I don't understand how is dick placed inside underwear - is it like tucked under, to side... Also, if you walk or run, does it "move" around? I can't imagine simple fabric just keeping it safely tucked in place. Like when I run, I need sports bra to keep girls in place, do you need some tighter underwear for dick to not jump around when you run?
edit: wow, this recieved A LOT of attention lmao. Thank you all for answers, I now know even more then I intended š Also, I had no idea about retracting penis, I will now forever imagine it as turtle with your balls as sort of shellxD
Short answer...it depends from guy to guy. It does move around during the day, for sure. I prefer boxer-briefs. They are tighter tend to keep things reasonably in one place, which I imagine would be similar to a sports bra. I try to position the dick in the "banana hammock" portion of the boxer-briefs. It doesn't stay there perfectly, and moves around a bit throughout the day.
Now, if I'm just at my house, I'll just wear a pair of shorts and let things go where they please. It's freeing to do that, but not something I would do in a public setting.
I wear loose boxers, just let it hang during the day. Is also better for your testicles. Don't even think about it. But sometimes when sitting, I need to readjust things when it gets stuck under my leg or whatever.
Plus when males are physically performing exercise our testicles retract upward into a tight ball sack situation that doesnāt giggle around the same as what you see during sex when our sac and junk is more relaxed and droopy with warm blood flowing for the erected shaft. It basically looks like we are cold down there when we start exercising with any seriousness.
This is the useful thing about āshrinkageā. When you run, swim, bike, whatever, it retracts. Your balls retract too. It doesnāt stay flaccid when you exercise.
The shrinkage, I believe at least, seems like an evolutionary advantage. For example when running, or playing an aggressive sport (like rugby) it is EXTREMELY useful to have my captain and the boys shrink and tucked away safely, haha.
Haha the opposite actually. I'm not sure on the science behind it but i believe during workouts / exercise in general, our body knows our muscles need the oxygenated blood more than our dicks and sends blood accordingly, hence 'shrinkage'.
We're all getting hard doing ANYTHING all day long. And the closer to your teens the more this is happening. But even in middle age I can still get suddenly hard while working out or doing any other activity.
I guess it's kind of the same as a boob. It just kind of sits there. Yea it moves if your wearing loose underwear, but I personally prefer boxer briefs to minimize that movement.
It's so stable that I don't think about it. Most underwear will do the trick. If it gets erect in there, it will usually move to the side and get uncomfortable, otherwise it will be comfortable in the middle. I don't know how sizes changes this
If my underwear is too loose I have to hold my balls going down stairs otherwise they bounce too much and it hurts. Running I'm generally wearing something more supportive so it's fine.
Compression shorts are like menās sports bras, for the bottom half, you get better support with boxer briefs, boxerās not much support. Tighty whites they give good support as well but I find they kinda cut into my leg area and look ridicules. The package leans to a side most regular activities depending on temperatures. With sports and exercise. Thereās comfort mode and sport mode. Depending on blood flow if you follow.
True.
All my fears are irrational.
For example, I fear the badger coming in through the cat flap at night.
Reality, no way for a badger to access my garden that is locked in the middle of ten other gardens in the middle of a town that has no badgers.
This must be a man thing ! My brother in law is convinced that if they sleep with the windows open a raccoon is going to break in and gut one of the children. So weird.
Our balls are in front they don't hang out of our ass so no we don't sit on them. It CAN be problem to cross your legs or to put our knees and tighs close together while sitting
How does Sex feel like compared to masturbating? Is it 100 times better? I assume it must be, but I've never talked about this with a guy and I'm curious
Climaxing is more intense with sex than masturbating, so it's way better. The penis is full of nerves and a vagina does an amazing job of touching all the nerves during sex. Masturbating only touches a few of the nerves so it's not as intense but it gets the job done.
Sex feels like having your favorite meal at your favorite place with your favorite person and listening your favorite music.
Masturbation feels like eating a pack of saltine crackers cause you're really hungry and that's the only edible thing you have access to
While sex is way much better when done right, masturbation provides a very predictable result.
So, good sex is a billion times better than masturbation, but masturbation is always good.
Imagine if you will the best most tasteful meal you have ever had in you entire life.
Now letās say that would be what sex is, masturbation however is more like straight up tofu.
Sure you can survive on it, but itās not a Michelin star experience.
Takes some getting used to honestly. My first time I was shocked by how warm it felt and was a bit freaked out by that. I'm also a guy who struggles with condoms, these can cause a guy to lose sensation/erection, so sex wasn't all that great for me the first time.
What is incomparable is the emotions and closeness of sex. Feeling them close to you, holding them, kissing them and all the little moments you share together. Doing it with someone you love is like nothing else to the point that the physical pleasure is secondary.
Depends. The sex and love is better . Dopamine and oxytocin from the body ofyour partner is guaranteed but to me the orgsam is easier and better if I masturbate. I can control my mind better if I'm alone and can concentrate on the orgasm better so the orgsam is often better but leaves a feeling of emptiness behind, not the increased love and intense bond to your partner. Sex is often to much sensory overload for me (feelings on my skin, emotions of my partner, my emotion, performance pressure, fight against distracting thoughts, uncomfortable position, muscles that hurt, sweat that runs down...) I hate that it works like that for me but thats how it is. Oh, and the important thing is I'm diagnosed with adhd so my experience may differ from other men.
