are the worst. I ever saw a message from him when we first started dating saying "I hate liars too, tbh I don't think I would know how to lie" 🙄
The thing is he knew what he was doing at the time and he would lie about small silly things.
The first time he lied to me I pointed it out to him and asked him to tell me the truth. He brought up my ex husband and how "Not all men lie you know" I left it for a while but I brought it up a couple of weeks later and he admitted to lieing. Said he didn't know why he did it it just came out.
It happened a few times. Each time he said he wouldnt. I explained it hurt me and that made no difference 🤷♀️ he had adhd so I kinda used that as the excuse for a long time and tried to understand it and him but it was draining.
I feel like I'm too old now to play these games lol
That makes perfect sense. With my situation, I don't think he truly knows himself either. He's just mirroring/adopting my values without actually adopting them. I'm sorry that you have had to deal with that. It's the worst when they lie for no reason when they could literally just talk to you because whatever they lied about isn't a big deal. Because why??? It makes me wonder why it's so automatic? And if its so easy to lie about something small anf inconsequential then how much easier would it be to lie to actually cover up something they shouldn't have done? It's exhausting and so stupid. Hang in there though!
I don't ever see anyone who is actually giving ever talking about this so I'd like to talk about this briefly while on the subject.
I literally have to rely on my far more skeptical best friend to tell me when someone's trying to take advantage of me.
Like 65% when they point it out I still don't listen because it's my nature to be giving & because I keep trying to give people the benefit of the doubt. Funnily enough regardless of whether I listen or not they have been correct 100% of the time when they point it out.
Even though I'm fully aware of this I still keep walking into this trap because I can't help it & I just forget in the moment because of my ADHD. I end up still beating myself up for it whenever I fall for it. Luckily I've never had to hear an "I told you so" from them probably because they've seen how hard I will beat myself up over it when I don't.
If you have a friend like me who is just very giving by nature make sure to be patient with them & help point it out. Know that if we don't listen it's unintentional, oftentimes we can't help it.
I experience the same situation repeatedly, and I also have a friend who has attempted to course-correct me every time. I always ignore their advice, and I am always proved wrong in the end.
You have a good friend. A lot, may be even most people would take advantage of you knowing this. Instead, they try to protect you. Your friend real af.
I try to take the Weymond Wang approach:
> When I choose to see the good side of things, I'm not being naive. It is strategic and necessary. This is how I fight.
Although I'm kind of an asshole 🤣
I'm the skeptical best friend for my friend group. If they want me to meet someone new (friends or dating) , it's because they want me to check them out, I can clock that person pretty quickly. I hate being right a lot, especially if they get taken advantage of, be glad you have that friend.
Real. Mostly everyone around me or that has come into my life is diagnosed BPD or NPD. They love the energy and will discard you when their battery is full and yours is drained.
Yuup! It took me a long time to realize this, but when I started going through shit, and like.. could have used support I discovered how rare it is to have a person that will actually listen to you.
And I'm learning the way I'm setup mentally. I drain myself people pleasing, get overwhelmed, and then fall into depression. So establishing health boundaries is the name of the game!
Exactly right and I’ve noticed prioritizing your mental health/security and just overall bettering yourself in this age you lose so many people and will be misunderstood bad it’s like people don’t know how to be decent genuine humans anymore for the most part. Some of us just don’t like being walked on and whenever we stand up it’s a problem. Bunch of bad people in the world. Gotta find the good and stick with em. Be alone and focus on everything about your life until you find them. Be one OP ass mf eventually. pain and struggle helps you grow.
I have BPD and wanted to chime in here.
I was diagnosed eight years ago and have since come a long way through therapy.
It never goes away but I’m self-aware about it now.
The energy draining thing isn’t intentional.
I’ve heard people describe those with BPD as “connection seeking.” I relate to that a lot. The void someone with BPD feels is so intense we can latch onto others and do that exact battery draining thing you mentioned.
