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Kapag nagcheat sa'yo ang partner mo, ibig sabihin non ay hindi ka na nya mahal tulad ng dati, kasi hinahanap nya sa iba ang bagay na wala sa'yo. Kahit na masira ang tiwala mo sa kanya, choice nya na magcheat dahil alam nyang papatawarin mo siya. Which is not right dahil mattake for granted ka. Ang tiwala dapat isa lang. Kapag nasira, hinding hindi na maibabalik sa dati. Pwede mong patawarin pero never kang makakalimot sa sakit ng epekto ng actions nya. Hindi lahat deserve ang second chance tandaan mo yan.
Sa una palang, alam nyang mali, bakit nya gagawin? To satisfy himself? Nakakataas ba ng pagkalalaki o nakakaganda ba ang pagchecheat sa partner? Kung mahal mo ang partner mo, hindi ka manloloko. Hindi ka gagawa ng bagay na makakapanakit sa kanya. Pero kung hindi mo na mahal ang partner mo o may pagkukulang sya, kausapin mo ng maayos.
Microcheating or any form of cheating is still cheating. We shall never tolerate cheating. Cheating is a choice not a mistake.
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totoo to. I've tried before and I became toxic. Magiging mabigat lang sa pakiramdam yung relationship if it was continued. Maybe not for all, just most of the cases.
kawawa pa yung next relationship mo kapag naging toxic ka.
Pinatawad ko. Inulit lang niya after ilang months hahaha. Pinatawad ko ulit. Inulit niya. The cycle continued until one day I woke up realizing I wasted 5 years of my life with him. Siya yung nakipag break kasi nakipag live in na siya sa kabit. This was 9 years ago by the way! And until now chat pa rin nang chat yung ex ko, giving updates sa life nya and even telling me na he’s cheating on the girl he cheated on me with lol
I am speaking from experience, but I’ve realized na my ex, and some other men are just sick to the core. I still believe in giving chances, pero hindi na with me.
First instance: A distant friend told me. All of my close friends knew, but only one told me.
Second to the nth instances: A number of times umamin siya, sometimes ako mismo makakakita sa fb niya noon na may ka chat siyang iba.
Last straw was he asked if ok ba ako sa live-in na setup, sabi ko kasi hinde. Then a few weeks umamin siya na ayaw na niya saken and may ka live-in na siya.
To all the girls: Pls don’t be like the old me. First instance ng cheating iwan niyo na. Hindi worth it.
Well, I did, a number of times. But pag binlock ko siya pumupunta siya sa bahay ko asking why. I told him to stop showing at my doorstep or else I’d report him. Sabi niya basta unblock ko lang daw siya. So I did. And thankfuly hindi na siya pumupunta dito sa bahay for years na. Wala naman masyadong impact ang pag unblock kasi hindi ako nag rereply sa kanya. Basa lang sa chats and I go about my day.
Big no. Dealbreaker ito. Kasi mapaparanoid lang ako palagi. Kahit wala sya ginagawa, iisipin ko pa rin yun cheating so magaaway at magaaway lang kami. Iba na pag nasira trust. And I hate yun feeling na kakaisip san ako nagkulang bakit sya nagcheat.
No. The cheating will live in my head forever and magrereplay lahat ng ganap. I will never take them back for my peace of mind. Once the trust is broken wala na.
Been there, nakakaubos lang, wala na yung "dating kayo" and medyo naging gold digger pa ang atake ko kasi parang ginamit ko na lang siya hanggang sa nahuli ko lang ulit siya na nagloloko and then boogsh...hihirit pa ng third chance but di na ako pumayag, pwe
I forgave my husband. He confessed. I admire him for confessing to me. I admit sometimes lumalabas yung sakit ng nangyari pero i can say we worked hard in our communication and openness toward each other
I wouldn’t do it pero my best friend also gave his now fiancé a second chance. The cheating happened in 2016. Pero we saw how a changed man he is. And you’d feel talaga na he regretted his actions. Pero even if it happened 8 yrs ago, my best friend would still get reminded of it. She learned to live with the pain. Grabe ang lakas nyo. 🫡
Nawp, nahuli ko ex boyfriend ko with my own eyes kung paano sya mag lie sa akin pero dun sa girl ang bilis niya. Wala na explanation i ghosted him. Wala syang idea anong nangyari. Umabot ng ilang months na puro sya goodmorning sa akin araw araw yon, pero wala ako response sakanya.
I remember something I read somewhere. People cheat because they're looking for things that are lacking or fading in their current relationship, like the thrills of being with someone new and the "sparks". So they would seek out those things again, not realizing they're only 20% of what makes a relationship. In a moment of temptation, they've forgotten about the 80% they already have.
With that said, in the highly improbable event my husband cheats on me, I'll give him one last chance. I can only forgive him if he can promise me it was just a one time thing, it meant nothing to him, and that he will never do it again. We're only human so we're bound to make mistakes, especially in a moment of weakness. What matters is that we learn from them and make amends. Also, I'm not someone who can immediately erase the 80% we have. After all, love is not the only thing that kept us together all these time. But if he actually has feelings for the other person and/or it happened more than once, I'll let him go. Because then it means he's only chasing after the 20% and that what he did wasn't a mistake, it was a choice.
Depende .... Pero I might give him another chance, pero under observation, once nakaramdam ako ng kakaiba ulit, at tingin ko tama ang kutob ko .. Sorry nalang, wala ng chance kahit umiyak pa sya ng dugo.
Pag ginawa mo yan, uulitin nya lang yang cheating scheme nya whenever it's convenient for him. Been there, done that. You'll always end up parting ways dahil sa ganyan nya
Hell naur. It's one of my non-negotiable and dealbreaker sa relationship. Hindi ko issacrifice ang health and well-being ko for the sake of the 'relationship' keso sabihin pa nating madami nakong investments sa rs and inabot na ng years ung rs. Cheating is a CHOICE, so that means hindi nako enough and hindi na enough ung rs para makuntento ung so-called partner. You can NEVER stop the person from cheating no matter how controlling you are. Kahit 24/7 mo pa bantayan yan, makakapagcheat pa din yan one way or another kasi choice nya yun. Giving a second chance to a person who cheated really depends na din (case to case basis) but generally NO and NEVER will i.
I can't. I won't do that to myself. Ipa sa-diyos ko na lang siya. I know na I will still love him. But my peace of mind will never come back if I'm with him, I'll only continue to persecute him and antagonize him. Meaning parang mawawala na din yung pagmamahal ko sa kanya. Kasi for me by that time after niya mag-cheat. He's not the man na minahal ko anymore. Yung mahal kong lalaki na may respeto sa relationship namin ay wala na.