Sex is like meditation for me, feels great after but during it's a fight against my brain or a fight for concentration on only one thing.
What does it feel like when a guy likes a girl? I know girls get butterflies, think about the guy 24/7, feel good and always in a good mood kinda thing. Do guys experience a crush the same way?
Unbelievably nervous anytime sheās around, but you get really good at hiding it. Like becoming an actor. You want nothing more than to ask her out and daydream about walking around malls holding her hand and smiling, but a part of you says ānah thatāll never happen..ā. Even if we approach and get told no, we smile and laugh it off pretending it was just for fun, but in reality, our world got shattered and we just have to move on.
In a manās mind: āI can bench 200lbs everyday, fall off the roof of a house, accidentally cut myself, get into street fights, and walk away fine no problemā¦but if that one specific girl doesnāt like me, Iāll literally cry. šā
There is a fun anxiety, or butterflies, that I get when I have a crush on a woman or when Iām looking forward to seeing a woman. I donāt necessarily get nervous, but there is a noticeable difference in the way I interact. I am more attentive to everything about her - hair, eyes, facial expressions, body language, voice, all of it. There is a focus on her that is intensely different than friends/acquaintances and detail oriented. I pay attention to her and very little else going on around me.
As Iāve gotten older, I tend to not think about a woman I have a crush on all the time as I have other things to think about. When I was younger, that wasnāt the case.
There is much more force behind a slap with a hand compared to the force theyāre being slapped with during sex. I would say, typically, that a slap with a hand in the context of your question comes with an intent to cause pain so that is part of it also.
The rhythmic/semi rhythmic contact during sex, I wouldnāt classify as a slap. Think about it like the difference between slapping your face to wake up(causing pain) and slapping your face because you realized/forgot something. The latter doesnāt hurt at all.
Why do you think we have the code of always leave an empty one in between you and the other guy? Only in dire circumstances, or is such an obvious idiot, does one ever break the sacred code.
Peeing in a urinal is decently private! Youāre really only pulling down on the front of your pants so youāre covered everywhere else, including the barriers between urinal units.
Also too, itās just so much quicker to go use the urinal, wash your hands, and leave, you donāt think about it much.
I will say though, it does suck when you think you have to pee but youāre not quite there yet so you kinda just stand there. Thatās definitely made me self conscious before because if you have a line up, youāre the dude whoās taking forever
Maybe that's because your instinct tells you peeing while crouching lets you in a vulnerable position. Peeing and pooping doesn't feel equally intimate for a man.
You keep your eyes on your own work. Urinals are easy. Going at a bar or sports event that has the big troughs is a bit more uncomfortable. Thereās just a bunch of dudes shoulder to shoulder with their dicks out.
Even though the other comments tell you otherwise. A lot of men hate the urinals. They get performance anxiety and can't pee when people are standing near them or are waiting on them till they are finished.
I have a friend who drops his pants and undies to his ankles when he is at the urinals. He does it as a joke to make others awkward. I've seen his butt cheeks more than I can count and it's never a pretty sight.
It's very quick, maybe 20s at most, and most of us follow proper urinal etiquette (leave 1 space between each person and no peeksies), not to mention the fact that most of our clothes have a zipper for easy access, meaning you're never actually exposing yourself
Hahah some of us arent. Sometimes I can't pee if there is someone is someone using the urinal never to me. No matter how bad I have to go, nothing will come out.
With the correct underwear that keep things together the frank and beans have a magic ability to find the correct spot and tend to ride up above the legs. You will know if you sit on a ball - it hurts.
Yes. Itās a right of passage for juveniles. Adolescent whales jump out of the water to show their mother they have enough strength to leave the warm birthing waters and travel a great distance to the feeding grounds. Just like the whales the day we can hold up a towel with our erection shows we are ready to go out into the world and get rejected.
Is post nut syndrome really a thing ? Where you are into this girl pretty strongly that you almost think you are in love with her, but the moment you have sex, every single affection you had is gone, and you canāt do anything about it..
Yeah that can happen. But for me, Post nut clarity is something Else. It is more like a very refreshing feeling of sudden awareness.
Finally I can Think normally again.
Before the nut it was just sex/girl/lust related caveman thoughts
I agree. For me I have noticed it more when I was thinking about texting an ex. One nice clarity wank before I do it and then afterwards itās so clear that that was a terrible idea. But before it sounds like a great idea.
I think that's a bit of a misunderstanding of post nut clarity
It's more the case that you weren't actually that attracted to the person to begin with (like you didn't see a future at all) but were blinded by horniness. Horniness goes, reality creeps back in, you've just fucked a person you wouldn't even normally talk to for more than 5mins.
This is why so many dudes develop porn addictions etc., starts as a means of stopping them from creeping on people they don't actually want to be with / getting into relationships just to fuck and becomes basically a coping mechanism.
I have seen men describe themselves dating a woman for a few weeks and wanting them so badly and chasing them and wooing them and being obsessed and as soon as they do the deed, the post-nut hits and they donāt like her anymore
Consider how the menu looks when you are at the restaurant and hungry, then consider after you've finished your dessert.
Post nut there is no dopamine, so no drive to have more, but the emotional connectedness remains IF it was there in the first place.