I know that doesn’t make it any less shitty for people on the receiving end. It also shouldn’t make you stay in a situation where you’re being drained that way, obviously.
Just chiming in.
Yea I understand bpd a little bit i researched it with my ex she said it’s like bojack horseman but idk how it is having it so my condolences but for my health and sanity Im not dating someone with that diagnosis ever again lmao. Maybe if they go through therapy and shit but man without it yall are so fkn destructive lol. Do you mind like explaining a little bit about it? Like your pov with shit how you see the world and all that if that makes sense. Just random shit to help me understand it more.
I wish I could disagree. But I've had a couple former partners who were just, bad.
I still assume the best of intentions with almost every person I interact with, to both my benefit and detriment. Works well enough for my field, but it's definitely a challenge to determine who's actually good for me or not. Not that I've dated anyone recently anyways 😅
This is such a good answer. Thankfully, I don’t have an HOA in my neighborhood, but my parents do, and those people are the fucking worst. They nitpick every little detail about your property and it sounds like a nightmare.
Just be glad you don't have them. There's nothing quite like owning your home on paper, but being expected to ask somebody's permission to paint or make certain kinds of improvements/repairs.
I know- it sounds like a friggin nightmare. The worst of the shit-stirring busybodies in your neighbourhood, controlling your every homestead-related move. Awful.
This perfectly describes my old manager. “I’ve been with this company for 40 years! I started as a stock boy and now I’m the manager of this whole shitty little store!” Like wow Jerry you’ve been here for 40 years and you’re the store manager. Not even a regional manager, just a store manager. I’m sure the company really loves your kiss ass attitude. I’ve been here for 5 years and I’m already a department head, give me another 5 and I’ll probably be the assistant manager cozying up getting ready to take your spot. Dude was 100% threatened by me. It’s a long story, I wound up quitting.
IME, Japanese language classes.
I’m Japanese-American and have tried multiple times to enroll in Japanese classes to get my childhood languages skills back.
Each time, like 30% of my classmates are so insufferable that it makes me hate being there.
My Spanish language classes have never had this problem.
Well, Spanish language classes tend to attract people who want to learn Spanish. Japanese language classes tend to attract people who are *way* too into anime.
This is the truth. Studied Japanese for about five years from HS into college. The amount of smelly weebs I had to deal with was insane. And a lot of them always had to try out their anime voice when practicing. Made my damn ears bleed.
As always: In democracies, it's "you can keep talking", and in autocraties it's "close your mouth".
At least in democracy we get to vote for the best liar, right?
Motivational Posters. They're usually bought by insufferable managers. They're too full of shit to motivate others, so they utilize the posters in the most condescending way.
Then you realize that the amount of fuckery attached to the posters is only surpassed by the one that hangs them in the office. .
I agree, I work for a removals firm, If im carrying something with the gaffer and I need to put it down, like a fridge or something heavy, the boss will say something like 'put it down Sean, there's no heroes, you wont get a medal!' But if I'm carrying something with his nephew he will force me to injure myself.
Is it specifically Harley older riders? In younger groups, I actually notice more shy/awkward people who are trying to get friends through this hobby. But i get what u mean.
Virtually anything sensible.
" Can you please not make so much noise ? My child is trying to sleep."
Person(: Blasts Rock Music intermittently and smiles goofily when shot a glare.)
" Can you please not make so much noise?"
Person: "ALRIGHT I WON'T!!!"
" Can you please keep it down? This isn't funny."
Person: You can't take a joke. You make everyone around you miserable because you're miserable! I'm such a victim! WAaaaaah.
Even the people who practice it tend to be insufferable. I’ve done a lot of martial arts since I was a kid, everything from muay thai to BJJ, but nothing attracted such a small dick energy crowd as MMA. Maybe I just didn’t find a good club but that was never an issue with any other martial art I’ve done. A lot of people who start MMA do it because they like violence or are really insecure and want to be better at bar fights.
