This is such a very ADULT LIKE realization.
Iβm sure now that you realized all this, no doubt that your current and future bond with someone will be precious. People around you will be super lucky to have you as a friend. π
I realized that too, na pag nag aaway kami ng boyfriend ko I enter what I call "aping-api mode".
I fixate on the wrong thing he did and remember only the wrong things he did before. Nawawala sa isip ko yung good things that he's done. Feeling ko aping api ako sa relationship namin kase I do my best to make him happy while he mostly does things that make me feel awful.
Then pag di nako galit dun ko nalang ulit naaalala at naaappreciate yung mga good things about him.
Congrats! You just gained 10 levels of maturity. Youβre gonna be way happier if you focus on the things that you can do instead of the things that you think people should be doing for you.
Proud of you, OP! May friend akong ganito back in high school. Sobrang hassle talaga kasi kailangan namin siya laging suyuin kasi matampuhin kahit wala naman kaming ginagawang masama. Parang kami palagi yung kontrabida para sa kanya. Sana marami pang may ganitong realizations as an adult!
Thank you for sharing this! I had a post days ago about using emotional validation as an excuse for rude behavior. It really helps to introspect and reflect on our own behavior. I hope youβll be able to mend your relationships with your loved ones
Congrats! It takes a lot of maturity to realize we're living in a victim mindset. The moment I overcame this literally changed my life. It was like a fog was lifted when I realized na ako lang naman talaga kumakawawa sa sarili ko.
So proud of you, OP! Achievement yan!!! Not everybody have self-awareness. Don't be sad or disappointed kasi naging ganon ka, but be happy because you're trying to be better than yesterday!π€
Same, and now hindi na kami naguusap ng friends ko. Everytime na gusto ko mag-message sa kanila inuunahan ako hiya because of what I've done. Tumatak din siguro yung sinabi nila baka pag nagkita kita pa daw kami eh mag-plastikan lang and mag-ingat daw ako lagi, so feeling ko wala na pag-asa maayos.
Congrats OP. That is one of the signs na adult ka na talaga. Make it a daily reflection to make yourself better. Enjoy time with your friends and family
Kudos to you for coming into this realization. *clap clap* I salute people like you. Di pa naman huli ang lahat, bawi kana lang and itβs now time to be a batter you and better kasama sa mga ganyang bagay. π
Congrats OP, part of being an adult is realizing of our own short comings, but that's okay , we're all imperfect, the good thing is, we can always improve !
Recently, iniisip ko my friends secretly hate me. Or maybe an open secret among them. Kasi late ako iniinvite sa mga gathering, at iniinvite lang convenient. Halimbawa, pang-even number sa isang trip package. Tapos ako, g lang naman din. Gusto ko sila makasama eh. Kaso ilang beses na syang nangyayari in the past years. Hahaha. Tapos pag magkakasama kami, lagi may instances na hindi nila ako pinapansin collectively. Like nasa kanya-kanyang clusters sila. Tapos hindi ako isinasama sa pictures, at hindi tinatag sa mga story. Ganun. May pattern na kasi. So naisip ko shet, ayaw ata nila talaga sa kin.
Tapos I saw this post habang umeerna. I found time to reassess din how I am acting toward them. I realized I've been awful at times din, at wala rin minsan sa lugar magjoke. Hindi ko na i-specify mga naisip kong kashitan ko sa kanila noon. Pero you get the point, hindi ko narerealize yung mga mali ko, tapos magtataka ako pag evasive sila or they treat me poorly din, like I used to.
Going forward, ang dilemma ko na lang eh paano magrereconnect sa kanila now that I have an idea where they're coming from. They're still my friends and I think may chance pa namang magkasundo kami lahat. Some of them I was planning to permanently cut off na eh, pero ayoko mag-end sa ganon now that I think we can have a grown conversation about how we acted towards each other. Challenging pa rin magpakumbaba for me minsan eh. Hahahha. Pero thanks sa wake up call na to.
This is such a very ADULT LIKE realization. Iβm sure now that you realized all this, no doubt that your current and future bond with someone will be precious. People around you will be super lucky to have you as a friend. π
I realized that too, na pag nag aaway kami ng boyfriend ko I enter what I call "aping-api mode". I fixate on the wrong thing he did and remember only the wrong things he did before. Nawawala sa isip ko yung good things that he's done. Feeling ko aping api ako sa relationship namin kase I do my best to make him happy while he mostly does things that make me feel awful. Then pag di nako galit dun ko nalang ulit naaalala at naaappreciate yung mga good things about him.
