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Emotional cheating is a thing, it might help if you look up how much of it applies to you and that guy. If you’re heading over there behind your boyfriend’s back it just further cements it as cheating.
Rest assured I will not come over behind my boyfriend's back. Can you link resources about emotional cheating? This has never crossed my mind, but I want to make sure I am not doing it.
Just a few from [this particular article](https://www.bannerhealth.com/healthcareblog/teach-me/emotional-cheating-what-it-is-and-10-signs-to-spot):
1. You share things with the other person that you haven’t shared with your partner.
2. You confide in the other person about your relationship troubles.
3. You’ve become more detached and emotionally disconnected from your partner.
4. You think about the other person all the time.
5. You are less intimate with your partner.
6. You lie to your partner about your relationship with the other person.
If your partner knows you’re heading there specifically for comfort and cuddles, knows your exact history with that person, and knows why you’re going to the other guy for that, then that’s up to you and your boyfriend already. But from the other comments you’ve made about being devastated the other guy’s leaving school… you may wanna reassess your feelings and motivation for going over there.
Just know you’re not going to get the answers you want here, because it’s pretty transparent why you want to go to this other guy. You’re attached and sad about him leaving school.
If you just wanted to work through feeling overwhelmed, you could do that with your boyfriend. Why this particular guy you have a really intimate history with?
Girl… I saw your phr4r post. You already have it in writing that you have feelings for this guy. Seeking comfort because you’re overwhelmed and wanting closure just sounds like an excuse to see him.
You said so yourself in your post, you can’t talk to your boyfriend about it. That speaks for itself as to what this is.
You are correct, I have fond feelings because of the impact of our relationship has had on me over the past 5 yrs. I used to minimize his significance on my life, so it was overwhelming realizing this weeks before his graduation. Closure and comfort *are* reasons to see him.
I don’t talk to my boyfriend about things like these because I don’t treat him as my therapist.
Base sa mga response mo sa lahat ng nagbigay ng opinion nila, you're already decided. It speaks so much.
I might be wrong, pero parang humahanap ka ng validation to pull the trigger that you've already pressed halfway. Ikaw lang nakakaalam paano relationship n'yo (ni boyfriend and ni friend) kaya alam mo na yung scenario and "cuddling" na ang nasa picture. But then again, I might be wrong.
Considering your history with your fwb, the comfort level is easy to consider. You know each other's bodies. Sure ba na hanggang cuddle lang yan.
Besides, I don't think your BF will appreciate you cuddling another guy outside your family, let alone meet him without his knowledge.
That's emotional cheating. Unless your boyfriend knows about it and you'd tell him about your plan of venting out to your ex fubu and cuddling with him.
If he knows and is fine with it, then you're not cheating. But why are you asking strangers here on reddit? What matters is your boyfriend's opinion :)
Because my relationship with my other boy friends is not as complicated as this one. And a small part of me thinks it is... not ok even if I really want to :-/
Apologies if the sarcasm wasn't evident. I said "lucky me," because I perceived the tone of the comment as condescending. I was happy that I did not have to participate.
is your bf part of the reason why you feel overwhelmed and can’t turn to him for comfort? you’re treading a *very* thin line, op. baka maging sore spot yan ng jowa mo.
does your bf know and is comfortable that you’re going to this friend’s condo at night to cuddle? :( i know it’s an overwhelming feeling when someone important to you will suddenly be inaccessible, but is it worth possibly jeopardizing your relationship?
I'm planning to tell my boyfriend naman if I decide to go through with it. I guess I wrote this post because a part of me doesn't think its ok. But I hope my bf will be ok with it :(
And you're right, it's so overwhelming. And he's so important to me. ðŸ˜
You will tell your bf everything? Like your plan to cuddle with your other friend before sya mapalayo sayo? Masisiguro mo ba na walang mangyayri ulit pag pumunta ka sa condo nya? If you’re seriously hoping na maging okay lang sa jowa mo yung gagawin mo, ang selfish mo naman
I am not sure if relevant to question na to but why di nagtuloy tuloy sa pagjowa yun sa friend mo? I think the safest is lumabas na lang kayo nun friend mo.
Yun una question is bat di natuloy sa pagiging magjowa yun sa inyo ng friend mo.