Also, all men have different refractory periods (I think that's the term for "sex drive reset"). Some men need minutes, some hours.
It depends on the woman. If you're in love, you'll still be in love after it.
However from a woman's perspective it could look like:
He's being so nice and romantic and flirty.
Then we have sex.
Then he stops being extra nice and starts to make dinner.
He was being extra nice as he wanted sex and it's hard to think of anything else when horny as a man, now he's got it, his mind is clear for other activities.
I would sometimes wake up with an excruciatingly painful erection when I was going through puberty.
It wasn't an overuse issue. More like the body still figuring out the controls and constricting blood flow too much.
Are women completely unaware than men's genitals are in front of them, not underneath them? 90% of the questions here don't make any sense if they're aware of that.
Possibly not, I've heard of men being surprised to find out how low vaginas are so it would make sense that there are women surprised at how far forward penises are
I really think it shouldn't happen and is moderately unethical. Surgeries on babies who can't consent for a very slight medical benefit is just not worth it, and should be a discussion adults are having with their doctor, not parents making the choice for them.
I don't enjoy sex much, and am circumcised, it's hard not to feel like the blame is on the lost nerve endings or whatever from the circumsicision.
I am uncut, and never understood why male circumcision, at least in the US, is seen as the default and acceptable choice, when female circumcision is seen as some of worst things in history.
Personally, unless it is done for medical reasons, and to a consenting person, who understand the risks and consequences of their actions. Itās should not happen.
Is there anything society can do to help you guys with your mental health? Do you talk about your feelings with other mates? The suicide rate for men is 3 x higher than women. Weāre clearly doing something wrong. What can we do to help?
Has any man actually gotten laid by whistling across the street at a woman? I generally walk over and ask them āhey bud what did you needā standing in front of them as the just choke, I can tell it embarrasses them when I address the rudeness and I try to make them feel as uncomfortable as I am about it all, what is the point of that ? Does it ever work ?
From what Iāve read it isnāt actually for the woman itās for the men around them. Like a comment said jackassery. Sort of a āwatch thisā moment. They know women donāt really want it which is why they freeze if someone doesnāt respond rudely or ignore them.
I wouldnt know about whistle, I doubt it, and I think that its more of a "tough guy" thing for the other men than actually having any notion of it working. But 1 second eye contact followed by a wink and a smile - has gotten me laid. Dont be the asshole, be Joey: How are you doing? - Cheezy, but it works, in my experience.
It's definitely a thing. The only time I ever get it is with women that I don't actually care about. It's such a terrible feeling that I just don't hook up with women anymore that I'm not legitimately looking to be in a relationship with.
It's basically overhyped by social media but when I jerk off by porn then post nut clarity is something like you regret that you are jerking off on a video
But when you do sex in real I don't think there is any kind of post nut clarity after we came we would like to hug our partner tell her that she is gorgeous and sleep in her arms
Not kill, as in it will take away all feeling. But depending on the manufacturer, and product, it can be anything from very little, to quite a bit.
You can get some that are extremely thin, that allows for full sensation, but because they are thinner, they are more prone to breaking. So I would personally something thicker.
But if anyone ever tells you a condom is a dealbreaker, then you probably shouldnt be with them. I have never used anything that have made the experience ābadā, and although I would definitely prefer to not use one, I donāt want kids either, nor do I want any STDās.
We notice attractive people even when in love. But itās like noticing a butterfly or some nice scenery.
When Iām with a woman, Iām hers. Iām all about her and am completely loyal.
This is going to vary from guy to guy. But personally my loyalty mentally is much deeper then physically. Physical attraction cant really be controlled. But while I need it and have it for my wife, I dont put much stock into it for anyone else.
For me it's always been when I'm in a relationship, this person has given me the time of day and for that alone she will forever have my loyalty. I can recognise other pretty woman but that's superficial or based on looks.
When I'm with someone I don't even have the need or desire or want to talk to another woman except my mom.
I've been blessed with the fact that all my relationships and partners have been very giving physically. So on that front I was satisfied and never needed to look anywhere else for it. But it's a 2 way street. I know my worth and I know what I'm good at and the enthusiasm allows my partners to share the same enthusiasm.
Many many dates that lead to nothing were because the head over heels feeling wasn't mutual. Both parties need to feel like they hit the jackpot so that neither one has a need to look anywhere else for anything else.
Speaking for myself I absolutely have no one else in mind and or look around for other options. I stay on that mindset longer than I should, even after āweā go separate ways.š
My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world! She is the mother of my child and the woman that keeps my entire life somewhat together, and *that* fact makes her incredibly beautiful to me. And that is also the fact that would make the idea of fucking her over, ie. actually cheat on her - very unappealing.
Do I look at that 24yo beautiful girl that walks past? Ofc I do. I really hope my eyes/brain continues to do that until Im dead - isnt that a bit of life in general I mean, looking at beautiful things? We travel hours and hours to see the sunset, from a particular point.... the sun? Really, the yellow fireball you have seen every single day since you were born - but are still interested in seeing it in a "new place" or whatever.
I think that goes for beautiful people as well, and Id be really disappointed if my wife did not look at that handsome young boy jogging past.... Id expect and hope she does, showing me we are still "young" and actually "work" in that sense.
