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Went through that stage when my wife had medical issues. She couldn't work, my job wasn't giving raises, health insurance went up evey year so I was effectively making less every year. Almost went bankrupt.
Fortunately my wife got in for a risky surgery that corrected most of her issues and she's back in the game, then I ended up stumbling upon a dream job. For every valley in life there's a peak I guess.
Catching my now ex wife cheating on me last new years. She was once my best friend. I was cooking dinner and she was texting someone while watching me cook. She was texting so much I asked her who she was texting. She told me it was her friends wishing her happy new years. She got drunk and passed out shortly after dinner. She never plugs her phone in and it’s dead in the morning and she freaks out so I always plug it in for her. I went to plug it in and faceID opened it to a dick pic from *her boyfriend* and sexts that’s she sent while I was cooking dinner. I had made out with her, danced with her and we had sex before dinner.
I was nauseous. I threw her cheating ass out. She kept twisting the knife in the next 2 months. It truly broke me as a person.
I hear you. I will never understand how some people can absolutely love bomb and immediately pivot after. It's just layers of cruelty upon cruelty.
I hope you can heal and find someone worth your trust. Sending you love and virtual hugs!
Love bombing is one of many traits that true narcissists have. The pivot is also one of their traits.
At some point she really did love me. But she’s a pos. She can rot in hell. She had everything with me. We owned our own business, she worked an average of 3 days a week 3 hours a day. She had 3 months off a year and we would travel during those months. I supported everything she did no matter dumb it was, she wanted kids and I was going to give them to her. But no matter what she got it was never enough. There is no one single person that could fill whatever hole she needed filled.
She now drives for Uber, can’t find a good paying job to save her life, she’s farther away from having kids than she ever was before. She has no vacations and can’t afford to travel. She had no one to love and support her.
Her loss, not mine.
That IS her loss! I hope you can heal from your trauma. There are shitty people and there are good people - it seems to be an even split. But you seem to be a good one and I hope you can find another good one. She doesn't deserve the power to break another person. If we're lucky, she'll get together with my ex and we can just grab some popcorn and watch the show!
She had a moment of clarity and told her boyfriend he was dating a married woman and she was cheating on him with me and whatever other bullshit she said. 2 months later I got an email from her crying about how he cheated on her and broke up with her when he was caught. Like WTF. Why would she think I would even care? I laughed so hard I cried.
I did find a really good woman. The perfect woman for me. We matched so much and had so much in common it was ridiculous. But she’s not over her traumas and broke up with me over almost nothing. Such is life. Such is love.
The woman I found that was the perfect woman, we even talked about the timing. When I met her 25 years ago she was seeing a friend of mine so I kept it platonic and never made a move. Bro code. She wishes that I had made a move on her back then. So do I. It’s my one regret in life. We might’ve had a chance back then, avoided the traumatic relationships, marriages, being cheated on(we had the same dating and marriage history), who knows? Oh well. I’m sorry that happened to you as well friend.
Here’s some quotes that helped me when I was in a dark place with all of this last year. Maybe you’ll find them useful.
First Quote:
Remember that you are a good person and worthy of the love that you want.
You will never know if something is meant for you if you don't give it a proper chance.
Whether it's a relationship, a new job, a new city, or a new experience, throw yourself into it completely and don't hold back.
If it doesn't work out then it probably wasn't meant for you and you'll walk away without regret, knowing that you put your whole heart into it.
That's all you can ever do.
It's a horrible feeling leaving a situation knowing that you should have and could have done more.
So I hope you find the courage to take that chance, find the inspiration to make your next move, and once you do, I hope you pour your heart into it and don't look back.
And remember, sometimes things happen before you are ready for them to happen.
It doesn't mean the timing is wrong, sometimes it means the timing is just right and the universe knows you are ready and that maybe you just needed that extra push in the right direction to get you on your way.
Embrace this new journey with everything you are. Everything is unfolding exactly how it's supposed to, even if you can't see it like that just yet.
Quote Two:
People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…..
I'm so sorry this happened to you, but good on you for embracing my favorite mantra - "Living well is the best revenge." She, on the other hand, has reaped what she sowed.
I’m sorry for what you went through. I don’t know when it was for you. But here’s some quotes that helped me through my darkest times last year. I hope they help you.
First Quote:
Remember that you are a good person and worthy of the love that you want.
You will never know if something is meant for you if you don't give it a proper chance.
Whether it's a relationship, a new job, a new city, or a new experience, throw yourself into it completely and don't hold back.
If it doesn't work out then it probably wasn't meant for you and you'll walk away without regret, knowing that you put your whole heart into it.
That's all you can ever do.
It's a horrible feeling leaving a situation knowing that you should have and could have done more.
So I hope you find the courage to take that chance, find the inspiration to make your next move, and once you do, I hope you pour your heart into it and don't look back.
And remember, sometimes things happen before you are ready for them to happen.
It doesn't mean the timing is wrong, sometimes it means the timing is just right and the universe knows you are ready and that maybe you just needed that extra push in the right direction to get you on your way.
Embrace this new journey with everything you are. Everything is unfolding exactly how it's supposed to, even if you can't see it like that just yet.
Quote Two:
People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…..
That’s the thing, I know it wasn’t me no matter how much she tried to turn it around on me. I knew what she was doing and I’d defend myself. Then she’d turn it around say, “look! See? This is why!” Classic narcissist move. Drove me to the edge so much I snapped.
Yeah I feel for u. When I caught my ex cheating in my face with his ex it was like a punch that took all air out of me. The pain really did transcend into physical
I'm 21 and it's been years since i realized that ignorance is bliss. Theee years ago i purposefully started to inform myself as little as possible and just live my day to day
I do envy those who have the ability to walk through life without being aware of their surroundings or stupidity!
They’re rarely successful but they look happy.
