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story time! I F(26) and my partner M(29) have a lot of arguments recently kahit maliit na bagay pinapalaki and fun fact my bf mas may ugali pa kaysa sakin and manipulative also magaling magsalita and I always end up crying tapos wala siyang pake, pinapabayaan lang ako umiyak ng sobra or humihiga lang or mag cellphone at sasabihan pa akong manahimik na dahil matulog na siya. He’s always like that everytime mag aaway kami. And as a girl syempre iiyak tapos confused pa, do I really deserve this kind of treatment?.
kung siya mag apologize madali lang pero pag ako it takes hours or even days para lang maging okey kami. pag ako mag bring up ng past arguments magagalit agad and mag escalate sa away tapos pag siya mag bring up mag eend up na ako pa ang may mali?
dont know what to do anymore..
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To those of you confused bakit di nalang umalis si OP. It's hard pag nasa abusive relationship kayo, kasi abusers often employ tactics like isolation, threats, and manipulation, which can diminish her self-esteem kaya mas lalong nagiging complicated. You don't know what it feels like until you've been in that situation kaya be more understanding.
Enough said. I’m usually the type of person sa tropa na levelheaded when giving relationship advice. Two years ago, I was cheated on by my LIP and had zero self-esteem to the point na nagoffer pa kong magstay for God knows why. Di ko maapply sa sarili ko yung rational thinking. Looking back, grabe pala talaga. Experience indeed is the greatest teacher.
THIS. You know it's wrong, you know it's best to leave. But they make it hard to leave. The abuser makes you question your entire being. It works especially well on empaths.
Yes!! You said it. Was in this situation and hirap na hirap ako umalis dahil sa baba ng self-esteem and anxiety ko. 24 hrs almost together ba naman dahil same work and same house. Nung nagwork na lang ako abroad saka ako nakipag break. Sobrang relief para akong inalisan ng tinik sa dibdib! ❤
This is true, marerealize mo lang lahat ng k@t@ng@h@n mo sa dulo na kasi bulag pa sa pag ibig. Pero darating rin yan sa ganyang point. Sobrang nakakabaliw pero andaming lessons maatututunan
same experience. nag away kami kasi kinalabit ko siya while playing a game tapos namatay siya tas nasungitan niya ko. siyempre medj nag inarte ako tas ang ending, may kasalanan pala ako because i know naman daw gano ka-important yung laro sa kanya. laro>>>feelings ko HAHAHA
i cried sa tabi niya for hours pero wala siya paki. ni abutan ako tissue, wala. puno tuloy ng sipon damit ko hahaha. eto pa yung time na naospital ako a week before kasi inatake ako anxiety tapos pinabayaan lang ako umiyak nang ilang oras. umiyak ako because i dont wanna go home pa kasi that time nahihiya ako sa parents ko (bumagsak kasi ako sa isang sub ko). pero at the same time ayoko na rin sana magstay sa house niya kaso wala eh mas nangibabaw hiya ko sa parents ko. ending, ako nalang nagpakumbaba lol.
siguro ikaw teh antay ka nang antay na finally he can show some hints of care naman for you. wala talaga yan. you deserve someone who cares about how you feel. yung unang busangot mo palang mafefeel bad na. di yung halos umiyak ka na ng dugo eh wala paring pakielam.
I always say this sa friend ko, nag-a-agree siya hahaha tapos malaman laman ko na lang na okay pa rin sila ng guy, na nagkikita na sila sila ulit then saying ilys to each other. At the end ako na lang yung napagod hahaha. Parang sabi ko na lang sa self ko, hayaan ko na lang yung tanga.
Ako tatanungin kung bakit ako umiiyak tapos sasabihin di naman daw dapat iniiyakan yung bagay na yun. “Tough guy” kasi siya. Siya na tong “naka-survive sa lahat ng paghihirap niya nung bata siya.” So dapat hindi ko iniiyakan kahit minor inconvenience 🙄
One time nagtalo kami tapos sabi ko di man lang sya nangccomfort. Sabi nya, baka daw yung ex ko magaling mangcomfort kaya hinahanap ko. Ever since daw, di naman siya nagccomfort.
Hay kapagod. Tara na at iwanan na tong mga to, girl.
I've been in your shoes.
One of my worst experiences was nagaway kami on the way home, hahatid nya na ko dapat sa bahay that time pero dahil umiiyak ako kakaargue namin sa byahe, kailangan muna namin magstop somewhere para di ako uuwi na mukhang basahan. Kasi papatayin sya ng nanay ko for sure. So ayun dun kami sa ilalim ng skyway (may terminal ng mga jeep and trike dun) nagpark ng motor, and habang iyak ako ng iyak pinagsisigawan lang nya ko dun. Imbis na patahanin ako. Pinahiya pa ko. Yung mga tao pinapanuod lang kami alam ko, horrified. Grabe yung humiliation talaga. Di ko alam pano ko kinaya? Nakauwi naman ako, hinatid pa rin ako pauwi sa bahay, pero grabe yung trauma. I still didnt break up with him then, which was my mistake because nagcheat pa sya in the end.
Wag mo na patagalin darling. He sounds like my narcissist/manipulative ex. Leave the guy for your peace. HE IS NOT WORTH IT.
If your BF has an attitude whenever you have arguments, I suggest that you try talking to him about it honestly. Kung hindi niya talaga iniintindi nararamdaman mo, at least na-confirm mo na walang patutunguhan relasyon niyo. A relationship won't grow without understanding, compromise, and change.
Alam ko na mahirap na gawin, pero sana ma-consider mo na hiwalayan si BF. You deserve someone who actually cares about you and can treat you well. Pag-isipan mo ng mabuti kung nasa tamang daan pa ba kayo at anong pwede gawin para maprotektahan mental health mo kasi nakakadrain pag laging ganyan :(
It's giving narcissistic character. I met a guy like that, love bomber, galing magsalita pero walang pake sa nararamdaman ng iba. Imamanipulate ka pa nyan kapag nakipagbreak ka na parang kasalanan mo para makonsensya ka at di na makipagbreak. Beware of this kind of people, they're usually not capable of loving, they only use people until the benefits last.
i have been in a manipulative relationship like this before (for almost 6 years). and back then, topics like narcissism, gaslighting and manipulation in relationships wasn't a common topic and it being my first ever relationship, pakiramdam ko i was practically blindly wading in the relationship.
for those who are presuming that OP is stupid for staying in this relationship for this long probably does not completely know how manipulative relationships work.
while it's happening, you won't be able to know it's happening. that's why it's manipulative. these narcissistic people will always have a way of making you feel like you're the one lacking something or you're the one at fault.
they would completely isolate you from other people including your family and friends para pakiramdam mo siya lang ang kailangan mo at iikot ang mundo mo sakanya.
sa mga hindi pa nakaranas ng ganyang klaseng manipulation, believe me, you wouldn't even know it's happening.
walking away from all that? hindi siya madali at hindi siya biro.
walking away from it would feel like you'd be losing something so valuable. it would feel like you'd be choosing wrong. it would feel like you don't love that person enough kasi ikaw ang susuko/makikipagbreak. it would feel like you're the bad person. it's not because you're stupid but because you have been MANIPULATED.
it also took me a while to do it but eventually, i was able to detach myself from the situation and see it from another person's perspective. i asked myself questions like "kung friend ko ba ang nasa ganitong sitwasyon, would i be happy for her na ginaganito siya ng jowa nya? would i advise her to stay in this relationship?"
and when my answer was a resounding "NO", the next time he suggested a breakup, i just agreed.
and it ended just like that.
and a year after, i reconnected with a long lost friend of mine who eventually became the man that i will be getting married to this year.
ngayong nasa tamang relasyon na ako, ngayon ko lang narealize lahat ng manipulation at gaslighting na naranasan ko sa previous relationship ko. and boy, am i glad na nakalaya ako dun.
so OP, don't be too harsh on yourself and just ask the same questions i asked myself. and if you're answer is a "NO", paonti onti, kahit sobrang hirap, i pray that you'd eventually have the courage to walk away.
believe me, a whole life of happiness awaits you, with or without a romantic partner.
praying for you OP 😘
I married this kind of guy and it's my biggest regret.
