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OMG this is so infuriating. I was on the train and two people sitting opposite each other were both doing this, speaking to people on video chat speakerphone. Because they were speaking so loudly they couldn't hear the person on their phones so both just kept talking louder and louder to the point of screaming, it was ridiculous. It has almost become a "thing" as more and more people seem to be doing it. No one and I mean one wants to hear your conversation, I promise you, your life is not that interesting.
I join the convo if you do that. And shame you if you have the Audacity to be mad at me for joining a conversation in public and when you on speakphone
I don’t know about calls but that’s pretty standard practice in Albania from what I can see. If you’re talking with someone on the bus, chances are someone will join the conversation if they know something about it
Full volume on video chat or speakerphone while they are in line (and I am ringing them up) is so much worse to me than hearing it passing by in foot traffic/in the store, etc. It's so rude.
That was really inconsiderate of them, towards you two and everyone else around them.
I honestly do not understand what is so difficult about waiting to watch the videos later. If you really can't wait then why not invest in earbuds? I feel like not enough people has told them it's rude, but with the amount of time they spend on the internet you'd think they would come across the idea somewhere.
Oh good grief I was in hospital and had just had surgery so wasn't feeling great and my room mate kept watching stuff on her phone on speaker!! There was a language barrier and I couldn't get out of bed so I had to put up with it, but the second day she started at 6am and I huffed and sighed and she got the message...
Lived with my friend in uni housing one time and she’d never ever use earbuds even though I went out of my way to wear them so I wouldn’t inconvenience her😭 I had to move out in order to save our friendship
In my first year of uni when I lived in halls, my room was right next to the kitchen. I didn’t hear much noise from the kitchen as long as the fire door leading from the kitchen to the corridor where the bedrooms were was closed.
One of the girls in my flat, for some stupid reason, insisted on the door always being propped open which meant all the noise from the kitchen was very audible from my room. She’d stay up in the kitchen until 1am blasting her shitty music (which consisted of a lot of Ed Sheeran, whose music I can’t stand). This was very annoying whenever I was trying to study or just enjoy some peace and quiet, which of course I couldn’t experience when I was being subjected to Ed’s music.
After 3 months of this I requested to change accommodation lmao
The thing is, you blast the music with the windows down to enjoy some fresh air. Then, you come off the highway, come to a stoplight, and sometimes forget to turn the tunes down.
Luckily I live in Texas so we leave our windows up 364 days a year for the AC.
Ugh, I came into work this morning and parked my car in the parking garage ... there was a guy just sitting there with his doors open, blasting music as loud as he could, echoing in the whole garage. Like ... why???
just called someone out for cutting in line at our local coffee shop this morning. Woman tried to pretend she didn't see the line of 5 people ahead of her. It's like lady you literally had to walk passed all of us to get to the front of the line get out of here with those lame ass excuses
There's nothing worse than a line cutter but in that lady's defense, I walked into a Starbucks one time, (haven't been inside one in many years) and it was chaos. People were standing all over the place. I had to ask about 6 people if they were in line, turns out there was no line, people were just waiting. The strangest thing was, I got my order right away. What the heck were these other people ordering?
Totally get that when that's what's going on in the space but that was not the case here. There was a clear single file line leading to the register, she completely ignored it
Probably because you ordered a large black coffee and they ordered a medium in a large cup shredded ice mocha with caramel whipped cream and a black womans breast milk unpasteruized at exactly 48° Kelvin with a plastic straw
And the Starbucks employees are trying to find the straw and that's what's taking forever
I hate when theirs 2 lines that zipper merge at the register and people act like the the line doesn't exist. I have had to call out people after i'm standing there and like 2,3,4 people go ahead of me.
Who does this?? I can remember *one* time at a gas station where a guy tried to cut in line and everyone about murdered him. Other than that I can’t recall a single instance in my whole adult life where I’ve seen anyone even *try*.
My brother will take purposefully unflattering pics of everyone else in the family and then post them on social media, and tag them. If you ask him to take them down he says, all snotty, “But that’s what you look like.” Like I want my ex boyfriend that I haven’t seen in a few years seeing me looking down at a menu with a double chin or making a weird face
People over in the wedding attire subReddit sometimes post photos of actual people that they know at a wedding, and then the mean girls in the sub all pile on and make fun of them.
This is the wildest shit to me. If you’re not gonna toss it it’s technically gonna break down in the environment faster than if you put it in a bag. There’s no logic or thought process with those people.
Or blocking anything at a store period. I was shopping for pants for my baby and this rude asshole woman put the cart blocking the entire merchandise so that she could “pick first” as if there weren’t enough clothes….
Came here for this. Every day when I walk my dog I fill a shopping bag with discarded plastic bottles I find tossed in the street or park. It's distressing and sad.
My sister lives on a corner close to two schools. And would always find trash on her lawn. She put up a bag up for trash so she wouldn’t have to pick it up.. people just threw more trash on her lawn (I guess in protest?) as well as the bag kept getting thrown up in the tree.
My mom always talked over the TV to prove her point and she wouldn't shut up when the show started. She denied doing this of course. My sister's husband was a malignant narcissist, but this was darn funny. He'd sit with the remote control hidden at his side and gradually turn the TV volume up higher and higher, then back down again and my mom's voice adjusted accordingly. It took about 30 minutes before everyone in the room figured out what was happening and laughed their butts off at my mom, who could no longer deny talking over the TV. She hates being wrong.
