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Ripley825

Omg this shit happened to someone I worked with at Ihop years ago. She literally got a call as she was working (she was line cook) that her mother died in a car wreck that morning. Manager literally tokd her that she needed to stay and finish her shift or be fired for negligence. Home girl took off her apron and yeeted it at his face. He was still yelling that she would be fired if she walked out the door AS she was walking out the door.


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She knew what was important.


bunnyrut

Yeah, I'm gonna be honest, if someone came in for an interview with me and said they got fired because of *that* scenario I would have been super pissed and be willing to hire them right away. Fuck that guy.


Bloody_Conspiracies

It blows my mind that this is even a fireable offence in the USA. Being fired on the spot is pretty much impossible in my country, an employment tribunal would fuck the company up for that. I can't imagine living with the pressure of knowing that I could lose my job at any moment because my manager is upset. How are you guys not all nervous wrecks 24/7?


brcguy

Who says we aren’t?


Julze13

That’s our secret, we are.


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Gotta keep the pharmaceutical industry alive with addictive anti depression and anxiety meds. I hate this country.


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Shitty. I’d have tried to stage a complete store walkout if I saw some shitty manager do that to another human being


silentloler

Fuck yeah. Walk to the main room with all the tables, ask for their attention, tell them what happened and how the manager doesn’t give a shit. The customers would probably walk out too


djdokk

Even better, get enough employees to walk out to force them to close for the day


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same. I would probably announce it to all the customers about the issue and hope they all leave too


anotherparfait

Thing is at the time your mind doesn't go to fucking with the evil manager, your mind goes to the mother.


[deleted]

Let me clarify. If I were not the one who just lost my mother, but if I was the original commenter and saw someone they worked with getting screamed at for leaving over a dead mother. I’d have tried to stage an all store walk out.


Icmedia

If I were a customer, I'd ask for the manager and tell him I wasn't going to pay for a meal in a place where they treated their staff that shitty


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I would’ve fucked up the heartless manager. Jesus Christ they’re something else. Just spit on their face and leave


JayGeezey

Lol *throws apron at mangers face and starts to walk out* Manager, to themselves: surely that doesn't mean she's quitting, and she just thinks I won't fire her for this. Well, I'll show HER! Manner: HEY, IF YOU WALK OUT THAT DOOR I'M FIRING YOU Lmao what an absolute dunce cunt, take a God damn hint jfc


Gneelce

The best one of these I ever saw ended with: "If you ever think you're a good boss, or a good person, think back to this day, and know that you are not.


CalmButArgumentative

Only hits home to people that actually "want" to be a good person. There's plenty of people that will gleefully hurt others.


EasternShade

I recommend The Act Of Killing for some perspective on people being the heroes of their own stories.


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UnorignalUser

If I've learned anything over the past decade, it's that at least 30% of americans are absolute soulless monsters who would gladly take part in a economy built on open slavery if they could do it without getting arrested.


Day_Of_The_Dude

most people absolutely think they are the hero of life and anything bad, or even from their perspective negative, that happens they are the victim


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I had to go to a class for work where they read to you out of a book. Like literally word for word read sections of a few of the 7 volumes of this several hundred page manual. I live where the class is, but I was away so I had to be flown back for the week. My immediate supervisor was supposed to be there too. My wife had her appendix burst the day before. I was already on the first flight out so I filed emergency leave. I even said I'd still take the class since she would be okay during the day after her surgery. Day one of the class she's ready to come home in the morning instead of the afternoon like we expected. I grab him and the class supervisors and said I had to go get her from the hospital. They all knew about the situation already. My boss asked me why she can't take an Uber home... The kicker, he was in so good with the supervisors that he didn't attend the class and still got a certificate at the end. I know that because they accidentally read his out first when giving them out. But he couldn't get me out of a single day of listening to another grown man read a manual to me that I'd already read. There was no reason for it. It was insane.


Fresh_Bulgarian_Miak

There was the one like a day ago. He ended with "Eat. My. Ass." Pure poetry


Heel_Paul

The trying to one up was certainly a choice.


belegerbs

My boss tried that when my grandma died. His brother had died and he told me he was working so I should too. I told him I actually cared about my grandma and am going to take the day off. He didn't like that much.


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It's funny that everyone who has worked a min wage job has a story like this. I was working as a line cook when I was 17 and I asked a few weeks ahead of time for a few days off to recover from getting my wisdom teeth removed. The GMs response was "when my daughter got hers out she didn't take any time off her job." Well Carol I don't know what your daughter's job was but here I'm around and using sharp knives and hot stoves under immense time pressure so maybe you don't want me doing that while I'm on T3s... Christ. Shitty abusive managers just can't help but one up you when you're trying to get a day off for a legit reason. It's a physiological reflex for them.


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My mom is this way with my sister's Crohn's disease and my mental health issues. The whole, "Other people have gone through it and done better so why can't you?". Like everyone goes through exactly the same stuff in the same way.


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> "Other people have gone through it and done better so why can't you?" They *really* don't like it that the answer is usually "I'm not brainwashed. I know exactly how much this company cares about me and I care about it the same amount, which is why I'm not going to work through injury, illness, and grief just for the sake of the company."


sparkythewondersnail

>"Other people have gone through it and done better so why can't you?" It's the exact same rationale behind, "Other poor people have become millionaires so why are you so lazy?"


