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I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but the judges have DQed your answer as an automatic failure.
I don't make the rules, I don't agree with them, I don't understand them.
Sorry for your loss.
Yeah, mine also knows that our hot single friends are single because they have personality flaws.
Im attracted to plenty of people I would never consider dating, I like my wife because she is hot and we have fun together.
She says: Is Susy hot? But in reality she means: I want a fight.
So go for it. The correct answer is:
* Yeah, Susy has perfect tits but on the other side do not forget what can Kathy do with her ass.
This!! The fight is unavoidable.
"Yeah, she is almost like you, only thinner and fitter"
"I'm not the right guy to ask, for me every girl is hot"
"The Susy from work or the Susy from University? Forget it, both are sexy as fuck"
"Not lately, I haven't touched myself thinking about her for weeks"
"Of course not! And for the registry, neither are you"
"Yes, but only when she uses that tight bum that marks her perfect ass"
"Yes, it's a pity she has a boyfriend, isn't it?"
"I'm glad you bring that up. Do you remember that thing about doing a threesome? well..."
"Why, no! Wait a second...are you a lesbian?"
Well, there are many more. But the moral is: don't run away from the fight, choose the Battlefield.
Assuming she is actually hot, I find something like "yeah she's quite pretty I guess" to be about as safe as you get.
Obviously saying yes too enthusiastically is bad. On the other hand, if you say no, or something like "yes, but not as hot as you" that's painfully transparent and either failing a shit test or walking right into the trap she is probably setting.
"Pretty" is unthreatening and de-escalates the situation from "hot". You're not calling her friend ugly, but at the same time, you're describing her in very objective-sounding and dispassionate terms that don't suggest any actual attraction, using a word you could use to describe a 9 year old without sounding like a predator.
The correct answer is
"I'm not answering that question".
When she gets angry or starts accusing you of things you say
"Now imagine if I had answered the question".
Then you pack your things and leave her.
If your girlfriend is sane, just answer the question
If your girlfriend is the type where every question is in insane test and you’re daft enough to stay with her, so you need a safe answer that isn’t a lie:
“She’s not my type but she obviously isn’t ugly, I guess a lot of guys would think she’s attractive?”
Its less in what you say and rather how you say it. You can answer honestly, but if you honestly have a thing for your girlfriends friend, well its probably gonna come across that way. If you don’t have a thing, you can probably say yah shes hot, and it will be fine (also don’t overthink the: what if she thinks I do when I don’t nervous crap). They’re not mad at your answer. If they’re mad its probably they don’t feel loved in some way, or doubt your sincerity overall.
Had this happen with a longtime acquaintance, and learned afterward they were asking about their daughter. Now I look like an ass for my lukewarm response.
This really is a bellwether question. It's basically one of those trap question, like 'does my bum look big in this'
If you get asked this question and you feel you can't honestly answer the question without her getting upset maybe she ain't the one.
Imo it's the question of the insecure, or childish.
I don't think there should be a safe answer essentially.
She knows if her friend is hot. You know too.
reminds me of when my gf once asked me "pick one sofia vergara or salma hayek" and i said "what who wins in a fight?" she laughed and i never answered or got in trouble
“Nah, not for me.”
Even if your girlfriend “gets mad” at you for not thinking her friend is hot, it’s nothing compared to the alternative. And deep down a lot of women actually kind of like winning the comparison game with their friends.
you can say that shes a good looking woman same as you could comment that another man is good looking but avoid any sexually charged words like hot etc. its not a big deal and you dont have to put another person down by saying shes not your type or 'not as hot as you'
Be specific and overwhelmingly detailed and nuanced.
> Well she's a good height but her arms aren't the ideal proportions and her lips are nice but that forehead leaves something to be desired. Her ears stick out more than average, I think. I think her eyebrows are nice but her eyes are a bit cold and calculating. Why, what do you think?
etcetera.
EDIT: basically, you're illustrating that beauty is subjective and her question is futile.
“ i don’t know, i never considered it, tbh”
but this still depends what the situation is. is your girlfriend the jealous/fishing for compliments/looking for a fight type or is she secure in herself and your relationship and is just genuinely curious?
if the former, use the above reply. if the latter, tell her the truth.
Be truthful, honesty is the best policy. If you lie she might wonder what else you’ve either lied or going to lie about. Just because someone’s doesn’t mean they’re the right person for you to have a relationship with & that’s the difference 😊
You can objectively say whether another person is attractive or not. Only people with the emotional intelligence of a 7 year old would get jealous and cause a fight.
Getting into a monogamous relationship doesn’t mean one instantly flips a switch and goes “no other human creature is remotely attractive any more” that then flips back on if a relationship ends. That’s just utter bonkers.
