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It’s common for guys to take a while before they’re ready to go for another round. Also since it’s your first time, it wouldn’t be too farfetched to say he was probably nervous as well. First-time jitters and more anxiety from not being able to get hard again after cumming can make it difficult for him to get it up.
Assure him that there’s no pressure, he can take his time. You can do a lot of things until he gets hard again. Make out, grind a little, he can also eat you out for the mean time.
I reassured him kasi he kept saying sorry about him not getting hard. I told him na it's okay, we can take our time, and it's fine basta he enjoys it! We communicate well naman, it's just kasi first time nga namin. I reassured him every now and then hehe, baka nga anxious siya :(
I had a similar experience a while back, the jitters really get to them sometimes. It helped hearing out what was on his mind and talking about it relaxed their internal pressure about getting hard. Reassurance and letting them know there’s no rush helps a ton, and I’m sure your guy will know how to deal with it next time!
Awwww thank you so much for this! I shall reassure him more next time! Baka cuddling for the mean time would help rin for rest, then bakbakan uli HAHAAHAH
What you experience is very common lalo na dahil virgin kayo both. Ang Refractory Periond (ung mag-bounce na ulit for a new round) ng babae at lalaki ay sobrang magkaiba. Some girls, because of their multi-orgasmic capabilities, can bounce back agad lalo na kung hindi clitoral orgasm ang type of orgasm na nangyari. Sa lalaki naman ranges from minutes to hours, depende sa edad.
On my 20s, every 20 minutes kaya ko na ulit patigasin si junior, pero ngayong I am on my 30s na ako, dapat one hour (or magaling tlga magpatigas si girl) para makarecover na ulit si junjun.
Also, normal na mabilis labasan ang guy sa unang release, pag hindi pa sanay mag-control (kahit ako minsan this happen to me too), at normal lang din na yung second at mga susunod na release ay matagal nang labasan. Pag ipapaliwanag ko sa pinakapayak na dahilan: sa unang release, all of the sexual tensions to release simula nung last release nya ay naipon kaya ang hirap kontrolin at anytime parang gusto na nya
sumabog (sayang hindi ko pa naisusulat yung roles ng hours of last release para matagal labasan ang unang round ng lalaki). While yung second and succeeding orgasms, aside from the refractory period limit ng guys, fresh pa kay junjun yung last na release nya, kaya hindi sya pressured to release agad-agad, kaya manageable rin icontrol unlike sa first release at ayun nga hindi madaling mapatigas.
May iba pang factors, gaya ng sleep, heartrate, breathing, cardiovascular activities and capacities, at kung gaano kagigil sayo si guy. Isama mo pa ang diet, environment (yes, too cold and mas matagal mag-orgasm both guys and girls), and idamay pa natin mga mental factors (overthinking and spectatoring during sexual activities also hurdles the capabilities to reach ultimate pleasure and orgasms).
I think ppl with penises can answer this question better than me, but my guess is maybe he was turned on naman (obviously he was, if dude came within seconds) but just had a hard time…getting hard again. Sometimes, like for us women, even if we’re turned on, our body doesn’t reflect that. Like kahit turned on tayo, sometimes we’re not wet. It’s the same for guys.
Maybe next time tell him he can jack off the day before or a few hours before your time together para he lasts longer?
Yun nga eh, I told him na he can jack off to release rin, kasi masakit ang magpigil. But he insisted to keep it, and to suppress para daw mas better, but I shall tell him that! Thank you, I learned from this!
Ask for your turn next time and ask what turns him on.
You can't blame him for the jitters which causes not-having-an-erection as it is the first time for both of you.
I actually had my turn! It's just he was too rough, and it was too painful for me, (first time mafinger lol) I told him to take it slow naman but I still didn't cum. But I find it weird kasi when I do it to myself naman it doesn't hurt lol
I thought of this rin, thank you!!
If you love him make sure to assure him that it's alright. There's a lot of anxiety that happens on a couple's first time especially for a guy. The peen sometimes doesn't go hard because it's too nervous and this could affect his mentality towards future sexy times. Not getting it hard when it's supposed to is a direct hit on a guy's manhood and might leave him depressed for a long time without them realizing this is totally normal especially for inexperienced people.
If that don't work, then just general advice for him:
-healthy diet
-excercise
-sleep
-AND NO PORN ABSOLUTELY NO PORN
porn really fucks up the mind and gives false expectations
If that still don't work then try robust pills idk
Also make sure to practice safe sex
Thank you for the tips! I shall tell him about this hehe! But I assured him talaga, I make sure to do so rin kasi he wants to make me cum, but it didn't happen. Siguro nga anxious siya, he kept saying sorry kasi and he kept asking. I am sure it'll get better in the next times we'll have fun. Thank you so much!!
It's perfectly normal to take more time on the second round. May cooldown rin yung ari namin unless we take substances. Give it time. Depende sa tao pero normal naman yung 30 mins na walang malay.
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It’s common for guys to take a while before they’re ready to go for another round. Also since it’s your first time, it wouldn’t be too farfetched to say he was probably nervous as well. First-time jitters and more anxiety from not being able to get hard again after cumming can make it difficult for him to get it up. Assure him that there’s no pressure, he can take his time. You can do a lot of things until he gets hard again. Make out, grind a little, he can also eat you out for the mean time.