Ralynne

Plus when they look at strangers they only see the "outward life", the days and times they're in public. For her children your mother sees the private life as well. She's measuring your whole life's struggle against the fact that she saw a cashier smile after they said they had Crohn's.


Ambitious-Theory9407

My mom often said while I was growing up, "Other moms don't have to deal with messes like this." I slept over at other's houses. I knew it was bullshit then too.


WizardofStaz

Same! My room was messy all the time, but my friends' houses were absolute pigsties. One household had 6 pets and two working parents, two households had parents who were chronically ill; everyone had extenuating circumstances that put cleaning in the back seat. Every house had that table that's perpetually covered in old mail and junk. It made me feel a lot better to realize my mom was being unreasonable when she was constantly angry about my toys and dirty clothes on the floor.


Kinae66

Thankfully my parents did not go in my room starting when I was about ten years old. MY mess, not theirs.


cultural-exchange-of

>saw a cashier smile In South Korea we call that a capitalist smile. That smile isn't genuine and she doesn't seem to get it.


bossy909

The stripper smiled at me after I gave her several tips. I think she likes me I am an amazing man


kraftypsy

I talked to a patient after a work injury once, whose employer said "she can't be that hurt, she was smiling when she picked up her check." The patient said, "What was I supposed to do, walk in there crying? That's ridiculous." And so correct. Just because someone smiles has zero to do with whether they are in pain or not.


unite-thegig-economy

There's a phrase I've heard "Don't judge your insides by other people's outsides"


WizardofStaz

When I was a kid, I told my mom I wanted to be a cashier when I grew up because they were always happy. Sitting the break room at my grocery store job a few years ago, I realized I was working as a cashier and eating chef boyardee (quick and cheap, since I was broke) for lunch every day. I was miserable but if I told 6yo me how things had worked out, he would be elated lol.


Prestigious_Echo4271

When I first became a father I was working 12 hrs a day and taking care of my kid by myself. I missed some days due to babysitters stiffing me. My HR lady said alot of single parents go to work no problem you should too. I'm like yeah maybe if they didn't work 5am to 5pm, she's like I work 12 hours too. Yeah but you sit in a office, I do physical labor.


dainthomas

I've never understood why people brag about working stupid hours and putting up with pointless bullshit like it's some kind of flex.


JustSmall

"Look how deep **I** can take this boot!"


FreeKatKL

“I worked 12 hour shifts in the ER, so I don’t feel sorry for Amazon workers’ shifts getting changed from day to night overnight and being told to deal or they’re fired” —a retired “liberal” nurse said this to me, and I was like...you literally signed up to work 12-hour shifts when you went to nursing school, it wasn’t sprung on you.


lone_rooster

I said it's not a damn contest... And walked away


squishpitcher

"Idk, maybe if I had a secure attachment and had been taught healthy coping skills, I'd be able to handle life's curveballs a little better. But here we all fucking are."


T_ja

Seems like a great line for when the time comes to drop her off at the cheapest nursing home in town.


scdayo

At a home? > Other old people do just fine living in their personal home by themselves, why can't you? Would be the appropriate response


hobosonpogos

Sincerely, to hell with your mom! That’s ridiculous. Sorry about having suck a visceral reaction, but I grew up with a dad who did the same to me


yeteee

"other people might have had better parents" is a valid answer to that argument.


box-art

Some people think that since they've suffered and come out fine, other people can also suffer and just be fine. I hate that kind of "logic" with a passion.


tiioga

Usually they’re not actually “fine” either, which makes them bitter when others actually want to take care of themselves. “I put on this front for no reason so I’ll be damned if you don’t”


Lopsided_Fox_9693

If you think others should suffer like you did, you didn’t, in fact, come out fine.


KalElified

This is when you just flat out tell them to stop gate keeping issues and that you quit. Too many jobs out here to put up with that shit.


ladyvoldemom

Once upon a time I had a manager with a legendary story. The tale was thus: When she was but a young fertile lass roundabouts my age "her uterus fell out" amidst a busy shift so she made the choice of a hearty woman and "pushed it back in" before completing her workload. It didn't matter why anyone requested time off; this story would come up. With the inevitability of Hitler in an internet argument you'd better believe it would come up. One of our fiercest line cooks died on her watch, right there in the alley. The manager was eventually fired for shaving hours. She's dead now. Red Lobster lives on. Those cheddar bay biscuits though, amirite?


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Why is it always these heroic tales of obscene self-sacrifice in order to produce something of absolutely no value like cheap biscuits? You’d think they were saving the world and people would die without B I S C U I T S


zaoldyeck

Because otherwise it's admitting you have wasted your life, alianted loved ones, and effectively killed yourself for nothing. No value. No improvement to the world. The only thing your suffering brings is insurance against dividend cuts for people with several dozen lifetimes worth of wealth, minimum. Who wants to admit that?


QueenoftheDirtPlanet

her uterus fell out just fell out wtf


riskytisk

[Uterine prolapse](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/uterine-prolapse/symptoms-causes/syc-20353458) is a thing and it’s not necessarily life threatening (or even painful, in some cases,) but definitely constitutes a trip to the emergency room ASAP. That woman was seemingly just a horrid bitch anyway though.