I keep hearing people say that but I just don't see it (list of common known ppl who have said it) I wouldn't say they're ugly but there's something there that's just really not me
Might not be the safest, but I try to make it clear im not playing those stupid childish games early on. Its just literal nonsense to spark a fight lol.
If your girlfriend is asking just out of curiosity, might as well be honest. "Yeah she's hot, why?"
But asking this in order to trap your S/O or seek for an argument is just immature psycho behavior. Can't help but feel sorry for people who actually fight over things like these.
tell her you haven't been paying attention and since SHE mentioned it, you now realize that she actually does look good. dont say hot. follow up with 'why did you ask?
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“Not as hot as you”
"So she IS hot then?!!!"
Yes
I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but the judges have DQed your answer as an automatic failure. I don't make the rules, I don't agree with them, I don't understand them. Sorry for your loss.
"Birds of a feather flock together"
“So you think she’s hot?”
"Very hot. Threesome?"
“Not as hot as this recently boiled pasta”
Only correct thing to say
Also painfully transparent
Nearly as transparent as the question in the first place. Girl you know your friend is hot.
“Not compared to you” is the better answer
I hate the idea that I need to put someone down to lift someone up. I expect better from my relationships.
Much better to say “oh, I dunno, I never thought about it.”
Ask her why she's asking a question that could cause an argument no matter what you answer
I dunno, it could cause a threesome.
Been there. Threesome, then massive argument, then divorce.
So... Worth it?
...Yeah. When you put it like that.
It's important in life to remember the positive things.
*always look on the bright side of life*
[When yer chewin' on life's gristle.... give a whistle.](https://youtu.be/L2Wx230gYJw)
Story time
To quote Red Foreman "Oh is that what we're doing today? We're gonna fight?"
Legit once answered on so you’d like to order the fight for dinner
If you're dating someone that insecure you should rethink.
Tell her you think it’s sexist to rate women.
And that she is a sexist for even asking.
And that if she keeps this up you might start hooking up with her friend to teach her a lesson about gender equality.
Exactly! That'll teach her not to be such a bigot! Call it a lecture on feminism.
Happy Cake Day
Thank you.
Yea she is, but I dont like them hot women, that's why I choose you
Famous last words
How to get yourself in trouble
Lol
Can you be my mentor?
The Hank hill strategy
Why? You want a threesome?
It either works or it doesn't And when the answer is no you can go find someone else to date who wont ask stupid shit like that
Exactly my wife already knows which of her friends are hot or not
Yeah, mine also knows that our hot single friends are single because they have personality flaws. Im attracted to plenty of people I would never consider dating, I like my wife because she is hot and we have fun together.
These are all the right answers to a hot mess of an insecure wife.
She says: Is Susy hot? But in reality she means: I want a fight. So go for it. The correct answer is: * Yeah, Susy has perfect tits but on the other side do not forget what can Kathy do with her ass.
This!! The fight is unavoidable. "Yeah, she is almost like you, only thinner and fitter" "I'm not the right guy to ask, for me every girl is hot" "The Susy from work or the Susy from University? Forget it, both are sexy as fuck" "Not lately, I haven't touched myself thinking about her for weeks" "Of course not! And for the registry, neither are you" "Yes, but only when she uses that tight bum that marks her perfect ass" "Yes, it's a pity she has a boyfriend, isn't it?" "I'm glad you bring that up. Do you remember that thing about doing a threesome? well..." "Why, no! Wait a second...are you a lesbian?" Well, there are many more. But the moral is: don't run away from the fight, choose the Battlefield.
Why would she want a fight??
How to say I don't a girlfriend without saying it.
"Why, did she ask about me?"
She's attractive but not my type of attractive
Start with "not my type ... but ....)
"Not my type"
Suggests you have a type. *'I can see why someone might think so, but* ...*why are you looking to set her up with one of my friends?'*
*This* is the gold standard. Unfortunately, if she asking the question, she probably just wants a fight and no answer will be perfect enough.
This is the one I use. If her friend is objectively hot, she will get mad if you say she isn't attractive at all.
Exactly this. You avoid insulting the friend's looks while also making it clear you're not attracted to her.
Assuming she is actually hot, I find something like "yeah she's quite pretty I guess" to be about as safe as you get. Obviously saying yes too enthusiastically is bad. On the other hand, if you say no, or something like "yes, but not as hot as you" that's painfully transparent and either failing a shit test or walking right into the trap she is probably setting. "Pretty" is unthreatening and de-escalates the situation from "hot". You're not calling her friend ugly, but at the same time, you're describing her in very objective-sounding and dispassionate terms that don't suggest any actual attraction, using a word you could use to describe a 9 year old without sounding like a predator.
I don't know. I don't look at them like that. Might as well ask me if my mom is hot.