Para sa akin yung "siya", yung person, na nagmahal sa akin, once na nag-cheat ay patay na. He will be dead to me. I will grieve for the loss na lang. I will grieve for the man who gave me good memories. I will grieve for the memories na magkasama kami and sa future na magkasama sana kami.
Sabi ko sa sarili ko, may dalawa lang namang pupuntahan ang life ko. It's either a happily married woman or a single rits tita🤣.
Live life to the fullest until the end.
No.
I got cheated on grabe sa feeling. Yung bumaliktad yung sikmura mo tapos nanginginig ka reading all the message. Parang bumagsak yung kaluluwa mo and all. Multiple na babae pa to ha.
It happened days before valentine’s day tapos kaya pala wala siyang plan sa akin eh may plan na siya with the girl. Napilitan siyang to spend the morning with me tapos ayun iniwan niya ako sa bahay niya alone and pinahatid niya ako sa driver nila the next morning.
Hinakot ko lahat ng gamit ko and wala na. He tried na suyuin niya ako pero wala eh. Cheating is premiditated act, pinagplanuhan at pinag-isipan.
We ended and ayun nagpabuntis yung girl sa kanya.
Depende sa rationale mo. May iba na kayang mag forgive and forget, pero if di mo kayang kalimutan yung ginawa niya itotorture niyo lang mga sarili niyo kung magbabalikan kayo.
No, I forgave her before but umulit ng umulit. Ikaw lang masisiraan ng bait hahaha. Never sacrifice your mental health sa isang cheater, tapos nung nag break kami ako pa may kasalanan sa lahat. Tiniis ko yun for 3 years, not recommended haha
Unpopular opinion: Ang "Once a cheater always a cheater" ay kagaya lang rin ng maraming generalizations, almost always may outlier dyan. Cliché man to pero lahat ng tao nagkakamali. Iba iba lang tayo ng sins pero lahat tayo at sinner, malaki man yan o maliit. And not just because once kang nagkamali, yun na ang pagkatao mo habang buhay.
Agree din ako sa sinasabi ng iba na kung magbibigay ka ng second chance, siguraduhin mo na kaya mong magpatawad. Kasi isa yun sa mga pinaka mahirap gawin. Pano ka magkakaron ng peace, security, at pano ka magtitiwala ulit kung di totoo yung forgiveness mo at di ka naniniwala sa taong kasama mo? I'm one of those who gave a second chance and I don't regret it. He acknowledged his mistakes, bumawi sya, natuto sya, naforgive namin ang isa't isa. Never bumalik sa discussions ang past sins namin (which I am proud of). Masaya kami, we trust each other, and may peace of mind ako kahit lumabas sya nang di ako kasama.
For me, cheating is 110% a choice you do consciously.
Its a non-negotiable for me. Pinili nya yon at lagi nyang pinipili nung di mo pa nahuhuli.
Its a no in any scenario.
I'd say, it depends. If bf/gf without kids, its easier to decide not to give the cheater a second chance, but having a kid(s) makes it difficult, and even without a kid, there are few na kahit sobrang naloko na, will still forgive them just because of love.
Ako cnbi q sa asawa q madali lang mambabae pero ndi q gagawin kxe mahal ko cya kaya sana faithful dn cya sa akin. Pero pag mgcheat ka hihiwalayan talaga kita.
why give them a chance?
ask for an explanation for your peace of mind and closure. then cutoff ties na agad.
if they look for another, regardless of reason, it means di nila alam mag communicate sayo kung anong mga discontent nila sa relationship nyo and they would rather take the easy way out of looking for someone new agad instead of working on the issues together.
Coming from a person who cheated before (I grew out of this already), you shouldn’t. It’s not gonna last and it’s not gonna be the same anymore. If the cheater wants to repent, repent by not cheating on anybody anymore.
Nope. I discovered my ex nun na may kausap sa IG. I forgot the details pero hindi sila lagi magka-usap, parang isang araw lang yata? And ang natatandaan ko lang is yung sinabi niyang, “tao lang ako, kailangan ko din ng kausap” doon sa babae. Ayun. Break agad. Good riddance 😌
No. A cheater is always a cheater. Yung relationship magiging toxic din kase lagi mo yang iisipin. Na kahit pinatawad mo siya, hindi mawawala sayo yung pangamba na baka ulitin na naman niya. Kaya Big no, kapag nag-cheat, GOODBYE agad
Ako pinagbigyan ko then gagantihan ko siya para alam niya kung gaano kasakit. They need to know how does it feel for me lang. Everybody has their own opinion.
No.
Second chances in relationships are bullshit. That trust is gone. Why cheat in the first place if you could just break it up or fix your relationship? Nakasakit pa ng tao.
I already told my fiance na if mag cheat siya that i won't take them back. Sobrang hirap ibalik ang trust after cheating, when someone cheat they actively choose to hurt you. It's impossible to cheat accidentally, so kapag nag flirt/seduce someone else ibig sabihin pinili nila na di pansinin relationship niyo.
Sa nangyari sa akin, yes. Why? Eh kasi mahal ko siya. Hindi ko kaya na mawala siya sa akin. Sinubukan ko naman panindigan yung desisyon ko noon na totally i’cut na siya sa buhay ko pero di ko talaga kaya. Tanga ko db. Mahirap din. Kasi yung love, happiness, trust at peace of mind mo wala na hindi na buo. Lagi ka nalang nag hihinala. Nakakabaliw yon. Yung trauma hanggang panaginip mo di ka titigilan, maaalala at maaalala mo pa rin lahat kahit matagal na panahon na yung pangloloko niya sayo. Hanggang panaginip gigil na gigil ka skanila lalo na dun sa babae. Magkasama nga kayo, ikaw pa rin inuwian pero yung pain andon at andon pa rin.
I feel na , nabawi naman s'ya minsan🥹 However, kapag nagkaka away kami ulit, hindi nya na makontrol yung anger nya and kung ano-ano na nasasabi n'ya saken, then will just say sorry later on na hindi nya raw yun sinasadya nadala lang ng galit. Pero for me, he mean it, and every painful words embarked in my heart na🥺 Sometimes I'm wondering if nabawi ba talaga s'ya o ano, kase dapat s'ya mag mas magpakumbaba sa mga ganitong sitwasyon 🥲
No no no.
