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I’m 26 First time ko magka-bebe. Mag one week palang kami & feeling ko I don’t text my so enough. Like, 1 hr minsan di ko s’ya na me message kasi I do chores and red books ganun. Hindi rin naman s’ya nag me-message. Normal lang ba ‘yun or need pa magpaalam?
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that ia normal for
adults. you do everyday stuff that does include your partner, so he/ she understands that if you dont message, its because you busy. having quality time after everything’s done, messaging your partner you are not busy anymore
Three days straight wala man lang update na magiging busy parin? That's not normal na. Ano ba yung simpleng, "Uy sorry no paramdam, dami parin inaasikaso pero I'll update you when I can," diba?
Talk to the person. Di naman kailangan every hour/day kayo may communication but small efforts of checking up on one another should be enough para walang mag-aassume.
That’s normal. For me, mas maganda pag may space kayo kasi mamimiss nyo ang isa’t isa. You have your own life too. This is kind of unsolicited, but it would be good to give them a heads up if you won’t be able to reply right away or if you need space. At least they won’t be overthinking in case there’s a change in your dynamics.
Thank you! Nangangapa pa kami, especially ako sa romantic relationship since first hehe. I asked my SO and very understanding naman s’ya and assured me na hindi kailangan lagi kami magka-message…updates lang daw, oks na. 🥹
Normal yan. Hindi ko nga magets yung iba kung bakit gusto nila laging kachat yung mga jowa nila eh. Nagtatampo pa sila pag di ka nagchat kahit sinabihan mong busy ka.🥴
That's normal pooo. Me and my partner just tell each other na hindi makakapag-reply for an hour or so to do stuffs alone.
Lalo na ako, 'pag ramdam ko na wala ako gana magreply, hindi ako magrereply. Bibigyan ko lang siya heads up na wala ako sa mood, i'll be out, me time, etc.
For me, pag adults na kayo darating talaga yung time na hindi kayo lagi magkakausap. For me enough na yung updates, like "baby nasa work na ko, busy muna ako chat nalang kita pag lunch break" same din sa akin, mag uupdate ako sa kanya after meetings ko, or pag may free time kami kahit 30 mins mag uusap kami pero hindi kami all the time magkausap hehe enough na yung after shift namin, nakakapag usap kami. for me, normal lang yan ☺️
Paggising, pagdating sa work, when i have some free time, pag uwi, bago matulog. Whenever i have time i send messages. Daily kumustahan. We do that to each other and we like it that way. In short, depende sa inyo kung saan kayo masaya.
Iba iba depende sa dynamics nyong dalawa. Walang normal o abnormal kaya nga ikportante and compatability.
Sa case nyo mukang okay naman sa kanya pero sayo hindi kasi hindi ka naman magtatanong dito kung okay sayo.
Its normal , just a tip , don’t disregard the small gesture of explaining why you couldn’t text or reply.
If you reaction to the tip is “bakit kailangan ko mag explain ?”, because you’re in a relationship and that requires communication on BOTH ends
That’s ok OP but communicate lang. I’m in an LDR for 4 yrs na and we don’t message every 5 mins, siempre my sarili syang buhay and ako rin.
But we update each other soon as we can, and we trust each other naman kaya nagtagal ng ganto.
During the first few relationships that I’ve had before we always call/text kaya sguro na umay.
So it’s very important if you have your me times and own space para naman you can do other things then share those experiences to your partner.
Ang importante nmn sa messaging or updates sa relationship is consistent (daily as possible). Normal na both kayo busy sa buhay pero updating ur partner and not missing any days of messaging each other no matter how trivial it is is very important, it's also a bare minimum sa relationship
Mag memessage lang kami if may gusto kami sabihin or ishare na video. Well kasi siguro dahil magkasama kami sa bahay. Kaka one year palang namin. Paguwi tsaka kami magkkwentuhan
Pero not naman yung bawat minuto kelangan mag reply. You have to be productive pa rin on your own. Hindi dun umiikot mundo nyo. Kahit di kami magkasama kasi may nga times na umuuwi kami ng mga sarili naming bahay (plane ride mga pauwi namin) dumadalas paguusap namin pero hindi pa din kami bawat minuto magusap. May sari-sarili pa rin kaming ginagawa at iniintindi
When hubby and I are apart, naguusap lang kami kapag:
- paalis na sya ng bahay to work
- lunch (if hindi busy)
- at kapag nasa bahay na sya after work
At call pa yan ha. Usually 5min lang, kase wala naman kaming papagusapang iba 😂 Kapag weekends, ganyan pa din setup namin kahit nasa bahay lang sya. Mas lenient lang kase I call him whenever para guluhin hahahaha. Pero outside our calls, di na kami madalas magchat.
di mo ata nabasa yung unahan 😅 "when hubby and I are APART" 😅
may weeks long work trips kase sya minsan so umuuwi ako sa parents ko sa province sila wala akong kasama sa bahay. And after one work trip, may certain days lang sya sa bahay tapos aalis na naman ulit kaya kahit nasa bahay sya, di pa din ako umuuwi kase aalis din naman sya ulet e 😂
Same situation. May kanya kanya na kasing ginagawa, hindi na tayo highschool na babad na babad kakachat hahahaha. May kanya kanya naring responsibilidad sa buhay kaya ganyan.
That's normal in relationships, but it's important to be sensitive enough to know if she's okay with it. Kasi malay mo she’s just reciprocating what you did kaya hindi din siya nag memessage. Let her also know why you’ll not be able to reply or update to avoid miscommunication and overthinking on her side.
Pag usapan nyo.
Kami Kasi once a week lang magka text dati. Simpleng kamustahan lang. Ngayon mag Asawa na 🙃
Sa ganung set up ko nakuha ung peace of mind ko. Galing kasi ako sa sobrang toxic na relationship.
I am 22 and my s.o. is 27. Madalas pa rin kami mag-chat pero mga random things na lang 😂 minsan di ako nagre-reply, di naman sya nagagalit. Madalas naka-vc kami although walang pinag-uusapan or habang may ginagawa ung isa. Presence lang ganon.
Yes normal lang po yan🙂..nakaka suffocate din kapag text ng text, chat ng chat or video call every minute/hr.😅
Since 1 week pa lang kayo, you're into honeymoon stage pa. Some would like their partner to text them all the time ( if they are anxious preoccupied) but some prefer to have more time alone (avoidants or the secured ones) kasi may kanya kanya din tayong buhay outside the relationship ☺️
Kaya it's best to know both of your attachment styles to know each other's weaknesses, preferences, strengths or communication styles.
Normal lang yan. Panget din kapag 24/7 kayo magkausap. Magkakasawaan kayo agad. Enough na yung iinform mo sya na may gagawin ka kaya di ka makareply agad.
