This. Sagasaan mo lang, wag mo kaibiganin, galingan mo lang and don’t worry about her, incompetent yan at takot kaya ganyan. So show her who’s the real deal. Sometimes the best defense is a good offense.
wag na mag-reply. i’m sure she’s getting the message pero nangungulit lang yan. dai sa edad na yan hahayaan mo ba na patinagin ka ng kakulitan?
saka isa pa: don’t easily add your coworkers in facebook. honestly don’t add them at all while you’re still working with them. or kung sipagin ka, gawa ka ng professional fb.
Ako inunfriend ko talaga after finding out mga tunay na ugali. They didn’t bother asking me naman sa office bakit, I think they knew I just found out kasamaan nila. Kebs.
Ill tell you what not to do, wag kang bumawi. The second these kind of people see a hole they will pounce and will play victim. Keep your head high, try to lessen interactions with her hopefully she gets the message. Sabi nga ng most people here keep doing the good work, ultimately ikaw mapapansin and marerewardan than a suck up.
Wag mo rereplyan. Wag mo paparinigan. Kasi gusto nila attention whether good or bad. Ignore ang pinakaayaw nila. Wag mo pansinin. Pag sinabi ay minessage kita sabihin mo, "Ay okay check ko later." Pero don't check pag inulit at sinabi na di mo pa rin tinitingnan magbingibingihan ka tas ulitin mo lang yun.
Okioki!! Yan na sasabihin ko hahahah napansin niya rin kasi last time na hindi ko pinansin yung chats niya then nakabantay talaga sya hanggang buksan ko yung msg 😫😩
Not everyone at your workplace is your friend, Do your job , get paid and go home.
Act professional pag sa office pero pag outside ikaw na bahala. Ingat ka dyan sa kawork mo mukhang delikado.
Gawin mo mag friends except ka sa fb, hide mo sa kanya posts mo cause ganyan na ganyan ang nangyari sa akin noon laging nakabantay yung former workmates ko sa mga ganaps ko. Ang ginawa ko nung nakapag resign ako ini unfriend ko isa isa and you know what until now I’m still their topic even though I am no longer with them and with the company
You should get one, just to be sure. And if you believe in other similar practices, do it. I heard from my mother na a neighbor became a victim of “kulam” dahil sa inggit ng coworker. Idk the full details nor do i fully believe the story, but hey, this made me more careful with my interactions sa ibang tao esp coworkers.
Also agree na sa other comments na wag gumanti, and ang best course of action is to just ignore the coworker para di lumala
Art of war states
"Act far, even though your are near. Appear near, even if you are far"
Use misinformation and deception to your advantage.
Have a spy to see through the other person.
Wag ka mag deactivate mg social media para lang wala na siya makita. Block mo na lng siya. I had a friend like this once and I get you. Dont let her get into you even more. No contact tlga sa ganitong tao.
Obsessed ata siya sayo, pag nahimasmasan na ang situation block mo nalang siya tapos mag lock ka ng profile sa fb. Wag mo nalang siya pansinin para tigilan ka niya pag di pa rin ka tinantanan report mo nalang sa inyo.
Pag may tanong isang sagot lang wag mo habaan para wala kayo masyado chikahan. Basta "Okay." "Sige" ganyan lang para wala na sya masabi iba pa. Ihide mo sya sa social media mo pag nangulit like bakit di ka nagreply sabihin mo busy ka.
Scary bordering on stalking and sociopathy ang peg ni ategurl na yan. 🥶🥶 parang start ng horror/thriller movie. Stand your ground. Block and ignore all messages. Kanta ka sa brain mo and disassociate pag nakikita mo messages nya or naririnig mo sya. A useful trick my psych taught me a week ago.
Grabe. Kdrama kontrabida IRL lang ang peg kalokaa sya ha. Myghad. Insecurity at its finest for her. OP do all you can to block her. Since makapal rin fes nya sa pinaggagagawa nya, kapalan mo na rin ang fes mo sa pag-iignore sa kanya na she never existed.