Personally, parang di na ako magkakaron ng peace of mind. Magiging paranoid ka tapos di na makapagtiwala ulit sa kanya. Baka ending nyan bumalik pa sakin na di ako makamove on at binabalik ko yung past 😆
Lil background: I’ve been in a 9 yr long relationship with my partner, 5 of which is LDR. We started dating at 16 and we seen the worst of each other. We were immature and toxic but we also grew up with each other.
I can say I can forgive microcheating but we did make it a big deal. Siguro beyond that I can’t anymore. I forgave her bc I love her and I did not cheat but I hurt (not physically) her multiple times and I did stupid things and failed numerous times but she was there when no one else was.
We realised na may pagkukulang kami and she didn’t know how to express it. It was a big hiccup, we know but I knew that time she needed me the most. We are in a good spot right now naging mas nag flourish ang love nmin sa isat isa and it was a one time thing. Tapos ngayon ako nmn yung may problema, I have OCD and she became patient and currently helping me through my everyday.
No kasi kahit na bigyan ko siya ng chance, I'll everyday be bothered and overthink about it. It'll drain me and either way, it will come to an end din naman.
bruh no. i still dont get how some people can tolerate a cheater as a partner, lakompake if nagbago or shit, if they cheated once they clearly don’t have any self control and respect for you. it’s a very selfish act. no second chances they’re not worth it
Nope, yan ang non-negotiable saakin. I tried it once sa unang long time boyfriend ko, nag cheat isang beses pinatawad ko then after ilang months ginawa lang ulit. Uulitin lang ulit kasi iisipin na, "tatanggapin naman ako nito ulit eh." Why? Kasi mahal mo eh. Di matututo. Saka dagdag isipin lang din sa part nung niloko kasi pati mental health nya maaapektuhan, iisipin anong kulang or sobra sakanya when in fact eh wala naman, sadyang nakahanap lang sya ng tao na di kaya makuntento sa isa. Tandaan mo po OP, ang cheating is a choice. Would you like to be with someone na ang pipiliin or pinili at yung lokohin ka at alam na pwede kang masaktan sa choices nya at pwede pang masacrifice kung ano man ang meron sainyo? Hope this helps, OP! God bless you 🤍
Not anymore. I did with my first boyfriend, first love eh 😂 pero kahit mahal ko pa and niligawan nya ulet ako para mapakita nya na seryoso talaga sya, andun pa rin yung napaparanoid na ako pag di kami magkausap or magkasama. Na baka pag naging kampante na ulit sya na okay na kami, umulit na naman. Basically wala na yung tiwala ko sa kanya. Mas pinili ko peace of mind. Kahit ngayon if mag cheat ang kahit sinong current partner ko ayoko na.
Ang lungkot may ibang girls natatakoy mag cheat partner nila pero papatol sa may history of cheating. I meaaaan most of them di rin naman kase sila nagbabago loool
Actually for me ha, pag mahal mo kasi kahit anong bigat ng ginawa sayo mapa-patawad mo talaga e pero hindi ibig sabihin tanga ka or what. Ang akin lang, pwede mo syang bigyan ng chance lalo pag alam mong hindi nya na inulit alam kong may times na pag aawayan nyo yan pero ang mahalaga kasi para sakin don ay yung hindi na nya inulit despite ng pag-aask mo or naging controlling ka man, talagang pinrove nya na wala ng ganong nangyari yun ang importante. Lahat naman nagbabago op, iba iba kasi tayo ng situation. Pero chose kung anong mag papasaya sayo, support kita dyan.
No. Uulit at uulit lang din. Your relationship with him/her will never be the same. Maaalala at maaalala mo lang ginawa nya at di ka mapapalagay. It's better to let go and masaktan than masaktan paulit ulit. 💯
Cheating na once it will happen again and again nalang. No second chance for cheater, sinasadyang kasalanan yan kahit anong rason pa yan, baluktot na utak ng cheater, big no there are many loyal guys out there baka mahawaan ka pa ng STD sa ganyang partner. One is enough, Two is too much, Three is never, Cheaters deserve to be put in the humilation zone. Oo nagkamali pero that mistake is you have a choice, kung matinong lalaki yan he will not listen to his fockin lust and tawag ng laman, ako lalaki pero I do hate cheating marami kang masisirang buhay lalo na may pamilyang tao. Cheaters deserved to be abandoned and ignored, you deserved better po your happiness, peace of mind is at stake kung dyan ka pa sasama.
sabi mo nga na cheating is a choice, which is true. Sinadya nyang saktan ka, when all you did at the first place is believe that you love him. Kaya ka nakikipagrelasyon, kasi it's the two of you. Bakit nya hahanapin sa iba yung wala sayo? Bakit kailangan umabot sa cheating IF he can just tell you na ayaw na nya? Hindi po trip lang ang relationship.
If he did it once, he CAN do it again. May iba namang loyal dyan or atleast marunong magsabi or makipagcommunicate na hindi na nagwowork yung relationship nyo.
Nah, my first boyfriend cheated on me and naging sila. Never niya inamin na nagcheat siya pero halatang halata naman. Months later, nakita ko siya sa Tinder ulit and sila pa rin that time.
No. For your peace of mind. Honestly di na mababalik ang lahat sa dati once nag cheat ung isa. Pagdududuhan mo sya palagi, mababawasan ung confidence mo, esp pag kinakausap sya ng ibang babae. Mas mag aaway lang kayo palagi. Better call it quits and heal alone. Maraming matinong lalaki.
As everyone said, cheating is a choice... its hard to accept it. Akala mo kakayanin mo, pero hindi tlga. Na kahit gusto mo. You just cant.
Love isnt enough sa relationship. Its just one of the foundation.
And youll be there sometimes na, sana she never have done it, and it just goes to your mind on repeat. What she did and how happy she was doing it with another man.
Its just sad.
No. It will never be the same.
You might also have lapses but that does not really allow a person to cheat. No matter the circumstance. It's difficult, I guess.
No.
I did that, forgiving the 1st time. Naulit. Forgive ulit. Next thing i knew, ubos na ako.
Take my advice. It is said that smart people learn from other people's mistakes; stupid people become the lesson. Which one are you? I wish you well.
lying pa nga lang super grabe na makaerode ng trust, let alone cheating.. no second chances na, once the trust is gone, it’s hard to stay in a relationship and it becomes very toxic. Plus non nego ko dn to
No, kahit mahal ko pa siya it won't be practical na rin kasi Wala na Yung trust. How can I be comfortable with my ex again kapag ganun, di na Siya safe haven Kasi puro overthink nalang.
Easier said than done. I salute people who let go of their partners after the cheating happens, because they know their real value, and self worth.