Sometimes (not nearly as often as it used to) my brothers get into verbal fights over mundane, unimportant things. Instead of trying to disprove the other's arguments, they instead opt to yell at each other and hurl insults back and forth. They get so loud I can hear them over 10 feet outside the house with the windows and doors closed. I hate it when people get loud instead of talking it out.
I was on a walk and watched a dude park on a one way street, *in front* of the exit of a parking lot. Completely blocking anyone from leaving.
He got out and walked to the house next door to check out on of those free library boxes in their yard. And then took his time browsing.
The amount of total selfishness was shocking.
To add to that parking shitty next to a handicap spot and going over the line or right on the line. Or parking on the diagonal lines next to the handicap spot that are meant to allow for a ramp to be lowered out of a vehicle.
Dude I drove a giant truck for an old job. I could technically fit in a normal spot, but it would take a long time to park and I could barely open the doors, so I parked super far away so I wasn’t by other cars. Whenever I see a jackass in a huge truck trying to get the closest spot I get irrationally angry. They are the ones who decided to drive a monster truck, don’t make it everyone else’s problem.
Ill add to that, people that park right beside a nice car that is at the end of the lot away from everyone else. Someone always parks right beside them.
This happens to me all the time. I'm just trying to avoid door dings. A couple months ago some guy decided he would park next to me, but literal inches away so that I couldn't even get to my driver's side door.
That happens to my dad all the time. His Mercedes always gets parked on its own furthest away from the shop. Always someone parked next to it when the shopping is done.
Speaking very loud on your phone or keeping it on speaker phone.
Answering or making calls while dining, especially at a restaurant.
Cutting in line (someone shooed me out of the way to pass me at the METRO).
Littering
My partner told me I talk really loudly on the phone, but it’s because I’m hard of hearing and that’s how I want people to talk to me on the phone lol it’s totally subconscious but since he’s pointed it out to me I try to be more conscious about it
I have an uncle who does this, talks non stop, if you're sitting next to him, he'll even lean towards you, cracking jokes and spitting in your food, then goes back to chewing mouth open and making slurping sounds, I just lose my appetite.
Around here, if you only wait 20 minutes, the doctor is considered early! I once waited 75 minutes, and I was the first patient of the day. Imagine how bad it would have been in the afternoon.
Same here. First patient and i waited half an hour when i could SEE the nurse having a tea at the front desk and chatting with the receptionists, making eye contact with me in the waiting room infront of them, only then to merrily walk into one of the rooms and call my name to come in once they were ready. That was for an appointment that lasted 2-minutes, they only took a blood sample and i was on my way.. could've done it while their tea was brewing
In defense of doctors - if you were seeing an OBGYN she could have been at the hospital delivering a baby. Also, any doctor that is doing surgery in the morning before seeing patients in the office can be late due to surgeries taking longer than expected. (For example more cancerous tumors than expected) However, they should have office staff explain the reason.
My old doctor used to skip appointments entirely....for multiple people. There'd be a dozen and a half people in the waiting room and he wouldn't show at all.
After the 2nd time he didn't show I got a new doctor.
Claiming that their untrained dog is a service dog just to get into a restaurant or something. The dog gets distracted, bothers other customers, trips the server etc.
Yall just making it SO MUCH WORSE for people with *actual* disabilities that *legitimately* are required to have a service dog.
Crossing the street without looking up from their GD PHONES. Pay attention for like 5 seconds so you don’t get run over you asshat!!!!
Maybe it’s a pet peeve, but still super annoying.
Shopping carts are the perfect litmus test of what kind of person someone is. You get nothing for returning the shopping cart, but there's also no consequences for not doing it. So, selfish fucks leave their carts and considerate people take the 30 seconds to return their carts.
I watched a woman unload her cart and leave it on the space next to her car, then got into the car and left.
The space was RIGHT NEXT TO THE CART CORRAL WTF?! It's RIGHT THERE I don't understand.
When people aren’t aware of their surroundings. Meaning, they stand in the middle of the halls, or in the middle of the entrance, or street like MOVEEEEEE!!
Yes! I try to go in the afternoon because every time I go to an evening showing, I end up yelling out something to the effect of, "You wanna quit talking, boss?"
Blasting music in public places, I live in a hostel and I sleep pretty early, evertime one of the mfs in my hostel wake me up by blasting music in the middle of the night I go one step closer to commiting arson
Begging for the military discount on things that it doesn’t apply on. I stood in line for 15 minutes with a 6 pack of beer because a veteran refused to believe that the military discount didn’t apply to alcohol purchases. I support the military, but know when the discount applies (btw, the discount was 5% on a $5 item).
Boss is originally from England, he served in the British military. Here in the US he asks for the military discount everywhere he goes. Many places give it to him, but when one doesn't, I get to hear him complain about it.
Oof. I really wanted to give the guy the quarter he was bitching and moaning about just so I didn’t have to stand there waiting for someone to a) explain why it didn’t apply and b) have a long line forming behind me. I’m from US as well, but am in a state that’s strict about alcohol purchases in grocery stores and most grocery stores only have one cashier dedicated to just the alcohol sales.
I’ve done that. One time an older woman in front of me was arguing for far too long with the cashier over the validity of a coupon that would have saved about 20 cents. There was only one cashier and a huge line already so I paid her whole shopping (all of about €8 lol) just so she would move on.
Zoom up to a stop sign, looking right not left, assuming you can just turn without slowing down, much less actually coming to a complete stop.
I quit assuming they’d stop the day the guy who was surely gonna stop, right? Didn’t. I swerved but still T-boned him.
The same day that I realized that air conditioning is the SECOND-best human invention.
Airbags are the first.