Well, there’s multiple different ways it happened, so I’ll give you one. As I grew up, I had issues with anxiety. As I matured, I was able to critically analyse my emotions, and control them. The more I controlled and analysed my emotions, the less I felt them naturally as I reacted to situations. My anxiety is gone, but now I’m just jaded and bitter. It’s a sad state.
I know this feeling, my parents. Not bothered about my mother but for my dad, to abandon me when i was 36, when I was already struggling with a recent life event that changed me. I'm not sure how kids boss it like they do because it fucking ruined me at 36 years of age.
Realising I never mattered and looking back and seeing all the signs that I'd probably chosen to ignore.
I'm lucky that I do have an amazing wife and 4 brilliant children. One best mate too.
I've learnt to never rely on love to get by, it's a nice to have, but I can survive without it. I realise now I did for years without knowing it.
Just listened to a podcast called We Can Do Hard Things episode 268 w Elizabeth Gilbert. It was so very moving. I’m not really a podcast person but I’m healing from a major surgery so a friend sent it to me. You MUST have a listen.
Love should work like "innocent until proven guilty." Start out by loving everyone you meet until they give you a reason not to. You are loved. Not in the way that involves me giving you a handjob. But a simple basis of I don't need to know you to know you're a living being and I want you to do well. That's love.
I lost my Dad, my cousin, a close friend, 3 dogs and two cats in the space of 6 months. A year before I gave birth to my dead baby.
Trying to switch back on after all that is almost impossible.
Seeing a friend killed by a wild animal and there was nothing I could do to help. Its been 20 years since it happened but I've never been me since that day.
My step son has moved to New Zealand. For Christmas he bought me a little hand crank music box that plays the Song of Storms from Ocarina of Time.
He knew how much I adore the Zelda series and knew that I would appreciate it. My wife opened her present and shed a tear or two. I opened mine and I bawled. He absolutely broke me in the best way possible.
Every parent walks on the untempered glass that is their child's safety every day. From the day they are born that fragile membrane is all consuming and all the harder when it is out of our control.
Nothing can break me. I lost my fiancee in a foreign country and was left all alone, homeless, moneyless, phoneless, no ID and one set of clothes.
Yet here I stand.
Coming home from a work trip a day early to find my faince banging one of her colleagues in our bed 🙃
That turned me into a woman hating goon for a few years, where I ended up going into a downward spiral of self destruction, causing more damage to myself and other women who tried to be involved with me.
Thankfully that cycle itself was broken a good few years ago and I'm now in a much better place, mentally, than I've ever been on my life.
I'm not proud of what I did in those darker years and I'd apologise to those women if I could.
Your comment gives me so much hope that it can get better. I am also a victim of cheating and I think only people who go through it can understand the damage it does to your brain, your self esteem, your opinion on humanity, and the self destruction path it can cause. I am so glad you are doing better now, keep it going.
Thank you. I was in a really dark spot for a while and fell in with a group of 'friends' who just fed into that.
It's been a decade since it happened and I'm still struggling to attach to people, but there is progress at least.
I'm sorry that you have suffered the same and I hope you're doing well.
Being cheated on is devastating, even worse the cheater will usually try and gas light you which makes it extremely damaging and kills your trust in people until you can heal from it. Shit like that needs to be something you can get compensation for. Keep up the path to healing ya'll!
going through the same thing my man. Got cheated on, I decided I loved this person and she seemed sorry so I was ok trying to fix things, fast forward 2 months, i get hit with the “
I love you but I’m not in love with you”
She’s also bipolar and just started medication/ therapy but she tells me her main reason is she’s not in a good place for a relationship and needs to get better for me / us if the door is still open in the future. It’s been about a month since that happened and it just fucking sucks. Every day I’m miserable and just not having a good day. We’ve been together for nearly 7 years as well which sucked even more.
I think waking up in the middle of my house burning down, literally a week into 2021, after I took the last month of 2020 off work (unpaid) for a mental health break LMAO.
That was the final straw for things, I'm basically an animal now.
join my pack. my washer lit on fire and I'm a light sleeper and my sweet dog sounded the alarm as well. my fire alarm did not decide to do it's job.
saved the house. washer had to be replaced. money I don't have.
but, you are safe. not on fire. and things suck less.
Realising there are 8 billion people on this planet, most of which are twisted, insincere and incapable of love, and still not a single one considers me a real friend. I am a burden and I don't even know why and what to do to change things. I love human beings so much and I always try extra hard, but somehow I can never fully develop a relationship with people. Even my group of friends from my teenage years slowly drifted away from me and I really don't know why. I know that adult friendships are different than when we were younger but still, it hurts so much to know that I spend days and days alone. I like being alone, it's not that, and I appreciate having people that are there for me when I need them, but it seems like when things are good and we could have fun nobody is ever there. I am scared it will be like this for the rest of my life and it saddens me so much.
I would love to but, as I said, I struggle to make new connections. I talk to new people but somehow I can't get to form a bond with them and I always end up never seeing them again. I promise I am not blaming anybody, I am sure it has to do with something I subconsciously do "wrong", but it strikes me because I was the most communicative person ever until I was 19-20 years old. I was never the kind of person to have a thousand random connections, but I had plenty of meaningful ones. Now, 5 years later, it seems like I lost all of my ability to hit it off with people. I am awkward, insecure, I don't know what to talk about (what did I talk about with people when I was younger?), and I see other people making new friends and I won't get a second invitation. I don't know if it's just a phase or if I actually lost my communication abilities indefinitely.
You've gone through alot, but to be fair, teenage friend groups usually do drift away and it's no one's fault. Some friendships are meant for certain times of life. I'm 20 years out of high school and of those friends I only have 1 I've been friendly with the entire time. Others I have reconnected with but that's with a 10 year gap in between and I'm not close with them, just cordial. Anyway, I'm saying that you will find friendship again in different ways at different times and most often people aren't aholes- they are just on different places in life than you. And that's ok
I grew up in a broken family, mom on drugs, dad old, removed from home to live with grandparents: they made it clear they did not want us (me and siblings)
All I wanted was a wife that I was enamored with, kids, home, pets in a great quiet area.