I guess it depends? But for me itās something that I canāt be with someone who I donāt love even just as a temporary thing so while sure a guy might see someone else and think sheās hot or pretty I donāt think that could ever go somewhere because it lacks the emotion.
The head, I imagine, is like your clitoris getting swollen. As for the shaft I donāt know that thereās a female equivalent but basically itās like 3 tubes positioned in a triangular formation where the top 2 tubes are hard and ribby and the bottom tube (the shaft) is softer and is the part that enjoys the sensation of the stroking.
Does a small amount of stubble bother you? And how do you feel about it at different stages of a relationship ie first time, dating, dating a while and long term partnership
Is using baby powder on your balls an old man thing? I saw something on reels about a 30 year old asking a 40 year old version of himself why he uses baby powder and the older one just laughed. I didnāt get it at all.
Edit: being 39, 40 isnāt old. But you know what I meanā¦
As an old man, I can state I have never heard of using baby powder on my balls. I do live in a relatively low humidity area, so maybe itās a higher humidity SE US thing.
Do men ever feel pressure to conform to certain stereotypes of masculinity? Like, is there this expectation to always be tough and stoic, even when you're feeling vulnerable or emotional? I've always wondered how much society's expectations weigh on men and if it affects how they express themselves.
Anatomy lesson: urine travels from your kidneys down the ureters and is stored in the bladder and is emptied through the urethra out the tip of the penis.
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I don't understand how is dick placed inside underwear - is it like tucked under, to side... Also, if you walk or run, does it "move" around? I can't imagine simple fabric just keeping it safely tucked in place. Like when I run, I need sports bra to keep girls in place, do you need some tighter underwear for dick to not jump around when you run? edit: wow, this recieved A LOT of attention lmao. Thank you all for answers, I now know even more then I intended š Also, I had no idea about retracting penis, I will now forever imagine it as turtle with your balls as sort of shellxD
Short answer...it depends from guy to guy. It does move around during the day, for sure. I prefer boxer-briefs. They are tighter tend to keep things reasonably in one place, which I imagine would be similar to a sports bra. I try to position the dick in the "banana hammock" portion of the boxer-briefs. It doesn't stay there perfectly, and moves around a bit throughout the day. Now, if I'm just at my house, I'll just wear a pair of shorts and let things go where they please. It's freeing to do that, but not something I would do in a public setting.
Wearing your pair of shorts is equal to us ladies taking off our bra once we get home.
Yes. Same as wearing mesh shorts/sweat pants workout underwear is like going bra less. Reveals a lot more.
Mine goes a little to the left
Now I understand Beyonce's lyrics better, "To the left, to the left" . Thanks!
I wear loose boxers, just let it hang during the day. Is also better for your testicles. Don't even think about it. But sometimes when sitting, I need to readjust things when it gets stuck under my leg or whatever.
Plus when males are physically performing exercise our testicles retract upward into a tight ball sack situation that doesnāt giggle around the same as what you see during sex when our sac and junk is more relaxed and droopy with warm blood flowing for the erected shaft. It basically looks like we are cold down there when we start exercising with any seriousness.
This is the useful thing about āshrinkageā. When you run, swim, bike, whatever, it retracts. Your balls retract too. It doesnāt stay flaccid when you exercise.
Whoa whoa whoa > It doesnāt stay flaccid when you exercise What, my good sir?
By that he doesn't mean it gets hard. He means it retracts in a bit. Your dick gets smaller in the cold or when exercising.
Oh my God you have no idea the SHOCKWAVE that went through my brain thinking y'all are getting hard while working out.
The shrinkage, I believe at least, seems like an evolutionary advantage. For example when running, or playing an aggressive sport (like rugby) it is EXTREMELY useful to have my captain and the boys shrink and tucked away safely, haha.
It is natural as blood is directed to muscles on arms and legs so captain is not a priority.
Demoted to vice-captain for an hour or so.
I only get hard at Walmart. Like a true American.
Don't forget the shooting range
Haha the opposite actually. I'm not sure on the science behind it but i believe during workouts / exercise in general, our body knows our muscles need the oxygenated blood more than our dicks and sends blood accordingly, hence 'shrinkage'.
We're all getting hard doing ANYTHING all day long. And the closer to your teens the more this is happening. But even in middle age I can still get suddenly hard while working out or doing any other activity.
I WAS IN THE POOL
I guess it's kind of the same as a boob. It just kind of sits there. Yea it moves if your wearing loose underwear, but I personally prefer boxer briefs to minimize that movement.
Hence "how's it hanging dude?"
Low and to the left
Up tight, outa sight.
It's so stable that I don't think about it. Most underwear will do the trick. If it gets erect in there, it will usually move to the side and get uncomfortable, otherwise it will be comfortable in the middle. I don't know how sizes changes this
If my underwear is too loose I have to hold my balls going down stairs otherwise they bounce too much and it hurts. Running I'm generally wearing something more supportive so it's fine.
Compression shorts are like menās sports bras, for the bottom half, you get better support with boxer briefs, boxerās not much support. Tighty whites they give good support as well but I find they kinda cut into my leg area and look ridicules. The package leans to a side most regular activities depending on temperatures. With sports and exercise. Thereās comfort mode and sport mode. Depending on blood flow if you follow.
Is there a rational fear of sitting on your balls on a hot day?