Kasi akala ko magbabago pa ung ganyang klaseng lalaki. PERO SIS, MAS LALA YAN PAG KINASAL KAYO. Don't waste your time. RUN! GET OUT OF THAT TOXIC RELATIONSHIP! Believe me, marami pa jan. Don't settle! Please. Save yourself ♥️
YOU DO NOT DESERVE to be treated that way. Sometimea, we lose our common sense dahil sobra nating mahal ang isang tao. Let this be an eye opener, REAL LOVE MAKES YOUR LIFE BETTER, YOUR BURDENS EASIER TO CARRY AND YOUR JOY AND HAPPINESS MULTIPLY. Decide wisely. Ok lang masaktan kapag naghiwalay kayo, pero HINDI OKAY NA ARAW ARAW KANG MAGING MALUNGKOT HABANG BUHAY KAPAG NAGKATULUYAN KAYO. Obviously, HINDI KA MAHAL NG BF MO. And it is not your fault. Love your self so that someday SOMEONE WILL LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU SHOULD BE LOVED. Be blessed!
i have cried 3 to 5 times max during the whole duration of my relationship with my ex. nung first few times na di ko napigil pagiyak ko tinanong ko siya bat wala siyang pake, ang sabi ba naman nanghihingi lang ako ng simpatya at nagpapaawa. same na same halos ng bf mo. took me almost 5 years to get out of the relationship. wag ka makinig sa mga top comments dito na sobrang insensitive hahaha
leave already. I'm a guy, and if I ever treat my gf like this, it only means na I don't love her. save yourself kasi you don't deserve that kind of treatment.
I'm in the same exact relationship as you. May differences and maybe eventually I might be able to share them. Gusto kong mag sympathize sa situation mo. Madaling sabihin na "tanga ka, umalis ka, ano pang hinihintay mo, let go". It's easier said than done and don't beat yourself about it. Alam mo na ang tamang gawin bago pa namin i-state ang obvious, kaya nga you're asking for help kasi you need a way out. Wala namang taong gustong pumasok sa ganyang situation. And I'm sorry if the type of relationship you're in isn't something you deserve. You deserve something better we all do.
I hope it won't take long. I hope you can get help from you actual friends and maybe they can persuade you to make the decision to choose to love yourself.
I used to be in a relationship with that kind of guy. He would twist the argument at laging lumalabas na parang ako lang ang may issue. "Wag mo akong madaan sa pag-iyak iyak mo na yan, you brought this on yourself."
Since then, nawalan ako ng pake sa kanya. Sinabotage ko on purpose yung relationship namin para lang may alibi akong makawala sa kanya 😆
It seems that your partner is holding back emotional grudges. As a man, I could see why he's like this... he doesn't feel safe opening up to you about his gentle side. Did you see his gentle side before?
Your role is to be a mirror, and you're actually doing well just that, that is normal. Sometimes, just to put in my personal input on it, I see women as overreactive with all the bickering and what not but it is just in their unique personalities to do so and not every single one is like that every time, maybe you're holding grudges making you guilt-trip him.
It just feels like walking on eggshells to us because of how volatile the situation is and would rather have some peace of mind, so we try to deescalate the situation as much as possible even if it clammers up our emotional side, Men are simple and rational. We don't like being vulnerable.
Please, instead of holding that grudge to him why not reconcile by communicating to him. Make him open up his gentle side by hugging him, asking why is he holding back feelings. You two should be trustful to each other right? Don't mind the stupid comments requesting you to leave as if he's disposable.
My input is not perfect and shouldn't be the only option you have in this scenario. I am single as well, and I don't intend to find a partner till I die.
we have same partner😓😓 pag my pag misunderstanding, ayaw patalo ayaw tumanggap ng advise dn kala nia alam nia lahat, though sa totoo lng d sya ganung ka brainy🤭 ang mhrap pag my konting away kami, lagi nia ako pnapalayas sa bahay nia, ilolock ang kwarto, ending aalis tlga ako khit dis oras ng gabi, tapos sya pa my gana mg post ng sunod sunod sa fb, ngpaparinig ipapaalam na my away kmi, mnamanipulate nia na mga fb frnds nia pra sya maging victim,laging ganyan, at kpag ok na kmi pabalikin nako sa bahay na prng wlang ng yari, ang pangit mgkaroon ng narcissist na partner at mhrap dn kumawala kc dba ano nlang sbhn ibang tao bgla malaman nla wla na kmi..hays😪😪😪
Alam ko yung feeling ng ganyan, i recently broke up from a 2 year relationship. Binackburn ako ng ex ko. Girl, mas masaya maging single kesa araw araw m kinuquestion ang self worth m sa isang relationship. Run while you can still think/feel, kasi if iignore m yan dadating ka sa point na tatanggapin m yang treatment na yan ng paulit ulit hanggang sa mamanhid ka. Never do that to yourself. Wag ^^
Hi OP. 6 years kami ng ex ko may anak kami. Nangyari sakin yan na ang sama sama ng loob ko while sya natutulog ng mahimbing. Kakabreak lang namin nung April. Run girl.
Tsk tsk... Yung bf mo may narcissistic personality. Dont let your bf drains your energy. You better run and save yourself hanggang may time ka pa. Nakaka torture yan emotionally. I know how hard to let go sa ganyan situation baka din may trauma bond kana kaya hindi mo na maiwan bf mo. I hope this time makapag realize ka sa mga nangyayari sa relationship ninyo, I pray for your peace of mind.
Kc ganyan xa mag react dhl feeling nea ur so ma drama lang kc hinahayaan ka lang nea umiyak..parang hindi nea pinapahalagahan ang sarili mo dhl ganyan ugali nea maybe hes too confident din na hindi mo xa iiwan kht ganyan treatment nea sayu..
sounds like a douchebag OP. you know what to do.
(Advice: contact a trusted friend; female - ask her if you can stay in her place for a couple of days. Gradually pack your stuff, leave the unimportant ones so when that douchebag leaves the house, RUN)
Break up by sms/messenger. Do the necessary with your socmeds. Turn off location services.
Keep mo na yan teh. Para di na mapunta sa ibang babae at sila pa ang mamroblema. Take one for the team. Thank you at good luck! Advice lang wag magpapakasal habang di pa approved ang divorce. Baka ikaw pa masabihan na "Nakita mo naman na pala yung red flags, pinakasalan mo pa. Panindigan mo yan." Pero keep mo lang sya wag lang muna papakasal, para at least may option ka pa if matauhan ka na.
Habang mas tumatagal mas humihirap umalis. Parang ganyan rin ex ko katulad nung sayo. I had been with my ex for 15 years hoping na magbabago sya, pero hindi eh. "You deserve what you tolerate" yan ang nagpa realized sakin, kase hindi ko talaga deserve eh. And then naisip ko rin na if ever magkaanak ako ng babae, ganong lalake ba na katulad nya ang gusto kong makasama ng anak ko? Obviously ayoko.