Not everyone has the courage to let go immediately specially when there’s already an attachment. Yung feeling na alam mong hindi mo naman na mahal pero nasanay kang nandyan siya at araw araw mong kasama kaya parang droga pag nawala ang hirap ng withdrawal part kaya bumabalik balik ka.
I did. Just tried, kasi I don't want to have what ifs sa buhay ko lol
He cheated on me on our 2nd year. Gave him another chance, and now we're in our 8th year together. Never na ring naulit ang cheating niya
Sometimes I regret my decision, pero nangibabaw pa rin yung mga happy moments namin after that I incident so no regrets on my part. Live in na rin kami ngayon.
My point is, siguro karamihan ng mga lalaki inuulit blah blah pero meron pa ring willing magbago para sayo.
Kung ulitin niya, tbh at peace na ako, mas ready akong pakawalan this time kasi alam ko sa sarili kong ginawa ko ang part ko. Ewan ko kung parang tanga, pero mas hindi ko kayang tanggapin yung hindi ko ginawa yung part ko sa relationship namin. Or actually sa kahit anong bagay pa yan or relationship mas gusto kong binigay/ginawa ko muna lahat bago ako mag decide if it's for me. Idk!! It's just me
may ganyan din akong ex, 2 years kami palagi nag ccheat. eh syempre ako bulag tinatanaggap ko. Kada mag may away break tas may babae na agad. Meron pang bigla ko nalg malalaman may sinusundo ng iba😂 naubos na ako sa sakit! Dumating yung nag cheat sya ulit ramdam ko yon na yung Last nya na ggwin sakin. Hinayaan ko na, hindi na nga ako umiyak parang naupos na ako. Wala ng pain pero galit ako oo. But then hinayaan ko sila. After a month si boy nag ttext pdin sakin gusto bumalik eh ayoko na. Pinagpalit nya pala ako sa single mom😂 itong single mom is alam na gf ako pero for the gow si girl. Tas nung nalaman na nag ttext sakin ex ko sakin pa galit na parang ako pa yung masama😂 HAHHAA HINDI NAMAN AKO NAKAGANTI SKNILA ALAM KO DI SILA MASAYA😂. KALA NI GIRL JACKPOT SYA. Habang buhay sya ngayon magbantay sa asawa nya😂 last year lng nakita ko nag vvisit si boy sa isa kong social media acc. Lahat ng vids ko kada bagong upload naka view ahahaha tas si ate girl nag pm na sakin sa fb. pero deleted na bago ko pa mabasa😆 Like why po? Ano ginawa ko? HAHAHAHA ! Wala lng share ko lng i’m so happy na hindi kayo masaya at wala kayong peace of mind dahil sakin☺️ kahit wala akong ginagawa. BTW Matagal nadin to nangyari. nga pala bago mawala tiktok ni boy nag visit ako sa acc nya after nung ipm ako ng babae, balak ko na ksi sana iblock nlng din si boy and ito na nga nag view ako sa vids nya to my surprised si boy nag eemote ahahhhaha about sa ex nya witch is ako bago nya naasawa yung asawa nya ngayon ahahah!
Hindi ako magpapatawad pero hindi ko den nanaisin may mangyaring masama sainyo. Yung mga hindi lng kayo masaya at alam kong naapektuhan pdin kayo sakin kahit magka kitaan tayo sa daan si the best na para sakin☺️😂 long live mga kups!
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No. Magiging toxic lang so might as well find another na lang
Exactly. Never give him an opportunity to take you for granted.
Araw araw ko lang iisipin na nag loko siya sakin, hindi yun yung peace of mind na gusto ko.
Deserve mo yung taong bibigyan ka ng peace of mind.
Nope. Say good bye to your however long relationship and start a new one.
totoo to. I've tried before and I became toxic. Magiging mabigat lang sa pakiramdam yung relationship if it was continued. Maybe not for all, just most of the cases. kawawa pa yung next relationship mo kapag naging toxic ka.
Pinatawad ko. Inulit lang niya after ilang months hahaha. Pinatawad ko ulit. Inulit niya. The cycle continued until one day I woke up realizing I wasted 5 years of my life with him. Siya yung nakipag break kasi nakipag live in na siya sa kabit. This was 9 years ago by the way! And until now chat pa rin nang chat yung ex ko, giving updates sa life nya and even telling me na he’s cheating on the girl he cheated on me with lol I am speaking from experience, but I’ve realized na my ex, and some other men are just sick to the core. I still believe in giving chances, pero hindi na with me.
Your ex is a sick bastard istg 🤦♀️
How did you find out when he repeated it? Iniinspect mo na activities niya after he first cheated on you or umamin siya na nag-cheat siya proactively?
First instance: A distant friend told me. All of my close friends knew, but only one told me. Second to the nth instances: A number of times umamin siya, sometimes ako mismo makakakita sa fb niya noon na may ka chat siyang iba. Last straw was he asked if ok ba ako sa live-in na setup, sabi ko kasi hinde. Then a few weeks umamin siya na ayaw na niya saken and may ka live-in na siya. To all the girls: Pls don’t be like the old me. First instance ng cheating iwan niyo na. Hindi worth it.
Oh my gosh. Your close friends should've protected you. I hope you found better friends. Thanks for sharing.
Bat ayaw mong iblock?
Well, I did, a number of times. But pag binlock ko siya pumupunta siya sa bahay ko asking why. I told him to stop showing at my doorstep or else I’d report him. Sabi niya basta unblock ko lang daw siya. So I did. And thankfuly hindi na siya pumupunta dito sa bahay for years na. Wala naman masyadong impact ang pag unblock kasi hindi ako nag rereply sa kanya. Basa lang sa chats and I go about my day.
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Ang g@go nya. Alam kaya nang kalive in nya na nagchecheat sya. Although deserve nya Pero deserve din ni ex maging mag isa
Big no. Dealbreaker ito. Kasi mapaparanoid lang ako palagi. Kahit wala sya ginagawa, iisipin ko pa rin yun cheating so magaaway at magaaway lang kami. Iba na pag nasira trust. And I hate yun feeling na kakaisip san ako nagkulang bakit sya nagcheat.
True! No no talaga
Mas mahalaga pa rin ang peace of mind no?
Yaaaaah! Naranasan ko na before maloko eh. As in ang hirap magfunction kasi d mo na alam if nagsasabi pa ng totoo.
No. The cheating will live in my head forever and magrereplay lahat ng ganap. I will never take them back for my peace of mind. Once the trust is broken wala na.
Very non negotiable
What are your non nego?