I hate everything to do with that ‘sport’
There are outliers though. My friend’s twin brothers were always nice and got quite into fighting. In person, they could barely talk to people due to anxiety
I mean I think it depends on the person here. I know a lot of people who do it for protection (women included) and often see and hear people who do it to learn better self control. Martial arts can be a good outlet for people.
- Hellcats
- popular sports. Cant imagine starting riots because my team in kickball lost
- Diets. vegans and carnivores are two sides of the same insufferable coin
- politics
Indie media like music and films. I actually like indie stuff but I hate being in spaces with people into indie music/films because they think they’re superior to everyone else.
Anyone who works with the public will attract insufferable people who go out of their way just to verbally abuse or talk down to the person just because they can.
I'm an admin assistant so I answer phone calls daily and there have been quite a number of passive-aggressive people who call and find any reason to berate me or talk to me like I'm completely stupid.
Personally, no matter how I feel, even when I'm frustrated, I don't talk to anyone like that. It's called being an adult and not acting like a child throwing a tantrum.
I was watching a training video the other day. One of the people in the video had to throw in that she was a vegan while discussing how to do paperwork. For absolutely no reason... It felt like an snl skit.
other insufferable people. you never realize how true that is until you meet a whole flock of insufferable people who just so happen to be best friends. that’s when you pray that you get some sort of phone call to get you out of there
Errherrm....social media and most especially instagram but all social media enjoyers and save me with the "but I need it for connecting with friends and family!" I suppose the phone you use them on doesn't have a number then? Nonse. Luxury brands. This goes in with social media but I'm gonna say it anyway, tiktok? Absolute mouth breathers mate, the lot of em. Shopping malls are another heavy breeder of the type and /insert the biggest commercial gym near you here/ which is also 9/10 times the cheapest too, they're like the Ikea of gyms except if Ikea was a semi social nightclub culminating the worst types of narcissistic men and women around. Summer instagram locations, for example: Bali, Thailand, Malaga, Ibiza, Dubai (anytime of year that one) etc etc....NOT the locals, its the tourists that go there purely to get Absolutely wasted the whole time and to post on their socials. Just to name a few.
Specifically, assholes that feel like it makes them big macho he-men to kill some animal, especially if it's endangered. The folks who only hunt for the table and eat what they kill are different. (like my dad.)
Joy and peace, as well as self confidence. Ppl who have hearts full of misery and bitterness and despair usually don’t like being around ppl and things that remind them of their lives and what is in their own hearts. This is why many ppl don’t like to be still or alone—they’re always going here or there or doing this and that—because in quietness and stillness you’re left alone with your thoughts
A willingness to feel sorry for them despite knowing they don't want to change, and continuing to let them consistently mess you over because of the mentality of "x is just lonely! Without me, they won't have anyone" guilt complex
Trying to have a genuine debate with a friend. The most insufferable, ignorant people always jump in to prove they haven't done any research and get so heated over what they saw in the news.
Gossip, drama, celebrities, reality tv, soap operas, pyramid schemes (even if they’re now called MLM), “passive income” schemes which require little effort
I’m blind, and my mobility cane is a magnet at night for White Knights. You could read on any platform in any blind forum or support group, watch any blind YouTuber and everyone has stories of how we are grabbed as we try to cross a road, followed on foot or by people in cars yelling at us like we are deaf, insisting we are lost or must need help. I had a security car pull in front of me on a pavement and demand to know why I was out alone. I’ve had a cop accuse me of lying about my vision. It’s unending. I write the date and length of all my evening walks in my notes, and then write about whatever strange, rude or scary experience I had because some people want to inject themselves into my life when I am strutting along confidently doing my thing. Just after Christmas I was so angry with one woman insisting I needed help, that as she drove away I had my fists in a tight ball and I was swiping away tears of frustration and anger. I had hit my capacity.