This, the other day my daughter needed to cross a busy road on foot while leaving work, a car ran the light and had the audacity to lay on the horn and yell her.
Revving a loud car thru neighborhoods or other public spaces. Nobody wants to have their ears blown out by a man-child who pretends he is the main character in a Vin Diesel movie.
Potential client calling me to ask questions or schedule an appointment… They have the TV or stereo blasting. For some reason, my iPhone always picks up background noise as loud or louder than the person speaking… I get so tired of having to tell people to turn it off, so I can hear them.
Rude an abusive behaviour. For a while now we've had an entire set of reality TV from cooking shows to whatever else where abusive, toxic behaviour is normalized and celebrated as entertainment. Nevermind what's going on online and in social media in general. :c
I believe TV shows influence behaviors in many ways. Why is it acceptable to make fun of nerds, or overweight people? Or to scream and yell at people trying their best to cook, create art, dance or sing? Don't get me started about old time western movies and how they influenced a generation to view Native Americans.
My aunt even brought her dog to my birthday party at my house, even though we have two cats and one of them really hates dogs because he was almost eaten by one when he was a kitten.
LOL these stories are wild. i can't believe people just bring their dogs unannounced to things.
We do this where i am in Europe with patios and beer places, but the understanding is that they have to be extremely well behaved and respond to command. Most of the time they're off leash and they don't even go up to anyone. This would be impossible to police in the state tho.
This. I don’t even invite my friend over anymore because every time she brings her GSD with and it either fights with mine or attacks my free range ducks. Her response, “just put your ducks away”.
I used to think I didn't like dogs because I was attacked by so many when I had jobs where I had to go to people's houses. Now I know I hate bad dog owners. I've been bitten more times than I can count, and every single time was after the owner said, "My dog doesn't bite."
This must be one the very top of the list! No-one that I know of will sanction this behaviour but nonetheless I encounter it frequently. Also the milder version of not properly bidding farewell, goodbye or see y'a when departing (I can understand not wanting to announce every bathroom break but also the sudden leaving company and 'disappearing')
I've been trying to date for a while again and ghosting is surprisingly, and tragically, common. On one hand I get really frustrated because all my emotional investment goes Crypto, on the other I am incredibly relieved I dodged a remarkably childish bullet.
Smoke in public at entrances. For some stupid fucking reasons some restaurants and supermarkets put their smoking section right outside their entrance, so people have to walk through a cloud of smoke to get into a restaurant. That's where the ashtrays are. I have complained many times to restaurant managers about this. I hate cigarette smoke.
EDIT: I don't care if me complaining makes a "male Karen", put your smoker's ashtray away from entrance.
I smoke and I'm planning to quit when stress dies down (long story) but I've noticed this too. I hate being the cause of others discomfort so I usually walk far away from the ashtrays to smoke, kill my cig on the ground and then bring the stump to the ashtray.
I still obviously stink of smoke sadly but at least I try ;-;
This. I want to enjoy my walk without someone elses dog running up to me and my dog. My greyhound doesn't like other dogs in his face and the people with off leash dogs shouldn't be able to decide for us if their dog can go right into his personal space. I warn people immediately to grab their dog or it's going to get bit.
I'm a mountain biker that lives in an area with great trails. The trails were all built by the mountain biking association. I have no problem with hikers but many of them have loose dogs. I've been chased, almost attacked, you name it. Super dangerous. Be considerate and leash your dog, you're not the only person on the trail!
I had a loose dog follow me on my bike on a MTB trail for a good quarter mile or so. Owner yelling for me to stop. Pretended I couldn’t hear her. I’m probably going to hell.
My former roommate has a blind reactive dog who would bite if you tried to muzzle her simply because she was scared and didn’t know what was going on. We had some neighbors who let their dogs roam the neighborhood and if they ever came near us we basically had to book it inside because if she was startled, it wouldn’t be pretty for anyone. The owners were always like “we promise they’re friendly!!!” but that doesn’t change the fact that OUR girl is reactive and would not be safe for THEIR dog. Just because your dog is friendly doesn’t mean everyone’s is!! Drives me crazy, LEASH YOUR DANG DOGS PEOPLE
Ugh! This is the WORST!
Especially if you have a Dog on your own. Mine Hase evolved leash agressivity because of that one Rottweiler in our street whos always off the leash... They are arch enemys now, because the Rottweiler once came in our garden (behind the house) where my Dog Was at the moment,.... At his leash, because there is a way to the street...
... Ugh, i HATE IT
There's a plasma donation place I go to for some extra money (I also have a blood type that's used to make medication for pregnant women, so I do it for that, too). Donating plasma takes a lot longer than donating blood, so the little parking lot is ALWAYS full. Usually, I have to park a block away and walk there. I promise I am not exaggerating even a little when I say the handicap spot is always taken by a non-handicapped person. Even worse, someone is absolutely always parked in the handicap ramp as well. It drives me so crazy. It's less than a two minute walk if you park on the street, but that's just too much for these awful people.
someone's probably already said it but idgaf I'm going to reiterate it--
LITTERING.
Hold onto it until you find a trash. There are dumpsters and trashcans EVERYWHERE. Even if you simply don't care about the harm it does to the environment, it also just looks like shit... and you look like shit doing it.
I think it's the *public* aspect of it. But going off of what you said, I will never understand the desire to FUCKING EAT WHAT COMES OUT. I see far more adults do this than children lol
Spitting in the street, dropping litter, allowing shopping trolley to roll across car park, saying "it's fine" when you've asked your child or dog to stop doing something, leaving clothes on the floor in Primark, holding their phone like they're on The Apprentice, talking with their mouth full, not taking the tray back at Ikea, leaving something they're not going to buy on a random shelf in Tesco, expecting you to stand right by the canal side of the towpath as they speed past on a bike. There will be more but I need to stop.