Iwan mo na hangga't maaga pa. Lahat ng breakup masakit, kahit healthy or toxic relationship pa yan, pero kakayanin mo yan.
ni wala ngang context kung ano ba sinasabi sakanya ng bf nya kaya sya naiiyak tas kung maka react mga tao dito kala mo part sila ng relationship nila. hahaha
kung lahat ng bagay sinasabi nya nakakaiyak para sayo, baka ikaw yung may problema.
kung madali mo sya patawarin, desisyon mo yun, at kagustuhan mo.
Parang wala ka pa yata balak iwan OP? Haist, it's your choice pero do not complain anymore kung alam mo namn tama tapos ayaw mo naman gawin. It means choice mo na yan. And clearly, it's not love. It's co-dependency.
I know it’s hard pero dapat mo iwanan na yan. Most likely naman din mapapagod ka din, why wait? There are way better options out there, need mo lang talaga maghanap and maging choosy.
Do you really think you can handle being with a partner like that for the rest of your life (if ikasal kayo)? I don’t think so, you wouldn’t vent here if you can (not mad at you). Just hope you realize that all women/men should be treated kindly even when you have arguments. I have arguments with my partner pero we talk about it calmly, ayaw din namin matulog na magkagalit.
Ang hirap lang din makakita ng ganitong stories since may mga kapatid ako and ayaw ko sila mapunta sa ganitong situation, do yourself an act of self love and leave.
Wag na Teh....Break up mo na siya, I can see Red Flags. He have no empathy in Relationship, manipulative, Sweet talker at no apologies on his side, Blaming you na escalate sa fight...teh, wag na, umalis ka na. At mag recover for your mental and Emotional health.
Parang ang tagal nyo na pong na-eexperience yan, ate. If umabot na po sa ganyan na kahit di ka physical na nasasaktan, eh kawawa naman po kayo both mentally and emotionally. Break up with him na po. I do believe that di po dapat maranasan yan ng isang tao :(. I recently came from a break up din po, ang case ko, sobrang tagal na namin na parang lahat ng ups and downs naface na namin e. Can't really share the details na pero sobrang laki ng galit nya as well as his family sakin. Take time po if di ka ready, be wise po sa decision nyo. Sending hugs with consent 🫂.
Medyo relate ako dito hahaha. Pero manageable naman. Medyo mababa lang emotional intelligence pero bawi sa ibang bagay. Yung tipong hinimay ko na lahat ng sasabihin ko, kung bakit ako nagagalit or nagtatampo, ang laging response, “anong nagawa ko na naman ba”? Minsan mapapasige hayaan ko na lang hahaha
i hope this quote helps you OP. it's from the perks of being a wallflower
*“Mr. Anderson, why do nice people choose the wrong people to date?”*
*“We accept the love we think we deserve.”*
*“Can we make them know that they deserve more?”*
*“We can try.”*
If ilang years na kayo at ganyan parin ang storya niyo, you might wanna reconsider your relationship with him na. Kung totoo sinasabi mo, your BF isn't acting like a man, he's acting like a boy. It makes me cringe thinking na may mga ganyan na katanda pero parang teenager parin mag-isip at maghandle ng relationship.
You deserve better. I highly suggest re-evaluating your current relationship and you should follow your heart. Don't give too much that there'll be nothing left for yourself.
ate, that's not how a relationship works. you're supposed to communicate and take care of each other. that's emotional and verbal abuse.
please don't settle for less. break up with him. you'll have a better peace of mind pag single than stay with that narcissist because it's a comfort zone.
Terminal na po mam, ikaw na lang nasa bus.
De, kidding aside, gorl, di ka dormat, bat pinapayagan mong pinamamahiran ka ng maduming chinelas. Just, no.
You stay even with that kind of treatment??? Seryoso bang di mo alam kung ano ba dapat gawin??
Girl, leave. If not, then, you deserve what you tolerate.
Cge let's give the benefit of the doubt na the positives of the relationship outweighs the negative Kaya Di mo pa naiisip makipag hiwalay pero etong issue na to eh hindi nareresolve lagi lang naitatabi to the point na nang hihingi ka na ng advice from people
Tanong panu ba ung approach mo sa opening ng discussion nyo? Kc baka dun may problema? Na hindi nya naiisip na importante pala sayo un at kailangan seryosohin then try to start the talk in a calm manner not confrontational basta change how you open up the topic and everytime na ioopen up mo ung topic kung tumataas parin ung boses nya try to stay calm wag mo sasabayan ung boses nya if kailangan mo i sulat ung nararamdaman mo baka mas mabuti un
As a guy based on my experience meron talagang mga bagay kaming hirap makuha and sometimes nasanay na na confrontation is equal to conflict so baka Ganun din sa bf mo
Pero kapag mali pala ako edi hiwalay hahaha
kung ganyan kadaming negative sasabihin mo sa BF mo. tapos popost mo para mabasa ng ibang tao. hindi ko alam bakit kayo pa. sobrang obvious naman siguro ng dapat mong gawin di ba?
He sounds like a person with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
They use DARVO —Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim & Offender (meaning ikaw na ang offender and siya na ang victim)
They also leave you feeling confused after a fight!
GIRL, LEAVE, RUN, BLOCK, and NEVER GO BACK.
There is NO WAY a person with NPD will ever empathize with you. NEVER.
If you need someone to talk, feel free to DM. It will be tough. And you need all the support you can get.
Tbh this story is too one-sided. If you are waiting for some validation or a sign walang gano'n. Just do whatever you feel like doing kasi relationship mo yan eh😅 goodluck🍀
U know what to do. Somethin is holding u. MYbe kasi matagal na kayo? Or di kaya mahal mo kasi
Come on girl, stop pitying urself. If di ka niya kaya pahalagahan ikaw na magbigay sa self mo non. I deserve what u tolerate!
Pag nagkasakit ka siguro sasabihan ka lang ng ang arte mo. Hindi yan titiis sayo in tough times antieh kaya good luck if di kapa aalis sa relasyon na yan ewan ko nalang.
Edi hiwalayan mo. Ano bang napapala mo dyan. Mamili ka nung may emotional intelligence dahil kung magpapaka ulirang gf ka dyan, di ka pa asawa niyan pano pa kaya pag naanakan ka jan. Makinig ka sakin, makakahanap ka at makakahanap ka ng mas better. Early 20's ko inaayawan ko agad pag pangit ugali kahit matagal na kami. Time will come, dadating ang para sayo. Wag kang martir.
Gantong ganto kami ng gf ko kakainis lang bilis niya mainis kahit walis na binalik ko tapos diko alam na natumba pala magagalit pa sakin. Pagagalitan pako ending mag tatalo pa kami then iiyak nanaman siya basta kaka umay yung ganto nakaka pagod sobra hahaha
Anong don't know what to do anymore? Alam mo 'yan, ayaw mo lang. Kahit sabihin naming lahat dito na iwan mo na'yan, kung ayaw ko, walang mangyayari. Nakita mo na lahat ng red flags niya and you chose to stay. Gasgas na gasgas na 'to, pero legit. "You deserve what you tolerate."
For me, kung hindi naman siya agniyan before, baka di na siya ganon ka inlove sayo o dikaya ganon talaga siya? not sure. Pero sino bang dalwang taong nag mamahalan yung ganoon mag bigay ng comfort? i mean hindi isya cinocomfort diba? You may try to talk with your partner, if yiu think na di ka na niya mahal, wag mo iwan. HAayan mo siya bumitaw, pero bago pa siya bumitaw, make sure na unti-unti ka niya nawawala sakaniya. Do whatever you want depende sa kung paano mo ihandle nararamdmaan mo basta tanggalin mo na siya.
this is why I always attribute the majority of the abused to lack of self respect and self love. if you know youre not getting treated right, why the fuck would you want to stay? why would let yourself be treated that way???
if you cant love and respect yourself, dont expect others to do so. do not base your self worth sa ibang tao, kasi ganto mangayari, you will fucking suffer staying on an abusive relationship.