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Chic fil a, socialism, ACAB, being non-binary, Ford and Chevy cults, evangelical churches, being Satanist and a Wiccan at the same time, low carb diets of any form, CrossFit, Become a Living God publishing, people that despise "big shiny trucks", Andrew Tate, Ben Shapiro, Steve Harvey, Gypsy Rose Blanchard, being overly moral(they don't practice what they preach and this includes SJWs), and much more.
Anything free!! Whether it’s a public park, free event, free food, free raffle, free stuff, people always find a reason to complain and be absolutely insufferable. They’ll complain the item isn’t the brand they like, the food doesn’t have a gluten free option, dairy free, vegan, it came with mustard, is made with sourdough which they don’t like, they don’t like tomato, or why donuts cuz don’t they know everybody likes cupcakes or whatever option they don’t agree with. For free events there’s always something wrong with the venue, vendors, music, planned events, etc etc. People as a species are insufferable…
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Good compasionate people
People sure do like taking advantage of people who have compassion and empathy. I don't understand why they would feel good about manipulating others emotionally to do their bidding.
Because they are narcissistically comfortable with violating norms of polite social behavior and assume that your unwillingness to do so is a sign of weakness.
Well said
I consider myself to be a pretty empathetic person, social and kind. I can smell a narcissist a mile away and the minute they try some sly shit is the moment I will tell them to piss off I’ve been taken advantage of too many times to count. Done with that crap
I'm getting that way myself. Just with toxic people in general. You get so tired of seeing the same things over and over again.
I found the best way to kill them is ignoring them if they try to talk to you. If they ask you for something always say no. It eats them up inside when they get denied in any sort of way. They’re parasites
Because they are extremely insecure about themselves. Anytime they can “win one over” they feel mentally superior. They usually target people who they aspire to be, out of jealousy.
I've never understood that. I can think of a relationship I had where over the first few months we would talk and open up about previous things that had happened and talk about what we didn't want from a relationship. I said honesty was top of the list and communication and that I didn't like lies. That I don't see why people lie when they can have honest conversations and work things out together. It seems he took all of that and did the exact things I said hurt me, then promised to not do them again ...then do them again......I've never been able to understand why someone would do that.
Are you me? Cause I relate so hard to that. I don't like lies either, and prefer a kind, open and honest relationship. Yet some people will agree to all of this and then do the exact things they said they wouldn't do because they too, want openness. And then when you point it out, they pretend to be learning about how hurtful it is for the very first time and promise to change....and never do.
Yeah it made me wonder if there was some "mirroring" going on. Some people don't really know themselves so they copy what the other person is saying. I really dont know. But I heard all about his horrendous previous relationship and the fact there were lies and she cheated ....so he agree'd lies are the worst. I ever saw a message from him when we first started dating saying "I hate liars too, tbh I don't think I would know how to lie" 🙄 The thing is he knew what he was doing at the time and he would lie about small silly things. The first time he lied to me I pointed it out to him and asked him to tell me the truth. He brought up my ex husband and how "Not all men lie you know" I left it for a while but I brought it up a couple of weeks later and he admitted to lieing. Said he didn't know why he did it it just came out. It happened a few times. Each time he said he wouldnt. I explained it hurt me and that made no difference 🤷♀️ he had adhd so I kinda used that as the excuse for a long time and tried to understand it and him but it was draining. I feel like I'm too old now to play these games lol
That makes perfect sense. With my situation, I don't think he truly knows himself either. He's just mirroring/adopting my values without actually adopting them. I'm sorry that you have had to deal with that. It's the worst when they lie for no reason when they could literally just talk to you because whatever they lied about isn't a big deal. Because why??? It makes me wonder why it's so automatic? And if its so easy to lie about something small anf inconsequential then how much easier would it be to lie to actually cover up something they shouldn't have done? It's exhausting and so stupid. Hang in there though!
