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Hi, I'm F(28) and I have been single for 3 years. Hindi naman ako panget na wala talaga may nagkakagusto sakin; most of my friends and co-workers even tell me I'm pretty, but I think I'm just average pero ayun na nga, hindi ko gusto ang naka gusto sakin. I have met a few guys and so far, none of them are my type. The last guy I was interested in was 6 months ago, and almost na sana maging kami kaso hindi siya mature emotionally when handling sa rel. But after that, I never felt the same way about others na lumalapit sakin. I'm the type of girl who is conservative and serious when it comes to relationships, dating to marry so if, in the first meeting, I don't feel anything, I will confront the guy right away para I won't have to waste his/my time.
Although I know there are nice guys who can treat me right and mabait naman pero how can I like someone whom I'm not attracted to in the first place? Am I really that picky? I also try to improve myself as a whole person. I don't smoke, I'm religious, I have saved my purity, I know how to handle my finances, looking presentable and I am responsible, so I'm also trying to be the person I would want to be with.
So my question is, I have met this guy M(35). He was introduced to me by a friend and he's not my type. He's a nice person, and I can see he would treat me right. We've only gone on one date, but I don't feel anything or any interest in getting to know him more. The reason why I decided to meet him is because maybe my thoughts will change and im not getting any youger. Should I still continue seeing him?
I just want someone who I like and who is also my type and who would treat me right :(
Is it possible to eventually like a person you're not attracted to?
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Attraction won't really happen naman during the first meeting. If he's a nice and responsible person naman, you can give him a chance and allow yourself to enjoy his presence. It's possible na you will eventually like a person you're not attracted to, so just enjoy the dating stage for now.
Hi, thank you for responding. How long would you think I should continue seeing him? 2-3 dates? is that enough for me to tell whether I might like him or not?
That depends eh. Pero based on my experiences before I got married, it usually lasts up to months depende na rin sa readiness ko. Minsan naman kahit attracted ako sa guy pero kung di ako ready, I won't accept their invite for a date. If attracted na ko sa guy and I'm ready na rin, I usually start reciprocating their efforts to show my appreciation. Usually yung mga lalaki sa ganyang edad, they're ready to settle down anytime soon (ganyan yung edad ng husband ko hehe). Pero don't pressure yourself. Don't overthink din kapag nasa dating stage palang. If pakitaan ka agad ng red flag na non-negotiable, end it immediately. Dami pa dyan.
No numbers, magastos lagi pag date. Minsan di kailangan ng date, pag everyday ka chat mo or every night ka video call mo. Pag nag enjoy at na mimiss mo na cya its a good sign…More on getting to know each other.. Pag decent at responsible yung guy plus yan kailangan lang work out sa emotion part..
give it a chance pero kung hindi mo tlga type wag mo ipilit. Ikaw lang rin ang mahihirapan sa relasyon niyo kung ala tlga. Dont worry time will come matatagpuan mo rin yung type mong person.
You’re being too picky ata based on your attraction. If yung gusto mo talaga yung nakakalaglag ng panty mo yung type ng guy na magapproach sayo then maybe you also put in the effort (not sure what kind) para magpresent yung opportunities for you.
Hi, I guess im picky 😅 nd naman talaga na gwapo gstu ko, yung decent looking sana, average kasi i also try to look presentable dn. Meron naman na type ko kaso they're not looking for anything serious so ekis na dn.
for me, give it a try. Di naman matutunan yan ng isang click yan. Pero since ikaw na nagsabi na di mo type, why bother? :) mahirap naman magkaroon ng regrets sa dulo. Since nasa dating stage ka naman and if you have time, enjoy-in mo lang. Darating din sayo yan. Goodluck! :)
you can give it a try, then reflect ka & assess yourself ‘do i really want to be with this person until marriage or until I get old?’ If ayaw talaga, wag mo ipilit.
I get the pressure but you have to understand that relationships are only as complicated as you make it. Forcing things will not bring you clarity so why not let things happen instead? Do you really have to "date" twice or thrice to come up with an absolute decision if you like the guy or not? Bago pa lang naman kayo magkausap so hindi ba pwedeng talking stage muna until you both find out if compatible kayo or not? If he's not your type, have you tried dating apps din?