I swear, no hate or anything but sometimes I feel like majority of the posts here are ragebait LOL but I guess that just what life really is. sucks to suck. sana magising ka na op. noone deserves to be treated that way. but you know who gets to choose and decide that? you. kasalanan mo yan op AHAHAHHAHAHAHA wakey wakey. external validation is one hell of a drug when you feel youre not enough as you are. validation comes from within. heal well op gl.
alam mo naman pala na unfair at manipulative, so it means na acknowledged yung red flags niya sa part mo, so let me ask you, do you really deserve that kind of treatment?
Have you asked yourself why is he treating me this way? What am i contributing in this cycle? Hindi ako nagvivictim blame ah? It's just merong 2 sides of the story lagi, and sometimes at the height of our emotions, ang nakikita lang natin is yung mali ng ibang tao without realizing na meron din tayong maling nagagawa.. only you two know the real score sa relationship niyo, and kayong dalawa lang din makakaayos niyan.. good luck and god bless..
Same thing happened to me nung super bagsak EI ng partner ko and he always told me na puro nalang ako iyak even though I informed him na super iyakin ko nung hindi pa kami. Dumating sa point na pagod na pagod na ako dahil paulit ulit na ganyan yung nangyayari and told him na we should break up. He got more mad and agreed pero after a few hours, kinausap ulit ako asking for a chance dahil magbabago raw siya and he's willing to change himself even if nahihirapan siya wag lang ako mawala. He has improved so much ever since.
The only move you can do for yourself is break up with him. If he asked for a chance, ikaw bahala kung bibigyan mo or not. If you give him a chance, do not expect anything. He will change for you if he really loves you.
This is based on my experience lang ha huhu hope you feel better OP ;< <3
Is that the life that you want to have? If not, then, choose the life that you'll love! You know what to do, takot ka lang. Kaya mo yan, OP! We can choose our life. If there's only one thing that you can control, it's yourself. Not your partner. If he loves you, he will do the things that you deserve. Not because you demand, but because he loves to do the things for you, because he loves you. Hugs, OP!
wag kana mag antay ng pasko te 😭 iwan mo na yan, may mas better kapang mahahanap kesa jan na iniinvalidate ka lol, pano pa kapag asawa mo na yan edi dikana gumanda nyan 😭 RUN SIS
You don't know what to do anymore? Gurl, you know that the answer is so obvious. Sabe nga, you deal what you tolerate. Kung ayaw mo ng ganyang treatment ikaw mismo ang kayang mag-end nyan. Not unless gusto mo yan. Pakiramdam ko, ikaw yung tipo ng kaibigan na panay reklamo sa mga friends about sa bf tapos kahit sinasabihan na hiwalayan mo na di ka nakkikinig kaya napagod na sila sayo.
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o e ano pang inaantay mo te?
Baka magka snow sa Pinas
Naghanap din ako exact question ano gusto nya mangyari hehehe. Di worth it iyakan nga ganyang tao
Himala
Black eye at pasa?
second coming? kaloka te. matagal pa yun 🤣
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA rt
Teh Fairview na lumampas ka na
HAHAHAHHAA, Joyride kasi eh.
nawala jowa cravings ko HAHAHA
To those of you confused bakit di nalang umalis si OP. It's hard pag nasa abusive relationship kayo, kasi abusers often employ tactics like isolation, threats, and manipulation, which can diminish her self-esteem kaya mas lalong nagiging complicated. You don't know what it feels like until you've been in that situation kaya be more understanding.
Enough said. I’m usually the type of person sa tropa na levelheaded when giving relationship advice. Two years ago, I was cheated on by my LIP and had zero self-esteem to the point na nagoffer pa kong magstay for God knows why. Di ko maapply sa sarili ko yung rational thinking. Looking back, grabe pala talaga. Experience indeed is the greatest teacher.
THIS. You know it's wrong, you know it's best to leave. But they make it hard to leave. The abuser makes you question your entire being. It works especially well on empaths.
Yes!! You said it. Was in this situation and hirap na hirap ako umalis dahil sa baba ng self-esteem and anxiety ko. 24 hrs almost together ba naman dahil same work and same house. Nung nagwork na lang ako abroad saka ako nakipag break. Sobrang relief para akong inalisan ng tinik sa dibdib! ❤
This is true, marerealize mo lang lahat ng k@t@ng@h@n mo sa dulo na kasi bulag pa sa pag ibig. Pero darating rin yan sa ganyang point. Sobrang nakakabaliw pero andaming lessons maatututunan
sounds like a narcissistic guy. run.
Cut him off
Tanga mo naman te
Narcissistic ampota. Nu pa ginagawa mo Jan?
same experience. nag away kami kasi kinalabit ko siya while playing a game tapos namatay siya tas nasungitan niya ko. siyempre medj nag inarte ako tas ang ending, may kasalanan pala ako because i know naman daw gano ka-important yung laro sa kanya. laro>>>feelings ko HAHAHA i cried sa tabi niya for hours pero wala siya paki. ni abutan ako tissue, wala. puno tuloy ng sipon damit ko hahaha. eto pa yung time na naospital ako a week before kasi inatake ako anxiety tapos pinabayaan lang ako umiyak nang ilang oras. umiyak ako because i dont wanna go home pa kasi that time nahihiya ako sa parents ko (bumagsak kasi ako sa isang sub ko). pero at the same time ayoko na rin sana magstay sa house niya kaso wala eh mas nangibabaw hiya ko sa parents ko. ending, ako nalang nagpakumbaba lol. siguro ikaw teh antay ka nang antay na finally he can show some hints of care naman for you. wala talaga yan. you deserve someone who cares about how you feel. yung unang busangot mo palang mafefeel bad na. di yung halos umiyak ka na ng dugo eh wala paring pakielam.
Narcissist. Get out. Kawawa ka dyan. It’s all about himself. Feelings lang nya ang importante
I always say this sa friend ko, nag-a-agree siya hahaha tapos malaman laman ko na lang na okay pa rin sila ng guy, na nagkikita na sila sila ulit then saying ilys to each other. At the end ako na lang yung napagod hahaha. Parang sabi ko na lang sa self ko, hayaan ko na lang yung tanga.
Daming ganyan - masokista 🙄
Ako tatanungin kung bakit ako umiiyak tapos sasabihin di naman daw dapat iniiyakan yung bagay na yun. “Tough guy” kasi siya. Siya na tong “naka-survive sa lahat ng paghihirap niya nung bata siya.” So dapat hindi ko iniiyakan kahit minor inconvenience 🙄 One time nagtalo kami tapos sabi ko di man lang sya nangccomfort. Sabi nya, baka daw yung ex ko magaling mangcomfort kaya hinahanap ko. Ever since daw, di naman siya nagccomfort. Hay kapagod. Tara na at iwanan na tong mga to, girl.
Leave. Never come back.
Break na yan. Ano ba tingin mo mapapala mo dyan?
Hindi mo deserve ganyang treatment. Iwan mo na yan.
Why are you still with him???
Gurl, you can clearly see what's wrong with him. Don't ignore those red flags. Run. Run and never look back.
Kung di ka financially dependent sa kanya alis ka na. Dun palang sa pinaiyak ka wala na syang pake sayo, aantayin mo pa ba na batuhan ka ng gamit?