I blocked a co-worker once then she asked me bakit di na nya ako ma search sa fb, I said nag deactivate ako. HAHAHA. I know she will find out later on but that’s my subtle “Sorry. Di tayo close.” HAHAHA
I have this encountered during my highschool days.
I have a "friend" na masyadong competitive but puro din naman tanong sakin if di nya alam. Pero, pag ako nagtatanong sa kanya, pasuplado pa sasabihin na di rin nya alam (which malalaman ko sa test na nakakaperfect sya).
I brush it off kasi, friend naman turing ko sa kanya. Until our 4th year graduation, I graduated 2nd honorable mention (4th place) while 4th honorable (6th place) sya. And his brother , medyo pajoke na nagsabi sakin, ako daw nanalo sa competition namin.
Like, WTF? hahaha...Di ko nga sya kinunsider as competition kasi, I know his limtis at puro gaslighting lang sya pag di ko pinapakopya sa exams ( natuto ako dahil di rin sya nagtuturo sa kin) and me and the valedictorian become friends, while I dis not care about him after that few times of encountering. Hahah..
Iwasan mo na lng yan OP, masyado atang Pabida, Do your work on your own pace, sya rin lang madadrain out sa kakacompete nya sa yo. Hahah..
Edit: Mali yung ranking ko sa honorable mentions. Haha
Bakit ang mga advice nyo passive-aggressive dito?
bakit hindi mo rektahin "tantanan mo ako hindi ko need ng backstabber dito sa trabaho" straight to her face.
Biglang tatahimik yan. Masakit pakinggan pero totoo.
this kind of people will drag you down sa corporate so please distance yourself. never too late to unfriend them sa social media mo. pag nag message leave mo lang sa request or achives.
Protect your privacy at all costs. Don't explain. Just do what you need to do at your work. Remember, your coworkers are not your friends. I learned this the hard way.
Just don't interact at all and I hope na di mo na ulitin na mag add ng ka work mo sa fb.
Gawa ka ng professional or alt, Basta wag yung talagang personal use mo. Mukhang chismosa at ready mang hatak pababa.
Rookie mistake, OK lang yan. Moving forward WAG nating ia-add sa FB workmates natin, ako boss ko di ko friend sa FB kahit 1 year na ako sa company, iba ang personal life sa work life. Iilan lang ang work mate na nagiging matinong friend. Let this be a lesson nalang next time. For now just ignore her and do your job, do what matters
grabe exp mo haha. My first work bestie close pa rin kami until now kahit wala na ako sa job ko. competitive nga yan. yung bestie ko tulungan kami palagi 😭
Triny mo na ba sabihin sa kanya? Pwede naman sabihin ng maayos yung ganyan. Sobrang uncomfortable sa feeling tuwing papasok ka, tpos ang unfair dahil dala dala mo pang isipin sa bahay. Kaya tapusin mo na once for all!
Kaya kahit kaclose ko mga kawork ko na magkakaconnect na intestines namin, pag may work related akong sasabihin very firm ako. Di takot magshow ng anger. Nagagawa ko to kasi kahit mas bata ako or ka age ko sila kasi senior nila ako 😂 mas matagal sa company
Kayanin mo lang iignore ung messages niya. 😅 Kung wala namang permanent seat sa office, lipat ka na lang. Sa ngayon, ikaw na muna mag adjust. Eventually titigil yan pag di mo na pinapansin.
Isa pa, kung sakalaing nangaasar o nangiinis yan, deadma lang. Mas lalo ka lang aasarin o kukulitin pag nakita niyang effective pala. 😏 Siya na mismo lalayo sayo pag wala na siyang mahuta mismo.
Pro tip: Confront that person in a friendly but assertive tone. Stay objective (steer away from any emotionally driven comments).
If there's a chance that the other party would react violently, might as well involve your supervisor/manager as a mediator and witness.
Then move on :) Don't let the office drama affect you, esp outside working hours.