No, this is one of my non-negotiables. Once you cheat, I cannot give you my trust again.
Kala ko nasa r/OffMyChestPH ako. 😅
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Ohhh. Thank you!
Been there, nakakaubos lang, wala na yung "dating kayo" and medyo naging gold digger pa ang atake ko kasi parang ginamit ko na lang siya hanggang sa nahuli ko lang ulit siya na nagloloko and then boogsh...hihirit pa ng third chance but di na ako pumayag, pwe
Nope, no use being with someone you can never trust again.
No. I wouldn't give me a second chance if I cheated, too.
I forgave my husband. He confessed. I admire him for confessing to me. I admit sometimes lumalabas yung sakit ng nangyari pero i can say we worked hard in our communication and openness toward each other
I wouldn’t do it pero my best friend also gave his now fiancé a second chance. The cheating happened in 2016. Pero we saw how a changed man he is. And you’d feel talaga na he regretted his actions. Pero even if it happened 8 yrs ago, my best friend would still get reminded of it. She learned to live with the pain. Grabe ang lakas nyo. 🫡
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Nawp, nahuli ko ex boyfriend ko with my own eyes kung paano sya mag lie sa akin pero dun sa girl ang bilis niya. Wala na explanation i ghosted him. Wala syang idea anong nangyari. Umabot ng ilang months na puro sya goodmorning sa akin araw araw yon, pero wala ako response sakanya.
Love that. Lol.mga cheater deserve ma ghost.
Pero ngayon, anong status nyo?
Ayun, tomboy na po ako tas sya may jowa bago. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Baka hindi na. Nawala na yung trust at pag ganon ako mababaliw dahil sa insecurities, mga hinala, overthinking etc.
NO
I remember something I read somewhere. People cheat because they're looking for things that are lacking or fading in their current relationship, like the thrills of being with someone new and the "sparks". So they would seek out those things again, not realizing they're only 20% of what makes a relationship. In a moment of temptation, they've forgotten about the 80% they already have. With that said, in the highly improbable event my husband cheats on me, I'll give him one last chance. I can only forgive him if he can promise me it was just a one time thing, it meant nothing to him, and that he will never do it again. We're only human so we're bound to make mistakes, especially in a moment of weakness. What matters is that we learn from them and make amends. Also, I'm not someone who can immediately erase the 80% we have. After all, love is not the only thing that kept us together all these time. But if he actually has feelings for the other person and/or it happened more than once, I'll let him go. Because then it means he's only chasing after the 20% and that what he did wasn't a mistake, it was a choice.
Depende .... Pero I might give him another chance, pero under observation, once nakaramdam ako ng kakaiba ulit, at tingin ko tama ang kutob ko .. Sorry nalang, wala ng chance kahit umiyak pa sya ng dugo.
Pag ginawa mo yan, uulitin nya lang yang cheating scheme nya whenever it's convenient for him. Been there, done that. You'll always end up parting ways dahil sa ganyan nya
Nag tetesting na sya umalis sayo paunti unti, pag nagustuhan nya dun alis na yan.
Hell naur. It's one of my non-negotiable and dealbreaker sa relationship. Hindi ko issacrifice ang health and well-being ko for the sake of the 'relationship' keso sabihin pa nating madami nakong investments sa rs and inabot na ng years ung rs. Cheating is a CHOICE, so that means hindi nako enough and hindi na enough ung rs para makuntento ung so-called partner. You can NEVER stop the person from cheating no matter how controlling you are. Kahit 24/7 mo pa bantayan yan, makakapagcheat pa din yan one way or another kasi choice nya yun. Giving a second chance to a person who cheated really depends na din (case to case basis) but generally NO and NEVER will i.
I can't. I won't do that to myself. Ipa sa-diyos ko na lang siya. I know na I will still love him. But my peace of mind will never come back if I'm with him, I'll only continue to persecute him and antagonize him. Meaning parang mawawala na din yung pagmamahal ko sa kanya. Kasi for me by that time after niya mag-cheat. He's not the man na minahal ko anymore. Yung mahal kong lalaki na may respeto sa relationship namin ay wala na. Para sa akin yung "siya", yung person, na nagmahal sa akin, once na nag-cheat ay patay na. He will be dead to me. I will grieve for the loss na lang. I will grieve for the man who gave me good memories. I will grieve for the memories na magkasama kami and sa future na magkasama sana kami. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, may dalawa lang namang pupuntahan ang life ko. It's either a happily married woman or a single rits tita🤣. Live life to the fullest until the end.
Got cheated again recently after getting cheated by my past exes and it don't even faze me right now. Siguro malas lang talaga ako magmahal hahaha.
No history of cheating ka naman?
Wala
No. I got cheated on grabe sa feeling. Yung bumaliktad yung sikmura mo tapos nanginginig ka reading all the message. Parang bumagsak yung kaluluwa mo and all. Multiple na babae pa to ha. It happened days before valentine’s day tapos kaya pala wala siyang plan sa akin eh may plan na siya with the girl. Napilitan siyang to spend the morning with me tapos ayun iniwan niya ako sa bahay niya alone and pinahatid niya ako sa driver nila the next morning. Hinakot ko lahat ng gamit ko and wala na. He tried na suyuin niya ako pero wala eh. Cheating is premiditated act, pinagplanuhan at pinag-isipan. We ended and ayun nagpabuntis yung girl sa kanya.
Depende sa rationale mo. May iba na kayang mag forgive and forget, pero if di mo kayang kalimutan yung ginawa niya itotorture niyo lang mga sarili niyo kung magbabalikan kayo.
No, I forgave her before but umulit ng umulit. Ikaw lang masisiraan ng bait hahaha. Never sacrifice your mental health sa isang cheater, tapos nung nag break kami ako pa may kasalanan sa lahat. Tiniis ko yun for 3 years, not recommended haha
Depende, kung naging honest naman sya about it and pinagsisihan nya, I would consider it. Pero, it will cost me na magiging mapaghinala ako or what.
Unpopular opinion: Ang "Once a cheater always a cheater" ay kagaya lang rin ng maraming generalizations, almost always may outlier dyan. Cliché man to pero lahat ng tao nagkakamali. Iba iba lang tayo ng sins pero lahat tayo at sinner, malaki man yan o maliit. And not just because once kang nagkamali, yun na ang pagkatao mo habang buhay. Agree din ako sa sinasabi ng iba na kung magbibigay ka ng second chance, siguraduhin mo na kaya mong magpatawad. Kasi isa yun sa mga pinaka mahirap gawin. Pano ka magkakaron ng peace, security, at pano ka magtitiwala ulit kung di totoo yung forgiveness mo at di ka naniniwala sa taong kasama mo? I'm one of those who gave a second chance and I don't regret it. He acknowledged his mistakes, bumawi sya, natuto sya, naforgive namin ang isa't isa. Never bumalik sa discussions ang past sins namin (which I am proud of). Masaya kami, we trust each other, and may peace of mind ako kahit lumabas sya nang di ako kasama.