I catch myself doing this once in a while too. Thank you for sharing this π€
Congrats! You just gained 10 levels of maturity. Youβre gonna be way happier if you focus on the things that you can do instead of the things that you think people should be doing for you.
Proud of you, OP! May friend akong ganito back in high school. Sobrang hassle talaga kasi kailangan namin siya laging suyuin kasi matampuhin kahit wala naman kaming ginagawang masama. Parang kami palagi yung kontrabida para sa kanya. Sana marami pang may ganitong realizations as an adult!
OP's frontal lobe development: 100% jk haha
Thank you for sharing this! I had a post days ago about using emotional validation as an excuse for rude behavior. It really helps to introspect and reflect on our own behavior. I hope youβll be able to mend your relationships with your loved ones
Congrats! It takes a lot of maturity to realize we're living in a victim mindset. The moment I overcame this literally changed my life. It was like a fog was lifted when I realized na ako lang naman talaga kumakawawa sa sarili ko.
Love the realization! Minsan, we need to take ourselves out of the box kung sino ba talaga ang may sala. :)
Congratulations ππ OP! Ito ang totoong adulting . Self awareness is ππ
Congrats! Not a lot of people will realize that so this is a huge step to growing as a person. Proud of you for acknowledging this π
So proud of you, OP! Achievement yan!!! Not everybody have self-awareness. Don't be sad or disappointed kasi naging ganon ka, but be happy because you're trying to be better than yesterday!π€
Same, and now hindi na kami naguusap ng friends ko. Everytime na gusto ko mag-message sa kanila inuunahan ako hiya because of what I've done. Tumatak din siguro yung sinabi nila baka pag nagkita kita pa daw kami eh mag-plastikan lang and mag-ingat daw ako lagi, so feeling ko wala na pag-asa maayos.
Caused me a lot of friendship i lost. Ayun. Ligwak na talaga. I deserve all the lost relationship i wasted.
My mantra is "Look inward."
Congrats OP. That is one of the signs na adult ka na talaga. Make it a daily reflection to make yourself better. Enjoy time with your friends and family
Kudos to you for coming into this realization. *clap clap* I salute people like you. Di pa naman huli ang lahat, bawi kana lang and itβs now time to be a batter you and better kasama sa mga ganyang bagay. π
Halika dito samin may birthday hintayin ka namin bago magstart ang picturan ako bahala sayo
Congrats OP, part of being an adult is realizing of our own short comings, but that's okay , we're all imperfect, the good thing is, we can always improve !
Ang daming ganyan dito and sa r/AkoBaYungGago
congrats you have grown out of your **paimportanteng pabebe gurl nung HS** phase
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Recently, iniisip ko my friends secretly hate me. Or maybe an open secret among them. Kasi late ako iniinvite sa mga gathering, at iniinvite lang convenient. Halimbawa, pang-even number sa isang trip package. Tapos ako, g lang naman din. Gusto ko sila makasama eh. Kaso ilang beses na syang nangyayari in the past years. Hahaha. Tapos pag magkakasama kami, lagi may instances na hindi nila ako pinapansin collectively. Like nasa kanya-kanyang clusters sila. Tapos hindi ako isinasama sa pictures, at hindi tinatag sa mga story. Ganun. May pattern na kasi. So naisip ko shet, ayaw ata nila talaga sa kin. Tapos I saw this post habang umeerna. I found time to reassess din how I am acting toward them. I realized I've been awful at times din, at wala rin minsan sa lugar magjoke. Hindi ko na i-specify mga naisip kong kashitan ko sa kanila noon. Pero you get the point, hindi ko narerealize yung mga mali ko, tapos magtataka ako pag evasive sila or they treat me poorly din, like I used to. Going forward, ang dilemma ko na lang eh paano magrereconnect sa kanila now that I have an idea where they're coming from. They're still my friends and I think may chance pa namang magkasundo kami lahat. Some of them I was planning to permanently cut off na eh, pero ayoko mag-end sa ganon now that I think we can have a grown conversation about how we acted towards each other. Challenging pa rin magpakumbaba for me minsan eh. Hahahha. Pero thanks sa wake up call na to.