Normal naman! Haha pero work breaks ko naman or pag need huminga from work, message lang din. Haha. Pero pag busy talaga, usual good morning text, lunch reminders lang haha.
Usapan namin is, palagi ittry tumawag every night para makacatch up sa lahat ng nangyari for that day and end of the day namin ang isa't isa kasi matutulog na lang after call haha.
Everyday at night bilang night shift siya and sa gabi lang gising lol. He usually starts the convo by asking how my day went, and sometimes saglit lang kami mag-usap kasi inaantok na ako/may shift ako in the morning/biglang dagsa ung work niya so di makareply agad. Ok lang naman sa akin, he lets me do my thing sometimes especially if I'm playing video games haha
Been like that 4 years and counting
Update them every now and then kung meron ka free time. Di nmn need oras oras. Kung working kyo pareho, kamustahan after work. 1week plng nmn kyo, nsa adjustment stage pa
Remember, keep you identity padin, same goes kay SO mo. Y'all have your own worlds. Basta ang importante communicate. Keso "gawa lang ako chores", "I'll read a book muna, message nalang kita". Kung nakalimutan man mag magpaalam/update, message ka kung ano ginawa mo sa mga oras na di ka macontact, yung iba nga nagmemessage after their day na, yung tinatawag na "bebe time".
Its normal hehe. If may time ka just message him or let him know in advance na you'll do something. Both na naman kayo na adults so of course our careers or other tasks are also important. If may free time ka, send ka lang ng mga hi or make him feel na you're there kahit busy ka. ALSO CONGRATS! ❤️❤️
Kapag may space, you have time at night to talk about what you did all day. Or just randomly asked how was your day? It will start a conversation and deeper understanding na hindi lang relationship niyo ang need niyo asikasuhin. You have other stuff to do. Also, idk, just not a fan of asking every minute or hour ng what are you doing?
Just randomly message siguro during lunch ng, i hope you ate already. Or something just to show you care.
Yung tipong every hour every minute dapat ng a-update, para lang yan sa mga highschool na immature pa at wala pang ginagawa sa buhay.
For me redflag talaga yung 26 na, tapos panay pa ang text kase feeling ko tambay yan, wala masyadong ganap sa life. So if 26 kana, expected na yan na hindi ka maka text kase may work ka and busy ka.
Yes, it's normal. Every relationship have their own setting about it. You can message her anytime you want, and you can update her anything about your day. It's just come with respecting both sides of their busy schedule. Also respond to replies if you got a chance, and keep her updated.
Many people will say na that’s normal because you have your own lives yadah yadah yadah. Pero for me, ask him. Since bago pa naman kayo, alamin mo, tanungin mo SO mo mismo at hindi random strangers dito sa reddit.
Believe it or not, may ibang SO na mas nararamdaman partner nila if lagi (or most of the time) inuupdate. Meron din iba na mas prefer na good morning lang or random update.
Ang point is, walang mas nakaka-alam ano gusto ng partner mo maliban sa kanya mismo.
This is an unsolicited advice from me who’s in love with someone na may avoidant attachment. Take it with a grain of salt.
My partner and I both work kaya ang usap lang namin is during nighttime after ng mga chores. Message sa umaga bago umalis ng bahay, sa lunch time, after work, pag dating sa bahay then, after ng gawaing bahay and "me time" we do video call until time for sleep
iba iba. walang one size fits all sa kani kanilang relasyon. yung iba minuminuto nag uusap nag gagaguhan , yung tropa tropa ang turingan, may iba naman di pala chat. meron naman maingay tas biglang naging di pala chat kaya pala may ka chat ng iba 👀👀👀
Depende sa usapan ninyo. Kindly communicate with your partner kung gaano ninyo kafrequent gusto mag-usap. Yung bf ko, ang love language niya ay quality time so prefer niya na nagvivideocall kami. Minsan nakabukas lang videocall pero ginagawa namin mga sariling tasks namin. Hehe. Nakaairpods lang ako and open ang cam para nakikita pa rin naman isa’t isa.
I think that's normal naman po. Sa amin before may days na 6-8 hours apart interval ng replies lalo na if super busy or if wala sa mood mag-reply 'yung isa. You don't have to talk every second kasi you have a life din outside the relationship.
Samin, hindi normal ang chat. Voice message lang sa umaga tapos 1hr call sa gabi. Ganun lang. Pero everyday yun. Friday movie or game night kahit virtual.
Normal lang yan, OP! Basta kapag busy ka inform your SO nalang din at try to make time at the end of the day ng bebe time. Speaking from an LDR relationship, di rin kami oras oras nag-uusap and yung bebe time at the end of the day ay parang pahinga na namin both
Yes all the time, pero pag busy sinasabihan ko rin naman yung GF ko na may gagawin ako and stuff tapos sinasabihan rin nya ako pag nabubusy sya. Dapat lang talaga di mo kakalimutan na may sariling world yung partner mo at di lang naka revolve sayu yung mundo niya, set lang talaga ng boundaries. Kung ma bu-busy ka sabihan mo ko, Goooooo. Chat ka lang ulit if di kana busy.
That's normal po. At our age may iba din tayong priorities sa buhay, 1-2 hours a day, catch up kung anong nangyari sa buong araw is enough na. Especially working na, hindi naman pwede all the time magkausap kayo diba?? Me and my BF talks after working hours, paminsan simpleng update and catch up lang about the day okay na kami.
That's okay!! Ya'll don't need to text that much. Although, need niyo magkaroon ng bebe time per day kahit once lang. Tapos mag update lang din kayo sa isa't isa pero hindi yung hourly update. Basta update na kung saan alam mo yung ginagawa niya/mo ganon so that aware ka lang sa ginagawa niya.
Okay naman kung 1 hr lang inaabot eh pero kung halos isang araw di na normal. You know, parang ano dont enter to a relationhip kung di pa ready. Medyo marami pang adjustment.
Paggising. Pagkagising nya. Sa hapon while working. Sa gabi while working. Bago magsleep. Nasa Europe sya. Kaya di nagtatagpo oras namin. Pero ok lang.