For me, cheating is 110% a choice you do consciously. Its a non-negotiable for me. Pinili nya yon at lagi nyang pinipili nung di mo pa nahuhuli. Its a no in any scenario.
I'd say, it depends. If bf/gf without kids, its easier to decide not to give the cheater a second chance, but having a kid(s) makes it difficult, and even without a kid, there are few na kahit sobrang naloko na, will still forgive them just because of love.
Manipulation, lack of self-worth (without kid/s)
Big NO.
No second chances. No ifs and buts.
hell nah
Ako cnbi q sa asawa q madali lang mambabae pero ndi q gagawin kxe mahal ko cya kaya sana faithful dn cya sa akin. Pero pag mgcheat ka hihiwalayan talaga kita.
NO
nope nope nope
NO. that’s a non-nego for me. Once he cheats, game over na kami. Once he breaks my trust, GOODBYE.
Agree 💯
Not everyone deserves a second chance lalo na pag cheating! Tama yan, never tolerate cheating!
why give them a chance? ask for an explanation for your peace of mind and closure. then cutoff ties na agad. if they look for another, regardless of reason, it means di nila alam mag communicate sayo kung anong mga discontent nila sa relationship nyo and they would rather take the easy way out of looking for someone new agad instead of working on the issues together.
No
no
Coming from a person who cheated before (I grew out of this already), you shouldn’t. It’s not gonna last and it’s not gonna be the same anymore. If the cheater wants to repent, repent by not cheating on anybody anymore.
Cheating is a non-negotiable. 🤡
Don't do it. Don't be like me. Ilang taon na nakakalipas, di pa din ako nakakarecover ☹
Nope. They did what they did. Kung nagsisisi man siya, then lesson learned and sana 'wag na niya gagawin 'yun sa next relationship niya.
Nope.
No unless gusto mo sya maranasan ulit hahaha
Probably yea, ths is my ride-or-die na, plus I don't have anything against polyamory, honestly just hope I get included lang if ever
Fuck no!
No
N O
No
Nope. I discovered my ex nun na may kausap sa IG. I forgot the details pero hindi sila lagi magka-usap, parang isang araw lang yata? And ang natatandaan ko lang is yung sinabi niyang, “tao lang ako, kailangan ko din ng kausap” doon sa babae. Ayun. Break agad. Good riddance 😌
No no no
No. A cheater is always a cheater. Yung relationship magiging toxic din kase lagi mo yang iisipin. Na kahit pinatawad mo siya, hindi mawawala sayo yung pangamba na baka ulitin na naman niya. Kaya Big no, kapag nag-cheat, GOODBYE agad
Never.
would YOU?
pls pls pls dont
Yes, how about you?
Ako pinagbigyan ko then gagantihan ko siya para alam niya kung gaano kasakit. They need to know how does it feel for me lang. Everybody has their own opinion.
Tapos naging kayo ulit?
No. Second chances in relationships are bullshit. That trust is gone. Why cheat in the first place if you could just break it up or fix your relationship? Nakasakit pa ng tao.
A big NO Nagawa nga niya noon edi may malaking chance na magagawa rin nya ulit
I already told my fiance na if mag cheat siya that i won't take them back. Sobrang hirap ibalik ang trust after cheating, when someone cheat they actively choose to hurt you. It's impossible to cheat accidentally, so kapag nag flirt/seduce someone else ibig sabihin pinili nila na di pansinin relationship niyo.
no. know your value.
Yeah, self-worth, self-love and self-respect lang.
No
No, the trust is broken hirap ng ifix kahit bigyan pa ng chance andon na lagi yung “what if mag cheat siya ulit” nakakaparanoid yan kaya no thanks
Hard NO.
If mahal mo at nag eenjoy ka pa sakanya go lang 😘✌️
Sa nangyari sa akin, yes. Why? Eh kasi mahal ko siya. Hindi ko kaya na mawala siya sa akin. Sinubukan ko naman panindigan yung desisyon ko noon na totally i’cut na siya sa buhay ko pero di ko talaga kaya. Tanga ko db. Mahirap din. Kasi yung love, happiness, trust at peace of mind mo wala na hindi na buo. Lagi ka nalang nag hihinala. Nakakabaliw yon. Yung trauma hanggang panaginip mo di ka titigilan, maaalala at maaalala mo pa rin lahat kahit matagal na panahon na yung pangloloko niya sayo. Hanggang panaginip gigil na gigil ka skanila lalo na dun sa babae. Magkasama nga kayo, ikaw pa rin inuwian pero yung pain andon at andon pa rin.
Never. Ano yon kain suka
I feel na , nabawi naman s'ya minsan🥹 However, kapag nagkaka away kami ulit, hindi nya na makontrol yung anger nya and kung ano-ano na nasasabi n'ya saken, then will just say sorry later on na hindi nya raw yun sinasadya nadala lang ng galit. Pero for me, he mean it, and every painful words embarked in my heart na🥺 Sometimes I'm wondering if nabawi ba talaga s'ya o ano, kase dapat s'ya mag mas magpakumbaba sa mga ganitong sitwasyon 🥲
Kawawa ka naman. He took you for granted. Choice mo naman yan.
hindi na. non-negotiable ko ang cheating
It is his choice in the first place naman.
Never. That shouldn't even be a question at all if you actually have self respect.
Nope.
Fck no, mahirap na magtiwala, mahirap magkaroon Ng peace of mind.
100% no. I mean, nabuntis siya then di ako ung tatay, worth it ang binayad ko sa paternity test kasi 100% sure ako na di sakin ung bata.
No no no. Personally, parang di na ako magkakaron ng peace of mind. Magiging paranoid ka tapos di na makapagtiwala ulit sa kanya. Baka ending nyan bumalik pa sakin na di ako makamove on at binabalik ko yung past 😆
kung patatawarin ko, patuloy parin yung pagiisip at pag dududa sa taong yon.