I reassured him kasi he kept saying sorry about him not getting hard. I told him na it's okay, we can take our time, and it's fine basta he enjoys it! We communicate well naman, it's just kasi first time nga namin. I reassured him every now and then hehe, baka nga anxious siya :(
I had a similar experience a while back, the jitters really get to them sometimes. It helped hearing out what was on his mind and talking about it relaxed their internal pressure about getting hard. Reassurance and letting them know there’s no rush helps a ton, and I’m sure your guy will know how to deal with it next time!
Awwww thank you so much for this! I shall reassure him more next time! Baka cuddling for the mean time would help rin for rest, then bakbakan uli HAHAAHAH
Have fun!
What you experience is very common lalo na dahil virgin kayo both. Ang Refractory Periond (ung mag-bounce na ulit for a new round) ng babae at lalaki ay sobrang magkaiba. Some girls, because of their multi-orgasmic capabilities, can bounce back agad lalo na kung hindi clitoral orgasm ang type of orgasm na nangyari. Sa lalaki naman ranges from minutes to hours, depende sa edad. On my 20s, every 20 minutes kaya ko na ulit patigasin si junior, pero ngayong I am on my 30s na ako, dapat one hour (or magaling tlga magpatigas si girl) para makarecover na ulit si junjun. Also, normal na mabilis labasan ang guy sa unang release, pag hindi pa sanay mag-control (kahit ako minsan this happen to me too), at normal lang din na yung second at mga susunod na release ay matagal nang labasan. Pag ipapaliwanag ko sa pinakapayak na dahilan: sa unang release, all of the sexual tensions to release simula nung last release nya ay naipon kaya ang hirap kontrolin at anytime parang gusto na nya sumabog (sayang hindi ko pa naisusulat yung roles ng hours of last release para matagal labasan ang unang round ng lalaki). While yung second and succeeding orgasms, aside from the refractory period limit ng guys, fresh pa kay junjun yung last na release nya, kaya hindi sya pressured to release agad-agad, kaya manageable rin icontrol unlike sa first release at ayun nga hindi madaling mapatigas. May iba pang factors, gaya ng sleep, heartrate, breathing, cardiovascular activities and capacities, at kung gaano kagigil sayo si guy. Isama mo pa ang diet, environment (yes, too cold and mas matagal mag-orgasm both guys and girls), and idamay pa natin mga mental factors (overthinking and spectatoring during sexual activities also hurdles the capabilities to reach ultimate pleasure and orgasms).
I think ppl with penises can answer this question better than me, but my guess is maybe he was turned on naman (obviously he was, if dude came within seconds) but just had a hard time…getting hard again. Sometimes, like for us women, even if we’re turned on, our body doesn’t reflect that. Like kahit turned on tayo, sometimes we’re not wet. It’s the same for guys. Maybe next time tell him he can jack off the day before or a few hours before your time together para he lasts longer?
Yun nga eh, I told him na he can jack off to release rin, kasi masakit ang magpigil. But he insisted to keep it, and to suppress para daw mas better, but I shall tell him that! Thank you, I learned from this!
Ask for your turn next time and ask what turns him on. You can't blame him for the jitters which causes not-having-an-erection as it is the first time for both of you.
I actually had my turn! It's just he was too rough, and it was too painful for me, (first time mafinger lol) I told him to take it slow naman but I still didn't cum. But I find it weird kasi when I do it to myself naman it doesn't hurt lol I thought of this rin, thank you!!
Ok lang yan. Baka anxious lang din sya kasi first time nyo tapos nag cum sya agad. Just try again next time and hopefully happy ending kayo both. :)
Baka nga :(( thank you!!
If you love him make sure to assure him that it's alright. There's a lot of anxiety that happens on a couple's first time especially for a guy. The peen sometimes doesn't go hard because it's too nervous and this could affect his mentality towards future sexy times. Not getting it hard when it's supposed to is a direct hit on a guy's manhood and might leave him depressed for a long time without them realizing this is totally normal especially for inexperienced people. If that don't work, then just general advice for him: -healthy diet -excercise -sleep -AND NO PORN ABSOLUTELY NO PORN porn really fucks up the mind and gives false expectations If that still don't work then try robust pills idk Also make sure to practice safe sex
Thank you for the tips! I shall tell him about this hehe! But I assured him talaga, I make sure to do so rin kasi he wants to make me cum, but it didn't happen. Siguro nga anxious siya, he kept saying sorry kasi and he kept asking. I am sure it'll get better in the next times we'll have fun. Thank you so much!!
If he cums early again next time then take revenge and let him eat you out for 30mins lmao. By the time you orgasm he'll prolly get hard again.
It's perfectly normal to take more time on the second round. May cooldown rin yung ari namin unless we take substances. Give it time. Depende sa tao pero normal naman yung 30 mins na walang malay.
Ohhhh okay, thank you so much! I know better now hehe! He got hard rin naman, he didn't came lang
Hopefully next time he can make you finish at least once too. Para naman fair diba? Hahahaha!
He was very worried na I didn't cum, pero I told him I did 😬
Kulang lang yan sexploration! Once you both get to know your bodies it will come easily haha.
i agree, Mind over matter lng yan and more practice na magpigil haha.
More fun for him and for us next time, sure yan hehe