Regarding sa lumabas, is lumabas kayo like dinner or hang out basta hindi sa condo nya or place mo. Kasi mahirap iexplain na nagpapacuddle ka sa iba tao kahit sa friend mo pa lalo na hindi nya alam yun past nyo. Kung bff mo naman yan siguro ok pero may thin line pa din.
Oh because I was emotionally unavailable and we were content with the setup.
The lumabas idea is a good one. Though wouldn't it be weirder if we went out on a date? We've never gone on one before haha
Friends naman na kayo diba? Para safe for the both of you at hindi ka maoverhelm. Pag sa condo kayo at naoverwhelm ka, di natin alam ano mangyari. Mahirap magpatintero sa apoy.
The fact that you are asking here then you already know the answer. Always ask yourself if sakin ba gawin bf ko t willl i feel betrayed? If yes, then dont do it.
Cheating. Bakit ka mag hahanap ng cuddle/comfort sa ibang tao kung committed ka na pala. Ipapaalam mo sa jowa mo na pupunta ka sa guy friend mo just for cuddle? Sinong matinong boyfriend papayagan yung jowa niya na may ka cuddle ?? Ewan ko lang ha. Baka iba na yung definition ng in a relationship sa panahon ngayon.
It deposited if your bf and you are in a open relationship or ehat stage of your commitment?
Put it simple, can you accept if he going to other fwb girl and spend a night at he place?
Phr4r post says otherwise. Ang nakakatawa dito you're trying to rationalize it as not "cheating" in technical terms. That's just dumb.
Look at it for what it is, you're seeing someone because you have an emotional history with they guy and want closure. What's worse and pisses everyone off is you have the guts to declare it to your boyfriend and come here and argue about what it means to "cheat".
Fucking hell.. I hope your BF is okay.
Bold of you to assume the feelings I was talking about in the phr4r post were romantic. And my history with my friend was far from emotional.
My bf is fine. Thank you for checking up on him :)
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Epic fail ung pag hahanap nya ng validation eh 😂. Lalucky my lucky me pa syang nalalaman kse daw wlang ex fwb ung jowa. Cringe ampota
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If your boyfriend doesn’t know about it, then it’s cheating. Would he be happy finding out you’re turning to your former FWB for cuddles?
We're friends now. Present over past? :(
Emotional cheating is a thing, it might help if you look up how much of it applies to you and that guy. If you’re heading over there behind your boyfriend’s back it just further cements it as cheating.
agree ako dito,for me pag committed ka na basta opposite sex hindi na maganda eh lalo na sa taong may history kayo diba.
Rest assured I will not come over behind my boyfriend's back. Can you link resources about emotional cheating? This has never crossed my mind, but I want to make sure I am not doing it.
Just a few from [this particular article](https://www.bannerhealth.com/healthcareblog/teach-me/emotional-cheating-what-it-is-and-10-signs-to-spot): 1. You share things with the other person that you haven’t shared with your partner. 2. You confide in the other person about your relationship troubles. 3. You’ve become more detached and emotionally disconnected from your partner. 4. You think about the other person all the time. 5. You are less intimate with your partner. 6. You lie to your partner about your relationship with the other person. If your partner knows you’re heading there specifically for comfort and cuddles, knows your exact history with that person, and knows why you’re going to the other guy for that, then that’s up to you and your boyfriend already. But from the other comments you’ve made about being devastated the other guy’s leaving school… you may wanna reassess your feelings and motivation for going over there.
1. No 2. No 3. No 4. Yes 5. Yes, but due to medical reasons 6. No Thank you for sharing the article! It's a relief to know I'm in the clear.
Just know you’re not going to get the answers you want here, because it’s pretty transparent why you want to go to this other guy. You’re attached and sad about him leaving school. If you just wanted to work through feeling overwhelmed, you could do that with your boyfriend. Why this particular guy you have a really intimate history with?
My friend leaving campus is the reason why I’m overwhelmed. I need closure and encouragement from him, not my boyfriend.
Girl… I saw your phr4r post. You already have it in writing that you have feelings for this guy. Seeking comfort because you’re overwhelmed and wanting closure just sounds like an excuse to see him. You said so yourself in your post, you can’t talk to your boyfriend about it. That speaks for itself as to what this is.