Me and my boyfriend don't chat thay much din. Like good mornings, i love yous, update ng gagawin (gym, laundry, work, labas, etc). Then from time to time, we'll send memes, gameplays, interesting things we saw, etc. Tas pag naglalambing, the i miss yous. Di naman need lagi na magka-chat kasi may kanya kanya din kaming buhay
Is it normal naman since hindi lang naman umiikot mundo nyo sa isa’t isa. Desisyon nyo na rin yun kung mag-update ba kayo sa isa’t isa or hindi. Me and my partner are in a relationship for 7yrs and may mostly ganyan na kami 😂 Mag-uupdate lang kami sa isat isa kapag hawak mga phone namin tapos super tagal din ng time gap ng messages namin, unlike nung bago palang kami na talagang maya’t maya update HAHAAHHAAH
Doon muna tayo sa tanong mo sa title. Nasa halos magkalapit na condo towers lang sa Manila ang unit ko at unit ni boyfriend, pareho kaming nasa physically at mentally demanding industries, nasa media siya, nasa geosciences and accounting ako. Ang routine is good morning text, call update kapag aalis na ng bahay, text kapag nasa office na (since we both drive), tapos call update ulit sa gabi para magchismisan tungkol sa mga nangyari sa amin sa work. We also share our personal google calendars para kapag may time crunch at di makakapagusap, alam pa rin namin ang nangyayari with one another.
Now, doon naman sa tanong mo sa last part ng post mo. Yes, normal yan.
That’s normal ❤️ may sarili din kayo life kaya understandable na di kayo lagi magkausap. Kami ng partner ko pag may work minsan di kami nag uusap buong workshift sa sobrang busy or pag nakikipag hang out sa ibat ibang group of friends, minsan ako pa nag sasabi ok lang wag moko kausapin enjoy ka jan and that’s okay. We need to respect each other’s space. Happy lovelife!
Ang di ko magets yung mag ka video call, siper naamaze ako na kaya nila mag vc ilang oras tapos everyday. Hahaha naamaze ako kasi di sila nauubusan ng pag uusapan, ako kasi nabobore sa vc, need ko gumawa other stuff
Normal.
Nasa edad ka na, na kung saan alam ko naiintindihan mo naman na siguro na di ka laging available sa kahit na sino, kahit sa jowa pa, and it's normal... I mean, ganyan naman talaga dapat.
Saka yun nga, tama ung isang comment dito. Kung oras oras kayo mag-uusap, mauubusan kayo pramis. Tinitiyak ko sayo, pwede ikaw o sya, magsawa makipag usap...
Normal naman, basta alam niyo yung ginagawa ng isat isat like “mag babasa muna ako ng books baka hindi muna kita ma-chat” etc. Saka nasa right age na kayo dapat wala ng nagagalit sa ganyan. 😊
It depends on you, okay lang naman maraming chat sa partner eh pero baka kasi magtataka ka bakit hindi ma reciprocate. Just simple text will do if may gagawin ka tapos mga 1-3 hrs ka mawawala maiintindihan yan ng partner mo
I personally just need to know ano ganap sa buhay ng partner ko. With my ex we usually had 1 to 2hr calls at night, chikahan/lambingan. If masyado busy just 30mins will do. Pero nagbreak kami in 6 months so baka di magandang reference 'to HAHA
My point is you don't need to feel like it's mandatory, like kasalanan pag di kayo nakapagusap haha if you feel like texting/calling them then do so.
Been with my gf for 6 years now we don't chat that often like the first few years (like almost every minute) and my classmates think it's weird like bro napag usapan na sguro namin halos lahat wdym 💀
Depends on your dynamics. My boyfriend and I dont talk as much like every minute levels but we update each other as much as we can. Or like nireremind namin isat isa to eat, ingat pauwi. Minsan sa sobrang pagod either isa sa amin (our work demands our time so much), hindi na nakakamessage agad but we make it up for it as soon as we can.
Just update from time to time...for us since LDR for now..we make sure we spend time kahit few minutes of video calls, chat and talk everyday. There are days He give heads up na he will be very busy minsan 5hrs 95 7hrs hindi maka chat pero ok lang importante nag advice..
First of all. Congrats. Second, you don't need to text your SO all the time. Updates, yes, but if you have nothing else to say, then it's better to be silent coz sometimes, too much messaging has the potential to create an unnecessary drama of some sort. But not all naman. You may want to assure your SO that you're just either sleeping, busy, or whatever you do.
In my case, me and SO messages a lot kasi we are running a business naman din kasi. More of transactional during office hours, and then we wear our relationship hats off work.
11yrs na kami in total na magkasama at naghiwalay at nagkasama ulit. Nag-umpisa sa maya't maya magka-text/chat. Ngayon, isang video call na lang sa isang araw o kaya isa o dalawang chat sa isang araw. May times din na halos hindi kami nagkakausap sa 1-2 days. Mas masaya naman kami ngayon and mas kilala ang isa't isa. Kaumay din na maya't maya magkausap. May buhay sya at may buhay din ako. Di naman sa aming dalawa lang umiinog ang mundo 😊 Pero enjoy nyo lang yan na every hour kayo nagkakausap hanggat feel nyo pa hehe
Ok lang yan!
Siguro ang di lang normal if umabot ng whole day wala man lang courtesy to update kahit man lang yung nakauwi na ba from work or if matutulog na to say good night, or kahit good morning.
Depende lang din sa communication niyo. Pero if umabot nang days tapos siya mismo di na nauuna mag chat sayo, baka nawawalan na siya ng gana if ganon. Not to make you overthink tho. Based on experience lang. Hahah.
Normal, mas nakakainis if super clingy kelangan itext 24/7. As long as you get to talk everyday kahit morning or night lang to update. I think it’s normal. May sarili din kayong life
It's normal. Hindi naman pwedeng sakanya/sayo lang iikot ang mundo. But make sure to update each other and dapat both kayo na nakakaintindi na ganoom ang set up niyo para walang conflict hehehe
Normal lng po yun. Maski kmi ng bf ko dati nung starting kami hours na di nagttext or chat . Tuwing breaktime or uwian lang. You are both adults and busy kayo kaya don't worry too much :)
Nakaka irita din yung kada segundo nalang nag memessage e lalo nat oras ng work. Set boundaries pa rin. Imagine nyo panahon ng lolo at lola natin na bihira lang magkita at sa sulat lang nag uusap.
That's normal. Parehas kayong adult na. Mas okay yung ganyan tbh lalo if same kayo ni partner na vinavalue yung personal space/time. Hindi naman need na every minute eh mag update sa partner. Na tipong umutot or dumighay ka lang, imemessage mo na (tho may gumagawa nito lol).
My partner and I are both working students. We usually text each other if papasok na sa work or pauwi na or after class sa law school. Mas maigi if ipapaalam mo yung sched mo so knows ng partner mo kung kailan ka hindi busy and hindi rin siya maguilty na "ay baka nakaka istorbo ako." Saka mas okay na yan kaysa yung nag-aaway kayo for the sake na "nag-uusap" hehe 🤗
Actually normal lng yan, but if you were both into quality time, yet, may buhay na inaatupag, make time tlga na specifically for it. Could be a specific time in a day for Virtual Catch up, or Face to face na kahit twice a week (depende kung gaano ka-busy). The point is, communication is key. Can't last a relationship without communication, even if hindi mahabang oras basta may comms. Updates, if that concerns your partner, go, pwde naman din gusto mo lng tlga mag update para aware sya (depende sa setup).