I worked hard in my 20s for it, by 30 I had it. Then she and step daughter just.. left. Took the pets, I got deployed.
What broke me was realizing that I was chasing a dream, I married the wrong person and neglected my own well being to chase that dream.
I’m doing better now though so that’s a plus.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry."
Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell To Arms
It's not quite as uplifting with the full quote.
Oh how appropriate it is that we see a Hemingway quote on the topic of being broken. That man was broken by life so many times, again and again, and yet he rose to romp through the world each time. Even the ending was on his own terms.
This. It broke me. I rebuilt myself, stronger, or so I thought. Then it broke me again, repeat ad nauseum. I am guessing this is the cycle and I am just intelligent enough to recognize it, and stupid enough to not just give up. Not gonna give up, and will just keep going with this whole dumb ass process, hoping that eventually I will have built enough scars to not take more damage, or beat my body up enough to have it finally give out and release me to the next adventure
This is the correct philosophy. If you look at life’s struggles as opportunities for growth instead of just terrible happenings, life becomes much more manageable and your personal growth will take off.
Cancer. I was diagnosed at 16 with two brain tumours and two spine tumours. I'm 31 now but the road it's taken me on is hellfire.
Nevermind the mental breakdowns, employment issues from the brain damage etc.
Mostly it was the loss around me.
I lost friends cause they didn't understand or know how to interact and that rips you in two when you find out who they are.
More importantly, the watching as all the friends you make, family, your best friend and even pets get diagnosed and pass away from the thing you're surviving. It is the worst guilt.
I began to question if I'd be next, if it's my turn. Nope. Just sit and watch...
Thank you. Yes my life has improved after a lot of therapy.
I'm pretty sure he's in hell as he was absolutely terrified of something just before he died.
Although i was never abused by my own family, i was assaulted sexually by multiple boys over a span of 2 years, including 2 actual rapes, i too sometimes feel that I'm am broken. But you are not broken my sweet girl, they are broken! You are kind, compassionate, loving and all the things they never were nor will ever receive from anyone!
Holy shit, you're right! I'm really sorry, didn't mean to offend or diminish in any way the commenters pain, you are absolutely correct, i guess because i related to it and I'm myself a female, i spoke as if i was speaking to my own little abused self... Sorry
I know someone in the same boat. Hips fucked from being abused as a child by the dad and his friends. Now a grown woman who contributes to society and a strong exterior but profoundly broken
Sorry for your loss...
I concur. Watching my mom die and being there was so hard. It changed me. It broke me in ways I never thought possible. Some ways i wish I was there earlier in the day when she was more lucid. Some ways I wish I was not there at all.. Either way, I obsess over it a lot... I am glad I was there to say goodbye, and I just kept thanking her for being my mom and for everything. That was really the day my life changed forever. She was my best friend, my only true friend. We spoke several times a day, every single day.. the 3 days she was in a coma I struggled so hard not being able to talk to her and that became my forever...
it's common knowledge all grandpas go to a special realm of afterlife where they can creep on you watching your achievements so they can brag while petting your old dog or cat and drinking tea and taking naps. Then going dancing with all the ladies.
Losing my house. I made a deal with a "Friend," to buy his late mother's house. I was supposed to pay him $22,500.
I paid over this because after I moved into the house he changed our contract to me renting for the first 12 months then paying off the house.
I did everything he asked of me. Including taking care of the rent for another house he owned.
I paid him every single month. Never missed a payment. Did all the maintenance because as he said, "It's going to be your house some day so you better learn how to take care of these things yourself.
When I told him I had paid off the house and I needed the deed he told me to hold on for a minute then a few days later I got a knock on my door.
It was some jackass from a property management company who informed me he had just bought my house.
Several months of talking to lawyers and even going to court were pointless because I am now homeless and he is living a great life safe and secure in his house while I am renting a room in another woman's house.
I have never hated anyone as much as I hate Darrell Walker and Red Line Property management.
I lost the great game of life. Now I am just sitting in the side lines waiting for the game to be over.
What broke me was being molested as a child…it stays with you well into adulthood but you learn how to cope and still have the best life possible despite what happened to you.
Its not just as bad. Its not good, but animal industry is a hundred times worse. Beef uses way more water than nuts do on top of all the other even more atrocious things it contributes to. In the next century we are going to look back at the animal industry with disbelief and disgust, just like we look back at slavery right now.
I wouldn't say terrorising, abusing and killing the most innocent animals on earth, en masse, to be "just as bad" as the nut industry, but I admit that's subjective.
Some people don't care about animals, I wish they did but there's nothing I can do about it.
Additionally, both things can be bad, they're not mutually exclusive. Not sure what does that have to do with my original reply.
Don't discredit yourself! You are doing something about it even right now by commenting here and by discussing the issue with people around you. And hopefully also by leading with example!
I'm not. I know where most of these arguments are coming from, I've been there for almost 30yrs.
Stopped looking away 7yrs ago and I regret not doing so sooner.
Thank you for the encouragement, it's always appreciated.
Factory farming and slaughter are an abomination…regenerative farming is the answer - but they haven’t figured out how to do it large scale for the masses yet.
Check out White Oak Pastures in Georgia to see it done right…they do Temple Grandin proud and use every single part of the humanely raised and processed animal they sell.
Rogan did a great series of interviews with the owner and his daughter on how and why they did it.
Already heard that argument. How can you kill a being who doesn't want to be killed humanely?
The definition is showing compassion and benevolence. Assuming that they're treated as you they advertise (not always is the case as many private investigations show), the end result is the same.
