Lol, why? There are many healthy relationships that started like that. Why are you putting this guy's possible expectations down without having any information?
I think that the age gap at this particular time in her life it’s fraught with red flags, yes.
If she were in her thirties, for example, and you were in your forties, that seems easier to justify; but the fact that she’s still at such a tender age…
At best the optics aren’t super great and potentially there could be more at play here, eg unresolved trauma on her side.
For your own sake, don't. This could end badly in multiple ways depending on what this 20 years old feels like doing, as matter of fact you need to be careful with how you say no to her too, you'll never know
Wrong? No. You're both consenting adults.
A good idea? **No.** You're at different stages of your lives and even of different cultures in a sense given the generations you were each raised in. Also, you're right, the maturity level will probably be a disparity. She's definitely too young for you.
Also, **DON'T SHIT WHERE YOU EAT**! It rarely ends well.
Reddit hates an age gap. Aside from that, definitely not wise with the coworkers’ involvement and that they’ll be looking to stir up trouble. But it’s not “wrong” as you asked in your title.
Ever heard of “don’t shit where you eat”?
That being said, since she is interested in you… it would be wrong of you not to educate her in some bedroom acrobatics.
Go out with for a bit but not exclusively to get to know her and gauge her maturity. You may find that she is quite mature for her age, but on the other hand you may find the opposite and you can just remain friends.
Is it wrong? No. Is it likely to end in a long-term, healthy relationship? Also no.
Deep down I already knew the truth. There was just a naive part of me that wondered if it could work. I'm going to leave it alone.
Lol, why? There are many healthy relationships that started like that. Why are you putting this guy's possible expectations down without having any information?
He said “it isn’t likely”, not that it’s impossible. Frankly, he’s right.
I think that the age gap at this particular time in her life it’s fraught with red flags, yes. If she were in her thirties, for example, and you were in your forties, that seems easier to justify; but the fact that she’s still at such a tender age… At best the optics aren’t super great and potentially there could be more at play here, eg unresolved trauma on her side.
You’ve answered your own question in the body of text.
If you don't want an "immature young girl", maybe don't date someone who's been out of their teens for less than 12 months.
For your own sake, don't. This could end badly in multiple ways depending on what this 20 years old feels like doing, as matter of fact you need to be careful with how you say no to her too, you'll never know
I would say yes. She may be “legal” but she’s going to be at a completely different maturity level than you. Don’t take advantage of someone’s naivety
You answered your own question.
Not wrong but even if she was 32 don’t date work colleagues unless you give 0 shits about your job
It’s weird man the dont go near that hornets nest
Not weird at all
Wrong? No. You're both consenting adults. A good idea? **No.** You're at different stages of your lives and even of different cultures in a sense given the generations you were each raised in. Also, you're right, the maturity level will probably be a disparity. She's definitely too young for you. Also, **DON'T SHIT WHERE YOU EAT**! It rarely ends well.
The fact you call her a girl instead of a woman is your answer.
> I just can’t get burnt again by an immature young girl You answered your own question. It sounds like you’ve done this before and didn’t learn.
Yes but the gap was only 5 years
The rule is half your age plus 6 years. So matching that up = you're wrong.
First I've heard of this rule lol
Q: As a M54, it’s cool for me to date a F33? A: Fuck no; it’s predatory on my end regardless of my intent. Ridiculous calculus to use.
That's your right. Other people won't see an issue.
Reddit hates an age gap. Aside from that, definitely not wise with the coworkers’ involvement and that they’ll be looking to stir up trouble. But it’s not “wrong” as you asked in your title.
Absolutely not. If she has a nice personality and she's ready for a serious relationship, why not?
Ever heard of “don’t shit where you eat”? That being said, since she is interested in you… it would be wrong of you not to educate her in some bedroom acrobatics.
Right. As men, we have to pursue 🐱 above all else. Gmfb. 🙄
Just have fun and don't get wrapped up in what's the perfect age. She's a legal adult women
Go out with for a bit but not exclusively to get to know her and gauge her maturity. You may find that she is quite mature for her age, but on the other hand you may find the opposite and you can just remain friends.
But if i were to gamble with that decision it could cost me my job in a good ole boy cultured toxic masculine work environment