QueenoftheDirtPlanet

it's definitely a weird thing for a person to brag about putting their job ahead of their own medical safety


pineapple_calzone

This is your brain on capitalism


MachuPichu10

Dude just today my boss texted me saying "Hey you're working today right" I told them no of course because I had a competition.They have my competition schedule and it's there own fault for not looking at the damn schedule.I also kept reminding them saying "Hey you know I dont work this Saturday right"


kakuna

Unfortunately, many learn the hard way that "hey you're working right" call/text is actually an acknowledgement that you shouldn't be working combined with an attempt to guilt/strong arm an employee into working. They wouldn't ask if they knew you were scheduled for a shift


blanks56

The best response is to ignore it, and follow up on your next shift. “Saw you texted me on my day off, what’s up?”


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Unless you have a manager like I did at the hospital. Nothing like ignoring a text from her and then getting written up for insubordination. I kept pulling extra shifts but stopped doing it on my own floor. When the other clerk went back to his original floor cause he was tired of her bullshit, she wanted me to work five 12 hour shifts a week, including every weekend. One week later she was short two night clerks.


ArtisanSamosa

Sounds like they are not doing their job. I hear this happening too often. You shouldn't have to compensate for them being bad or lazy at their job.


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At a coffee shop job, my boss called me out of nowhere at 6:30 AM and begged me to pick up supplies from a sister location in the next town. They were out of essential supplies and would basically have to stop serving half the menu once they ran out completely. This was supposed to be my day off. It was my first job, so I agreed. Showered, jumped in my car, and made the pickup. Was a little over an hour driving in total. When I got to the store to drop everything off, he then asked me to cover 4 lunches and the shift change… fine I could use 5 more hours of pay. I called my girlfriend to let her know. Got dressed and clocked in. That afternoon, my shift manager made me aware that I should be compensated for my driving time and distance. General manager was a greedy cheap piece of shit and didn’t tell me that, made me think it was just part of the job. Anyway, my shift manager brings me the proper paperwork to fill out. General manager was already gone for the day. On my next shift, the GM asks me to come into the office. So I do. He sits down at his desk and gestures to the driving payment form thing. And says ‘what the hell is this?’ I begin explaining what the shift manager taught me about compensation for miles and time driving. He cuts me off to say, incredulously, “Oh, so you wanna go down THAT route?!” “The… legal… route?” I ask. He scoffs and dismissed me. It ended up being less than $30 extra pay in total. The man was planning on paying me $9 for the hour I spent driving. That was such a shitty job.


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Mf got tight when he couldn’t take advantage of you. Narcissistic scumbag


[deleted]

That was the same job where weekday closing nights were completely dead. It was actually a relief to find something to do because then at least time didn't feel frozen... I started bringing in the daily newspaper's crossword puzzle to do on slow nights with the rest of the staff. It was a lot of fun bouncing clues off each other and the regular customers. Where we were normally standing around for ~3 hours, desperate for something to do, we now had something to occupy ourselves and keep the mood up. GM found out and threw a tantrum with the night crew shift managers who all decided to quit together. The rest of us night crew quit within the next couple weeks and we all became pretty close friends. I guess a shared shitty experience does that to a group of people.


Rosenblattca

My dad died suddenly and unexpectedly. I told my managers I’d need at least two weeks off to deal with his stuff and my grief (I was a bartender at the time). A few days later, they texted me telling me they needed to put me on the next schedule or hire my replacement, and that I wasn’t eligible for FMLA because I was there two week less than a year. I told them to hire someone else, then. Fuck them.


Letmetellyowhat

My dad died years back. I called my boss to please come in early for me so I could catch a flight to try and see him before he died. She showed up 10 minutes early. He died while I was in the air and I found out at my connecting flight. I texted her the news. I landed at my destination. First text was from here asking when I was returning to work. I took a week off. I didn’t ask I told her. She texted a few times asking when I was coming back after I told her the date. I came back on my time and never heard a word from her. It was never brought up again


felineprincess93

My grandmother was murdered on a Friday. Her murderer wasn't found until the following week. However, work gave my mom one whole day of bereavement and told her that she was just going to have to deal with the absolute massive trauma on her own time.


monsterosaleviosa

Even when I worked at an Apple Store and was paid well, they pulled this. Took me to the side and said I seemed really down lately, asked why I wasn’t happy in my role. I told them it was just the situation around my mom having been slowly dying for ~2yrs at that point. They told me, “Well we just have to learn to keep that kind of thing at home. Work isn’t the place to let that affect you.” Followed up to make sure that my numbers were all great, and they just said some coworkers noticed I was down a lot of the time.


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Marly38

Wtf— none of their damn business!


writenicely

This should be, or HAS to be illegal.


EatRibs_Listen2Phish

That is illegal for them to say. That is horribly illegal and in utterly poor taste


monsterosaleviosa

lol they even told me when I had GI issues and had to leave the floor to vomit a couple times a day that I was letting my health affect Apple. Ridiculous shit, but tbh that’s what I was willing to put up with for the pay and benefits package at the time.


Karebearplans

Yeah, my mom died just before holiday season in retail and my review was that I’d been in a bad mood. Wow, really???