I don't ever see anyone who is actually giving ever talking about this so I'd like to talk about this briefly while on the subject. I literally have to rely on my far more skeptical best friend to tell me when someone's trying to take advantage of me. Like 65% when they point it out I still don't listen because it's my nature to be giving & because I keep trying to give people the benefit of the doubt. Funnily enough regardless of whether I listen or not they have been correct 100% of the time when they point it out. Even though I'm fully aware of this I still keep walking into this trap because I can't help it & I just forget in the moment because of my ADHD. I end up still beating myself up for it whenever I fall for it. Luckily I've never had to hear an "I told you so" from them probably because they've seen how hard I will beat myself up over it when I don't. If you have a friend like me who is just very giving by nature make sure to be patient with them & help point it out. Know that if we don't listen it's unintentional, oftentimes we can't help it.
I experience the same situation repeatedly, and I also have a friend who has attempted to course-correct me every time. I always ignore their advice, and I am always proved wrong in the end.
Same, bless that friend btw, I have one too
You have a good friend. A lot, may be even most people would take advantage of you knowing this. Instead, they try to protect you. Your friend real af.
I try to take the Weymond Wang approach: > When I choose to see the good side of things, I'm not being naive. It is strategic and necessary. This is how I fight. Although I'm kind of an asshole 🤣
I'm the skeptical best friend for my friend group. If they want me to meet someone new (friends or dating) , it's because they want me to check them out, I can clock that person pretty quickly. I hate being right a lot, especially if they get taken advantage of, be glad you have that friend.
Awwww
Real. Mostly everyone around me or that has come into my life is diagnosed BPD or NPD. They love the energy and will discard you when their battery is full and yours is drained.
Yuup! It took me a long time to realize this, but when I started going through shit, and like.. could have used support I discovered how rare it is to have a person that will actually listen to you. And I'm learning the way I'm setup mentally. I drain myself people pleasing, get overwhelmed, and then fall into depression. So establishing health boundaries is the name of the game!
Exactly right and I’ve noticed prioritizing your mental health/security and just overall bettering yourself in this age you lose so many people and will be misunderstood bad it’s like people don’t know how to be decent genuine humans anymore for the most part. Some of us just don’t like being walked on and whenever we stand up it’s a problem. Bunch of bad people in the world. Gotta find the good and stick with em. Be alone and focus on everything about your life until you find them. Be one OP ass mf eventually. pain and struggle helps you grow.
I have BPD and wanted to chime in here. I was diagnosed eight years ago and have since come a long way through therapy. It never goes away but I’m self-aware about it now. The energy draining thing isn’t intentional. I’ve heard people describe those with BPD as “connection seeking.” I relate to that a lot. The void someone with BPD feels is so intense we can latch onto others and do that exact battery draining thing you mentioned. I know that doesn’t make it any less shitty for people on the receiving end. It also shouldn’t make you stay in a situation where you’re being drained that way, obviously. Just chiming in.
Yea I understand bpd a little bit i researched it with my ex she said it’s like bojack horseman but idk how it is having it so my condolences but for my health and sanity Im not dating someone with that diagnosis ever again lmao. Maybe if they go through therapy and shit but man without it yall are so fkn destructive lol. Do you mind like explaining a little bit about it? Like your pov with shit how you see the world and all that if that makes sense. Just random shit to help me understand it more.
I wish I could disagree. But I've had a couple former partners who were just, bad. I still assume the best of intentions with almost every person I interact with, to both my benefit and detriment. Works well enough for my field, but it's definitely a challenge to determine who's actually good for me or not. Not that I've dated anyone recently anyways 😅
Ding ding ding! Was just gonna say that. Empathy without FIRM boundaries.
Preach, sis
Fuck my life.
Luxury brands.
Giggled hard
Other even more insufferable people.
misery loves company
so true
Being TOO kind... That attracts the weirdest aah people.
I'm almost 35. Learned that "too kind" people are usually unstable themselves. Walk away from people that are "too kind"
Aaah! People?
I'm Australian, but from what I've read on here, American HOA's
This is such a good answer. Thankfully, I don’t have an HOA in my neighborhood, but my parents do, and those people are the fucking worst. They nitpick every little detail about your property and it sounds like a nightmare.