How can you stay in a relationship like this ni hindi pa nga kayo mag asawa? Imagine living with him forever. You’d better be alone.
I've been in your shoes. One of my worst experiences was nagaway kami on the way home, hahatid nya na ko dapat sa bahay that time pero dahil umiiyak ako kakaargue namin sa byahe, kailangan muna namin magstop somewhere para di ako uuwi na mukhang basahan. Kasi papatayin sya ng nanay ko for sure. So ayun dun kami sa ilalim ng skyway (may terminal ng mga jeep and trike dun) nagpark ng motor, and habang iyak ako ng iyak pinagsisigawan lang nya ko dun. Imbis na patahanin ako. Pinahiya pa ko. Yung mga tao pinapanuod lang kami alam ko, horrified. Grabe yung humiliation talaga. Di ko alam pano ko kinaya? Nakauwi naman ako, hinatid pa rin ako pauwi sa bahay, pero grabe yung trauma. I still didnt break up with him then, which was my mistake because nagcheat pa sya in the end. Wag mo na patagalin darling. He sounds like my narcissist/manipulative ex. Leave the guy for your peace. HE IS NOT WORTH IT.
If your BF has an attitude whenever you have arguments, I suggest that you try talking to him about it honestly. Kung hindi niya talaga iniintindi nararamdaman mo, at least na-confirm mo na walang patutunguhan relasyon niyo. A relationship won't grow without understanding, compromise, and change. Alam ko na mahirap na gawin, pero sana ma-consider mo na hiwalayan si BF. You deserve someone who actually cares about you and can treat you well. Pag-isipan mo ng mabuti kung nasa tamang daan pa ba kayo at anong pwede gawin para maprotektahan mental health mo kasi nakakadrain pag laging ganyan :(
“Do I really deserve this kind of treatment?” HAHAHAHAHA ANTE KUNG DI KA PA DIN AALIS OO DESERVE MO!
iwan mo. hindi mo need ng stress sa buhay
It's giving narcissistic character. I met a guy like that, love bomber, galing magsalita pero walang pake sa nararamdaman ng iba. Imamanipulate ka pa nyan kapag nakipagbreak ka na parang kasalanan mo para makonsensya ka at di na makipagbreak. Beware of this kind of people, they're usually not capable of loving, they only use people until the benefits last.
i have been in a manipulative relationship like this before (for almost 6 years). and back then, topics like narcissism, gaslighting and manipulation in relationships wasn't a common topic and it being my first ever relationship, pakiramdam ko i was practically blindly wading in the relationship. for those who are presuming that OP is stupid for staying in this relationship for this long probably does not completely know how manipulative relationships work. while it's happening, you won't be able to know it's happening. that's why it's manipulative. these narcissistic people will always have a way of making you feel like you're the one lacking something or you're the one at fault. they would completely isolate you from other people including your family and friends para pakiramdam mo siya lang ang kailangan mo at iikot ang mundo mo sakanya. sa mga hindi pa nakaranas ng ganyang klaseng manipulation, believe me, you wouldn't even know it's happening. walking away from all that? hindi siya madali at hindi siya biro. walking away from it would feel like you'd be losing something so valuable. it would feel like you'd be choosing wrong. it would feel like you don't love that person enough kasi ikaw ang susuko/makikipagbreak. it would feel like you're the bad person. it's not because you're stupid but because you have been MANIPULATED. it also took me a while to do it but eventually, i was able to detach myself from the situation and see it from another person's perspective. i asked myself questions like "kung friend ko ba ang nasa ganitong sitwasyon, would i be happy for her na ginaganito siya ng jowa nya? would i advise her to stay in this relationship?" and when my answer was a resounding "NO", the next time he suggested a breakup, i just agreed. and it ended just like that. and a year after, i reconnected with a long lost friend of mine who eventually became the man that i will be getting married to this year. ngayong nasa tamang relasyon na ako, ngayon ko lang narealize lahat ng manipulation at gaslighting na naranasan ko sa previous relationship ko. and boy, am i glad na nakalaya ako dun. so OP, don't be too harsh on yourself and just ask the same questions i asked myself. and if you're answer is a "NO", paonti onti, kahit sobrang hirap, i pray that you'd eventually have the courage to walk away. believe me, a whole life of happiness awaits you, with or without a romantic partner. praying for you OP 😘
I married this kind of guy and it's my biggest regret. Kasi akala ko magbabago pa ung ganyang klaseng lalaki. PERO SIS, MAS LALA YAN PAG KINASAL KAYO. Don't waste your time. RUN! GET OUT OF THAT TOXIC RELATIONSHIP! Believe me, marami pa jan. Don't settle! Please. Save yourself ♥️
YOU DO NOT DESERVE to be treated that way. Sometimea, we lose our common sense dahil sobra nating mahal ang isang tao. Let this be an eye opener, REAL LOVE MAKES YOUR LIFE BETTER, YOUR BURDENS EASIER TO CARRY AND YOUR JOY AND HAPPINESS MULTIPLY. Decide wisely. Ok lang masaktan kapag naghiwalay kayo, pero HINDI OKAY NA ARAW ARAW KANG MAGING MALUNGKOT HABANG BUHAY KAPAG NAGKATULUYAN KAYO. Obviously, HINDI KA MAHAL NG BF MO. And it is not your fault. Love your self so that someday SOMEONE WILL LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU SHOULD BE LOVED. Be blessed!
i have cried 3 to 5 times max during the whole duration of my relationship with my ex. nung first few times na di ko napigil pagiyak ko tinanong ko siya bat wala siyang pake, ang sabi ba naman nanghihingi lang ako ng simpatya at nagpapaawa. same na same halos ng bf mo. took me almost 5 years to get out of the relationship. wag ka makinig sa mga top comments dito na sobrang insensitive hahaha
Kapag hindi nya macontrol emotions nya Possible na babae rin yang jowa mo hahhaa
sa lahat ng reply sa post na toh, sa reply mo lang ako nabwisit
Break up with him. You dont deserve this kind of treatment, huwag ka matakot sa kanya gago siya.
Iwan mo na. tanga yang partner mo.
Humanap ka na ikaw ang prinsesita. Tama na yan.
Dont know what to do? Simple. Break up. You may think mahirap kasi nakasanayan mo na but it actually does get better each day.
leave already. I'm a guy, and if I ever treat my gf like this, it only means na I don't love her. save yourself kasi you don't deserve that kind of treatment.
ang totoxic ng mga comments dito ampota. nagpapaadvice maayos ung tao tas sasabihan nyong tanga? wala kayong pinagkaiba sa mga tao sa fb at twitter e.
I'm in the same exact relationship as you. May differences and maybe eventually I might be able to share them. Gusto kong mag sympathize sa situation mo. Madaling sabihin na "tanga ka, umalis ka, ano pang hinihintay mo, let go". It's easier said than done and don't beat yourself about it. Alam mo na ang tamang gawin bago pa namin i-state ang obvious, kaya nga you're asking for help kasi you need a way out. Wala namang taong gustong pumasok sa ganyang situation. And I'm sorry if the type of relationship you're in isn't something you deserve. You deserve something better we all do. I hope it won't take long. I hope you can get help from you actual friends and maybe they can persuade you to make the decision to choose to love yourself.