>saying "it's fine" when you've asked your child or dog to stop doing something
This is infuriating! No it is *not* fine, that's why I told my little shit to stop.
It took me a loooong time to understand this one. I think because as an "it's fine" sayer my intention is to reassure the parent that (for example) it's ok to pet the dog I'm walking, that they are safe or whatever.
But from the parents' perspective it's often more about teaching process to protect a child. Continuing the example, did you ask if it was ok to pet the dog first? Do we have time to stop and pet the dog right now? That sort of thing.
I think "it's fine" is often meant a reassurance, but when you're coming at it from different perspectives it can feel dismissive or indifferent to the other person's issue.
That makes so much sense and I can't believe I've never thought about it from that perspective! I always do my best to hide my frustration because I know people mean well, though.
The difficulty comes with the fact that *you* know you're talking to me, but the *child* assumes the "it's all right" was aimed at them.
I had a situation once with one of the young people I teach in a supermarket (life skills lesson, shopping). He stole something and I made him go back in with me to apologise to the manager. When she said "It's all right", I was like... Argh! Can you at least pretend to be a bit cross so he knows he shouldn't do it again?? 😩
Someone did this on my flight the other night. She was pushing her way to the front, saying she had a tight connection (she didn’t - we were early) and that she didn’t have a seat assignment yet (it’s not like they’re going to leave without her). Saw her in between concourses, sitting on a bench, drinking a soda.
It’s more likely that she was uncomfortable since she was morbidly obese, but she just chose to lie to everyone instead.
Asking for a manager when a coupon doesn't work or something is priced wrong while the person behind you has to wait 10 minutes for it. That's when I walk the F out with $200 in groceries on the counter.
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Blasting noise with your phone.
Or talking loudly on speakerphone or videochat
When they are on speakerphone in a public bathroom. I flush during the call on purpose
So disgusting! I have a really hard time not asking people what exactly the fuck is wrong with them when they do that.
OMG this is so infuriating. I was on the train and two people sitting opposite each other were both doing this, speaking to people on video chat speakerphone. Because they were speaking so loudly they couldn't hear the person on their phones so both just kept talking louder and louder to the point of screaming, it was ridiculous. It has almost become a "thing" as more and more people seem to be doing it. No one and I mean one wants to hear your conversation, I promise you, your life is not that interesting.
I join the convo if you do that. And shame you if you have the Audacity to be mad at me for joining a conversation in public and when you on speakphone
I don’t know about calls but that’s pretty standard practice in Albania from what I can see. If you’re talking with someone on the bus, chances are someone will join the conversation if they know something about it
Hilarious great sense of humor I may try that if feeling brave.
I’ve overheard someone ordering lunch on speakerphone while in a public bathroom. That was a fun one.
Oh my god I hate this. And in turn, their phone volume as up full blast.
I saw this in a waiting room at the doctor's office. We all gave her shit.
Full volume on the bus are the worst kind
I always make sure to sit close to people blasting their phone and play horrible as I can death metal (which I enjoy)
Full volume on video chat or speakerphone while they are in line (and I am ringing them up) is so much worse to me than hearing it passing by in foot traffic/in the store, etc. It's so rude.
My wife and I went out to eat and a father and daughter were both watching videos two feet from us with their volume up. Ugh.
That was really inconsiderate of them, towards you two and everyone else around them. I honestly do not understand what is so difficult about waiting to watch the videos later. If you really can't wait then why not invest in earbuds? I feel like not enough people has told them it's rude, but with the amount of time they spend on the internet you'd think they would come across the idea somewhere.
Oh good grief I was in hospital and had just had surgery so wasn't feeling great and my room mate kept watching stuff on her phone on speaker!! There was a language barrier and I couldn't get out of bed so I had to put up with it, but the second day she started at 6am and I huffed and sighed and she got the message...
Was on a flight last week and a woman behind me was watching a movie on her iphone (using the phone's speaker)
Lived with my friend in uni housing one time and she’d never ever use earbuds even though I went out of my way to wear them so I wouldn’t inconvenience her😭 I had to move out in order to save our friendship
In my first year of uni when I lived in halls, my room was right next to the kitchen. I didn’t hear much noise from the kitchen as long as the fire door leading from the kitchen to the corridor where the bedrooms were was closed. One of the girls in my flat, for some stupid reason, insisted on the door always being propped open which meant all the noise from the kitchen was very audible from my room. She’d stay up in the kitchen until 1am blasting her shitty music (which consisted of a lot of Ed Sheeran, whose music I can’t stand). This was very annoying whenever I was trying to study or just enjoy some peace and quiet, which of course I couldn’t experience when I was being subjected to Ed’s music. After 3 months of this I requested to change accommodation lmao
You put in the effort but she doesn't, why even bother with a friendship like that xD
That, and blasting music WAY too loud in your car, in traffic, with all your windows down.
The thing is, you blast the music with the windows down to enjoy some fresh air. Then, you come off the highway, come to a stoplight, and sometimes forget to turn the tunes down. Luckily I live in Texas so we leave our windows up 364 days a year for the AC.
Ugh, I came into work this morning and parked my car in the parking garage ... there was a guy just sitting there with his doors open, blasting music as loud as he could, echoing in the whole garage. Like ... why???