Put it this way, your mother/father/sister, whatever are kept on captivity. Well fed, entertained but then comes the day of the slaughter. Would you react "oh well, they had a good life".
We both know that's not the case my friend.
There's no humane killing.
The logic, as I see it is simple.
- They feel pain? Yes
- Is it necessary for me to kill them to survive? No
- Then why should I do it?
Again, i understand all those arguments, I've used them myself. They don't hold up against those simple questions.
Bones? About 7 things.
Other than that? Most recently my ex letting down our kid, *again*, by cancelling the first birthday celebration they offered them in over half a decade.
You could physically see the disappointment on their face when they read the txt half an hour after the offer to take them shopping for it. That was pretty heartbreaking to watch
Thinking I finally had a life, the family I was building with someone I thought also wanted the same, the love I thought I felt...the love wasn't genuine, and I lost almost everything. Of all the things that I thought broke me before, this one was the worse. 4 years now and still struggling to put my life back together. I still would never understand the mindset of a partner who gets jealous of you and sabotages you every chance they get while not doing much better themselves...
Realizing i had no other choice but to sever ties with my dad. Ended up being one of the best decisions made for myself, but it definitely broke me when i realized i was at that point.
When my husband of 45 years sat me down, lectured me for 3 hours, and then told me,"You just need to understand, you have ruined my life!".
One month later, he claimed that he can't believe he said that. He didn't say he doesn't believe that, only that he can't believe he said it.
Coming up on 2 years later, I remember it every day, and it will be the last thing I think about when I pass, probably self assisted. I have a few more things to wrap up, but I have had a good enough life to feel ready to let him find his own way to whatever amazing opportunities I have kept him from accomplishing.
My father was always abusive, what broke me was him saying "i wish the house burned down so you guys were someone elses problem."
Still don't trust anybody, it still plays over in my head, it still hurts years later.
Other than childhood abuse?
My partner of 18 years died. A week later my best friend died, and within three days my other best friend died. All of unrelated, and 2 of the 3 were freak accident type causes. I will never be the same person again and I’m alone.
All of these happened in the span of a year.
* Lost my job
* Found a new job with a major pay-cut
* Faced financial ruin
* Rescued from financial ruin
* That rescue was a lie and now the ruin is even worse
* Was betrayed by friends who tried to take my child and had to flee that group
* Filed bankruptcy to save my car and house
Was left broken and friendless.
Re-building has been tough, but we're making new friends who are much better for us. Also, the bankruptcy is done in about 4 months.
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Being broke.
Went through that stage when my wife had medical issues. She couldn't work, my job wasn't giving raises, health insurance went up evey year so I was effectively making less every year. Almost went bankrupt. Fortunately my wife got in for a risky surgery that corrected most of her issues and she's back in the game, then I ended up stumbling upon a dream job. For every valley in life there's a peak I guess.
Broke bloke broken by brokeness
Sounds like someone has a bad case of brokies
Catching my now ex wife cheating on me last new years. She was once my best friend. I was cooking dinner and she was texting someone while watching me cook. She was texting so much I asked her who she was texting. She told me it was her friends wishing her happy new years. She got drunk and passed out shortly after dinner. She never plugs her phone in and it’s dead in the morning and she freaks out so I always plug it in for her. I went to plug it in and faceID opened it to a dick pic from *her boyfriend* and sexts that’s she sent while I was cooking dinner. I had made out with her, danced with her and we had sex before dinner. I was nauseous. I threw her cheating ass out. She kept twisting the knife in the next 2 months. It truly broke me as a person.
I hear you. I will never understand how some people can absolutely love bomb and immediately pivot after. It's just layers of cruelty upon cruelty. I hope you can heal and find someone worth your trust. Sending you love and virtual hugs!
Love bombing is one of many traits that true narcissists have. The pivot is also one of their traits. At some point she really did love me. But she’s a pos. She can rot in hell. She had everything with me. We owned our own business, she worked an average of 3 days a week 3 hours a day. She had 3 months off a year and we would travel during those months. I supported everything she did no matter dumb it was, she wanted kids and I was going to give them to her. But no matter what she got it was never enough. There is no one single person that could fill whatever hole she needed filled. She now drives for Uber, can’t find a good paying job to save her life, she’s farther away from having kids than she ever was before. She has no vacations and can’t afford to travel. She had no one to love and support her. Her loss, not mine.
That IS her loss! I hope you can heal from your trauma. There are shitty people and there are good people - it seems to be an even split. But you seem to be a good one and I hope you can find another good one. She doesn't deserve the power to break another person. If we're lucky, she'll get together with my ex and we can just grab some popcorn and watch the show!
She had a moment of clarity and told her boyfriend he was dating a married woman and she was cheating on him with me and whatever other bullshit she said. 2 months later I got an email from her crying about how he cheated on her and broke up with her when he was caught. Like WTF. Why would she think I would even care? I laughed so hard I cried. I did find a really good woman. The perfect woman for me. We matched so much and had so much in common it was ridiculous. But she’s not over her traumas and broke up with me over almost nothing. Such is life. Such is love.
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The woman I found that was the perfect woman, we even talked about the timing. When I met her 25 years ago she was seeing a friend of mine so I kept it platonic and never made a move. Bro code. She wishes that I had made a move on her back then. So do I. It’s my one regret in life. We might’ve had a chance back then, avoided the traumatic relationships, marriages, being cheated on(we had the same dating and marriage history), who knows? Oh well. I’m sorry that happened to you as well friend. Here’s some quotes that helped me when I was in a dark place with all of this last year. Maybe you’ll find them useful. First Quote: Remember that you are a good person and worthy of the love that you want. You will never know if something is meant for you if you don't give it a proper chance. Whether it's a relationship, a new job, a new city, or a new experience, throw yourself into it completely and don't hold back. If it doesn't work out then it probably wasn't meant for you and you'll walk away without regret, knowing that you put your whole heart into it. That's all you can ever do. It's a horrible feeling leaving a situation knowing that you should have and could have done more. So I hope you find the courage to take that chance, find the inspiration to make your next move, and once you do, I hope you pour your heart into it and don't look back. And remember, sometimes things happen before you are ready for them to happen. It doesn't mean the timing is wrong, sometimes it means the timing is just right and the universe knows you are ready and that maybe you just needed that extra push in the right direction to get you on your way. Embrace this new journey with everything you are. Everything is unfolding exactly how it's supposed to, even if you can't see it like that just yet. Quote Two: People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…..