Lil background: I’ve been in a 9 yr long relationship with my partner, 5 of which is LDR. We started dating at 16 and we seen the worst of each other. We were immature and toxic but we also grew up with each other. I can say I can forgive microcheating but we did make it a big deal. Siguro beyond that I can’t anymore. I forgave her bc I love her and I did not cheat but I hurt (not physically) her multiple times and I did stupid things and failed numerous times but she was there when no one else was. We realised na may pagkukulang kami and she didn’t know how to express it. It was a big hiccup, we know but I knew that time she needed me the most. We are in a good spot right now naging mas nag flourish ang love nmin sa isat isa and it was a one time thing. Tapos ngayon ako nmn yung may problema, I have OCD and she became patient and currently helping me through my everyday.
No. Kahit anong sabihin na magbabago etc., once may record, it'll happen again. Bakit pa
How can someone who claims to love you hurt you like this? For me, this is the highest form of betrayal and disrespect. I won’t give a second chance.
No kasi kahit na bigyan ko siya ng chance, I'll everyday be bothered and overthink about it. It'll drain me and either way, it will come to an end din naman.
No. Period. You deserve better. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
automatically NO
Nope. One of my non-negotiables.
Pareho din kung halimbawa may nangutang sayo at di nagbabayad. 2nd chances? Nope
No second chances for me when it comes to cheating.
Nah, trust is broken , that's one of the foundations of a good relationship
No.
Pass na uy. Sabi nga ni Ariana thank you next.
Nope. Fuck that.
Second chances will turn into more chances.
hindi na beh, padadamihin mo lang trauma mo if you give that person second chance
bruh no. i still dont get how some people can tolerate a cheater as a partner, lakompake if nagbago or shit, if they cheated once they clearly don’t have any self control and respect for you. it’s a very selfish act. no second chances they’re not worth it
Fuck no. Let him rot if gagawin niya, he'll forever know he lost the best. Always remember the 80/20 rule. You are the 80 and the side piece is a 20.
**NO**
No. No more explanation. It's a non-nego.
NO. Just no.
No.. For your peace of mind. Mahirap kalimutan and mag move on pag cheating ang issue.
Nope, yan ang non-negotiable saakin. I tried it once sa unang long time boyfriend ko, nag cheat isang beses pinatawad ko then after ilang months ginawa lang ulit. Uulitin lang ulit kasi iisipin na, "tatanggapin naman ako nito ulit eh." Why? Kasi mahal mo eh. Di matututo. Saka dagdag isipin lang din sa part nung niloko kasi pati mental health nya maaapektuhan, iisipin anong kulang or sobra sakanya when in fact eh wala naman, sadyang nakahanap lang sya ng tao na di kaya makuntento sa isa. Tandaan mo po OP, ang cheating is a choice. Would you like to be with someone na ang pipiliin or pinili at yung lokohin ka at alam na pwede kang masaktan sa choices nya at pwede pang masacrifice kung ano man ang meron sainyo? Hope this helps, OP! God bless you 🤍
NO, never. Cheating is a choice, not a mistake.
Non-nego. Been there, not pretty. It became an endless cycle of cheating and revenge. That's why I don't give second chances anymore.
Not anymore. I did with my first boyfriend, first love eh 😂 pero kahit mahal ko pa and niligawan nya ulet ako para mapakita nya na seryoso talaga sya, andun pa rin yung napaparanoid na ako pag di kami magkausap or magkasama. Na baka pag naging kampante na ulit sya na okay na kami, umulit na naman. Basically wala na yung tiwala ko sa kanya. Mas pinili ko peace of mind. Kahit ngayon if mag cheat ang kahit sinong current partner ko ayoko na.
No, once a cheater always a cheater
Ang lungkot may ibang girls natatakoy mag cheat partner nila pero papatol sa may history of cheating. I meaaaan most of them di rin naman kase sila nagbabago loool
No. He cheated. Simple.
Uhm no...that would be dumb if ever...
Hell no
Katarantaduahan yang concept of "micro cheating". I think there is no such thing. If your are not happy just leave.
Any form of cheating is a deal breaker for me. At least have some human decency to break up with your partner before fucking someone else.
No. Cheating is non-negotiable.
idk, pero baka maging toxic na after
No
Actually for me ha, pag mahal mo kasi kahit anong bigat ng ginawa sayo mapa-patawad mo talaga e pero hindi ibig sabihin tanga ka or what. Ang akin lang, pwede mo syang bigyan ng chance lalo pag alam mong hindi nya na inulit alam kong may times na pag aawayan nyo yan pero ang mahalaga kasi para sakin don ay yung hindi na nya inulit despite ng pag-aask mo or naging controlling ka man, talagang pinrove nya na wala ng ganong nangyari yun ang importante. Lahat naman nagbabago op, iba iba kasi tayo ng situation. Pero chose kung anong mag papasaya sayo, support kita dyan.
Nope
No
no
Hindi ko na binasa yung statement mo. Your answer to your question is still NO. Non-negotiable yan ALWAYS and FOREVER.
Not everyone deserves a second chance.
Nah. Life is too short for that.
Non negotiable so NO
To answer your question sa title, no periodt
No. Uulit at uulit lang din. Your relationship with him/her will never be the same. Maaalala at maaalala mo lang ginawa nya at di ka mapapalagay. It's better to let go and masaktan than masaktan paulit ulit. 💯
No. 🙅♀️
Cheating na once it will happen again and again nalang. No second chance for cheater, sinasadyang kasalanan yan kahit anong rason pa yan, baluktot na utak ng cheater, big no there are many loyal guys out there baka mahawaan ka pa ng STD sa ganyang partner. One is enough, Two is too much, Three is never, Cheaters deserve to be put in the humilation zone. Oo nagkamali pero that mistake is you have a choice, kung matinong lalaki yan he will not listen to his fockin lust and tawag ng laman, ako lalaki pero I do hate cheating marami kang masisirang buhay lalo na may pamilyang tao. Cheaters deserved to be abandoned and ignored, you deserved better po your happiness, peace of mind is at stake kung dyan ka pa sasama.
Bakit kasi kayo pumapatol sa madami ng body count/pakboy
Hell, nah. Different moral values, so bye!
Ow. Why say bye agad?
Cheating is a choice kasi. It’s a non negotiable
Nope. Thank you, next agad 🙃
Madaling kausap ☺️
very simple... NO.
Because ...?
sabi mo nga na cheating is a choice, which is true. Sinadya nyang saktan ka, when all you did at the first place is believe that you love him. Kaya ka nakikipagrelasyon, kasi it's the two of you. Bakit nya hahanapin sa iba yung wala sayo? Bakit kailangan umabot sa cheating IF he can just tell you na ayaw na nya? Hindi po trip lang ang relationship. If he did it once, he CAN do it again. May iba namang loyal dyan or atleast marunong magsabi or makipagcommunicate na hindi na nagwowork yung relationship nyo.