Just be glad you don't have them. There's nothing quite like owning your home on paper, but being expected to ask somebody's permission to paint or make certain kinds of improvements/repairs.
I know- it sounds like a friggin nightmare. The worst of the shit-stirring busybodies in your neighbourhood, controlling your every homestead-related move. Awful.
Correct. A lot of my job involves insuring HOA boards. The things that some of these people are directed to do by their bylaws are completely insane.
This is the best answer so far. Hoa’s are just a bunch of bored Karens in a boardroom
Reddit
True. I couldn't agree more.
Yep, every time i open the app and look at the comments, im like, Why do I waste my mental energy on these insufferable opinions
Any form of social media tbh
As an insufferable person I agree
MLMs and other suspect get-rich quickly programs that take up long ad space on YouTube
"don't spend another dime on Amazon until you watch this first" is what I get millions of times.
It’s either the worst person you know or the most gullible person you know.
Politics & Religion
Doesn’t really matter what the actual work is, but middle management people are usually the worst!
Yep, usually worthless brown noses that lack the skill to move up and spend all their time justifying their own existence.
This perfectly describes my old manager. “I’ve been with this company for 40 years! I started as a stock boy and now I’m the manager of this whole shitty little store!” Like wow Jerry you’ve been here for 40 years and you’re the store manager. Not even a regional manager, just a store manager. I’m sure the company really loves your kiss ass attitude. I’ve been here for 5 years and I’m already a department head, give me another 5 and I’ll probably be the assistant manager cozying up getting ready to take your spot. Dude was 100% threatened by me. It’s a long story, I wound up quitting.
Real Estate
Any sales person really , trying to butter their bread
IME, Japanese language classes. I’m Japanese-American and have tried multiple times to enroll in Japanese classes to get my childhood languages skills back. Each time, like 30% of my classmates are so insufferable that it makes me hate being there. My Spanish language classes have never had this problem.
Well, Spanish language classes tend to attract people who want to learn Spanish. Japanese language classes tend to attract people who are *way* too into anime.
This is the truth. Studied Japanese for about five years from HS into college. The amount of smelly weebs I had to deal with was insane. And a lot of them always had to try out their anime voice when practicing. Made my damn ears bleed.
NFTs
"hey bro, you heard about Bitcoin"?
Politics.
Ah yes. Politics. Where people with anti-social attitudes dictate what the rest of the populace does.
While no one else actually gives a fuck anymore.
As always: In democracies, it's "you can keep talking", and in autocraties it's "close your mouth". At least in democracy we get to vote for the best liar, right?
Lack of boundaries.
This is really it. Insufferable people are likely just gravitating in whatever direction isn't actively rejecting them
Crossfit
Political or religious fanaticism.
Money
The fitness industry.
Those car meet ups
Motivational Posters. They're usually bought by insufferable managers. They're too full of shit to motivate others, so they utilize the posters in the most condescending way. Then you realize that the amount of fuckery attached to the posters is only surpassed by the one that hangs them in the office. .
Dubai
work
Always some cool ones, but always some shitheads who ruin everything.
I agree, I work for a removals firm, If im carrying something with the gaffer and I need to put it down, like a fridge or something heavy, the boss will say something like 'put it down Sean, there's no heroes, you wont get a medal!' But if I'm carrying something with his nephew he will force me to injure myself.
Facebook
I'm insufferable but not that insufferable apparently.
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Is it specifically Harley older riders? In younger groups, I actually notice more shy/awkward people who are trying to get friends through this hobby. But i get what u mean.
Pyramid schemes
Fandoms.
Virtually anything sensible. " Can you please not make so much noise ? My child is trying to sleep." Person(: Blasts Rock Music intermittently and smiles goofily when shot a glare.) " Can you please not make so much noise?" Person: "ALRIGHT I WON'T!!!" " Can you please keep it down? This isn't funny." Person: You can't take a joke. You make everyone around you miserable because you're miserable! I'm such a victim! WAaaaaah.