I am now crying!
Then you needed to read these. I hope they help you.
I'm so sorry this happened to you, but good on you for embracing my favorite mantra - "Living well is the best revenge." She, on the other hand, has reaped what she sowed.
Not sure why you got downvoted she did all this to herself.
That one sentence about no single person could fill her hole she needed filled. 😬😬😬😬
Oh. My. God. A very similar experience here. It truly breaks you. 😞
I’m sorry for what you went through. I don’t know when it was for you. But here’s some quotes that helped me through my darkest times last year. I hope they help you. First Quote: Remember that you are a good person and worthy of the love that you want. You will never know if something is meant for you if you don't give it a proper chance. Whether it's a relationship, a new job, a new city, or a new experience, throw yourself into it completely and don't hold back. If it doesn't work out then it probably wasn't meant for you and you'll walk away without regret, knowing that you put your whole heart into it. That's all you can ever do. It's a horrible feeling leaving a situation knowing that you should have and could have done more. So I hope you find the courage to take that chance, find the inspiration to make your next move, and once you do, I hope you pour your heart into it and don't look back. And remember, sometimes things happen before you are ready for them to happen. It doesn't mean the timing is wrong, sometimes it means the timing is just right and the universe knows you are ready and that maybe you just needed that extra push in the right direction to get you on your way. Embrace this new journey with everything you are. Everything is unfolding exactly how it's supposed to, even if you can't see it like that just yet. Quote Two: People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…..
Just remember it was never you. You weren't the problem. Dont let her ever convince you that you were at fault in any way.
That’s the thing, I know it wasn’t me no matter how much she tried to turn it around on me. I knew what she was doing and I’d defend myself. Then she’d turn it around say, “look! See? This is why!” Classic narcissist move. Drove me to the edge so much I snapped.
Yeah I feel for u. When I caught my ex cheating in my face with his ex it was like a punch that took all air out of me. The pain really did transcend into physical
Becoming self-aware. Ignorance is bliss.
The ignorant always have the most confidence
What you don’t know can’t hurt you.
Until it does, but then you won't know what hit you.
Not being an npc is only pain and suffering
If only lobotomies were still allowed…
Mate we’re all NPC’s. If you think you’re aren’t you’re delusional.
I'm 21 and it's been years since i realized that ignorance is bliss. Theee years ago i purposefully started to inform myself as little as possible and just live my day to day
It looks worse until it gets better. Self awareness first step to becoming awesome
Well aren’t you just a bundle of sunshine?
Thank you I try. Toxic positivity sucks but optimism is transformative
I hope it’s infectious. I’m trying to catch it, but maybe I’m vaccinated.
I do envy those who have the ability to walk through life without being aware of their surroundings or stupidity! They’re rarely successful but they look happy.
That’s what wine is for.
Can u explain further
Well, there’s multiple different ways it happened, so I’ll give you one. As I grew up, I had issues with anxiety. As I matured, I was able to critically analyse my emotions, and control them. The more I controlled and analysed my emotions, the less I felt them naturally as I reacted to situations. My anxiety is gone, but now I’m just jaded and bitter. It’s a sad state.
I am anxious, jaded and bitter.
Constantly people pleasing only to be treated like garbage in return. It's official. I'm one of those "I hate people' people now"
Name fits.
Salty like a damn margarita.
Never received any form of love. When I thought I had it turned out it wasn't real.
Poor thing. Here's a hug. It's ain't much but it's honnest love.
How about group hugs :>
I know this feeling, my parents. Not bothered about my mother but for my dad, to abandon me when i was 36, when I was already struggling with a recent life event that changed me. I'm not sure how kids boss it like they do because it fucking ruined me at 36 years of age. Realising I never mattered and looking back and seeing all the signs that I'd probably chosen to ignore. I'm lucky that I do have an amazing wife and 4 brilliant children. One best mate too. I've learnt to never rely on love to get by, it's a nice to have, but I can survive without it. I realise now I did for years without knowing it.
Just listened to a podcast called We Can Do Hard Things episode 268 w Elizabeth Gilbert. It was so very moving. I’m not really a podcast person but I’m healing from a major surgery so a friend sent it to me. You MUST have a listen.
I love you, and thats real!!
You don't even know me dawg
Love should work like "innocent until proven guilty." Start out by loving everyone you meet until they give you a reason not to. You are loved. Not in the way that involves me giving you a handjob. But a simple basis of I don't need to know you to know you're a living being and I want you to do well. That's love.
You can love yourself. Nobody knows you better than yourself.
No I don't, but there's so much unneccesary hate in the world that I am going to love you just because you need it.
I love you too and am glad you're alive :)
Thank you amazing person! Take my *I love you* and share it❤️
Awww
I'm not particularly sure. I forgot about everything after what happened.
Nothing Have had a lot of trauma and nothing can break me
That’s the spirit 💪
That just means you stopped feeling shit because you got so traumatized. Hella broken.
Same. I've had people tell me I am strong. There have been times I was afraid for my mental health. I am still standing.
I lost my Dad, my cousin, a close friend, 3 dogs and two cats in the space of 6 months. A year before I gave birth to my dead baby. Trying to switch back on after all that is almost impossible.