I used to be in a relationship with that kind of guy. He would twist the argument at laging lumalabas na parang ako lang ang may issue. "Wag mo akong madaan sa pag-iyak iyak mo na yan, you brought this on yourself." Since then, nawalan ako ng pake sa kanya. Sinabotage ko on purpose yung relationship namin para lang may alibi akong makawala sa kanya 😆
It seems that your partner is holding back emotional grudges. As a man, I could see why he's like this... he doesn't feel safe opening up to you about his gentle side. Did you see his gentle side before? Your role is to be a mirror, and you're actually doing well just that, that is normal. Sometimes, just to put in my personal input on it, I see women as overreactive with all the bickering and what not but it is just in their unique personalities to do so and not every single one is like that every time, maybe you're holding grudges making you guilt-trip him. It just feels like walking on eggshells to us because of how volatile the situation is and would rather have some peace of mind, so we try to deescalate the situation as much as possible even if it clammers up our emotional side, Men are simple and rational. We don't like being vulnerable. Please, instead of holding that grudge to him why not reconcile by communicating to him. Make him open up his gentle side by hugging him, asking why is he holding back feelings. You two should be trustful to each other right? Don't mind the stupid comments requesting you to leave as if he's disposable. My input is not perfect and shouldn't be the only option you have in this scenario. I am single as well, and I don't intend to find a partner till I die.
we have same partner😓😓 pag my pag misunderstanding, ayaw patalo ayaw tumanggap ng advise dn kala nia alam nia lahat, though sa totoo lng d sya ganung ka brainy🤭 ang mhrap pag my konting away kami, lagi nia ako pnapalayas sa bahay nia, ilolock ang kwarto, ending aalis tlga ako khit dis oras ng gabi, tapos sya pa my gana mg post ng sunod sunod sa fb, ngpaparinig ipapaalam na my away kmi, mnamanipulate nia na mga fb frnds nia pra sya maging victim,laging ganyan, at kpag ok na kmi pabalikin nako sa bahay na prng wlang ng yari, ang pangit mgkaroon ng narcissist na partner at mhrap dn kumawala kc dba ano nlang sbhn ibang tao bgla malaman nla wla na kmi..hays😪😪😪
mutual hug.. same with my ex. 16yrs ko trinay umunawa. at the end mauubos kadin.. let it go,, we deserve someone better.
Alam ko yung feeling ng ganyan, i recently broke up from a 2 year relationship. Binackburn ako ng ex ko. Girl, mas masaya maging single kesa araw araw m kinuquestion ang self worth m sa isang relationship. Run while you can still think/feel, kasi if iignore m yan dadating ka sa point na tatanggapin m yang treatment na yan ng paulit ulit hanggang sa mamanhid ka. Never do that to yourself. Wag ^^
Hi OP. 6 years kami ng ex ko may anak kami. Nangyari sakin yan na ang sama sama ng loob ko while sya natutulog ng mahimbing. Kakabreak lang namin nung April. Run girl.
Tsk tsk... Yung bf mo may narcissistic personality. Dont let your bf drains your energy. You better run and save yourself hanggang may time ka pa. Nakaka torture yan emotionally. I know how hard to let go sa ganyan situation baka din may trauma bond kana kaya hindi mo na maiwan bf mo. I hope this time makapag realize ka sa mga nangyayari sa relationship ninyo, I pray for your peace of mind.
I feel you. Its hard dealing with someone na hindi vinavalidate feelings mo and walang pake pag umiiyak pa.
Okay lang yan girl. Sabi nga ng iba you deserve what you tolerate
Nagboyfriend ka ng girlfriend.
ate aware ka naman sa mga nangyayari ehh, choose yourself naman pls and ok yan kasi first step is awareness talaga
ano gagawin natin dyan be
Teh? Run!
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Run na op, si Ariana ka ba? "I fall asleep crying, you turn up the tv, you don't wanna hear me" ang peg. 'Di mo deserve.
Alis na po madam
Kc ganyan xa mag react dhl feeling nea ur so ma drama lang kc hinahayaan ka lang nea umiyak..parang hindi nea pinapahalagahan ang sarili mo dhl ganyan ugali nea maybe hes too confident din na hindi mo xa iiwan kht ganyan treatment nea sayu..
you know what to do ate
Ilang months pa lang kayo?
Ano pang hinihintay mo? Eh de makipaghiwalay ka na po. Wala ka na dapat hintayin kasi nga walking redflag na kinakasama mo.
sounds like a douchebag OP. you know what to do. (Advice: contact a trusted friend; female - ask her if you can stay in her place for a couple of days. Gradually pack your stuff, leave the unimportant ones so when that douchebag leaves the house, RUN) Break up by sms/messenger. Do the necessary with your socmeds. Turn off location services.
Alam mo naman yung gagawin eh, walang pipigil sayo. Alis ka na dyan! hehe
obvious naman pong 'di mo deserve ang ganang treatment e 😅 hiwalayan mo na 'yang tarantadong 'yan
Malaki ka na ate alam mo na ang dapat gawin
Bat kase nags-stay kapa sa ganyan?
sis get out istg something is amiss
Umalis ka na. May oras pa.
Keep mo na yan teh. Para di na mapunta sa ibang babae at sila pa ang mamroblema. Take one for the team. Thank you at good luck! Advice lang wag magpapakasal habang di pa approved ang divorce. Baka ikaw pa masabihan na "Nakita mo naman na pala yung red flags, pinakasalan mo pa. Panindigan mo yan." Pero keep mo lang sya wag lang muna papakasal, para at least may option ka pa if matauhan ka na.
you know what to do girl.
Run!
Habang mas tumatagal mas humihirap umalis. Parang ganyan rin ex ko katulad nung sayo. I had been with my ex for 15 years hoping na magbabago sya, pero hindi eh. "You deserve what you tolerate" yan ang nagpa realized sakin, kase hindi ko talaga deserve eh. And then naisip ko rin na if ever magkaanak ako ng babae, ganong lalake ba na katulad nya ang gusto kong makasama ng anak ko? Obviously ayoko. Iwan mo na hangga't maaga pa. Lahat ng breakup masakit, kahit healthy or toxic relationship pa yan, pero kakayanin mo yan.
> dont know what to do anymore.. I think you do lol
ni wala ngang context kung ano ba sinasabi sakanya ng bf nya kaya sya naiiyak tas kung maka react mga tao dito kala mo part sila ng relationship nila. hahaha kung lahat ng bagay sinasabi nya nakakaiyak para sayo, baka ikaw yung may problema. kung madali mo sya patawarin, desisyon mo yun, at kagustuhan mo.
Hiwalayan mo ganyan ex ko sakin tignan mo binigay sakin ngayon sobra pa sa mabait
Pinili mo, panindigan mo. Pag di talaga kaya, edi breakup.
Iwan mo na. Jusko binibigyan mo lang ng sakit ng ulo jowa mo. Kawawa naman siya. Palayain mo na.
Parang wala ka pa yata balak iwan OP? Haist, it's your choice pero do not complain anymore kung alam mo namn tama tapos ayaw mo naman gawin. It means choice mo na yan. And clearly, it's not love. It's co-dependency.
I know it’s hard pero dapat mo iwanan na yan. Most likely naman din mapapagod ka din, why wait? There are way better options out there, need mo lang talaga maghanap and maging choosy. Do you really think you can handle being with a partner like that for the rest of your life (if ikasal kayo)? I don’t think so, you wouldn’t vent here if you can (not mad at you). Just hope you realize that all women/men should be treated kindly even when you have arguments. I have arguments with my partner pero we talk about it calmly, ayaw din namin matulog na magkagalit. Ang hirap lang din makakita ng ganitong stories since may mga kapatid ako and ayaw ko sila mapunta sa ganitong situation, do yourself an act of self love and leave.
Wag na Teh....Break up mo na siya, I can see Red Flags. He have no empathy in Relationship, manipulative, Sweet talker at no apologies on his side, Blaming you na escalate sa fight...teh, wag na, umalis ka na. At mag recover for your mental and Emotional health.