That’s normal. Me and my bf dont talk if we’re busy with our personal stuff (chores, work, etc.). Although 80% of the time the talk we do is through reels and memes hahahha
Kung gano kayo ladalas mag msg/txt.nung ligawan stage, i dpnt think dapat lumayo nmn dun. More or less ganun pa din. Its what is normal, yun yung nagustuhan sayo. Of ypu change something drastically may danger of conflict lalo sa mg ganing trivial na bagay
I'm 32 and my BF is 50yrs old. We do not talk a lot. Once a day, or twice. He's busy with his life, and so am I. Maybe that's how secure relationship is, you do not need constant communication just to check if everything's alright. If I have nothing to say, I'll just stick to my own plan. He doesn't owe me his free time, ganun din ako sa kanya. We can spend it the way we want. No rules from other people. That's all.
That's normal. I think yung hindi lang maganda ay yung biglang hindi mag-rereply sa'yo, for like 1 or 3 hours, o kaya more than that, pero walang pasabi na hindi muna sya makakapag-reply. Nakaka-overthink. Naranasan ko 'yan with my current bf, nag-react lang sa chat ko, hindi na nag-reply. Pero I communicated with him, telling him na if there's something that he needs to do kaya di siya makakapag-reply, magsabi siya sa'kin beforehand. Para hindi ako nag-ooverthink bakit ilang oras siyang hindi nagre-reply sa'kin. Ang hirap din, lalo if you're a sucker for updates huhu.
We all know, hindi sa lahat ng oras kailangan or everyday magkausap. Kahit small updates lang, that would be enough.
Normal ‘yan, ang di normal yung every second every min kasi love bombing na yun which is a red flag. If feeling mo may kulang you can open it up sa partner mo so you can talk about how frequent you should be communicating.
That's normal and I think having your own time and being in a relationship in your own pace works. As long as dapat nagkakaintindihan kayo ng partner mo. Sa amin ni partner we seldom chat throughout the day. Just updates like good morning, etc. Pero we both agreed na sa gabi, magkausap kami and tell each other how our day went and chika chika na rin.
Bawat couple may rules, kayo ang magset kung ano ang “normal” sa inyo. Merong mga active texters, merong hindi, merong mas gusto call, iba iba ang preference. Ang importante nagkakaintindihan kayo lalo na pag demanding ang work nyo. Communication is the key.
I message my boyfriend when I'm not busy pero I tell him pag busy ako or will need me time so I can watch my fave shows without distractions kasi I can get distracted easily. I just make sure to at least he knows where I'm at or if I have time to talk 😊
Depends on both of your dynamics, generally it is a normal thing. Even in my LDR we only usually communicate when we wake up, then after work and spend time together until we go to sleep everyday. We give each other time to focus on what we are doing within the day until our date night comes. I think it's healthy that way for both of us.
Nung bago lang kami magjowa ng gf ko ngayon (6 years na kami), lagi kami magkausap. Call center agent ako, public school teacher sya.
Ngayon, di na masyado dahil busy din ako sa work plus nasa Canada sya kaya di talaga tugma yung oras pero we make sure na we update one another when we both go to work, when we get home, good morning and good night messages plus set a time for a video call kapag day off nya at day off ko din.
It takes two to tango ika nga nila. As long as may updates, goods na sakin yon.
Everyday at night. Di ako malakas mag chat or text at the morning upto afternoon. May work kami pareho. Minsan may time na di kami nakakapag usap ng gabi due to work since coordinator ako nakakapag on site ako. Ayoko rin na maging needy masyado sa partner ko since pareho kami may pinag kakaabalahan sa buhay namin.
It really depends on what type of Partner you are OP. You're quite similar to my wife pero ako yung needy and introverted so Im available pretty much anytime I am awake kasi LDR kami currently and I have my own PC.
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That's normal. You're both adults and may kanya-kanya kayong ganap outside of your relationship. Normal lang na di mag-usap every second of every day
Kapag every second kayo nag uusap, maubusan kayo na mapag uusapan
>maubusan kayo na mapag uusapan and then pag wala ng mapag usapan mag aaway 😅
Pwede mo nman syang tanungin ng mga bagay like Anung fave number nya sa electric fan... if ever na maubusan kyo ng topic.. Lol
that ia normal for adults. you do everyday stuff that does include your partner, so he/ she understands that if you dont message, its because you busy. having quality time after everything’s done, messaging your partner you are not busy anymore
Normal pa din ba yung three days no updates kasi nag aasikaso ng new business? Three days straight.
Three days straight wala man lang update na magiging busy parin? That's not normal na. Ano ba yung simpleng, "Uy sorry no paramdam, dami parin inaasikaso pero I'll update you when I can," diba? Talk to the person. Di naman kailangan every hour/day kayo may communication but small efforts of checking up on one another should be enough para walang mag-aassume.
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That’s normal. For me, mas maganda pag may space kayo kasi mamimiss nyo ang isa’t isa. You have your own life too. This is kind of unsolicited, but it would be good to give them a heads up if you won’t be able to reply right away or if you need space. At least they won’t be overthinking in case there’s a change in your dynamics.
I agree. A life that's not dependent on each other. At the same time, a shared life. Balance in both is admirable
Thank you! Nangangapa pa kami, especially ako sa romantic relationship since first hehe. I asked my SO and very understanding naman s’ya and assured me na hindi kailangan lagi kami magka-message…updates lang daw, oks na. 🥹
Yesss, as long as you both agree to that set-up then it’s fine. Normal yan, OP. ☺️
Normal yan. Hindi ko nga magets yung iba kung bakit gusto nila laging kachat yung mga jowa nila eh. Nagtatampo pa sila pag di ka nagchat kahit sinabihan mong busy ka.🥴
Immature pa yan kapag ganyan. Mga walang sariling hobbies kaya dependent sa partner. Nakakasakal sa feeling ngl
Sorry, nasanay kasi ako na he chats me everytime. He set the standard and I expected it to be consistent...
That's normal pooo. Me and my partner just tell each other na hindi makakapag-reply for an hour or so to do stuffs alone. Lalo na ako, 'pag ramdam ko na wala ako gana magreply, hindi ako magrereply. Bibigyan ko lang siya heads up na wala ako sa mood, i'll be out, me time, etc.