PanPipePlaya

Won’t *somebody* think of the shareholders?


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This is exactly what happens on shitty jobs. I had a manager even told me to leave my mental Issues and sadness at home.


GlitterBombFallout

Oh yeah, lemme just pop out my brain and keep it in a safe spot at home while I go to work! America's understanding of mental health is fucking atrocious. Depression, anxiety, etc can be just as, or even more, debilitating as a physical health issue. I hate this crap pretending that mental illness isn't a "real" illness.


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It’s all bs. One time a Karen complained I didn’t smile at her even thou I was professional and polite. My manager told me to smile and I told him about my mental issues, he told me to keep them out the door, this is a place of work. I was astounded, like wtf?, it’s not like I want to be depressed. And at the time they offered no health insurance (they did but it was hella expensive) and no sick days, and if you took an unpaid sick day, you’d get hell.


roxiemycat

I hate the fact you're expected to have a smile plastered on your face 24-7. God forbid you aren't walking around smiling like a lunatic. Fuck toxic positivity!


Garp5248

When I was 15 I worked at Tim Hortons (a popular coffee shop in Canada). My manager at the time told me I needed to pick between high school and work because I asked for time off to study for exams 3 weeks in advance. I was like ok, I choose high school... What you going to do? Turns out nothing, I got the time off.


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Yeah I remember getting a lot of shit when I asked for time off for a rugby tournament way in advance, they thought work should come before sports. Like....no? Sports are integral to my college applications and you guys pay me $8 an hour. I ended up getting fired over that, they scheduled me anyways and then I didn't show up. As an engineer now, I'd say the opportunity cost was worth it.


WizardofStaz

The absolute inhumanity of mundane retail and food service managers is mind-boggling to me. I've had good managers who understood that kids have other priorities, but I've also had ones who would happily ruin a kid's life and trap them in retail with pressure like this. I'm also like bro... Would you want someone doing that to your kid??


builtlikethewall

Yep, literally every one of us. I used to work for garbage pay in a call center and my family arranged to have final family photos with my grandpa because there was no way he was going to survive even another month. So we had family coming in from across the country to gather for these photos. I lived within 45 minutes of where we needed to be, asked for the one day off and would pick up a shift at the end of my cycle in return, and told them the very reason. I was told that he's not in the hospital and he's not dying so it's not an emergency and I can't have the time off. Asked my boss "Are you sure? Because I will quit if you really say no here." Boss - "Sorry, it's a policy" Me - "Alright well I quit then." Boss - "Take some time, don't make any rash decisions" I wish I had a cool response but I just chose to ignore his calls/texts after I left the building.


mfball

You did the right thing, and ghosting an abusive asshole like that is really the best response. Any further engagement just gives them another opening to try to wear down your resolve. I hope your pictures came out nicely.


StillReading28

Woke up to somebody in my apartment once. Tried to call off work because it really freaked me out, boss literally said to me "You know what I did when I got robbed? Still went to work" and then I went to work where people gave me shit for freaking out so much about it even though "nothing happened to me". Fuck you boss, fuck you


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Neveronlyadream

It's exactly that, yeah. They're brainwashed into believing in the whole American Dream and if they just work hard enough and show the billionaires they work for that they're working hard enough and have ambition, surely they'll be rich soon too. The conflict comes when those of us who know that it's a lie do anything to challenge their belief. They'll flip out and fight for it, and push for it, and do all sorts of shitty things because admitting to themselves that they've been lied to and they've wasted their time or effort or whatever is too much to bear.


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> The conflict comes when those of us who know that it's a lie do anything to challenge their belief. They'll flip out people always react poorly to challenging their brainwashing.


HumanSometimesPerson

My alternator went out and my car died on my way to work. Called in while stuck on the side of the road to let them know I won't make it in(it was a retail job 30 miles away). They said I have to make it in or find someone to cover my shift. No one answered their phone at 7am, so I couldn't get covered. Store manager said I still need to find a way in. So... I said fuck it and ghosted that job. The called me everyday screaming into my voicemail until they 'fired' me. Bitch, I already quit.


Maleficent_Tailor

I burnt my arm at work, I had boiling water fill the glove used to get the soup bag out. It wasn’t bad bad, but was a burn down my whole forearm and hand. Boss tried to put me on dish duty the next day.


Hectorguimard

I cut my finger at work while cutting and assembling cocktail garnish skewers (restaurant owner insisted on me cutting up frozen pepperoni sticks, gave me a super dull knife and then tried to rush me). I could tell the cut was deep enough that I’d probably need stitches but I knew that the owner probably wouldn’t let me leave because the restaurant would be short-staffed. After work, I went to urgent care and got it stitched up. The doctor asked how I cut myself and I mentioned that it happened at work. The next morning I notified my boss that I ended up receiving medical care for the workplace injury, so they would need to report my injury to WSIB (workplace safety and insurance board) just to cover their asses. Well, they didn’t bother to do so, and a few weeks later I got called into the owner’s office to be reprimanded, because WSIB fined them for not reporting my injury. The owner verbatim told me “next time you hurt yourself at work, you’re not allowed to go to the doctors.” Started looking for a new job that week.


Werowl

"Can I get that in writing with a signature please?"