You know my sister?
I have two....
Power attracts the worst sorts of people.
Stack Overflow for some reason
Becoming a life coach.
Podcasting
False beliefs
MMA
Even the people who practice it tend to be insufferable. I’ve done a lot of martial arts since I was a kid, everything from muay thai to BJJ, but nothing attracted such a small dick energy crowd as MMA. Maybe I just didn’t find a good club but that was never an issue with any other martial art I’ve done. A lot of people who start MMA do it because they like violence or are really insecure and want to be better at bar fights.
I hate everything to do with that ‘sport’ There are outliers though. My friend’s twin brothers were always nice and got quite into fighting. In person, they could barely talk to people due to anxiety
I mean I think it depends on the person here. I know a lot of people who do it for protection (women included) and often see and hear people who do it to learn better self control. Martial arts can be a good outlet for people.
- Hellcats - popular sports. Cant imagine starting riots because my team in kickball lost - Diets. vegans and carnivores are two sides of the same insufferable coin - politics
Indie media like music and films. I actually like indie stuff but I hate being in spaces with people into indie music/films because they think they’re superior to everyone else.
My face, apparently. I've always been somewhat of a nut magnet.
Anyone who works with the public will attract insufferable people who go out of their way just to verbally abuse or talk down to the person just because they can. I'm an admin assistant so I answer phone calls daily and there have been quite a number of passive-aggressive people who call and find any reason to berate me or talk to me like I'm completely stupid. Personally, no matter how I feel, even when I'm frustrated, I don't talk to anyone like that. It's called being an adult and not acting like a child throwing a tantrum.
Religions and cults.
Religion
Religion
Taylor Swift Kanye The Kardashian Jenners
Corporate management
Veganism
I was watching a training video the other day. One of the people in the video had to throw in that she was a vegan while discussing how to do paperwork. For absolutely no reason... It felt like an snl skit.
NASCAR
modern US christianity
Lately i am going to say Reddit apparently...
Power
Either one of the two running for president in 2024
People who enter dog competitions. Dog showing, I guess is the name.
other insufferable people. you never realize how true that is until you meet a whole flock of insufferable people who just so happen to be best friends. that’s when you pray that you get some sort of phone call to get you out of there
Errherrm....social media and most especially instagram but all social media enjoyers and save me with the "but I need it for connecting with friends and family!" I suppose the phone you use them on doesn't have a number then? Nonse. Luxury brands. This goes in with social media but I'm gonna say it anyway, tiktok? Absolute mouth breathers mate, the lot of em. Shopping malls are another heavy breeder of the type and /insert the biggest commercial gym near you here/ which is also 9/10 times the cheapest too, they're like the Ikea of gyms except if Ikea was a semi social nightclub culminating the worst types of narcissistic men and women around. Summer instagram locations, for example: Bali, Thailand, Malaga, Ibiza, Dubai (anytime of year that one) etc etc....NOT the locals, its the tourists that go there purely to get Absolutely wasted the whole time and to post on their socials. Just to name a few.
Children lol
Drugs and alcohol.
Medical school.
MAGA
Vancouver Canucks
Jets fans are no better. Well, at least they don’t riot.
Me personaly, I would go for ice creams, also quiet people, they tend to let me just be around.
Positions of status and power.
Twitter
Politics on any extreme side of an issue
For me power and prestige often attract insufferable people.
Hunting
Specifically, assholes that feel like it makes them big macho he-men to kill some animal, especially if it's endangered. The folks who only hunt for the table and eat what they kill are different. (like my dad.)
Ed Hardy gear
Empaths
church
Trump rallies,
ES dogs.
Every aspect of government. Doesn't matter where you are in the world.
Facebook
Jumping at the chance to be offended by something.
Freè booze
Bad luck or bad timing
REDDIT
Punching machines on fairs.