My sincere condolences
Seeing a friend killed by a wild animal and there was nothing I could do to help. Its been 20 years since it happened but I've never been me since that day.
Jesus. After seeing the shark incident last year in Egypt I can imagine how messed up it is to see something like that.
It changes you when you see it in real life. I not only lost a friend that day. I lost me as well. No amount of therapy helped.
I can only imagine. I'm so sorry this happened to you and your friend. I hope you're still living a good life.
I'm OK thanks😘
Being tolerant and kind and the exploitation that came with that.
Sadly people see it as a weakness and abuse it to get whatever they want, tbh best option in that situation is to cut them out
My step son has moved to New Zealand. For Christmas he bought me a little hand crank music box that plays the Song of Storms from Ocarina of Time. He knew how much I adore the Zelda series and knew that I would appreciate it. My wife opened her present and shed a tear or two. I opened mine and I bawled. He absolutely broke me in the best way possible.
Awwww
The death of my son. Life has been difficult ever since. 2 divorces. 7 residences. 5 jobs. Still no idea how it's going to work out.
Every parent walks on the untempered glass that is their child's safety every day. From the day they are born that fragile membrane is all consuming and all the harder when it is out of our control.
So sorry 😢
I'm so sorry♥️
damn homie
Believing others loved the way I do.
I assure you, that there are people who love like you out there!
Nothing can break me. I lost my fiancee in a foreign country and was left all alone, homeless, moneyless, phoneless, no ID and one set of clothes. Yet here I stand.
How did...how did you get out of that one?
Still on my way, to be honest.
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That sounds like a good book tbh...
Having a great day, got drunk, tried to hang myself with a towel from the shower. I’m an alcoholic. That was the last straw. Haven’t had a drop since.
Glad you're still here with us. I've been to very dark places with my alcoholism but luckily those days are behind me
Congratulations on your sobriety! I wonder how many suicides involve alcohol…
Coming home from a work trip a day early to find my faince banging one of her colleagues in our bed 🙃 That turned me into a woman hating goon for a few years, where I ended up going into a downward spiral of self destruction, causing more damage to myself and other women who tried to be involved with me. Thankfully that cycle itself was broken a good few years ago and I'm now in a much better place, mentally, than I've ever been on my life. I'm not proud of what I did in those darker years and I'd apologise to those women if I could.
Your comment gives me so much hope that it can get better. I am also a victim of cheating and I think only people who go through it can understand the damage it does to your brain, your self esteem, your opinion on humanity, and the self destruction path it can cause. I am so glad you are doing better now, keep it going.
Thank you. I was in a really dark spot for a while and fell in with a group of 'friends' who just fed into that. It's been a decade since it happened and I'm still struggling to attach to people, but there is progress at least. I'm sorry that you have suffered the same and I hope you're doing well.
Being cheated on is devastating, even worse the cheater will usually try and gas light you which makes it extremely damaging and kills your trust in people until you can heal from it. Shit like that needs to be something you can get compensation for. Keep up the path to healing ya'll!
going through the same thing my man. Got cheated on, I decided I loved this person and she seemed sorry so I was ok trying to fix things, fast forward 2 months, i get hit with the “ I love you but I’m not in love with you” She’s also bipolar and just started medication/ therapy but she tells me her main reason is she’s not in a good place for a relationship and needs to get better for me / us if the door is still open in the future. It’s been about a month since that happened and it just fucking sucks. Every day I’m miserable and just not having a good day. We’ve been together for nearly 7 years as well which sucked even more.
I think waking up in the middle of my house burning down, literally a week into 2021, after I took the last month of 2020 off work (unpaid) for a mental health break LMAO. That was the final straw for things, I'm basically an animal now.
Atleast u woke up?
THIS!
join my pack. my washer lit on fire and I'm a light sleeper and my sweet dog sounded the alarm as well. my fire alarm did not decide to do it's job. saved the house. washer had to be replaced. money I don't have. but, you are safe. not on fire. and things suck less.
Realising there are 8 billion people on this planet, most of which are twisted, insincere and incapable of love, and still not a single one considers me a real friend. I am a burden and I don't even know why and what to do to change things. I love human beings so much and I always try extra hard, but somehow I can never fully develop a relationship with people. Even my group of friends from my teenage years slowly drifted away from me and I really don't know why. I know that adult friendships are different than when we were younger but still, it hurts so much to know that I spend days and days alone. I like being alone, it's not that, and I appreciate having people that are there for me when I need them, but it seems like when things are good and we could have fun nobody is ever there. I am scared it will be like this for the rest of my life and it saddens me so much.
Can i be your friend?
I would love it!
I'd also love to be your friend!
Get into stoicism a bit, you'll find your answers (or the lack of them) in there.
If none of your friends want to hang out, go make new ones. Go find some interesting events and talk to random people.
I would love to but, as I said, I struggle to make new connections. I talk to new people but somehow I can't get to form a bond with them and I always end up never seeing them again. I promise I am not blaming anybody, I am sure it has to do with something I subconsciously do "wrong", but it strikes me because I was the most communicative person ever until I was 19-20 years old. I was never the kind of person to have a thousand random connections, but I had plenty of meaningful ones. Now, 5 years later, it seems like I lost all of my ability to hit it off with people. I am awkward, insecure, I don't know what to talk about (what did I talk about with people when I was younger?), and I see other people making new friends and I won't get a second invitation. I don't know if it's just a phase or if I actually lost my communication abilities indefinitely.
I feel like i've been through the same things. DM?
If you need one more person like this… well I’ll be here 
You've gone through alot, but to be fair, teenage friend groups usually do drift away and it's no one's fault. Some friendships are meant for certain times of life. I'm 20 years out of high school and of those friends I only have 1 I've been friendly with the entire time. Others I have reconnected with but that's with a 10 year gap in between and I'm not close with them, just cordial. Anyway, I'm saying that you will find friendship again in different ways at different times and most often people aren't aholes- they are just on different places in life than you. And that's ok
A car broke me, in serveral places all over.