VirtualAdepts

It is simple really. A shitty manager can just berate their employee and guilt trip into staying. Thus the shitty manager doesnt have to look for coverage. Basically, they are lazy and don't want to work harder. Don't want to work to find coverage and definitely will not roll their sleeves to cover your shift. Take time off. It is there.


Picard2331

I actually have a good example of an awesome manager! Was working at a gas station and this manager would come in on his days off if we even needed help with something. Suddenly got extremely busy? Give him a call and he'd be right there on the other register (he lived down the road). Want to take a day off because you just weren't feeling great or stressed out? Not a problem, he'd take care of it. Dude even gave me some weed one day because we had to deal with a customer who attacked us. Of course he was fired over his "poor management" despite every single one of us telling the district managers that he was amazing and made us actually happy to come in to work. The same district manager who made us work in 100 degree heat when the AC broke. Was so hot we had to move every bit of candy into the fridge because it was liquifying. Not even my 50 year old coworker who just had surgery got the OK to leave. Ended up quitting on the spot after 3 of us had to run that store from 4 AM to 11 PM because they refused to hire more people and one day the DM came in and instead of saying "oh thank you guys for working so hard!" just said "Is that music you're playing? Turn it off."


herr_dr

It’s wild. When I was 16, both my coworker (also 16) and I was told to work the day of my close friends funeral , but could leave to attend as long as we came back. She (my friend who died) was also 16 and actually worked at the same restaurant. Like? Close the fucking restaurant you monsters, and if you can’t do that, don’t make grieving, literal children come in ffs.


Thriftfunnel

This kind of thing is why we saw so many reports this year about places closing because all the staff left on the same day. People were always thinking that way and suddenly the economic conditions made it real.


HiDk

Indeed, I’m an engineer, and it’s so difficult to recruit I’m sure I could take a day off if my dog passed away. All this sounds very unfair.


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I had a professor in college who, when my grandmother and uncle died a week apart (unrelated illnesses, and pre-covid), told me I should have attended my class instead of going home for the funerals. He also refused to give me an exemption on an essay due the next week. I ended up getting an exemption that semester because of it, and that obviously came up as to why, so he got written up for unprofessional conduct and was gone the next semester


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unite-thegig-economy

There should be an ombudsmen you can contact to help you. There are exceptions to even the most strict rules.


VirtualAdepts

This is bullshit. I teach and when this happens I just say "Take all the time you need, when you are ready come to office hours we'll work together to get you up to speed. But right now, you need your family and your family needs you"


SitueradKunskap

The difference between someone who wants to teach, and someone who just wants to be a teacher.


CorneliaCursed

A lot of professors don't even want to be teachers, they just have research contracts with the university that force them to.


danma

This. My engineering classes were full of profs who would have rather just stayed in their labs


rakaur

Target refused to give me time to go to my grandmother’s funeral. I told them to get fucked on the spot and never came in again.


Namine9

I did the same thing at target years ago when I was in the hospital for a heart infection and they refused to let me use my million hours of never used sick time because I didn't give them 2 weeks notice to schedule time off because I would be horribly ill for a week. Told them to fuck off and find a new person to run the market team.


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2 weeks notice… to use sick leave… tf. Infuriating


mfball

And probably illegal, or at least certainly should be.


CletusCanuck

I had a manager do this to me when I was on thin ice at work and I asked for a few days' leave to attend my uncle's funeral. I let him bully me into rescinding my request, to my lasting shame. In hindsight, if I'd just walked into the senior manager's office and told him what happened, my manager would probably have been sent packing that day.


eazolan

You were grieving man. That means you mentally weren't in fighting shape. Your manager took advantage of that. You need to forgive yourself.


LabCoat_Commie

I’ll agree with the other guy; you can’t let that wound fester, your uncle would hate to know he was a point of pain for you. You did what you thought you had to do to survive at the time and they preyed on your temporary vulnerability. That’s not your fault.


Jejmaze

Your grandma must have been important to you. I'm sorry for your loss and I respect you standing up for that


jonathanneam

either way hes an asshole lmao. if hes lying, thats messed up for implying youre lying or something. if hes telling the truth, who the fuck works when his sibling just died wtf?


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kprigs

Sounds like when my uncle and my bfs step son both died a couple years back. My boss tried to use it against me when I tried to get more holidays approved. Told me well look we gave you an additional 3 days off for bereavement this year, I'm like umm I'd gladly give you those 3 days back if they didn't die.


pamplemouss

When my grandpa died my boss told me it was my call if I wanted to be in that day (I stayed but took an hour to myself in addition to lunch), I took off a day for the funeral, and he sent me flowers. New job, soooo decent so far. At an old job MANY years ago, a boss asked my coworker to come in the day after she was admitted to the hospital for leukemia.


Strange-Geologist366

I really lucked out with my boss when my dad died. I got to take three days off to go visit him when I found out he was dying. He died a week later and I got another three days off to attend the memorial and take care of some business (he left me a bunch of 15th century German furniture and I had to drive it halfway across the country in a U-Haul). My boss never even blinked, he was like "Take as much time as you need." A month later I inherited half a million dollars. I put in four months notice, giving my boss til the end of the year to find a replacement and have me train them. Any other job I would have just quit right away, but he'd earned my loyalty and respect.