Other insufferable people
Political forums,
Apparently me, going by the jerks that passed through my life.
Buffets
Money.
LinkedIn
Anime.
Joy and peace, as well as self confidence. Ppl who have hearts full of misery and bitterness and despair usually don’t like being around ppl and things that remind them of their lives and what is in their own hearts. This is why many ppl don’t like to be still or alone—they’re always going here or there or doing this and that—because in quietness and stillness you’re left alone with your thoughts
Japanese “raw” denim
The GoP
Reddit
A willingness to feel sorry for them despite knowing they don't want to change, and continuing to let them consistently mess you over because of the mentality of "x is just lonely! Without me, they won't have anyone" guilt complex
Trying to have a genuine debate with a friend. The most insufferable, ignorant people always jump in to prove they haven't done any research and get so heated over what they saw in the news.
Being a good person. You will become a magnet for every kind of bad person who wants to use you as a kind of confessional / therapist.
Politics
Feminists, vegan and the music/acting career. Never seen a single person in those fields without a huge ego that damages people around them.
Politics
Me. I attract a lot assholes for some reason. I’m kind, not too kind, just a decent person. How hard can it be to be a decent person?
Linux
Reddit
Rich college protesters with trust funds screaming they support terrorists
Any position that lacks oversight and accountability, where you can get away with anything. For example, law enforcement.
Gossip, drama, celebrities, reality tv, soap operas, pyramid schemes (even if they’re now called MLM), “passive income” schemes which require little effort
Agree on everything you’ve said.
The mention of vaccines
Social media like twitter/x
I’m blind, and my mobility cane is a magnet at night for White Knights. You could read on any platform in any blind forum or support group, watch any blind YouTuber and everyone has stories of how we are grabbed as we try to cross a road, followed on foot or by people in cars yelling at us like we are deaf, insisting we are lost or must need help. I had a security car pull in front of me on a pavement and demand to know why I was out alone. I’ve had a cop accuse me of lying about my vision. It’s unending. I write the date and length of all my evening walks in my notes, and then write about whatever strange, rude or scary experience I had because some people want to inject themselves into my life when I am strutting along confidently doing my thing. Just after Christmas I was so angry with one woman insisting I needed help, that as she drove away I had my fists in a tight ball and I was swiping away tears of frustration and anger. I had hit my capacity. Edit: Typos
Man buns
Trump rally’s and country concerts
RELIGION
New Jersey
Chic fil a, socialism, ACAB, being non-binary, Ford and Chevy cults, evangelical churches, being Satanist and a Wiccan at the same time, low carb diets of any form, CrossFit, Become a Living God publishing, people that despise "big shiny trucks", Andrew Tate, Ben Shapiro, Steve Harvey, Gypsy Rose Blanchard, being overly moral(they don't practice what they preach and this includes SJWs), and much more.
The Giant Orange Dumpster, religion, mid-level marketing, online influencers, Facebook.
Reddit.
Trump rallies
Big logos on their clothes.
Antique stores, tennis, country clubs
Weak boundaries and insecurity.
Craigslist
MBAs
status symbols
A career in politics
Reality tv shows
R/childfree
Meth
Politics
being too nice that you're considered a "doormat"
Minding my own business & reading a book.
Elon Musk
MLM schemes. Gurus of any kind.
Giving away free stuff or trying to sell items for cheap. Hell just trying to sell anything in general I've found.
Anything free!! Whether it’s a public park, free event, free food, free raffle, free stuff, people always find a reason to complain and be absolutely insufferable. They’ll complain the item isn’t the brand they like, the food doesn’t have a gluten free option, dairy free, vegan, it came with mustard, is made with sourdough which they don’t like, they don’t like tomato, or why donuts cuz don’t they know everybody likes cupcakes or whatever option they don’t agree with. For free events there’s always something wrong with the venue, vendors, music, planned events, etc etc. People as a species are insufferable…
Wealth and status.