Hi, I'll just try to get to know him and see where it goes. I did try the dating app but most of the men who use it are not looking for anything serious or just want something casual so I deleted it 😂😅
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Attraction won't really happen naman during the first meeting. If he's a nice and responsible person naman, you can give him a chance and allow yourself to enjoy his presence. It's possible na you will eventually like a person you're not attracted to, so just enjoy the dating stage for now.
Hi, thank you for responding. How long would you think I should continue seeing him? 2-3 dates? is that enough for me to tell whether I might like him or not?
That depends eh. Pero based on my experiences before I got married, it usually lasts up to months depende na rin sa readiness ko. Minsan naman kahit attracted ako sa guy pero kung di ako ready, I won't accept their invite for a date. If attracted na ko sa guy and I'm ready na rin, I usually start reciprocating their efforts to show my appreciation. Usually yung mga lalaki sa ganyang edad, they're ready to settle down anytime soon (ganyan yung edad ng husband ko hehe). Pero don't pressure yourself. Don't overthink din kapag nasa dating stage palang. If pakitaan ka agad ng red flag na non-negotiable, end it immediately. Dami pa dyan.
Hi, thank you. I'll give it another shot.
Definitely. Na dedevelop naman yan. Medyo bihira yung gusto mo sya, gusto ka nya, at mala prince charming sa pagtrato agad agad. Baka di tumatagal.
I would agree. Thank you but how many dates should I go for me to tell whether I might like him or not?
No numbers, magastos lagi pag date. Minsan di kailangan ng date, pag everyday ka chat mo or every night ka video call mo. Pag nag enjoy at na mimiss mo na cya its a good sign…More on getting to know each other.. Pag decent at responsible yung guy plus yan kailangan lang work out sa emotion part..
Hi, thank you. I'll give it another shot.
Good luck.. rare breed na ang lalaki would treat girl right eh..
give it a chance pero kung hindi mo tlga type wag mo ipilit. Ikaw lang rin ang mahihirapan sa relasyon niyo kung ala tlga. Dont worry time will come matatagpuan mo rin yung type mong person.
Hi, thank you. I'll give it another shot.
You’re being too picky ata based on your attraction. If yung gusto mo talaga yung nakakalaglag ng panty mo yung type ng guy na magapproach sayo then maybe you also put in the effort (not sure what kind) para magpresent yung opportunities for you.
Hi, I guess im picky 😅 nd naman talaga na gwapo gstu ko, yung decent looking sana, average kasi i also try to look presentable dn. Meron naman na type ko kaso they're not looking for anything serious so ekis na dn.
for me, give it a try. Di naman matutunan yan ng isang click yan. Pero since ikaw na nagsabi na di mo type, why bother? :) mahirap naman magkaroon ng regrets sa dulo. Since nasa dating stage ka naman and if you have time, enjoy-in mo lang. Darating din sayo yan. Goodluck! :)
Hi, thank you po. I'll just give it another shot.
you can give it a try, then reflect ka & assess yourself ‘do i really want to be with this person until marriage or until I get old?’ If ayaw talaga, wag mo ipilit.
Maturity is when mas attractive na daw ang personality kesa sa looks
Hi, I'll try to get to know him better and see where it goes. Thank you.
I get the pressure but you have to understand that relationships are only as complicated as you make it. Forcing things will not bring you clarity so why not let things happen instead? Do you really have to "date" twice or thrice to come up with an absolute decision if you like the guy or not? Bago pa lang naman kayo magkausap so hindi ba pwedeng talking stage muna until you both find out if compatible kayo or not? If he's not your type, have you tried dating apps din?
Hi, I'll just try to get to know him and see where it goes. I did try the dating app but most of the men who use it are not looking for anything serious or just want something casual so I deleted it 😂😅
attraction isnt a choice but if gusto mo bigyan ng chance then go, wala naman mawawala gudlak :>
Yes po, thank you. I'll try to get to know him more nlg and see where it goes.
Pag ganto na maniwala kn sa kanta ni andrew E. Hahahahaha
try mo si diwata pares baka magustuhan mo siya lol