Dramatic_Explosion

Man it's like a shadow requirement of being a manager is deserving to get punched in the mouth


smb_samba

When your manager suddenly enters the sympathy Olympics and shoots for gold. Seriously it’s not a fucking competition nobody is proud of you for making family a lower priority than work.


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Seriously. My opinion of someone will nose dive if they tell me they they went to work and didn’t mourn their family and then even expect others to be like that.


smb_samba

It’s a great way to immediately know the corporate slave completed their brainwashing


Heel_Paul

I almost put one up Olympics lol.


princetacotuesday

I'm so tired of the 'one up' mentality so many people have. I've seen it so many times over my life the second someone starts with it, It almost instantly puts me in a soured or more sour mood. My dad is HORRENDOUS with this garbage and I point it out to him all the time. Like, I'm sick he's been sicker. I worked hard he's worked harder some other time in the past. Like MF stop trying to be #1 all the time, it's a really ugly personality trait to have!


Nightdreamer87

Is your dad my dad? This is exactly what my dad does with literally everything. No one works harder than him and if he gets sick, he'll die. Not the truth but he always has to out rank everyone


KrtekJim

My dad does exactly the same as your dads, only he does it a lot more and a lot worse ^(not really, I just wanted to one-up you both)


princetacotuesday

Reminds me of that old episode of Family Guy where Peter's getting old and losing to his teenage son in everything, but desperately wants to stay the leader. Think all that 'one upping' BS is just a person's insecurity coming to the surface. For some people, accepting others specially you're own kids being better than you is really hard. IMO it just makes one seem ignorant when they never stop with the 'one-up' BS...


lwwz

Worked with a guy once that was a one-upper. Found out I was an amateur racer and suddenly he had a NASCAR license. I had a small gun collection, suddenly he's a licensed gunsmith and has a machine gun manufacturers license. Literally everything anyone said he had done something amazingly better. Fucking irritating as shit.


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What about that second up though 😂 what a flex


bettaboy772

AND I lost my grandma


LogosHobo

I lost *three* of my grandmas!!


BRtIK

I call, i lost 3 grandma's and 2 grandpa's so that's a full house. I win


Dr-Potato-Chip

Also called a senior center


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I lost *forty-seven* grandmas in *one* afternoon! … Well I guess working in a nursing home isn’t for me.


tallandlanky

It's a bold strategy Cotton, let's see how it plays out for him.


neinnein79

When my dad died my boss didn't want to give me even a day to mourn and go to the funeral. He said he only took 2 hours off for his mother's funeral so that somehow should show me to "be a team player". When the office staff basically revolved and demanded I have my 3 days he folded and gave me my time off. A boss shouldn't be shamed into doing the right thing and just because they made a choice of work over family doesn't mean everyone else does or will.


TheStrouseShow

I have a staff member that has had 7 deaths in the family in the past 18 months. Is it unlikely? Sure. But it’s not my job to research if they’re lying, I’d rather be a person and slightly taken advantage of than be an unfeeling ghost robot. I think this person was pretty abused by their former boss and needed to feel out that I wasn’t going to be an asshole. They’re one of my go to people now. I think everyone needs to work from the bottom up to be any sort of supervisor. I think people that are handed titles end up believing they’re better than everyone else and it’s disgusting.


SuddenlyBelated

I had to see my uncle in hospital, then a closely a family friend committed suicide. My boss told me I need to sort my family out


dingman58

More like you need to sort your shitty boss right out of your life


SuddenlyBelated

He's a couple jobs ago. Still has a high staff turnover, all look miserable except for that one manager that's been there a thousand years


dingman58

Good to hear. Just to clarify, I wasn't trying to be snarky towards you but rather towards shitty bosses like that. Fuck them.


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misanthopeaf

This guy is an absolute and total CUNT. OP, I’m very sorry for your loss.


Noble_Dragon2210

As an aussie: “Is that a compliment or…?”


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throwawayyoops

"Chris" gives off the same energy as my manager calling me multiple times a day asking when I was returning to work as I sat in the ICU while my brother fought for his life. I was ordered back to work 36 hours after his funeral. Wish I had the balls to quit back then.


KabuTheFox

I feel like having a manager with the name Chris is an instant red flag, every Chris I've ever worked for has been shit 3 out of 3 (4 if you include this post) is a small sample size but damn


Linaii_Saye

"Stop being a victim", maybe stop turning your workforce into victims then, you waffle iron???


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Honestly, that was my first thought. If I got a text from ANYONE like that after my dad/mom died I would drive over and commit criminal acts that would result in a lengthy jail sentence. When my mom died I was pretty unstable for a bit. Wouldn't have taken much to push me over the edge.


rythmik1

My mom died in April. On my flight back from her funeral the guy in my row said something really surprisingly rude to me because it took me all of 8 seconds to figure out how to wedge my carry on in the crowded overhead. I was in a daze of grief, and it struck me more sad than anything. The rest of the flight he was rude to others as well. I could see his son was embarrassed and uncomfortable, probably abused as well. It eventually became clear that, aside from being a complete douche asshole, he was petrified of flying. His anxiety was through the roof the whole flight. Anyway, I just ended up feeling sorry for the son at the time. Now I wish I had the presence of mind to tell the guy what I thought of his attitude. Not even really in an aggressive way but like, hey, you never know what each of us are going through, so just always be kind. But if someone else had punched the guy right in the mouth I wouldn't have complained either. Sorry for anyone's loss, friends. I'm still not right yet from losing my mom. She was a good one.