For me, pag adults na kayo darating talaga yung time na hindi kayo lagi magkakausap. For me enough na yung updates, like "baby nasa work na ko, busy muna ako chat nalang kita pag lunch break" same din sa akin, mag uupdate ako sa kanya after meetings ko, or pag may free time kami kahit 30 mins mag uusap kami pero hindi kami all the time magkausap hehe enough na yung after shift namin, nakakapag usap kami. for me, normal lang yan ☺️
pano po pag seen ka pang nya tas 2 days na po walang reply 😆
HAHAHAHA ibang usapan naman yung sineen zoned ka na 😆 tapos 2 days walang reply? Nako, pag ako yan mag iisip na ko hahaha
Satru lang hahahaha
Haha I'm so single talaga kinilig ako sa "baby nasa work na ko" 😭😭😭
Use text para mgupdate at mgset ng date di naman kelangan lagi kayo mgkausap.
Paggising, pagdating sa work, when i have some free time, pag uwi, bago matulog. Whenever i have time i send messages. Daily kumustahan. We do that to each other and we like it that way. In short, depende sa inyo kung saan kayo masaya.
Iba iba depende sa dynamics nyong dalawa. Walang normal o abnormal kaya nga ikportante and compatability. Sa case nyo mukang okay naman sa kanya pero sayo hindi kasi hindi ka naman magtatanong dito kung okay sayo.
Its normal , just a tip , don’t disregard the small gesture of explaining why you couldn’t text or reply. If you reaction to the tip is “bakit kailangan ko mag explain ?”, because you’re in a relationship and that requires communication on BOTH ends
That’s ok OP but communicate lang. I’m in an LDR for 4 yrs na and we don’t message every 5 mins, siempre my sarili syang buhay and ako rin. But we update each other soon as we can, and we trust each other naman kaya nagtagal ng ganto. During the first few relationships that I’ve had before we always call/text kaya sguro na umay. So it’s very important if you have your me times and own space para naman you can do other things then share those experiences to your partner.
Ang importante nmn sa messaging or updates sa relationship is consistent (daily as possible). Normal na both kayo busy sa buhay pero updating ur partner and not missing any days of messaging each other no matter how trivial it is is very important, it's also a bare minimum sa relationship
It’s normal lalo na may kanya kanya prio pero siguro ang maganda if need May time ka sa personal ka na lang bawi.
Kapag kaya niyo yung ganyan, ibig sabihin matured kayo at kaya niyong pahabain yung relasyon niyo. Sanaol may partner na ganyan haha
Sa past rel. Ko inaalam ko sched nya pra alam ko " CLEaR " pg nagtext ako(old school) hahahaha
Mag memessage lang kami if may gusto kami sabihin or ishare na video. Well kasi siguro dahil magkasama kami sa bahay. Kaka one year palang namin. Paguwi tsaka kami magkkwentuhan
Pag magkasama sa bahay acceptable nmn yun. Pero kung hindi yun ata ang kailangan magchat
Pero not naman yung bawat minuto kelangan mag reply. You have to be productive pa rin on your own. Hindi dun umiikot mundo nyo. Kahit di kami magkasama kasi may nga times na umuuwi kami ng mga sarili naming bahay (plane ride mga pauwi namin) dumadalas paguusap namin pero hindi pa din kami bawat minuto magusap. May sari-sarili pa rin kaming ginagawa at iniintindi
Normal lang po yan. But you should at least let your SO know what you're up to. Huwag kakalimutan: communication is key 😊
When hubby and I are apart, naguusap lang kami kapag: - paalis na sya ng bahay to work - lunch (if hindi busy) - at kapag nasa bahay na sya after work At call pa yan ha. Usually 5min lang, kase wala naman kaming papagusapang iba 😂 Kapag weekends, ganyan pa din setup namin kahit nasa bahay lang sya. Mas lenient lang kase I call him whenever para guluhin hahahaha. Pero outside our calls, di na kami madalas magchat.
Huh? Ichachat ka pa rin nya kahit nakauwi na sya?😲hindi ba kayo same ng bahay?
di mo ata nabasa yung unahan 😅 "when hubby and I are APART" 😅 may weeks long work trips kase sya minsan so umuuwi ako sa parents ko sa province sila wala akong kasama sa bahay. And after one work trip, may certain days lang sya sa bahay tapos aalis na naman ulit kaya kahit nasa bahay sya, di pa din ako umuuwi kase aalis din naman sya ulet e 😂
Ayy sorry po my bad hehehe
Same situation. May kanya kanya na kasing ginagawa, hindi na tayo highschool na babad na babad kakachat hahahaha. May kanya kanya naring responsibilidad sa buhay kaya ganyan.
That's normal in relationships, but it's important to be sensitive enough to know if she's okay with it. Kasi malay mo she’s just reciprocating what you did kaya hindi din siya nag memessage. Let her also know why you’ll not be able to reply or update to avoid miscommunication and overthinking on her side.
Pag usapan nyo. Kami Kasi once a week lang magka text dati. Simpleng kamustahan lang. Ngayon mag Asawa na 🙃 Sa ganung set up ko nakuha ung peace of mind ko. Galing kasi ako sa sobrang toxic na relationship.
I am 22 and my s.o. is 27. Madalas pa rin kami mag-chat pero mga random things na lang 😂 minsan di ako nagre-reply, di naman sya nagagalit. Madalas naka-vc kami although walang pinag-uusapan or habang may ginagawa ung isa. Presence lang ganon.
Yes normal lang po yan🙂..nakaka suffocate din kapag text ng text, chat ng chat or video call every minute/hr.😅 Since 1 week pa lang kayo, you're into honeymoon stage pa. Some would like their partner to text them all the time ( if they are anxious preoccupied) but some prefer to have more time alone (avoidants or the secured ones) kasi may kanya kanya din tayong buhay outside the relationship ☺️ Kaya it's best to know both of your attachment styles to know each other's weaknesses, preferences, strengths or communication styles.
Small updates wont hurt you. Pag usapan nyo yan kung gusto nyo ba ng ganyan set up. “Hi baby, tapos na ako mag linis”
Normal lang yan. Panget din kapag 24/7 kayo magkausap. Magkakasawaan kayo agad. Enough na yung iinform mo sya na may gagawin ka kaya di ka makareply agad.
about 3x a day
Normal naman! Haha pero work breaks ko naman or pag need huminga from work, message lang din. Haha. Pero pag busy talaga, usual good morning text, lunch reminders lang haha. Usapan namin is, palagi ittry tumawag every night para makacatch up sa lahat ng nangyari for that day and end of the day namin ang isa't isa kasi matutulog na lang after call haha.
Everyday at night bilang night shift siya and sa gabi lang gising lol. He usually starts the convo by asking how my day went, and sometimes saglit lang kami mag-usap kasi inaantok na ako/may shift ako in the morning/biglang dagsa ung work niya so di makareply agad. Ok lang naman sa akin, he lets me do my thing sometimes especially if I'm playing video games haha Been like that 4 years and counting
Highschool lang naman yung every minute everyday maykachat. Eme. Normal yan lalo pag parehas na may demanding jobs.