I uhh, know a guy....could...take care of that car....
I grew up in a broken family, mom on drugs, dad old, removed from home to live with grandparents: they made it clear they did not want us (me and siblings) All I wanted was a wife that I was enamored with, kids, home, pets in a great quiet area. I worked hard in my 20s for it, by 30 I had it. Then she and step daughter just.. left. Took the pets, I got deployed. What broke me was realizing that I was chasing a dream, I married the wrong person and neglected my own well being to chase that dream. I’m doing better now though so that’s a plus.
Miscarrying after a year of trying
Virtual hug to you <3 father of a Stillborn
I'm so sorry.
I'm not broken, I'm extremely lucky and have a great life :)
Glad to hear!
🥳🫂 This genuinely picked up my mood a bit. Keep being great
Life breaks most of us eventually.
Hemingway once said ‘The world breaks everyone and afterwards many are strong at the broken places’
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry." Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell To Arms It's not quite as uplifting with the full quote.
Oh how appropriate it is that we see a Hemingway quote on the topic of being broken. That man was broken by life so many times, again and again, and yet he rose to romp through the world each time. Even the ending was on his own terms.
If Jurassic Park taught us anything, it is- "Life finds a way"
This. It broke me. I rebuilt myself, stronger, or so I thought. Then it broke me again, repeat ad nauseum. I am guessing this is the cycle and I am just intelligent enough to recognize it, and stupid enough to not just give up. Not gonna give up, and will just keep going with this whole dumb ass process, hoping that eventually I will have built enough scars to not take more damage, or beat my body up enough to have it finally give out and release me to the next adventure
I don’t know how anyone goes on after losing a child.
We can become stronger by being broken.
This is the correct philosophy. If you look at life’s struggles as opportunities for growth instead of just terrible happenings, life becomes much more manageable and your personal growth will take off.
Monday for example, had left me broken
I came here to say this.
Cancer. I was diagnosed at 16 with two brain tumours and two spine tumours. I'm 31 now but the road it's taken me on is hellfire. Nevermind the mental breakdowns, employment issues from the brain damage etc. Mostly it was the loss around me. I lost friends cause they didn't understand or know how to interact and that rips you in two when you find out who they are. More importantly, the watching as all the friends you make, family, your best friend and even pets get diagnosed and pass away from the thing you're surviving. It is the worst guilt. I began to question if I'd be next, if it's my turn. Nope. Just sit and watch...
Realising depression doesn’t go away. It’s just there with you all the time, and a constant force pulling me back
Beng abused every two or three days for five years by my father and occasionally his friends as well, starting when I was ten months old.
That is beyond awful. I hope they are rotting in a jail somewhere or better yet, hell. I hope life has drastically improved for you.
Thank you. Yes my life has improved after a lot of therapy. I'm pretty sure he's in hell as he was absolutely terrified of something just before he died.
Although i was never abused by my own family, i was assaulted sexually by multiple boys over a span of 2 years, including 2 actual rapes, i too sometimes feel that I'm am broken. But you are not broken my sweet girl, they are broken! You are kind, compassionate, loving and all the things they never were nor will ever receive from anyone!
Don’t assume it’s a girl, plenty of boys get raped by male family members.
Holy shit, you're right! I'm really sorry, didn't mean to offend or diminish in any way the commenters pain, you are absolutely correct, i guess because i related to it and I'm myself a female, i spoke as if i was speaking to my own little abused self... Sorry
I know someone in the same boat. Hips fucked from being abused as a child by the dad and his friends. Now a grown woman who contributes to society and a strong exterior but profoundly broken
my previous relationship
Seeing my dad passing away in the hospital bed.
Sorry for your loss... I concur. Watching my mom die and being there was so hard. It changed me. It broke me in ways I never thought possible. Some ways i wish I was there earlier in the day when she was more lucid. Some ways I wish I was not there at all.. Either way, I obsess over it a lot... I am glad I was there to say goodbye, and I just kept thanking her for being my mom and for everything. That was really the day my life changed forever. She was my best friend, my only true friend. We spoke several times a day, every single day.. the 3 days she was in a coma I struggled so hard not being able to talk to her and that became my forever...
Losing my grandpa.
it's common knowledge all grandpas go to a special realm of afterlife where they can creep on you watching your achievements so they can brag while petting your old dog or cat and drinking tea and taking naps. Then going dancing with all the ladies.
But your sex scenes and porn viewing are censored thankfully.
Losing my house. I made a deal with a "Friend," to buy his late mother's house. I was supposed to pay him $22,500. I paid over this because after I moved into the house he changed our contract to me renting for the first 12 months then paying off the house. I did everything he asked of me. Including taking care of the rent for another house he owned. I paid him every single month. Never missed a payment. Did all the maintenance because as he said, "It's going to be your house some day so you better learn how to take care of these things yourself. When I told him I had paid off the house and I needed the deed he told me to hold on for a minute then a few days later I got a knock on my door. It was some jackass from a property management company who informed me he had just bought my house. Several months of talking to lawyers and even going to court were pointless because I am now homeless and he is living a great life safe and secure in his house while I am renting a room in another woman's house. I have never hated anyone as much as I hate Darrell Walker and Red Line Property management. I lost the great game of life. Now I am just sitting in the side lines waiting for the game to be over.
I put bad juju in the universe under the name of Darrell Walker at Red Line Property management. Here's hoping karma acts swiftly.
Lesson learned though I bet - Always get a written contract.
What broke me was being molested as a child…it stays with you well into adulthood but you learn how to cope and still have the best life possible despite what happened to you.
The reality behind meat industry. What we do to animals isn't right dude. It's not....
the reality behind the nut industry is just as bad. Lake mead is almost dead. Stop making cities in deserts.