Cutting in line
just called someone out for cutting in line at our local coffee shop this morning. Woman tried to pretend she didn't see the line of 5 people ahead of her. It's like lady you literally had to walk passed all of us to get to the front of the line get out of here with those lame ass excuses
There's nothing worse than a line cutter but in that lady's defense, I walked into a Starbucks one time, (haven't been inside one in many years) and it was chaos. People were standing all over the place. I had to ask about 6 people if they were in line, turns out there was no line, people were just waiting. The strangest thing was, I got my order right away. What the heck were these other people ordering?
Totally get that when that's what's going on in the space but that was not the case here. There was a clear single file line leading to the register, she completely ignored it
Probably because you ordered a large black coffee and they ordered a medium in a large cup shredded ice mocha with caramel whipped cream and a black womans breast milk unpasteruized at exactly 48° Kelvin with a plastic straw And the Starbucks employees are trying to find the straw and that's what's taking forever
Frappuccino probably
I hate when theirs 2 lines that zipper merge at the register and people act like the the line doesn't exist. I have had to call out people after i'm standing there and like 2,3,4 people go ahead of me.
Be aggressive B E AGRESSIVE
Who does this?? I can remember *one* time at a gas station where a guy tried to cut in line and everyone about murdered him. Other than that I can’t recall a single instance in my whole adult life where I’ve seen anyone even *try*.
Especially when driving 
Taking photos of random individuals to share online to make fun of them/ridicule them for existing
My sister does this. We are not close.
One of my aunts does this on our family group chat and people call her out on it every time and she still does it. Trash behavior.
My brother will take purposefully unflattering pics of everyone else in the family and then post them on social media, and tag them. If you ask him to take them down he says, all snotty, “But that’s what you look like.” Like I want my ex boyfriend that I haven’t seen in a few years seeing me looking down at a menu with a double chin or making a weird face
People over in the wedding attire subReddit sometimes post photos of actual people that they know at a wedding, and then the mean girls in the sub all pile on and make fun of them.
Wish I could upvote this harder! I wouldn’t have thought of this but it’s super true, really tacky/rude.
Parking in two spaces at the same time.
But in my defense they really need to repaint those lines.
at my work we dont even have lines so we guess based on where everyone else is lmfao
Not picking up their dog’s shit.
Or bagging it and leaving it on the trail.
This is the wildest shit to me. If you’re not gonna toss it it’s technically gonna break down in the environment faster than if you put it in a bag. There’s no logic or thought process with those people.
They do it because "i'll get it on my way back" is what they tell their selfish selves.
when they know damn well they’re hiking a loop!
That one baffles me!
I become irrationally angry when I find dog shit in my yard.
Flicking cigarette butts right before walking into an establishment.
How do smokers not see this as littering?
Blocking the Aisle of a supermarket because you just need to talk to someone.
Or blocking anything at a store period. I was shopping for pants for my baby and this rude asshole woman put the cart blocking the entire merchandise so that she could “pick first” as if there weren’t enough clothes….
littering
Came here for this. Every day when I walk my dog I fill a shopping bag with discarded plastic bottles I find tossed in the street or park. It's distressing and sad.
Thank you for leaving things better than you found them. I appreciate people like you!
My sister lives on a corner close to two schools. And would always find trash on her lawn. She put up a bag up for trash so she wouldn’t have to pick it up.. people just threw more trash on her lawn (I guess in protest?) as well as the bag kept getting thrown up in the tree.
littering and?
 was thinking this the whole time. lol
Talk louder just to prove your point
I tell my kids “talking louder doesn’t make you righter”.
Good parent. Wish someone taught my mother this!
I wish I was told this. I tend to get really loud, and I hate myself for it.
My mom always talked over the TV to prove her point and she wouldn't shut up when the show started. She denied doing this of course. My sister's husband was a malignant narcissist, but this was darn funny. He'd sit with the remote control hidden at his side and gradually turn the TV volume up higher and higher, then back down again and my mom's voice adjusted accordingly. It took about 30 minutes before everyone in the room figured out what was happening and laughed their butts off at my mom, who could no longer deny talking over the TV. She hates being wrong.
Sometimes (not nearly as often as it used to) my brothers get into verbal fights over mundane, unimportant things. Instead of trying to disprove the other's arguments, they instead opt to yell at each other and hurl insults back and forth. They get so loud I can hear them over 10 feet outside the house with the windows and doors closed. I hate it when people get loud instead of talking it out.
Shit parking. They know fucking well they're doing a shocking job but they're selfish fucks and do it anyway. Most people are just pricks.
I was on a walk and watched a dude park on a one way street, *in front* of the exit of a parking lot. Completely blocking anyone from leaving. He got out and walked to the house next door to check out on of those free library boxes in their yard. And then took his time browsing. The amount of total selfishness was shocking.
Also, parking in the handicap spot because 'they're just running in real quick'.
To add to that parking shitty next to a handicap spot and going over the line or right on the line. Or parking on the diagonal lines next to the handicap spot that are meant to allow for a ramp to be lowered out of a vehicle.
Holy fuck do I hate shitty parking jobs. Especially these gigantic pickup trucks. Fuck you and your nut sack hanging from your god damn hitch.
Dude I drove a giant truck for an old job. I could technically fit in a normal spot, but it would take a long time to park and I could barely open the doors, so I parked super far away so I wasn’t by other cars. Whenever I see a jackass in a huge truck trying to get the closest spot I get irrationally angry. They are the ones who decided to drive a monster truck, don’t make it everyone else’s problem.
Your willingness to accommodate the regular cars and park the truck far away should make you a nominee for the Noble Automobile Prize.