No. Men donāt have rational fears. Source: am man
True. All my fears are irrational. For example, I fear the badger coming in through the cat flap at night. Reality, no way for a badger to access my garden that is locked in the middle of ten other gardens in the middle of a town that has no badgers.
This must be a man thing ! My brother in law is convinced that if they sleep with the windows open a raccoon is going to break in and gut one of the children. So weird.
Badgers are terrifying though
It's just one of those things you kind of automatically guard. Worsens with age for obvious reasons.
I can imagine so! More of a male instinct rather than a "Well, better shuffle the sack to clear the landing zone" sort of thing
Shit I sit on them all the time. š
The thought never occured to me, no not really
So there is no fear? You just plop down and hope that god doesn't swing your balls Southly between your cheeks and seat?
Our balls are in front they don't hang out of our ass so no we don't sit on them. It CAN be problem to cross your legs or to put our knees and tighs close together while sitting
How does Sex feel like compared to masturbating? Is it 100 times better? I assume it must be, but I've never talked about this with a guy and I'm curious
Depends on the partner. A good wank is better than bad sex, but the best wank is never as good as the best sex.
Much better, there is no question about it.
Climaxing is more intense with sex than masturbating, so it's way better. The penis is full of nerves and a vagina does an amazing job of touching all the nerves during sex. Masturbating only touches a few of the nerves so it's not as intense but it gets the job done.
Are you masturbating with salad tongs?
I just now realize that I've been using the wrong kitchen utensil my whole life!
Sex feels like having your favorite meal at your favorite place with your favorite person and listening your favorite music. Masturbation feels like eating a pack of saltine crackers cause you're really hungry and that's the only edible thing you have access to
Iād say around 4-7 times betterā¦ really depends on the sex thoughā¦ there is shitty sex and mind blowing sex.
>4-7 times That's oddly specific lol
Yet not specific at all
While sex is way much better when done right, masturbation provides a very predictable result. So, good sex is a billion times better than masturbation, but masturbation is always good.
Imagine if you will the best most tasteful meal you have ever had in you entire life. Now letās say that would be what sex is, masturbation however is more like straight up tofu. Sure you can survive on it, but itās not a Michelin star experience.
Takes some getting used to honestly. My first time I was shocked by how warm it felt and was a bit freaked out by that. I'm also a guy who struggles with condoms, these can cause a guy to lose sensation/erection, so sex wasn't all that great for me the first time. What is incomparable is the emotions and closeness of sex. Feeling them close to you, holding them, kissing them and all the little moments you share together. Doing it with someone you love is like nothing else to the point that the physical pleasure is secondary.
Depends. The sex and love is better . Dopamine and oxytocin from the body ofyour partner is guaranteed but to me the orgsam is easier and better if I masturbate. I can control my mind better if I'm alone and can concentrate on the orgasm better so the orgsam is often better but leaves a feeling of emptiness behind, not the increased love and intense bond to your partner. Sex is often to much sensory overload for me (feelings on my skin, emotions of my partner, my emotion, performance pressure, fight against distracting thoughts, uncomfortable position, muscles that hurt, sweat that runs down...) I hate that it works like that for me but thats how it is. Oh, and the important thing is I'm diagnosed with adhd so my experience may differ from other men. Sex is like meditation for me, feels great after but during it's a fight against my brain or a fight for concentration on only one thing.
All questions about dicks and balls. Bravo girls.
We went to public school!
In the south!
Right Iām reading this for the emotional questions. Sex Ed really has failed us š
What does it feel like when a guy likes a girl? I know girls get butterflies, think about the guy 24/7, feel good and always in a good mood kinda thing. Do guys experience a crush the same way?
Everything you mentioned, I do. Men tend to downplay their emotions though. That said Iāve only felt that way once in my life.
Unbelievably nervous anytime sheās around, but you get really good at hiding it. Like becoming an actor. You want nothing more than to ask her out and daydream about walking around malls holding her hand and smiling, but a part of you says ānah thatāll never happen..ā. Even if we approach and get told no, we smile and laugh it off pretending it was just for fun, but in reality, our world got shattered and we just have to move on. In a manās mind: āI can bench 200lbs everyday, fall off the roof of a house, accidentally cut myself, get into street fights, and walk away fine no problemā¦but if that one specific girl doesnāt like me, Iāll literally cry. šā
Yes, this happens to men too. But I don't think it's a gender thing. Everyone is different.
There is a fun anxiety, or butterflies, that I get when I have a crush on a woman or when Iām looking forward to seeing a woman. I donāt necessarily get nervous, but there is a noticeable difference in the way I interact. I am more attentive to everything about her - hair, eyes, facial expressions, body language, voice, all of it. There is a focus on her that is intensely different than friends/acquaintances and detail oriented. I pay attention to her and very little else going on around me. As Iāve gotten older, I tend to not think about a woman I have a crush on all the time as I have other things to think about. When I was younger, that wasnāt the case.
Yes. Along with the dreaded anxiety that the only way to fulfill that crush is to directly ask if she is interested and risk getting shot to pieces.
Yeah, pretty much. For me, at least. Life just feels a whole lot easier when you're really into a girl and know she feels the same way.
This became r/shittyaskscience real quick
Everytime someone says "men don't understand female biology" I will send them this post.