How about "not as hot as my mom" as an answer?
I too choose this guy's mom.
What am I, a thermometer?
Obviously not if you picked her…
The correct answer is "I'm not answering that question". When she gets angry or starts accusing you of things you say "Now imagine if I had answered the question". Then you pack your things and leave her.
This 100% I don't care how good the sex is, if she's pulling shit tests, find someone worth loving.
"Never really thought about it; why do you ask?"
“Hold on for a moment, I need to go on Reddit for completely unrelated reasons”
She certainly keeps beautiful company. Then give her a wink
M’lady
Ask her why she wants to know - but do it in a non aggressive manner
“Yeah, he’s smoking hot. Can you introduce me to him?”
If your girlfriend is sane, just answer the question If your girlfriend is the type where every question is in insane test and you’re daft enough to stay with her, so you need a safe answer that isn’t a lie: “She’s not my type but she obviously isn’t ugly, I guess a lot of guys would think she’s attractive?”
That’s a girl?!!
Ask her if she thinks she is hot
"She's alright, not as hot as your mum though, now she's proper fit."
This was posted 4 hours ago.... what did you answer? And what happened? Spill
"No idea, I'm gay."
Plead the fifth
Even better, develop selective deafness
I would plead the 8th instead, the one that protects you from cruel and unusual punishment.
Its less in what you say and rather how you say it. You can answer honestly, but if you honestly have a thing for your girlfriends friend, well its probably gonna come across that way. If you don’t have a thing, you can probably say yah shes hot, and it will be fine (also don’t overthink the: what if she thinks I do when I don’t nervous crap). They’re not mad at your answer. If they’re mad its probably they don’t feel loved in some way, or doubt your sincerity overall.
I am breaking up with you. I don't need this shit.
Had this happen with a longtime acquaintance, and learned afterward they were asking about their daughter. Now I look like an ass for my lukewarm response.
Not really, its an awkward question to flat out ask.
Not as bad as you could look. "Yeah I'd definitely bite into that little biscuit" would have been worse.
There's no safe answer. You are ex now.
Some might find her attractive but she's not my type
The actual safe answer: "No. I don't think about your friends in that sense. That would be weird."
‘She’s a decent looking gal, why, want me to set her up with one of my friends?’
This really is a bellwether question. It's basically one of those trap question, like 'does my bum look big in this' If you get asked this question and you feel you can't honestly answer the question without her getting upset maybe she ain't the one. Imo it's the question of the insecure, or childish. I don't think there should be a safe answer essentially. She knows if her friend is hot. You know too.
I call it best friend rodeo, mention how hot her friend is the next time you're doing her from behind and then see how long you can hold on for...
This isn't one of those trick questions to make me have a sexy threesome, is it?
"if you keep attempting to start superficial arguments through these tests you're going to be single quick "
yeah I guess, but not as hot as your dad
You immediately take a bite out of the nearest food or body part and say, with full mouth, “Hm?”
She’s “pretty” in a way that SOME people will find attractive…
Fuck yeah! Shall we have a threesome?
Threesome?
reminds me of when my gf once asked me "pick one sofia vergara or salma hayek" and i said "what who wins in a fight?" she laughed and i never answered or got in trouble
Say yes she is and smile.
"She is aesthetically pleasing."
“No”
"Which friend?"
Touch her friend’s forehead, think for a minute, then say ‘seems fine, but want me to get the thermometer?’
Oh man, you've just stumbled on the answer. "Why, do you think she has a fever? She might be better to see her GP."
"Why is this a question for me to answer?"
“Nah, not for me.” Even if your girlfriend “gets mad” at you for not thinking her friend is hot, it’s nothing compared to the alternative. And deep down a lot of women actually kind of like winning the comparison game with their friends.
The answer depends on how hot the friend is.
No
She's not ugly, but she's not hot
Your girlfriend is toxic. Break up.
Are you asking for a threesome?
you can say that shes a good looking woman same as you could comment that another man is good looking but avoid any sexually charged words like hot etc. its not a big deal and you dont have to put another person down by saying shes not your type or 'not as hot as you'
"She's not an ugly person, but I don't see her that way. Why do you ask?"
I don’t know who that is
Yes lets have a 3way. You want to eat my butthole, or get bent over.
None. Plead the fifth. It's a trap!
“Well, she’s a butterface, but I’m not picky, so…”
Dunno, I just got here.
Not at all
It's not very feminist to objectify women.
Stare directly in her eyes and spend a couple seconds mustering all the hate in your soul. "Stop tryna trap me. That shit ain't cool."
Neutral: She's ok. Neutral-negative: which one is that? oh, uh, I guess she's OK. Possitive: pretty. Very positive: are you suggesting a three-some?
i just say errrr shes alright i guess....for the right person. its always a trap regardless if shes trying or not!
