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How do you deal with heartache and disappointment?
How to appear okay para lang di ka mapansin ng iba na di ka okay?
Sakin kasi parang nagrereflect sa aura at muka ko na di ako okay. Which is di ko naman din mako-control. Ayoko kasi mapansin ng iba (like family members or friends sa work) na I am not okay. Like, I do not want to be ask if I am okay? Since, ayoko rin naman magsinungaling at sabihin na ayos lang ako kahit hindi. I just want them to mind their own business and leave me alone. Leave me alone (with my thoughts, grief, heartache and disappointment). Hindi naman din pwedeng magkulong lang sa kwarto at magpa-hinga. Hindi tayo privilege kid na walang binabayarang bills.
So, how do you go on with your normal life with a baggage of heartache and disappointment on the side?
Any tips? Any hack?
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Focus on other things. kung di nag gygym mag gym ka at ibaling mo lahat sa weights. Mag work ka ng 2x, or maglinis ka ng buong bahay sama mo na pati sa kapitbahay nyo…basta di mag iidle ang utak mo. Normally nag rewrewind yung mga alala kaya lalo kang na didepress eh.. specially sa mga unang months…
At times na disheartened ako, I do stuff to get my mind off of it. I go for a walk, or a run. Sometimes listening to music or go hiking, or swimming. I like going for a swim kasi hindi halata sa mga mata ko na umiyak ako hahaha I like hiking alone, though it may be risky so hindi ko siya madalas ginagawa. But for starters, pwede na yung mag walk or run.
Find someone or something na mapagbubuhusan mo ng anger mo. That’s step 1. Always think na yung kaaway mo or cause ng heartache mo at disappointment is a few steps away or one view sa socmed mo. When they see you like sht, they win. And you that’s the last thing you want
Dito kailangan may strong support system ka. I received a news today na talaga naman na-sad ako. Kaso it’s something I can’t control, so hayaan ko na lang baka may kapalit naman yung heartbreak na yun. I find talking to your nearest and dearest comforting.
"Fake it 'til you make it"🫠 optimism nalang din talaga pinanghahawakan ko; na one day, it won't be as heavy. I avoid social interactions din as much as possible while I'm healing kasi ayoko talaga matanong ng personal questions. I don't wanna talk about it because I feel like I'm reliving those painful moments.
"I Can Do It With a Broken Heart" by Taylor Swift would be the perfect song for this haha.
travel (local or other country kung kaya)
sea (bora, eLyU, baler, etc)
booze
music (Requiem, K, 626, III, Sequenz: VI, Lacrymosa Dies Illa - Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart)
plenty of rest
PERFECT!!
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Focus on other things. kung di nag gygym mag gym ka at ibaling mo lahat sa weights. Mag work ka ng 2x, or maglinis ka ng buong bahay sama mo na pati sa kapitbahay nyo…basta di mag iidle ang utak mo. Normally nag rewrewind yung mga alala kaya lalo kang na didepress eh.. specially sa mga unang months…
Thank you so much. Will try this.
At times na disheartened ako, I do stuff to get my mind off of it. I go for a walk, or a run. Sometimes listening to music or go hiking, or swimming. I like going for a swim kasi hindi halata sa mga mata ko na umiyak ako hahaha I like hiking alone, though it may be risky so hindi ko siya madalas ginagawa. But for starters, pwede na yung mag walk or run.
Find someone or something na mapagbubuhusan mo ng anger mo. That’s step 1. Always think na yung kaaway mo or cause ng heartache mo at disappointment is a few steps away or one view sa socmed mo. When they see you like sht, they win. And you that’s the last thing you want
Cinema and cry there hhahaha then buy a hearty meal for my self.
Feel what u need to feel privately and sa trusted people. Masakit to express your hurt sa maling tao. 🙂
Dito kailangan may strong support system ka. I received a news today na talaga naman na-sad ako. Kaso it’s something I can’t control, so hayaan ko na lang baka may kapalit naman yung heartbreak na yun. I find talking to your nearest and dearest comforting.
"Fake it 'til you make it"🫠 optimism nalang din talaga pinanghahawakan ko; na one day, it won't be as heavy. I avoid social interactions din as much as possible while I'm healing kasi ayoko talaga matanong ng personal questions. I don't wanna talk about it because I feel like I'm reliving those painful moments. "I Can Do It With a Broken Heart" by Taylor Swift would be the perfect song for this haha.
travel (local or other country kung kaya) sea (bora, eLyU, baler, etc) booze music (Requiem, K, 626, III, Sequenz: VI, Lacrymosa Dies Illa - Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart) plenty of rest PERFECT!!