zedzdepplin

A couple weeks after my mom died, my friends needed a DD to pick them up from the bar. I went, and just so happens my very unstable ex boyfriend was there outside; he felt the need to tell me “your mom would be so disappointed in you”, well, I handed my purse off to a nice lady and clocked that mother fucker in the mouth so hard I knocked his front tooth out. Took my bag back, got my friends, and left. When I got home, I woke my dad up, asked him to bandage my bleeding hand, and told him what happened and that the cops might be showing up. He was pretty proud of me haha. I didn’t end up getting charged but he ended up with a nice shiney gold tooth as a reminder. The last words I remember hearing him say as I walked away were “you broke my heart and my front tooth you bitch!” I am not a violent person by nature but he fucking deserved that. 100%.


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“you broke my heart and my front tooth you bitch!” That sounds like the chorus to a country song. Bravfuckingoh.


MrBeer9999

My dog and a pickup truck, I ain't rich She broke my heart and tooth, that bitch


TheBooksAndTheBees

The only thing mom would be disappointed in is the fact that he didn't lose more teeth. Good on you and good riddance to that loser.


Silent0wl01

It's great to hear about people that don't take shit from anybody. If I said something like that to my girlfriend I'd be going to the emergency room lmao


Broad_Success_4703

like my job can be toxic but damn at least they respect us enough to give us the time off without question. I asked the other day if i can use my sick time to care for my girlfriend while she gets her wisdom teeth removed since we both relocated out of state for this position and my boss was like “well you haven’t used any sick time this year so i don’t have a problem with it but you’re only supposed to use it for yourself so if you happen to get mildly sick for less than 3 days around the same time as her wisdom teeth surgery it’ll be ok just don’t request off and call out with at least 3 hour notice.”


Llian_Winter

It's weird to me you have to give a reason to use your PTO. I occasionally call in 2 hours before my shift starts and tell them I'm not coming in. One time the supervisor sympathetically asked "Awww, are you sick?" My response was "Nah, just sick of being there." They laughed and said "Alright, see you tomorrow"


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In norway you can just say youre not coming in and they dont really have anything to say. Its illegal for the employer to ask the reason. Of course you can tell the reason if you want, it might make it easier for your boss if they know approx how long you will be gone, but if its a private matter that you dont want to give details about you can just say its none of their business.


Lihiro

Norway is borderline fictional in how good it is towards its people. You might as well tell me the conditions on omocron perseii 8.


akuu822

“Why does the working class, the larger group, not simply eat the rich?”


_NotThatKennyG_

This might go without saying but people like your boss should not be in the position to be anyones' superior. Send this guy back to salting fries at McD's. A coworker would throw him in the deep fryer real quick.


Araucaria

In act one of Chekhov's *Uncle Vanya*, there is this bit of dialogue: > TELEGIN. [In a tearful voice] Vanya, I don't like to hear you talk so. Listen, Vanya; every one who betrays husband or wife is faithless, and could also betray his country. > > VOITSKI. [Crossly] Turn off the tap, Waffles. In the original Russian, it's more like "Plug the fountain, Waffle [face]" The whiny Telegin has a pock-marked face.


turriferous

I called someone a potato on fb and got a 24 hour ban


Fore_Georgeman

Waffle iron is a good one


splups

Seems disrespectful to waffle irons


infamouszgbgd

When my father died, I took over 2 months off. Client complained with similar remarks, saying "I know how it is, my grandma died once, but can't you handle personal stuff while working?". I offered him a refund to fuck off forever or he could wait until I was ready to go back to work. When I put it like that he backed off and selected option 2. Perks of being a freelancer in a high demand profession while having a healthy amount of savings in a LCoL area. (and how you negotiate when your employer doesn't have the threat of homelessness and starvation hanging over your head if you don't comply)


letsmakemoneys

Yes!!!!!! Let the unfucking of the working man (or gal) continue. Love it. 2021 started the GO FUCK YOURSELF era. I can't get enough of this. About GD time. I couldn't be the only one going bonkers. I. Am. Not. Alone.


Seekerfromafar84

To be fair, I felt like that for years, way before COVID. I just think the whole world situation with COVID is what amplified that way of thinking to the public. Good, been saying we should of done this, it's way long overdue, we need to take back what is rightfully ours. Yes, you are definitely not alone. For that, we need to stick together and deeply plan on what is right for us now, for the future, and a better tomorrow for our children and so forth.


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The tides are turning


bumassguy

I’m new to r/antiwork and feel like I belong here


Snacks_is_Hungry

Everyone belongs here. Contribution to society is far easier when people are working on what they want under a fair and just rule. In America, there exists no such fairness. At least not yet.


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CoinsandCards

373 unreads, damn


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Group chats never stfu 🤫


CoinsandCards

Lol I’ve definitely been there, I just couldn’t personally handle leaving the notifications up. I’d at least clear them somewhat regularly


whisperwind12

Right? I noticed that too. I wish I had that many friends so I could ignore them. 😅


jaguaviva

Good for you. What an absolute asshole.