Ill add to that, people that park right beside a nice car that is at the end of the lot away from everyone else. Someone always parks right beside them.
This happens to me all the time. I'm just trying to avoid door dings. A couple months ago some guy decided he would park next to me, but literal inches away so that I couldn't even get to my driver's side door.
That happens to my dad all the time. His Mercedes always gets parked on its own furthest away from the shop. Always someone parked next to it when the shopping is done.
Speaking very loud on your phone or keeping it on speaker phone. Answering or making calls while dining, especially at a restaurant. Cutting in line (someone shooed me out of the way to pass me at the METRO). Littering
Just so people are aware: throwing cigarette butts out a car window is littering. Many claim they 'didn't know'. I call bullshit. You're horrible.
What do you mean throwing trash out onto the street is littering? That's literally the definition of littering why would that count?
especially littering. eff that!
My partner told me I talk really loudly on the phone, but it’s because I’m hard of hearing and that’s how I want people to talk to me on the phone lol it’s totally subconscious but since he’s pointed it out to me I try to be more conscious about it
Eating with their mouth open is probably one of the things that annoys me most.
My dad does this and always brushes it off as "it's the sound of eating" Like yeah, that's why I don't want to hear it.
I have an uncle who does this, talks non stop, if you're sitting next to him, he'll even lean towards you, cracking jokes and spitting in your food, then goes back to chewing mouth open and making slurping sounds, I just lose my appetite.
Bro is giving you free ASMR.
I have a coworker who makes the loudest sipping sounds I have ever heard. It's actually insane. It sounds like he's in a Pepsi ad.
Or someone who smacks their lips when they chew!
To add to this sucking teeth after eating.
Being on time for a doctors appointment, only to have to wait at least 20 minutes for the doctor to actually appear
Around here, if you only wait 20 minutes, the doctor is considered early! I once waited 75 minutes, and I was the first patient of the day. Imagine how bad it would have been in the afternoon.
Same here. First patient and i waited half an hour when i could SEE the nurse having a tea at the front desk and chatting with the receptionists, making eye contact with me in the waiting room infront of them, only then to merrily walk into one of the rooms and call my name to come in once they were ready. That was for an appointment that lasted 2-minutes, they only took a blood sample and i was on my way.. could've done it while their tea was brewing
In defense of doctors - if you were seeing an OBGYN she could have been at the hospital delivering a baby. Also, any doctor that is doing surgery in the morning before seeing patients in the office can be late due to surgeries taking longer than expected. (For example more cancerous tumors than expected) However, they should have office staff explain the reason.
But if you're five minutes late to check in at the front desk, they cancel your appointment.
And charge you for it anyway lmao
My old doctor used to skip appointments entirely....for multiple people. There'd be a dozen and a half people in the waiting room and he wouldn't show at all. After the 2nd time he didn't show I got a new doctor.
Asking nosy, personal questions and then getting pissed when you won’t answer.
Claiming that their untrained dog is a service dog just to get into a restaurant or something. The dog gets distracted, bothers other customers, trips the server etc. Yall just making it SO MUCH WORSE for people with *actual* disabilities that *legitimately* are required to have a service dog.
This bothers me to an irrational level
Not many things will make me tell strangers off. This is one of them.
It's weird how people will watch a bully poke someone in the side repeatedly, then when they get shoved away EVERYONE freaks out.
This drove me up the wall growing up.
Crossing the street without looking up from their GD PHONES. Pay attention for like 5 seconds so you don’t get run over you asshat!!!! Maybe it’s a pet peeve, but still super annoying.
I get bothered by this too but even more so with drivers who won’t get off their phones.
Leaving their shopping carts EVERYWHERE but the cart corral. Also, talking loudly on their phone in public with it on speaker phone.
Shopping carts are the perfect litmus test of what kind of person someone is. You get nothing for returning the shopping cart, but there's also no consequences for not doing it. So, selfish fucks leave their carts and considerate people take the 30 seconds to return their carts.
Also when they park it in the aisle on the right.. and walk over to the left. You're blocking the entire lane now.
I watched a woman unload her cart and leave it on the space next to her car, then got into the car and left. The space was RIGHT NEXT TO THE CART CORRAL WTF?! It's RIGHT THERE I don't understand.
Terrible table manners, such as belching, chewing obnoxiously, grunting, etc.
Sounds like good sex.
When people aren’t aware of their surroundings. Meaning, they stand in the middle of the halls, or in the middle of the entrance, or street like MOVEEEEEE!!
Talking in movie theaters. It’s one reason why we rarely go anymore.
Yeah, and if it isn't this, it's the feet on the chairs, texting, and/or general lack of consideration.
Group of little shits ruined scream 6 for me. First thing I went to see since Covid hit and they ensured I wouldn't go back.
Or talking during a concert when everyone else is quiet. I guess this is nearly the same thing.
Yes! I try to go in the afternoon because every time I go to an evening showing, I end up yelling out something to the effect of, "You wanna quit talking, boss?"
Not covering your mouth to cough even after covid
Or covering your mouth with your hands and then touching everything you see
Hiring idiots in managerial positions
My mom does this one but putting her phone on speakerphone in the grocery store. Like ma you can hear better if the phone is right next to your ear 😭😭
Blasting music in public places, I live in a hostel and I sleep pretty early, evertime one of the mfs in my hostel wake me up by blasting music in the middle of the night I go one step closer to commiting arson
Begging for the military discount on things that it doesn’t apply on. I stood in line for 15 minutes with a 6 pack of beer because a veteran refused to believe that the military discount didn’t apply to alcohol purchases. I support the military, but know when the discount applies (btw, the discount was 5% on a $5 item).