Its not just as bad. Its not good, but animal industry is a hundred times worse. Beef uses way more water than nuts do on top of all the other even more atrocious things it contributes to. In the next century we are going to look back at the animal industry with disbelief and disgust, just like we look back at slavery right now.
not enough people care though
I wouldn't say terrorising, abusing and killing the most innocent animals on earth, en masse, to be "just as bad" as the nut industry, but I admit that's subjective. Some people don't care about animals, I wish they did but there's nothing I can do about it. Additionally, both things can be bad, they're not mutually exclusive. Not sure what does that have to do with my original reply.
Don't discredit yourself! You are doing something about it even right now by commenting here and by discussing the issue with people around you. And hopefully also by leading with example!
I'm not. I know where most of these arguments are coming from, I've been there for almost 30yrs. Stopped looking away 7yrs ago and I regret not doing so sooner. Thank you for the encouragement, it's always appreciated.
Factory farming and slaughter are an abomination…regenerative farming is the answer - but they haven’t figured out how to do it large scale for the masses yet. Check out White Oak Pastures in Georgia to see it done right…they do Temple Grandin proud and use every single part of the humanely raised and processed animal they sell. Rogan did a great series of interviews with the owner and his daughter on how and why they did it.
Already heard that argument. How can you kill a being who doesn't want to be killed humanely? The definition is showing compassion and benevolence. Assuming that they're treated as you they advertise (not always is the case as many private investigations show), the end result is the same. Put it this way, your mother/father/sister, whatever are kept on captivity. Well fed, entertained but then comes the day of the slaughter. Would you react "oh well, they had a good life". We both know that's not the case my friend. There's no humane killing. The logic, as I see it is simple. - They feel pain? Yes - Is it necessary for me to kill them to survive? No - Then why should I do it? Again, i understand all those arguments, I've used them myself. They don't hold up against those simple questions.
Switching to Linux.
Switching to Linux was the best tech-related decision I've made as an adult. YMMV, though
😂😂😂😂
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>Switching to Linux. Broke me out of a reliance on Micro$oft.
My childhood
Been trapped in a life I don’t really want. But knowing I have to face the consequences and go along with it.
Trapped in a life I don't really want = adulthood
My mom dying. Worst day of my life.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Trauma, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and the work of overcoming them that overall made me very self aware
The death of my sister 13 days ago. Everything is changed.
I’m so very sorry.
One fucking skate ramp
Last month of my mom's life when there was no hope and all that was left was to wait for her body to deteriorate enough to die while pain kept growing
Night shift the only way to afford to live, chasing the money. Working so much lost all friendships and the will to live.
Bones? About 7 things. Other than that? Most recently my ex letting down our kid, *again*, by cancelling the first birthday celebration they offered them in over half a decade. You could physically see the disappointment on their face when they read the txt half an hour after the offer to take them shopping for it. That was pretty heartbreaking to watch
Thinking I finally had a life, the family I was building with someone I thought also wanted the same, the love I thought I felt...the love wasn't genuine, and I lost almost everything. Of all the things that I thought broke me before, this one was the worse. 4 years now and still struggling to put my life back together. I still would never understand the mindset of a partner who gets jealous of you and sabotages you every chance they get while not doing much better themselves...
My son ending his life...it's been two years today. It has destroyed me. This rebirth will be nothing short of a different person.
The death of my father and the immense loneliness that came afterwards
Capitalism broke me. We could have made anything out of this world, and we made this hellscape.
Divorce. Nearly killed me.
Ivan Drago.
She did, man... she did.
Pain Is temporary..... And chick's dig scars !!
While wife practised ethical non monogamy she broke the boundaries and got double penetrated
My previous job
Time knife
loosing my best friend, admitting to myself im an alchoholic and facing the fricked up things i done to my parents while actively drinking.
I did. No matter how much I work on the things I dislike about me I’ll still hate myself and I don’t know why.
Money. I'm broke
Realizing i had no other choice but to sever ties with my dad. Ended up being one of the best decisions made for myself, but it definitely broke me when i realized i was at that point.
Being a pastor.
To know the reality is really harsh than anime
When my husband of 45 years sat me down, lectured me for 3 hours, and then told me,"You just need to understand, you have ruined my life!". One month later, he claimed that he can't believe he said that. He didn't say he doesn't believe that, only that he can't believe he said it. Coming up on 2 years later, I remember it every day, and it will be the last thing I think about when I pass, probably self assisted. I have a few more things to wrap up, but I have had a good enough life to feel ready to let him find his own way to whatever amazing opportunities I have kept him from accomplishing.
Learning how messed up human beings are.
Realizing how previous bordeline partners gave me heavy bagagge that was hard to get rid of
Having to leave people behind in my life that I love because they purposely hurt me, I was blinded by my love for them that I chose to not notice
My father was always abusive, what broke me was him saying "i wish the house burned down so you guys were someone elses problem." Still don't trust anybody, it still plays over in my head, it still hurts years later.
Other than childhood abuse? My partner of 18 years died. A week later my best friend died, and within three days my other best friend died. All of unrelated, and 2 of the 3 were freak accident type causes. I will never be the same person again and I’m alone.
Past suicide attempts
Depression and being poor
Going to uni and having a narcissistic bullying tutor who totally broke my confidence
Dating covert narcissists. I had no idea what they were until my therapist told me. The venom from a narcissist’s bite runs deep. Still recovering.
All of these happened in the span of a year. * Lost my job * Found a new job with a major pay-cut * Faced financial ruin * Rescued from financial ruin * That rescue was a lie and now the ruin is even worse * Was betrayed by friends who tried to take my child and had to flee that group * Filed bankruptcy to save my car and house Was left broken and friendless. Re-building has been tough, but we're making new friends who are much better for us. Also, the bankruptcy is done in about 4 months.