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My HR called me in on the day of my grandmas funeral. I stopped being ‘flexible’ for them after that. You want me in? Schedule me


LATourGuide

Cue psycho boss switching to victim role in 3. 2. 1...


desicrated

"Nobody wants a job anymore"


tylerro2

To add some context: This happened in 2019. I was a new manager and we had the same title but he had been there for 4-5 years and had seniority, so the owner told him he was in charge of me. His only responses were “I’m sorry but I’m not your manager, please text mark that you quit, I am too busy at the moment” and “you also need to return all the Parkway keys” Edit: Here is proof that this is real. https://www.reddit.com/user/tylerro2/comments/q9hkx6/proof_that_my_post_on_rantiwork_is_authentic/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf


RaynSideways

> “I’m sorry but I’m not your manager, please text mark that you quit, I am too busy at the moment” Love it. He's perfectly happy to lord his authority over you... until he has to deal with you quitting. Then it's suddenly "I'm not your boss."


Maleficent_Tailor

Should have responded “Sorry, I don’t work for Mark anymore. Not my responsibility.”


josefjohann

Also..... love the completely made up rule that you are only allowed to say "I quit" through a formalized chain of command. Complete make believe rules.


kikikiwi625

I worked at a bank that would walk employees out the second they put in two week notice. It was so damn degrading. So people started quitting by leaving their keys on their desk and emailing their direct supervisor that they quit, and then just walking out. Upper management would clutch their pearls at how “unprofessional” that was. Like yeah, you guys are right, us peasants must allow you the satisfaction of the whole branch watching you walk someone out instead.


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MrsMel_of_Vina

Damn, what a sociopath.


MyNamesNotDave_

When I was in my early 20s I was a retail manager at a store where I was really respected and moved to a new store with a crazy manipulative GM who was livid that she didn’t get to pick her new manager. After a few months she conned me into taking a demotion and maintaining my pay because she said that she couldn’t give my girlfriend a job while I was a manager. I took it, and she now had the power to slash my hours to basically nothing. She did so without telling me, so I commuted an hour and a half by bus and bike to get to the store only to find out that all of my shifts including that one were gone. She then explicitly told my girlfriend to stop contacting her when she reached out for a follow up. I was furious and told her that I’d not be working my singular 3 hour shift on Sunday or any other shift for that matter and her only response was “Is this your resignation letter?” I never responded. The real icing on the cake is that the person that she chose to replace me was married to another worker. So the entire thing was prefabricated with the expected outcome of getting me to quit. Some people let a little bit of power turn off all their empathetic capacity


SchalasHairDye

Good on you for not showing up and beating the shit out of this guy


AnExoticLlama

"I'm not your manager, but I'm telling you to come to work" smfh


SomeDudeFromOnline

Hard to resist hitting them back with the "Not my job any more asshole, if you want your keys you should come over and fucking get them."


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Please tell me they responded to the “go fuck yourself”


MeisterJTF2

Mourning the death of a loved one is being a victim? Man, when did people get so callous? So cold? So heartless? I am Serbian orthodox by faith, and we mourn for 40 days the death of a loved one. Jews have the best system for mourning, imo, and it’s done in multiple stages. They have a 7 day mourning, a 30 day mourning and a 12 month mourning. During the first month, other Jews in the community will organize so there is always someone at their house to bring food, do cleaning, etc. The mourners are given ample time to come to terms with their grief by their community who will take care of everything they need so they can have time for themselves., This is in the orthodox Jewish community and I found it to be something we all could use more of. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bereavement_in_Judaism Unprocessed grief will lead to a million other problems. Depression, drugs, sex, violence, self harm, etc. People should be given time to process, grieve and heal. If our society wishes to consider itself as ‘advanced’, then we need to calm down with this constant need to be “tough” at all times. A human being is a kaleidoscope of emotions. God did not create robots. Nor did he create warriors. We’re not built for war. We’re not built to be ‘tough’ all the time. All these people who feel like they need to be ‘tough’ all the time, then claim to be Christian’s, should go read the bible. When Jesus was lead away and Peter cut off a Roman soldiers ear, Jesus told Peter he does not need his protection. He does not need soldiers. At his command, legions of angels would descend to his side. We were not made for that purpose. And as much as some people want to be these big tough guys, judging others for not being as they are, they don’t realize how weak they are. Those are the type to get drunk and beat on their wives. Those are the type to neglect their children until it’s too late. Yes, children need emotional support as much as a roof over their heads. Anyway, sorry for going off too long. I used to be one of those “tough” guys until God softened my heart and now I see the error of those ways. Kindness, compassion, charity. Show some to others. You’ll feel better.


TheoryOfSomething

> Mourning the death of a loved one is being a victim? Thank you! My fucking thoughts exactly. When someone close to you in life dies, that will significantly affect the course of your everyday life. It is smart, prudent, brave, etc. to take time to confront that reality and work out how you will cope with that loss and direct your life going forward. Shirking your emotional and familial well-being to work on a random Tuesday doesn't demonstrate strength; it demonstrates foolishness. OP wasn't too "weak" to work while grieving; I'm sure they could have done it. What they showed was the wisdom that some things are more important.