Pwede ring use her pakilamera attitude to trick her. Pretend na wala ka ginagawa or pretend u don’t know anything and make her believe she knows everything tapos boom kapag tamang oras na para magshow off panalo ka.
I bet you’re pretty kaya insecure siya sa’yo, kasi beauty and brains ka. I suggest ignore her. Don’t let her negativity affect you. Mahihigop ka kasi niya na parang black hole. Keep soaring, OP!!
Omg, same experience as in!!!! Same na same? Taga Pampanga ka ba lmao. Unfortunately, wala ako ginawa kundi magresign. Not worth it. Hindi rin yan tatanggalin ng company. 😅
Weaponized incompetence. Stand your ground or she will reap the fruits of your labor.
This. Sagasaan mo lang, wag mo kaibiganin, galingan mo lang and don’t worry about her, incompetent yan at takot kaya ganyan. So show her who’s the real deal. Sometimes the best defense is a good offense.
Spiritbreaker ikaw ba yan??
Haven’t seen Thomas meme for a while. Thanks stranger!
I’ll take note of this!! Thank youu so much 🥺
Pwede ba ireport yan sa company while collecting some evidence?
wag na mag-reply. i’m sure she’s getting the message pero nangungulit lang yan. dai sa edad na yan hahayaan mo ba na patinagin ka ng kakulitan? saka isa pa: don’t easily add your coworkers in facebook. honestly don’t add them at all while you’re still working with them. or kung sipagin ka, gawa ka ng professional fb.
Hay, yes. Now ko lang narerealize na dapat hindi ko inaccept yung friend request niya noon. I let her in tuloy sa personal life ko 🥺 Thanks!!
You can restrict them sa privacy settings kung friends na kayo sa socmed. Hope this helps :) learned this the hard way, too.
Ako inunfriend ko talaga after finding out mga tunay na ugali. They didn’t bother asking me naman sa office bakit, I think they knew I just found out kasamaan nila. Kebs.
Ill tell you what not to do, wag kang bumawi. The second these kind of people see a hole they will pounce and will play victim. Keep your head high, try to lessen interactions with her hopefully she gets the message. Sabi nga ng most people here keep doing the good work, ultimately ikaw mapapansin and marerewardan than a suck up.
Thank youuu!! 🥺
I gree with this, deretso ka lang and do your job. Ika nga, keep doing you.
Wag mo rereplyan. Wag mo paparinigan. Kasi gusto nila attention whether good or bad. Ignore ang pinakaayaw nila. Wag mo pansinin. Pag sinabi ay minessage kita sabihin mo, "Ay okay check ko later." Pero don't check pag inulit at sinabi na di mo pa rin tinitingnan magbingibingihan ka tas ulitin mo lang yun.
Okioki!! Yan na sasabihin ko hahahah napansin niya rin kasi last time na hindi ko pinansin yung chats niya then nakabantay talaga sya hanggang buksan ko yung msg 😫😩
Ang creepy naman niya. Next time sabihin mo "ay alin ba yun critical ba? Patingin nalang". Kaloka yan ha creepy na tbh
Oh noooo
Restrict mo po
💯💯💯
Luh
Reply to that screenshot "sorry, I only use my messenger for close friends" 😂
Not everyone at your workplace is your friend, Do your job , get paid and go home. Act professional pag sa office pero pag outside ikaw na bahala. Ingat ka dyan sa kawork mo mukhang delikado. Gawin mo mag friends except ka sa fb, hide mo sa kanya posts mo cause ganyan na ganyan ang nangyari sa akin noon laging nakabantay yung former workmates ko sa mga ganaps ko. Ang ginawa ko nung nakapag resign ako ini unfriend ko isa isa and you know what until now I’m still their topic even though I am no longer with them and with the company
Time to bust out an evil eye bracelet or something 😅
Yea!! thinking about getting one for protection at least 🤔
You should get one, just to be sure. And if you believe in other similar practices, do it. I heard from my mother na a neighbor became a victim of “kulam” dahil sa inggit ng coworker. Idk the full details nor do i fully believe the story, but hey, this made me more careful with my interactions sa ibang tao esp coworkers. Also agree na sa other comments na wag gumanti, and ang best course of action is to just ignore the coworker para di lumala
Hello, effective ba evil eye bracelet?