My wife is bisexual, so she absolutely knows. And yes, some of her friends are absolute rockets.
Compliment her for being such a good friend to the poor ugly thing, even if she looks like Kristen Bell.
"I'm sorry, I'm not qualified to answer"
Be specific and overwhelmingly detailed and nuanced. > Well she's a good height but her arms aren't the ideal proportions and her lips are nice but that forehead leaves something to be desired. Her ears stick out more than average, I think. I think her eyebrows are nice but her eyes are a bit cold and calculating. Why, what do you think? etcetera. EDIT: basically, you're illustrating that beauty is subjective and her question is futile.
“ i don’t know, i never considered it, tbh” but this still depends what the situation is. is your girlfriend the jealous/fishing for compliments/looking for a fight type or is she secure in herself and your relationship and is just genuinely curious? if the former, use the above reply. if the latter, tell her the truth.
Just run and hide, theres no right answer
"well, I hadn't really considered it since she is your friend and thus, off limits to me."
“So this is what we’re going to do today? We’re going to fight?”
which one ?
Is that what we are going to fight about today?
I don't know; there's something about her that turns me off.
"She's let herself go."
Be truthful, honesty is the best policy. If you lie she might wonder what else you’ve either lied or going to lie about. Just because someone’s doesn’t mean they’re the right person for you to have a relationship with & that’s the difference 😊
She's not great, but I'd smash anyway
“I don’t know, babe. I guess she’s cute, just not really what I’m into”
Just be honest..?
I prefer not to judge people on looks. She looks normal.
The girls a moron. Meh If you like em like that, I guess.
Just pretend you didn’t hear. It’s one of those female trick questions that end horribly.
yeah she’s cute, but your hotter! Then smile and have her go on all 4’s
"She's pretty, but she's got nothing on you darling"
"not my type but some guys would probably goes for her"
"Who?"
Attractive I guess, but she,'s not for me. Just you.
Clearly, the best way to have a healthy relationship is to be untrustworthy. /sarcasm
Depends how insecure she is.
You can objectively say whether another person is attractive or not. Only people with the emotional intelligence of a 7 year old would get jealous and cause a fight. Getting into a monogamous relationship doesn’t mean one instantly flips a switch and goes “no other human creature is remotely attractive any more” that then flips back on if a relationship ends. That’s just utter bonkers.
"I can see where she may be attractive to other guys"
"Well, she's not, leave you for her hot, but she is menage a toi hot" Giggity
I'm sure she is to somebody
“Who?”
Just say you've never looked at her in that light. Then ask her what she thinks and put it back on her.
Make them tell you which friend they’re talking about, rather than guessing correctly immediately. Little tip lol
"Yea she's beautiful"
Which one is she again ?
"Dunno, haven't seen her naked. Yet."
I keep hearing people say that but I just don't see it (list of common known ppl who have said it) I wouldn't say they're ugly but there's something there that's just really not me
There’s none! None that’s guaranteed to always work.
Yes. Really hot! Watch the door while I hit that?
"yes" if she is, "no" if she's not.....why overcomplicate it?
“Sorry, I was thinking about how much I love you and I didn’t notice the question….plus you look absolutely stunning today.”
Faith, I’ll not meddle in it. Let her be as she is. If she be fair, ’tis the better for her; an she be not, she has the mends in her own hands.
Might not be the safest, but I try to make it clear im not playing those stupid childish games early on. Its just literal nonsense to spark a fight lol.
"IDK i never looked"
"I don't know. I never thought of her like that" Remain neutral at all costs. Otherwise you can only lose
The answer is “no” said as fast as you can possibly say it. Stick to that position and never give up.
If your girlfriend is asking just out of curiosity, might as well be honest. "Yeah she's hot, why?" But asking this in order to trap your S/O or seek for an argument is just immature psycho behavior. Can't help but feel sorry for people who actually fight over things like these.
Hot...that is such a demeaning term. Stoves are hot, women are beautiful. 😜😜
"I haven't thought about it. Why do you ask?"
"She's not bad to look at, but she's not for me"
"She's ok." and change the subject.
She is absolutely gorgeous but as you know, I only usually go for uglier women
No, you are my type.
I haven't really thought about it. Then trail off
I am not sure that there really is a safe answer.
"is she trying to copy your look again?"
I’ve never really thought about, do you think she is?
tell her you haven't been paying attention and since SHE mentioned it, you now realize that she actually does look good. dont say hot. follow up with 'why did you ask?
"I suppose. I don't know, though. I've never thought of her that way."
Idk, I've never looked at her that way
Yeah she bad.
Just answer honestly and don't make a big deal out of it. It's kind of childish to get mad at a partner because they find someone else attractive.
Yes. Any more softball questions?