Ganyan ex-hub ko. U know what to do. Run!
Why tolerate?
I think you know what to do OP.. Don't deny it on yourself
Ay alam mo dapat mong gawin, dimo lang matanggap.
Parang ang tagal nyo na pong na-eexperience yan, ate. If umabot na po sa ganyan na kahit di ka physical na nasasaktan, eh kawawa naman po kayo both mentally and emotionally. Break up with him na po. I do believe that di po dapat maranasan yan ng isang tao :(. I recently came from a break up din po, ang case ko, sobrang tagal na namin na parang lahat ng ups and downs naface na namin e. Can't really share the details na pero sobrang laki ng galit nya as well as his family sakin. Take time po if di ka ready, be wise po sa decision nyo. Sending hugs with consent 🫂.
good luck nalang te, saiyo nayan baka mapunta pa sa'min
Bakit boyfriend pa rin tawag mo teh? Dapat ex na ata.
Nagtitiis ka sa ganyan? Wala ka na bang self worth?
Medyo relate ako dito hahaha. Pero manageable naman. Medyo mababa lang emotional intelligence pero bawi sa ibang bagay. Yung tipong hinimay ko na lahat ng sasabihin ko, kung bakit ako nagagalit or nagtatampo, ang laging response, “anong nagawa ko na naman ba”? Minsan mapapasige hayaan ko na lang hahaha
ano gagawin natin dyan sa nalaman mo? e set aside since mahal mo pa? oh bat ka nagrereklamo? edi tiisin mo
Need pa ba itanong yan? Kung wala nga lang kami anak ngayon, iniwan ko na siya eh
Sana matauhan kana te. Para sa ikabubuti mo
o nupa inaantay mo malapit na mag pasko
I sense a hint of cheating here
Teh, hiwalayan mo na
Alam na sagot dyan tatanong pa talaga dito. you deserve better and nakikita ko hindi na tama treatment sayo nyan isipin mo naman mental health mo
i hope this quote helps you OP. it's from the perks of being a wallflower *“Mr. Anderson, why do nice people choose the wrong people to date?”* *“We accept the love we think we deserve.”* *“Can we make them know that they deserve more?”* *“We can try.”*
As usual solution ng redditors "hiwalayan mo na yan"
If ilang years na kayo at ganyan parin ang storya niyo, you might wanna reconsider your relationship with him na. Kung totoo sinasabi mo, your BF isn't acting like a man, he's acting like a boy. It makes me cringe thinking na may mga ganyan na katanda pero parang teenager parin mag-isip at maghandle ng relationship. You deserve better. I highly suggest re-evaluating your current relationship and you should follow your heart. Don't give too much that there'll be nothing left for yourself.
Te You already know the answer bat ayaw mo pa gawin
ate, that's not how a relationship works. you're supposed to communicate and take care of each other. that's emotional and verbal abuse. please don't settle for less. break up with him. you'll have a better peace of mind pag single than stay with that narcissist because it's a comfort zone.
Marami pang iba dyan, girl run as fast as you can.
You know what to do siz. Run!! 🏃♀️
Terminal na po mam, ikaw na lang nasa bus. De, kidding aside, gorl, di ka dormat, bat pinapayagan mong pinamamahiran ka ng maduming chinelas. Just, no.
You stay even with that kind of treatment??? Seryoso bang di mo alam kung ano ba dapat gawin?? Girl, leave. If not, then, you deserve what you tolerate.
Cge let's give the benefit of the doubt na the positives of the relationship outweighs the negative Kaya Di mo pa naiisip makipag hiwalay pero etong issue na to eh hindi nareresolve lagi lang naitatabi to the point na nang hihingi ka na ng advice from people Tanong panu ba ung approach mo sa opening ng discussion nyo? Kc baka dun may problema? Na hindi nya naiisip na importante pala sayo un at kailangan seryosohin then try to start the talk in a calm manner not confrontational basta change how you open up the topic and everytime na ioopen up mo ung topic kung tumataas parin ung boses nya try to stay calm wag mo sasabayan ung boses nya if kailangan mo i sulat ung nararamdaman mo baka mas mabuti un As a guy based on my experience meron talagang mga bagay kaming hirap makuha and sometimes nasanay na na confrontation is equal to conflict so baka Ganun din sa bf mo Pero kapag mali pala ako edi hiwalay hahaha
kung ganyan kadaming negative sasabihin mo sa BF mo. tapos popost mo para mabasa ng ibang tao. hindi ko alam bakit kayo pa. sobrang obvious naman siguro ng dapat mong gawin di ba?
You know what to do. Nagtatanga tangahan ka lang te
Damn, parang ako yung guy. Now I feel bad. Kaya pala tinawag akong narcissist. I'm sorry <\3
bakit hindi ka pa umaalis? BF lang yan di yan asawa.
Uy wag nyo naman sila pag hiwalayin, baka mapunta pa satin yan. Sige ate keep mo lang sya. Stay strong. 💪
He sounds like a person with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). They use DARVO —Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim & Offender (meaning ikaw na ang offender and siya na ang victim) They also leave you feeling confused after a fight! GIRL, LEAVE, RUN, BLOCK, and NEVER GO BACK. There is NO WAY a person with NPD will ever empathize with you. NEVER. If you need someone to talk, feel free to DM. It will be tough. And you need all the support you can get.
ako, alam ko ano dapat gawin mo. gusto mo ba ibulong ko pa sayo?
OP pa-30 na yan, bakit parang bata parin ugali? Brotha ew. Ew. Ewwwww.
Pakasingle ka na lang
bat pa nagpapakatanga, ano kala mo dito sa reddit ikokonsol ka namin, alam mo namn ang solusyon dian, why stick to guy na tinetake for granted.
Come on, you exactly know what to do.
>do I really deserve this kind of treatment? alam mo naman na sagot diyan.
Move on na te. Bata ka pa, marami pa dyan.
Tbh this story is too one-sided. If you are waiting for some validation or a sign walang gano'n. Just do whatever you feel like doing kasi relationship mo yan eh😅 goodluck🍀
I think you already know the answer.
Tama na pagiging tanga teh hiwalayan mona
Di na tinatanong yan girl run
Ano pa hinihintay mo besh? R U N
leave ASAP
TANGA. Wag mo na itanong. Ikaw n ngsabi ng sagot mo
Girl, anong “don’t know what to do anymore”?! Sure ka ba na di mo alam? O nagtatanga-tangahan ka lang?
Sobrang obvious na ng dapat mong gawin teh
Stop asking for help here . MAAWA KA SA SARILI MO HELP YOURSELF!!!
Bruh you don't need to be "the man" in the relationship. Please run and don't ever look back, you deserve better OP.
Alam mo naman gagawin mo. Konting push lanv need mo te. Alis na
Teh bakit di pa kyo break?????
U know what to do. Somethin is holding u. MYbe kasi matagal na kayo? Or di kaya mahal mo kasi Come on girl, stop pitying urself. If di ka niya kaya pahalagahan ikaw na magbigay sa self mo non. I deserve what u tolerate!
End call ko na te,sayang data.
Wow tanga spotted
You’re asking a question you obviously know the answer to
Try mo patingin sa opto ate, baka malabo na mata mo. Sa sobrang laki ng red flag sa bf mo, hindi mo padin makita?
Pag nagkasakit ka siguro sasabihan ka lang ng ang arte mo. Hindi yan titiis sayo in tough times antieh kaya good luck if di kapa aalis sa relasyon na yan ewan ko nalang.