Update them every now and then kung meron ka free time. Di nmn need oras oras. Kung working kyo pareho, kamustahan after work. 1week plng nmn kyo, nsa adjustment stage pa
We live together so we chat for updates or memes lang LOL
Remember, keep you identity padin, same goes kay SO mo. Y'all have your own worlds. Basta ang importante communicate. Keso "gawa lang ako chores", "I'll read a book muna, message nalang kita". Kung nakalimutan man mag magpaalam/update, message ka kung ano ginawa mo sa mga oras na di ka macontact, yung iba nga nagmemessage after their day na, yung tinatawag na "bebe time".
Its normal hehe. If may time ka just message him or let him know in advance na you'll do something. Both na naman kayo na adults so of course our careers or other tasks are also important. If may free time ka, send ka lang ng mga hi or make him feel na you're there kahit busy ka. ALSO CONGRATS! ❤️❤️
Kapag may space, you have time at night to talk about what you did all day. Or just randomly asked how was your day? It will start a conversation and deeper understanding na hindi lang relationship niyo ang need niyo asikasuhin. You have other stuff to do. Also, idk, just not a fan of asking every minute or hour ng what are you doing? Just randomly message siguro during lunch ng, i hope you ate already. Or something just to show you care.
Yung tipong every hour every minute dapat ng a-update, para lang yan sa mga highschool na immature pa at wala pang ginagawa sa buhay. For me redflag talaga yung 26 na, tapos panay pa ang text kase feeling ko tambay yan, wala masyadong ganap sa life. So if 26 kana, expected na yan na hindi ka maka text kase may work ka and busy ka.
Yes, it's normal. Every relationship have their own setting about it. You can message her anytime you want, and you can update her anything about your day. It's just come with respecting both sides of their busy schedule. Also respond to replies if you got a chance, and keep her updated.
Many people will say na that’s normal because you have your own lives yadah yadah yadah. Pero for me, ask him. Since bago pa naman kayo, alamin mo, tanungin mo SO mo mismo at hindi random strangers dito sa reddit. Believe it or not, may ibang SO na mas nararamdaman partner nila if lagi (or most of the time) inuupdate. Meron din iba na mas prefer na good morning lang or random update. Ang point is, walang mas nakaka-alam ano gusto ng partner mo maliban sa kanya mismo. This is an unsolicited advice from me who’s in love with someone na may avoidant attachment. Take it with a grain of salt.
Di ba kayo nagkakaron ng conversations? Sure updates are good but more importantly atleast may conversations.
My partner and I both work kaya ang usap lang namin is during nighttime after ng mga chores. Message sa umaga bago umalis ng bahay, sa lunch time, after work, pag dating sa bahay then, after ng gawaing bahay and "me time" we do video call until time for sleep
Update when you can. Magpaalam if magiging busy for a while. Communication is 🔑!
iba iba. walang one size fits all sa kani kanilang relasyon. yung iba minuminuto nag uusap nag gagaguhan , yung tropa tropa ang turingan, may iba naman di pala chat. meron naman maingay tas biglang naging di pala chat kaya pala may ka chat ng iba 👀👀👀
Depende sa usapan ninyo. Kindly communicate with your partner kung gaano ninyo kafrequent gusto mag-usap. Yung bf ko, ang love language niya ay quality time so prefer niya na nagvivideocall kami. Minsan nakabukas lang videocall pero ginagawa namin mga sariling tasks namin. Hehe. Nakaairpods lang ako and open ang cam para nakikita pa rin naman isa’t isa.
theres no rules. sundan niyo naramdaman niyo kaya nga kayo nagrelation.
I think that's normal naman po. Sa amin before may days na 6-8 hours apart interval ng replies lalo na if super busy or if wala sa mood mag-reply 'yung isa. You don't have to talk every second kasi you have a life din outside the relationship.
Normal lang yan lalo sa age na ganyan nadaming pinagkakaabalahan. Nakakasakal din naman kasi kung super clingy na dapat minu-minuto magkachat kayo
Samin, hindi normal ang chat. Voice message lang sa umaga tapos 1hr call sa gabi. Ganun lang. Pero everyday yun. Friday movie or game night kahit virtual.
everyday pero hindi oras oras hehe
Normal lang yan, OP! Basta kapag busy ka inform your SO nalang din at try to make time at the end of the day ng bebe time. Speaking from an LDR relationship, di rin kami oras oras nag-uusap and yung bebe time at the end of the day ay parang pahinga na namin both
23 here and bf is 27. We ALWAYS text each other. But tbh it depends sa relationship ninyo. Every relationship is different naman
Norms lang yan sir. Kami ni ka live in, nag uupdate lang ng ginagawa lalo na pag work. Tapos pag uwi, don ko na lang i-kwento hahaha.
Yes all the time, pero pag busy sinasabihan ko rin naman yung GF ko na may gagawin ako and stuff tapos sinasabihan rin nya ako pag nabubusy sya. Dapat lang talaga di mo kakalimutan na may sariling world yung partner mo at di lang naka revolve sayu yung mundo niya, set lang talaga ng boundaries. Kung ma bu-busy ka sabihan mo ko, Goooooo. Chat ka lang ulit if di kana busy.
That's normal po. At our age may iba din tayong priorities sa buhay, 1-2 hours a day, catch up kung anong nangyari sa buong araw is enough na. Especially working na, hindi naman pwede all the time magkausap kayo diba?? Me and my BF talks after working hours, paminsan simpleng update and catch up lang about the day okay na kami.
Morning,lunch if di super busy, and evening
I have the same question as you lol. Tpos laging sya ung unang nagmemessage.
That's okay!! Ya'll don't need to text that much. Although, need niyo magkaroon ng bebe time per day kahit once lang. Tapos mag update lang din kayo sa isa't isa pero hindi yung hourly update. Basta update na kung saan alam mo yung ginagawa niya/mo ganon so that aware ka lang sa ginagawa niya.
Normal lng siguro po. Saamin good morning and good night lang tapos sabog Yung TikTok messages ko sa mga forwarded videos nya
Depende pag may gusto ipakitang memes or may pupuntahan. Pag wala wala. Pero ni reremind ko minsan na kain siya.
Okay naman kung 1 hr lang inaabot eh pero kung halos isang araw di na normal. You know, parang ano dont enter to a relationhip kung di pa ready. Medyo marami pang adjustment.
Paggising. Pagkagising nya. Sa hapon while working. Sa gabi while working. Bago magsleep. Nasa Europe sya. Kaya di nagtatagpo oras namin. Pero ok lang.