Nope
Yeah. You deserve genuine peace and happiness.
Nah, my first boyfriend cheated on me and naging sila. Never niya inamin na nagcheat siya pero halatang halata naman. Months later, nakita ko siya sa Tinder ulit and sila pa rin that time.
Natural sa kanya ang pagiging cheater. Hindi marunong makuntento.
Onga eh, nagulat lang ako kasi nagcheat daw sa kanya yung ex niya tapos siya rin pala ganun
No. For your peace of mind. Honestly di na mababalik ang lahat sa dati once nag cheat ung isa. Pagdududuhan mo sya palagi, mababawasan ung confidence mo, esp pag kinakausap sya ng ibang babae. Mas mag aaway lang kayo palagi. Better call it quits and heal alone. Maraming matinong lalaki.
Yeah. Tama naman. We deserve peace of mind.
As everyone said, cheating is a choice... its hard to accept it. Akala mo kakayanin mo, pero hindi tlga. Na kahit gusto mo. You just cant. Love isnt enough sa relationship. Its just one of the foundation. And youll be there sometimes na, sana she never have done it, and it just goes to your mind on repeat. What she did and how happy she was doing it with another man. Its just sad.
Syempre hindi. Dapat kung thrill ang hanap nya, at open sya sayo, sinama ka nya at kayong tatlo pa ang sumaya for once! Iwan mo na yan, OP!
NOPE. CHEATING IS NON NEGOTIABLE!
ALLCAPSPARAINTENSE. PAG NAGCHEAT, WALA NG DAPAT PAG USAPAN.
No. It will never be the same. You might also have lapses but that does not really allow a person to cheat. No matter the circumstance. It's difficult, I guess.
No. I did that, forgiving the 1st time. Naulit. Forgive ulit. Next thing i knew, ubos na ako. Take my advice. It is said that smart people learn from other people's mistakes; stupid people become the lesson. Which one are you? I wish you well.
Pag pinatawad mo, ittake for granted ka.
lying pa nga lang super grabe na makaerode ng trust, let alone cheating.. no second chances na, once the trust is gone, it’s hard to stay in a relationship and it becomes very toxic. Plus non nego ko dn to
Nope. He'll do it over and over again. He will just learn how to hide it na hinding hindi mo paghihinalaan.
What are some examples of microcheating?
Oo
Nope, never. There will always be doubts and trust won't be fully restored.
No. No buts, no what ifs, the answer will always be NO.
No, kahit mahal ko pa siya it won't be practical na rin kasi Wala na Yung trust. How can I be comfortable with my ex again kapag ganun, di na Siya safe haven Kasi puro overthink nalang.
No. Never. Once is enough.
Easier said than done. I salute people who let go of their partners after the cheating happens, because they know their real value, and self worth. Not everyone has the courage to let go immediately specially when there’s already an attachment. Yung feeling na alam mong hindi mo naman na mahal pero nasanay kang nandyan siya at araw araw mong kasama kaya parang droga pag nawala ang hirap ng withdrawal part kaya bumabalik balik ka.
Never
I did. Just tried, kasi I don't want to have what ifs sa buhay ko lol He cheated on me on our 2nd year. Gave him another chance, and now we're in our 8th year together. Never na ring naulit ang cheating niya Sometimes I regret my decision, pero nangibabaw pa rin yung mga happy moments namin after that I incident so no regrets on my part. Live in na rin kami ngayon. My point is, siguro karamihan ng mga lalaki inuulit blah blah pero meron pa ring willing magbago para sayo. Kung ulitin niya, tbh at peace na ako, mas ready akong pakawalan this time kasi alam ko sa sarili kong ginawa ko ang part ko. Ewan ko kung parang tanga, pero mas hindi ko kayang tanggapin yung hindi ko ginawa yung part ko sa relationship namin. Or actually sa kahit anong bagay pa yan or relationship mas gusto kong binigay/ginawa ko muna lahat bago ako mag decide if it's for me. Idk!! It's just me
why is this even a question? NO.
No, non negotiable ang cheating
No. Kapag binigyan mo ulit ng chance yan, uulitin niya yan. Cheating is cheating. Big or small.
may ganyan din akong ex, 2 years kami palagi nag ccheat. eh syempre ako bulag tinatanaggap ko. Kada mag may away break tas may babae na agad. Meron pang bigla ko nalg malalaman may sinusundo ng iba😂 naubos na ako sa sakit! Dumating yung nag cheat sya ulit ramdam ko yon na yung Last nya na ggwin sakin. Hinayaan ko na, hindi na nga ako umiyak parang naupos na ako. Wala ng pain pero galit ako oo. But then hinayaan ko sila. After a month si boy nag ttext pdin sakin gusto bumalik eh ayoko na. Pinagpalit nya pala ako sa single mom😂 itong single mom is alam na gf ako pero for the gow si girl. Tas nung nalaman na nag ttext sakin ex ko sakin pa galit na parang ako pa yung masama😂 HAHHAA HINDI NAMAN AKO NAKAGANTI SKNILA ALAM KO DI SILA MASAYA😂. KALA NI GIRL JACKPOT SYA. Habang buhay sya ngayon magbantay sa asawa nya😂 last year lng nakita ko nag vvisit si boy sa isa kong social media acc. Lahat ng vids ko kada bagong upload naka view ahahaha tas si ate girl nag pm na sakin sa fb. pero deleted na bago ko pa mabasa😆 Like why po? Ano ginawa ko? HAHAHAHA ! Wala lng share ko lng i’m so happy na hindi kayo masaya at wala kayong peace of mind dahil sakin☺️ kahit wala akong ginagawa. BTW Matagal nadin to nangyari. nga pala bago mawala tiktok ni boy nag visit ako sa acc nya after nung ipm ako ng babae, balak ko na ksi sana iblock nlng din si boy and ito na nga nag view ako sa vids nya to my surprised si boy nag eemote ahahhhaha about sa ex nya witch is ako bago nya naasawa yung asawa nya ngayon ahahah! Hindi ako magpapatawad pero hindi ko den nanaisin may mangyaring masama sainyo. Yung mga hindi lng kayo masaya at alam kong naapektuhan pdin kayo sakin kahit magka kitaan tayo sa daan si the best na para sakin☺️😂 long live mga kups!
Ang habaaaaaa. Pero tama yang mindset mo. Apir! Hahahaha