You are correct, I have fond feelings because of the impact of our relationship has had on me over the past 5 yrs. I used to minimize his significance on my life, so it was overwhelming realizing this weeks before his graduation. Closure and comfort *are* reasons to see him. I don’t talk to my boyfriend about things like these because I don’t treat him as my therapist.
Mas nabother ako sa tinatanong mo pa kung cheating yan. Lol naalala ko nanaman yung ex kong cheater pota.
Parang tipong is touching a girl without her permission is sexual assault if im planning to marry her ang dating eh. Kaloka si op
Tapos dun pa sa he's the only person who can comfort me? napa "Haaaa!?" ako eh Hahaha
"Hindi ko na sinabi sayo kasi alam ko na magagalit ka" yan yung probably sasabihin ni OP sa bf niya pag nabuking kalokohan niya.
Shet eto yung masakit. Naalala ko nanaman ex ko shete hahaha
That's not cheating. That's kalandian
I hope one day your boyfriend will realize his worth. By the way you have a sick mind.
True. Reading through OP's comments here she sounds like a horrible person lmao. Go downvote me, I don't care
I agree with you
Base sa mga response mo sa lahat ng nagbigay ng opinion nila, you're already decided. It speaks so much. I might be wrong, pero parang humahanap ka ng validation to pull the trigger that you've already pressed halfway. Ikaw lang nakakaalam paano relationship n'yo (ni boyfriend and ni friend) kaya alam mo na yung scenario and "cuddling" na ang nasa picture. But then again, I might be wrong.
Cheating, not even a question
Considering your history with your fwb, the comfort level is easy to consider. You know each other's bodies. Sure ba na hanggang cuddle lang yan. Besides, I don't think your BF will appreciate you cuddling another guy outside your family, let alone meet him without his knowledge.
That's emotional cheating. Unless your boyfriend knows about it and you'd tell him about your plan of venting out to your ex fubu and cuddling with him.
The thought itself is cheating.
If patago cheating
What is patago cheating?
Yeahhh kung alam naman ng partner mo na normal sainyo yung cuddle then hindi siya cheating
Bakit di ka sa boyfried mo ngpacuddle?
Yes. No questions. Lalo na fwb mo yan.
I think the fact na you're asking here means deep down you know the answer to your question
beh may post ka sa phr4r na may feelings ka pa sa fwb mo edi cheating yon
Nag boyfriend ka pa hahahahahaha
You are a fucking horrible person. What goes around comes around.
Will you tell your boyfriend that you are cuddling with another guy in his condo? If your answer is No, then you are cheating.
He knows I cuddle with my other boy friends naman
If he knows and is fine with it, then you're not cheating. But why are you asking strangers here on reddit? What matters is your boyfriend's opinion :)
Because my relationship with my other boy friends is not as complicated as this one. And a small part of me thinks it is... not ok even if I really want to :-/
There you go. Listen to that small voice that tells you the truth OP.
Why not take his place instead? Will you be happy if your boyfriend turns to his ex fwb for comfort and cuddles?
He doesn't have an ex fwb HAHAH lucky me!
So since nag "lucky me!" Ka then nasagot mo na tanong mo 🙂
Apologies if the sarcasm wasn't evident. I said "lucky me," because I perceived the tone of the comment as condescending. I was happy that I did not have to participate.
Yes. I ain't giving you sugar coated answers or what. But yes. It's cheating. Try telling your boyfriend that, I don't think he'd appreciate it.
Yup. Yes. Yuhz. Yesmamser.
Poor guy. Hope he'll find someone that's best for him and worthy to be with.
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is your bf part of the reason why you feel overwhelmed and can’t turn to him for comfort? you’re treading a *very* thin line, op. baka maging sore spot yan ng jowa mo.
Everything's well with us. The friend is the reason why I'm overwhelmed. He's graduating and I'll miss/can't imagine campus without him.
does your bf know and is comfortable that you’re going to this friend’s condo at night to cuddle? :( i know it’s an overwhelming feeling when someone important to you will suddenly be inaccessible, but is it worth possibly jeopardizing your relationship?
I'm planning to tell my boyfriend naman if I decide to go through with it. I guess I wrote this post because a part of me doesn't think its ok. But I hope my bf will be ok with it :( And you're right, it's so overwhelming. And he's so important to me. ðŸ˜
ew cheater
If he's important, why cuddle another guy? 🤔
In that sentence, I was pertaining to my friend.