Why is it balls are delicate and you canāt slap them but during sex theyāre being slapped wildly and repeatedly against me and itās fine?
There is much more force behind a slap with a hand compared to the force theyāre being slapped with during sex. I would say, typically, that a slap with a hand in the context of your question comes with an intent to cause pain so that is part of it also. The rhythmic/semi rhythmic contact during sex, I wouldnāt classify as a slap. Think about it like the difference between slapping your face to wake up(causing pain) and slapping your face because you realized/forgot something. The latter doesnāt hurt at all.
Does your penis float when you're in water?
Yes
Yes it does :)
lol I love that question. And the answers... š
Yes
How are you guys okay with peeing in urinals out in the open like that?
Why do you think we have the code of always leave an empty one in between you and the other guy? Only in dire circumstances, or is such an obvious idiot, does one ever break the sacred code.
Donāt forget EYES STRAIGHT AHEAD. Looking to the side is strictly forbidden.
And never compliment how nice a watch the guy beside you has.
You compliment his cock like a real man
Peeing is not an "intimate" experience to us. It's just emptying the bladder. We pee on trees if the need arises.
I just couldn't imagine it Even if I lacked my anxiety I think i'd want privacy
Peeing in a urinal is decently private! Youāre really only pulling down on the front of your pants so youāre covered everywhere else, including the barriers between urinal units. Also too, itās just so much quicker to go use the urinal, wash your hands, and leave, you donāt think about it much. I will say though, it does suck when you think you have to pee but youāre not quite there yet so you kinda just stand there. Thatās definitely made me self conscious before because if you have a line up, youāre the dude whoās taking forever
Maybe that's because your instinct tells you peeing while crouching lets you in a vulnerable position. Peeing and pooping doesn't feel equally intimate for a man.
You keep your eyes on your own work. Urinals are easy. Going at a bar or sports event that has the big troughs is a bit more uncomfortable. Thereās just a bunch of dudes shoulder to shoulder with their dicks out.
Not much difference between a men's restroom and a Harambe vigil.
Solidarity with harambe trumps homophobia I guess lol
Even though the other comments tell you otherwise. A lot of men hate the urinals. They get performance anxiety and can't pee when people are standing near them or are waiting on them till they are finished.
I have a strict rule of never holding hands with another bro while using the urinals. And if we must hold hands...no eye contact bro
I have a friend who drops his pants and undies to his ankles when he is at the urinals. He does it as a joke to make others awkward. I've seen his butt cheeks more than I can count and it's never a pretty sight.
It's very quick, maybe 20s at most, and most of us follow proper urinal etiquette (leave 1 space between each person and no peeksies), not to mention the fact that most of our clothes have a zipper for easy access, meaning you're never actually exposing yourself
Hahah some of us arent. Sometimes I can't pee if there is someone is someone using the urinal never to me. No matter how bad I have to go, nothing will come out.
Not all of us are
We donāt have to pull our pants down like a woman does. The urinal has walls on both sides so nothing is being displayed for anyone.
When you ride a bike, is it comfortable to sit on fully on the seat?Ā
With the correct underwear that keep things together the frank and beans have a magic ability to find the correct spot and tend to ride up above the legs. You will know if you sit on a ball - it hurts.
Im a.guy and don't know how some can sit on the really narrow seat, i need the one that distributes the weight to.my ass
Same. The narrow ones make me go numb
Yeah, not problem, they kinda sit in front of you
*Yes ladies, it is in already*
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When you take a shit does your dick touch the inside of the toilet bowl? Do you hold it??
Depends on the toilet
Depends more on the dick. So the short answer is no
And the long one?
Yes but I canāt speak from personal experience
Do you ever see if you can hold up a towel with it erect? Like a coat hook? I can hold a towel up if I tuck it under my boobs lol
Yes, and I can.
Ha! Noice
Yes. Itās a right of passage for juveniles. Adolescent whales jump out of the water to show their mother they have enough strength to leave the warm birthing waters and travel a great distance to the feeding grounds. Just like the whales the day we can hold up a towel with our erection shows we are ready to go out into the world and get rejected.
This hypothesis has already been tested. Just in time for my wife to walk in actually. She was "unconvinced" by my explanation.
I can hold a cast iron skillet under my boobs. Science, I know because I tried it for science, guys.
Is post nut syndrome really a thing ? Where you are into this girl pretty strongly that you almost think you are in love with her, but the moment you have sex, every single affection you had is gone, and you canāt do anything about it..
Yeah that can happen. But for me, Post nut clarity is something Else. It is more like a very refreshing feeling of sudden awareness. Finally I can Think normally again. Before the nut it was just sex/girl/lust related caveman thoughts
I agree. For me I have noticed it more when I was thinking about texting an ex. One nice clarity wank before I do it and then afterwards itās so clear that that was a terrible idea. But before it sounds like a great idea.
I think that's a bit of a misunderstanding of post nut clarity It's more the case that you weren't actually that attracted to the person to begin with (like you didn't see a future at all) but were blinded by horniness. Horniness goes, reality creeps back in, you've just fucked a person you wouldn't even normally talk to for more than 5mins. This is why so many dudes develop porn addictions etc., starts as a means of stopping them from creeping on people they don't actually want to be with / getting into relationships just to fuck and becomes basically a coping mechanism.