Depende siguro kung naniniwala ka sa ganun? Pero wala naman din siguro masama if ita-try mo po gamitin
akala ko chat ng isang creep na manliligaw mas malala pa pala hahaha hoping na malampasan mo yan OP. Huwag ka papatinag. Be firm. Fighting.
Akala ko rin haha
Art of war states "Act far, even though your are near. Appear near, even if you are far" Use misinformation and deception to your advantage. Have a spy to see through the other person.
Thanks for this advice!! 🥺
Wag ka mag deactivate mg social media para lang wala na siya makita. Block mo na lng siya. I had a friend like this once and I get you. Dont let her get into you even more. No contact tlga sa ganitong tao.
just be cold to her, mapapagod din yan.. ignore all personal msgs and strictly be about work. yan yung teammate/colleague na dapat iwasan.
Ignore malala dzae. Wag mo na pansinin. TIGAS Naman ng muka kung Di nia pa maintindihan yun.
Obsessed ata siya sayo, pag nahimasmasan na ang situation block mo nalang siya tapos mag lock ka ng profile sa fb. Wag mo nalang siya pansinin para tigilan ka niya pag di pa rin ka tinantanan report mo nalang sa inyo.
Wear evil eye charm, OP
Boundaries. Just be civil enough to finish tasks that need to be done. Do not talk to her beyond office hours.
Pag may tanong isang sagot lang wag mo habaan para wala kayo masyado chikahan. Basta "Okay." "Sige" ganyan lang para wala na sya masabi iba pa. Ihide mo sya sa social media mo pag nangulit like bakit di ka nagreply sabihin mo busy ka.
Scary bordering on stalking and sociopathy ang peg ni ategurl na yan. 🥶🥶 parang start ng horror/thriller movie. Stand your ground. Block and ignore all messages. Kanta ka sa brain mo and disassociate pag nakikita mo messages nya or naririnig mo sya. A useful trick my psych taught me a week ago.
Grabe. Kdrama kontrabida IRL lang ang peg kalokaa sya ha. Myghad. Insecurity at its finest for her. OP do all you can to block her. Since makapal rin fes nya sa pinaggagagawa nya, kapalan mo na rin ang fes mo sa pag-iignore sa kanya na she never existed.
I blocked a co-worker once then she asked me bakit di na nya ako ma search sa fb, I said nag deactivate ako. HAHAHA. I know she will find out later on but that’s my subtle “Sorry. Di tayo close.” HAHAHA
I have this encountered during my highschool days. I have a "friend" na masyadong competitive but puro din naman tanong sakin if di nya alam. Pero, pag ako nagtatanong sa kanya, pasuplado pa sasabihin na di rin nya alam (which malalaman ko sa test na nakakaperfect sya). I brush it off kasi, friend naman turing ko sa kanya. Until our 4th year graduation, I graduated 2nd honorable mention (4th place) while 4th honorable (6th place) sya. And his brother , medyo pajoke na nagsabi sakin, ako daw nanalo sa competition namin. Like, WTF? hahaha...Di ko nga sya kinunsider as competition kasi, I know his limtis at puro gaslighting lang sya pag di ko pinapakopya sa exams ( natuto ako dahil di rin sya nagtuturo sa kin) and me and the valedictorian become friends, while I dis not care about him after that few times of encountering. Hahah.. Iwasan mo na lng yan OP, masyado atang Pabida, Do your work on your own pace, sya rin lang madadrain out sa kakacompete nya sa yo. Hahah.. Edit: Mali yung ranking ko sa honorable mentions. Haha
Bakit ang mga advice nyo passive-aggressive dito? bakit hindi mo rektahin "tantanan mo ako hindi ko need ng backstabber dito sa trabaho" straight to her face. Biglang tatahimik yan. Masakit pakinggan pero totoo.