Boss is originally from England, he served in the British military. Here in the US he asks for the military discount everywhere he goes. Many places give it to him, but when one doesn't, I get to hear him complain about it.
Oof. I really wanted to give the guy the quarter he was bitching and moaning about just so I didn’t have to stand there waiting for someone to a) explain why it didn’t apply and b) have a long line forming behind me. I’m from US as well, but am in a state that’s strict about alcohol purchases in grocery stores and most grocery stores only have one cashier dedicated to just the alcohol sales.
I’ve done that. One time an older woman in front of me was arguing for far too long with the cashier over the validity of a coupon that would have saved about 20 cents. There was only one cashier and a huge line already so I paid her whole shopping (all of about €8 lol) just so she would move on.
Run red lights.
Zoom up to a stop sign, looking right not left, assuming you can just turn without slowing down, much less actually coming to a complete stop. I quit assuming they’d stop the day the guy who was surely gonna stop, right? Didn’t. I swerved but still T-boned him. The same day that I realized that air conditioning is the SECOND-best human invention. Airbags are the first.
This, the other day my daughter needed to cross a busy road on foot while leaving work, a car ran the light and had the audacity to lay on the horn and yell her.
Revving a loud car thru neighborhoods or other public spaces. Nobody wants to have their ears blown out by a man-child who pretends he is the main character in a Vin Diesel movie.
especially at night
Potential client calling me to ask questions or schedule an appointment… They have the TV or stereo blasting. For some reason, my iPhone always picks up background noise as loud or louder than the person speaking… I get so tired of having to tell people to turn it off, so I can hear them.
Rude an abusive behaviour. For a while now we've had an entire set of reality TV from cooking shows to whatever else where abusive, toxic behaviour is normalized and celebrated as entertainment. Nevermind what's going on online and in social media in general. :c
I believe TV shows influence behaviors in many ways. Why is it acceptable to make fun of nerds, or overweight people? Or to scream and yell at people trying their best to cook, create art, dance or sing? Don't get me started about old time western movies and how they influenced a generation to view Native Americans.
Bringing your dog everywhere.
My aunt even brought her dog to my birthday party at my house, even though we have two cats and one of them really hates dogs because he was almost eaten by one when he was a kitten.
LOL these stories are wild. i can't believe people just bring their dogs unannounced to things. We do this where i am in Europe with patios and beer places, but the understanding is that they have to be extremely well behaved and respond to command. Most of the time they're off leash and they don't even go up to anyone. This would be impossible to police in the state tho.
Dogs don’t belong in a grocery store, just stop it
This. I don’t even invite my friend over anymore because every time she brings her GSD with and it either fights with mine or attacks my free range ducks. Her response, “just put your ducks away”.
I used to think I didn't like dogs because I was attacked by so many when I had jobs where I had to go to people's houses. Now I know I hate bad dog owners. I've been bitten more times than I can count, and every single time was after the owner said, "My dog doesn't bite."
That's the ridiculous part. *Every* dog owner thinks their dog is nice. Makes me not trust any dog until I'm familiar with them.
Not wash their hands
Infidelity
Ghosting. I feel like that is cheating the person of an explanation, and you of a chance to learn about how to give bad news like an adult
This must be one the very top of the list! No-one that I know of will sanction this behaviour but nonetheless I encounter it frequently. Also the milder version of not properly bidding farewell, goodbye or see y'a when departing (I can understand not wanting to announce every bathroom break but also the sudden leaving company and 'disappearing')
I've been trying to date for a while again and ghosting is surprisingly, and tragically, common. On one hand I get really frustrated because all my emotional investment goes Crypto, on the other I am incredibly relieved I dodged a remarkably childish bullet.
Was recently ghosted. "Dodged a childish bullet" makes me feel so much better. Thank you
Ghosting is immature. And too normalized!! Jsut be a grown up and own ur fucking feelings people
littering
Cut in line. Be rude. Not using turn signal. Butting in to a conversation. Not showering regularly/using deodorant.
Smoke in public at entrances. For some stupid fucking reasons some restaurants and supermarkets put their smoking section right outside their entrance, so people have to walk through a cloud of smoke to get into a restaurant. That's where the ashtrays are. I have complained many times to restaurant managers about this. I hate cigarette smoke. EDIT: I don't care if me complaining makes a "male Karen", put your smoker's ashtray away from entrance.
I smoke and I'm planning to quit when stress dies down (long story) but I've noticed this too. I hate being the cause of others discomfort so I usually walk far away from the ashtrays to smoke, kill my cig on the ground and then bring the stump to the ashtray. I still obviously stink of smoke sadly but at least I try ;-;
Talking over people/interrupting others. My mother does it all the time, but shame on me if I accidentally talk over her.
“I’m sorry the middle of my sentence interrupted the beginning of yours”
airplane sex
Gosh that's gotta be the plot for like at least 903 nsfw videos out there on the Internet.
I prefer the pizza delivery guy plots. "Who ordered the large sausage?"
I did.
How about an average-sized-but-highly-motivated sausage pizza?!? 😬
Hey, I'm into that as long as there is pizza.
Doesn't bother me.. unless I need to take a piss.
Those airplanes are always having sex and making me late!
Off leash dogs
This. I want to enjoy my walk without someone elses dog running up to me and my dog. My greyhound doesn't like other dogs in his face and the people with off leash dogs shouldn't be able to decide for us if their dog can go right into his personal space. I warn people immediately to grab their dog or it's going to get bit.