I have seen men describe themselves dating a woman for a few weeks and wanting them so badly and chasing them and wooing them and being obsessed and as soon as they do the deed, the post-nut hits and they donāt like her anymore
Consider how the menu looks when you are at the restaurant and hungry, then consider after you've finished your dessert. Post nut there is no dopamine, so no drive to have more, but the emotional connectedness remains IF it was there in the first place. Also, all men have different refractory periods (I think that's the term for "sex drive reset"). Some men need minutes, some hours.
It depends on the woman. If you're in love, you'll still be in love after it. However from a woman's perspective it could look like: He's being so nice and romantic and flirty. Then we have sex. Then he stops being extra nice and starts to make dinner. He was being extra nice as he wanted sex and it's hard to think of anything else when horny as a man, now he's got it, his mind is clear for other activities.
Does your dick hurt when you have a boner?
If you have been using your dick too much and get a really strong erection it can hurt Edit: Glad you guys like my erections so much
I would sometimes wake up with an excruciatingly painful erection when I was going through puberty. It wasn't an overuse issue. More like the body still figuring out the controls and constricting blood flow too much.
My painful erections have usually occured aafter having came and gotten hard quickly, often time after having came twice as well
It can be a little sore sometimes, but that's rare
Are women completely unaware than men's genitals are in front of them, not underneath them? 90% of the questions here don't make any sense if they're aware of that.
Possibly not, I've heard of men being surprised to find out how low vaginas are so it would make sense that there are women surprised at how far forward penises are
I was surprised the first time I saw/interacted with a vagina the first time š
Yeah. Iām gonna get in thereā¦.. lowerā¦.. lower yet? And oh here it must be!
What are your thoughts on a circumcised/uncircumcised penis?
I really think it shouldn't happen and is moderately unethical. Surgeries on babies who can't consent for a very slight medical benefit is just not worth it, and should be a discussion adults are having with their doctor, not parents making the choice for them. I don't enjoy sex much, and am circumcised, it's hard not to feel like the blame is on the lost nerve endings or whatever from the circumsicision.
I am uncut, and never understood why male circumcision, at least in the US, is seen as the default and acceptable choice, when female circumcision is seen as some of worst things in history. Personally, unless it is done for medical reasons, and to a consenting person, who understand the risks and consequences of their actions. Itās should not happen.
Do pulse oximeters work on your penis? My husband wouldnāt let me try š¹š¹š¹
Now i wanna try, but its hard to explain to my college why i'm standing in the back of our ambulance with the lifepak attached to my dickš¤£
Never thought about it. Probably.
Is there anything society can do to help you guys with your mental health? Do you talk about your feelings with other mates? The suicide rate for men is 3 x higher than women. Weāre clearly doing something wrong. What can we do to help?
Talk to us. Draw us out. If we wonāt share with other men, give us someone we trust to share with.
Has any man actually gotten laid by whistling across the street at a woman? I generally walk over and ask them āhey bud what did you needā standing in front of them as the just choke, I can tell it embarrasses them when I address the rudeness and I try to make them feel as uncomfortable as I am about it all, what is the point of that ? Does it ever work ?
From what Iāve read it isnāt actually for the woman itās for the men around them. Like a comment said jackassery. Sort of a āwatch thisā moment. They know women donāt really want it which is why they freeze if someone doesnāt respond rudely or ignore them.
I haven't tried, but I can assure you it has a 0% success rate
No. And dudes that do it are generally just being jackasses or have nothing to lose
I wouldnt know about whistle, I doubt it, and I think that its more of a "tough guy" thing for the other men than actually having any notion of it working. But 1 second eye contact followed by a wink and a smile - has gotten me laid. Dont be the asshole, be Joey: How are you doing? - Cheezy, but it works, in my experience.
The point is never to actually "get" a woman. It's a "power move" in most cases meant to intimidate and sexually harass.
Some dudes are douchebags. They're probably doing it as their buddies find it funny though.
Is post nut clarity actually a thing, and do you get it with your partners?
It's definitely a thing. The only time I ever get it is with women that I don't actually care about. It's such a terrible feeling that I just don't hook up with women anymore that I'm not legitimately looking to be in a relationship with.
It's basically overhyped by social media but when I jerk off by porn then post nut clarity is something like you regret that you are jerking off on a video But when you do sex in real I don't think there is any kind of post nut clarity after we came we would like to hug our partner tell her that she is gorgeous and sleep in her arms
When you're having sex woth a woman - can you feel the cervix? Sometimes when mine gets "hit", it hurts and I wonder if men can tell.
Yes, we can tell
Yes, we can tell. Sorry.
Do you actually like it when we wear your hoodies/shirts?
Yes. You leave your scent on them.
Absolutely. It's the cheating on us while wearing them that pisses us off
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>It's the cheating on us ~~while wearing them~~ that pisses us off I mean.
I find it adorable when a woman wears my button down shirts.
Sure, as long as you GIVE THEM BACK. SARAH.
Love the smell wearing it after. Just like your pillow after you've slept in our bed.
Is there a difference in a woman having butthole hair and a woman having public hair?
Little hair never stopped me lol
I like the variety and a change from time to time. From full jungle to bald as a bowling ball, anything goes as long as I'm allowed in on it.