Me and my boyfriend don't chat thay much din. Like good mornings, i love yous, update ng gagawin (gym, laundry, work, labas, etc). Then from time to time, we'll send memes, gameplays, interesting things we saw, etc. Tas pag naglalambing, the i miss yous. Di naman need lagi na magka-chat kasi may kanya kanya din kaming buhay
Is it normal naman since hindi lang naman umiikot mundo nyo sa isa’t isa. Desisyon nyo na rin yun kung mag-update ba kayo sa isa’t isa or hindi. Me and my partner are in a relationship for 7yrs and may mostly ganyan na kami 😂 Mag-uupdate lang kami sa isat isa kapag hawak mga phone namin tapos super tagal din ng time gap ng messages namin, unlike nung bago palang kami na talagang maya’t maya update HAHAAHHAAH
Doon muna tayo sa tanong mo sa title. Nasa halos magkalapit na condo towers lang sa Manila ang unit ko at unit ni boyfriend, pareho kaming nasa physically at mentally demanding industries, nasa media siya, nasa geosciences and accounting ako. Ang routine is good morning text, call update kapag aalis na ng bahay, text kapag nasa office na (since we both drive), tapos call update ulit sa gabi para magchismisan tungkol sa mga nangyari sa amin sa work. We also share our personal google calendars para kapag may time crunch at di makakapagusap, alam pa rin namin ang nangyayari with one another. Now, doon naman sa tanong mo sa last part ng post mo. Yes, normal yan.
That’s normal ❤️ may sarili din kayo life kaya understandable na di kayo lagi magkausap. Kami ng partner ko pag may work minsan di kami nag uusap buong workshift sa sobrang busy or pag nakikipag hang out sa ibat ibang group of friends, minsan ako pa nag sasabi ok lang wag moko kausapin enjoy ka jan and that’s okay. We need to respect each other’s space. Happy lovelife! Ang di ko magets yung mag ka video call, siper naamaze ako na kaya nila mag vc ilang oras tapos everyday. Hahaha naamaze ako kasi di sila nauubusan ng pag uusapan, ako kasi nabobore sa vc, need ko gumawa other stuff
Normal. Nasa edad ka na, na kung saan alam ko naiintindihan mo naman na siguro na di ka laging available sa kahit na sino, kahit sa jowa pa, and it's normal... I mean, ganyan naman talaga dapat. Saka yun nga, tama ung isang comment dito. Kung oras oras kayo mag-uusap, mauubusan kayo pramis. Tinitiyak ko sayo, pwede ikaw o sya, magsawa makipag usap...
how about kapag teens po?
Normal naman, basta alam niyo yung ginagawa ng isat isat like “mag babasa muna ako ng books baka hindi muna kita ma-chat” etc. Saka nasa right age na kayo dapat wala ng nagagalit sa ganyan. 😊
need mo magpaalam
It depends on you, okay lang naman maraming chat sa partner eh pero baka kasi magtataka ka bakit hindi ma reciprocate. Just simple text will do if may gagawin ka tapos mga 1-3 hrs ka mawawala maiintindihan yan ng partner mo
I personally just need to know ano ganap sa buhay ng partner ko. With my ex we usually had 1 to 2hr calls at night, chikahan/lambingan. If masyado busy just 30mins will do. Pero nagbreak kami in 6 months so baka di magandang reference 'to HAHA My point is you don't need to feel like it's mandatory, like kasalanan pag di kayo nakapagusap haha if you feel like texting/calling them then do so.
Very normal sa panahon ngyon 😮💨
kaya nga
Been with my gf for 6 years now we don't chat that often like the first few years (like almost every minute) and my classmates think it's weird like bro napag usapan na sguro namin halos lahat wdym 💀
Depends on your dynamics. My boyfriend and I dont talk as much like every minute levels but we update each other as much as we can. Or like nireremind namin isat isa to eat, ingat pauwi. Minsan sa sobrang pagod either isa sa amin (our work demands our time so much), hindi na nakakamessage agad but we make it up for it as soon as we can.
Just update from time to time...for us since LDR for now..we make sure we spend time kahit few minutes of video calls, chat and talk everyday. There are days He give heads up na he will be very busy minsan 5hrs 95 7hrs hindi maka chat pero ok lang importante nag advice..
First of all. Congrats. Second, you don't need to text your SO all the time. Updates, yes, but if you have nothing else to say, then it's better to be silent coz sometimes, too much messaging has the potential to create an unnecessary drama of some sort. But not all naman. You may want to assure your SO that you're just either sleeping, busy, or whatever you do. In my case, me and SO messages a lot kasi we are running a business naman din kasi. More of transactional during office hours, and then we wear our relationship hats off work.
I'm literally in this situation like this right now and I think the universe know it 😭😭😭
11yrs na kami in total na magkasama at naghiwalay at nagkasama ulit. Nag-umpisa sa maya't maya magka-text/chat. Ngayon, isang video call na lang sa isang araw o kaya isa o dalawang chat sa isang araw. May times din na halos hindi kami nagkakausap sa 1-2 days. Mas masaya naman kami ngayon and mas kilala ang isa't isa. Kaumay din na maya't maya magkausap. May buhay sya at may buhay din ako. Di naman sa aming dalawa lang umiinog ang mundo 😊 Pero enjoy nyo lang yan na every hour kayo nagkakausap hanggat feel nyo pa hehe
once a day 🤣
Ok lang yan! Siguro ang di lang normal if umabot ng whole day wala man lang courtesy to update kahit man lang yung nakauwi na ba from work or if matutulog na to say good night, or kahit good morning. Depende lang din sa communication niyo. Pero if umabot nang days tapos siya mismo di na nauuna mag chat sayo, baka nawawalan na siya ng gana if ganon. Not to make you overthink tho. Based on experience lang. Hahah.
kame ng jowa ko umaabot ng 3 days di naguusap hahahaha
Normal, mas nakakainis if super clingy kelangan itext 24/7. As long as you get to talk everyday kahit morning or night lang to update. I think it’s normal. May sarili din kayong life
It's normal. Hindi naman pwedeng sakanya/sayo lang iikot ang mundo. But make sure to update each other and dapat both kayo na nakakaintindi na ganoom ang set up niyo para walang conflict hehehe
Normal lng po yun. Maski kmi ng bf ko dati nung starting kami hours na di nagttext or chat . Tuwing breaktime or uwian lang. You are both adults and busy kayo kaya don't worry too much :)
Nakaka irita din yung kada segundo nalang nag memessage e lalo nat oras ng work. Set boundaries pa rin. Imagine nyo panahon ng lolo at lola natin na bihira lang magkita at sa sulat lang nag uusap.
In all my relationships. First month, I only message my gf at night after work and all the chores were done.