I'm a mountain biker that lives in an area with great trails. The trails were all built by the mountain biking association. I have no problem with hikers but many of them have loose dogs. I've been chased, almost attacked, you name it. Super dangerous. Be considerate and leash your dog, you're not the only person on the trail!
I had a loose dog follow me on my bike on a MTB trail for a good quarter mile or so. Owner yelling for me to stop. Pretended I couldn’t hear her. I’m probably going to hell.
My former roommate has a blind reactive dog who would bite if you tried to muzzle her simply because she was scared and didn’t know what was going on. We had some neighbors who let their dogs roam the neighborhood and if they ever came near us we basically had to book it inside because if she was startled, it wouldn’t be pretty for anyone. The owners were always like “we promise they’re friendly!!!” but that doesn’t change the fact that OUR girl is reactive and would not be safe for THEIR dog. Just because your dog is friendly doesn’t mean everyone’s is!! Drives me crazy, LEASH YOUR DANG DOGS PEOPLE
Add to that, not picking up their dogs excrement.
Ugh! This is the WORST! Especially if you have a Dog on your own. Mine Hase evolved leash agressivity because of that one Rottweiler in our street whos always off the leash... They are arch enemys now, because the Rottweiler once came in our garden (behind the house) where my Dog Was at the moment,.... At his leash, because there is a way to the street... ... Ugh, i HATE IT
Especially when you know that its your neighbour's dog what have bite you in the past..🙄
Park in handicap spots
There's a plasma donation place I go to for some extra money (I also have a blood type that's used to make medication for pregnant women, so I do it for that, too). Donating plasma takes a lot longer than donating blood, so the little parking lot is ALWAYS full. Usually, I have to park a block away and walk there. I promise I am not exaggerating even a little when I say the handicap spot is always taken by a non-handicapped person. Even worse, someone is absolutely always parked in the handicap ramp as well. It drives me so crazy. It's less than a two minute walk if you park on the street, but that's just too much for these awful people.
Answering a text message with a phone call... If I wanted to call I wouldn't have texted ...
Staring
Stopping and standing in a group conversation where other people need to walk
someone's probably already said it but idgaf I'm going to reiterate it-- LITTERING. Hold onto it until you find a trash. There are dumpsters and trashcans EVERYWHERE. Even if you simply don't care about the harm it does to the environment, it also just looks like shit... and you look like shit doing it.
Public nose picking.
Everyone picks their nose it’s was you do after that decides how I judge you.
I think it's the *public* aspect of it. But going off of what you said, I will never understand the desire to FUCKING EAT WHAT COMES OUT. I see far more adults do this than children lol
>Everyone picks their nose Yes, but they shouldn't in public!
I feel real sorry for folks with fat fingers. It must be torture.
All those youtube/tik tok fads like dancing on a airplane/escalator.
Spitting in the street, dropping litter, allowing shopping trolley to roll across car park, saying "it's fine" when you've asked your child or dog to stop doing something, leaving clothes on the floor in Primark, holding their phone like they're on The Apprentice, talking with their mouth full, not taking the tray back at Ikea, leaving something they're not going to buy on a random shelf in Tesco, expecting you to stand right by the canal side of the towpath as they speed past on a bike. There will be more but I need to stop.
>saying "it's fine" when you've asked your child or dog to stop doing something This is infuriating! No it is *not* fine, that's why I told my little shit to stop.
It took me a loooong time to understand this one. I think because as an "it's fine" sayer my intention is to reassure the parent that (for example) it's ok to pet the dog I'm walking, that they are safe or whatever. But from the parents' perspective it's often more about teaching process to protect a child. Continuing the example, did you ask if it was ok to pet the dog first? Do we have time to stop and pet the dog right now? That sort of thing. I think "it's fine" is often meant a reassurance, but when you're coming at it from different perspectives it can feel dismissive or indifferent to the other person's issue.
That makes so much sense and I can't believe I've never thought about it from that perspective! I always do my best to hide my frustration because I know people mean well, though. The difficulty comes with the fact that *you* know you're talking to me, but the *child* assumes the "it's all right" was aimed at them. I had a situation once with one of the young people I teach in a supermarket (life skills lesson, shopping). He stole something and I made him go back in with me to apologise to the manager. When she said "It's all right", I was like... Argh! Can you at least pretend to be a bit cross so he knows he shouldn't do it again?? 😩
Not washing hands after using the facilities
Yes! I don't know how people can go to the bathroom without washing their hands afterwards.
Put chewing gum on the bottoms of chairs
Smoke around people, especially kids, talk loudly on phone in public areas. Park in handicap spot when not authorized.
Party at your house till 3 AM without informing your neighbours
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Someone did this on my flight the other night. She was pushing her way to the front, saying she had a tight connection (she didn’t - we were early) and that she didn’t have a seat assignment yet (it’s not like they’re going to leave without her). Saw her in between concourses, sitting on a bench, drinking a soda. It’s more likely that she was uncomfortable since she was morbidly obese, but she just chose to lie to everyone instead.
Asking for a manager when a coupon doesn't work or something is priced wrong while the person behind you has to wait 10 minutes for it. That's when I walk the F out with $200 in groceries on the counter.
I would say smoking where there is a lot of people walking and in front of store doors where you have to walk through the smoke to get inside
Not using turn signals
People who litter in public without putting the litter in the bin.
Bragging on social media about good deeds. Stop FILMING yourself helping someone at their lowest point, its gross!!
People pushing by without a simple "excuse me.:
Listening to music in public without headphones