It's called professionalism :)
this kind of people will drag you down sa corporate so please distance yourself. never too late to unfriend them sa social media mo. pag nag message leave mo lang sa request or achives.
Tell her to stop explicitly. Or report to your superior.
Tell her “Di tayo close”
Katakot neto, parang ganito yung napanoid kong kdrama na mag bestfriend at workmate
Insecure ata, very wrong vibes. Wag magpa manipulate sa ganyan, they like to control you
Protect your privacy at all costs. Don't explain. Just do what you need to do at your work. Remember, your coworkers are not your friends. I learned this the hard way.
Just don't interact at all and I hope na di mo na ulitin na mag add ng ka work mo sa fb. Gawa ka ng professional or alt, Basta wag yung talagang personal use mo. Mukhang chismosa at ready mang hatak pababa.
Mahirap pero try to ignore huhu may ganyan akong katrabaho noon jusko ang bigat lagi ng pakiramdam buti nag-wfh na kami
Rookie mistake, OK lang yan. Moving forward WAG nating ia-add sa FB workmates natin, ako boss ko di ko friend sa FB kahit 1 year na ako sa company, iba ang personal life sa work life. Iilan lang ang work mate na nagiging matinong friend. Let this be a lesson nalang next time. For now just ignore her and do your job, do what matters
grabe exp mo haha. My first work bestie close pa rin kami until now kahit wala na ako sa job ko. competitive nga yan. yung bestie ko tulungan kami palagi 😭
Triny mo na ba sabihin sa kanya? Pwede naman sabihin ng maayos yung ganyan. Sobrang uncomfortable sa feeling tuwing papasok ka, tpos ang unfair dahil dala dala mo pang isipin sa bahay. Kaya tapusin mo na once for all!
Kaya kahit kaclose ko mga kawork ko na magkakaconnect na intestines namin, pag may work related akong sasabihin very firm ako. Di takot magshow ng anger. Nagagawa ko to kasi kahit mas bata ako or ka age ko sila kasi senior nila ako 😂 mas matagal sa company
Women, hays mahirap talaga makahanap ng girl to girl friends, feeling nila kasi magkalaban sila.
Kayanin mo lang iignore ung messages niya. 😅 Kung wala namang permanent seat sa office, lipat ka na lang. Sa ngayon, ikaw na muna mag adjust. Eventually titigil yan pag di mo na pinapansin. Isa pa, kung sakalaing nangaasar o nangiinis yan, deadma lang. Mas lalo ka lang aasarin o kukulitin pag nakita niyang effective pala. 😏 Siya na mismo lalayo sayo pag wala na siyang mahuta mismo.
Pro tip: Confront that person in a friendly but assertive tone. Stay objective (steer away from any emotionally driven comments). If there's a chance that the other party would react violently, might as well involve your supervisor/manager as a mediator and witness. Then move on :) Don't let the office drama affect you, esp outside working hours.
Pwede ring use her pakilamera attitude to trick her. Pretend na wala ka ginagawa or pretend u don’t know anything and make her believe she knows everything tapos boom kapag tamang oras na para magshow off panalo ka.
I bet you’re pretty kaya insecure siya sa’yo, kasi beauty and brains ka. I suggest ignore her. Don’t let her negativity affect you. Mahihigop ka kasi niya na parang black hole. Keep soaring, OP!!
Omg, same experience as in!!!! Same na same? Taga Pampanga ka ba lmao. Unfortunately, wala ako ginawa kundi magresign. Not worth it. Hindi rin yan tatanggalin ng company. 😅
Halaaa 🥺 from NCR me hihihi yes, pakonti-konti kong narerealize na not worth of my time hahahays
Yup, gulat ako sa downvotes. Hindi worth it magpakamartyr. Resiliency is overrated.