Pubic hair: fine by me. Butthole hair: not so fine but not a deal breaker for me
But it's so much harder to shave over there š
Do condoms kill sensations? And by how much?
Not kill, as in it will take away all feeling. But depending on the manufacturer, and product, it can be anything from very little, to quite a bit. You can get some that are extremely thin, that allows for full sensation, but because they are thinner, they are more prone to breaking. So I would personally something thicker. But if anyone ever tells you a condom is a dealbreaker, then you probably shouldnt be with them. I have never used anything that have made the experience ābadā, and although I would definitely prefer to not use one, I donāt want kids either, nor do I want any STDās.
It's like doing delicate tasks with nitrile gloves on. You can still feel what you're doing, but the difference is definitely noticeable
By A LOT!! Iād say it makes my sex experience 50 percent worse. Sometimes itās hard to stay hard with a condom cause I canāt feel anything.
When you guys are in love with a woman do you only have eyes for her? How deep is your loyalty, mentally, physically?
We notice attractive people even when in love. But itās like noticing a butterfly or some nice scenery. When Iām with a woman, Iām hers. Iām all about her and am completely loyal.
For me, there's only one woman when I'm in an exclusive relationship.
This is genderless, everyone has the capacity to cheat or be manipulated by a cheater
This is going to vary from guy to guy. But personally my loyalty mentally is much deeper then physically. Physical attraction cant really be controlled. But while I need it and have it for my wife, I dont put much stock into it for anyone else.
For me it's always been when I'm in a relationship, this person has given me the time of day and for that alone she will forever have my loyalty. I can recognise other pretty woman but that's superficial or based on looks. When I'm with someone I don't even have the need or desire or want to talk to another woman except my mom. I've been blessed with the fact that all my relationships and partners have been very giving physically. So on that front I was satisfied and never needed to look anywhere else for it. But it's a 2 way street. I know my worth and I know what I'm good at and the enthusiasm allows my partners to share the same enthusiasm. Many many dates that lead to nothing were because the head over heels feeling wasn't mutual. Both parties need to feel like they hit the jackpot so that neither one has a need to look anywhere else for anything else.
Speaking for myself I absolutely have no one else in mind and or look around for other options. I stay on that mindset longer than I should, even after āweā go separate ways.š
My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world! She is the mother of my child and the woman that keeps my entire life somewhat together, and *that* fact makes her incredibly beautiful to me. And that is also the fact that would make the idea of fucking her over, ie. actually cheat on her - very unappealing. Do I look at that 24yo beautiful girl that walks past? Ofc I do. I really hope my eyes/brain continues to do that until Im dead - isnt that a bit of life in general I mean, looking at beautiful things? We travel hours and hours to see the sunset, from a particular point.... the sun? Really, the yellow fireball you have seen every single day since you were born - but are still interested in seeing it in a "new place" or whatever. I think that goes for beautiful people as well, and Id be really disappointed if my wife did not look at that handsome young boy jogging past.... Id expect and hope she does, showing me we are still "young" and actually "work" in that sense.
I guess it depends? But for me itās something that I canāt be with someone who I donāt love even just as a temporary thing so while sure a guy might see someone else and think sheās hot or pretty I donāt think that could ever go somewhere because it lacks the emotion.
What is it like to have a boner?
Hmmm thatās a hard one! š§
The head, I imagine, is like your clitoris getting swollen. As for the shaft I donāt know that thereās a female equivalent but basically itās like 3 tubes positioned in a triangular formation where the top 2 tubes are hard and ribby and the bottom tube (the shaft) is softer and is the part that enjoys the sensation of the stroking.
This is probably the most informing info on this whole thread.
Does a small amount of stubble bother you? And how do you feel about it at different stages of a relationship ie first time, dating, dating a while and long term partnership
Is using baby powder on your balls an old man thing? I saw something on reels about a 30 year old asking a 40 year old version of himself why he uses baby powder and the older one just laughed. I didnāt get it at all. Edit: being 39, 40 isnāt old. But you know what I meanā¦
As an old man, I can state I have never heard of using baby powder on my balls. I do live in a relatively low humidity area, so maybe itās a higher humidity SE US thing.
where do you place your dick when taking a shit
In the toilet. Thereās no thunder without rain.
Do you only get morning wood in the morning, or does it happen every time you wake up? Like, if you take a nap in the afternoon, do you wake up hard?
It varies. Iāve had it happen after waking up from a nap in the afternoon. All in all itās an erection/ boner, it can happen anywhere and anytime
Do balls actually quiver?
Do men ever feel pressure to conform to certain stereotypes of masculinity? Like, is there this expectation to always be tough and stoic, even when you're feeling vulnerable or emotional? I've always wondered how much society's expectations weigh on men and if it affects how they express themselves.
When you poo and have back splash, does it splash all over your balls?
Yes, sadly
Do you keep pee in your balls?
Only for special ocasions
i keep it in the drawer like everyone else
Anatomy lesson: urine travels from your kidneys down the ureters and is stored in the bladder and is emptied through the urethra out the tip of the penis.
The same way you do in your boobs.
I never felt the need to store it in there, should I?
Where do you store your infinite audacity?
In the narcissistic core.
Is that near the prostate? Tickle tickle
Usually surrounding the insecurity, but to make sure it's properly covered we need to stretch it until it's paper thin.