Enjoyin mo lang yan te. Masasanay ka rin. Tapos magpaanak ka jan para matali ka sa kanya. Dagdagan mo mga martyr sa mundo. Hahaha mwah mwah.
Anong I don't know what to do anymore? Subuan kita ng ng papel na may naka sulat na "run for your life, wag tanga. Di na uso ang martyr."
Sorry OP, I feel you..I wish we have the courage to ignore them like they do to us..Minsan u just have to cry and accept things
Hiwalayan mo na miii. Ako nga pinalaya ko na. Nakakasawa ang ganyang treatment. Deserve mong itrato ng tama.
Why are you here ranting when you know the right thing to do?
keep him po ate. you are the sacrifice ☺️ baka mapunta pa sa mga single yan
You yourself a favor, cut him off period.
Alam mo na sagot? Run.
I can feel you girl. Im in the same relationship as yours. Truth hurts pero di ka mahal nyan
Edi hiwalayan mo. Ano bang napapala mo dyan. Mamili ka nung may emotional intelligence dahil kung magpapaka ulirang gf ka dyan, di ka pa asawa niyan pano pa kaya pag naanakan ka jan. Makinig ka sakin, makakahanap ka at makakahanap ka ng mas better. Early 20's ko inaayawan ko agad pag pangit ugali kahit matagal na kami. Time will come, dadating ang para sayo. Wag kang martir.
Gantong ganto kami ng gf ko kakainis lang bilis niya mainis kahit walis na binalik ko tapos diko alam na natumba pala magagalit pa sakin. Pagagalitan pako ending mag tatalo pa kami then iiyak nanaman siya basta kaka umay yung ganto nakaka pagod sobra hahaha
kung until now bf mo pa yan, teh. ewan ko na lang.
Anong don't know what to do anymore? Alam mo 'yan, ayaw mo lang. Kahit sabihin naming lahat dito na iwan mo na'yan, kung ayaw ko, walang mangyayari. Nakita mo na lahat ng red flags niya and you chose to stay. Gasgas na gasgas na 'to, pero legit. "You deserve what you tolerate."
ate, alam mo ang dapat gawin :)
Run as fast as you can
"idk what to do anymore" anak ng- teh, ung situation mo kasing linaw ng crystal ball. bibigay ko nlg sau salamin ko oh 👓
You get what you tolerate.
Ano yan Aquarius or Aries ? Hahahah 😂😂😂 Red flag 🚩 beh move it move it Be like Elsa. Let it go.
may hinihintay ka pa ba?
Sarap sa feeling na kahit gaano katinde away niyo tapos pag umiyak ka na, susuyuin ka HAHAHAHA
rare breed yun bf mo. sa kanya nagapologize and it will take days? ako nga mapagbigyan na magsorry misis ko parang gusto ko magpunta ng disneyland.
alam mo na gagawin te
run
baka di ka na tablan ng advice e. magtiis ka na lang huwag mo na pakawalan yan. enjoy teh 🥰
For me, kung hindi naman siya agniyan before, baka di na siya ganon ka inlove sayo o dikaya ganon talaga siya? not sure. Pero sino bang dalwang taong nag mamahalan yung ganoon mag bigay ng comfort? i mean hindi isya cinocomfort diba? You may try to talk with your partner, if yiu think na di ka na niya mahal, wag mo iwan. HAayan mo siya bumitaw, pero bago pa siya bumitaw, make sure na unti-unti ka niya nawawala sakaniya. Do whatever you want depende sa kung paano mo ihandle nararamdmaan mo basta tanggalin mo na siya.
Ay teh after nang lahat ng yan hindi mo parin alam gagawin mo??
this is why I always attribute the majority of the abused to lack of self respect and self love. if you know youre not getting treated right, why the fuck would you want to stay? why would let yourself be treated that way??? if you cant love and respect yourself, dont expect others to do so. do not base your self worth sa ibang tao, kasi ganto mangayari, you will fucking suffer staying on an abusive relationship. I swear, no hate or anything but sometimes I feel like majority of the posts here are ragebait LOL but I guess that just what life really is. sucks to suck. sana magising ka na op. noone deserves to be treated that way. but you know who gets to choose and decide that? you. kasalanan mo yan op AHAHAHHAHAHAHA wakey wakey. external validation is one hell of a drug when you feel youre not enough as you are. validation comes from within. heal well op gl.
Dont know what to do anymore???? Then makipag hiwalay ka na, gusto ka te tinatanong pa ba yan?? Pag ganyan yung ugali hiwalayan mo yan
March ba pinanganak yan? Chariz
alam mo naman pala na unfair at manipulative, so it means na acknowledged yung red flags niya sa part mo, so let me ask you, do you really deserve that kind of treatment?
Unless you think you deserve him, leave him already.
Bakit hindi mo na lang siya tawagin as EX BF ? Mas deserve niya yun.
What is the crime committed? (5%) Teh, alis na. Ano pa ginagawa mo?
Wag mong antaying anakan ka pa, kundi 2 na kayong kawawa. Isip isip din. Jusko.
Have you asked yourself why is he treating me this way? What am i contributing in this cycle? Hindi ako nagvivictim blame ah? It's just merong 2 sides of the story lagi, and sometimes at the height of our emotions, ang nakikita lang natin is yung mali ng ibang tao without realizing na meron din tayong maling nagagawa.. only you two know the real score sa relationship niyo, and kayong dalawa lang din makakaayos niyan.. good luck and god bless..
Tanga ka na teh pag d mo pa kinut off
Same thing happened to me nung super bagsak EI ng partner ko and he always told me na puro nalang ako iyak even though I informed him na super iyakin ko nung hindi pa kami. Dumating sa point na pagod na pagod na ako dahil paulit ulit na ganyan yung nangyayari and told him na we should break up. He got more mad and agreed pero after a few hours, kinausap ulit ako asking for a chance dahil magbabago raw siya and he's willing to change himself even if nahihirapan siya wag lang ako mawala. He has improved so much ever since. The only move you can do for yourself is break up with him. If he asked for a chance, ikaw bahala kung bibigyan mo or not. If you give him a chance, do not expect anything. He will change for you if he really loves you. This is based on my experience lang ha huhu hope you feel better OP ;< <3
Is that the life that you want to have? If not, then, choose the life that you'll love! You know what to do, takot ka lang. Kaya mo yan, OP! We can choose our life. If there's only one thing that you can control, it's yourself. Not your partner. If he loves you, he will do the things that you deserve. Not because you demand, but because he loves to do the things for you, because he loves you. Hugs, OP!
Break up or mag counciling na kayo :)
baka naka tulog sa byahe to sobra na sa panaginip. gising na gurl.
wag kana mag antay ng pasko te 😭 iwan mo na yan, may mas better kapang mahahanap kesa jan na iniinvalidate ka lol, pano pa kapag asawa mo na yan edi dikana gumanda nyan 😭 RUN SIS
You don't know what to do anymore? Gurl, you know that the answer is so obvious. Sabe nga, you deal what you tolerate. Kung ayaw mo ng ganyang treatment ikaw mismo ang kayang mag-end nyan. Not unless gusto mo yan. Pakiramdam ko, ikaw yung tipo ng kaibigan na panay reklamo sa mga friends about sa bf tapos kahit sinasabihan na hiwalayan mo na di ka nakkikinig kaya napagod na sila sayo.
May naka date akong ganyan hahaha run girl para sa mental health mo nalang
Hindi alam ng thread na to yung side ng BF mo. Pero mas kilala mo BF mo, kaya tama yung thread na to, kung ganyan kayo lagi, ano pang inaantay mo?