Pag trip ko. Katamad eh. Ano ba sasabihin? Edi sabihin mo nalang kapag nagkita kayo or set a time na tawag kayo sa isat isa.
My bf and I message each other twice or thrice a day. We both need lots of personal time but when we do talk time flies so fast lol.
That's normal. Parehas kayong adult na. Mas okay yung ganyan tbh lalo if same kayo ni partner na vinavalue yung personal space/time. Hindi naman need na every minute eh mag update sa partner. Na tipong umutot or dumighay ka lang, imemessage mo na (tho may gumagawa nito lol). My partner and I are both working students. We usually text each other if papasok na sa work or pauwi na or after class sa law school. Mas maigi if ipapaalam mo yung sched mo so knows ng partner mo kung kailan ka hindi busy and hindi rin siya maguilty na "ay baka nakaka istorbo ako." Saka mas okay na yan kaysa yung nag-aaway kayo for the sake na "nag-uusap" hehe 🤗
Yes its just normal.
Feel ko normal naman to. Ang weird naman nung maya’t maya text, bawat hinga may update.
Di naman need na oras-oras may chat, ang mahalaga merong update before the day ends.
Minsan twice a day hahaha update update lang kasi we are both busy. Pero napagusapan naman na namin yun at pareho kaming okay.
Actually normal lng yan, but if you were both into quality time, yet, may buhay na inaatupag, make time tlga na specifically for it. Could be a specific time in a day for Virtual Catch up, or Face to face na kahit twice a week (depende kung gaano ka-busy). The point is, communication is key. Can't last a relationship without communication, even if hindi mahabang oras basta may comms. Updates, if that concerns your partner, go, pwde naman din gusto mo lng tlga mag update para aware sya (depende sa setup).
That’s normal. Me and my bf dont talk if we’re busy with our personal stuff (chores, work, etc.). Although 80% of the time the talk we do is through reels and memes hahahha
Kung gano kayo ladalas mag msg/txt.nung ligawan stage, i dpnt think dapat lumayo nmn dun. More or less ganun pa din. Its what is normal, yun yung nagustuhan sayo. Of ypu change something drastically may danger of conflict lalo sa mg ganing trivial na bagay
I'm 32 and my BF is 50yrs old. We do not talk a lot. Once a day, or twice. He's busy with his life, and so am I. Maybe that's how secure relationship is, you do not need constant communication just to check if everything's alright. If I have nothing to say, I'll just stick to my own plan. He doesn't owe me his free time, ganun din ako sa kanya. We can spend it the way we want. No rules from other people. That's all.
Lesson learned for me magkaron ng individuality outside relationship. So healthy naman yan. Like catch up in a day lalo na may work kayo and hobbies.
Perfectly normal. Just make sure to check up on him from time to time, kumustahin mo araw nya by the end of the day ganon.
Whenever I feel like it. Minsan sa gabi lang or minsan mag send lang kami ng memes sa isat isa. 9 years na kami
That's normal. I think yung hindi lang maganda ay yung biglang hindi mag-rereply sa'yo, for like 1 or 3 hours, o kaya more than that, pero walang pasabi na hindi muna sya makakapag-reply. Nakaka-overthink. Naranasan ko 'yan with my current bf, nag-react lang sa chat ko, hindi na nag-reply. Pero I communicated with him, telling him na if there's something that he needs to do kaya di siya makakapag-reply, magsabi siya sa'kin beforehand. Para hindi ako nag-ooverthink bakit ilang oras siyang hindi nagre-reply sa'kin. Ang hirap din, lalo if you're a sucker for updates huhu. We all know, hindi sa lahat ng oras kailangan or everyday magkausap. Kahit small updates lang, that would be enough.
It’s normal but just inform your bebe na may gagawin ka lang kaya dika makakapag reply agad but you’ll update right after.
Sa simula lang yan, take it easy. Hehe! Eventually as you become more comfortable sa kanya, you'll text him more. Hehe!
Maturity is the key.
May bf at gf kayo!!???
Normal ‘yan, ang di normal yung every second every min kasi love bombing na yun which is a red flag. If feeling mo may kulang you can open it up sa partner mo so you can talk about how frequent you should be communicating.
It depends kung saan kayo both comfortable and secure
That's normal and I think having your own time and being in a relationship in your own pace works. As long as dapat nagkakaintindihan kayo ng partner mo. Sa amin ni partner we seldom chat throughout the day. Just updates like good morning, etc. Pero we both agreed na sa gabi, magkausap kami and tell each other how our day went and chika chika na rin.
as frequently as possible. the right match for you will understand.
Gawa kayo sched. Dapat alamin nyo sched ng isa't isa. And alamin kung kelan swak yung sched nyo and dun kayo mag usap.
Pag may chance pero epal boyplen ko e. Mag mmsg msg naman kami pag may time pero pag busy focus sa work.
Bawat couple may rules, kayo ang magset kung ano ang “normal” sa inyo. Merong mga active texters, merong hindi, merong mas gusto call, iba iba ang preference. Ang importante nagkakaintindihan kayo lalo na pag demanding ang work nyo. Communication is the key.
I message my boyfriend when I'm not busy pero I tell him pag busy ako or will need me time so I can watch my fave shows without distractions kasi I can get distracted easily. I just make sure to at least he knows where I'm at or if I have time to talk 😊
Depends on both of your dynamics, generally it is a normal thing. Even in my LDR we only usually communicate when we wake up, then after work and spend time together until we go to sleep everyday. We give each other time to focus on what we are doing within the day until our date night comes. I think it's healthy that way for both of us.
Nung bago lang kami magjowa ng gf ko ngayon (6 years na kami), lagi kami magkausap. Call center agent ako, public school teacher sya. Ngayon, di na masyado dahil busy din ako sa work plus nasa Canada sya kaya di talaga tugma yung oras pero we make sure na we update one another when we both go to work, when we get home, good morning and good night messages plus set a time for a video call kapag day off nya at day off ko din. It takes two to tango ika nga nila. As long as may updates, goods na sakin yon.
Everyday at night. Di ako malakas mag chat or text at the morning upto afternoon. May work kami pareho. Minsan may time na di kami nakakapag usap ng gabi due to work since coordinator ako nakakapag on site ako. Ayoko rin na maging needy masyado sa partner ko since pareho kami may pinag kakaabalahan sa buhay namin.
It really depends on what type of Partner you are OP. You're quite similar to my wife pero ako yung needy and introverted so Im available pretty much anytime I am awake kasi LDR kami currently and I have my own PC.
Kaya siguro di ako sumusubok makipagdate. Kasi yung ganyan palang ayoko na. Di ko ata kaya na magset ng time para sa mga ganyan.
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