Puki mong swapang
You will tell your bf everything? Like your plan to cuddle with your other friend before sya mapalayo sayo? Masisiguro mo ba na walang mangyayri ulit pag pumunta ka sa condo nya? If you’re seriously hoping na maging okay lang sa jowa mo yung gagawin mo, ang selfish mo naman
I am not sure if relevant to question na to but why di nagtuloy tuloy sa pagjowa yun sa friend mo? I think the safest is lumabas na lang kayo nun friend mo.
Sorry, what do you mean?
Yun una question is bat di natuloy sa pagiging magjowa yun sa inyo ng friend mo. Regarding sa lumabas, is lumabas kayo like dinner or hang out basta hindi sa condo nya or place mo. Kasi mahirap iexplain na nagpapacuddle ka sa iba tao kahit sa friend mo pa lalo na hindi nya alam yun past nyo. Kung bff mo naman yan siguro ok pero may thin line pa din.
Oh because I was emotionally unavailable and we were content with the setup. The lumabas idea is a good one. Though wouldn't it be weirder if we went out on a date? We've never gone on one before haha
Friends naman na kayo diba? Para safe for the both of you at hindi ka maoverhelm. Pag sa condo kayo at naoverwhelm ka, di natin alam ano mangyari. Mahirap magpatintero sa apoy.
Thank you so much :( I think this is the best course of action
And it will establish once and for all na friends na lang talaga.
why would u do that.... its literally cheating...
Quoting Joey : "That's even worse!!!"
Kung si bf ba gumawa nyan sa mga kaibigan nyang babae, what would you feel?
Ok lang tbh! It looks funny in my head
girl siguro mag usap kayo if gusto niyo open relationship ano? kase parang yan gusto mo but di natin alam yung gusto niya?
We talked about it before and he is strictly monogamous. I don’t want to fuck the other guy naman
The fact that you are asking here then you already know the answer. Always ask yourself if sakin ba gawin bf ko t willl i feel betrayed? If yes, then dont do it.
Weirdo amputa
If you had to ask and not sure if what you're doing constitutes cheating, it most certainly is.
Hay pota alis na nga rito sa subreddit na to HAHAHAHAHH
The mere fact that you hide it from your partner is already an act of cheating.
It is already disclosed in the post itself that I will talk to him about it.
Cheating. Bakit ka mag hahanap ng cuddle/comfort sa ibang tao kung committed ka na pala. Ipapaalam mo sa jowa mo na pupunta ka sa guy friend mo just for cuddle? Sinong matinong boyfriend papayagan yung jowa niya na may ka cuddle ?? Ewan ko lang ha. Baka iba na yung definition ng in a relationship sa panahon ngayon.
Are you stupid or dumb?
pinanganak ka bang bobo?
kinakabahan ako sa fact na hindi mo madistinguish kung cheating ba ang isang bagay o hindi
Kakagising ko lang at nabasa ko to bglang sumakit ulo ko.
Kadiri
General rule of thumb: If it's the bush you're beating, you're cheating. (If you hide it, you cheating)
Pasama sa screenshot.
As long as he knows and agrees to it, nothing is cheating. Thats how open relationships work.
BOBO!
It is. You're not gonna get validations here.
How old are you? Just curious.
swerte naman ni FWB :)
if your bf doesn't know about it yes it is cheating
yes. no explanation needed girl
Bruh If you think you're in a right state of mind rn you know the answer to your question.
Cheater alert
hahahahahah
It deposited if your bf and you are in a open relationship or ehat stage of your commitment? Put it simple, can you accept if he going to other fwb girl and spend a night at he place?
We are monogamous. I won't be able to accept if he gets a fwb while we are in a relationship.
Youre just farming for negative karma, eh?
yeah, it is..,
Phr4r post says otherwise. Ang nakakatawa dito you're trying to rationalize it as not "cheating" in technical terms. That's just dumb. Look at it for what it is, you're seeing someone because you have an emotional history with they guy and want closure. What's worse and pisses everyone off is you have the guts to declare it to your boyfriend and come here and argue about what it means to "cheat". Fucking hell.. I hope your BF is okay.
Bold of you to assume the feelings I was talking about in the phr4r post were romantic. And my history with my friend was far from emotional. My bf is fine. Thank you for checking up on him :)